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In this episode we discuss the emotional, legal, and logistical hurdles of coexisting with your ex-partner whilst waiting for property settlement. We share practical strategies for setting boundaries, sorting money, protecting your safety, and planning for the next steps in your separation. Whether youāre navigating this situation temporarily or for the foreseeable future, this episode provides actionable insights to help you surviveāand hopefully also thrive. Disclaimer: This podcast provides general legal education and is not a substitute for independent legal advice. Always consult a qualified lawyer for guidance tailored to your situation.
Listen to This Episode If You:
š Are living with your ex-partner post-separation.
ā Need guidance on setting emotional and physical boundaries in the shared space.
š” Want tips on co-parenting and managing household finances in the short term.
š” Are worried about coercive control or financial abuse.
š Are preparing for the next steps in your separation or divorce journey.
Key Topics Discussed in This Episode:
Setting Boundaries:
How to create physical and emotional space in a shared home.
Tips for minimizing conflict and maintaining privacy.
Legal Considerations:
Can your ex legally force you out of the home?
When family violence orders may apply and what to do if you feel unsafe.
Communication Strategies:
Managing discussions to avoid unnecessary conflict.
Protecting yourself by communicating like a judge is watching.
Financial Management:
Dividing household expenses fairly and preparing for financial independence.
Understanding spousal maintenance and consent orders during separation.
Co-Parenting While Living Together:
Creating a parenting schedule to avoid misunderstandings.
Protecting your time with your kids from manipulative behaviors.
Emotional and Practical Self-Care:
Building routines to maintain mental well-being.
Seeking support from friends, professionals, or community groups.
Preparing for the Next Steps:
Documenting assets and financial information.
Consulting a lawyer
a safety plan for the future.
Safety Considerations:
Recognizing signs of coercive control and financial abuse.
Creating and implementing a safety plan if the situation becomes unsafe.
Links & Resources Mentioned:
Separation Under One Roof Doās and Donāts
Does Family Violence Affect Property Settlement?
Episode: Income, Expenses, and Property Settlement Tips
Mortgages and Divorce
Episode: Recognizing Coercive Control in Relationships
Free Resources:
Checklist for Before You Leave - www.thedivorcecourse.com.au
Word Salad Checklist
Emergency Contacts:
WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE: Call 1800 811 811
LEGAL AID: Visit Legal Aid
Lifeline: Call 13 11 14 for 24/7 crisis support and counseling.
Mensline Australia: Call 1300 789 978 for confidential support for men.
Kids Help Line: Call 1800 551 800 for young people needing help.
National Domestic Violence Hotline (1800 RESPECT): Call 1800 737 732
Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123
DV Connect Womenās Line: 1800 811 811
National DV Hotline (1800 RESPECT): 1800 737 732
00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview
00:43 Legal Disclaimer and Jingle
01:44 Living Under One Roof: Challenges and Boundaries
03:32 Physical and Emotional Safety in Divorce
05:33 Communication and Legal Precautions during separation
07:39 Financial Manipulation and Consent Orders in Divorce
09:35 Spousal Maintenance and Financial Independence after separation
16:05 Co-Parenting Strategies during separation
19:26 Managing Finances During Separation
26:16 Navigating Separation Under One Roof
26:41 Handling Financial Responsibilities during divorce
28:04 Dealing with Conflict and Court Warnings in Divorce
33:42 Prioritizing Self-Care and New Routines during divorce
36:05 Preparing for Property Settlement and Children's Matters
42:43 Safety Considerations and Creating a Safety Plan for Divorce
47:56 Final Thoughts and Encouragement
Final Thoughts:
This episode offers both practical and emotional tips for anyone facing the challenge of living under one roof with their ex. Learn how to set boundaries, protect yourself, and plan for your future. Youāre not aloneāhelp and support are available to guide you through this difficult time.Disclaimer: This podcast provides general legal education and is not a substitute for independent legal advice. Always consult a qualified lawyer for guidance tailored to your situation.
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What happens to the car during a divorce in the short and long term? Laura and Lynette a Family Law Specialist breaks down the practical and legal considerations for handling your cars during separation in the short term and in property settlement for the long term. From ensuring your safety to avoiding dirty tricks, they offer tips and education to help you stay in control of this often-overlooked asset and issue. Disclaimer: This podcast provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for independent legal advice. Always consult a qualified lawyer for guidance tailored to your situation.
Listen to This Episode If You:
š” Need strategies to protect your car from manipulative tactics.
š Are unsure how cars are treated in property settlements in Australia.
ā Have questions about ownership vs. registration during a divorce.
š” Are navigating financial issues like loans, debts, and repossession.
š Are dealing with a high-conflict ex whoās using your car as leverage.
Key Topics Discussed:
Ownership vs. Registration
Does the name on the registration determine ownership?
How the Family Court views cars as part of the property pool
Practical Tips for Temporary Arrangements
Sharing car use before final orders.
Handling registration, insurance, and repair costs during separation.
Safety Measures
Securing spare keys and checking for tracking devices.
Protecting toll account privacy and monitoring unusual activity.
Dirty Tricks and How to Handle Them
Preventing your ex from reporting the car as stolen.
