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Hey there, Big Self Show listeners!
We want to take a moment to express our heartfelt gratitude for your unwavering support and loyalty throughout our incredible journey together. It's been an absolute pleasure exploring the depths of personal growth, self-discovery, and transformation with you.
As we evolve and grow, so too does our podcast. We're thrilled to announce that we're embarking on a new and exciting chapter, and we'd love for you to join us on this next phase of our adventure.
Now, we could have just replaced the Big Self Show with Authentic Life and kept these thousands of downloads and all the benefits that come with that, but this is more than a rebrand. This is a whole new show. Weâre going to let Big Self Show live on as it is and as it was.
So, weâre are excited to direct your attention to Authentic Life - a brand new podcast dedicated to helping you live your most genuine, purposeful, and fulfilling life. We'll be diving even deeper into the realms of psychology, spirituality, and creativity, bringing you the latest insights, tools, and strategies to help you unlock your full potential and become the architect of your own reality.
A lot of what you came for already, yes, but with a more specific focus.
Get ready for thought-provoking interviews with renowned experts, immersive solo episodes, and actionable wisdom you can apply to your daily life. We're committed to being your trusted companion on the path to self-actualization and authentic living.
While the Big Self Show may be coming to a close, the spirit of our mission lives on in Authentic Life. We can't wait to continue this transformative journey with you.
So, be sure to subscribe to Authentic Life wherever you listen to your podcasts. Follow us on social media for updates, behind-the-scenes content, and to join our vibrant community of like-minded individuals.
From the bottom of our hearts, thank you for being a part of the Big Self Show family. We look forward to welcoming you to Authentic Life and continuing to grow, learn, and thrive together.
Until then, remember: your authentic self is waiting to be unleashed. Tune in to Authentic Life and let's make it happen!
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Jerry Colonna is the CEO and co-founder of Reboot.io, and for nearly 20 years he has used the knowledge gained as an investor, an executive, and a board member for more than 100 organizations to help entrepreneurs and others to lead with humanity, resilience, and equanimity.
Today, in particular, we are discussing his new book, Reunion. You can order it now from our show notes if you like. Itâs available for pre-order until it releases on November 14. Reunion is a life-altering guide for todayâs complex and divisive world. Its wise insights and practical advice will help create an inclusive and welcoming workspace, discover the best of who we are, and nurture and support those whom we are privileged to lead.
Time Stamps:
Leadership, belonging, and personal growth. 0:00
The importance of being accepted and belonging to live their "big self."
Personal responsibility and complicity in social issues. 10:00
Complicity in power structures, with Chad emphasizing the importance of acknowledging one's role in perpetuating systems of oppression.
Race, identity, and belonging. 22:37
Jerry explores their family history and how they became racialized as white in the US.
Near-death experience and disconnecting from oneself. 28:01
Personal growth and overcoming toxicity. 36:26
Empathy, kindness, and shared experiences. 44:22
Empathy, belonging, and personal growth. 51:23
The importance of self-reflection and personal growth in creating a more sustainable and equitable society.
Show Notes:
Reunion: Leadership and the Longing to Belong
Find out more about Big Self School:
We still offer our flagship burnout coaching package. We also offer packages for those seeking clarity and reconnecting to their life purposeâand we do this work with individuals and couples. Reach out to us if youâd like to book a discovery call and learn more about our coaching packages.
Want to learn more about the role stress plays in your life, and discover your blueprint for how to handle it based on your Enneagram type and subtype?
Book a discovery call here
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For today's show we talk with Matt Zemon, a dedicated explorer of the inner world, and a passionate advocate for the thoughtful and responsible use of psychedelics. With a Master of Science in Psychology and Neuroscience of Mental Health with honors from Kingâs College London, Matt has studied the effects of psychedelics on the mind and the potential for these experiences to serve as a catalyst for positive transformations.
His work in this field is motivated by a profound desire to help people navigate the sometimes challenging terrain of the psychedelic experience, and emerge from it with a deeper sense of purpose, connection, and understanding. To reclaim their true self.
Matt is the author of the Amazon Best-Seller, Psychedelics for Everyone: A Beginnerâs Guide to these Powerful Medicines for Anxiety, Depression, Addiction, PTSD, and Expanding Consciousness. As an entrepreneur in the wellbeing sector, Matt has co-founded various companies, including HAPPƞƞ, a mental wellness company specializing in psychedelic-assisted ketamine therapy, PSYCHABLE, an online community connecting people who would like to explore the healing power of psychedelics with a network of practitioners and psychedelic-based treatments, and TAKE2MINUTES, a nonprofit dedicated to helping individuals improve their mental health and wellbeing.
Time Stamps:
Responsible use of psychedelics for personal growth. 4:41
Unlearning cultural conditioning around scarcity and competition to embrace abundance and collaboration.
