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âI think people who are retiring now are first-generation retirement rebels.â
Dan Haylett joins our host Ed Coambs from across the pond in todayâs episode. A sports enthusiast turned investment expert, Danâs sharing a treasure trove of insights about the power of empathy in the world of financial planning.
Dan kicks things off talking about his unique journey from the cricket fields to navigating the complex emotional and psychological aspects of retirement planning. As the host of the top 50 podcast, Humans vs Retirement, Dan explains the need for a human-first approach in financial planning. Heâs a big believer in looking past traditional methods to address the deep-rooted emotions tied to money management.
Dan also discusses the evolving role of financial planners as holistic advisors who go beyond spreadsheets and how great strides have been made to simplify complex retirement decisions for the average person. He talks about the nuances of financial therapy and how subtle shifts in language can profoundly impact client perceptions for the better!
Finally, Dan gives his thoughts on the impact of the UK's healthcare system and inheritance tax on peopleâs financial decision-making. With the full belief that retirement needs a rebrand, heâs sharing how we can thrive in todayâs world as "first-generation retirement rebels!â
Key Topics:
Danâs Journey From Sportsman to Retirement Specialist (00:00)First-Generation Retirement Rebels (10:56)Financial Planning Beyond Spreadsheets! (16:45)Framing the Money Conversation in Todayâs World (25:05)The Two Questions You Need to Answer Before Retiring (33:48)The Impact of the UKâs Healthcare System on Peopleâs Financial Decisions (36:48)What to Know About the UKâs Inheritance Tax System (41:16)Resources:
HumansvsRetirement.comDan Haylett on LinkedIn
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âAnd I think one of the opportunities in having a close relationship with someone, it doesn't have to be marriage, is theyâre sort of a mirror for your relationship with money.â
Our host, Ed Coambs, welcomes Dr. Brad Klontz, a pioneer in financial psychology and therapy, for an engaging discussion on navigating money matters in relationships. They explore the common challenges couples face when aligning their financial perspectives and emphasize the importance of honest communication. Reflecting on personal experiences and societal attitudes, they debunk the myth that a conflict-free financial discussion equals a healthy relationship, highlighting how disagreements can foster growth. They also challenge the notion that marriage is a poor financial decision by presenting statistics that show married individuals often have higher net worth.
Ed and Brad examine the complex relationship between emotions and money. Personal anecdotes reveal how financial fears often originate from childhood experiences, creating subconscious scripts that influence adult relationships. Listen in as they explore how partners can act as mirrors, reflecting financial behaviors and beliefs, leading to personal growth and healing when approached openly. This episode underscores the potential for mutual understanding and development through shared financial insights and experiences.
Ed and Dr. Klontz also discuss the intricacies of money dynamics within relationships, including how financial anxieties and different spending habits can impact partnerships. They encourage couples to confront financial realities together, taking ownership of their financial destinies. By understanding each partner's financial background and emotional experiences with money, couples can transform conflicts into opportunities for connection and healing. Don't miss this insightful conversation that offers practical guidance for achieving healthy love and money.
Key Topics:
Welcome, Dr. Brad Klontz! (00:00)Harsh Truths About Money and Relationships (03:27)The Importance of Communicating About Money in Relationships (05:19)Understanding Normative Male Alexithymia (07:59)The Emotional Connection between Money and Relationships (11:43)The Role of Partners in Financial Well-being and the Concept of Locus of Control (19:31)Practical Exercises for Improving Financial Communication in Relationships (35:56)The Impact of Empathy and Compassion in Financial Discussions (36:49)The Role of Interdependence in Financial Success (40:47)Wrap-Up and Reminder to Check out Bradâs New Book (42:27)Resources:
Bradâs New Book: Start Thinking Rich!
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âSometimes, âgood enoughâ is good enough. You donât have to be extreme. In fact, extreme is so confining. Those things that are the most rigid are most susceptible to complete collapse. Building in flexibility can sometimes make things sustainable over time.â
New Healthy Love and Money team member Dr. Christine Hargrove joins our host Ed Coambs to share her unique approach to financial therapy through the lens of neurodiversity.
Walking us through her unique journey from religious studies to becoming a pioneer in financial therapy, Dr. Hargrove walks us through her experiences working with individuals and families affected by ADHD.
Achieving breakthroughs in peopleâs financial lives requires an understanding of diverse money mindsets and a willingness to get personal, in order to navigate financial stress more effectively. She contrasts the often rigid advice of mainstream financial influencers with the adaptable strategies of empathy-focused financial therapists like herself.
Christine and Ed also get into the emotional impact of financial trauma, using her personal experiences from the 2008 financial crash to illustrate how economic events can shape your personal identity and family dynamics, for better or worse. Recognizing and bridging the gap between financial intentions and behaviors between your relationships, she says, promotes not only understanding, but also positive reinforcement within yourself.
