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If you find it difficult to switch off from work, you're not able to relax and wind down fully after work, then you are 'on'. And when you're always on, it's bad for you but great for your place and I want to help you stop this. In this episode I explain why certain workplaces think allowing you to think is dangerous. And what are the tell tale signs of this happening to you. As usual I talk about my own experiences and give you tips to help start the process of how to think yourself out of stress. Let me know if this is true for you or if you have a strategy that really helps you not over give, then contact me at make me fearless.com / contact. I would love to hear more.
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Have you ever over given and didn't want to? Do your family and friends tell you you're working too hard but you ignore them? People pleasing or being an over giver on the surface seems like you're just a nice person willing to put yourself out for others, but have you noticed what happens when you try and pull back and not give too much? You start to feel guilt. Well guilt is normal for an over giver but have you ever wondered why you can't say no or you won't focus on what you want, why you keep over giving? That's what I discuss in this episode it nearly drove me to burnout- again - and i want to stop you going down the same path with what I reveal in this episode
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Zijn er afleveringen die ontbreken?
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There is an underlying belief that dictates all of our behaviour the good and the 'bad' and so when it comes to people pleasing you might think you're just being nice, or helpful or kind, but if being nice or kind or helpful is to your detriment, worse other people are using it to get you to give more, then that belief is keeping you trapped into people pleasing. In this episode I talk about how two tiny words got me doing anything others wanted and why I simply couldn't say no.
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Do you know why you do what you don't want to do? And you you know how others can always get you to do what they want you to do? Guilt is one of those emotions that makes us all feel bad and most of us will do anything to not feel guilt. In this episode I talk about the sneaky tactics guilt trippers can and will use against you , especially if you're an over giver or people pleaser. Once you know the secrets to their success you can be immune to their tricks. Go to make me fearless.com/contact with any questions .
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What's the first thing you do if you're working in a toxic environment? Well it's not to leave! This and other nuggets of wisdom are shared when Dr Nicky Priaulx interviewed me for her Great Untangle show. We talk all thigs boundary setting, whether you should push through fear and my favourite topic, people pleasing and why this is stuck a challenging thing to change. I loved being interviewed I never knew I knew so much and had such views on things. You will get so much out of this episode. So pull up your favourite chair or plug in your trusty headphones and listen as Dr Nicky and I help you untangle your work life. To fid out more about Dr Nicky go here : https://www.linkedin.com/in/nickypriaulx/ To see the video version of this interview go to her youtube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/@thegreatuntangle
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If you think that you being a giver, trying to save people from their pain, AKA being a people pleaser at work is kindness - then you're wrong- it's only about fear, the fear of being rejected, not loved, not liked, and any other fear you can think of. So in this episode I make my case for why you need to stop people pleasing with one tiny action and the consequence if you don't. You do not have to keep giving just to be liked, there is another way and this episode shows you how.
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Are you secretly waiting for people to change? How's that working out for you. Just like you I thought that if I was going to be happy then other people would need to change their behaviour first. And the longer I lived with that belief the more miserable and frustrated I got. So in this podcast I tell you why you should stop waiting for people to change and how you can still work around them and yet be more empowered.
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Why Toxic Bosses, colleagues, and family members love people pleasers and how to break free from it. Have you ever had your giving nature used against you, and you knew they were 'using' you but you couldn't stop it? I have and so in this episode I share what toxic people do to get you to always give and they always take.
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As a recovering people pleaser, I've had my fair share of people taking advantage of my giving nature. In this episode I share how I finally being able to say no without any guilt, any thinking around it and without thinking less of myself. All my usual triggers did not fire and I share how and why and what you can do to be like this too.
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If you find that you are over giving, and you can't say no at least you feel bad when you do, then you're in a people pleasing cycle. In this episode I share with you how to tell if you are a people pleaser or have people pleasing tendencies, and why you find it difficult to say no and what to do about it. As I share the story of a friend who is a chronic people pleaser and why he is always taken for granted. He does the one thing that all people pleasers do- and you might too. In the end follow my three steps to break the people pleasing cycle.
