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“Why does my wife keep pointing out what I still haven’t fixed?”
“Why do I feel stuck—even when I’m trying to change?”
“And what’s the point of setting goals if I keep falling short anyway?”In this deeply honest episode of Memoirs of an LDS Servant Teacher, we cut through the frustration of stalled self-improvement and the emotional exhaustion of “being the problem” in your marriage. If you’ve ever felt like your wife’s list of concerns is endless—and your progress invisible—this episode reframes everything.
You’ll discover:
Why goals don’t inspire lasting change—but Passion Projects do
Why your transformation must require miracles or it isn’t real growth
How to partner with God in your personal development (for real)
The reason "fixing yourself" is exhausting—and how to finally feel energized instead
How to identify satanic attacks that sabotage your confidence mid-process
Why you’ve been disqualifying yourself from success without knowing it
If you've been trying harder but feeling more hopeless, this episode might be your turning point. You're not broken. You’ve just been missing the divine upgrade system that actually works.
Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/working-on-emotional-intimacy-discussing-the-past/
Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8N8_vssS_iw&t=1s
Check out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
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“Why do I feel like I’m trying so hard, but still stuck?”
“Why does my wife keep pointing out everything I haven’t fixed yet?”
“And if I am growing, why doesn’t it seem like enough—for her or for me?”Welcome to Part 1 of a bold new series from Memoirs of an LDS Servant Teacher that bridges the gap between spiritual principles and real-life change—where we stop just learning about personal development and start applying it to what matters most: your mind, your marriage, and your mission.
In this episode, we’ll uncover:
Why men get spiritually overloaded but emotionally paralyzed
How to handle the real reason your wife keeps pointing out what’s not fixed
The secret cost of setting small goals—and how it kills hope
How Satan gradually convinces good men to expect less of themselves
Why having “too much passion energy” with nowhere to aim it leads to relapse
The scientific and spiritual framework that lets you say, “Well done, my good and faithful servant”—daily
You weren’t meant to live in disappointment. You were built for miracles.
Let’s stop settling for survival—and start structuring a system that works.Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/early-intervention/
Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iCgUB5AclmE
Check out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
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"Why does she keep bringing it up?"
"Why can’t we just move on already?"
"If I’ve changed, why does she act like nothing’s changed at all?"In Part 5 of How Do I Rebuild Emotional Intimacy with My Wife, we tackle one of the most painful and confusing moments for men trying to lead their marriage back from the edge: her persistent need to revisit the past—even when you feel like you're doing better.
This episode is a roadmap for men ready to lead with strength instead of shame. You'll learn:
What an emotional "walkthrough" looks like—and why most men fail it
How to perform a "black box review" of your past without getting swallowed by guilt
Why hiding your personal development plan is destroying her trust
How to build a visible, manly blueprint for emotional safety—and how to show her the work
What makes her stop asking the same questions over and over again
If you’re tired of being caught off guard every time she brings up “that thing from 3 years ago,” this episode will finally give you tools, not just talk—so you can prove change without performing.
Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/working-on-emotional-intimacy-discussing-the-past/
Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vmuR0h6NXGY
Check out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
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You’ve repented. You’ve changed. You’ve said the right things. So why does your wife still act like she’s waiting for the other shoe to drop?
In Part 4 of How Do I Rebuild Emotional Intimacy with My Wife?, we unpack one of the most frustrating disconnects in marriage recovery: why your internal transformation doesn’t seem to land emotionally with your wife—and what to do about it.
Inside this episode:
Why silence looks like emotional abandonment (even if you’re thinking about her)
How to express real emotion without crying or acting dramatic
What she actually means when she says “you don’t show emotion”
Why saying what you’re afraid to feel might be the most intimate thing you’ve ever done
How a 5-minute timer can reveal what (and who) really occupies your mind
This is the real work—learning how to verbalize your thoughts, face your fears, and take your internal care and make it visible. If your wife still feels emotionally alone in the marriage, this episode will change everything.
Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/and-she-did-stand-in-her-truth-2/
Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oSa5D_LIO4s&t=1s
Check out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
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You work hard. You show up. You’ve stopped doing the wrong things and started doing the right ones. But somehow, your wife still says she doesn’t feel loved.
She says you’re robotic. Emotionless. That you only care about work or money.So why doesn’t all your effort seem to count?
In Part 3 of this powerful series, we break down one of the biggest misunderstandings in rebuilding emotional intimacy: how men think they’re showing love vs. how their wives experience it.
Inside this episode:
Why doing the “right” things isn’t enough if you’re not narrating your thoughts
How a man’s silence can make him look careless—even when he’s deeply invested
A masculine way to show emotional investment without forcing tears
Why unspoken effort often feels invisible to your wife
How setting a 5-minute timer can completely shift how connected she feels to you
Rebuilding intimacy doesn’t require emotional theatrics. It requires visible, verbal care. Learn how to speak what you’re already thinking—and finally let her feel what you’ve always meant.
Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/circus-mirrors-and-feedback-sessions/
Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wiWm9KuATGM
Check out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
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You’re saying the right things. You’re apologizing. You’ve changed your behavior.
So why does your wife still say she “doesn’t feel anything from you”? Why does she say you seem like a robot, even when you’re doing everything right?In Part 2 of this emotional intimacy series, we unpack the difference between words and presence, between logic and emotional safety. You'll learn:
Why emotional intimacy isn’t about crying—it’s about proving you care
The hidden emotional gaps you might not realize you're still leaving
Why your wife keeps bringing up “old stuff” (and why that’s not the problem)
How to map out and preempt her concerns like an engineer rebuilding trust
Why your ability to predict and own the emotional impact of your past builds more trust than “fixing” anything
This isn’t just a conversation about feelings—it’s a guide for rebuilding emotional safety with precision, clarity, and masculine strength.
Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/the-warrior-code/
Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2ZNpCyQ1ISY
Check out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
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You want emotional intimacy. You want your wife to trust you again. But every time you try to rebuild connection, it falls apart.
Why?
Because most men try to skip Season Four—the hard, private work of rebuilding their identity, refining their values, and proving consistency before emotional closeness can return.
In this episode, we walk through:
What “Season Four” really is—and why jumping ahead destroys trust
Why your wife still pulls away, even when you “feel ready”
How your emotional clumsiness may be coming off as spiritual danger
The difference between verbal, cognitive, and emotional intimacy—and why each one builds on the last
What it really takes to become a trustworthy, emotionally safe husband again
If you’ve been “working on yourself” but your wife isn’t responding, it may be because you’re still skipping the most important prep work. This episode breaks it down in practical, direct steps—no fluff, no pretending.
Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/the-4-seasons-of-a-healthy-and-happy-marriage/
Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CD4VvBPz5fo
Check out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
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Why does your progress feel like a betrayal to your wife… even when you're doing the right thing?
In Part 4 of this series, we unpack one of the most painful (and hidden) myths sabotaging emotional intimacy: the belief that “my addiction only hurt me” and “she doesn’t get to share the story.”
This episode confronts:
The emotional whiplash your wife feels when your private healing becomes a public pain
Why “you can’t tell anyone” is often a cover for shame, not privacy
The difference between protecting her trust vs. controlling the narrative
How authentic wives live one story—and why husbands living a “dual life” creates chaos
What it really means to support her growth, even when it’s painful for you
How to know if you're secure enough to empathize with her pain more than your own
If your wife keeps hurting—and you don’t know why—this episode might give you answers no one else has dared to say out loud.
Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/the-story-of-my-deliverance-from-the-shackles-of-satan/
Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O3iDRvMIqms
Check out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
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Why does your wife still feel distant—even when you’re finally getting it right?
In this episode, we dive into one of the most frustrating (and overlooked) moments in recovery and reconciliation: the emotional whiplash your wife experiences when you grow in silence and then suddenly announce your progress.
In Part 3 of this powerful series, we explore:
Why simply “sharing your growth” can still feel painful to your wife
The secret to communicating progress in a way that actually builds trust
A step-by-step phrase to lower her anxiety at the start of any hard conversation
How to share your journey without making her feel left behind or judged
Why “beginning with the end in mind” and “seeking miracles” changes everything
The myth that “she’s not allowed to talk about my mistakes” — and how that belief damages emotional intimacy
If you’ve ever thought, “I’m improving… so why does she still feel unsafe?” — this episode is for you.
Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/letter-to-my-returned-missionary-self/
Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ks65eS6bJIs&t=1s
Check out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
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You’ve made a breakthrough. You’ve figured out what went wrong and you’re finally on the right path. So why does your wife still seem disconnected… or even upset?
In Part 2 of this powerful conversation, we unpack the often-missed truth behind emotional whiplash: when men share the destination of their growth without taking their wife along for the journey.
We discuss:
Why your wife may not trust your progress unless she sees how you got there
The iceberg analogy: why she can’t see your internal work
How to bring her into your reflection without being dragged into shame
Why slowing the process down might save the relationship, not sabotage it
How your excitement can unintentionally leave her behind
The power of starting with “I was reflecting…”
What it really means to “walk her through” your progress instead of dumping it on her
This episode is for husbands who are trying, but keep hearing:
“You still don’t get it.”
Even when you thought you did.Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/the-warrior-code/
Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Lw-KuldXksI
Check out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
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You’ve been grinding. You’ve made real progress. You’re excited to share the breakthroughs you’ve had—only to watch your wife shut down, get emotional, or pull away. Why does it feel like every time you move forward, it throws her off balance?
