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In this episode of "Decisions Change Everything," I sit down with my client, Jessica, for an insightful and deeply personal conversation about her experience working with me as her coach.
Join us as we delve into Jessica's journey of uncertainty - from her initial concerns about pregnancy to her evolving mindset and newfound sense of self-worth. Jessica's experience is a fantastic example of the impact of coaching on personal growth and navigating life's uncertainties, making this episode a must-listen for anyone seeking a first-hand account of what it's like to work
Listen to this episode to gain practical tips for addressing fears, working through mindset shifts, and adapting to individualized coaching needs. Our conversation emphasizes the value of personal development over monetary gain, offering tangible takeaways for enhancing mental and emotional well-being.
Tune in to uncover the simple and doable actions that Jessica implemented on her coaching journey, and discover how these insights can apply to your own life. This episode is a raw and honest exploration of the coaching process, giving you clear examples of how coaching can empower and support you no matter what you're bringing to the coaching table.
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🌟 In this episode, I'm sharing 39 things that you might not know about me. Why 39? Because I'm turning 39 this month!
It's not a regular episode. It's a raw, real, and unfiltered peek into who I am – from family dynamics to mental health struggles, personal growth, relationships, and everything in between. 🌿✨
I talk about growing up influenced by '90s purity culture, early marriage, motherhood, and the work I've done on self-discovery, including being diagnosed with ADHD at 34.
This episode is not about platitudes or sugar-coating life – it's about being real with you. Coaches are regular people too. I hope you'll find a sense of solidarity, reflect on your own journey, and feel more compassionate toward all parts of you. 🌈🌻
This episode is a reminder that every decision – big or small – shapes our narratives. It's a heartfelt invitation to explore the intricacies of our stories, celebrate resilience, and find beauty in the messy, unfiltered tapestry of life. 🌸
There are multiple ways to work with me. Check them out at www.kimberlymathis.com or find me on Instagram at @thekimberlymathis
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In the this episode, I discuss a topic that's close to my heart - making peace with our past and allowing ourselves to move forward without feeling stuck. I share a story about one of my clients who's been struggling with shame and the belief that she needs to change her feelings about her past to move forward.
Key takeaways from the episode:
- Stop using coaching or therapy against yourself: Sometimes we get stuck in trying to change our thoughts or feelings, leading to a constant struggle. It's okay to accept our genuine feelings and beliefs and find a new way forward.
- Embrace your current reality: Instead of fighting against your thoughts and emotions, consider how you can move forward while acknowledging and accepting them.
- Focus on who you are becoming: It's essential to redirect your energy towards the person you are becoming and how you want to show up in the world, rather than getting caught up in changing unchangeable aspects of yourself.
Want to work with me? Schedule a free consultation at www.kimberlymathis.com
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Hope is not a strategy. Hope is not going to get you the end result that you want. It has got to be a decision, because a decision has a plan.
In this episode, I'm sharing the way I started thinking about decisions differently, and how this has become THE most important thing in my life, and in the work I do. I'll also clarify what a "decision" really includes, so that you can start making some for yourself.
Want to work with me 1:1? Go to www.kimberlymathis.com and schedule a free consultation.
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If you're a people-pleaser, you've probably never associated those behaviors with control. But here's the thing: people-pleasing isn't just about being nice. If you can better understand the motivation behind people-pleasing behavior, you can more easily change those patterns.
Join me as we peel back the layers of people-pleasing and uncover its roots. From the fear of rejection to the illusion of control, I'm breaking down why we fall into this trap and how to break free. So if you're ready to stop sacrificing your authenticity for the sake of others and have more control over your own life, this episode is for you.
Work with me by clicking here.
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Are your goals clear? Are they accurate? Are they even attainable?
After setting goals with clients for years, I'm telling you about the top 5 mistakes I see people make when they talk about what they're wanting to achieve.
Make sure you aren't making these same mistakes because doing so will quite possibly make your goals harder to achieve - if they're even achievable in the first place.
And if you want to set goals and work with me to reach them, I'm taking 1:1 clients. Schedule a free consultation at www.kimberlymathis.com or connect with me on Instagram @thekimberlymathis
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Work with me at www.kimberlymathis.com
In this episode, I delve into the subtle yet impactful behavior of triangulation. While often associated with toxic dynamics, I shed light on how triangulation can seep into our everyday conversations and relationships without us even realizing it.
