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  • Angry at himself for continually putting others’ needs before his own, a leader turns to his coach for tools. He learns a new way to think and a behavior to try.


    Be in touch with Tom here.


    Listen to Tom’s conversations with Neha on “Bridge to Leadership” podcast here and here.


    Our Essential Tools bin has free resources to help you build your look and sound of leadership.


    G.W. Bailey’s imdb page is here.

    This episode lives in the podcast archive in these three categories:

    For Women

    Managing Yourself

    Self-Talk


    Five episodes to help conquer your people pleasing tendencies:

    188 Boundaries

    165 The Conflict Conversation

    220 Holding Boundaries

    219 How to Set Boundaries

    116 Speaking Your Truth


    Grab a free transcript of the show here.


    Our monthly Essential News email provides links to even more resources. Sign up here.


    From Tom and everyone at The Look & Sound of Leadership, thanks!

  • A vice president, struggling to control his team of artists, learns a technique for managing bad behavior from his coach. He likes it so much, he uses it with his high performers, too.

    The tool described in this episode is simple to understand but may take a bit of courage to implement.

    Courage can be taught. Brené Brown created her Dare to Lead course for exactly that purpose. Ready to build your courage? Reach out to us here.

    Find more resources to build your skills in the podcast archive. Search these categories:

    Assertiveness

    Feedback

    Management Skills

    Five episodes you might listen to are:

    #47 Discussing Difficult Behaviors

    #18 Holding People Accountable

    #138 Managing Disruptive Executives

    #127 Managing Performance: Up or Out

    #65 Sorting & Labeling

    A free infographic for Sorting & Labeling is in our Essential Tools bin. Help yourself to that and all the others.

    Thinking about developing someone in your organization, or yourself? Reach out to Tom here.

    Grab a free transcript of the show here.


    Our monthly Essential News email provides links to even more resources. Sign up here.

    From Tom and everyone at The Look & Sound of Leadership, thanks!

    #podcast #managingbadbehavior #leadershippodcast #leadershipchallenges #behaviormanagement #leadershiptips #leadershipdevelopment

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  • A leader is so furious with his self-absorbed boss, he considers quitting the company. He asks his coach to help him manage himself and defuse his triggers.

    In addition to the five strategies Tom talks about in this episode, there are lots more strategies in his conversation with Dave Stachowiak on Coaching For Leaders “How to Deal with a Boss Who’s a Jerk.”


    Tom’s wide-ranging conversation with Josh Dittmer can be found here.


    Free tools to support your professional development are in our Essential Tools bin. Please help yourself.


    Ready to explore coaching? Reach out to Tom here.

    Other episodes to help you manage yourself in difficult workplace relationshipsare:

    The Disruptive Executive – Part OneThe Disruptive Executive – Part TwoDon’t Take It PersonallyHandling Defensive BehaviorsThe High-Maintenance Executive

    Looking for a transcript of the show? Download it here.

    Our monthly Essential News email provides links to even more resources. Sign up here.


    Thanks to all of you, from Tom and everyone at The Look & Sound of Leadership.

    Happy, healthy, safe new year!

  • Tired of losing to more savvy players, a leader seeks to decode the secrets of playing politics, focusing particularly on company culture.

    Download our free Political Style Chart here.

    “The Secret Handshake” is a great tool for mastering workplace politics.



    Looking for a transcript of the show? Read it here.


    More tools are in our podcast library. This episode is in three categories:

    For Women
    Perception – how you perceive others
    Relationship Building

    Here are five episodes to help develop your political savvy:

    188 - Boundaries
    210 - How to grow your self-management
    67 - “I hate politics”
    142 - The Mindful Executive
    121 - Your Goodwill Bank Account

    Our monthly Essential News email provides links to even more resources. Sign up here.

    Let us know how we can support you.

    Happy, healthy, safe new year. I look forward to being with you all in 2024.

    From Tom and everyone at The Look & Sound of Leadership, Happy New Year! And thanks!

  • A leader feels stuck. She sees others winning resources she felt should have been hers, but she hates playing politics. What to do?

    Download our free Political Style Chart here.


    “The Secret Handshake” is a great tool for mastering workplace politics.