Finally, Dr. Hargrove speaks on the concept of proactive relationship wellness. She encourages couples to seek guidance early to manage financial stress more effectively, which of course allows themâand even their kidsâto enjoy healthier, more fulfilling relationships with money.
Key Topics:
Dr. Hargroveâs Inspiring Career Journey (00:00)Why We Get Intimidated to Talk About Money (11:43)How Dr. Hargroveâs Own Relationship with Money Has Changed Over the Years (16:10)Facing Our Shame Around Our Financial Struggles (28:25)How Financial Stress Impacts Our Kids in Their Formative Years (32:56)Working with Couples as a Financial Therapist (40:17)Why We Shouldnât Overly Focus on Consequence and Accountability (48:50)Dr. Hargroveâs Parting Words of Wisdom (53:53)
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âFeelings plus finances equal flourishing. Then, there are stories in your statements, and those stories inform your strategy.â
Our host Ed Coambs sits down with Dr. Preston Cherry, a financial wellness expert, and personal friend whose new book, "Wealth in the Key of Life: Finding Your Financial Harmony," challenges everything you thought you knew about love and money. Ed and Preston share personal stories and practical examples, like travel planning, to demonstrate how aligning financial goals can deepen connections and enhance your partnerships.
Curious about how to transform potentially toxic financial discussions into constructive conversations? They explore this and more, breaking down the barriers often faced when emotions and finances intersect, examining the importance of curiosity and adaptability in dialogue, and ensuring discussions remain open and honest. By fostering an environment that embraces both analytical and metaphorical thinking, the aim is to equip you with the tools to nurture flourishing relationships through healthy financial conversations.
Finally, Ed and Preston contemplate the relationship between religion, faith, and financial prosperity. Is wealth inherently negative, or can it reflect spiritual alignment? Our guest challenges this narrative, urging reflection and gratitude for financial opportunities as divine interventions. All this and more in this episode of Healthy Love and Money!
Key Topics:
Navigating Financial Intimacy and Communication (00:00)Frameworks for Financial Conversations (05:36)Overcoming Financial Conflicts and Building Trust (19:16)Faith, Religion, and Financial Wellbeing (29:13)The Role of Listening and Asking Questions in Financial Conversations (36:53)Wrap-Up and Resources (39:29)Resources:
Life Money Balance PodcastAre Genx Parents Ruining Retirement by Supporting Their Adult Children (episode)@drprestoncherry on SocialsConcurrentFP.com for Services
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Financial planning isn't just about numbers; itâs about understanding the behavioral aspects that come into play.
Welcome to this exciting episode of the Healthy Love and Money Podcast, where our host, Ed Coambs, introduces Mary Lou Daly as a new addition to the team. With over 15 years of experience in technical financial planning and accounting, Mary Lou brings a wealth of knowledge to the table. She joins the podcast today to explore the intersection of financial planning and psychology, highlighting how communication plays a crucial role in managing wealth, especially for couples. Together, Ed and Mary Lou aim to assist individuals who are navigating the complexities of wealth accumulation and financial anxieties by merging technical expertise with an understanding of client psychology.
They discuss the intricate dynamics of money conversations within relationships and their impact on marital satisfaction. The episode underscores the importance of personalized approaches to financial planning, tailored to individual and couple dynamics. The conversation also sheds light on the challenges couples face, from minor irritations to significant control issues, and the crucial role of financial therapy in bridging the gap between sound financial advice and practical implementation.
Listen in as Ed and Mary Lou explore the importance of balancing present and future financial planning, and how envisioning our future selves can motivate effective financial preparation. They discuss the complexities of financial upbringing, family dynamics, and the emotional flashpoints that shape our financial beliefs and behaviors. Mary Louâs enthusiasm and expertise are the perfect addition to the Healthy Love and Money team!
Key Topics:
Financial Intimacy and Communication Challenges (00:00)Initial Impressions and Financial Planning Approach (02:20)Challenges of Financial Communication in Marriage (06:31)Financial Planning Tools and Techniques (11:25)Behavioral Financial Planning and Financial Therapy (19:51)The Role of Financial Planners and CPAs (21:53)Financial Planning for Different Life Stages (22:08)The Impact of Financial Planning on Relationships (22:25)The Importance of Financial Education and Awareness (28:24)Final Thoughts and Excitement for the Future of the Healthy Love and Money Team! (45:19)
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âEmotions drive money decisions all day, every day. If we can normalize that for clients and listeners, it resonates deeply for a lot of us.â
Step into the world of financial therapy with our host, Ed Coambs, and Khara Croswaite Brindle, a leading voice in this rapidly growing field. Khara uncovers the emotional undercurrents that shape our financial decisions, urging us to recognize and embrace the "gray" areas where logic often takes a backseat to emotions. Through insights into frameworks like the Enneagram and attachment theory, Ed and Khara explore how understanding our emotional responses can lead to better money management and financial intimacy.
