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Many of us grow up wondering who we will fall in love with and marry and the children we may have. But nobody grows up dreaming about having a smooth divorce, parenting alone, having a slick divorce attorney, fleeing an abusive marriage, being a step parent or sharing your kids with your ex's new spouse. This is a far cry from what we envision for ourselves when we are young. For some this is your reality, For others, their inevitable futures.
Many things can happen before, during and after divorce. For a small few, it's amicable; co-parenting works and you can both agree you weren't met to be married, but can be friends. For the rest, divorce and what comes after it is not just riddled with complexities, challenges and heartbreak, but in some cases, presents new ways your ex can abuse you (and in some cases, your kids as well).
In today's episode, host Jennie, is joined by world leading Divorce Coach and Author Sara Davison. She is a global media commentator on breakups, divorce and domestic abuse. Sara launched Breakup and Divorce Coach Practitioner Accreditation Programmes in 2018 and has founded the International Divorce Coach Centre of Excellence, which now has a coaching community of over 600 coaches spanning across 26 countries and 5 continents.
The inspiration behind Sara finding her niche in Divorce Coaching, is her own divorce and the trauma that ensued. Sara has turned her tumultuous experience with her own divorce into supporting thousands of others through theirs and equipping them with the tools to not just survive leaving their high conflict ex, but thrive.
Sara and Jennie speak candidly about the harsh realities of the family court system, and what to expect from your "high conflict"/abusive ex's behaviour before, during and after divorce. If you or someone you know are about to embark on the battle of your life, this episode is a must listen!
You can find Sara Davison on:
Website: Homepage – Sara Davison
Instagram: @saradavisondivorcecoach
Podcast: Heartbreak to Happiness Heartbreak to Happiness Podcast Series – Apple Podcasts
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Trigger Warning
1 in 10 children in the UK experience sexual abuse.*500,000 children are estimated to be sexually abused in any given year in the UK***National Crime Agency**Centre of Expertise on Child Sexual AbuseThis weeks episode, host Jennie is joined by Jeremy Indika. Jeremy Indika is a survivor of childhood sexual abuse. His abuse started at age 8. His abuser was a trusted 35 year old male family friend, more specifically, his fathers friend and colleague. Like most paedophiles, Jeremy's abuser hid in plain sight in a profession that provided him access, and that deemed him caring and trustworthy; a nurse at the hospital his father worked in as a doctor. Jeremy was 27 years old when he finally came to terms with his childhood sexual abuse and trauma. And he decided to turn his trauma into something positive. He is a very active Child Abuse Prevention Advocate and is the Founder of 'Something to Say'.
Not only does Jeremy share his story on this weeks episode, but Jennie and Jeremy, have a very real, very honest and open (and uncomfortable) conversation about many of the contributing factors that increase your child's exposure and risk to being sexually abused/exploited, including internet access, device use, social circle engagement. They also dive into the role mainstream pornography has taken in increasing the instances of paedophilia and sexual abuse, and our responsibilities as parents and a collective society to mitigate the risks to our kids.
With the statics and instances of child sexual abuse on the rise, we have a duty of care to be talking openly about this. Saying it out loud is the first step in tackling and eradicating this (or at the very least, stopping the rise, in its tracks). It's ugly and it's uncomfortable, but we must have the bravery and courage to call this increasing issue out...our children's lives depend on it.
You can find Jeremy Indika on Instragram:
@jeremyindika
@somethingtosayofficial
You can follow the Why Are We Whispering? podcast on Instagram:
@whywhisperpodcast
You can follow the making of the docu-series 'Why Are We Whispering?: The Whole Story' on Instagram:
@whywhisperthewholestory
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1 in 8 men get prostate cancer.144 men are diagnosed with prostate cancer every day.500,000 men are living with prostate cancer as you are reading this. Every HOUR a man dies from prostate cancer. If you are over 50 yrs old, or you're black, or your brother or father had it, your risk of getting prostate cancer goes up significantly.
In honour of Men's Health Week, joining host Jennie is Celebrity Chef and author, Cryus Todiwala OBE MBE. He is s well known London based Restauranteur and Her Majesty the Queen was a VERY big fan of his cooking, which he did a lot of during her Diamond Jubilee Tour. Cyrus is also a regular on TV shows Saturday Kitchen, Daybreak and on BBC Radio 4.
Cyrus also has Stage 4 Prostate Cancer.
