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Ah, Twixtmas. That magical time of year when no one knows what day it is, weāre all living off leftovers, and PJs become acceptable all-day attire. Itās my absolute favourite weekā¦. but itās also the time I left the ex-husband.
December 28th. A day etched in my memory. For me, it was a whirlwind of grief, anger, relief, and uncertainty. For him? I imagine it was completely different.
And hereās the thing: that one day, that same event, was experienced completely differently by everyone involvedā¦..me, the ex, and my kids.
Thatās the thing about divorceā¦. itās never one story. Itās a million stories told through different lenses. Your version, your exās version, your kidsā version, your familyās version... and none of them will ever be the same.
This week on The Divorce Chapter podcast, Iām diving into why we all process divorce differently, how our unique lenses shape our experiences, and why itās time to stop caring what others think.
In this episode, weāre exploring:
āØ Why your version of divorce is different from anyone elseās (and why thatās okay).
āØ How our experiences are shaped by the unique lenses we see life throughā¦. our upbringing, beliefs, and relationships.
āØ Why you donāt need validation from anyone else for how you feel or the choices youāve made.
āØ How to embrace YOUR story, YOUR way, as you start writing your next chapter.This isnāt about replaying the pastā¦. itās about owning your narrative and stepping into your power. As we approach 2025, itās time to give yourself permission to stop caring what anyone else thinks and create a future thatās true to YOU.
As we head into a new year, give yourself permission to let go of the pressure to explain, justify, or validate your choices. Your story, your journey, your truth. Thatās all that matters.
Sending you strength, love, and leftover cheese this Twixtmas,
Sarah xšø
P.S. This January in the Divorce Book Club, weāre kicking off the year with Mel Robbinsā The 5 Second Rule. Itās all about taking bold action and creating a life that works for YOU.
And using the code JANUARYSALE you get it for only Ā£5 for the first month.... yes only a fiver to change your goddamn life!!!
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Itās Santa Season againā¦. the season of tinsel, turkey, and to-do lists longer than a John Lewis queue on Christmas Eve. And if youāre anything like me, youāre probably feeling the energy drain kicking in already.
Because letās face itā¦ Christmas post-divorce is a lot. Thereās the emotional rollercoaster, the endless logistics, the awkward family gatherings, and letās not forget dodging those mood hoovers who suck the life out of you faster than a hoover plugged into a turbocharger.
But hereās the thing, Christmas doesnāt have to leave you feeling like a wrung-out dishcloth. This week on the podcast, Iām diving into how to manage your energy at Christmasā¦ because protecting your peace isnāt just a nice idea, itās absolutely essential this time of year.
š§ In this episode, youāll learn:
š How to budget your energy like cash in a bank (some interactions are not worth the withdrawal)
š Hacks to deal with energy vampires/ mood hooversā¦.whether itās the nosy aunt or the ex stirring drama.
š Quick ways to recharge when youāre running on empty (no, you donāt need a week-long retreat)
š How to say āyesā and ānoā strategically so youāre not spending Christmas stretched thinner than wrapping paper.Plus, Iām sharing practical tips for managing the physical, mental, and emotional exhaustion that can creep in during the holidays. Think of it as your survival guide for keeping the season merry and not mentally exhausting.
Whether youāre dealing with chaotic schedules, nosy relatives, or just trying to make it through the holidays without a āmenty Bā (mental breakdown), Iāve got you covered.
Wishing you the best Christmas, whatever it looks like for you, and sending you SO much love,
Sarah x
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P.S. Oh, and because I know youāre putting everyone else first right now (donāt think I donāt see you š), a little reminder: this monthās Divorce Book Club pick is The Self-Care Project by Jayne Hardy. Consider it my nudge to youā¦. this Christmas, you deserve to be at the top of that list.
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Ah, Christmas. A time for joy, tinsel, turkeyā¦ and a little extra emotional chaos if youāre navigating the post-divorce version of Santa Season š
Let me guess:
The Ghost of Christmas Past is haunting you with memories of matching PJs, burnt turkeys, and that one year your ex bought you a hoover (romance is NOT dead, apparently).The Ghost of Christmas Present is waving a to-do list in your face that feels longer than Santaās nice/naughty list.And the Ghost of Christmas Future? Well, letās just say itās got you wondering if your future Christmases will involve eating microwave dinners while binge-watching Love Actually.Sound familiar? Donāt worryā¦ youāre not alone.
This week on The Divorce Chapter, Iām channeling the iconic story of A Christmas Carol to help you navigate the ghosts of your own Christmases š»
Weāre covering:
š How to deal with the bittersweet (or just downright bitter) memories of holidays past (without getting stuck there).