Ed and Khara dig into how money influences everyday decisions, from the mundane to the monumental. Khara shares personal anecdotes that illustrate the complex dance between perceived value and actual quality, especially in the context of therapy and professional services. They also tackle the often tricky territory of setting professional rates, reminding us that the price tag isn't always an indicator of quality, and how financial therapy can aid in untangling these nuanced threads.
Their discussion also shines a light on the personal journey therapists must embark on to serve their clients more effectively. Khara emphasizes the importance of self-awareness and supervision in maintaining a balanced therapeutic stance. To help listeners on their path to financial well-being, she introduces a practical workbook designed to guide you through the complexities of your own financial beliefs. Let's challenge those preconceived notions about wealth and nurture healthier financial mindsets together.
Key Topics:
The Role of Emotions in Financial Decisions (00:00)The Impact of Financial Therapy (08:10)The Importance of Values in Financial Decisions (12:41)The Framework of Financial Therapy (15:25)Emotional Neutrality in Financial Decisions (36:19)The Impact of Media and Cultural Influences on Financial Beliefs (38:38)Practical Tools and Resources for Financial Therapy (44:46)Final Thoughts and Advice for Listeners (46:23)Resources:
Croswaite Counseling PLLC
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âFinancial trauma is not something that you can take a magic pill for; but, you can certainly become trauma-informed.â
In what ways can childhood experiences predict your financial future? Join our host Ed Coambs as he uncovers the hidden layers of financial trauma with Rahkim Sabree, a pioneering expert in financial therapy!
Rahkim does a deep dive into how early observations of our parents' financial habits profoundly influence our money mindset as adults. Ed and Rahkim navigate the convoluted web of cultural pressures and a culture of consumerism that shape our financial self-worth, and discuss how the mistrust of financial tools, like credit or life insurance, can echo throughout our lives.
Financial trauma, according to Rahkim, is âany instance observed or experienced that has a negative impact on the way you view, interact with, or believe about, money.â
Have you ever felt judged for your financial choices or struggled with the societal expectations tied to your bank account? Rakhim encourages us to become hyper-aware of the different communities in our lifeâwhether religious, familial, or professionalâand really see how each shapes our relationship with money.
They also compare the often misleading promises of financial influencers to those of the diet industry, as well as the relationship between financial trauma and generational trauma. Rahkim reminds us that we need a trauma-informed approach to financial healing. He and Ed discuss how bringing the âlanguageâ of therapy down the Earth can demystify trauma and help people recognize and overcome deeply ingrained fears, such as the fear of debt.
Ultimately, by aligning personal values with financial goals, Rahkim encourages us to move beyond black-and-white thinking and embrace a nuanced understanding of financial decision-making so we can experience true healing and take back the reins of our financial destiny!
Key Topics:
Defining âFinancial Traumaâ (02:08)Why Many People Are Reluctant to Engage with Financial Institutions (06:15)The Financial Tug-of-War Between Different Communities (11:05)Generational Trauma and the Road to Financial Healing (20:22)Using âValue Auditsâ and âFinancial Boundariesâ to Heal Trauma (31:55)Attachment Theory and Financial Trauma (40:53)Resources:
RahkimSabree.comOvercoming Financial TraumaRahkim Sabree on ForbesConnect With Healthy Love and Money:
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âI had a light bulb come off: why aren't we talking about people's financial strengths and balancing that and not just looking at what they're not good at?â
What if your relationship with money was as significant as any personal relationship in your life? This episode promises to unravel the mysteries of financial intimacy as our host Ed Coambs chats with Ellen Rogin. As a New York Times best-selling author and a former financial advisor, Ellen uncovers how recognizing and nurturing our financial strengths can lead to healthier money management. Together, Ed and Ellen explore the often-overlooked emotional aspects of finances, emphasizing how past experiences and societal influences shape our financial behaviors and beliefs. Ellen shares her unique insights on integrating emotional and psychological perspectives into financial planning, creating a holistic approach emphasizing communication and connection with partners.
Imagine treating money as a dear friend rather than a neglected partner. This episode highlights the metaphorical relationships we have with money, likening it to our personal relationships. Ellen shares an extraordinary experience from a workshop where she discovered her ability to deliver intuitive messages related to money, transforming how participants understand their financial states. They delve into the intriguing dynamics of money mindsets, discussing attachment styles and how they affect financial decision-making. By achieving a relaxed state, individuals can foster better financial relationships, making informed decisions that are in tune with their emotional needs.