    Many more tools are in our podcast library. This episode is in three categories:

    Self-Talk

    Leadership

    For Women

    Here are five episodes to help develop your political savvy:


    187 - Agreeable Disagreement

    215 - How to Stay Calm Under Fire

    192 - Pursuing a Promotion

    207 - Tough Conversations

    67 - “I Hate Politics”

    Our monthly Essential News email provides links to even more resources. Sign up here.


    JAPAN!

    Email me with your suggestions for what we should not miss in Japan this December! [email protected]


    Let us know how we can support you.


    Be kind to yourself. Things are rough out there! From Tom and everyone at The Look & Sound of Leadership, be well! And thanks!

  • A leader, surrounded by people she knows and trusts, can’t seem to get traction with them. In conversation with her coach, she discovers an unexpected cause.

    Tools for teams abound in this episode.

    The four tools Tom suggests as first steps for helping your team openly discuss ideas are:

    Say ‘thank you’ when people offer an idea;Be curious; don’t dismiss ideas or people;Don’t take differences personally; it’s not about you;Develop your comfort with disagreement.

    The Gradients of Agreement tool supports the ideas in this episode. Download it for free from our Essential Tools bin along with other communication tools like Sorting & Labeling.

    Additional tools for team growth mentioned in this episode are the classic Crucial Conversations and Tom’s conversation on The cATalyzing Podcast.

    This episode is in our podcast library in three categories:

    Communication Skills

    Leading Teams

    Management Skills

    Specific episodes that will help you develop your team are:

    Facilitating Open Dialogue

    How Teams Fight

    Leadership Behavior in Meetings

    Power Tools for Teams: Plus/Delta

    Questions as Leadership

    Taming Meetings

    Our monthly Essential News email provides links to even more resources. You can sign up here.


    To those of you who post reviews, thank you so much for supporting the show.


    Let us know how we can support you.


    Until next month, from Tom and everyone at The Look & Sound of Leadership, be well! And thanks!

    #podcast #TeamDecisionMaking #Teamwork #Leadership #ConsensusBuilding #EffectiveTeams #TeamCommunication #TeamLeadership

  • A co-founder, at odds with his partner (also his best friend!), reaches out to his coach for help saving the business and the friendship.

    The episode introduces The Conflict Resolution Wheel. Download it for free from our Essential Tools bin along with other communication tools like the Feeling Words Grid.

    The Wheel is based on a tool in the Couple Communication course, a program to help you understand and connect with your partner better.

    The course’s workbook, Talking and Listening Together, is meant for self-study. It’s available for purchase online.

    Another book Tom references in this episode is the classic Crucial Conversations.

    This episode is in our podcast library in three categories:

    Communication Skills

    Managing Yourself

    Relationship Building


    Five episodes that will help you continue to develop your conflict resolution skills are:

    Conflict

    The Conflict Conversation

    Creating Safety for Hard Talks

    A Difficult Conversation

    Resolving Conflict


    Every month our Essential News email provides links to even more resources. You can sign up here.

    Thank you thank you thank you to those of you who post reviews. You make such a difference to us. Thanks for supporting the show!

    Let us know how we can support you.

    Until next month, from Tom and everyone at The Look & Sound of Leadership, be well! And thanks!

  • A senior leader, having risen through the ranks, ends her coaching engagement by comparing notes with her coach about the skills that have helped her most.

    This episode identified seven essential leadership skills:

    Conquer catastrophic thinking;Use fewer words;Value relationships as highly as results;Don’t take anything personally;Commitment to Development;Reflection;Speak for Yourself.

    Resources to develop those last three:

    Commitment to Development

    The Executive Executive – an episode with a different list of essential skillsFour Factors Executives Need to be Successful – another list of essential skills [email protected] – my email address if you want help thinking about your own development

    The Ability to Reflect

    Mindfulness ResourcesBuilding Self-Awareness

    Speak for Yourself

    The Four Agreements – Agreement #1: “Be Impeccable with Your Word”


    Episodes to build assertion:

    Showing TeethThe Voice of AuthorityAssertion v Aggression

    This month’s episode lives in our podcast library in these three categories:

    Executive Presence
    Leadership
    Self-Talk


    Five episodes to help you with different skills are:

    Building Empathy
    “Don’t Take Anything Personally”
    The Executive Executive
    Personal Connections
    Short Sounds Confident


    Our monthly email has links to more resources. You can sign up here.