On today's episode, Cyrus and Jennie talk honestly about how a cancer diagnosis affects men's mental health, and the impact on the family dynamic. Cyrus shares his cancer journey and what symptoms lead to his ultimate diagnosis and encourages ALL men to test regularly and listen to their bodies.
If you or someone you love has been diagnosed with prostate cancer, reach our to Prostate Cancer UK for guidance and support: Prostate Cancer UK | Prostate Cancer UK
Follow Prostate Cancer UK on Instagram: @prostatecanceruk
Follow Why Are We Whispering? on Instagram @whywhisperpodcast
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What do you see when you hear the word ' POVERTY'? A war torn country? Starving, unclothed children on the other side of the world?
In Manchester, UK alone, nearly half of children under 15 years old are living in poverty. Read that again.
We need to really look no further than our next door neighbours to see what poverty looks like and means here in the UK. And most of us have no idea that this a very real reality. We're not talking about kids whose parents can't afford the latest NIKE trainer or summer holiday. We're talking about parents who have to make the decision between feeding their kids at all, or keeping the heating on. Some of the families living in poverty, are generational; passing down substance abuse issues and, general parental neglect, where physical/sexual/emotional abuse is a large part of their family dynamics. But some are people who fell on hard times, in a challenging economy, and simply can't fight their way out without the support of others.
Regardless, of how poverty entered into their lives, we cannot ignore that half of children in Manchester alone, are falling through the proverbial cracks. And without the support of organizations such as 'Manchester Youth Zone' and people like our guest today, Heather Etheridge, they will be lost in the ether. On this weeks episode, host Jennie and guest Heather Etheridge, CEO of Manchester Youth Zone, talk about what poverty today actually looks like in the UK; how it it impacts the children in its clutches, the families and the community, long term. Heather candidly talks about her own experiences growing up in a household of abuse and neglect and her own struggles that resulted, and how it connects her to the kids of and her work at MYZ. The work she is doing and the spaces that MYZ are providing to these kids and their families, are not just paramount to their development, but to their SURVIVAL.
You can follow Manchester Youth Zone on Instagram: @manchesteryouthzone
You can DONATE (personally or corporately), Volunteer or learn more about Manchester Youth Zone here: Home - Manchester Youth Zone (manchesteryz.org)
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When you leave an ex or a marriage that is toxic and abusive, your hell doesn't come to an end if you share children. The next leg of that journey is just beginning. If your ex is toxic, that's one thing, but if you're navigating parenting with someone who also has personality disorders ie: clinical narcissism, borderline personality disorder, etc, it truly is a soul destroying combination. BUT it's not hopeless. There are tools, tricks and, as today's guest describes them, "rules", you can follow to help mitigate some of the negative implications of that ex's behaviour on you and your children. Melissa Porter is the author of 'Mastering the Single Parent Game' and is a qualified Counsellor and Life Coach. After the ending of her marriage and through her experience navigating the dark waters of parallel parenting with a toxic ex, she found her new purpose in helping others through this shared experience. Her book is concise and to the point! And that is exactly how the conversation goes between Melissa and host Jennie on today's episode! We dive into not just tools and rules on parallel/single parenting, but also what to expect from the family court system and the friends and foes around you. If you are thinking about divorce, going through it or coming out the other side and in the throws of co/parallel parenting, this episode is a MUST listen!
You can buy 'Mastering the Single Parent Game on Amazon: Mastering the Single Parent Game: Amazon.co.uk: Porter, Melissa: 9781738490417: Books
You can find Melissa Porter on her website: Melissa Porter - Writer, Property Developer #MelissaPorter #writer #propertydevelopment #porterandsmurfit # (melissa-porter.com)
You can follow 'Why Are We Whispering?' on Instagram: @whywhisperpodcast
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Belonging, fitting in, being liked and frenemies. These are the trappings of many girls/women social and friendship groups not just in childhood, but well into adulthood as well. And for many, as you enter parenthood, also the dynamics at the school gates with other parents. This weeks episode, host Jennie, is joined by Comedian, Actor and Writer, Kate-Lois Elliott. Drawing upon her own mothers' experience growing up in a Christian Cult, Kate-Lois identified some glaring similarities between her mums experience in a cult and navigating female friendships from childhood through to adulthood and has channelled that into her comedy acts. Jennie and Kate-Lois talk about how these kinds of group dynamics, specifically amongst girls/women, are toxic and detrimental...but also find the humour in the ridiculousness of it all.