This episode is a heartfelt invitation to nurture your relationship with money, embracing love, abundance, and deeper financial intimacy.
Key Topics:
Financial Strengths and Balancing Skills (00:00)The Impact of Family History on Financial Decisions (03:55)The Role of Intuition on Financial Decisions (06:26)The Four-Square Framework for Understanding People and Money (16:02)Communication in Financial Decisions (16:31)The Role of Financial Advisors and Self-Advocacy (28:05)The Journey to Financial Intimacy (28:22)The Practical Benefits of Understanding Financial Personalities (36:39)The Role of Intuitive Money Readings (36:53)Resources:
Messages From Money (book)MessagesFromMoney.comConnect With Healthy Love and Money:
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"Empathy not just opens the door to understanding money behaviors but also transforms financial shame into a powerful tool for healthier decision-making."
Can empathy be the missing link in transforming your relationship with money? Our host Ed Coambs jumps into part two of this conversation with Jillian Knight as she shares her insights on deconstructing your money story to forge a stronger relationship with your spouse!
Sheâs going beyond traditional financial adviceâespoused by the likes of Dave Ramseyâtowards a nuanced understanding that marries emotional intelligence with money management. Jillian explains how empathy can dismantle financial shame, paving the way for greater openness and healthier financial choices between spouses.
They also take a closer look at how our personal history shapes our financial decisions. Jillian guides us through the process of crafting a money story and timelineâa powerful tool for individuals and couples to decode their financial behaviors. By visualizing systemic influences on personal financial beliefs, we shift the narrative from self-blame to understanding the broader societal structures at play. Itâs an exercise that illustrates how our financial challenges are often rooted in experiences beyond our control.
Finally, Ed and Jillian explore the realm of financial intimacy within relationships, addressing power dynamics and the influences of past experiences. They discuss the importance of creating a safe space for vulnerability, where partners can openly share their financial journeys!
Key Topics:
Reflections on the Financial Therapy Association Conference (01:50)Why Empathy and Curiosity Are Key to Helping Clients Navigate Their Relationship with Money (04:57)Exercises to Help Clients Explore Their Relationship with Money (13:26)Giving Couples a Safe Space to Share Their Money Story (22:03)The Physiology and Psychology of Safety (32:27)How Lack in Your Personal Money Story Impacts Family Dynamics (39:34)Regulating Your Nervous System (42:06)Resources:
Her Financial TherapyConnect With Healthy Love and Money:
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Our host, Ed Coambs sits down with fellow Financial Therapist Jillian Knight of Her Financial Therapy to talk about her eye-opening journey to financial freedom. The challenges she faced on her road to being debt-free offer a ton of insights into the power of open communication between spouses and the dark truth about mainstream money management programs.
"Navigating student loans without a financial roadmap was daunting, but it ultimately led me to discover the transformative power of combining therapy with financial guidance."
As with many people, Jillian's financial awakening began when she realized the gravity of her student loan burden and her lack of financial education after getting married. With nowhere to go but up, she talks about how she fought through the sense of isolation and overwhelm she felt while paying down her debt, with the guidance of financial expert Dave Ramsey.
"Rigid financial systems can impose moral judgments and hierarchies that hinder personal growth; recognizing these barriers is essential for fostering a healthier relationship with money."
Over time, she and her husband became disillusioned with Ramsey and the shame-based culture prevalent in many similar overly rigid financial programs.
"Evolving social dynamics, like the pandemic and movements for racial justice, have reshaped my approach to money management, underscoring the need to balance financial goals with self-care and emotional health."
But it was really when significant recent events, particularly the pandemic and the Black Lives Matter movement, that led Jillian and her husband to break away entirely from Dave Ramsey and chart their own road to being debt-freeâa road that values tolerance and flexibility above all else.
She hopes that her unique path to redefining financial therapy inspires others to walk their own journey with intention and empathy!
Key Topics:
From Performing Arts to Financial Therapy (03:07)Why Most People Donât Realize How Extensive Their Student Loans Are (08:30)Spending Dynamics in the Household (10:12)Why the Saver/Spender Stereotypes Are Harmful (15:14)The Danger of Rigid Financial Programs (21:43)Resources:
Her Financial TherapyConnect With Healthy Love and Money:
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"We think we need more money to be happy, but in reality, we just need those people to talk with and count on and feel connected with."
Did you know that money-related arguments between married couples are the most predictive of divorce compared to any other type of conflict?