š Finding joy in the chaos of the present... whether thatās new traditions, bad Christmas jumpers, or eating all the Quality Street yourself.
š Reclaiming your future Christmases and designing them the way you want.... tinsel optional.Itās like Scrooge, but with fewer miserly men and more empowering tips for thriving through the divorce sh*tshow.
And because weāre all about self-care over here, donāt forget this monthās Divorce Book Club pick: The Self-Care Project by Jayne Hardy. Itās perfect for anyone whoās tired of being at the bottom of their own priority listābecause letās face it, YOU deserve to be at the top this Christmas. š Link below ā¬ļø
Sending you love, strength, and maybe an extra mince pie,
Sarah xšø
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Yep, itās that time of yearā¦. The smell of cinnamon everywhere, matching PJs (even on the dog) and Mariah on f*cking repeatā¦. but if youāre navigating Christmas post-divorce, it can feel more f*ck f*ck f*ck than ho ho ho.
I get it.
Whether itās the thought of solo family get togethers, lonely nights, or new traditions, this season hits different. But hereās the thingā¦. different doesnāt have to mean bad. In fact, it could be the start of something better.
In this episode, Iām spilling all the tea on how to surviveā¦. and even thriveā¦.. This Christmas.
Weāre talking:
š Setting boundaries with nosy family members (without losing your cool)
š Creating magical moments for your kids (even on a tight schedule or budget)
āØ Tackling loneliness with humour, self-care, and a sprinkle of sass
šŖ Starting quirky new traditionsābecause youāre now the CEO of your ChristmasIf the thought of decking the halls feels overwhelming, donāt worryā¦.Iāve got you covered.
Youāll laugh, youāll nod, and by the end, youāll feel ready to tackle the holidays on your terms. Spoiler: Itās totally okay if your Christmas involves pizza, PJs, and a movie marathon.
Iād love to hear what you thinkā¦.. If you find the episode helpful, it would mean the world to me if you left a review or shared it with someone who might need it š
Until next week please take care of you, and sending you loads of love,
Sarah x
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P.S. Donāt forget to check out Decemberās Divorce Book Club pick: The Self-Care Project by Jayne Hardy. Itās all about letting go of frazzle and making time for you ... perfect for surviving this Santa season. We started 1 December but itās never too late to catch up because all the back catalogue is there for all members ā¬ļø
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In the spirit of āSanta Season,ā this episode looks at one of the most frustrating, nerve-shredding parts of divorce: trying to communicate with the ex. Yep, the person you once shared years of conversations and traditions with now feels like a complete strangerā¦.or worse, someone who couldnāt give a sh*t about you.
And then Christmas comes along, with its extra sprinkling of chaos: holiday schedules, kidsā presents, money issues, and endless logistics. Itās a minefield wrapped in tinsel, isnāt it? But donāt worryā¦.Iāve got you covered.
This week, Iām sharing real, practical strategies to help you manage the ānew normalā of ex-communication, especially when emotions are running high. Weāll talk about:
The car screamFinding healthy outlets for your emotionsWritten communication tipsHandling narcissistic exesUsing tone and humourIf youāve ever wondered how to get through this holiday season without throwing tinsel (or a tin of Quality Street) at their head, this episode is for you.
Iād love to hear what you thinkā¦.. If you find the episode helpful, it would mean the world to me if you left a review or shared it with someone who might need it š
Until next week please take care of you, and sending you loads of love,
Sarah x
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Are you ready to ditch the numbing traps and face the emotional rollercoaster of divorce like an absolute boss?
In this episode of The Divorce Chapter, weāre going into the concept of emotional sobrietyā¦.aka your new divorce superpower.
āØ We start with a sprinkle of inspiration from Wicked in honour of the movie coming out in the UK, because, yes, even Elphaba has lessons to teach us about resilience, truth, and rising above the BS (hello, narcissistic wizards š). And who doesnāt need a little āDefying Gravityā energy in their life?
Then we get real about the traps we fall into post-divorceā¦.wine oāclock, emotional eating, doom scrolling, and retail therapy, anyone? šāāļø
But unfortunately numbing out doesnāt heal the painā¦.it just presses pause. So, how do we stop?
Iām breaking down the practical steps for emotional sobriety that will help you feel ALL the feels, process them, and come out stronger on the other side.
PLUS, Iāve got tips to survive Santa season š a time when emotions can hit harder than a tin of Quality Street to the face.
