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  • This week, Chloe and Porsha bring you part two of their series on repercussions: the social repercussions of growing up with a narcissistic parent. Support links and references are below. 

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    NEW ZEALAND:

    Need to talk? Free call or text 1737 any time for support from a trained counsellor.

    Lifeline – 0800 543 354 (0800 LIFELINE) or free text 4357 (HELP).

    Suicide Crisis Helpline – 0508 828 865 (0508 TAUTOKO).

    Healthline – 0800 611 116

    Youthline – 0800 376 633

    AUSTRALIA.

    USA.

    UK: Click here or here for UK based helplines and services.

    CANADA.

    WORLDWIDE.

    References:

    https://forms.gle/zoeFY9LbDdo7bgyeA
    https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.forbes.com/sites/kathycaprino/2016/07/09/how-being-raised-by-a-narcissist-damages-your-life-and-self-esteem/amp/--- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/tncc/message
  • This week, Chloe and Porsha bring you part one in a two-part series on the repercussions of growing up with a narcissistic parent. This week, they discuss the impact on mental health. Support links and references below. TW: Suicide

    NEW ZEALAND:

    Need to talk? Free call or text 1737 any time for support from a trained counsellor.

    Lifeline – 0800 543 354 (0800 LIFELINE) or free text 4357 (HELP).

    Suicide Crisis Helpline – 0508 828 865 (0508 TAUTOKO).

    Healthline – 0800 611 116

    Youthline – 0800 376 633

    AUSTRALIA.

    USA.

    UK: Click here or here for UK based helplines and services.

    CANADA.

    WORLDWIDE.

    References:

    https://adaa.org/learn-from-us/from-the-experts/blog-posts/consumer/women-narcissistic-parents https://www.psychologytoday.com/nz/blog/romance-redux/201609/8-common-long-lasting-effects-narcissistic-parenting https://narcissistfamilyfiles.com/2017/03/02/adult-children-of-narcissists-face-trauma-induced-health-risks/ https://www.forbes.com/sites/kathycaprino/2016/07/09/how-being-raised-by-a-narcissist-damages-your-life-and-self-esteem/#2715d9a42c67 https://www.psychologytoday.com/nz/blog/insight-is-2020/201405/narcissistic-parents-psychological-effect-their-children https://healthyfamilies.beyondblue.org.au/seeking-support/helping-yourself-and-others/online-forums/relationship-and-family-issues/parentified-child-of-a-narcissistic-mother- https://open.spotify.com/episode/7v7cQgckBaPDrwkqvudIxl?si=bwPXd9NFQpKl93pPUzniQw&dl_branch=1
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  • This week Chloe and Porsha talk about motherhood and what to do when your child's grandmother is a narcissist. They speak to children's book author Amy Huber about her experience.
    Amy's book can be found here. https://www.amazon.com/Bear-Amy-Huber-ebook/dp/B08QRJV2T1/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=the+bear+amy+huber&qid=1623158588&sr=8-1
    Survey: https://forms.gle/nFZZBJbZ91QisLGf7
    Black Lives Matter: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/ 
    NEW ZEALAND:
    Need to talk? Free call or text 1737 any time for support from a trained counsellor. Lifeline – 0800 543 354 (0800 LIFELINE) or free text 4357 (HELP). Suicide Crisis Helpline – 0508 828 865 (0508 TAUTOKO). Healthline – 0800 611 116 Samaritans – 0800 726 666 Youthline – 0800 376 633
    Click here for more NZ based helplines and services.
    AUSTRALIA:
    Click here for Australian based helplines and services.
    USA:
    Distress &  Lifeline: 1800 273 8255 Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741 741 Domestic Violence Helpline: 1800 799 7233 Victim Connect: support for victims of crime: 855 484 2846 Click here for more USA based helplines and services.
    UK:
    Mind: mental health support: 0300 123 3393 SANE: mental health support: 0300 304 7000 Samaritans support network: 116 123 National Stalking Helpline: 0808 802 0300
    Click here or here for more UK based helplines and services.
    CANADA:
    Click here for Canadian based helplines and services.
    WORLDWIDE:
    Click here or here for international suicide lines.
    REFERENCES:

    https://toxicties.com/narcissistic-grandmother-children/
    https://www.daughtersofnarcissisticmothers.com/narcissistic-grandmothers/
    https://psychcentral.com/pro/exhausted-woman/2019/01/how-to-deal-with-narcissistic-grandparents#1