Our host Ed Coambs sits down with financial therapist Dr. Sonya Lutter to unpack this uncomfortable truth and how couples can take steps to masterfully navigate financial challenges of all kinds. Sonya draws from over two decades of research and marriage counseling. When sheâs not speaking onstage or working with clients, sheâs teaching at Texas Tech University as the Director of the Financial Health and Wellness program.
"If I'm more stressed, the people around me become more stressed. Our brains are wired to pick up on each other's emotional states."
Ed and Sonya kick things off talking about the power of open communication regarding money and role expectations as early as possible in a relationship. Sonya shares how unspoken assumptions and unmet expectations can silently brew conflict, even without overt arguments. She explains why itâs so important not just to have regular conversations with your spouse, but also to seek professional support on your financial wellness journey.
"While we might believe we're in complete control of ourselves, much of our behavior is instinctive and triggered by external stimuli."
They also explore the connection between financial anxiety and family dynamics. Sonya discusses how the fight-or-flight response influences our interactions and responsibilities as adults and parents. Finally, she and Ed touch on the magic of co-regulation (versus codependency), through which partners can support each other in managing stress.
Key Topics:
Why Couples Get Stuck Around Money (02:37)Why Conflict is Not Restricted to Yelling at Each Other (06:27)Focusing on the Thing and Not the Person (10:32)Defining âPhysiological Stressâ and the Power of âCo-Regulationâ (14:18)What Triggers Financial Anxiety? (19:37)Why Relationships Matter (22:57)Attachment Theory and Meeting Needs (29:10)Scheduling Financial Conversations with Your Spouse (32:10)Resources:
SonyaLutter.comSonya on LinkedInConnect With Healthy Love and Money:
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âIf we allow ourselves that place of full expression, I have it that more goodness happens in the world because people are not bound, and we actually continue that interdependence long term.â
Imagine a mother on the cusp of gifting money to her daughter, grappling with the emotional and financial strings that come attached. Thatâs just one example in our host Ed Coambsâ conversation with Liz Hand from Pleasant Wealth. Together, they navigate the murky waters of financial decision-making and the profound concept of financial intimacy. They challenge the notion of right or wrong in financial choices, urging listeners to embrace a mindset that fosters personal freedom.
Relationships and money have always been a tangled web, and Ed and Liz pull back the layers using vivid (and possibly hunger-inducing) metaphors like a seven-layer cake and a burger-burrito analogy. They discuss the intricate dynamics between aging parents and their adult children, diving into the emotional ties that bind financial responsibilities.
Financial planning amidst uncertainty is akin to setting off on a voyage of self-discovery. Ed and Liz explore stories of diligent savers who, despite reaching financial independence, hesitate to embrace the fruits of their labor. Influenced by what Liz calls the "Midwestern money mindset," these tales resonate far beyond regional borders, speaking to a universal struggle with financial security. In wrapping up, Ed extends an invitation to reflect on these insights, encouraging listeners to journal and share their experiences, creating a community where healthy love and financial well-being are cultivated together.
Key Topics:
Exploring Full Human Expression and Financial Intimacy (00:00)The Complexity of Financial Decisions (07:09)The Role of Personal Values and Relationships (09:53)The Burger and Burrito Analogy (10:42)The Importance of Self-Reflection and Experimentation (22:52)The âMidwestern Money Mindsetâ (23:30)The Role of Empathy and Personal Growth (29:55)The Journey of Writing and Self-Discovery (33:47)The Importance of Experiencing Joy with Money (34:03)Invitation to Self-Reflection and Personal Growth (34:55)Resources:
Pleasant Financial Conversations Private FB GroupLiz Hand | Pleasant Financial Conversations on YouTubeLiz Hand on LinkedInPleasant WealthConnect With Healthy Love and Money:
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âIn neuromarketing, those companies are smarter than we are. They know how to exploit this stuff, so now they know how to get us to do things. The more that we can understand that the better, and the more that we can understand our own decision-making, the better.â
Curious about how your brain influences financial decisions? Our host Ed Coambs welcomes Dr. Oliver Schnusenberg, a pioneer in the fusion of neuroscience, behavioral finance, and financial therapy. From hospitality management to behavioral finance, Dr. Schnusenberg shares his intriguing journey and provides a fresh perspective on financial planning by emphasizing the importance of empathy and compassion, aiming to create a more holistic approach for clients.
Ed and Dr. Schnusenberg also shed light on the power of neuroplasticity and its role in shaping financial behaviors. Discover how intentional changes in thoughts and actions can transform neural pathways over time. Inspired by the work of Joe Dispenza, they discuss practical grounding techniques and the necessity of repetition in therapy to cultivate new financial mindsets. The conversation challenges conventional financial planning, advocating for more personalized and effective strategies that adapt to the unique needs of each individual.
