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In this episode, I chat with Lana Manikowski, a certified life coach, author, and advocate for women navigating life after infertility. After undergoing seven years of fertility treatments and ultimately choosing to embrace a childless life, Lana now helps others find healing, purpose, and fulfillment beyond motherhood. Her upcoming book, "So, Now What?", launching on April 2nd, offers guidance and hope to those seeking a path forward after infertility.
What you'll learn:
Lanaâs personal journey through seven years of fertility treatments and the emotional impact of infertilityThe process of accepting and embracing a fulfilling life without childrenThe importance of rewriting the narrative around being childlessHow grief and healing coexist and why it's okay to feel bothStrategies for strengthening marriage and relationships post-infertilityThe role of life coaching in personal growth after fertility strugglesHow to create a meaningful legacy beyond parentingThis conversation is a powerful reminder that a beautiful, fulfilling life is possibleâeven when it looks different than expected.
About Lana:
Lana Manikowski is an author, certified life coach, keynote speaker, and infertility advocate dedicated to helping women thrive after infertility. She is the founder of The Otherâs Day Brunch and host of The âSo Now What?â Podcast, creating spaces where childless women feel seen, understood, and empowered.
After a seven year journey through fertility treatmentsâincluding several rounds of IUI and IVFâended without a child, and donor egg and adoption werenât her path, Lana experienced the isolation, self-judgment, and grief of navigating a future she never planned for. When she couldnât find the support she needed, she built it herself. Now, through her coaching, advocacy efforts, and community, she helps women rediscover their relevance, connection, and purpose beyond motherhood.
With an advanced coaching certification in grief and post-traumatic growth, Lana helps women process the loss of the dream of motherhood and move forward with intention. Her coaching program, Thrive After Infertility, guides women in rebuilding their relationships, reconnecting with their bodies, and creating meaningful milestones that bring fulfillment in the decades ahead.
Her book, So Now What? (April 2025), offers a transformative roadmap for embracing life beyond infertility, helping women reclaim joy, meaning, and a sense of direction without the children they once longed for. A sought-after speaker and media contributor, Lana is known for her powerful message: your story isnât overâitâs just beginning. She lives in downtown Chicago with her husband and their furbaby, Coco.
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Website: https://lanamanikowski.com/
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In this episode, Iâm diving into a question I get asked oftenâwhat does it really mean to live a full life without children? I reflect on how my vision of fulfillment has evolved from childhood dreams of family road trips to embracing a different, unexpected path. Living fully isnât about following a traditional narrative; itâs about redefining joy, building deep connections, creating legacy in our own way, and leaning into the freedom we have.
What you'll learn:
How to redefine fulfillment on their own termsThe importance of meaningful friendships and community in a childless lifeHow to create a lasting legacy beyond parentingWays to embrace freedom, passion, and new dreamsWhy evolving and redefining fulfillment over time is key to living fullyThis episode is a reminder that a meaningful life doesnât require childrenâitâs about intentionally shaping the life you want and finding joy in unexpected places.
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In this episode, I dive into the power of rewriting your inner narrative around childlessness. So much of our journey isnât just about what happened to usâitâs about the story we tell ourselves about it. When grief, frustration, and self-doubt take over, we often blame ourselves, believing we should have done more or that we donât deserve joy. But hereâs the truth: the way we talk to ourselves shapes our healing.
What you'll learn:
How our inner dialogue can keep us stuck in grief and self-blameWhy acknowledging emotions without letting them control us is crucialThe importance of self-compassion and giving ourselves graceHow to start shifting the narrative we tell ourselves about being childlessThe first steps to reclaiming joy, hope, and connection in our livesConnect with Elizabeth:
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In this episode, I open up about the quiet moments of grief that sometimes surface, even after making peace with a childless life. While Iâm truly content and grateful for the life Iâve built, there are still unexpected remindersâlike a passing conversation or a baby showerâthat bring a little ache for the path not taken.
