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Coach Kat is on the show this week to address the itâs-not-working mentality, where you feel stuck and like nothing has changed. Maybe it feels like youâve been doing the work for months, only to keep viewing porn. Perhaps this plateau is tempting you to give up, but the truth is the breakthrough youâre looking for is right around the corner.
Listen in this week as Coach Kat shows you how the itâs-not-working mentality might be showing up for you, and why you shouldnât give up at this point. Hear why the work youâre currently doing isnât going to waste, even if it feels like it, and how we know that the magic of change is inevitable if you donât give up on yourself.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.centerforovercomingpornography.com/blog/ask-a-coach-the-its-not-working-mentality
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This weekâs Ask a Coach question is one many of you can probably relate to: âDoes the shame I feel after slipping up and viewing porn ever really go away?â
While we can learn to move through shame in different and more useful ways, I donât know that itâs possible to completely get rid of it. The good news is that while shame will continue to show up for us, what we can do is start developing shame-resilience. Coach Jessica Farmer is here this week to shed light on what it means to become shame-resilient and how to start practicing this skill.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.centerforovercomingpornography.com/blog/ask-a-coach-become-shame-resilient
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A common theme we see frequently in our Ask a Coach feature revolves around our Learn and Move On worksheet. Clients fill in their Learn and Move On before sending it in for feedback, and because itâs such a vital part of our process, Coach Kat is here to share five ways you can make it more beneficial to you.
Learn five practical tips for making the most of our Learn and Move On worksheet. Coach Kat is sharing how you can use it to collect data, get more precise about whatâs going on for you, and even use it in conjunction with other milestones to find information you hadnât seen before.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.centerforovercomingpornography.com/blog/ask-a-coach-learn-and-move-on-worksheet
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Weâre diving straight into listener questions for a special Q&A on healthy sexuality. We tackle a variety of thought-provoking questions, from a listener who feels disconnected from his sexuality and believes it's controlled by his spouse to concerns about whether masturbation causes erectile dysfunction. Plus, we hear from someone who has overcome shame about masturbation but now worries about discussing changes in her body with a future spouse.
Learn how to approach sensitive conversations about body image, understand the real effects of pornography on sexual health, and discover ways to foster a healthier, more confident relationship with your sexuality. Whether you're dealing with personal challenges or looking for deeper insights, this episode is packed with valuable advice and compassionate guidance.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.centerforovercomingpornography.com/blog/pornography-sexual-health-sexuality
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If you've been working on quitting porn for a long time but still keep viewing pornography, you might be asking, "What if there really is something wrong with me?" There are a few things we need to unpack in order to answer this question in a productive way. So if you have been trying to quit but you're still turning to pornography, and you're starting to worry that something really is wrong with you, this episode is for you.
Discover how the sentence, "There's something wrong with meâŠ" is actually stopping you from making progress. This is a limiting belief that keeps you stuck, and you'll learn how to replace this limiting, judgmental sentence with something way more useful instead.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.centerforovercomingpornography.com/blog/ask-a-coach-seriously-wrong-with-me
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I am doing a bonus Q&A episode in a couple of weeks! If you have questions about previous episodes around healthy sexuality, porn panic, masturbation, healthy, sexuality, etc. send them to [email protected] and we will answer them in this upcoming episode!
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âWhat do I do with unwanted thoughts and images that come into my mind?â This is the Ask a Coach question being addressed on the podcast today.
Join Coach Kat as she walks you through the CTFAR model and how to use it in relation to this question, why having unwanted thoughts or images isnât a problem, and a new way to think about them on purpose without any judgment or shame.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.centerforovercomingpornography.com/blog/ask-a-coach-unwanted-thoughts-images
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Porn use and masturbation often go hand-in-hand, and in this episode, weâre diving deep into the research on masturbation to help you release your distress and feel empowered instead. While there continues to be so much misinformation about masturbation, there is no evidence of it causing negative health effects, so why do we still believe itâs harmful?
Learn about the worries people experience about masturbation, and why itâs actually a completely normal part of healthy development. Iâm exploring how extreme distress can cause sexual trauma, why the shame around masturbation is learned and unhealthy, and the damaging effects of sexual shame.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.centerforovercomingpornography.com/blog/masturbation
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The realm of sexuality can sometimes be erotic, strange, or even dark, and thatâs okay. If youâve spent your life demonizing or rejecting your sexuality, youâve probably found it extremely challenging to cut back on or completely cut out viewing pornography, and the answer here is to start accepting and loving your sexuality instead.
Learn how understanding the differences between fantasy, desire, and choice is the secret to using your sexuality for good. Iâm showing you the importance of knowing what is and isnât real in porn, what to do if youâre distressed by intrusive sexual thoughts, and how to integrate your sexuality into your whole human experience.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.centerforovercomingpornography.com/blog/fantasy-desire-intrusive-thoughts-porn-literacy
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Last week, I shared part one of this milestone where we dove into what it means to use your sexuality for good and what that can look like. I also touched on porn panic and started dispelling myths about porn that just arenât true, and Iâm sharing even more myths about pornography this week that may be keeping you stuck.