They unravel the intricate connections between fear, addiction, and relationships, and how these factors can impact financial decisions. Dr. Schnusenberg delves into the concept of neuromarketing and its exploitation of the brain's reward systems, urging the importance of understanding these mechanisms. They also touch on the role of emotional availability in developmental growth, emphasizing the significance of human interaction and awareness in nurturing healthier relationships and decision-making. Tune in for an episode that promises to expand your understanding of the mind's influence on money and love.
Key Topics:
Understanding Decision-Making and Financial Therapy (00:00)Exploring Behavioral Finance and Neuroscience (03:23)Neuroplasticity and Financial Therapy (07:42)The Role of Neuroscience in Financial Therapy (14:20)Understanding Addiction and Marketing (20:07)Attachment Theory and Relationships (25:08)Neuroception and Theory of Mind (30:22)Wrap-Up and Call to Action (34:30)Resources:
EquilibriaEvolution.comDr. Oliver Schnusenberg on LinkedInConnect With Healthy Love and Money:
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âYou have to let go of the anger, and this may be the hardest part of it all, because you have to face your own feelings and accept that you do not want this to eat you alive for the rest of your life.â
How do you reconcile with a sibling who has become a stranger? In this captivating episode, our host Ed Coambs is joined again by Fern Schumer Chapman, the insightful author of "Brothers, Sisters, Strangers." Fern delves into the complex dynamics of sibling estrangement and reconciliation, drawing on her personal experiences with Holocaust trauma. She shares how her mother's harrowing escape from Nazi Germany cast long shadows over their family life. Get ready to learn about the profound healing that comes from sharing these stories and the emotional relief it brings when past traumas are openly acknowledged.
Ed and Fern also unpack the unique parenting patterns within Holocaust survivor families, laying bare the psychological impacts of extreme trauma, favoritism, and memorial children. Fern's poignant anecdotes reveal how children in these families often become parentified, prematurely taking on adult responsibilities. Their discussion sheds light on the intricate interplay between identity and inherited trauma, providing a deeper understanding of how these factors shape subsequent generations.
Ed and Fern continue their conversation on navigating sibling estrangement and the arduous road to reconciliation. The Hicks Dignity Model offers a pathway through genuine listening and empathy, but they also emphasize the importance of acknowledging when a relationship is beyond repair. Setting boundaries with toxic individuals is crucial, and sometimes walking away is the healthiest option. All this and more in this episode of Healthy Love and Money.
Key Topics:
Sibling Estrangement and Reconciliation (00:00)Impact of Holocaust Trauma on Family Life (02:53)Healing Through Storytelling and Witnessing (06:54)Memorial Children and Parentified Children (11:16)Sibling Estrangement and Parental Responsibilities (29:40)Empathy and Listening in Reconciliation (30:04)Boundaries and Toxic Relationships (32:38)Fern Schumer Chapmanâs Work and Resources (35:29)Resources:
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âIn many ways, sibling estrangement is like mourning the living.â
After witnessing firsthand the heartache of fractured sibling relationships, journalist Fern Schumer Chapman embarked on a journey to understand and heal family estrangementâin her own life and those of others.
Our host Ed Coambs chats with Fern as she shares her deeply personal experiences and professional insights from her book, Brothers, Sisters, Strangers: Sibling Estrangement and the Road to Reconciliation. As the daughter of a Holocaust refugee, her story brings a unique and poignant perspective to this often misunderstood issue, shedding light on how trauma can ripple through generations.
âSibling estrangement is an expression of a family system.â
Fern guides us through the different types of estrangement, from physical separation to emotionally distant relationships, and brings up the difficult question of whether reconciliation is even possible. Emotions run deep as they address the feelings of unlovability and failure that often accompany estrangement, and talk about the cultural barriers that prevent open discussion of these difficult topics.
âIf you shut down the relationship here and now, youâre not just affecting this relationship. Youâre affecting this generation and possibly the next.â
Aging and life transitions can also complicate sibling dynamics, often bringing hidden tensions to the surface during moments of crisis, such as parental illness or inheritance disputes. Ed and Fern analyze risk factors like narcissism, mental health challenges, and political differences that can strain sibling bonds.
Fern asks us to never forget the value of strong foundational relationships, offering guidance and hope for those navigating the rocky terrain of sibling estrangement.