In this episode, we explore the unexpected emotional whiplash that can happen when men start improving, but don’t realize they’ve left their wives out of the journey.
You’ll learn:
Why your growth can feel like abandonment to your wife
The mistake of “arriving home” in task-mode instead of connection-mode
Why she interprets your excitement as disconnection
How to signal the difference between accomplishment and emotional engagement
The “locomotive mode” mistake—and how to slow it down before causing harm
How to approach shared experiences without knocking her off the track
This episode is for the man who’s trying hard, but keeps hearing:
“You’re still not really here with me.”
Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/the-advanced-reflective-listening-tool/
Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K5wPvF8YD0w&t=1s
Check out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
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You’ve been quietly working on yourself. You're reviewing the past, building stronger habits, and doing the deep work—but the moment your wife senses progress, she wants emotional intimacy now.
And you’re not ready.
This episode dives into one of the most overlooked struggles in marriage repair: how to lead the relationship forward when you're still in the middle of your personal growth—and she's already asking for more than you can give.
Learn:
Why emotional intimacy requires a tested, not rushed, structure
How to communicate “I’m not ready yet” in a way that builds trust
The biggest mistake wives often make in rebuilding, and how to respond with grace
What it means to build an “invisible airplane”—and why she won’t believe it’s real until she sees it fly
How to show your inner work when she can’t see the results (yet)
Why paper practice (like D-PARs) prepares your mouth for real conversations
If you’ve ever felt like your wife is asking for connection before your internal system is stable enough to support it—this episode is for you.
Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/french-fry-machine-metaphor/
Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H4xkLIW4zM4&t=1s
Check out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
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“I’ve changed. I’ve worked hard. So why doesn’t she trust me yet?”
In Part 4 of this essential series, we unpack the real reason why your wife may still carry pain—even after you’ve put in months of work. Emotional intimacy isn’t about looking strong. It’s about being reliable when tested. Just like a bridge under pressure, trust is built not by appearance but by how much it holds up when life hits hard.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
Why your wife’s pain doesn’t vanish just because you’ve improved
How real trust is built by sledgehammer-tested systems, not pretty words
The purpose of emotional intimacy and what not to expect in return
How to walk her through your growth without needing her approval
The crucial difference between a “full disclosure” and real emotional rebuilding
What it looks like to lead without shortcuts—even when you're tired
If you’re a man trying to rebuild trust with a woman who’s been hurt, this is your roadmap.
Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/the-battle-of-perspectives-laman-nephi-and-the-power-of-faith/
Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L9kqP6p5Qw0
Check out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
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You’ve put in six months of work. You’ve grown. You’ve changed. But it still feels like she looks at you like the same guy who messed up. Why?
In Part 3 of this powerful series, we confront the painful disconnect that happens when you're doing deep inner work—but your spouse doesn’t acknowledge it. You want trust, connection, and a fresh start... but you’re stuck in the shadows of who you used to be.
This episode covers:
Why emotional intimacy feels like hitting the Rocky Mountains of marriage repair
How to handle it when she doesn’t believe you’ve changed—even if you have
What it really means to “go first” in rebuilding trust
Why you must treat her like she’s grown, too—even when you can’t see it
The hidden weight of connection that most couples overlook
And how to stop waiting for validation and start standing confidently in your growth
This is not about waiting to be rewarded. It’s about becoming the kind of man who leads with patience, strength, and emotional skill—even when it feels thankless.
Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/adhd-blog-comorbidities/
Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5S67HKpKUaA&t=3s
Check out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
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You’re showing up. You’re doing the work. You're learning emotional skills she never saw you try before. So why does it still feel like she thinks you’re the whole problem?
In Part 2 of this raw and insightful series, we explore the honest struggle of men trying to grow emotionally while still being treated like the villain. This episode unpacks the quiet frustration of hearing, “You’re the one who needs to fix yourself,” even when you know both sides need work.
Inside, we cover:
Why taking the lead first (even if she’s not ready) is still the only way forward
The real reason it works better when men initiate emotional conversations
How to keep moving forward when it feels like you’re carrying the whole marriage on your back
What to do when your wife is trying too—but it doesn’t look like progress
Why practicing verbal and emotional intimacy as a skill set unlocks lasting connection
How to stop waiting for fairness and start winning the long game
This isn't about pretending she's perfect. It's about stepping into your role with clarity and conviction—even if she never acknowledges it.
Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/rebuilding-trust-a-husbands-guide-to-understanding-and-healing-betrayal-trauma/
Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=46NgumKJi4E
Check out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
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Are you trying to grow, be more self-aware, and build emotional trust—only to feel like the conversations still spiral into conflict?
This episode of Memoirs of an LDS Servant Teacher is for husbands who are genuinely trying… but keep hitting a wall. It's also for wives who long to feel emotionally safe but aren’t sure if their husband can hold space for hard conversations without getting defensive.