Psychedelics as an alternative to antidepressants. 10:44
Neuroscientist advocates for brain growth and learning throughout life, despite common misconceptions.
Ketamine use for mental health treatment and microdosing. 14:56
Ketamine has powerful antidepressant and anxiolytic effects, but can be addictive and lead to bladder issues with long-term use.
Using psychedelics to overcome substance use disorders. 20:46
Unknown Speaker discusses microdosing, a controversial practice where individuals take small amounts of psychedelics to enhance creativity, connection, and mental health.
Psychedelic experiences and their spiritual significance. 27:34
Chad shares personal experiences with psychedelics in the 1990s, reflecting on their spiritual significance despite illegal nature.
Psychedelics for personal growth and healing. 33:19
The potential benefits and risks of psychedelics, with Matt Zemon emphasizing the importance of proper preparation and integration for a positive experience.
Personal growth and healing through meditation and therapy. 38:55
Consciousness and healing with Matt Zeeman. 45:33
Show Notes:
Find Matt Zemon at his LinkedIn Page...
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"Anyone can become angry-that is easy. But to be angry with the right person, to the
right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way-this is not
easy." âAristotle
As human beings, we sometimes fail to make desired changes despite good ideas and great intentions. Daniel Goleman coined the necessary emotional intelligence to make desired or unforeseen changes.
However, knowing that you lack some emotional intelligence is not enough for you to be more emotionally intelligent.
Missing is how do we go about learning the necessary emotional intelligence?
As is often the case, understanding what we do over and over and why may not lead to successful changes.
With all our knowledge and skills, smart, successful people get stuck, are blind to options and create messes for themselves or others.
Hereâs what we want you to get from listening to this episode:
Gain emotional insight that you never had before:
The ability to recognize the emotions that keep you where you are and the skill to leave them for a more useful one. With practice we can in fact learn new emotions and leave others behind for a time.
Is there an emotion youâd like to leave behind or one youâd like to visit more often?
Time Stamps:
Moods and their impact on daily life. 0:02
Chad and Shelley discuss their moods and practices, sharing tangible ways to improve one's life.
Chad argues that moods are overlooked and impact daily life, encouraging self-awareness to recognize and manage them.
Emotions, moods, and self-awareness. 4:30
Shelley Prevost: Emotions are chemical experiences that are fleeting but involuntary, and can be influenced and practiced through self-awareness and self-mastery.
Chad Prevost: Being emotional is natural, but being overly emotional can be criticized, and emotional life can be influenced and practiced through self-awareness and self-mastery.
Chad and Shelley discuss the role of emotions in their podcast recording, with Chad expressing frustration at external distractions and Shelley highlighting the importance of awareness and commanding emotions.
Aristotle's ideas on emotions are mentioned, with Chad wondering if humans have evolved since his time.
Emotional awareness and managing negative emotions. 10:06
Chad and Shelley discuss the difference between unconscious and conscious emotions, with Chad highlighting the importance of awareness in managing emotions.
Chad identifies as an Enneagram type four, often thinking about what is missing or lacking in his life.
Emotional idealization and its impact on mental well-being. 15:22
Chad discusses idealization and its impact on his emotions.
He acknowledges that this idealization can lead to disappointment and melancholy, and suggests practicing awareness of emotions as a way to address this issue.
Emotional states and moods. 20:53
Shelley and Chad discuss the concept of "acceptance" as an antidote to negative emotions like resentment, anger, and resignation.
Shelley identifies pride as a common example of an emotional...
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Many of us dread having to convey our ideas to others, often feeling ill-equipped, anxious, and awkward.
Public speaking experts help by focusing on planned communication experiences such as slide presentations, pitches, or formal talks. Yet, most of our professional and personal communication occurs in spontaneous situations that creep up on us and all too often leave us flustered and stumbling for words. How can we rise to the occasion when weâre put on the spot?
In THINK FASTER, TALK SMARTER communication expert, Stanford lecturer, and host of the popular podcast, Think Fast, Talk Smart: The Podcast, Matt Abrahams provides tangible, actionable skills to help even the most anxious of speakers succeed when communicating and speaking spontaneously. Thinking faster and talking smarter Abrahams argues is not an innate skill that requires natural talent, and can actually be learned through preparation and practice. He provides science-based strategies for managing anxiety, responding to the mood of the room, and communicating in concise, relevant, compelling, and memorable ways regardless of the audience.
Especially important in todayâs frantic, multi-tasking world, Abrahams draws on research from a variety of fields including psychology, biology, anthropology, communication, and improvisation along with stories from his clients and students, to offer best practices for: navigating difficult conversations, responding to impromptu questioning, shining in job interviews, providing effective feedback, making small talk, apologizing, persuading others, and responding to spontaneous digital communication like text and email.