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If you said no to someone's request but they made you 'pay' because they didn't like you saying no, would you say no again? Chances are you wouldn't not if you're a recovering or even a full blown people pleaser. But what if you could say no and it didn't bother you that the other person was upset with you because you were in the right for saying no and now you don't feel guilty about it, would you say no then? If you said yes then follow my three steps and learn what it takes to say no without guilt. Any questions you can contact me here: https://makemefearless.com/contact/
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Whose responsibility is it for your happiness? What about if you're married and your partner is not keeping to their end of the bargain? In this episode I talk about my dip into powerless behaviour and how a friends marriage can teach us what it means to be powerless and what we should do to be more empowered. Marriage and relationships are never simple but when your happiness is on the line what are you prepared to do, or not do?
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If you want to get better at something and be more successful, should you focus on your strengths or your weaknesses? I was taught years ago to focus on my weaknesses as this was the sure route to success- NO it's not. So in this podcast share my reasons why you should just focus on your strengths except in one particular case and then yes, it's necessary to focus on your weak areas. Got an opinion on this then share it with me. https://makemefearless.com/contact/
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Are you constantly saying yes when you want to say no? Do you feel guilty if you can't help someone? And worst still do you get taken for granted and overlooked? If so you're like how I was a people pleaser, only I was a chronic people pleaser, now I would say I'm in recovery. Over the years I've used my Mindset Recalibration Method to redress that imbalance, and today I share 15 things that destroy a recovering people pleaser's progress. This episode is a must if you want to figure out what you're actually doing and why, and more importantly what to work on first. Need any help or support in this, then contact mehttps://makemefearless.com/contact/ - let's eradicate people pleasing ( without changing our nice natures) for good!
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Have you ever heard of micro aggressions? Or passive aggressive behaviour? And have you ever experienced this first hand and you didn't know how to handle it? In today's episode I talk about my experience of this with a pharmacist assistant. Why I know it was not me it was her. why I couldn't get her 'attitude' out of my head and what finally busted it. And what attitude you need to have so it doesn't play around in your head for two weeks. I share some really good tips about what to do and what not to do and why in the end you can only win in one way.
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If I asked you what drives your behaviour, would you say it's your noisy neighbours and they drive you to complain, or it's your boss, who drives you to moan, or it's a family member who drives you to feel irritated. Any answer other than your mindset would be the wrong answer. In this episode I share my personal experience of binge eating, and my lifelong quest to get it under control, and my breakthrough moment. There are two fundamental insights that I share in this episode, that have made a huge difference to me and hopefully for you too! Let me know what you think.
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Who does your life belong to? I ask because if you're not living your best life or you're not as happy as you want to be, then that's because somewhere along the road, your life became more about other people. So in this podcast I show you how to align your life with what matters to you? This is so you understand what you need to do to be happier, more satisfied and even how to make the best decisions for you. Now living this way, an intentional life comes with a cost, but I make the case that it's worth it.
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What does Divorce have to do with how well you lead others? Goran Klobucar is a mindset and self leadership coach who after going through a painful divorce, found himself and tells us how. Listen as Goran explains why his divorce was a pivotal moment for him and how this can help leaders and managers who struggle with getting the best out of their team. We touch on self motivation, self leadership and knowing what really motivates you to succeed.
To find out more about Goran go here : email: [email protected]
linkedin profile https://www.linkedin.com/in/goranklobucar/
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Where do you look if your life is not working well for you? You could look at what's going on around you, you could even look at the people you have in your life, none of these places would give you the right solution. In this episode I talk about how not taking responsibility for our 'stuff' can lead to denial, procrastination, justification and feeling powerless. Through a simple event that has been happening to me, I share how one question can release you from feeling like you're not in control to putting you back in the drivers seat of your life. And to get you on the same path as me, I'll give you that one powerful question that will set you free. Let me know how much it's helped you.
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Self care- the buzz word of our time. We know we 'should' have a self care routine but we don't. or at best we do but we're inconsistent with it. So in today's episode I want to motivate you by revealing what your self care routine really says about you, and it's not all good. When we know we should look out for ourselves and we don't, why not? And what will it take to get us to do what's good for us. I talk about my own self care routine, ask myself some revealing questions and share with you what I really believe about myself, and I get you to follow along too.
In the end we either care enough about ourselves to do what's necessary, or we don't. So let me chiddy you along to set your intention so you get to experience what it's like to put you first for a change. - Laat meer zien