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  • This week, Porsha and Chloe talk about pseudomutuality and how the narcissist orchestrates the perfect family facade. We also have a survey for you to fill out if you want to! https://forms.gle/nFZZBJbZ91QisLGf7 Black Lives Matter: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/Books mentioned: Anti-Diet by Christy Harrison; Girl A by Abigail Dean; Codependents Guide to the 12 Steps by Melody Beattie.NEW ZEALAND:Need to talk? Free call or text 1737 any time for support from a trained counsellor.Lifeline – 0800 543 354 (0800 LIFELINE) or free text 4357 (HELP).Suicide Crisis Helpline – 0508 828 865 (0508 TAUTOKO).Healthline – 0800 611 116Samaritans – 0800 726 666Youthline – 0800 376 633Click here for more NZ based helplines and services.AUSTRALIA:Click here for Australian based helplines and services.USA:Distress & Lifeline: 1800 273 8255Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741 741Domestic Violence Helpline: 1800 799 7233Victim Connect: support for victims of crime: 855 484 2846Click here for more USA based helplines and services.UK:Mind: mental health support: 0300 123 3393SANE: mental health support: 0300 304 7000Samaritans support network: 116 123National Stalking Helpline: 0808 802 0300Click here or here for more UK based helplines and services.CANADA:Click here for Canadian based helplines and services.WORLDWIDE:Click here or here for international suicide lines.REFERENCES: https://dictionary.apa.org/pseudomutuality https://lovefraud.com/pseudomutuality-in-the-narcissistic-family/ https://www.insider.com/sibling-dynamics-behaviors-narcissistic-families-2019-7 https://www.themadtherapy.com/single-post/2019/03/14/narcissistic-families-the-abuse-tactics https://anchoredabode.com/2019/08/06/the-narcissist-family-structure-scapegoat-golden-child-and-blacksheep/--- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/tncc/message

  • Welcome back! Oh, how we've missed you all. Thank you for listening to us and thank you for supporting us!
    AUSTRALIA:
    Lifeline Crisis Support: 13 11 14
    Beyond Blue: Depression and anxiety support: 1300 22 46 36
    Rape & Domestic Violence Services: 1800 737 732
    Men's Line: 1300 78 99 78
    Headspace: Youth Mental Health Foundation: see headspace.org.au for your local centre
    USA:
    Distress &  Lifeline: 1800 273 8255
    Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741 741
    Domestic Violence Helpline: 1800 799 7233
    Victim Connect: support for victims of crime: 855 484 2846
    MTC program: maketheconnection.net/resources/spread-the-word
    UK:
    Mind: mental health support: 0300 123 3393
    SANE: mental health support: 0300 304 7000
    Samaritans support network: 116 123
    National Stalking Helpline: 0808 802 0300
    CANADA:
    For a list of Canadian crisis centres: https://thelifelinecanada.ca/help/call/
    NEW ZEALAND:
    Lifeline: 0800 543354
    Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757 (Text 4202)

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  • If you want to send some feedback or just say hi, email us at thenocontactclub@gmail.com.  If you need support, please see the numbers below.
    Black Lives Matter: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/
    NEW ZEALAND:  Lifeline: 0800 543354 Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757 (Text 4202)
    AUSTRALIA:  Lifeline Crisis Support: 13 11 14 Beyond Blue: Depression and anxiety support: 1300 22 46 36 Rape & Domestic Violence Services: 1800 737 732 Men's Line: 1300 78 99 78 Headspace: Youth Mental Health Foundation: see headspace.org.au for your local centre.
    USA:   Distress & Lifeline: 1800 273 8255 Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741 741 Domestic Violence Helpline: 1800 799 7233 Victim Connect: support for victims of crime: 855 484 2846 MTC program: maketheconnection.net/resources/spread-the-word
    UK:  Mind: mental health support: 0300 123 3393 SANE: mental health support: 0300 304 7000 Samaritans support network: 116 123 National Stalking Helpline: 0808 802 0300
    CANADA:  For a list of Canadian crisis centres: https://thelifelinecanada.ca/help/call/




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  • Welcome to the second episode of 2021. This week, Chloe and Porsha discuss parentification; what it is, and all the negative things that can result from it. If you want to send some feedback or just say hi, email us at thenocontactclub@gmail.com.  If you need support, please see the numbers below.