You can find Kate-Lois Elliott here: Comedian Writer Actress | Kate Lois Elliott | UK
You can buy tickets to Kate-Lois @ Fringe Festival here: Kate-Lois Elliott: How to Belong Without Joining a Cult | Comedy | Edinburgh Festival Fringe (edfringe.com)
You can listen to Kate-Lois on the Diversify Podcast here: Diversify on Apple Podcasts
Follow the 'Why Are We Whispering? Podcast on Instagram @whywhisperpodcast
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Today's episode, host Jennie brings two worlds together that wouldn't normally be associated; novel writing and the realities of domestic abuse and coercive control. #1 best selling author Sarah Pearse (The Retreat, Sanatorium and The Wilds) and Sarah Berry-Valentine from Refuge Charity (domestic violence safe haven), came together to develop some of the characters in Sarah's latest novel, 'The Wilds' and the toxic and abusive relationship dynamics between them. Refuge supported Sarah to ensure that the behaviours, psychology and tactics associated with partners and parents who practice coercive control abuse was accurately depicted.
1 in 4 women will experience domestic violence in their lifetime2 women are killed every week by a partner in England/WalesEvery 30 seconds, the police are called to a domestic abuse situation
Unsure if you or someone you love are in an abusive situation? Here are the SIGNS:
Types of domestic abuse:Psychological/emotional abuse: Includes name-calling, threats and manipulation, blaming you for the abuse or ‘gaslighting’ you.Coercive control: When an abuser uses a pattern of behaviour over time to exert power and control. It is a criminal offence.Physical abuse: This isn’t only hitting. He might restrain you or throw objects. He might pinch or shove you and claim it’s a ‘joke’.Tech abuse: He might send abusive texts, demand access to your devices, track you with spyware, or share images of you online.Economic abuse: Controlling your access to money or resources. He might take your wages, stop you working, or put you in debt without your knowledge or consentSexual abuse: This doesn’t have to be physical. He might manipulate, deceive or coerce you into doing things you don’t want to do.
Here's a list of questions to help you begin to spot the signs of an abusive partner:
Is your partner jealous and possessive?Is he charming one minute and abusive the next?Does he tell you what to wear, where to go, who to see?Does he constantly put you down?Does he play mind games and make you doubt your judgement?Does he control your money, or make sure you are dependent on him for everyday things?Does he pressure you to have sex when you don’t want to?Are you starting to walk on eggshells to avoid making him angry?Does he control your access to medicine, devices or care that you need?Does he monitor or track your movements or messages?Does he use anger and intimidation to frighten and control you?If you answered yes to any of the above questions, then you may be experiencing domestic abuse. You can learn more about author Sarah Pearse here: The Retreat – By Sarah Pearse – Order NowYou can learn more about Refuge Charity and seek help here: Refuge, the largest UK domestic abuse organisation for womenHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Many of us grow up in a household where organised religion was/is practiced. I grew up Catholic; studied and did all of my sacraments, church on Sunday and holidays, and even went to Catholic Primary and High School. But it never really connected with me. Or, I never connected to it. Regardless of what religions or faiths any of us follow or practice, most of us can agree on one thing, and that is that there is something greater than ourselves at play. On today's episode, host Jennie, is joined by Sunday Times best selling author, TV Presenter and Psychic Medium, TJ Higgs. They talk about what it means to be connected to the other side, how TJ connects and interact with souls and spirit, signs and symbols from our loved ones no longer here and our relationship with death and grief. There are many ways to do and experience this life. And whilst many may discount and reject the validity of mediumship, clairvoyance and psychic ability, an open mind and heart should always be kept with matters of spirituality and connectivity... if you're closed off, you may miss the signs and symbols around you and guiding you.