Safeguarding against unpaid loans, canceled insurance, or unauthorized sales.
Property Settlement and Cars
How cars are valued and treated in the division of assets.
What happens with leased or inherited vehicles.
Long-Term Decisions
Deciding whether to keep, sell, or downgrade your car post-settlement.
Using cars as leverage in negotiations and mediation.
Emotional and Legal Considerations
Coping with the emotional impact of losing a car.
Documenting the carās condition to protect yourself legally.
Links & Resources Mentioned:
Episode: Untangling Property Settlement Valueshttps://open.spotify.com/episode/6TsVIfGubFR8lCP7Za9fJL?si=7nqAgGSORRarcVo1cyfMkA
Episode: Untangling your Finances Property Settlement https://open.spotify.com/episode/1kzPgQeof2iUXhRBivXxOR?si=89dNLNQEQvWPTaVjidN7Bg 19.54
Episode: Income, Expenditures, and Shared Expenses in Divorce
https://youtu.be/6i6EA_92_8U?si=dg7o2sTsdP6KGev- 5:54 time slot
Episode Balancing the unbalanced
https://open.spotify.com/episode/1YbIll7Ti69WGd9OpbmjDb?si=HRNnqhH5R22RJOiQn7b3rg 6:57
Episode: Coercive Control putting your experience in writing https://open.spotify.com/episode/6Ci0M4DqznBf1L1kcZM3vY?si=NHbWlHLaSrunzk2G2xwZ-w 10,01
I really want to keep the house https://open.spotify.com/episode/6TzW9skKgvO8fjm0gcFPRg?si=9r4e9ar6Rl6QMTCmLKAd0Q 34.57
Tools to Protect Yourself:
ARC App - https://www.arc-app.org.au/resources
Empower You App
PPSR - https://www.ppsr.gov.au/registering/decide-if-you-should-register-ppsr/why-register-ppsr
Free Resources:
Word Salad Checklist https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/wordsaladchecklist
Mediation Checklist
Before You Go Checklist
Emergency Contacts:
WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE: Call 1800 811 811
LEGAL AID: Visit Legal Aid
Lifeline: Call 13 11 14 for 24/7 crisis support and counseling.
Mensline Australia: Call 1300 789 978 for confidential support for men.
Kids Help Line: Call 1800 551 800 for young people needing help.
National Domestic Violence Hotline (1800 RESPECT): Call 1800 737 732
Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123
DV Connect Womenās Line: 1800 811 811
National DV Hotline (1800 RESPECT): 1800 737 732
Disclaimer: This podcast provides general legal education and is not a substitute for independent legal advice. Always consult a qualified lawyer for guidance tailored to your situation.
00:00 Introduction: Navigating Car Issues in Divorce & De Facto Separation
01:41 Ownership vs. Registration: What You Need to Know
03:22 Temporary Arrangements: Practical Tips
05:19 Safety Concerns: Protecting Yourself and Your Car
08:20 Financial Manipulation: Recognizing Dirty Tricks
18:31 Legal Considerations: Court's Role in Car Settlements
21:36 Final Thoughts and Resources
22:46 Court Orders and Vehicle Transfers
23:58 Handling Debts and Loans
25:26 Understanding Car Leases
28:43 Valuing Vehicles in Settlements
32:12 Protecting Yourself Legally and Emotionally
36:59 Final Thoughts and Advice
#DivorceAndCars #DivorceTips #PropertySettlement #CoParentingChallenges
#DivorceSupport #AssetDivision #HighConflictDivorce #FamilyLaw #DivorceStrategy #FinancialAbuse #CoerciveControl #DivorceCoaching #ProtectYourAssets #LegalHelp #DivorceJourney
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Are you dealing with a manipulative or narcissistic type ex during your divorce? Is your ex lying to everyone during your divorce? In this episode, Laura and Lynette use Brandolini's Lawāthe concept that it takes much more effort to refute lies than to create themāand explore how it applies to family law. With practical strategies and actionable tips, they unpack how to deal with false allegations, overwhelming legal tactics, and post-separation abuse. Whether youāre facing mediation, legal letters, or the courtroom, this episode is packed with strategies to help you stay organized, conserve energy, and protect your peace.
Disclaimer: This podcast provides general legal education and is not a substitute for independent legal advice. Always consult a qualified lawyer for guidance tailored to your situation.
Listen to This Episode If You:
š Are dealing with a narcissistic or manipulative ex during divorce.
ā Feel overwhelmed by false allegations or legal or post separation abuse.
š” Want to learn strategies to document and disprove lies effectively.
š” Are struggling to conserve your energy and stay focused during legal battles.
š Need tools to manage post-separation abuse in mediation or court.
Key Topics Discussed in This Episode:
Understanding Brandoliniās Law:
The principle that it takes significantly more effort to refute lies than to create them.
How this applies to family law and dealing with false allegations.
Steeling Yourself for Narcissistic Tactics:
How to prepare mentally and emotionally for lies and manipulations.
Why expecting the unexpected can give you the upper hand.
Conserving Energy and Focus:
Tips for using your time and resources wisely when faced with endless false claims.
The importance of documenting everything from the start.
Proving Credibility:
Demonstrating that your ex is an unreliable witness.