If youāve ever turned to wine, TikTok, or Maltesers to numb the pain (no shade, weāve all been there), this episode is for you.
Emotional sobriety isnāt easy, but itās the ultimate glow-up tool for moving forward after divorce.
Letās rebuild, one healthy step at a time. Youāve got this, my love. š
Iād love to hear what you thinkā¦.. If you find the episode helpful, it would mean the world to me if you left a review or shared it with someone who might need it. š
Until next week please take care of you, and sending you loads of love,
Sarah x
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P.S. For December in the book club, weāre doing a self-care book. I know that Christmas might feel super f*cking toughā¦. Especially if itās your first one after divorce.
So this book looks to be a good oneā¦. Especially as its tagline is āhow to let go of frazzle and make time for youā. Which we all need in Santa Season right?!
You can check it out here:
http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1409177580/ref=nosim?tag=thedivorceb00-21
If you have any questions about the book club do let me know, and in the meantime Iāll leave the link here ā¬ļø
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Divorce can feel like a battlefield, but nothing cuts deeper than when an ex manipulates your own children to turn them against you.
In this follow-up episode of The Divorce Chapter, weāre tackling one of the most painful and complex issues in high-conflict divorcesāwhen your ex uses your own children as weapons.
Last week, we talked about exes who manipulate family and friends. This week, weāre diving deep into the heartbreaking reality of parental alienation.
Parental alienation is when one parent manipulates the children into rejecting, distrusting, or emotionally distancing themselves from the other parent.
This episode breaks down what parental alienation looks like, the emotional damage it causes, and how to navigate the devastating toll it takes on you and your relationship with your kidsāwhether theyāre young children or adults.
I share insights on:
šøRecognising subtle and overt manipulation tactics that your ex might use to create loyalty conflicts.
šøHow younger children and adult children experience and internalise alienation differently, and how each age group may react.
šøPractical strategies for rebuilding trust with your children, staying consistent in your love, and finding ways to counteract the alienation.
If youāre dealing with an ex whoās working to turn your own children against you, this episode is a must have for crucial advice on protecting your relationship with your kids, and most importantly, maintaining your own mental and emotional health.
Iād love to hear what you thinkā¦.. If you find the episode helpful, it would mean the world to me if you left a review or shared it with someone who might need it. š
Until next week please take care of you, and sending you loads of love,
Sarah x
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Welcome back to The Divorce Chapter where we rewrite the divorce plot twist āļø
In this episode, weāre tackling something that can make divorce feel like a never-ending battleā¦.when your ex tries to turn family, friends, and mutual acquaintances against you.
Divorce is hard enough, but dealing with an ex who manipulates those around you takes it to a whole new level. This episode is all about understanding these toxic tactics and finding ways to protect yourself.
Weāll cover:
- Flying Monkeys: Just like in The Wizard of Oz, these are people your ex recruits to spread misinformation, manipulate, or guilt-trip you, often without knowing the full picture.
- Triangulation: How your ex might play people off each other, creating sides to keep you isolated and confused.
- How to Spot the Tactics: Recognising when family or friends suddenly become distant, share personal details they shouldnāt know, or start relaying your exās narrative.
- Steps to Protect Yourself: From setting boundaries and documenting everything to emotionally detaching from the drama, I share practical strategies to regain your peace and strength.
If youāre facing an ex whoās manipulating the people around you, this episode will help you recognise these tactics, protect your mental health, and take back your power.
And next week, weāre diving into Part 2 on managing things when your ex turns the kids against you. Donāt miss it!
I hope the episode is useful for you.
And whilst weāre talking empowerment weāre a couple of chapters in to Novemberās book over in the Divorce Book Club.
How to Heal a Broken Heart: From Rock Bottom to Reinvention *via ugly crying on the bathroom floor, by Rosie Green š
You can check out the book here:
http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B08GG7BC79/ref=nosim?tag=thedivorceb00-21
This is the story of Rosie's own divorce shitshow interspersed with advice, book recommendations and sprinkled throughout with humour.
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I bloody love it so far!Iād love to have you join us for this one. Itās never too late to join as all the back catalogue of episodes are available to all members š
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Do let me know if you want any more details about the book club - or indeed about anything divorce/break-up related.
Until next week then you absolute QUEEN š sending you loads of love,
Sarah x
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Hello Queen š
Have you ever found yourself obsessing over someone?
Youāre not alone.
This week on The Divorce Chapter podcast, Iām diving into a topic that many of us have experienced but may not fully understand: limerence.