    Black Lives Matter: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/

    NEW ZEALAND: 
    Lifeline: 0800 543354
    Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757 (Text 4202)

    AUSTRALIA: 
    Lifeline Crisis Support: 13 11 14
    Beyond Blue: Depression and anxiety support: 1300 22 46 36
    Rape & Domestic Violence Services: 1800 737 732
    Men's Line: 1300 78 99 78
    Headspace: Youth Mental Health Foundation: see headspace.org.au for your local centre.

    USA:  
    Distress & Lifeline: 1800 273 8255
    Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741 741
    Domestic Violence Helpline: 1800 799 7233
    Victim Connect: support for victims of crime: 855 484 2846
    MTC program: maketheconnection.net/resources/spread-the-word

    UK: 
    Mind: mental health support: 0300 123 3393
    SANE: mental health support: 0300 304 7000
    Samaritans support network: 116 123
    National Stalking Helpline: 0808 802 0300

    CANADA: 
    For a list of Canadian crisis centres: https://thelifelinecanada.ca/help/call/

    References:

    https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Parentification#:~:text=Parentification%20is%20the%20process%20of,alienating%20parent's%20emotional%20life.
    https://www.newportacademy.com/resources/mental-health/parentification/
    https://theawarenesscentre.com/parentification/
    https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2017/10/when-kids-have-to-parent-their-siblings-it-affects-them-for-life/543975/
    https://www.mentalhelp.net/blogs/family-boundaries-and-the-parentified-child/
    https://www.daughtersofnarcissisticmothers.com/parentification/
    https://www.huffpost.com/entry/the-narcissist-parents-psychological-warfare-parentifying_b_59124c7de4b0e070cad709df?guccounter=1&guce_referrer=aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cuZ29vZ2xlLmNvbS8&guce_referrer_sig=AQAAABFevPPUteVy1HfK_cEWMIeMiByu8L3K9Gxm3t9SNGu9y7Rz3nGMSGyuxENVdFwTI7lYbtylgRBO760P6RxgG6BHiyxuPQ4dMICW4BsNwKf0tcY6BCUbjag3JQFDxXLf7raE3mWsjyozkmBFNpFZzDNKJBl4eA82v_oVeTYZYe22
    https://theawarenesscentre.com/narcissistic-parent/ https://recoveryhelpnow.com/breaking-the-cycle-of-parentification/
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  • It's 2021 and TNCC is back! For the first episode of 2021, we are talking about forgiveness. Should you forgive your narcissistic mother? If you want to send some feedback or just say hi, email us at thenocontactclub@gmail.com.  If you need support, please see the numbers below. 

    Black Lives Matter: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/ 

    NEW ZEALAND: 
    Lifeline: 0800 543354
    Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757 (Text 4202) 

    AUSTRALIA: 
    Lifeline Crisis Support: 13 11 14
    Beyond Blue: Depression and anxiety support: 1300 22 46 36
    Rape & Domestic Violence Services: 1800 737 732
    Men's Line: 1300 78 99 78
    Headspace: Youth Mental Health Foundation: see headspace.org.au for your local centre. 

    USA:  
    Distress & Lifeline: 1800 273 8255
    Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741 741
    Domestic Violence Helpline: 1800 799 7233
    Victim Connect: support for victims of crime: 855 484 2846
    MTC program: maketheconnection.net/resources/spread-the-word 

    UK: 
    Mind: mental health support: 0300 123 3393
    SANE: mental health support: 0300 304 7000
    Samaritans support network: 116 123
    National Stalking Helpline: 0808 802 0300 

    CANADA: 
    For a list of Canadian crisis centres: https://thelifelinecanada.ca/help/call/ 