Why detailed documentation and evidence are critical for the court.
Navigating Mediation and Court:
Strategies for dealing with falsehoods in affidavits and mediation sessions.
How to choose your battles based on the stage of your case.
Self-Care During Legal Battles:
Managing the emotional toll of post-separation abuse.
Creating a safe space for yourself and your children.
Links & Resources Mentioned:
Free Resources:
Word Salad Checklist https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/wordsaladchecklist
Mediation Checklist
Before You Go Checklist
Recommended Episodes:
Mind Over Manipulation: The Grey Rock Technique
https://youtu.be/bXEV6LJPQR8?si=KdJ5xzP9tR1vea46
How to Read a Legal Letter Like a Lawyer https://youtu.be/4BebPATCgLc?si=3ID87tAoQXRb5KZ3
Navigating Post-Separation Abuse
https://youtu.be/YALj5wsoe6k?si=2OW7tnlGWErAljap
Court Conveyor Belt: What to Expect
https://youtu.be/ZgK7ExIgOfk?si=4_yT8CHeZATSAOos
Emergency Contacts:
WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE: Call 1800 811 811
LEGAL AID: Visit Legal Aid
Lifeline: Call 13 11 14 for 24/7 crisis support and counseling.
Mensline Australia: Call 1300 789 978 for confidential support for men.
Kids Help Line: Call 1800 551 800 for young people needing help.
National Domestic Violence Hotline (1800 RESPECT): Call 1800 737 732
Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123
Final Thoughts:
Navigating lies and manipulations during divorce is exhausting, but you donāt have to do it alone. With the right strategies and support, you can overcome these tactics and come out stronger. Remember, organization and preparation are your best tools. Take it one step at a timeāyouāve got this.Disclaimer: This podcast provides general legal education and is not a substitute for independent legal advice. Always consult a qualified lawyer for guidance tailored to your situation.
00:00 Introduction to Brandolini's Law and Narcissism in Divorce
00:21 New Year Greetings and Divorce Realities
01:32 Understanding Brandolini's Law
02:50 Applying Brandolini's Law to Divorce & Family Court
04:16 Seven Tips for Handling Narcissistic Exes in Divorce
06:03 Using Your Energy Wisely in Family Court
08:40 Proving Lies and Managing Distractions in Mediation or Family Court
20:43 Interim Hearings and Final Trials & Affidavits in Divorce
27:31 Mediation Strategies with a Narcissist
32:48 Final Thoughts and Encouragement
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Listen to This Episode If You:
š Are navigating the holiday season post-separation or divorce.
ā Need guidance on legal deadlines and court closures during Christmas.
š” Want tips for co-parenting and managing handovers with minimal stress.
š” Are concerned about manipulative or high-conflict behavior during the holidays.
š Are looking for ideas to create new traditions and move forward emotionally.
šTrying to figure out how to manage Christmas under the same roof this year.
Trigger warning: Domestic and Family Violence is discussed in this episode.
Disclaimer: This podcast provides general legal education and is not a substitute for personalized legal advice. Always consult a qualified lawyer for guidance tailored to your circumstances.
Separated for the Holidays? How to Manage Legal and Emotional Challenges
The holiday season can be particularly challenging for those navigating separation or divorce. In this episode, we offer practical tips and emotional support for managing legal matters, co-parenting, and the unique pressures of this time of year. We discuss everything from court closures and legal deadlines to handling difficult exes and creating new traditions with your kids. Whether youāre under the same roof with your ex, facing your first holiday alone, or co-parenting through conflict, this episode provides strategies to help you cope and thrive.
Key Topics Discussed:
Legal Matters During the Holidays:
Court closures in the Australian Family Court and deadlines during the Christmas and New Year period.
What to consider doing if you receive unexpected legal documents from your ex.
Emergency contacts for urgent legal applications.
Making plans with your lawyer over the Christmas break.
Co-Parenting Challenges:
Managing Christmas handovers and shared custody arrangements.
Shielding kids from parental conflict and ensuring their joy during the holidays.
Tips for planning and communicating with your ex to reduce misunderstandings.
Living Under One Roof:
Strategies for surviving the holiday period with your ex in the same house.
Emotional and practical tips to maintain peace for yourself and your children.
Safety Planning:
Recognizing heightened risks of family violence during the holidays.
Developing a safety plan and resources for immediate help.
Building New Traditions:
Overcoming the emotional challenges of changing family dynamics.
Ideas for creating meaningful and joyful new traditions with your kids.
How to embrace "adult Christmas" and find happiness in new experiences.
Self-Care and Support:
Managing loneliness and isolation during the holidays.
Connecting with friends, family, or community groups for support.
Planning your day to stay busy and emotionally grounded.
Final Thoughts:
The holidays can be a difficult time, but with the right strategies and support, you can navigate them successfully. Whether youāre dealing with a challenging ex, managing legal deadlines, or starting new traditions, remember: this season is temporary, and brighter days lie ahead.
Disclaimer: This podcast provides general legal education and is not a substitute for personalized legal advice. Always consult a qualified lawyer for guidance tailored to your circumstances.