Limerence is that intense, almost obsessive desire for someone, often built on fantasy rather than reality, and it can seriously mess with your emotional healing after a divorce.
In this episode, I break down:
- What limerence is and how it differs from love. Spoiler alert: itās not love; itās obsession
- How limerence shows up after divorce.
- Why we get stuck in these patterns.
- 9 steps to break free from limerence.
If youāre struggling to move on from an ex or find yourself idealising someone new, this episode will help you understand whyāand give you the tools to start healing.
These are the links to my references in the episode
Love and Limerence by OG Dorothy Tennov:
http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/0812862864/ref=nosim?tag=thedivorceb00-21
Dr L/ Dr Tom Bellamyās website and book Living with Limerence:https://livingwithlimerence.com/what-is-limerence/
http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B085RN5XGS/ref=nosim?tag=thedivorceb00-21
And whilst weāre talking empowerment through the shitshow, weāve chosen Novemberās book over in the Divorce Book Club.
How to Heal a Broken Heart: From Rock Bottom to Reinvention *via ugly crying on the bathroom floor, by Rosie Green š
You can check out the book here:
http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B08GG7BC79/ref=nosim?tag=thedivorceb00-21
This is the story of Rosie's own divorce shitshow interspersed with advice, book recommendations and sprinkled throughout with humour.
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I CANāT WAIT!Iād love to have you join us for this one š
We start on 1 November š
Link to join below ā¬ļø
Do let me know if you want any more details about the book club - or indeed about anything divorce/break-up related.
Until next week then you absolute QUEEN š sending you loads of love,
Sarah x
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Hello and welcome to this weekās episode where Iām super delighted to introduce you to Amanda Bell.
Amanda is a divorce lawyer by background, and with her co-founder Victoria, has created an AMAZING, affordable platform designed to help you navigate the entire divorce process with confidence and clarity. Whether youāre facing legal challenges, co-parenting with a high-conflict ex, or trying to get a handle on your finances, Separate Space offers expert guidance every step of the way.
You can check out Separate Space website here: https://www.separatespace.co.uk/
And their Instagram here:https://www.instagram.com/separatespace/
In the episode we go into:
- The concept behind Separate Space: an accessible tool designed to empower individuals with the information and resources they need to navigate divorce.
- Why divorce impacts every part of your life, not just the legal side, and how the Separate Space platform helps manage both the emotional and practical aspects of the process.
- How Separate Space offers a personalised pathway for your unique divorce journey, helping you handle everything from financial planning to co-parenting dynamics, even if you canāt afford one-to-one legal advice right now.
- The importance of understanding your financial situation, why pensions matter, and how to protect yourself legally during a separation.
- Amanda's advice for anyone facing a sudden or complex divorce: get informed, take control, and donāt rush into decisions without understanding the long-term impact.
I honestly canāt recommend this platform enough - I WISH Iād had something like thisā¦. It really is a torch in the divorce shitstorm š¦
Check out the episode to hear all about Separate Space and how this may help you š©·
And whilst weāre talking empowerment through the shitshow, weāve chosen Novemberās book over in the Divorce Book Club.
How to Heal a Broken Heart: From Rock Bottom to Reinvention *via ugly crying on the bathroom floor, by Rosie Green š
You can check out the book here:
http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B08GG7BC79/ref=nosim?tag=thedivorceb00-21
This is the story of Rosie's own divorce shitshow interspersed with advice, book recommendations and sprinkled throughout with humour.
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I CANāT WAIT!Iād love to have you join us for this one š
We start on 1 November š
Link to join below ā¬ļø
Do let me know if you want any more details about the book club - or indeed about anything divorce/break-up related.
Until next week then you absolute QUEEN š sending you loads of love,
Sarah x
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In this episode, Iām unpacking what a trauma bond is, how they form, andāmost importantlyāhow you can break free from one.
If youāve ever felt trapped in a toxic relationship where you know itās bad for you but you just canāt seem to let go, this episode is for you. Trauma bonds are emotional ties that form in abusive relationships, keeping you hooked even when you know itās hurting you.
Weāre going to talk about:
- What a trauma bond actually is (think emotional addiction).
- How they develop through a cycle of abuse and reconciliation.
- Why breaking free is SO hard, but also absolutely necessary.
Iāll walk you through seven steps to start untangling yourself from a trauma bond, from creating physical and emotional distance, to rebuilding your self-worth, and even rewiring your brain to break the addictive cycle. Weāll also touch on how to grieve the loss of the relationship, and why sometimes we need professional help to get through it.