You can follow TJ Higgs on Instagram @tjhiggs.medium
You can also find her on her website: www.tjhiggs.com
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Trigger Warning: Child Sexual Abuse and Rape
The Rochdale Paedophile Gangs made headlines across the UK. There were even a couple of TV dramatizations made, one of which being 'Three Girls'. None of these horrors would have come to light had it not been for one woman - Maggie Oliver. Maggie saved and continues to save thousands of children across the UK from organised paedophile gangs. Child rapists, who are known to police, but many of whom remain walking the streets and preying on children. On today's episode, host Jennie is joined by the courageous Maggie Oliver. She's a former police detective turned whistle blower. During Maggie's time in the police, she uncovered countless cases of paedophile gangs who were systemically targeting and raping children across the UK. Disturbingly, most of these horrific cases were covered up and buried by the police and judicial system in the UK. In order to save these children and future victims, Maggie had to quit her job in the police to blow the whistle on the corruption and neglect within the UKs police force. Maggie tells her story and shines a very bright light on the darkest and dingiest corners of the UK's "law enforcement" system.
If you or someone you know is a victim of child sexual abuse, you can contact the Maggie Oliver Foundation for support: The Maggie Oliver Foundation - Helping Survivors of Abuse
Maggie's book, ' Survivors: One Brave Detective's Battle to Expose the Rochdale Child Abuse Scandal' is also available on Amazon.
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In today's episode, host Jennie, is joined by American Actress and Playwright, June Carryl. They are tackling the very real issue of racism. Specifically, covert racism that runs deep through the foundations of our social and judicial systems, and even Hollywood. June has been an actress for many years and has been in many hit TV Shows and Films, such as Mindhunter, Dead to Me, Shameless and Helstrom. She is also a critically acclaimed Playwright and is currently in the UK with her play 'Blue', which is playing at the Seven Dials Playhouse in London until 30th March 2024. This is a very timely episode, as 'Blue' is an intense depiction of the complexities of race and justice. June knew it was time to tell the story of racial injustice within law enforcement, when George Floyd was murdered and the Capital Riots took place. When we stay silent, we stay stuck. Our silence also validates wrong doings...whether we mean it to or not. Change can only happen first through saying it out loud. SO....let's talk.
You can buy tickets to 'Blue' here:
Blue at Seven Dials Playhouse
You can follow on Instragram @junecarryl
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Today's episode is a special edition International Women's Day episode. Host Jennie Guay was invited by PinkLink to host this weeks podcast LIVE in front of IWD attendees. Jennie was joined by former guests, rape survivor Abi and Sex and Relationship coach Carla Crivalo. They continue their discussions from their previous episodes: Rape Reporting in the UK and Regaining Your Sexual Identity Post Sexual Trauma. Whilst a shorter time frame for discussion, the women drilled down into some very poignant points and address some very real and raw issues affecting women all over the UK and globally.
Thank you PinkLink for inviting 'Why Are We Whispering?' and supporting our message.
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Approximately 6,000 people commit suicide each year in the UK. That's 115 people each week. Whilst women are more likely to attempt suicide, or be diagnosed with a mental health condition, 74% of all suicides in the UK are by men. The rate of suicide in men is over 3x higher than women in the UK, and is the second biggest cause of death in young men. Joining host, Jennie, on today's episode, is Tess. She is a Health and Fitness coach and owner of 'Better Than Fit'. She has won countless fitness and powerlifting awards and is also a qualifier in the Worlds'. Whilst physical health is at the core of who Tess is, she has been deeply affected by the mental health challenges of loved ones around her. Unfortunately, Tess has lost her Father and several loved ones to suicide. Channelling her grief, pain and anguish around the loss of her father to suicide, Tess has launched MenTalk312 which is a challenge she is embarking on to raise awareness for men's suicide and mental health. Tess and Jennie talk very openly about Tess' experience with suicide, even her own thoughts around it. It's an emotional and raw episode which we hope sparks more people to talk honestly about their feelings and mental health challenges. Prevention all starts with a conversation...none of us are truly alone...so let's stop whispering.
If you are experiencing suicidal thoughts or challenges please contact Samaritans UK:
call: 116 123
text: SHOUT to 85258
website: www.samaritans.org
You can follow Tess on Instagram:
@mentalk.312
@betterthan.fit
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Women have 4x less orgasms than men. 40% of women say they've never or rarely achieve orgasm vs only 12% of men. Approximately half of women in the UK have faked their orgasm so not to hurt their partners feelings. On today's episode, Sex and Relationship expert Carl Crivaro and host Jennie are talking about orgasms...specifically women having (or in many cases, NOT having) orgasms. We're talking about why there is such a vast orgasm gap between men and women, what role men play in the orgasm disparity, and exploring ways women can start focusing on their own pleasure.