    References: 

    https://medium.com/publishous/do-you-need-to-forgive-your-abuser-to-heal-faf20303be87  https://www.ashleyeaster.com/blog/forgiving-doesnt-mean  https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/why-i-dont-use-the-word-forgiveness-in-trauma-therapy-0120164  https://www.psychcentral.com/blog/good-daughter/2018/07/should-you-blame-or-forgive-your-narcissistic-difficult-mother https://ragingfemale.com/adult-child-of-a-narcissist/#:~:text=A%20narcissistic%20parent%20can%20twist,parents%20when%20you're%20young https://outofthefog.website/  https://theinvisiblescar.wordpress.com/--- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/tncc/message
  • This week Chloe and Porsha keep it lowkey and discuss 2020 - the rollercoaster that it has been, the lows, the highs, and the cats. If you want to send some feedback or just say hi, email us at thenocontactclub@gmail.com.  If you need support, please see the numbers below.  Black Lives Matter: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/  NEW ZEALAND:  Lifeline: 0800 543354 Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757 (Text 4202)  AUSTRALIA:  Lifeline Crisis Support: 13 11 14 Beyond Blue: Depression and anxiety support: 1300 22 46 36 Rape & Domestic Violence Services: 1800 737 732 Men's Line: 1300 78 99 78 Headspace: Youth Mental Health Foundation: see headspace.org.au for your local centre.  USA:   Distress & Lifeline: 1800 273 8255 Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741 741 Domestic Violence Helpline: 1800 799 7233 Victim Connect: support for victims of crime: 855 484 2846 MTC program: maketheconnection.net/resources/spread-the-word  UK:  Mind: mental health support: 0300 123 3393 SANE: mental health support: 0300 304 7000 Samaritans support network: 116 123 National Stalking Helpline: 0808 802 0300  CANADA:  For a list of Canadian crisis centres: https://thelifelinecanada.ca/help/call/

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  • This week Porsha and Chloe discuss tips for the approaching holiday season, whatever - you celebrate don't celebrate! They talk about options for those still in contact, and those who are no contact.
    If you want to send some feedback or just say hi, email us at thenocontactclub@gmail.com.  If you need support, please see the numbers below.
    Black Lives Matter: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/
    NEW ZEALAND: 
    Lifeline: 0800 543354
    Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757 (Text 4202)
    AUSTRALIA: 
    Lifeline Crisis Support: 13 11 14
    Beyond Blue: Depression and anxiety support: 1300 22 46 36
    Rape & Domestic Violence Services: 1800 737 732
    Men's Line: 1300 78 99 78
    Headspace: Youth Mental Health Foundation: see headspace.org.au for your local centre.
    USA:  
    Distress & Lifeline: 1800 273 8255
    Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741 741
    Domestic Violence Helpline: 1800 799 7233
    Victim Connect: support for victims of crime: 855 484 2846
    MTC program: maketheconnection.net/resources/spread-the-word
    UK: 
    Mind: mental health support: 0300 123 3393
    SANE: mental health support: 0300 304 7000
    Samaritans support network: 116 123
    National Stalking Helpline: 0808 802 0300
    CANADA: 
    For a list of Canadian crisis centres: https://thelifelinecanada.ca/help/call/
    References:

    https://esteemology.com/give-yourself-a-gift-this-holiday-season-a-lesson-in-no-contact/
    https://www.enotalone.com/forum/showthread.php?t=123773
    https://londoncentralcounselling.com/2017/12/05/going-no-contact-family-estrangement-at-christmas-and-other-major-holidays/
    https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/pathological-relationships/201011/triggers-and-knee-jerk-reactions-during-the-holidays
    https://www.soulfulfillinglove.com/how-to-follow-the-active-no-contact-rule-during-holidays/
    https://www.divorcemag.com/articles/why-do-narcissists-always-ruin-the-holidays-here-are-5-reasons
    https://www.health.com/relationships/how-to-deal-narcissist
    https://soulgps.medium.com/5-strategies-to-save-your-sanity-when-narcissists-try-to-sabotage-your-holidays-3d7d7dc7af27
    https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/here-there-and-everywhere/201911/how-deal-gaslighter-or-narcissist-during-the-holidays


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  • This week, Porsha and Chloe are joined by Ellen to discuss what it's like to come into a family with a narcissistic mother at the helm. They talk about normalising what shouldn't be normalised, and Ellen discusses her experiences coming into the family with Chloe and Porsha's narcissistic mother. If you want to send some feedback or just say hi, email us at thenocontactclub@gmail.com.  If you need support, please see the numbers below.  