You'll hear:
How grief can still appear, even after finding peace with being childlessThe importance of allowing yourself to feel both joy and grief at the same timeWhy expressing our emotions openly can help others understand and support usHow to redefine celebration in a way that honors our own lifeâs journeyA reminder that your life is meaningful and worthy of recognition, even without traditional milestonesConnect with Elizabeth:
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In this episode, I sit down with my husband, Victor, to share all about our recent trip to the Maldives! Traveling has been such a powerful part of our journeyânot just as individuals, but as a couple. Itâs been a way for us to heal, grow, and embrace adventure, even when life doesnât look the way we once imagined. And letâs be honest, reliving our travel experiences is just fun! From swimming alongside a whale shark to navigating group travel for the first time, this trip was full of unexpected lessons, unforgettable moments, and a few challenges along the way.
What you'll learn:
How travel has been a healing tool in our childless journeyThe highs and challenges of traveling in a group for the first timeThe incredible wildlife encounters we had in the Maldives (including swimming with a whale shark!)How stepping out of your comfort zone leads to the most rewarding experiencesThe power of being present and letting go of expectationsWhy travel isnât just about exploring new places, but about deepening relationships and finding joy in the momentConnect with Elizabeth:
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In this episode, I sit down with Samantha as she bravely shares her journey through miscarriage, infertility, and chronic illness. We dive into the emotional and physical toll of grief, the importance of self-advocacy in medical care, and how sheâs navigating healing through therapy, writing, and support from loved ones. Samanthaâs story is a powerful reminder that we are not alone in our struggles, and that healing comes from embracing both the pain and the joy in life.
What you'll learn in this episode:
The impact of chronic illness on infertility and family planningHow miscarriage affects both mental and physical healthThe role of therapy, self-advocacy, and support in the healing processHow to hold space for grief without rushing through itThe power of sharing our stories and finding connection through vulnerabilityPractical tools for navigating loss and rebuilding a sense of purposeWhy rest and self-care are essential, not optionalThe importance of giving yourself time to make decisions about next steps in your journeyConnect with Elizabeth:
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In this powerful two-part conversation, I sit down with Lauralyn Kearney as she courageously shares her infertility journey, particularly her experience with one of the leading causes of male infertility. Her story sheds light on the challenges of navigating the medical system, the importance of advocating for yourself, and the deep emotional impact of infertility.
Beyond her personal story, Lauralyn, a yoga therapist, offers valuable insights into healing and nervous system regulation. She shares simple, practical tools that can help anyone manage stress, find peace, and reconnect with themselvesâwhether navigating infertility, grief, or other life challenges.
This episode is filled with wisdom, support, and encouragement, and I know youâll walk away feeling seen, validated, and empowered.
What you'll learn:
The impact of male infertility and why varicoceles are often overlookedThe challenges of advocating for yourself in the medical system and why itâs essentialThe emotional toll of infertility and how it affects relationships, self-worth, and identityHow grief and joy can coexist while navigating life beyond infertilityThe importance of nervous system regulation and how it supports emotional healingSimple practices for reducing stress and creating a sense of safety in your bodyHow yoga therapy and mindfulness can aid in processing grief and restoring balanceThe power of reconnecting with yourself after loss and rediscovering joyWhy acceptance is not about giving up but about reclaiming peace and purposeHow to embrace a fulfilling, childfree life with intention and gratitudeConnect with Lauralyn:
Website: www.lauralynkearney.com
Instagram: @creatingpeacefulness
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In today's episode, I reflect on rediscovering myself after navigating the grief of unfulfilled dreams. I share the small yet impactful habits that helped me rebuild my sense of purpose, joy, and connection, while reminding us all that starting small is okay and healing is a journey. This episode is an invitation to embrace the little shifts that anchor us to our own strength and resilience.