I dispel more porn myths that are creating panic, shame, and fear, and show you how most of the research available to us is biased. Learn about the ongoing research project weâre undertaking, non-shame-based reasons for you to work through a porn habit, and why busting these myths will give you more freedom and control over how you want to use your sexuality.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.centerforovercomingpornography.com/blog/healthy-sexuality-part-2
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Sexual shame and purity culture teach us that sexuality is bad and inherently sinful, and Iâm inviting you to question that narrative this week. The truth is your sexuality is neutral, but you may have been taught that your sexuality is something to be feared.
Hear my thoughts on healthy sexuality and what using your sexuality for good can look like. Iâm exploring the key concepts that will help you reduce the shame youâre experiencing, busting the most common myths about porn that might be holding you back, and addressing the moral panic that comes from porn use.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.centerforovercomingpornography.com/blog/healthy-sexuality-part-1
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Coach Jessica Farmer is here to answer this Ask a Coach question this week. In a world where weâve been taught to shut down our emotions, youâre not alone if paying attention to your body feels challenging. However, if it often feels like your emotions are in control of you, learning how to truly feel your emotions is vital.
Jessica explains the importance of gaining awareness of the physical manifestations of your emotions. Learn what it means to âfeelâ it in your body and where to start if youâre struggling to feel your physical sensations.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.centerforovercomingpornography.com/blog/ask-a-coach-feeling-your-body
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Weâve been Sara Brewer Coaching since day one, and we are now rebranding to The Center for Overcoming Pornography. This is an outward manifestation of all the internal changes that have been happening in me, my business, and my team, and I canât wait to tell you all about it.
Hear why this rebrand is happening, the big updates that are coming to the program, and how all of this affects you.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/rebrand-the-center-for-overcoming-pornography
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The problem with trusting other people, whether thatâs a specific leader, congregation, or organization, is that youâll often get differing or contradicting opinions. This is an exhausting and defeating place to be, and itâs incredibly disempowering.
Learn what it means to develop your personal spiritual authority and why it matters more than you might think. I show you what to do if you find yourself leaning on others to tell you whatâs good or best for your life, examples of subtle spiritual abuse, and how to recognize the depth of your connection to your highest, most spiritual self.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/personal-spiritual-authority
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Itâs not your fault if youâve been unable to quit your porn habit. Most people have been told to just stop, use more willpower, pray, or focus on connections in their lives. These approaches donât get to the root cause of unwanted porn use and actually make it worse in most cases.
Join me on this episode to learn how the quit porn industry is not addressing the root issue of porn use, and why you need to get underneath the surface to truly heal. Youâll hear how my approach addresses the drivers of unwanted porn use, and why itâs changing the lives of my clients.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/missing-from-quit-porn-industry
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Have you ever found yourself wondering why you made a decision that you know wasnât in your best interest? What do you do when you experience an urge and have difficulty moving through it? Why does it sometimes feel impossible to make conscious decisions from your higher brain?
If youâve ever found it challenging to think through your decisions, youâre not alone. Prioritizing nervous system healing in these moments is the secret to bringing your brain back online, but it can be difficult to practice. Thatâs why this week, Iâm sharing some simple ideas for grounding and orienting yourself when nothing else seems to be working.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/prioritizing-nervous-system-healing
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This week, Iâm joined by sex and intimacy coach for married couples, Dan Purcell. Dan is the founder of Get Your Marriage On: a step-by-step program designed for couples who want more closeness, deeper intimacy, honesty, and an exciting sex life. Heâs also the creator of the Intimately Us app, host of the Get Your Marriage On podcast, and leads retreats, all with a Christian perspective.
I invited Dan on to the show this week to dive into a specific scripture from The Sermon on the Mount where Christ says, âWhoever lusteth after a woman has committed adultery in his heart.â If this scripture has been something youâve battled with on your porn journey, listen in this week as Dan and I explore its interpretations and how we can use it in a way that serves us better.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/interpreting-scripture-dan-purcell
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If youâre a long-time listener of the show, youâll understand the crucial role your beliefs play in your ability to overcome your pornography habit. Thatâs why helping you intentionally create new thoughts and beliefs is a foundational part of my work, and the magic lies in repetition.
Join me this week to hear why thereâs magic in repetition, how I incorporate the power of repetition into my daily life, and how using my Belief Plan guided meditation will help create new neural pathways in your brain so you can believe new thoughts that serve you on your journey.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/repetition-magic
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In Jenga, you donât want to be the person who pulls out the piece that brings the whole tower crashing down. Itâs high pressure, high stakes, and one wrong move ends the game. This isnât the mindset that will help you quit viewing porn.
On the other hand, Super Mario Brothers involves dying over and over again, but you donât start at the very beginning. You go again from your last checkpoint. This is the mindset that will help you use your slip-ups as growth opportunities, and Iâm showing you how on this episode.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/jenga-super-mario-brothers
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Inner child work is a healing modality that centers around recognizing and healing childhood trauma. It addresses how we may have experienced hurt or pain during different periods of our lives, which we've moved past but continue to carry with us. Taking responsibility for healing your inner child can be a beautiful way to heal who you are today.
Iâm sharing some examples of inner child healing work from my program and what to expect as you begin healing those wounds. Discover how healing your inner child doesnât just benefit you but can also heal ancestral or generational trauma and positively impact the lives of those around you too.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/intro-inner-child
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