Happy holidays from all of us at the Divorce Course Podcast. ā¤ļø
Links & Resources Mentioned:
Episodes Mentioned in this
The Doās and Donāts of being separated under one roof
https://youtu.be/jdi4snqP_I4?si=6zmQS1XAYZPkm_gG
Handover Hell: how to deal handover
https://youtu.be/YphzOPZmC3k?si=YSOHinsBvaxvLlX5
Co Parenting & Navigating the School Holidays with the Four Divorce Personality Types / Ep. 79
https://youtu.be/vnUo5oEGQRo?si=sB49DNfdTYHPqGPo
No No No to Ho Ho Ho Divorce During Christmas
https://youtu.be/DoO7aNw9ja0?si=8lgyHLtPdsnimn91
10 essential boundaries in divorce
https://youtu.be/5KSMYe6ctVE?si=yfH4diXg8GWBd6ba
Emergency Contacts:
WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
LEGAL AID
Lifeline: 13 11 14
Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978
Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800
Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123
Relationships Australia
Police: 000
DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811
DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636
National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT)
Thank you for tuning in to this episode. We hope these strategies empower you to handle mediation with confidence and clarity. If you found this episode helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Every share helps others find support during difficult times. Stay strongāyouāve got this.
Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is unique, so seek personalized legal advice tailored to your circumstances.
00:00 Introduction and Overview
01:30 Legal Matters During the Holidays
03:44 Challenges of Living Under One Roof
07:49 Co-Parenting and Custody Issues
18:02 Dealing with Manipulative Ex-Partners
22:54 Navigating Custody Without Court Orders
23:11 Creating New Traditions After Separation
27:59 Handling Emotional Challenges During Holidays
29:16 Legal Tips for Holiday Custody Arrangements
30:26 Planning and Self-Care for a Better Holiday
34:41 Dealing with High-Conflict Exes
37:21 Final Thoughts and Encouragement
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Does Family Violence and Post Separation Abuse factor into Property Settlement? This is now answered in The Family Law Amendment Bill 2024 which introduces some of the most significant reforms in the Australia Family Court in decades, addressing key issues like financial abuse, property disputes, and the treatment of family violence in court. In this episode, We are going to break down the changes, and try to explain what they mean for you, and share practical tips on how to prepare if you're navigating the family court system. These updates aim to create a fairer, safer process for families in transition.
Disclaimer: Always talk to your own lawyer before making any decisions or actions on your own case and situation. This discussion is general in nature and should not be considered legal advice.
Listen to This Episode If You:
š Are dealing with financial or economical abuse and want to understand how itās recognized in the new laws.
ā Are curious about how any type of family violence impacts property settlements.
š¾ Want to know how pets are treated in property settlements under the new reforms.
š” Need to understand the regulatory changes to Childrenās Contact Services.
š” Want to stay informed on how the latest family law changes could affect your case.
Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode:
Expanded Definition of Family Violence:
Includes economic and financial abuse (e.g., controlling finances or withholding support).
Courts will now explicitly consider these behaviors in property settlements.
Family Violence and Contributions:
Courts must evaluate how family violence impacts financial and non-financial contributions.
Adjustments to property settlements may favor victims of abuse.
Pets in Property Settlements:
New provisions address disputes over companion animals, focusing on exclusive ownership or sale.
Recognizes the role pets play in family dynamics and safety concerns.
Childrenās Contact Services (CCS):
Establishes accreditation and compliance requirements for CCS providers.
Introduces protections for sensitive safety information shared within CCS.
Protected Confidences:
Enhances safeguards for therapeutic notes and childrenās statements, ensuring privacy in court proceedings.
Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast:
Supplementary explanatory memorandum
Family Law Amendment Bill
https://www.aph.gov.au/Parliamentary_Business/Bills_Legislation/bd/bd2425/25bd013
https://parlinfo.aph.gov.au/parlInfo/search/display/display.w3p;query=Id%3A%22legislation%2Fems%2Fr7234_ems_d9233ec7-832e-4627-88c2-6970f86eb262%22
ARC App https://download.arc-app.org.au/
Empower You App - https://www.police.nsw.gov.au/safety_and_prevention/policing_in_the_community/empower_you_app
Episodes for More Information:
Communicating Coercive Control in Your Affidavit
https://open.spotify.com/episode/6Ci0M4DqznBf1L1kcZM3vY?si=wVsGQ4wcSViYDeBJZr8Puw
Post-Separation Abuse: Strategies to Protect Yourself
https://open.spotify.com/episode/1ccm01eMpJ3TMZa2uMaUMN?si=FvU_ux2ATBuiBL5IW2g8gQ
Emergency Contacts:
WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE: Call 1800 811 811
LEGAL AID:https://www.legalaid.qld.gov.au/Home Access free or low-cost legal advice tailored to your situation.
Lifeline: Call 13 11 14 for 24/7 crisis support and counseling.
Mensline Australia: Call 1300 789 978 for confidential support tailored for men.
Kids Help Line: Call 1800 551 800 for counseling services for children and young people.
Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: Call 1800 019 123 for culturally sensitive support.
Relationships Australia: Access resources and counseling for relationship and family issues.
Emergency Services: Call 000 in an emergency for immediate assistance.
DVConnect Womensline: Call 1800 811 811 for support, 24/7.