    Black Lives Matter: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/    

    NEW ZEALAND: 
    Lifeline: 0800 543354
    Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757 (Text 4202)    

    AUSTRALIA: 
    Lifeline Crisis Support: 13 11 14
    Beyond Blue: Depression and anxiety support: 1300 22 46 36
    Rape & Domestic Violence Services: 1800 737 732
    Men's Line: 1300 78 99 78
    Headspace: Youth Mental Health Foundation: see headspace.org.au for your local centre.    

    USA:  
    Distress & Lifeline: 1800 273 8255
    Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741 741
    Domestic Violence Helpline: 1800 799 7233
    Victim Connect: support for victims of crime: 855 484 2846
    MTC program: maketheconnection.net/resources/spread-the-word    

    UK: 
    Mind: mental health support: 0300 123 3393
    SANE: mental health support: 0300 304 7000
    Samaritans support network: 116 123
    National Stalking Helpline: 0808 802 0300    

    CANADA: 
    For a list of Canadian crisis centres: https://thelifelinecanada.ca/help/call/  

    References: 

    https://www.insider.com/signs-of-narcissistic-toxic-parents-in-law-2019-9
    https://www.image.ie/life/everyone-thinks-narcissistic-mother-law-amazing-feel-alone-183158
    https://pro.psychcentral.com/exhausted-woman/2017/12/how-to-survive-a-narcissistic-mother-in-law/
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  • This week on the podcast, Chloe and Porsha discuss the idea of not believing what you experienced was abuse. They talk about the normalisation of abuse and hesitation to label it as such. If you want to send some feedback or just say hi, email us at thenocontactclub@gmail.com.  If you need support, please see the numbers below. 

    Black Lives Matter: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/  
    NEW ZEALAND: 
    Lifeline: 0800 543354
    Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757 (Text 4202)  
    AUSTRALIA: 
    Lifeline Crisis Support: 13 11 14
    Beyond Blue: Depression and anxiety support: 1300 22 46 36
    Rape & Domestic Violence Services: 1800 737 732
    Men's Line: 1300 78 99 78
    Headspace: Youth Mental Health Foundation: see headspace.org.au for your local centre.  
    USA:  
    Distress & Lifeline: 1800 273 8255
    Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741 741
    Domestic Violence Helpline: 1800 799 7233
    Victim Connect: support for victims of crime: 855 484 2846
    MTC program: maketheconnection.net/resources/spread-the-word  
    UK: 
    Mind: mental health support: 0300 123 3393
    SANE: mental health support: 0300 304 7000
    Samaritans support network: 116 123
    National Stalking Helpline: 0808 802 0300  
    CANADA:  For a list of Canadian crisis centres: https://thelifelinecanada.ca/help/call/
    References:


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  • This week Chloe and Porsha discuss therapy: what to look for in a therapist, where to look for one, and what the journey was like for them. If you want to send some feedback or just say hi, email us at thenocontactclub@gmail.com.  If you need support, please see the numbers below. 
    Black Lives Matter: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/ 
    NEW ZEALAND: 
    Lifeline: 0800 543354
    Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757 (Text 4202) 
    AUSTRALIA: 
    Lifeline Crisis Support: 13 11 14
    Beyond Blue: Depression and anxiety support: 1300 22 46 36
    Rape & Domestic Violence Services: 1800 737 732
    Men's Line: 1300 78 99 78
    Headspace: Youth Mental Health Foundation: see headspace.org.au for your local centre. 
    USA: 
    Distress & Lifeline: 1800 273 8255
    Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741 741
    Domestic Violence Helpline: 1800 799 7233
    Victim Connect: support for victims of crime: 855 484 2846
    MTC program: maketheconnection.net/resources/spread-the-word 
    UK: 
    Mind: mental health support: 0300 123 3393
    SANE: mental health support: 0300 304 7000
    Samaritans support network: 116 123 National Stalking Helpline: 0808 802 0300 
    CANADA: 
    For a list of Canadian crisis centres: https://thelifelinecanada.ca/help/call/
    References:




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  • This week, Chloe and Porsha answer a few emails from listeners before having a discussion about triggers.
    If you want to send some feedback or just say hi, email us at thenocontactclub@gmail.com.  If you need support, please see the numbers below.