Key Topics:
Why Fern Writes on Sibling Estrangement (02:51)Defining âFamily Systemâ (05:05)Sibling Estrangement Risk Factors (07:11)Defining âSibling Estrangementâ (8:26)Navigating the Estrangement-Reconciliation Cycle (17:22)How Your Childrenâs Behavior May Trigger Your Own Fears and Insecurities (24:22)Other Sibling Estrangement Risk Factors (26:11)Resources:
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âIf somebody's emotionally activated, then we can't do the problem-solving and the logical thinking that we know is needed in the financial planning world.â
Can a shift in conversation style transform lives? Our host Ed Coambs sits down with Christine Miles, a licensed clinical social worker, and expert in motivational interviewing (MI). Christine uncovers the incredible power of MI and how this groundbreaking technique helps people stuck or struggling to make pivotal changes. Ed and Christine discuss how MI isnât just for therapyâitâs a versatile tool used in financial planning, real estate, addiction therapy, and healthcare. Christine shares the fascinating origins of MI, created by Stephen Rollnick and William Miller, and its foundational role in fostering effective and supportive communication.
Have you ever wondered why some expert advice just doesnât seem to stick? Christine explains the importance of understanding a client's readiness for change and how a supportive communication style can prevent resistance and disengagement. Christine emphasizes the need for promoting autonomy and how a non-confrontational approach can lead to better outcomes. By adopting MI principles such as acceptance, compassion, and curiosity, professionals can create environments that encourage meaningful and thoughtful decision-making.
Ed and Christine explore the emotional complexities in financial decision-making and how moral beliefs and the autonomic nervous system play a role. Christine illustrates how MI can help navigate these emotional responses, making space for logical problem-solving and better financial planning. Take a moment after the episode to reflect on your own journey toward financial intimacy, and don't forget to share this insightful conversation with others who might benefit.
Key Topics:
Welcome, Christine Miles! (00:00)The Origins and Principles of Motivational Interviewing (04:50)Directive vs. Motivational Communications Styles (06:46)Emotions in Financial Planning (11:15)The Importance of Trust in Financial Advising (36:14)The Stages of Change in Motivational Interviewing (40:54)Further Benefits of Motivational Interviewing (43:51)Resources:
MICenterForChange.comConnect With Healthy Love and Money:
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âWhen you can have someone who's not your partner point out to you whatâs [actually] going on, man, you get to wake up, and it's really more fun when youâre awake.â -Reagan
What if our deepest emotional patterns are secretly sabotaging our financial stability? Join our host Ed Coambs for a poignant conversation with his clients Reagan and Elle Pugh, a dynamic couple dedicated to navigating the complexities of personal and relational development.
They unravel their journey of self-discovery and relationship enhancement through the transformative power of the Enneagram, illuminating how understanding these patterns has reshaped their approach to life and finances. Their candid discussions provide valuable insights into overcoming ingrained behaviors and fostering transparent, growth-oriented financial conversations.
To truly achieve financial intimacy, couples must navigate the emotional undercurrents that often accompany money matters. Reagan and Elleâs experience offers a masterclass in transforming these sensitive conversations into opportunities for growth and connection.
By working with Ed and his therapy-informed approaches, and fostering open communication, Reagan and Elle illustrate how to make financial discussions both enjoyable and productive. Donât miss this episode of Healthy Love and Money which explores the profound impact of financial collaboration and the strides towards creating a shared vision of abundance.
Key Topics:
Elle and Reaganâs Journey with Money and Personal Growth (00:00)The Role of Therapy and the Enneagram in Their Relationship (04:25)Reaganâs Book âToo Emotionalâ and Its Journey (06:01)Financial Struggles and Overcoming Debt (16:01)The Importance of a Guide in the Financial Journey (21:17)Emotions and Financial Decisions (22:26)The Role of Play and Celebration in Financial Health (41:04)Final Thoughts on Financial Intimacy (46:04)Resources:
BeyondYourType.coTooEmotionalBook.comConnect With Healthy Love and Money:
Schedule your free 30-minute Discovery Call About Therapy-Informed Financial Planningâ˘. Learn about your money and attachment style with this short Attachment Style Quiz. Buy the Double Award Winning Book: The Healthy Love and Money Way. Hit Follow on Your Favorite Podcast Player To Get the Latest Episodes.
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âBeing a practicing financial planner does not absolve me from, you know, silly attachments that don't make financial sense.â
What does it take to foster true financial intimacy in a relationship? Listen in as our host Ed Coambs unravels the journey of Joey Loss, a fellow financial planner, and Elizabeth Loss, who works in the nonprofit sector, as they navigate the complexities of financial harmony. From their early days of dating to their recent marriage and the birth of their daughter, their story is a testament to the power of mutual respect, open communication, and shared values.
In this episode, Joey and Elizabeth open up about the pivotal moments that shaped their financial partnership. They recount how even their first date watching a Jacksonville Jaguars game subtly set the stage for future money conversations. From Joeyâs leap into entrepreneurship to the emotional decision to sell the cherished Jeep, the couple candidly discusses how they merged their financial lives. Their approach to financial planning has been both incremental and organic, allowing them to manage significant transitions without losing sight of their relational harmony.