Whether itâs speaking in front of others in meetings or conversations with family, friends, colleagues or a manager, learning to speak spontaneously can help us get out of our own way, and show up for some of the most meaningful moments in lifeâmoments that often catch us by surprise, short circuiting our intelligence and leaving us to project just a fraction of our true personalities. Abrahams argues that by training ourselves to think and speak on our feet, and reacting in ways that come across as coherent, compelling, and unmistakably genuine, we can learn to be more of who we really are in the moment, and convey more of what we really think.
THINK FASTER, TALK SMARTER is an accessible guide to communication that helps readers master new techniques to better communicate in our fast-paced times.
Time Stamps:
Communication, presence, and spontaneous speaking. 0:00
The inner work and outer impact, myth-busting speaking skills.
Spontaneous speaking and managing anxiety in public situations. 4:52
Effective listening and spontaneous speaking techniques. 10:09
A technique called pace, space, grace, which involves physically moving and giving oneself permission to listen to both what's being said and what's being felt within oneself.
Improving spontaneous speaking skills. 15:40
Communication structure and anxiety management. 19:28
Embracing spontaneity in communication.
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âHe who conquers others is strong, but he who conquers himself is mighty.â âLao Szu
So often impulsive behaviors keep us stuck or keep us feeling helpless. From little things to small, it can be hard to stop, especially when we start thinking about the thing. In fact, itâs almost like we spend our day waiting for the moment when we will just give in to the behavior.
From overeating to drinking to email checking to phone checks to gambling to eating ice cream at night to flipping someone off on the highway to getting triggered on Facebook when someone has an experience that makes us jealous, we often feel like must get our fix before we can be âfree.â
The truth about freedom is not doing whatever you want in the exterior world, that leads to paradoxically the opposite. Actually, youâll find that restraint from your developed inner world, leads you to the very freedom you desire.
Remember:
Start small. Itâs not going to work every time.Consider it practice. How does practice work? Itâs usually not great the first time. It takes consistency and it takes will, and over time it does get easier to do and it does become more effective as you practice it.Time Stamps:
Impulsive behaviors and how to take back control. 0:03
Chad and Shelley discuss impulsive behaviors as patterns of habitual control, leading to enslavement.
Chad suggests paying attention to automatic habits and patterns without judgment before attempting the 1-2-3 practice.
Self-mastery and addiction recovery. 8:44
The importance of self-mastery in the second half of life, with a focus on identifying and overcoming limiting beliefs and behaviors.
Chad and Shelley discuss the quote from Lao Tzu, "He who conquers others is strong. But he who conquers himself is mighty." (0:11:01)
Practicing self-awareness and filling inner emptiness. 13:32
Practice paying attention to inner experience to avoid compulsive behaviors and feel more whole.
Chad guides listeners to imagine their resistances and reorient themselves to fill emotional voids.
Chad guides listeners to visualize a blue flame for life energy and connection.
Self-control and personal growth through practical exercises. 20:34
Practice inquiring into resistances to heal yourself, rather than blaming external factors.
Freedom, confidence, and leadership gained through self-restraint practice.
Show Notes:
Find out more about Big Self School
We still offer our flagship burnout coaching package. We also offer packages for those seeking clarity and reconnecting to their life purpose. Reach out to us if youâd like to book a discovery call and learn more about our coaching packages.
Want to learn more about the role stress plays in your life, and discover your blueprint for how to handle it based on your Enneagram type and subtype?
Book a discovery call here
Join us at the
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Reut Schwartz-Hebron was born in Jerusalem. She is a Certifying Partner at KCI (KeyChange Institute). She is a leading expert at the intersection of neuroscience and challenging change.
Reut trains and certifies change leaders to use Neuroscience-based models to support people through transitions.
Today we discuss her opinions about everything related to the personality and whether or not we really can change.
Spoiler alert: We can change--and maybe for a lot longer than you ever imagined.
But why? and how?
Time Stamps:
How we interact with discomfort associated with change. 9:49
Most people aren't going to be moved to want to dig deep until something is failing or not working with their pre-frontal projected rehearsed self.
Think of discomfort as a nourishment. 15:34
The first mountain of life, the first mountain, the second mountain, and how to move forward on it.
Why awareness is not a requirement for transformation. 20:22
Awareness has a wonderful role in our lives and is supportive of transformative processes, but it is not a requirement from a neuroscience perspective.
Being more aware is an explicit function. 27:00
Awareness is an explicit system function, and without awareness, certain exercises will transform.
Addiction is not black and white. There is a chemical aspect to addiction, which means that certain people after they have been addicted long enough or have used substances.
How do you avoid discomfort? 34:44
The idea of neuroplasticity.
Personality is a construct of current preferences.
How long does it take to change an organizational pattern? 44:22
Kindness is not a naivete. It's a powerhouse.
You can change simple as you can change. 48:39
Kindness has nothing to do with being nice. Kindness is not just about being nice, but also about respect.
You can change, even if you don't want to.