    Black Lives Matter: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/
    NEW ZEALAND: 
    Lifeline: 0800 543354
    Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757 (Text 4202)
    AUSTRALIA: 
    Lifeline Crisis Support: 13 11 14
    Beyond Blue: Depression and anxiety support: 1300 22 46 36
    Rape & Domestic Violence Services: 1800 737 732
    Men's Line: 1300 78 99 78
    Headspace: Youth Mental Health Foundation: see headspace.org.au for your local centre.
    USA: 
    Distress & Lifeline: 1800 273 8255
    Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741 741
    Domestic Violence Helpline: 1800 799 7233
    Victim Connect: support for victims of crime: 855 484 2846
    MTC program: maketheconnection.net/resources/spread-the-word
    UK: 
    Mind: mental health support: 0300 123 3393
    SANE: mental health support: 0300 304 7000
    Samaritans support network: 116 123
    National Stalking Helpline: 0808 802 0300
    CANADA:  For a list of Canadian crisis centres: https://thelifelinecanada.ca/help/call/
    References:

    https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Trauma_trigger

    https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK207191/

    https://www.verywellmind.com/ptsd-triggers-and-coping-strategies-2797557

    https://www.bridgestorecovery.com/post-traumatic-stress-disorder/complex-ptsd-symptoms-behavior-and-treatment/



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  • This week, Chloe and Porsha are discussing codependency. If you want to send some feedback or just say hi, email us at thenocontactclub@gmail.com.  If you need support, please see the numbers below.

    Black Lives Matter: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/    

    NEW ZEALAND: 
    Lifeline: 0800 543354
    Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757 (Text 4202)    

    AUSTRALIA: 
    Lifeline Crisis Support: 13 11 14
    Beyond Blue: Depression and anxiety support: 1300 22 46 36
    Rape & Domestic Violence Services: 1800 737 732
    Men's Line: 1300 78 99 78
    Headspace: Youth Mental Health Foundation: see headspace.org.au for your local centre.    

    USA: 
    Distress & Lifeline: 1800 273 8255
    Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741 741
    Domestic Violence Helpline: 1800 799 7233
    Victim Connect: support for victims of crime: 855 484 2846
    MTC program: maketheconnection.net/resources/spread-the-word    

    UK: 
    Mind: mental health support: 0300 123 3393
    SANE: mental health support: 0300 304 7000
    Samaritans support network: 116 123
    National Stalking Helpline: 0808 802 0300    

    CANADA:  For a list of Canadian crisis centres: https://thelifelinecanada.ca/help/call/

    References:

    https://www.psychologytoday.com/nz/blog/toxic-relationships/201907/narcissists-are-codependent-too#:~:text=Codependency%20is%20a%20disorder%20of,identified%20with%20their%20ideal%20self.
    https://www.psychologytoday.com/nz/blog/toxic-relationships/201902/escaping-the-codependent-narcissist-trap
    https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/codependency-narcissism-may-have-more-in-common-than-you-think-0807187
    https://psychcentral.com/blog/the-dance-between-codependents-narcissists/
    https://www.whatiscodependency.com/narcissistic-relationships-with-narcissists/
    https://www.mentalhelp.net/blogs/the-relationship-between-narcissism-and-codependency/
    https://go.gale.com/ps/anonymous?id=GALE%7CA539922311&sid=googleScholar&v=2.1&it=r&linkaccess=abs&issn=15205495&p=AONE&sw=w
    Codependence, Narcissism, and Childhood Trauma by Harvey J. Irwin of the University of New England, Australia (accessed through the Open Polytechnic library).
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  • This week, Porsha and Chloe answer a listeners question on how to feel strong after going no contact with a narcissistic mother. They discuss coping mechanisms and ways to look after yourself. If you want to send some feedback or just say hi, email us at thenocontactclub@gmail.com.  If you need support, please see the numbers below.
    Black Lives Matter: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/   
    NEW ZEALAND: 
    Lifeline: 0800 543354
    Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757 (Text 4202)   
    AUSTRALIA: 
    Lifeline Crisis Support: 13 11 14
    Beyond Blue: Depression and anxiety support: 1300 22 46 36
    Rape & Domestic Violence Services: 1800 737 732
    Men's Line: 1300 78 99 78
    Headspace: Youth Mental Health Foundation: see headspace.org.au for your local centre.   
    USA: 
    Distress & Lifeline: 1800 273 8255
    Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741 741
    Domestic Violence Helpline: 1800 799 7233
    Victim Connect: support for victims of crime: 855 484 2846
    MTC program: maketheconnection.net/resources/spread-the-word   
    UK: 
    Mind: mental health support: 0300 123 3393
    SANE: mental health support: 0300 304 7000
    Samaritans support network: 116 123
    National Stalking Helpline: 0808 802 0300   
    CANADA: 
    For a list of Canadian crisis centres: https://thelifelinecanada.ca/help/call/