In Part 1 of this powerful new series, we cover:
Why preparing for emotional intimacy is like packing for the Rocky Mountains
How owning your own triggers—without blaming hers—builds trust fast
Why your wife may struggle to believe you’re “ready” (and how to prove it through actions)
The miracle of you starting the hard conversations instead of waiting for her
The power of pre-planning responses to predictable emotional landmines
How to stop expecting her to make things easier—and rise as a skill-based responder
This isn’t about blaming you for everything. It’s about stepping into your power by doing what only you can do—and watching what happens when emotional safety finally enters the room.
Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/embracing-the-role-of-an-effective-presider/
Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xBPs-VsmZTo
Check out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
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Is your wife overwhelmed, overstimulated, or emotionally drained—and even when you do try to help, it feels like you're still falling short?
In Part 5 of this raw and practical series, we dive into the hidden weight men often carry: the belief that needing support means you're not strong enough. That you should already have it figured out. That if your wife is struggling, it must be your fault—or your job to fix it.
In this episode, you'll hear:
Why trying to “fix her feelings” often backfires
How shared vulnerability can create spiritual intimacy
Why your wife's struggles don’t mean you're failing
The difference between offering support and hijacking her growth
How true partnership means honoring her revelation—not replacing it
You'll also hear real experiences of women learning how to ask for support without handing over the steering wheel—and how their husbands showed up with empathy, not solutions.
This episode is for men feeling the pressure to be everything… and for couples learning that true intimacy comes through mutual discovery—not control.
Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/the-battle-of-perspectives-laman-nephi-and-the-power-of-faith/
Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AfNQYddKqtM
Check out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
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Is your wife overwhelmed, frustrated, and constantly emotionally charged—and you’re left wondering, “How is this all my fault again?”
In Part 4 of this vulnerable and vital series, we explore the weight men feel when their wives are drowning in pain… and expect them to fix it.
This episode pulls back the curtain on:
Why her distress doesn’t mean you’ve failed
How to support someone without losing yourself
What makes a real emotional team (hint: it's not being her spiritual crutch)
Why curiosity and creativity beat judgment every time
How your willingness to listen without “fixing” can be the greatest act of love
You’ll also hear a powerful personal story of a woman who finally broke down about her overstimulation and daily guilt as a mom—and how her husband didn’t solve it… but showed up the way she actually needed.
This episode is for men who are done with shame, but still want to grow. It’s for wives who just need someone to hear them. And it’s for couples who are learning to walk side by side—through fire, fatigue, and faith.
Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/gingerbread-man-parable-anger-pain-management/
Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0DSJOxHm1h0
Check out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
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Ever tried to open up, only to feel judged the moment you do?
In Part 3 of this heartfelt series, we dive into one of the most uncomfortable truths for many men (and their wives): vulnerability often feels like weakness—and the minute you expose even a little of your inner self, you feel like someone’s critiquing your very soul.
This episode uncovers the emotional landmines of trying to grow while being watched, and how even well-meaning feedback can crush progress.
We explore:
Why most men fear support—even when they crave it
How “feedback” can backfire and damage trust
What real teamwork looks like between spouses, parents and teens
How to model emotional safety before expecting it
What it means to “invite” your wife or child into growth without superiority
Why reflecting aloud—without correction—can build trust faster than lectures
If you’ve ever tried to be open… only to get met with “why’d you pick that?”—this one’s for you.
You’re not weak for needing support. You’re wise for seeking it—when it's built with trust, not judgment.
Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/sons-of-helaman-the-faith-based-self-mastery-program-transforming-lives/
Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6ohQCiqAEzM&t=3s
Check out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
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Let’s be honest—most of us were never taught how to ask for support without feeling like we’re broken.
From early on, we’ve been conditioned to believe that if we need help, we’re failing. That if we can’t “handle it all,” we’re just not strong enough. So when someone mentions an accountability partner, our defenses go up—because it feels like a label for the weak.
In Part 2 of this powerful Memoirs of an LDS Servant Teacher series, we deconstruct that entire mindset. We explore how the right kind of support isn’t about hierarchy or shame—it’s about building edifying, equal partnerships where both people grow.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
Why “accountability” often feels insulting—and what to use instead
How to use the Power D-PAR system to track growth and stay spiritually aligned
What true team-based connection looks like in a marriage or mentorship
Why feedback can backfire—and what to do instead
How to invite your spouse or a teammate into mutual, uplifting development
This isn’t about weakness—it’s about wisdom. Real growth doesn’t happen alone. It happens in teams. And in this episode, we show you exactly how to build one.
Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/taming-your-dangerous-emotions-and-reclaiming-your-power/
Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RNc4vXsN9VU&t=1s
Check out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
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