If youāve been struggling to let go of a toxic ex, this is your episode. I promise, youāre not alone, and with the right tools and mindset, you can move on and reclaim your life.
Iād love to hear what you thinkā¦.. If you find the episode helpful, it would mean the world to me if you left a review or shared it with someone who might need it. š
Until next week please take care of you, and sending you loads of love,
Sarah x
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In honour of World Mental Health Day on 10 October 2024 and the theme of:
āIt is time to prioritise mental health in the workplaceā
In this weekās episode, weāre looking at a topic that doesnāt get nearly enough attention: how divorce can impact your work and career.
If youāve ever felt like youāre expected to just "keep going" at work while dealing with the emotional shitshow of a breakup, youāre not alone.
In this episode, I talk about:
š©āš¼Why divorce grief should NOT be so absent from compassionate leave policies
š©āš¼How to manage your mental health during and after divorce while still holding down a job
š©āš¼The long-term effects divorce can have on your careerāand how to overcome them
š©āš¼How divorce can actually be a catalyst for career reinvention too
We all know that divorce is tough enough on its own without the added pressure of having to show up and perform at work as if everything is fine.I share my personal experience and some practical tips on how to cope with the emotional fallout of divorce, especially when youāre expected to āpush throughā at work.
If youāve ever wondered how to set boundaries, ask for support, or use this life-changing event as an opportunity for professional growth, this episode is for you!
Iād love to hear what you thinkā¦.. If you find the episode helpful, it would mean the world to me if you left a review or shared it with someone who might need it. š
Take care of yourself, and rememberāyour mental health comes first.
And whilst weāre all about becoming even more badassā¦. Weāve started Octoberās book over in the Divorce Book Club.
How to Feel Better: 4 Steps to Self-Coach your way to a Happier, more Authentic Life, by Ruth Kudzi.
You can check out the book here:
http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1801292582/ref=nosim?tag=thedivorceb00-21
Ruth is an amazing Coach who Iāve met and she just has SO Much knowledge ā¤ļø
Iād love to have you join us š
We started on 1 October but itās NEVER too late to join as the whole back catalogue is available for all members š
Link to join below ā¬ļø
Do let me know if you want any more details about the book club - or indeed about anything divorce/break-up related.
Until next week then you absolute QUEEN š sending you loads of love,
Sarah x
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If youāve ever felt lost, wondering āWho am I now?ā after your marriage ended, trust meā¦youāre not alone. Letās be real: divorce can shake us to our core, leaving us feeling like weāve lost sight of who we truly are. We spend years filling roles like āwife,ā āmother,ā or even āperfect partner,ā and often forget the badass woman we once were.
But hereās the good news: divorce is your chance to reinvent yourself, and in this episode, Iām diving deep into exactly how to do that.
We explore how to shed the labels that no longer serve you and embrace the most empowered, authentic version of yourself. Iām talking about stepping into your new identity with confidence and fierceness, like BeyoncĆ© stepping into Sasha Fierce š„
Iāll guide you through visualising the highest version of yourself, creating your very own alter ego to embody that badass queen inside you, and showing up as her in every aspect of your life. This is about more than just "moving on"...itās about reclaiming your power, rewriting your narrative, and building a future that excites you.
So buckle up, and letās learn to be it until you see it, transforming your post-divorce life into the best chapter yet.
And whilst weāre all about becoming even more badassā¦. Weāve started Octoberās book over in the Divorce Book Club.
How to Feel Better: 4 Steps to Self-Coach your way to a Happier, more Authentic Life, by Ruth Kudzi.
You can check out the book here:
http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1801292582/ref=nosim?tag=thedivorceb00-21
Ruth is an amazing Coach who Iāve met and she just has SO Much knowledge ā¤ļø
Iād love to have you join us. We started on 4 October but itās NEVER too late to join as the whole back catalogue is available for all members š
Link to join below ā¬ļø
Do let me know if you want any more details about the book club - or indeed about anything divorce/break-up related.
Until next week then you absolute QUEEN š sending you loads of love,
Sarah x
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In this weekās episode of the Divorce Chapter, I dive deep into the topic of emotional affairs and the āsilentā betrayal. While physical affairs often steal the spotlight, 'invisible' emotional betrayal can be just as devastating, if not more so.
I explore how these affairs often start as innocent friendships, slowly evolving into something more significant, ultimately crossing boundaries of trust and intimacy. Weāll discuss the signs of an emotional affair, the betrayal it represents, and the lasting impact it can have.