What makes their story truly inspiring is how they balance living for today with saving for the future. Joey and Elizabeth share heartfelt anecdotes about valuing experiences over material possessions, the importance of investing in relationships, and maintaining financial transparency. As they reflect on their journey, they offer invaluable insights for couples looking to deepen their financial intimacy and foster a stronger, more understanding relationship. Tune in to learn how you can apply these principles to your own life and set the foundation for a financially harmonious partnership.
Key Topics:
How Joey and Elizabeth met and Their Story (02:28)First Major Financial Conversions and Navigating Transitions (07:04)Balancing Financial Security and Relational Experiences (18:07)The Role of Emotional Attachment in Financial Decisions (30:38)Building Financial Intimacy (38:44)Joeyâs and Elizabethâs Future Aspirations (39:00)Resources:
Flow FinancialWealth Unplugged PodcastConnect With Healthy Love and Money:
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âI think that we focus on these metrics that don't mean anything. My metric is, am I able to travel the way I want? And I have the numbers for that.â
On this episode of the Healthy Love and Money, our host Ed Coambs welcomes Vonmarie Thomas, a passionate bookkeeper and accountant who turned her fascination with clean financial management into a thriving career. Vonmarie takes us on a journey, sharing her admiration for Warren Buffett and the invaluable lessons learned from her family's financial struggles and triumphs after emigrating from the Dominican Republic. Her story is not just about numbers; it's a tribute to resilience and the inspiration to help others achieve financial peace.
Money and emotions often go hand in hand, especially when it comes to taxes. Vonmarie emphasizes the importance of providing comfort and practical advice to clients who feel overwhelmed. Through relatable anecdotes and solid guidance, Ed and Vonmarie explore how addressing financial concerns, no matter how delayed, can unlock new freedoms and empower individuals to pursue their life goals. The conversation aims to demystify financial crises, showing that they are often more manageable than they appear.
From making timely tax payments to avoiding all-or-nothing thinking, Vonmarie's insights are a treasure trove for anyone looking to understand their financial standing better. Ed and Vonmarie highlight the indispensable role of bookkeepers and accountants, demonstrating how their expertise can convert financial chaos into clarity and organization, ultimately contributing to both personal and business success.
Key Topics:
Vonmarieâs Journey into Bookkeeping and Accounting (01:24)Challenges and Solutions in Bookkeeping (03:49)Organizing Financial Records and Staying on Top of Bookkeeping (16:16)Overcoming Financial Anxiety and Celebrating Small Wins (19:15)The Importance of Estimated Tax Payments (23:43)Financial Transparency in Relationships (33:02)Wrap-Up and Working with Vonmarie (35:51)Resources:
Vonmarie on LinkedInVonmarie on InstagramConnect With Healthy Love and Money:
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âWe try to fix the financial vehicle without fixing the driver. So that's why, to me, mindset, behavior is so important. Until we change as individuals, giving ourselves a faster portfolio is not going to work, so we as investors have to become better investors, and then worry about finding better investments.â
Our host Ed Coambs welcomes Chad Hufford of Veritas Alaska to the Healthy Love and Money Podcast. Ed and Chad shed light on why you must become a savvy investor before chasing the next big opportunity. They underscore that financial success stems from disciplined habits and effective coaching.
Reflecting on Chad's homeschooling experience in the eighties, they illustrate the critical balance between education and execution. By drawing parallels between physical fitness and financial health, the discussion highlights the virtues of discipline, patience, and continuous effort. You'll discover why having a robust financial blueprint is essential for connecting your current actions with future goals, steering clear of the pitfalls of hasty decisions and overambitious plans.
Tackling the often-overlooked issue of financial stress and shame, Chad's insights normalize open money conversations. Ed and Chad discuss the significance of attaching meaning and purpose to financial goals, introducing Chadâs book, "Forging Financial Freedom," which champions mindset shifts in wealth building. This episode will guide you to foster healthier financial attitudes and build a life of meaningful wealth.
Key Topics:
Welcome, Chad Hufford! (01:35)Lifelong Learning and the Connection between Physical Fitness and Financial Discipline (02:19)Balancing Education and Execution in Financial Planning (07:21)Personal Finance and Future Planning (12:57)How Shame and Fear Impact Financial Decisions (17:46)Normalizing Conversations about Money and Personal Finance (19:52)Regaining Control of Finances for a Better Life (25:25)The Importance of Mindset in Wealth-Building and Financial Independence (29:49)Wealth, Relationships, and Mindset with a Financial Advisor (34:57)Resources:
[email protected] on IGForging Financial Freedom (book)Connect With Healthy Love and Money:
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