    All our infographics are available to you for free in the Essential Tools bin.

    Let us know how we can support you.

    Until next month, be well!

    From Tom and everyone at The Look & Sound of Leadership, thanks!

  • At the end of her rope, a leader asks her coach for help managing a direct report who, she says, is the most defensive person she’s ever met.

    This episode was packed with tools. We’ve put them into an easy-to-understand infographic. Download it for free here.

    Kim Scott, the best-selling author of the electric book Radical Candor, wrote a short, friendly guide with tools for handling defensive employees. Find it here.

    Harvard Business Review’s Amy Gallo talked with Dave Stachowiak on this episode of the Coaching for Leaders podcast. As with every episode of Dave’s, this is indispensable.

    To work on “deserving” dive into The Four Agreements.

    To dig deeper into tools for taming defensiveness, search our podcast library in these three categories:

    Communication SkillsManagement Skills Relationship Building

    Five specific episodes on this topic you could listen to are:

    7 Steps to Stop Emotional HijacksBe Impeccable with Your Word Handling Defensive BehaviorsManaging Bad BehaviorManaging Disruptive Executives

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    Calling all COACHES! Come join our Executive Coaching special interest group (SIG) sponsored by the Los Angeles Chapter of ICF. Check out our SIG and all the others here.

    Or shoot me an email with your questions. I’m at [email protected].

    All our free infographics are in the Essential Tools bin.

    Your reviews supporting the show help us continue as an ad-free podcast.

    Let us know how we can support you.

    Until next month, be well!

    Thanks from Tom and everyone at The Look & Sound of Leadership.

  • During her first C-suite years, a leader burned a lot of bridges. Her boss, who’d traveled a similar path, gets her a coach and sets only one goal: repair relations through emotional intelligence.


    Lots and lots of tools and resources this month:

    Free downloads:

    The Feeling Words Grid

    EQ Model

    Books and papers to sharpen your skills

    “Executive Presence: The Missing Link between Merit and Success”

    “The EQ Edge: Emotional Intelligence and Your Success”

    “Thanks for the Feedback: The Science and Art of Receiving Feedback Well”

    “Executive Presence” from Center for Talent Innovation

    This episode is tagged in three categories in the Podcast Library:

    Executive Presence

    Managing Yourself

    Personal Growth & Self-Development

    Five episodes to help you command a room:

    109 Building Emotional Intelligence

    146 Building Empathy

    155 The Human Element

    69 Leadership & Self-Deception

    17 Speaking for Yourself


    Please help yourself to any (or all!) of our free infographics in the Essential Tools bin.

    Our deepest gratitude to those who post reviews. Thank you!!!

    Let us know how we can support you.

    Until next month, be well!

    Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team.

  • A highly effective leader finds herself in the middle of a terrible mess, not of her own making. When her coach marvels at her ability to stay calm amidst the chaos, she shares a lesson she learned from her dad.

    In addition to the tools discussed during this episode, Tom also talks about:

    “Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes are High.”

    Conversations with Coaches – Episode #184

    Executive Coaching Special Interest Group

    The Feeling Word Grid

    This episode is tagged in three categories in the Podcast Library:

    Managing Yourself

    Perception – How You Perceive Yourself

    Self-Talk

    Five episodes to help you manage during difficult times:

    109 - Building Emotional Intelligence

    52 - Coaching versus Therapy

    152 - Combating Emotional Hijacks

    75 - “Don’t Take Anything Personally”

    171 - Taming the Wild Child

    All our free infographics are in the Essential Tools bin.

    Your reviews supporting the show help us continue as an ad-free podcast.

    Let us know how we can support you.

    Until next month, be well!

    Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team.

  • Wanting to command rooms with her voice, a team leader turned to her coach for exercises. She learned the secrets of “RVP.”

    In this episode, five practices to help you develop a voice that will command a room are discussed:

    Vocal varietyExpect resistanceRhythmVolumePitch


    This episode has multiple tips and tools for each of those five development areas.