What you'll learn from this episode:
How small habits can create big changes in your daily life and mindsetHow to adapt these small habits to fit your unique life and circumstancesWhy starting small and embracing imperfection is key to creating meaningful changeConnect with Elizabeth:
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In this episode, I dive into an important topic: perimenopause and menopause. I share my personal journey of navigating this challenging chapter of my life, from grappling with unexpected symptoms to finding proactive solutions for my health. This episode is a reminder that menopause is a universal experience, and we owe it to ourselves to listen to our bodies, advocate for our well-being, and connect with others going through the same challenges. Together, we can normalize these conversations and support one another - you're not alone!
What you'll learn in this episode:
Understand the physical and emotional impact of perimenopause and menopauseDiscover the importance of advocating for your health and exploring holistic solutionsReflect on how to listen to your body and take proactive steps toward better healthGain insight into the unique challenges and opportunities for women who are childless by chance during menopauseRecognize the power of connecting with other women to share experiences and supportHear practical prompts to help you prioritize your health and self-careLearn why itâs crucial to normalize open discussions about menopause and womenâs healthGet inspired to embrace a mindset of curiosity and empowerment during lifeâs transitionsConnect with Elizabeth:
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In this heartfelt and enlightening episode, Jaime Singh shares her unique and deeply personal infertility journey, marked by physical trauma, emotional resilience, and the ongoing process of grief and healing. Jaime opens up about discovering her uterine abnormality, the surgeries she endured, and the life-threatening complications that ultimately led to the decision that carrying a pregnancy was not safe for her. Despite the challenges, Jaime has found strength through therapy, her faith, and the unwavering support of her husband and family.
She also discusses the joy of being an aunt to her twin sister's child, the cultural dynamics of infertility in the Asian community, and her journey toward rediscovering purpose and joy. Jamieâs story is a testament to resilience, healing, and finding beauty in the unexpected.
What we discuss:
Insights into navigating infertility and trauma with grace and resilienceThe importance of therapy, faith, and community in healingThe cultural challenges of discussing infertility in the Asian communityHow to find joy and purpose amidst grief and lossThe value of leaning on supportive relationships and setting boundaries with othersTools and practices, like journaling and mindfulness, to cope with griefWhy finding personal fulfillment and joy outside of parenthood can be empoweringThis episode is a powerful exploration of strength and vulnerability, offering hope and connection for anyone navigating similar experiences.
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In today's first episode of the year, I sit down with my husband Victor as he opens up about his experiences over the holidays, sharing moments of unexpected grief, memories that hit him deeply, and the emotional processing that comes with letting go of fatherhood. We explore the unique ways men experience and express grief, the challenges of being vulnerable in a partnership, and how weâre working to strengthen our relationship through open communication and shared healing.
We also reflect on the importance of finding joy and meaning in life as a family of two, (three if you count our cat Tula), the role of community and connection in the healing process, and how each of us is striving to grow individually and together.
What we discuss in this episode:
How men process grief differently and the impact this has on relationshipsThe importance of open communication and shared vulnerability in a partnershipStrategies for finding joy and purpose as a family of twoInsights into navigating grief during the holidays and other triggering momentsThe value of community, chosen family, and connection for emotional supportWhy focusing on personal growth and acceptance is key to healingHow couples can work together to move forward while honoring their individual journeysConnect with Elizabeth:
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In today's episode, I share my personal end-of-year tradition: choosing a guiding word for the new year. Unlike traditional New Yearâs resolutions, this practice helps me set an intention that helps guide my growth and mindset throughout the year. I recount my experiences with this tradition, from my past words to my current word for 2025! (You'll have to hit play to find out what my 2025 word is!)
This simple but powerful practice has helped me focus on what I can control, shed old habits and beliefs, and embrace a journey of self-discovery and growth. Whether you set resolutions, choose a word, or create your own tradition, this episode invites you to reflect on the past year and look ahead with intention and purpose.