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  • This week, Porsha and Chloe are discussing the trauma bond - similar to Stockholm Syndrome, and tricky to identify.
    If you want to send some feedback or just say hi, email us at thenocontactclub@gmail.com.  If you need support, please see the numbers below.

    Black Lives Matter: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/  
    NEW ZEALAND: 
    Lifeline: 0800 543354
    Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757 (Text 4202)  
    AUSTRALIA: 
    Lifeline Crisis Support: 13 11 14
    Beyond Blue: Depression and anxiety support: 1300 22 46 36
    Rape & Domestic Violence Services: 1800 737 732
    Men's Line: 1300 78 99 78
    Headspace: Youth Mental Health Foundation: see headspace.org.au for your local centre.  
    USA: 
    Distress & Lifeline: 1800 273 8255
    Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741 741
    Domestic Violence Helpline: 1800 799 7233
    Victim Connect: support for victims of crime: 855 484 2846
    MTC program: maketheconnection.net/resources/spread-the-word  
    UK: 
    Mind: mental health support: 0300 123 3393
    SANE: mental health support: 0300 304 7000
    Samaritans support network: 116 123
    National Stalking Helpline: 0808 802 0300  
    CANADA: 
    For a list of Canadian crisis centres: https://thelifelinecanada.ca/help/call/
    References:

    https://psychcentral.com/blog/how-to-recognize-the-signs-of-trauma-bonding/

    https://www.psychologytoday.com/nz/blog/addiction-and-recovery/201905/trauma-bonding-codependency-and-narcissistic-abuse

    https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Traumatic_bonding

    https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/10-steps-to-recovering-from-toxic-trauma-bond-0110175

    https://psychcentral.com/lib/symptoms-of-codependency/



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  • It's a low-key kind of week this week as Chloe and Porsha have a conversation about controlling the narrative, paranoia, and waxing?!
    If you want to send some feedback or just say hi, email us at thenocontactclub@gmail.com.  If you need support, please see the numbers below.

    Black Lives Matter: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/ 
    NEW ZEALAND: 
    Lifeline: 0800 543354
    Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757 (Text 4202) 
    AUSTRALIA: 
    Lifeline Crisis Support: 13 11 14
    Beyond Blue: Depression and anxiety support: 1300 22 46 36
    Rape & Domestic Violence Services: 1800 737 732
    Men's Line: 1300 78 99 78
    Headspace: Youth Mental Health Foundation: see headspace.org.au for your local centre. 
    USA: 
    Distress & Lifeline: 1800 273 8255
    Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741 741
    Domestic Violence Helpline: 1800 799 7233
    Victim Connect: support for victims of crime: 855 484 2846
    MTC program: maketheconnection.net/resources/spread-the-word 
    UK: 
    Mind: mental health support: 0300 123 3393
    SANE: mental health support: 0300 304 7000
    Samaritans support network: 116 123
    National Stalking Helpline: 0808 802 0300 
    CANADA: 
    For a list of Canadian crisis centres: https://thelifelinecanada.ca/help/call/