DV Connect Mensline: Call 1800 600 636 for advice and assistance for men.
National Domestic Violence Hotline: Call 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT) for 24/7 counseling and support.
These resources are here to help you. Please donāt hesitate to reach out for supportāyou are not alone.
Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is unique, so seek personalized legal advice tailored to your circumstances.
00:00 Introduction to Family Law Changes
01:09 Significant Changes in Family Law Act
03:35 Economic and Financial Abuse
06:48 Impact of Family Violence on Contributions
10:46 Wastage and Financial Misconduct
15:47 Pets and Family Law
19:12 Children Contact Centers
20:50 Accreditation and Safety in Contact Centers
22:01 Understanding Protected Confidences
25:15 Implications of New Legislation on Counseling
27:25 Property Reforms and Family Violence
31:26 Practical Steps for Ongoing Cases
36:32 Documenting Family Violence
38:44 Future Impacts and Final Thoughts
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Mediation is meant to be a pathway to resolution, but what happens when one party has no intention of settling? In this episode we explore the troubles and solutions of mediation, offering practical tips on how to navigate manipulative tactics and protect your mental health.
Whether itās property or parenting arrangements, this is an informative guide on what you can potentially expect before, during, and after mediation to stay one step ahead.
If youāve ever worried about being stuck in a mediation that feels like a game rather than a genuine effort to resolve issues, this episode is for you.
Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is unique, so seek personalised legal advice tailored to your circumstances.
Listen to This Episode If You:
š Want to prepare for an upcoming mediation session.
ā Are unsure how to handle a manipulative ex during mediation.
š” Need strategies to make mediation as productive as possible.
š” Are concerned about wasting time and money in mediation.
š Want tips to protect your legal and emotional boundaries.
Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode:
The Purpose of Mediation:
Understanding its role in the divorce process and when it works best.
Manipulative Tactics to Watch For:
Recognising red flags during mediation. Preparation Tips: How to gather evidence and set boundaries before mediation.
Strategies During Mediation:
Getting small wins, staying focused, and not falling into traps.
Post-Mediation Steps:
Following up with offers and using mediation outcomes in court, even if no agreement is reached.
Common Pitfalls:
āDonāt be surprised ifā scenarios, including last-minute walkouts and wild demands.
Emotional Management:
How to stay calm and avoid frustration when things donāt go as planned.
Links & Resources Mentioned:
Course Enrolment: Join our Divorce Blueprint Course www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/enrol before the deadline to get personalised guidance, legal education, and emotional support from Laura and Lynette. Platinum spots are limitedāsign up now to secure your place.
4VOICES
https://www.4voices.org.au/
Christmas Appeal
https://4voiceschristmasappeal.raiselysite.com/
Episodes Mentioned in this
8 Ways to Protect yourself from DARVO and your Narcissistic Ex during Family Court https://youtu.be/pRMOfozwBKs?si=tDmJwHO3ch-uYhTg
Mediation and negotiation tips for divorcing an ex with narcissistic behaviors / Ep. 99 https://youtu.be/JYqqDyWa5ns?si=k7G6OfpMwPP1Hqgg
Costs, Family Court and Calderbank Offers / Ep. 65 https://youtu.be/0OKhDB8s3As?si=54omWq46LHn_Eb6R
Do I really need a lawyer for divorce mediation or family dispute resolution? https://youtu.be/GB2lJftxdh4?si=BgdkYJrQTeokTlSK
Master Your Divorce Negotiations: The Iron Fist Within the Velvet Glove Technique / Ep. 109 https://youtu.be/JSYc-yun-jM?si=VCefzLZb-ie-f1m9
Emergency Contacts:
WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE LEGAL AID Lifeline: 13 11 14 Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia Police: 000 DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636 National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT)
Thank you for tuning in to this episode. We hope these strategies empower you to handle mediation with confidence and clarity. If you found this episode helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Every share helps others find support during difficult times. Stay strongāyouāve got this.
Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is unique, so seek personalized legal advice tailored to your circumstances.
00:00 Introduction and Overview
01:06 The Importance of Mediation in Divorce
02:23 Recognising Manipulative Tactics during divorce
03:53 Pre-Mediation Strategies for mediating with a narcissist or manipulative type
06:23 During Mediation: What to Expect
10:08 What can you do Post-Mediation
20:23 Making the Most of a Failed Mediation
25:41 What about Unrealistic Demands in Mediation
26:34 Preparing for Mediation Roadblocks
28:51 Handling Unexpected Settlement Outcomes
30:23 How to Deal with Manipulative Tactics
36:55 The Importance of Legal Representation
38:56 Lowering Expectations and Emotional Preparation for Mediation
43:41 Final Thoughts and Additional Resources
#familycourt #familylaw #narcissist #narcissisticabuse #divorcinganarcissist #divorcesettlement #divorceplanning #familylawattorney #divorcesupport #mediation #divorcelawyer #divorcepodcast #childsupport #custodybattle
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Facing the journey from separation to settlement can feel overwhelming and uncertain, but youāre not alone. In this episode, Laura and Lynette take you through the seven essential stages of the divorce process, from making the initial decision to separate, all the way to moving forward after your settlement. They share practical tips, emotional insights, and legal education to help you make empowered choices at every step. Whether you're at the beginning of this journey or somewhere in the middle, this episode offers a roadmap to guide you through.