Show Notes:
Outswim the Sharks: How to Quadruple Your Teamâs Productivity with Kindness
The Art and Science of Changing People Who Donât Want to Change
Find out more about Big Self School
We offer our flagship burnout coaching package, as well as packages for leaders. We also offer opportunities for those seeking clarity and reconnecting to their life purposeâand we do this work with individuals and couples. Reach out to us if youâd like to book a discovery call and learn more about our coaching packages.
Want to learn more about the role stress plays in your life, and discover your blueprint for how to handle it based on your Enneagram...
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Today we speak with Dr. James Hollis, a speaker, professor, Jungian analyst, and bestselling author of 19 books examining life and how to cherish every moment. His world-renowned books, Finding Meaning in the Second Half of Life, The Eden Project, What Matters Most, and Living an Examined Life, have been translated into over twenty languages.
We discuss his latest book, A Life of Meaning, which examines the qualities that bring meaning to our human journey. Our culture tells us to seek wealth, power, prestige, or even enrollment in someone elseâs idea of a worthy causeâyet where do we turn when these paths fail to fulfill our need for purpose? âWhen the old stories and beliefs that once defined us have played out and grown exhausted,â teaches Dr. James Hollis, âour task is to access our inner compass, the promptings of the psyche that help us find our way through the complex thickets of choice.â
Hollis offers an examination of myth, literature, historical figures, and the wisdom of depth psychology that provides penetrating insight into the search for purpose. In A Life of Meaning, Hollis offers no easy answers or feel-good certaintiesâinstead, he shares his most valuable questions and reflections to help you find the courage, persistence, and inspiration to navigate your own odyssey.
Time Stamps:
Defining the concept of big self. 6:38
It is important to define how the word self is used in any given paragraph or conversation.
All of us are either serving or running from the instructions of our culture in the first half, with some exceptions, but mostly in the second half of life, about surrendering to something larger than our instructions or our complexes or personal history.
The middle passage, the adolescent passage and the final passage, mortality.
The middle passage trough of despair. 13:40
What to do when your boss is a jerk? 17:28
The importance of reflecting on the nature of his work and asking himself what is his task now.
Finding your own personal guidance system. 23:25
The process of discernment.
One of the dilemmas is, if I choose this path, it could risk my relationship.
Fear and lethargy are the enemies of life. Fear is the seduction of that part of me that wants an easy path. Jung says the greatest burden a child must bear is the unlived life of the parent.
Talk is cheap, change is difficult, and it always costs something.
The collective unconscious and the wounded healer. 29:53
Empathic caregivers bear the weight of a collective system of unreality, not tuning into human needs, and not tuning in to human needs.
What is the wounded healer complex? 34:03
Some people need to leave the profession to save their lives. Others need to take more breaks and recognize the symptoms of burnout.
The wounded healer complex is a neutral word like an airport complex or...
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Brian Bogert is a passionate performance coach, motivational speaker, business strategist, top sales professional and philanthropic leader who believes in helping growth-minded individuals achieve the best version of themselves: their most authentic selves.
Brian teaches how to leverage radical authenticity and awareness to create the intentional life youâve been dreaming of, but have struggled to create on your own. His revolutionary strategyâembrace pain to avoid sufferingâhas helped individuals, groups and entire companies break beyond their normal to achieve the success in life and business that theyâve always wanted.
Time Stamps:
What does being in your big self mean to you? 2:08
The power of a singular choice and the ripple effect. 5:40
This is a new time and we are living in different times. 11:16
How I became aware of how disconnected I was. 15:24
Realizing how disconnected he was at 20.
Human connection without emotion is not human connection.
Suffering is a will and a skill. 20:12
Self-awareness is a will and a skill.
Viktor frankl and the unique opportunity.
Why vulnerability and authenticity are so important in healing? 23:13
The importance of vulnerability and authenticity.
Intellectual vs. emotional connection. 26:21
There are 40,000 brain-like cells in the heart.
Integrating the body and emotions with thoughts.
The two ways to become the protector and connector.
The soft front and strong spine.
The importance of starting with yourself. 32:38
Starting with yourself, regardless of the dynamics.
Podcast Flipping the Lid
Find out more about Big Self School
We still offer our flagship burnout coaching package. We also offer packages for those seeking clarity and reconnecting to their life purposeâand we do this work with individuals and couples. Reach out to us if youâd like to book a discovery call and learn more about our coaching packages.
Want to learn more about the role stress plays in your life, and discover your blueprint for how to handle it based on your Enneagram type and subtype?
Book a discovery call here
Join us at the Burnout to Big Self Facebook Group
Order a copy of Chadâs
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Joe Sanok is a productivity researcher, business consultant, and creator of the popular The Practice of the Practice podcast. Letâs just say Joe gets a lot done, but he does manage to do this with his ideas of hard and soft boundaries and clearly delineating the lines between what is work and what is play. There is a lot to learn from Joe, his approach, and the initiatives heâs started through his book and from his programs.