But most importantly, I focus on how we can heal after discovering an emotional affair. If youāve walked away from a cheating partner, I share tools for validating your emotions, rebuilding trust in yourself, and creating a new future. Whether itās self-compassion, setting boundaries, or finding closure within yourself, healing is possibleāand Iām here to guide you through the process.
Letās talk about reclaiming your power, because you deserve better š
And whilst weāre all about turning divorce into our superpowerā¦. Weāve chosen Octoberās book over in the Divorce Book Club.
How to Feel Better: 4 Steps to Self-Coach your way to a Happier, more Authentic Life, by Ruth Kudzi.
You can check out the book here:
http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1801292582/ref=nosim?tag=thedivorceb00-21
Ruth is an amazing Coach who Iāve met and she just has SO Much knowledge ā¤ļø
Iād love to have you join us š
We start on 1 October.
Link to join below ā¬ļø
Do let me know if you want any more details about the book club - or indeed about anything divorce/break-up related.
Until next week then you absolute QUEEN š sending you loads of love,
Sarah x
šø
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Have you ever felt like youāre stuck in a loop after your divorce? Replaying the past over and over again? Wondering why itās so hard to let go and move forward?
In this episode, I get real about the emotional and psychological blocks we face post-divorceāfear of loneliness, guilt, shame, and that never-ending āwhat ifā thinking.
Iāve been there, too. I know how hard it can be to stop reliving the past and start embracing the future. Thatās why Iām diving deep into why these blocks happen and, more importantly, how to kick them to the curb so you can truly move on.
Hereās what you can expect from this episode:
- The fear of being alone and why it keeps us clinging to the past
- How guilt and shame show up and block our growth
- The āwhat ifā trap and why it makes moving on feel impossible
- Practical tools like cord cutting and mindset shifts to help you reclaim your life
Iād love to hear your thoughts after you listen! Do let me know which block resonates with you the most, and what youāre doing to overcome it. Weāre all in this together, and Iām here to support you every step of the way.
I hope you take something away from the episode, and please, if you do enjoy it, please please please help a gal out and rate and review the episode! Thank you š„°
And if youāre wanting to go even more into clearing what holds us back, why not check out Octoberās book in the Divorce Book Club: How to Feel Better: 4 Steps to Self-Coach your way to a Happier, more Authentic Life, by Ruth Kudzi.
You can check out the book here:
http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1801292582/ref=nosim?tag=thedivorceb00-21
Ruth is an amazing Coach who Iāve met and she just has SO Much knowledge ā¤ļø
The book blurb states:
When we feel broken we look to be fixed, we consume books, have therapy, diet, whatever it takes! BUT true self development is not about being 'fixed' it's about accepting the parts of yourself and then enhancing who we already are.
Focusing on evidence-based approaches, Ruth will teach you how to not just read about, but truly integrate personal development work. She'll take you through 4 key questions that encourage both self-reflection and include action-oriented tasks that will help you create sustainable results.
1. What do you want?
2. Where are you now?
3. How do you get to where you want to be?
4. How do you stay there?
Iād love to see you over there š
We start on 1 October.
Link to join below ā¬ļø
Do let me know if you want any more details about the book club - or indeed about anything divorce/break-up related.
Until next week then you absolute QUEEN š sending you loads of love,
Sarah x
šø
THE DIVORCE BOOK CLUB
https://patreon.com/thedivorcebookclub
FREE Guide to the 10 MUST read divorce books after divorce
https://thedivorcebookclub.com/free-resources/
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OK so this week is a bit of a hopefully powerful, but definitely no-holds-barred conversation about reclaiming your strength and exposing male privilege in relationships. I may go ever so slightly off-piste on my soapbox (!) but I genuinely feel that it is important that we talk about this stuff.
We talk in the episode about how male privilege impacts not just relationships, but society as a whole. What are the āmodernā views on gender norms? And what does this mean for power and control of women? We touch on issues like the rise of the "trad wife" trend and how societal shifts still struggle to break free from patriarchal values.
Using the Power and Control Wheel, we look at the influence of male privilege in abusive dynamics and how this can fuel this control over women - but also how this is almost facilitated by our societal culture.
As a bit of an intro to all of this, we also touch on why Friday the 13th is secretly a day of female power (and how to reclaim it!) š
Whether youāre navigating the challenges of divorce, supporting a friend through it, or simply interested in a bit of thought-provoking conversation on how women can reclaim their power, challenge traditional roles, and rewrite their stories, especially post-divorce, this episode offers some insights into recognising different forms of control and inspiring women to take charge of their lives with confidence.