I break down what triangulation is and how it surfaces in our interactions, offering relatable examples that resonate with everyday experiences. Through open and candid discussions, I guide you on how to recognize and navigate triangulation to foster healthier, more authentic connections and relationships with the people who matter in your life.
You'll gain practical insights on spotting the signs of triangulation in your own interactions, understanding its impact on relationships, and implementing strategies for fostering healthier communication. I encourage you to reflect on your personal experiences with triangulation and provide actionable steps to decrease this behavior, empowering you to bring positive change to your daily interactions.
Tune in to gain valuable insights and simple strategies for navigating difficult relationships and breaking free from patterns of triangulation. If you've ever found yourself caught up in gossip or seeking validation from others instead of addressing conflict head on, this episode offers actionable steps to facilitate healthier and more direct communication.
TIMESTAMPED OVERVIEW:
00:00 Adding a third party changes a relationship.
06:56 Triangulation can sow distrust in relationships.
11:18 Seek support if necessary, avoid constant negativity.
15:09 Avoided conflict, sought outside advice, communication struggles.
17:07 Create clear personal boundaries to prevent triangulation.
20:29 Reaching out for support, not avoiding conflict.
25:09 Encouraging reflection on behavior and seeking support.
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What does "visibility" mean to you? Is it ever something you think about focusing on, or working on in your life? If you associate "visibility" with how much you show up on social media, or how well-known you are, you're merely scratching the surface.
I just spent a week in Miami with other coaches and we did a visibility deep dive.
Listen to this episode to learn more about what visibility really means, what visibility work could look like in your own life, and how I'm thinking about visibility both in my personal and professional life.
Work with me 1:1 at www.kimberlymathis.com or connect with me on Instagram at @thekimberlymathis
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No, we're not talking about faking it until you make it.
But we are talking about taking action BEFORE you feel ready; before you have the thoughts & feelings you think are necessary to take the actions.
Listen in to learn why telling yourself you can't move forward without the beliefs or feelings you want is just holding you back, and how to create a guide for forward action anyway.
Work with me 1:1 to create your own compass and change things that feel unchangeable. Schedule a complimentary consultation here.
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Picture this: there's a sticky situation in front of you, yet you spend less time figuring out what you want to do to move forward AND you aren't worrying as much about what other people are going to do or say.
On today's episode, we're getting clear on what's in YOUR control (spoiler: it's not someone else's mind drama) and how to ditch the emotional baggage of feeling responsible for everything and everyone. Get ready to trade mental chaos for clarity because, let's face it, you've got enough on your plate.
Work with me 1:1 to change what feels unchangeable. Schedule a complimentary consultation here.
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It's been a sh*t Valentine's week for a lot of folks - including myself. So let's talk about love, shall we?
In this episode, we'll discuss:
- the difference between feeling love(d) and practicing love
- the cultural messages about love vs. what love actually entails
- how to love someone and cause pain by acting lovingly
If you want to change how you're loving yourself & others, I've got room for 1:1 clients. Schedule a complimentary consultation call here.
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How many times have you told yourself - or told someone else - to "just let it go"? What do we mean when we say that? What do we expect that we should be able to do? Today we're unpacking that phrase, and getting really clear on what we can and can't let go of.
I'm also going to help you think about this phrase in a new way - one that gives you actionable steps to help you stop ruminating and overthinking.
Interested in working with me? Let's chat. Schedule a complimentary consultation here.
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When you're avoiding an outcome because it feels too tough to handle, it clouds your thinking and decision-making.
You end up reacting to your fear, instead of responding to the situation in ways that best align with your values, your intentions, and the person you want to be.
Anything we set out to do or achieve comes with inherent risk of experiencing things that can be shitty - and therefore, they also ask us to be WILLING to experience those things if we truly want to go after what we want.
So, are you willing to experience some shitty stuff? Let's talk more about what I mean, and what this can look like. I'll use my own personal life as an example.
✨Want to change some of your own responses to things? Want to do things differently? Then let's explore working together.✨
Book a complimentary consultation here.
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It's a podcast milestone: THE FIRST GUEST!
Meet Dr. Gina Senarighi. Not only is she a relationship expert, she's also been MY coach throughout the last few years. I invited her on to continue the conversation we've been having about therapy & coaching and criticisms of the coaching industry.