Joe shares with us that if we say we want to figure out how to focus more on whatâs important when itâs time to focus, we need to prioritize when weâre working and when weâre going to boundary time for play. We learn how to apply these principles to customize them for your own situation to be more productive at work while enjoying more leisure time.
Time Stamps:
The story of the tortoise and the hare. 6:25
Tortoise and hare story.
Hare did it right, but they didn't have the right tools.
Adopt a learnerâs mindset. 9:47
Experimentations on the book.
How to avoid burnout by going rock climbing. 15:23
Why is it important to take action? 18:02
The three pâs of podcast launch. 22:24
The full humanity of our life experience. 31:00
Joeâs curiosity test. 38:32
Show Notes:
http://joesanok.com/manifesto
https://joesanok.com/experiments/
https://joesanok.com/test
And use the code TITNY for a free test
Check out his book: Thursday is the New Friday
Find out more about Big Self School
We still offer our flagship burnout coaching package. We also offer packages for those seeking clarity and reconnecting to their life purposeâand we do this work with individuals and couples. Reach out to us if youâd like to book a discovery call and learn more about our coaching packages.
Want to learn more about the role stress plays in your life, and discover your blueprint for how to handle it based on your Enneagram type and subtype?
Book a discovery call here
Join us at the Burnout to Big Self Facebook Group
Order a copy of Chadâs
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Chad and Shelley explore the reasons behind why we overwork. They examine the beliefs behind overworking, and consider how and when we can begin to dismantle those beliefs and pursue second mountain work.
Time Stamps:
Why do I overwork? 0:02
We all have a big self and pursuing it is fully, but most of us let fear persuade us not to pay attention to the episodes.
We live in a meritocracy and competition. 2:00
Workaholism overwork is a term that was coined in 1971 by a psychologist.
Being led by our egos. 3:47
A lot of us get to a point where we have been led by our egos, which is a necessary part of self-development.
A client recently asked why she was a workaholic.
Why we are workaholics. 5:02
The ego believes that the ego needs to be workaholics in order to survive, and that overworking is 100% all the time.
James hollis, accumulation and attachment are unconscious.
The ego and the conflation of identity. 7:18
The stakes were really high. 9:10
The first mountain experience.
Why do I want to keep doing this? 10:55
If there is no friction or no breaking down, why would you want to keep doing this?
The five regrets of the dying. 12:49
The tipping point is wanting it, because if you don't, it's all moot.
Work from the soul is more fulfilling than work from ego. 14:38
Surrendering work from the soul is hard work, but it is more fulfilling than work that comes from the ego.
Show Notes:
Find out more about Big Self School
We still offer our flagship burnout coaching package. We also offer packages for those seeking clarity and reconnecting to their life purpose. Reach out to us if youâd like to book a discovery call and learn more about our coaching packages.
Want to learn more about the role stress plays in your life, and discover your blueprint for how to handle it based on your Enneagram type and subtype?
Book a discovery call here
Join us at the Burnout to Big Self Facebook Group
Order a copy of Chadâs
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You may be familiar with him from his Super Soul Sunday radio series and his popular interview with Oprah from over ten years ago. Whether or not you've heard him--or of him--Reverend Ed Bacon has a second mountain message we could all use in our lives.
The Reverend was ordained an Episcopal priest after serving as Mercer Universityâs Minister to Students and Dean of Students as a Southern Baptist minister. He was dean of the cathedral in Jackson, Ms. and rector of churches in Dalton, Georgia and Pasadena, California from which he âretiredâ in 2016.
He says he flunked retirement in 2018 when he became interim rector at St. Lukeâs, Atlanta where he had been ordained in 1983. He and his wife, Hope, moved to Hoover, Alabama in 2016 to be near their grandchildren.
Now he travels, teaching how our Oneness in Love overcomes our fear-based separateness. He expresses this spiritual way of life in his book, 8 Habits of Love. His missions also include creation care including helping to save the Pando forest in southern Utah, interspirituality, healing grief and trauma, and dismantling systems of all forms of bigotry and oppression.
Today, he shares with us is the inspiring and challenging depths we can get to on a regular basis if weâre able to get still with ourselves. The wisdom, the ability to let go of our egoic fears, and hold on to the things that we say we value, are all a part of the message and ideas he shares with us today.
Time Stamps:
What does living in your big self mean to you? 3:28
The ego and its purpose.
Making decisions based on ego strength. 9:09
Stillness is a superpower. 14:52
The ocean metaphor.
Advice for the average person who hears this message. 19:50
How to become more aware of distractions.
How to make yourself still and quiet.
How stillness opens up the learner's mindset. 22:50
The difference between fear and love.
The difference between the learnerâs mind and the learners mind. 28:18
Community and practicing the habit of community.