Listen to This Episode If You:
š Are just starting your divorce journey and donāt know what comes next.
ā Need help understanding the steps from separation to settlement.
š” Want tips on managing property settlements, parenting plans, and legal agreements.
š” Are facing challenges with a high-conflict or manipulative ex.
š Want to learn how to move forward emotionally and financially after the settlement is done.
Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode:Deciding to Separate: Understanding the importance of making the decision and how to document it for legal purposes.
Living Under One Roof: Strategies for managing separation when youāre still sharing a home due to financial or housing constraints.
Understanding Your Legal Rights: Why seeking legal education or advice early is critical to protect yourself.
Property and Financial Settlements: The steps involved in dividing assets, debts, and managing disclosure obligations.
Parenting Plans and Agreements: How to create effective parenting arrangements that prioritise the best interests of your children.
Finalising Legal Documents: What you need to know about consent orders, mediation, and navigating the court system if necessary.
Moving Forward After Divorce: Tips for reclaiming your independence, managing finances, and building a new life.
RESOURCES
Course Enrolment:
Join our Divorce Blueprint Course www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/enrol before the deadline to get personalised guidance, legal education, and emotional support from Laura and Lynette. Platinum spots are limitedāsign up now to secure your place.
Emergency Contacts:
LEGAL AID https://www.legalaid.qld.gov.au/
Lifeline: 13 11 14
Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800
Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123
Relationships Australia 1300 364 277
Police: 000
DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week)
DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636
National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT)
Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978
Thank you for tuning in to this episode. We hope it gives you clarity and confidence to take the next steps in your journey. Donāt forget to check out our course for step-by-step guidance and support through every stage of your divorce. If you found this episode helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Stay strong, and rememberāyouāve got this.
Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is unique, and itās important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your circumstances.
00:00 Introduction to the 7 Steps from Separation to Settlement
01:34 How to Make the Decision to Separate
03:36 Can you Be Separated Under One Roof in Divorce
06:51 How to find out Your Legal Rights and Obligations in Divorce
10:46 How to Divide Assets, Property, and Debt in Divorce
14:44 How to Create Parenting Plans and Arrangements
19:24 How to Navigate Legal Paperwork and Mediation in Divorce
20:57 How to learn about Divorce Applications and Time Limits
22:35 How to avoid the Emotional Rollercoaster of Divorce
23:48 How to get Empowerment Through Knowledge and Support in Divorce
27:28 How to Move Forward After Divorce
33:29 How to Join Our Supportive Divorce Community
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BONUS mini episode: Divorce is a challenging journey, and there are so many things we wish weād known before starting out. In this special episode, I share three key insights I learned along the wayāinsights that could save you time, stress, and money. From setting firm boundaries to creating a clear plan and building a strong support system, these lessons are invaluable for anyone facing separation or divorce.
And thereās more! Next week, weāre hosting a free, live webinar designed to support you wherever you are in your divorce journey. This session will cover everything from practical advice on setting boundaries and protecting your finances to tips for handling high-conflict communication. Join us for actionable insights and a live Q&A session with my mum, a family law expert. Webinar registration link https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/divorcewebinarregistration
Listen to This Episode If You:š Are beginning your divorce journey and need a roadmap to help guide your decisions.
ā Want to hear practical, first-hand tips from someone whoās been through it.
š” Need insights on handling emotional and financial boundaries during divorce.
š” Are curious about what our free webinar will cover and how it can help you.
š Want to learn how to build a strong support system to get through challenging times.
Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode:Setting Firm Boundaries: The importance of defining clear emotional and practical boundaries.
Creating a Plan: How having a roadmap can help you feel more in control and prepared.
Building a Support System: Why having friends, family, or a professional by your side is invaluable.
DIVORCE Webinar Details: What to expect from our upcoming live webinar, including actionable insights and a live Q&A with a family law specialist.
Webinar Highlights:Topics Covered: Boundaries, financial protection, handling high-conflict communication, and more.
Live Q&A: Ask your specific questions and receive advice from a family law expert.
Privacy Guaranteed: Participate as much or as little as you like in a safe, confidential space.
Limited Spots: Click the link in our show notes or visit thedivorcecourse.com.au to save your seat!
Emergency Contacts:WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
LEGAL AID
Lifeline: 13 11 14
Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978
Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800
Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123
Relationships Australia
Police: 000
DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week)
DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636
National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT)
Thank you for tuning in to this episode! We hope these insights make your journey a little easier and empower you to take control of the process. And remember, donāt miss out on our final free webinar of the year next weekāitās an incredible opportunity to learn, ask questions, and find support. See you there!
Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is unique, and itās important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your circumstances.
00:00 Introduction and Setting Expectations
00:03 Three Things I Wish I Knew Before Divorce
00:17 Importance of Setting Boundaries with your ex
00:31 Having a Plan when going through the divorce process
00:52 Power of a Support System when facing divorce
01:08 Exciting Divorce Webinar Announcement
01:15 Webinar Details and Benefits
02:05 Addressing Concerns and Privacy
03:07 Final Thoughts and How to Register
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If youāve ever felt that your ex is using the legal system to keep you trapped or that youāre facing ongoing harassment, this episode provides the support and strategies you need.