In this episode we talk about the following:
why Gina herself transitioned from a therapy practice to coaching whether or not she thinks the coaching industry should be regulated how in the hell you're supposed to choose a coach if the industry is a little like the Wild WestConnect with Gina at www.heygina.com
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I'm a therapist-turned-coach, with openings for 1:1 clients. If you're looking for someone to help you change things that feel unchangeable, schedule a complimentary consultation to see if I'm the best fit for you.
Full disclosure: this episode was prompted by an algorithmic gift on the 'Gram - a post titled "The Scam of Millennial Motivational Coaches." Not only was I offended by the mention of my generational label (millennials are AMAZING, ok??), but I had so many issues with the points being made throughout the post that I decided I needed to record an episode.
Listen as I walk you through these common coaching criticisms, and offer my own thoughts and a different perspective. This is a nuanced discussion, and my hope is simply that you have more information to help you decide who you want to work with when looking for a coaching (or therapy) practitioner.
Mentioned in the podcast:
Article from Wired.com
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✨ Want to work with me 1:1? Book a free consultation call at my website or connect with me on Instagram. ✨
Ready for an unfiltered conversation about why I transitioned from asking "How does that make you feel?" to asking "What do you want to do"?
Join me as I peel back the layers and tell you some of the reasons behind my switch from therapy to life coaching.
No fluff, no judgment. This isn't about therapy critique; it's my personal journey into a different realm. Join me for a straightforward discussion, shedding light on my shift from therapist to life coach. 🗣️🤔
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Work with me 1:1 by scheduling a free consultation call at www.kimberlymathis.com or connect with me on Instagram @thekimberlymathis 📲
This is the first episode in a series where I'm spilling the tea on the whole therapy vs. coaching debate - from someone who left her practice as a licensed therapist to go into coaching full-time.
So what separates therapy from coaching? Spoiler alert: it's not just the notepads and cozy couches. Unpack the differences with me and listen in to learn about:
- the differences between the philosophical foundations of therapy & coaching
- how the two are different when it comes to the questions they answer
- what is going in your therapist's chart that you might not know about
And follow along for the next episodes where I'll tell you about my reasons for choosing one over the other, my beef with some of the common coaching criticisms, and how YOU can choose the best professional for yourself when you're looking for someone.
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Work with me 1:1 to make decisions for yourself, handle difficult relationships, and change things that feel unchangeable. Go to www.kimberlymathis.com to schedule a free consultation.
🎙️ In this week's episode, join me as I delve into a game-changing concept that will for sure expand your perspective.🌟
🧠 I'm here to challenge the notion of obligation and the belief that "you HAVE to" do certain things. From the tricky dynamics of parenthood responsibilities to societal expectations you've assumed as your own, I dissect how our perceived obligations can limit our choices and make us feel powerless.
Through real-life client stories, discover how shifting from "I have to" to "I CHOOSE to" unlocked freedom, empowerment, and conscious decision-making. 🌈💡 Explore how this paradigm shift can impact your holidays, your decisions, and your sense of agency in every aspect of life. ✨
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ANNOUNCEMENT: Join me on Wednesday, December 20th, 2023 at 1:00pm eastern for a free masterclass where you'll make your own Boundaries Cheat Sheet - just in time for all those holiday gatherings. REGISTER HERE.
With all those holiday gatherings coming up, you might have some situations you're dreading and boundaries can be a lifesaver.
But how do you know if your boundaries are effective? What if no one understands why you're asking for them?And how do you hold boundaries when it's uncomfortable as hell?
In this episode, we'll talk about the signs that you NEED some boundaries in your life, we'll clear up some super common boundary misunderstandings, and you'll get some of the essential boundary tips you need in order to start strengthening that boundary muscle.
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This week, join us in deciphering the hidden manuals governing our holiday experiences. 📖✨
🤔 Ever felt stressed when reality doesn't align with your festive expectations? Let's talk about the concept of 'manuals' - those unspoken rules shaping our holiday moments.
🎄 Dive deep into identifying, questioning, and rewriting these mental guidebooks to discover some freedom amidst holiday chaos. 🌟
👉 Discover actionable strategies to create your own guide for stress-free celebrations.🕊️🌟
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