Thomas Merton and community. 33:11
One of history's greatest spiritual revelations, the "Louisville Epiphany."
Community is the root of unity.
The sweetness of the second mountain. 38:20
Habits of love are interconnected.
The sweetness of the second mountain.
Stillness and the gift of stillness. 44:35
Show Notes:
His 2012 interview with Oprah
Twitter: @RevEdBacon
Facebook:...
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âToxicâ cultures arenât all the same. Theyâre caused by different poinsons. So start there. Bad boss? Unrealistic expectations? Systemic overload?
How you answer this will determine how you respond.
How do we define âtoxicâ? An environment thatâs incompatible with YOUR wellbeing.
Wellbeing consists of physical, emotional, intellectual, relational and spiritual wellbeing.
But if you arenât at an institution with well-documented and widespread dysfunction, if you are at a relatively normal place with its typical interpersonal human drama, then ask the questions we offer up in this episode.
Time Stamps:
The definition of toxic culture. 1:19
Shifting your beliefs and expectations. 4:29
Awareness that a job is not what is good for you is an indication of movement in your life.
A startup environment and leadership roles. 9:41
What conversation am I avoiding that will go well? 10:52
What is a projection? 12:03
Start with yourself. 15:28
The one takeaway is to start with yourself when it comes to dealing with your
Show Notes:
Find out more about Big Self School
We still offer our flagship burnout coaching package. We also offer packages for those seeking clarity and reconnecting to their life purposeâand we do this work with individuals and couples. Reach out to us if youâd like to book a discovery call and learn more about our coaching packages.
Want to learn more about the role stress plays in your life, and discover your blueprint for how to handle it based on your Enneagram type and subtype?
Book a discovery call here
Join us at the Burnout to Big Self Facebook Group
Order a copy of Chadâs book Shock Point or order an ebook here.
Leave us a review and
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Judy K. Herman inspires executive women to unlock the power of their authentic selves in order to live peaceful, purposeful, and positive lives without regret. She provides keynotes, seminars, and workshops for companies who support women in leadership while honoring authentic work relationships and cultures. Her clinical and personal experiences enhance her work as an executive coach providing skills and resources that change organizations and family trees.
Time Stamps:
How Judy became a psychotherapist. 6:08
Being a psychotherapist, raising four children and having five grandchildren.
Marrying a second time.
How to begin to work on yourself. 12:23
Relationships shift when one person grows.
Relationships are mirrors to us and our souls.
Growing in self-awareness and relationship awareness.
The dynamics of family relationships. 16:54
How to become more aware of your patterns? 21:40
Becoming more aware of family patterns.
The beginner's mind and the growth mindset.
How to make sense when conversations go sideways.
Self awareness takes the will and the skill. 26:48
The experience of building a business. 31:42
The enneagram and how it affects relationships. 36:08
Show Notes:
Author of Beyond Messy Relationships: Divine Invitations To Your Authentic Self
And Relationships with Purpose
Better Relationships, Better Life Podcast
Find out more about Big Self School
We still offer our flagship burnout coaching package. We also offer packages for those seeking clarity and reconnecting to their life purposeâand we do this work with individuals and couples. Reach out to us if youâd like to book a discovery call and learn more about our coaching packages.
Want to learn more about the role stress plays in your life, and discover your blueprint for how to handle it based on your Enneagram type and subtype?
Book a discovery call here
Join us at the Burnout to Big Self Facebook Group
Order a copy of Chadâs
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We hear a lot of language around using Enneagram arrows in this "growth" and "stress" language, and we'd like to be a part of putting that theory to rest. At least, we'd like to offer a better alternative to thinking of it in a simpler, and also slightly more accurate way. We want to "hit the bullseye" when it comes to our arrows.
You can go to your first arrow--what we call the "energizing" arrow--in both growth and stress. You can also go to your second arrow--what we call the "resolution" arrow--in growth and stress as well. Just as you can go to either of your wings in growth and stress, the same is true with arrow work. We discuss what going to your first arrow means, as well as your second. We clarify the terms so that it is clear that it doesn't have to do with stress whether we are going to the first or second. It happens in either. The bottom line is that in terms of growth work, we aim for the high sides of our arrows, which typically means we are going their consciously and intentionally until we have developed the memory muscle (so to speak) to inhabit the higher sides with less effort and greater efficacy.
This is all growth work. None of it is easy per se. But we'd like to improve upon how we use some of our terms to help make the work a little more clear and a little more accurate. In that way, we're offering up a simpler way to conduct the conscious development of our growth work.
Time Stamps:
What are wings? 1:24
Arrow theories and how they challenge conventional wisdom.
Wings are not subtypes.
The difference between style and type. 4:30
What does a really healthy one have to teach me? 7:46
Being aware of unconscious tendencies to withdraw. 9:03
Awareness of tendencies both in five and three.