Divorce may mean separation, but sometimes, for those dealing with high-conflict exes, the abuse continues well after the split. In this episode, we discuss five key strategies to manage and escape post-separation abuse purgatory. From court misuse to constant control tactics, this episode offers crucial help for protecting yourself legally, emotionally, and financially.
Listen to This Episode If You:
š Are experiencing legal harassment or ongoing control tactics post-divorce.
ā Want to know how to protect yourself from manipulative use of the court system.
š” Need strategies for setting firm boundaries against a high-conflict ex.
š” Are navigating the court process with an ex who refuses to cooperate on settlements.
š Want insights on how recent Family Law changes impact post-separation dynamics.
Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode:
Understanding Post-Separation Abuse: What it is, how it manifests, and why itās so pervasive.
Central Practice Directions: How this court directive aims to reduce misuse of the legal system.
Section 117C Offers: Leveraging financial penalties to discourage frivolous court actions.
Legal Documentation: Keeping a record of your exās actions and the importance of filing timelines.
Emotional Boundaries: Techniques to mentally distance yourself from ongoing harassment.
Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general discussion for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice in any way at all. Every situation is unique, and itās important to seek personalised legal advice tailored to your circumstances.
When Divorce isn't the End: Handling Legal & Post-Separation Abuse
Related Episodes that may be helpful:
Post Separation Abuse Wheel Episode https://youtu.be/YALj5wsoe6k?si=OZp5WhOwyR7Omkyf
How to divorce a statue https://youtu.be/tM75QvgjM_0?si=9tAnY9EXLu7JjcOS
Family Court Vs Settling https://youtu.be/gYpW3znoY28?si=NvrUKsGVIlMt8WNC
When your ex files in court - response to initiating application https://youtu.be/qTHDgWTjF1A?si=rETvrOrpMKf_IwzZ
Navigating Community Legal Services https://youtu.be/4sEUhu6r07Q?si=Qjla_vk0NAZ2eS_U
Decoding a word salad letter like a lawyer https://youtu.be/k0AhA3MIjM0?si=onpRY7wU7DTeC63Q
Free Resources & Links:
CENTRAL PRACTICE DIRECTIONS https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/fl/pd/fam-cpd
Section 117c of the Family Law Act https://classic.austlii.edu.au/au/legis/cth/consol_act/fla1975114/s117c.html
Free Webinar registration link https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/divorcewebinarregistration
Emergency Contacts:
WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
LEGAL AID
Lifeline: 13 11 14
Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978
Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800
Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123
Relationships Australia
Police: 000
DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week)
DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636
National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT)
Thank you for tuning in to this episode on managing post-separation abuse. We hope these strategies offer you the tools and confidence to protect yourself and find peace beyond the courtroom. If you found this episode helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Every rating helps others find support during difficult transitions. Stay strong and take care.
Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general discussion for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice in any way at all. Every situation is unique, and itās important to seek personalised legal advice tailored to your circumstances.
00:00 Introduction to Post Separation Abuse
00:23 Trigger Warnings and Support Resources
01:06 Podcast Introduction and Goals
01:26 Understanding Post Separation Abuse
03:26 Legal Protections: Central Practice Direction
11:56 Legal Protections: Section 117C
16:40 Taking Legal Action: Going to Court
22:41 New Legal Measures: Harmful Proceedings
23:12 Register Today!
23:22 Understanding Harmful Proceedings
24:20 Court's Role in Handling Harmful Litigants
27:56 Strategies for Dealing with Legal Abuse
33:04 Building Emotional Resilience
37:55 Support and Resources
38:52 Listener Feedback and Conclusion
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When going through a divorce or de facto separation, one of the biggest questions youāll face is: Should I settle, or should I go to court? In this episode, we take an in depth look into the reasons why people choose to settle and why others decide to hold out for court. We discuss the risks, costs, and personal factors that play into this decision, while also highlighting potential pitfalls and traps that could influence you to settle too early or too late. Whether youāre in the early stages of property settlement or nearing mediation, this episode will help you think critically about your own situation.
Listen to This Episode If You:š Wish you could speak to others about their decisions to settle or go to court.
ā Want to understand the risks and costs involved in going to court versus settling.
š” Need insights on how to others have avoided settling for a bad offers or been pressured into an agreements.
š” Are navigating a high-conflict divorce and worried about making the right financial decisions and want to listen to what others have done in the past.
š Want to better understand how lawyers play a role in helping you decide when to settle.
Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode:Reasons to Settle: When taking your lawyerās advice, financial risks, and emotional well-being make settling the best option.
Risks of Going to Court: The potential for additional costs, including paying for your exās legal fees, and how this can impact your decision.
Understanding Costs: How court costs and lawyer fees add up, and why itās crucial to factor in these expenses when making your decision.
Section 117 Offers: What they are, how they work, and why you should think carefully before rejecting a reasonable offer.
Emotional Factors: How guilt, pressure, or anger can cloud judgement and lead to poor settlement decisions.
Disclosure Issues: Why itās essential to have financial disclosure before settling and how to handle situations where your ex isn't sharing all the information.