What you'll learn through this episode:
How choosing a guiding word for the year can provide focus and inspirationThe difference between resolutions and setting intentionsInsights into embracing personal growth, even through challenges and changeTips on selecting a meaningful word that resonates with your goals and valuesHow to focus on what you can control and create a positive path forwardConnect with Elizabeth:
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In this heartfelt holiday episode, I share my personal journey through this holiday season, which feels quieter and more intentional than ever before. The holidays often bring a mix of joy, stress, and reflection, and this year, Iâm embracing the stillness. I talk about shifting my intentions for the season, finding joy in simplicity, and giving myself permission to slow down.
If youâre feeling overwhelmed or âoffâ this holiday season, this episode is for you. Together, letâs explore how to honor what we truly need, find small moments of joy, practice gratitude, and give ourselves grace during this busy and sometimes challenging time of year.
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In this heartfelt and deeply moving conversation, grief and transformational coach Tara Accardo joins us to discuss the complexities of grief, especially during the holiday season. Tara shares her personal journey of loss and how she turned her pain into purpose through her community, Losses Become Gains. Together, we explore the less-discussed aspects of griefâhow it shows up in unexpected ways, the misconceptions surrounding it, and the importance of boundaries and self-awareness. Whether you are grieving the loss of a loved one, unfulfilled dreams, or navigating unspoken losses, this episode offers both compassion and practical tools to help you navigate this season with grace and intention.
What you'll learn in this episode:
How grief can show up in unexpected forms, including unfulfilled dreams, infertility, or lifestyle changesWhy the holidays can magnify feelings of grief and what steps you can take to honor yourself during this seasonThe importance of acknowledging grief without imposing unrealistic timelines on yourselfPractical strategies for navigating grief during gatherings, setting boundaries, and making space for joyHow to identify the physical, emotional, and mental signs of grief that may be overlookedInsights on rediscovering yourself and creating new traditions that align with your current season of lifeConnect with Tara:
Website: https://lossesbecomegains.com
Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/life-with-grief-podcast/id1688812587
Instagram: @lossesbecomegain
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In this heartfelt episode, I reflect on the complexities of the holiday season, especially for those of us who are childless, not by choice. While the season can be magical, it often carries an ache for what we imagined this time would look like. I share personal insights, emotions, and strategies for navigating the holidays when they donât align with our expectations. From redefining traditions to creating space for joy and setting boundaries, this episode offers a compassionate guide to finding meaning in this season in ways that feel authentic and true to you.
What you'll learn:
How to acknowledge and honor the mixed emotions of the holiday seasonWays to redefine holiday traditions to create meaningful celebrationsPractical strategies for setting boundaries to protect your energy and peaceThe importance of letting go of societal or personal expectations for the holidaysHow to stay open to unexpected moments of joy and connectionWhy the holidays are not defined by whatâs missing, but by the unique ways we create meaning and joyConnect with Elizabeth:
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Today's episode is a deeply personal and emotional episode as I celebrate my 50th birthday! Turning 50 is more to me than just a milestone; itâs a reflection of the journey that brought me hereâa journey filled with challenges, triumphs, and self-discovery. From battling mental illness in my 20s to navigating grief and growth in my 30s and 40s, I share the lessons Iâve learned along the way. This episode is a celebration of resilience, gratitude, and the beauty of self-love. Join me as I reflect on my past and step into this new decade with hope, enthusiasm, and curiosity!
What I Discuss in This Episode:
My reflections on the raw and messy 20s and how I found hope in the darknessHow my 30s became a decade of rediscovery and peeling back layers of shame and fearThe highs and lows of my 40s, from infertility and grief to moments of deep passion and successWhat turning 50 means to me and why itâs a big deal to celebrate myself and how I can't rely on anyone else to celebrate meHow Iâve learned to honor my journey and celebrate every little milestone in lifeA heartfelt reminder about the power of showing up and celebrating who you areJoin me in this episode to reflect on the lessons of the past and embrace the endless possibilities of whatâs ahead. Thank you for being here and sharing this milestone with me!