Bigger jumps. 11:50
Direct vs. confrontational energy. 15:07
You can go to either one of the arrows. 18:13
The enneagram is not just another typology. 21:03
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Dr. Heather Penny is a leadership coach and trusted advisor helping individuals and organizations achieve their goals guided by the 3C's: Clarity, Confidence, and Courage.
With a Ph.D. in Human Services and an M.A. in Educational Leadership, Dr. Penny is uniquely positioned to help leaders and teams find their shared vision, develop confidence in their roles, and take action to achieve the success and the lives they were made for.
She is fun and engaging and has a clear and authentic message for how to truly aspire to living a more intentional life: one where we intentionally choose what we want to invite in and what we choose to reject and keep out.
She is a sought-after speaker, host of The Life You're Made For podcast, and author of The Life You're Made For: Finding Clarity, Confidence, and Courage to be Fully Alive
Time Stamps:
What first comes to mind when you think of the big self? 2:27
How to cultivate clarity, confidence and courage. 5:43
The three c's of clarity, confidence and courage.
Taking practical action out of a vulnerability. 10:35
The importance of confidence and courage. 12:27
The value of transformation coaching as transactional. 17:20
Finding her tire swing.
The power of inviting in and rejecting. 22:22
How to live a life of intentionality.
How to make difficult choices.
Taking responsibility for your mistakes. 25:11
Handling difficult conversations and spiraling up out of anxiety.
Step into the conversation and own it.
How to have difficult conversations in the workplace. 30:29
How to be transparent in a workplace.
The first question to ask in difficult conversations.
Leading with good intent.
Leading with confidence and courage. 34:34
The importance of leading from a position of care.
Show Notes:
The Life You're Made For: Finding Clarity, Confidence, and Courage to be Fully Alive
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Tom Gautreaux is one of those what we call local legends that we organically find opportunity to speak with. These easygoing conversations focus around building an identityâa selfâthat finds success in the world, and how they have experienced building a life in ways that sometimes havenât, but mostly have, flourished.
Tomâs our next door neighbor. His father is the well-known novelist and short-story writer, Tim Gautreaux. Tom shows up in this episode with how he grew up and how that shaped him, and how a vocation found him that kept him sustained and excited for all these years.
I find the conversation warmed up and we ended up landing on generational work style differences, social media, leadership, the art and challenge of giving effective feedback, and the issue of doing a hard thing every day.
Like all of our guests for Season Five, this is an organic and unscripted conversation.
Time Stamps:
Not all lawyers will be happy being lawyers. 0:00
Generational work style differences, social media leadership, art.
How did you get started in law? 3:13
The importance of being exposed to different management styles and personalities.
Burnout and proving value.
How did you become an addict to work hard? 7:43
The myth of being a rock in an island.
Mentor/coach/guiding light.
How do you view success? 11:40
Millennials burnout and digital natives. 17:15
Differences between the younger generation and our generation. 21:18
Employees view things differently than students.
Employees are more attune to work-life balance.
Finding what you love to do. 24:33
How to be effective at giving feedback. 29:06
The importance of being effective at giving feedback.
How to become a very effective leader.
Do one thing every day that scares you every day. 35:55
Find out more about Big Self School
We still offer our flagship burnout coaching package. We also offer packages for those seeking clarity and reconnecting to their life purposeâand we do this work with individuals and couples. Reach out to us if youâd like to book a discovery call and learn more about our coaching packages.
Book a discovery call here
Want to learn more about the role stress plays in your life, and discover your blueprint for how to handle it based on your Enneagram type and...
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We are living in a world that is sick. Both literally sick, with 60 percent of adults in the US living with a chronic illness and rising rates of autoimmune diseases in particular, including long COVID, and figuratively sick, facing ever increasing rates of burnout, anxiety, and disconnection.
As a writer, activist, and theology student, Lyndsey Medford was used to critiquing unsustainable medical, environmental, economic, and social systems from a theoretical perspective. But when her autoimmune disorder roared out of remission, she discovered that her own body's systems lived at the very real vortex of all those systems' dysfunction.
Learning to cooperate with her body would require her to change every aspect of her life--and in the process, to seek a radical reimagining of the world, from a place where sickness is an individual affliction to an interdependent ecosystem where sustainability is a community way of life. In this beautiful and inspiring book, Medford draws on her experiences with a rare autoimmune disease to illuminate the broader lessons we need to learn, in order to heal what ails us individually and communally. Whether our burnout stems from illness, systemic racism, poverty, or simply sin's separation, we're all in need of hope, and we are called to heal together.
My Body and Other Crumbling Empires points out the beauty and ubiquity of our limitations; the importance of accessibility, broadly construed; the interconnected nature of individual and public health; and the badly needed wisdom we have gained from living with our particular bodies.
Time Stamps:
How much is available to me to support my body? 0:00
Introduction to todayâs show. 1:33
The big self vs the liberal self.
The meaning of the term big self.