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  • Welcome back to The No Contact Club. This week, Chloe and Porsha discuss the topic of hoovering - the final aspect of the narcissist's cycle - and what it looks like. 
    If you want to send some feedback or just say hi, email us at thenocontactclub@gmail.com.  If you need support, please see the numbers below.
    Black Lives Matter: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/
    NEW ZEALAND:  Lifeline: 0800 543354 Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757 (Text 4202)
    AUSTRALIA:  Lifeline Crisis Support: 13 11 14 Beyond Blue: Depression and anxiety support: 1300 22 46 36 Rape & Domestic Violence Services: 1800 737 732 Men's Line: 1300 78 99 78 Headspace: Youth Mental Health Foundation: see headspace.org.au for your local centre.
    USA:  Distress & Lifeline: 1800 273 8255 Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741 741 Domestic Violence Helpline: 1800 799 7233 Victim Connect: support for victims of crime: 855 484 2846 MTC program: maketheconnection.net/resources/spread-the-word
    UK:  Mind: mental health support: 0300 123 3393 SANE: mental health support: 0300 304 7000 Samaritans support network: 116 123 National Stalking Helpline: 0808 802 0300
    CANADA:  For a list of Canadian crisis centres: https://thelifelinecanada.ca/help/call/
    References:

    https://www.healthline.com/health/hoovering#:~:text=While%20easy%20to%20confuse%20with,a%20past%20history%20of%20toxicity.
    https://blogs.psychcentral.com/relationships/2019/02/5-reasons-a-narcissist-engages-in-hoovering/
    https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/hoover-maneuver-the-dirty-secret-of-emotional-abuse-0219154
    https://medium.com/@OwnYourReality/hoovering-how-narcissists-try-to-suck-you-back-in-fe46bc380c2c


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  • This week, Porsha and Chloe discuss a further aspect to the narcissist's cycle: the discard.

    If you want to send some feedback or just say hi, email us at thenocontactclub@gmail.com.  If you need support, please see the numbers below.  

    Black Lives Matter: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/   

    NEW ZEALAND: 
    Lifeline: 0800 543354
    Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757 (Text 4202)   

    AUSTRALIA: 
    Lifeline Crisis Support: 13 11 14
    Beyond Blue: Depression and anxiety support: 1300 22 46 36
    Rape & Domestic Violence Services: 1800 737 732
    Men's Line: 1300 78 99 78
    Headspace: Youth Mental Health Foundation: see headspace.org.au for your local centre.    

    USA: 
    Distress & Lifeline: 1800 273 8255
    Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741 741
    Domestic Violence Helpline: 1800 799 7233
    Victim Connect: support for victims of crime: 855 484 2846
    MTC program: maketheconnection.net/resources/spread-the-word    

    UK: 
    Mind: mental health support: 0300 123 3393
    SANE: mental health support: 0300 304 7000
    Samaritans support network: 116 123
    National Stalking Helpline: 0808 802 0300    

    CANADA: 
    For a list of Canadian crisis centres: https://thelifelinecanada.ca/help/call/ 

    References:

    https://www.insider.com/phrases-narcissists-use-2018-8#:~:text=The%20discard%20phase,found%20someone%20new%20to%20abuse.
    https://narcwise.com/2019/02/15/signs-narcissist-preparing-discard/
    https://www.businessinsider.com/whether-a-narcissist-discards-someone-permanently-depends-on-3-factors-2017-11?IR=T
    https://narcissistabusesupport.com/narcissist-discard-phase-revenge-peace/
    https://medium.com/narcissistic-abuse-rehab/why-do-narcissists-discard-their-own-children-f05d10006a2
    https://blogs.psychcentral.com/recovering-narcissist/2019/04/5-manipulation-tactics-narcissistic-parents-use-to-control-their-adult-children/
    https://beentheregotout.com/breaking-up-and-the-discard-how-a-narcissist-acts-at-the-end-of-a-relationship/?gclid=CjwKCAjwps75BRAcEiwAEiACMY3DpHZWiXjk7wdzFGNFKMbtUOejDgxF9iKkcPqnt_E4HHH0taTUpRoCPVwQAvD_BwE
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