    The Zootopia clip that gets so much attention is here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HHKwnUa3txo

    This episode is tagged in three categories in the Podcast Library:

    Communication Skills

    Executive Presence

    Presentation Skills

    Five episodes to help you command a room:

    186 Video Feedback & Executive Presence

    120 Captivate Your Audience

    77 The Power of Rehearsal

    64 I Talk Too Fast!

    34 Keeping Repeated Material Fresh

    All our free infographics are in the Essential Tools bin.

    Thanks for supporting us with your reviews. Let us know how we can support you.

    Until next month, be well!

    Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team.

  • In conversation with her coach, an executive explores whether leaders and managers use language differently in order to be effective in their roles.


    There are lots of ideas in this episode. To help you sort the tools and put them into practice, we’ve created an infographic for you to download. It’s in the Essential Tools bin along with all the others. Help yourself!


    This episode is tagged in three categories in the Podcast Library:

    LeadershipManagement SkillsPerception – How You’re Perceived

    Five related episodes you might listen to are:

    139Engagement & Performance

    138Managing Disruptive Executives

    140 Showing Teeth

    148Taming Meetings

    156The Voice of Authority

    Much gratitude to the folks who post reviews. We appreciate your support and all your kind words.


    Let us know how we can support your growth and development. Be in touch with us here.


    Until next month, be well!

    Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team.

  • An executive, in conversation with her coach, wonders if leaders and managers are different. And whether it matters.

    This episode has lots of ideas flying around. To help you sort the tools and put them into practice, we’ve created an infographic for you to download. It’s in the Essential Tools bin along with all the others. Help yourself!


    This episode is tagged in three categories in the Podcast Library:

    LeadershipManagement SkillsRelationship Building

    Five related episodes you might listen to are:

    139Dynamic One-on-Ones

    138How Teams Fight

    179 Managing Former Peers

    148Taming Meetings

    156The Voice of Authority

    We are so grateful to those of you post reviews. It only takes you a minute or two, but it makes a world of difference for us.


    Our purpose is to support your growth and development. Let us know how we can help. Be in touch with us here.


    Until next month, be well!


    Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team.

  • A leader, stuck in an unhealthy cycle, searches for a way out. In conversation with his coach, he learns a four-square tool that just might work.

    A new free Essential Tool illustrating the four-square model is available for download in the Essential Tools bin. No login required. Help yourself.

    The model in this month’s episode is a variation on The ACT Matrix. Here’s our favorite YouTube video about The Matrix.

    The creators of The ACT Matrix wrote a book to help practitioners use the tool.


    This current episode is tagged in the library in three categories:

    Developing New Behaviors

    Managing Yourself

    Self-Talk

    Here are five episodes to help you get unstuck:

    7 Steps to Stop Emotional Hijacks*

    Blind Spots

    How to Build Self-Awareness*

    How to Grow your Self-Management*

    How to Show Up

    * Indicates there’s a PDF in the Essential Tools bin to support the ideas in that episode.

    We are so excited to dive into the new year with you all!

    All the best,

    Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team.

  • A team leader had a habit of jumping to conclusions. His most recent leap landed him in hot water. In conversation with his coach, he learns a tool for making better choices.

    We created a new free Essential Tool illustrating The Ladder of Inference. It’s in the Essential Tools bin along with all the others. Please help yourself.

    The “Don’t Judge Too Quickly” ads are on YouTube here:

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UP8NRgWtPaE&t=18s

    This current episode is tagged in the library in three categories:

    Managing Yourself

    Perception – How You Perceive Yourself

    Personal Growth & Self-Development

    In addition to the various episodes listed above, five that will help you think about your thinking are:

    102 – Getting Unstuck

    210 – How to Grow Your Self-Management

    63 – Positive Opposites

    154 – Self-Limiting Beliefs

    190 – Thinking Errors


    Safe and sane holidays, everyone. See you in the New Year!

    With gratitude,

    Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team.

  • A senior executive worries that his lieutenants are not being taken seriously by the senior leadership team. He discusses with a coach how to help his rising leaders accelerate their growth. This is that conversation.

    We created a new free Essential Tool for you called “Executive Thinking.” It illustrates the “altitude” analogy Tom told during the episode. It also supports one of the four exercises you can do with your team.

    Additional Essential Tools that support other exercises are “Before You Write Your Presentation” and “Sorting & Labeling.”