Using your body as a launching point for spiritual connection. 5:05
The disconnection from her body for years.
How she learned to recognize her spiritual connection.
The importance of connecting to your body. 8:22
The third part of her journey.
Transactional vs transformational coaching.
Rediscovering yourself and how that is healing.
Understanding the complexity of the immune system. 12:55
Understanding the immune system and autoimmunity.
Getting back to back all the way to fixing.
How to deal with perfectionism. 16:37
Overworking perfectionism and the church culture.
Struggle with the auto-immune experience.
Connecting to the world. 20:33
Healing for a world that is sick.
Do one thing that scares you every day.
Relating across the differences of society right now.
How good it feels to be in community.
Why was that not a very nice side of the house? 26:34
The liberating simplicity of...
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On this episode, we discuss why we use the term "mountain" when discussing the idea of the "in between" the first and second mountain.
The first mountain is the mountain of individual freedom: it is the mountain of autonomy and action, of personal happiness and independence. The second mountain, on the other hand, is the mountain of commitment: it is the mountain of moral joy and meaning, the mountain of giving and interdependence.
The goals on that first mountain are the normal goals that our culture endorses, to be a success, to be well thought of, to get invited into the right social circles, and to experience personal happiness. Itâs all the normal stuff: nice home, nice family, nice vacations, good food, good friends, and so on.
No matter how you succeed on the first mountain, you come to the valley, or what is called "the middle passage." From there, you don't necessarily begin the second mountain journey, but you are offered that opportunity.
You don't climb the second mountain the way you climb the first mountain. You conquer your first mountain. You identify the summit and you claw your way toward it. You are conquered by your second mountain.
David Brooks explores the four commitments that define a life of meaning and purpose: to a spouse and family, to a vocation, to a philosophy or faith, and to a community. Our personal fulfillment depends on how well we choose and execute these commitments. Brooks looks at a range of people who have lived joyous, committed lives, and who have embraced the necessity of dependence. He gathers their wisdom on how to choose a partner, how to pick a vocation, how to live out a philosophy, and how we can begin to integrate our commitments into one overriding purpose.
Time Stamps:
The provisional personality in midlife. 1:37
James hollis, a life of meaning.
The provisional personality in a provisional life.
The disillusionment of midlife mortality. 3:41
The disillusionment that happens in the 40s and 50s.
Why mountains are used as an archetypal symbol.
Cultureâs expectations of success. 7:05
The first mountain, climbing the first mountain.
The two grinning gremlins of life. 8:44
James hollis, fear and lethargy are the enemies of life.
Valley story.
The valley is not a fun place to be. 12:54
The fear of annihilation.
Finding ways to break out of yourself and into community. 16:39
The role of the coach. 19:27
Letting go of what you think you are. 21:40
The second mountain is sweeter than the first mountain.
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We still offer our flagship burnout coaching package. We also offer packages for those seeking clarity and reconnecting to their life...
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As a seasoned marketing executive, Teresa has helped many organizations navigate transitions and transformations and achieve lofty goals such as being acquired, exponentially increasing shareholder value, or transforming from a traditional organization to a digital one.
Today, as Chief Liminist, strategic advisor, and executive coach, Teresa helps people and organizations master the âart of the pivot,â embrace change, and achieve audacious goals.
Chad decided to reach out after learning about her organization's name, The Liminist. Richard Rohr shares a wonderful idea about how liminal space transforms us when we are attentive to the presence of God in times of change. He writes:
"The Latin word limen means 'threshold.' Liminal space is an inner state and sometimes an outer situation where we can begin to think and act in new ways. It is where we are betwixt and between, in transition, having left one room or stage of life but not yet entered the next. We usually enter liminal space when our former way of being is challenged or changedâperhaps when we lose a job or a loved one, during illness, at the birth of a child, or a major relocation. It is a graced time, but often does not feel âgracedâ in any way. In such space, we are not certain or in control."
We have a lively conversation about bringing transformational coaching to leaders and organizations in order to improve the bottom line, results.
Time Stamps:
The difference between self and little self.
Richard rohr, liminal space.
The liminal space is where we are most teachable. 5:07
The liminal space is where people are most teachable.
Transitioning from founder to leadership team lead. 10:41
Transformational vs transactional. 18:53
Transactional vs transformational coaching, emotional intelligence and understanding.
The enneagram and the 360.
How to develop a functional leadership team. 27:51
Building a culture of trust and transparency. 32:54
Building a culture of trust is important.
80% of golf players are men.
The future of work-life balance.
What do you think about a four day work week? 37:17
The four-day work week movement.
Diverse needs of different generations and learning styles.
Women learning golf, prioritization and fear.
The importance of being open to what we need to learn. 44:10
Find Teresa Caro to learn more about her and her organization:
The Liminist
https://www.linkedin.com/in/teresacaro/
https://www.linkedin.com/company/liminist/
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