This is an example of the Power and Control Wheel:
https://www.norfolk.gov.uk/article/43699/Power-and-control-wheel
Also, as always, please please please do seek the proper support:
Women's Aid: Offers support services and a directory of local domestic abuse services.
https://www.womensaid.org.uk/
Refuge: Provides emergency housing, support, and advocacy for women and children escaping domestic violence.
https://refuge.org.uk/
National Domestic Abuse Helpline: A 24-hour helpline offering confidential support and advice.
https://www.nationaldahelpline.org.uk/contact-us/
These are all UK based ones but please do look out for support services in the country/State you are in.
I hope you take something away from the episode, and please, if you do enjoy it, please please please help a gal out and rate and review the episode! Thank you š„°
And if youāre wanting to go even more into taking back our power and owning our independence, why not check out Septemberās book (Getting Past your Breakup by Susan J Elliott) in the Divorce Book Club; the link is down below ā¬ļø
Do let me know if you want any more details about the book club - or indeed about anything divorce/break-up related.
Until next week then you absolute QUEEN š sending you loads of love,
Sarah x
šø
THE DIVORCE BOOK CLUB
https://patreon.com/thedivorcebookclub
FREE Guide to the 10 MUST read divorce books after divorce
https://thedivorcebookclub.com/free-resources/
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Ever wish you could rewrite the past? Sadly, we canāt turn back time, but we can definitely rewrite our futureāand thatās exactly what weāre diving into today.
In this episode, I break down Dr. Ramani Durvasulaās game-changing book, āItās Not Youā. This book is an absolute MUST-read if youāve ever found yourself tangled up with a narcissist, whether itās an ex, a parent, or even a boss.
In this overview of the book, we pull out the different types of narcissism, and look at how to identify these toxic traits; as well as the devastating impact they can have, and most importantly, how to reclaim your life.
If youāre ready to stop playing the narcissistās game and start writing your own story, this episode is for you.
I hope you take something away from the episode, and please, if you do enjoy it, please please please help a gal out and rate and review the episode! Thank you š„°
And if youāre wanting to go deeper into this book or any of the past books - plus get VIP access to Septemberās book (Getting Past your Breakup by Susan J Elliott) the link is down below ā¬ļø
Do let me know if you want any more details about the book club - or indeed about anything divorce/break-up related.
Until next week then, sending you loads of love,
Sarah x
šø
THE DIVORCE BOOK CLUB
https://patreon.com/thedivorcebookclub
FREE Guide to the 10 MUST read divorce books after divorce
https://thedivorcebookclub.com/free-resources/
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After a divorce, many of us expect the worst of our emotional struggles to be over. But, as I've come to understand through my own journey and conversations with others, the first relationship after a divorce can bring a heartbreak thatās unexpected and uniquely f*cking painful.
In this episode, I dive into why this post-divorce heartbreak can feel even more intense than the divorce itself. I explore the emotional layers involved, from unresolved trauma to the pressures we put on ourselves to find happiness again. Most importantly, I discuss ways to navigate this pain and use it as a catalyst for healing and growth.
I hope you take something away from the episode, and please, if you do enjoy it, please please please help a gal out and rate and review the episode! Thank you š„°
And if youāre ready for next level healing and truly turning the divorce plot twist into a magical happily ever after, why not come and join us in the Divorce Book Clubā¦.
We start Septemberās book on 1 September but all back episodes are there for all members to catch up if you need it.
So Septemberās book isā¦.. (drum roll)
Getting Past your Breakup: How to Turn a Devastating Loss into the Best Thing That Ever Happened to You by Susan J Elliott.
http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/0738213284/ref=nosim?tag=thedivorceb00-21
The blurb says:
Itās overāand it really hurts. But as unbelievable as it may seem when you are in the throes of heartache, you can move past your breakup. Forget about trying to win your ex back. Forget about losing yourself and trying to make this person love you. Forget it! Starting today, this breakup is the best time to change your life for the better, inside and out.
Getting Past Your Breakup is a proven roadmap for overcoming the painful end of any romantic relationship, even divorce. Through her workshops and popular blog, Susan Elliott has helped thousands of clients and readers transform their love lives. Now, sheāll help you put your energy back where it belongsāon you. Her plan includes:
ā¢ The rules of disengagement: how and why to go āno contactā with your ex
ā¢ How to work through grief, move past fear, and take back your life
ā¢ The secret to breaking the pattern of failed relationships
ā¢ What to do when you canāt stop thinking about your ex, texting, calling, checking social networking sites, or driving by the houseNow, THAT sounds like a super build to me! Do let me know if you want any more details about the book club - or indeed about anything divorce/break-up related.