Carla Crivaro is a Sex, Love & Relationship Coach. She helps men and women who feel insecure and unsatisfied in the bedroom to feel more desirable and confident in their sex lives. She supports individuals and couples who feel lonely and unheard in their relationship to experience greater physical and emotional connection and intimacy with their partner. She does this by creating a brave space for people to learn more about their unconscious patterns and behaviours so they can get the delicious sex, profound love and authentic relationship they desire.
Carla is now bringing her work into businesses for talks and workshops on: Boundaries; Consent; Healthy Relationships; Healthy Communication; Understanding Men, Masculinity & the Glass Ceiling; Female Sexual Empowerment; Judgements, Discrimination & Prejudice - Introducing Shadow Work.
www.carlacrivaro.com
https://www.linkedin.com/in/carla-crivaro-6605511a8
@the.sexuality.sanctuary
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As parents, all we want is for our kids to be happy and healthy. To feel understood and to also understand themselves; their thoughts, feelings, and even their own behaviour. So when your child is struggling at school, with friends (or maybe struggling to make friends), with regulating their emotions and behaviours or perhaps with anxiety and even depression, it is heart breaking as a parent. It can leave you feeling lost, stressed, guilty and maybe even shame. In these situations, it's not just the child that needs support and tools - it's the parents, teachers and family as well. Children with mental health challenges is at an all time high...with 5 kids per average classroom struggling with their mental health. That's 1 in 6 kids. And these numbers are on the rise and something needs to be done. Laura Earnshaw is the Founder and CEO of myHappymind. Her programme is designed for Parents/Families and Schools and equips kids with tools to build resilience, understand their brain functions and manage their emotions and behaviours. Laura believes prevention is key to helping our children and her programme does exactly. myHappyMind is backed by the NHS and is currently in 1500 schools across the UK. In today's episode, Laura and Jennie dive into the realities of the Mental Health crisis facing our kids today, as well as what to look out for in your own kids (indicating factors) and how we can begin to start providing our kids with solutions and also preventive tools and measures. Mental Health is nothing to be embarrassed or ashamed about. We openly talk about physical health without fear of stigma or judgement; we need to apply the same to our Mental Health and well being...especially for our kids. Their futures depend on it.
You can learn more about Laura's programme for your school or home here: Home - myHappymind
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As we begin the New Year, many of us will have set new goals and resolutions. Alcohol, may be on that list. Or maybe it's not. So many of us have a negative relationship with alcohol. Or, at one time or another have felt that maybe our relationship with alcohol could be better. For some, perhaps you've danced with the idea that you could be alcoholic, but to even begin tackling that seems like the impossible hurdle that you aren't equipped to tackle. With alcohol habits costing the UK $ 52 billion and the US $ 250 billion, it's not a topic that any of us should shy away from. Ruari Fairbairns is the Founder and CEO of 'One Year No Beer' (OYNB). He is passionate about healthy living and has helped hundreds of thousands of people across the world change their relationship with alcohol and uncover the best versions of themselves. He's been awarded 'Great British Entrepreneur of the Year' in 2020 and OYNB was named 'Innovator of the Year' in the UK. He joins, host Jennie in tackling the hard, and for some, painful, conversation on the realities of alcohol consumption and how anyone can change their negative relationship with it.... but it starts with uncomfortable honesty.
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We all live on devices. Our banking, social connection, shopping, careers, work etc are mostly done online. We are now in an age where children are ALSO on devices. Increasingly, parents are allowing their kids access to the same internet, apps and games that we, as adults, have access to. This is dangerous and having a negative impact on our children's emotional, sexual and psychological development. In the UK, 44% of kids by the age of 9 have a phone. That number rises to 91% of kids by the age of 11 (according to BBC study). I want to know WHY a child needs a phone with internet access? According to another recent study, 90% of kids between the ages of 8-16 have and will see online porn. Since lockdown, there has been a 70% increase in kids online bullying and spreading hate speech. The very real dangers and negative outcomes of providing our children with phones, ipads and online access are showing, not just in the statistics, but in our kids. And many of us aren't taking this seriously enough. With the help of IT expert, James Donnan, host Jennie and James have a raw conversation about the very real dangers of kids having unmonitored and unrestricted access through devices, apps and games.