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In this episode, Amber courageously shares her profound journey of living with fibroids, the challenges of navigating a healthcare system that often dismisses women's pain, and the ultimate acceptance of a life without children. Her story is a testament to resilience and self-advocacy, showcasing her ability to channel her experiences into meaningful work, creativity, and connection. Amberâs compassion shines through as she opens up about her life as a blind rehabilitation specialist, her passion for serving others, and how she found new ways to embrace joy and purpose.
You will hear Amber's reflections on grief, acceptance, and growth, as well as practical advice on advocating for one's health and finding fulfillment amidst life's unexpected challenges.
What you'll learn:
The importance of advocating for yourself within the healthcare systemInsights into the impact of fibroids on physical, emotional, and reproductive healthHow to navigate grief and acceptance when faced with life-altering circumstancesWays to find joy and purpose in creative pursuits and meaningful workStrategies for connecting with supportive communities and building resilienceConnect with Amber:
Private IG is @britneychapstix
Art IG: @ambervaillancourtart
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The upcoming holiday season can be particularly challenging for women who are childless, whether by choice or circumstance. Kathleen and I engage in a heartfelt conversation about navigating this emotionally charged time of year, focusing on how to find meaning, connection, and peace amidst the festivities. We explore the importance of self-care, creating new traditions, and acknowledging the grief that can surface during family gatherings. Kathleen shares her insights on the significance of community and the power of reaching out for support, as well as the comfort found in small acts of joy. This discussion is infused with warmth and resilience, offering listeners valuable strategies to embrace the holidays with grace and self-acceptance.
In this episode, you'll learn:
How to navigate the holiday season as a childless woman, whether married or singleStrategies for managing triggers and setting boundaries during family gatherings or social eventsThe importance of creating personal holiday traditions that bring joy and comfortHow to identify and lean on a support system to lift you up during challenging momentsTips for finding community and connection with others who share similar experiencesThe value of honoring your grief while embracing self-care and reflection during the holidaysIdeas for making the season meaningful, even when traditional celebrations feel difficultHow revisiting cherished childhood traditions can bring a sense of peace and belongingMentioned in this episode: Savvy Aunite Community
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In this episode, I had the privilege of chatting with Katy, a leading advocate in the Childless Not by Choice community and the founder of the Childless Collective. Katy openly shares her personal journey through infertility and the challenging decisions that led her to embrace a childless life. She discusses the impact of chronic health issues, the role of societal expectations, and how her path eventually led her to build a supportive community for others on a similar journey.
Katyâs story reveals the highs and lows of advocating for the childless community and creating a safe space for others. We explore the complexities of navigating grief, finding purpose after life-changing decisions, and the immense value of connection within this unique community. Katyâs passion shines through as she reflects on what it means to amplify diverse voices and support others in their journey.
In this episode you'll learn:
How sharing personal stories can create a supportive environment and help others feel less aloneInsights into building a community for those who feel isolated and the challenges of sustaining advocacy workWays to cope with grief and find purpose by channeling experiences into meaningful workThe importance of diverse voices in creating an inclusive and representative spaceHow to redefine fulfillment and growth beyond traditional life pathsConnect with Katy Seppi
Website: https://childlesscollective.com
IG: @childlesscollective
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Meggy Kate's powerful story sheds light on the complexities of being childless not by choice, as she navigates her deep desire for motherhood alongside the challenges posed by PCOS, PMDD, and bipolar disorder. Despite initially hesitating to share her experiences, she bravely adds her voice to the conversation, highlighting the importance of vulnerability and connection. As a passionate pro-choice activist and community organizer, Meggy Kate advocates for reproductive rights while grappling with her own emotions about not having children. Her journey is further complicated by a committed relationship with a partner who does not wish to have kids, adding layers to her unique narrative. Through her activism, hobbies, and heartfelt reflections, Meggy Kate inspires listeners to embrace their stories and find fulfillment in unexpected places.
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Twitter: @ivegotwords
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