The link to join etc. is also below ā¬ļø
Until next week then, sending you loads of love,
Sarah x
šø
THE DIVORCE BOOK CLUB
https://patreon.com/thedivorcebookclub
FREE Guide to the 10 MUST read divorce books after divorce
https://thedivorcebookclub.com/free-resources/
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In this episode of "The Divorce Chapter" podcast, I reflect on the challenges of coping with anniversaries after a divorce. As someone who's been through the utter shitshow of a marriage ending, I know first-hand how difficult these days can be, especially in that first year.
Anniversaries, such as your wedding date or other significant milestones shared with your ex, can bring a FLOOD of emotionsāsadness, anger, or even a sense of loss for the future you once planned.
I delve into why these dates are so emotionally charged, and how they can trigger feelings of grief and nostalgia. I also share my own experiences with significant anniversaries, like how I dealt with my first wedding anniversary post-divorce by escaping to Cyprus and then making a decision to change my goddamn life.
Hopefully youāll be able to get a few ideas too about how to plan ahead to reclaim the date and reclaim gorgeous YOU ā¤ļø
In the episode, I also celebrate a new anniversary - the first one of this podcast. I never ever thought Iād be saying that but here we are and itās all thanks to you as a wonderful listener.
Thank you thank you thank you š„°
Hereās to another year of our next chapter šø
So much love,
Sarah x
P.S. Weāve also chosen Septemberās book over in the Divorce Book Club.
Getting Past your Breakup by Susan J Elliott has cropped up on my TBR list for the book club several times so it must be a sign š
The blurb says:
Itās overāand it really hurts. But as unbelievable as it may seem when you are in the throes of heartache, you can move past your breakup. Forget about trying to win your ex back. Forget about losing yourself and trying to make this person love you. Forget it! Starting today, this breakup is the best time to change your life for the better, inside and out.
You can check out the book here:
http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/0738213284/ref=nosim?tag=thedivorceb00-21
Iād love to see you over there šWe start 1 September.
Link to join below ā¬ļø
THE DIVORCE BOOK CLUB
https://patreon.com/thedivorcebookclub
FREE Guide to the 10 MUST read divorce books after divorce
https://thedivorcebookclub.com/free-resources/
INSTAGRAM
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In this episode, I look into the often-overlooked signs of abuse in relationships (after touching on Betrayal Blindness too). Abuse isn't always obvious; it can be subtle, manipulative, and deeply damaging. Thatās why Iāve highlighted 15 key indicators that you or someone you know might be in an abusive relationship.
1. Physical Violence
2. Verbal Abuse
3. Emotional Manipulation (plus DARVO explained)
4. Isolation
5. Control
6. Jealousy
7. Blame Shifting
8. Intimidation.
9. Financial Abuse
10. Sexual Abuse
11. Gaslighting
12. Threats
13. Punishing Behaviour
14. Digital/Technology Abuse
15. Unpredictable Behaviour
Each of these signs is a red flag in a relationship and can lead to a destructive cycle of abuse. My aim in this episode is to help recognise the signs and the patterns, whether thatās in your own relationships or in those around you. I really want to empower listeners to identify and break free from these harmful dynamics.
But I do know itās not easy to get out and I also know that post separation abuse is another added worryā¦. So please please please do seek the proper support:
Women's Aid: Offers support services and a directory of local domestic abuse services.https://www.womensaid.org.uk/
Refuge: Provides emergency housing, support, and advocacy for women and children escaping domestic violence.
https://refuge.org.uk/
National Domestic Abuse Helpline: A 24-hour helpline offering confidential support and advice.
https://www.nationaldahelpline.org.uk/contact-us/
These are all UK based ones but please do look out for support services in the country/State you are in.And also, this month in the Divorce Book Club we are reading Itās Not You: How to Identify and Heal from Narcissistic People by Dr Ramani Durvasula. Dr Ramani is an expert in narcissistic abuse (including non-intimate relationships like a parent or your boss) and this book is also amazing for highlighting abuse in relationships. You can check out the book here:
http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1785045024/ref=nosim?tag=thedivorceb00-21
Iād love to see you over there š
We started 1 August (but itās never too late to join as access to all previous books and chapters available to all members)
Link to join below ā¬ļø
So until next week,
Sending you SO much love and please take care of you
Sarah x
šø
THE DIVORCE BOOK CLUB
https://patreon.com/thedivorcebookclub
FREE Guide to the 10 MUST read divorce books after divorce
https://thedivorcebookclub.com/free-resources/
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