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Every 90 seconds someone in the UK is diagnosed with Cancer. And it's estimated that there are currently 3 million people living with cancer in the UK...these numbers are rising. Everyone's cancer journey is unique, and on today's episode, sought after UK stylist Stephanie Crawshay-Ralston and mother of 3, shares her unique cancer experience as she currently battles it. We discuss the array of emotions that she went through from diagnosis to today, her treatment options, how her diagnosis has affected her family and also rid her of dead weight "friends", and some of the ways she is channelling her new normal through partnerships with clothing brands such as Sweaty Betty. Cancer affects us all. Whether you yourself are battling it, you've survived it, someone you love is battling it or you've lost loved ones to cancer, this episode brings a real voice to it. None of us are alone in it.
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There are about 15.5 million women who are currently perimenopausal and menopausal in the UK. That's approximately a third of the entire UK population. That's a huge portion of us. And yet, most of us don't know what all of the symptoms are, what it is or how to navigate it with minimal discomfort. Did you know there are 48 symptoms?! Heather Jackson is the CoFounder of GenM, which is the menopause partner for brands. She is a regular contributor to CNN, BBC, Sky News and The Times and she joins host Jennie Guay on today's episode. With passion and candour, Heather and Jennie dive into what women should know about perimenopause, how to identify the early signs and the ways in which they can not just get through menopause, BUT have a great menopause! Ageing is a privilege not something to be ashamed and embarrassed of. We need to reframe the way we speak about it, approach it and live it - because were all going to go through it..... if we're lucky! So, preparation is not a nice to do, but a need to do. Take notes!
You can learn more about GenM and how to have a great menopause here:
GenM | The Menopause Partner for Brands (gen-m.com)
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As a parent raising a little boy, I often find myself troubled and perplexed by some of the behaviours, expectations and messaging that surrounds our boys. Through TV, music, imagery, online games and the school playground, our boys are bombarded with the message that "Feminine" is an "F" word and is a part of them that shouldn't be addressed, let alone explored and encouraged. Whether man or woman, boy or girl, we are ALL made up of both masculine and feminine traits and energies. This is a FACT. Yet, we live in a culture of toxic masculinity, where boys are encouraged to pursue football over arts, and emotional repression over communication. In this episode, host Jennie Guay is joined by renown UK artist, illustrator and designer, Justin Eagleton. He's a man who embraces his Feminine, in a world that never encouraged it, and has made a successful career out of embracing his emotions and feelings and communicating them through murals, portraits and creative design. In this episode, Jennie and Justin, discuss the ways we are failing our boys and hindering their emotional and psychological development, by muzzling their feminine.
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Trigger Warning: This episode is about rape, surviving rape
1 in 4 women have been raped in the UK
1 in 18 men have been raped in the UK
5 in 6 women that are raped DONT report it
4 in 5 men that are raped DONT report it
Only 2 in 100 rapes that are actually reported by police result in a charge - let alone a conviction.
*Rape Crisis Centre UK
This episode is a true story. Abbey gives a step by step account of surviving her rape and how she was retraumatised through the UK reporting process when she had the courage to report it immediately after it took place; first by the police, then the reporting process itself and finally by the very courts that are suppose to deliver justice.
Shockingly and rather disturbingly, Abbey was not given the grace and opportunity to read her Victim Impact Statement in front of her rapist and his family; something she needed and wanted to do publicly in order to attain some semblance of justice in an unjust world and system. And, more importantly, show her rapist that he did not take her power that night in 2018, that she wont ALLOW him to hide and that she will use her legs to stand strong and her voice to affirm her power and renounce his humanity. Abbeys Victim Impact Statement is read at the 34:39 mark to 45:16 mark.
Following Abbey sharing her story, from the 45:16 mark in the episode, Abbey, and host Jennie Guay, have a raw and open conversation about what happens after you are raped in the UK; unpacking the UKs legal system and reporting process, the misogyny it is founded and rooted in, how and why so many men are raping and sexually abusing women ( and it is men, with 98% of all reported rapes being committed by men in the UK). Where are our male allies? What is the role that women play in all of this?
It was an honour to speak to Abbey on todays episode, and a privilege that she chose 'Why Are We Whispering?" to share her story. We applaud you Abbey and celebrate your strength, courage and ultimate resilience. Your story is going to give a voice to millions of women ( and men) who share a version of your story.
If you are someone you know has been raped or sexually assaulted, we encourage you to report to police and to get support through organizations like the Rape Crisis Centre UK. You can find your local centre here: Rape Crisis England & Wales
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