    Liberating Structures is the free resource Tom was raving about. The specific exercise he mentioned was TRIZ.

    Tom has talked about Liberating Structures in the episodes “How to Re-engage a Team” and “Leading Offsites.”

    If you’re approaching year-end performance reviews, there are tools to support you – no matter which side of the review you’re on! – in Performance Reviews.

    Tom referenced two shows that can help you learn Sorting & Labeling.

    Coaching For Leaders with Dave Stachowiak: The Way to Make Sense to Others.

    The Everyday Innovator with Chad McCallister: How Product Managers Look & Sound like Leaders.

    This current episode is tagged in the library in three categories:

    Executive Presence

    Leadership

    Perception – How You’re Perceived

    In addition to the various episodes listed above, five that relate specifically to executive thinking are:

    180 Becoming Expert

    193 Branding Yourself

    202 The Executive Executive

    178 Executive Presence – Three Pillars

    11 Sounding Executive


    As we hurtle in our year-end traditions, stay mindful!

    Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team.

  • A leader causing upset among her people is given a coach. In conversation, they examine what might be triggering people to be upset with her. The exploration leads to a simple, yet difficult, idea.

    Transcripts of every episode are available for download in our library.

    Tom mentioned two episodes with mindfulness tools. They are:

    The Mindful Executive

    The Focused Executive.

    This episode is filed in three categories in the library:

    Managing Yourself

    Personal Growth & Self-Development

    Self-Talk

    In addition to the mindfulness episodes, five other related episodes are:

    204 Blind Spots

    119 Creating Devoted Followers

    171 Taming the Wild Child

    190 Thinking Errors

    96 The Many Parts of You

    Listen to Tom’s conversation with Kim O’Hara on “You Should Write a Book About That.”

    Listen to Tom’s conversation with Marcel van de Hoef on “The Happy Investor.”

    Gratitude to those who POST REVIEWS. You are life-sustaining! Thank you!

    Got a question you think a coach could help with? We’re happy to talk! Get in touch with us here.

    Until next month, stay healthy and be well.

    Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team.

  • A team leader is tired of kerfuffles. In conversation with her coach, she learns to use a simple chart that generates almost miraculous results.

    The chart is available to you here. Please, help yourself.

    Other tools for leading your team that Tom mentioned in this episode include The Five Dysfunctions of a Team by Patrick Lencioni.

    You can download a sample of the team development tool based on the book that Tom mentioned. The Five Behaviors of a Cohesive Team assessment is available to you here.

    If you’re looking to pick Tom’s brain a little more, all his interviews are available to you in Conversations.

    His conversation on Keys to the Shop is available here. His conversation on Next Gen Leadership is available here.

    This month’s episode is tagged in the Podcast Library under

    Leadership

    Leading Teams

    Management Skills

    Related episodes you might listen to are:

    91 Facilitating Open Dialogue

    149 How Teams Fight

    181 Inviting Dialogue

    175 Leading Offsites

    148 Taming Meetings

    195 The Intentional Leader

    As ever, we cannot give enough thanks to those of you who post reviews. Thank you for your support and kind words.

    Got a question about your career and how coaching might help? Get in touch with us here.

    Until next month, stay healthy and be well.

    Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team.

  • What’s helpful to say when you’re in an argument? How can you prepare to have an argument? This month’s coaching conversation dives deeper into the topic of “Conflict” which began last month. This episode has scripts and concepts for mastering The Conflict Conversation.

    We’ve created another PDF to support your leadership development. It’s a feedback model detailing actions and intentions for you. If you’re serious about your leadership, you have to be serious about mastering the art of feedback. Grab this Essential Tool and dig in. It’s waiting for you in our Tools bin.


    This month’s episode is tagged in the Podcast Library under

    Communication Skills

    Relationship Building

    For Women

    Related episodes you might listen to are:

    #61 A Difficult Conversation

    #73 Disagree Agreeably

    #72 Getting Agreement

    #27 Repairing Damaged Relationships

    #88 Resolving Conflict

    Thanks this month, and every month, to those of you who post reviews. We are so grateful for your support and kind words.

    If you have a question about your career and how coaching might help, be in touch with us here.

    Until next month, stay healthy and be well.

    Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team.