Post-Separation Abuse: How ongoing manipulation and control can affect your or their decision to settle, and strategies to protect yourself from further harm.
Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast:Related Episodes:
Understanding Legal Costs and Risks COSTS & CALDERBANK OFFERS
https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/blog/costscourtcalderbankoffer
Divorce Myths
https://open.spotify.com/episode/33mBdotbKK4yLH586ZaWko?si=czer_l9VRIOVWxWxGSiJjg
The Premature Pitfalls of Percentage Negotiations
āāhttps://open.spotify.com/episode/6bxTgrdymCeW16Q7z5njUe?si=UPG5F5vtSNuHWCKwWWg32g
Choosing your lawyer
https://open.spotify.com/episode/0XQOMoxqaSpf5YrxTc50eR?si=KUq4BzFPQaeIndch9p-3QA
Red Flags when choosing a lawyer
https://open.spotify.com/episode/6fR3jP75Z4amMlRCsEOAhJ?si=66f50b888bb44784
Emergency Contacts:WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
LEGAL AID
Lifeline: 13 11 14
Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978
Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800
Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123
Relationships Australia
Police: 000
DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week)
DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636
National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT)
Thank you for listening to this episode. We hope it helps you think critically about when to settle and when to go to court, while also providing the knowledge you need to protect yourself during your divorce journey. If you found this episode helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your support helps others find the guidance they need. Stay strong and take care.
Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances.
00:00 Introduction to Settling in Divorce
01:43 Understanding the Role of Lawyers in Settling
06:00 Cost-Benefit Analysis in Court Cases
10:21 Risks of Going to Family Court
16:25 Bad Reasons for Settling
19:52 Navigating Emotional Decisions in Divorce
20:30 Reasons People Settle in Divorce
21:34 Understanding the Family Law Act in your Divorce
22:49 Challenges with Disclosure in Property Settlement and Divorce
25:27 Unrealistic Expectations in Divorce outcomes
29:24 Dealing with Anger and Abuse during the divorce process
32:05 Denial and Acceptance in Divorce
34:26 Final Thoughts
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This is a legal and emotional boundary check episode for you where we discuss 10 critical legal and emotional boundaries that are essential to maintain during this process. From communication and financial boundaries to setting clear limits on social media and handling high-conflict exes, this episode is packed with practical tips to help protect your emotional well-being and legal standing. Whether you're in the early stages of divorce or deep into the process, setting boundaries is crucial for navigating the journey with more clarity and peace of mind.
Listen to This Episode If You:
š Are dealing with communication challenges with your ex and need to set boundaries.
ā Want to understand the importance of legal boundaries, such as avoiding pressure to sign documents.
š” Are struggling with emotional boundaries and need tips on protecting your mental health.
š” Are co-parenting and need strategies for managing handovers or avoiding conflict.
š Want to learn how to set clear financial boundaries to protect your income and assets.
Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances and your country.
Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode:
Communication Boundaries: How to manage communication with your ex, especially in high-conflict situations.
Task Boundaries: Why it's important to divide responsibilities post-separation and avoid falling into old habits.
Digital Boundaries: Protecting your privacy online, managing social media, and securing your email and iCloud accounts.
Living Boundaries: Setting clear rules if you're still living under the same roof or need to protect your space post-separation.
Financial Boundaries: The importance of separating accounts, handling child support, and protecting your finances from coercive control.
Legal Boundaries: How to avoid being pressured into signing agreements and managing legal deadlines.
Emotional Boundaries: Finding ways to protect your mental health and limiting the emotional toll of the divorce process.
Physical Boundaries: Strategies for handling custody handovers and protecting your safety with restraining orders, if necessary.
Family and Friend Boundaries: Setting limits on how involved your family and friends are in your divorce, while maintaining support.
Childrenās Boundaries: Keeping your kids out of adult matters and ensuring they are not used as messengers or spies.
Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast:
Related Episodes:
The Pitfalls of Percentage Arguements https://open.spotify.com/episode/6bxTgrdymCeW16Q7z5njUe?si=Bl0w1opYQHKk6UVHSZr6Qg Co-Parenting & Communication with Our Children Creator https://open.spotify.com/episode/3Nz2etsYgdMVym8BdcaLwE?si=O7mqw42aT6GZVF58tBopBw Separated Under One Roof Doās & Donāts https://open.spotify.com/episode/2IXSOZ8vVadbcrq10DuxG0?si=_bVJyhtBS5edyJhjf10H1A What about their stuff dealing with your exās belongings in Divorce https://open.spotify.com/episode/2bPd3wWLQh3pzQmL2KCR0v?si=nqVtorlkTxq39fRZbm0L1g Overcoming Sleep Struggles during divorce https://open.spotify.com/episode/6klNAJWd2vMAl0LWJq8XCC?si=o0seCI1IQK-od5eAevRXcA When amicable goes wrong https://open.spotify.com/episode/1aK3dni8maqPLOx9vKQDG4?si=IFa7dV5yTkyw76LUXFf0Aw Power Dynamics Balancing Power and Progress https://open.spotify.com/episode/5I3WfPNkXncss2EI5jJwD1?si=S-8buOZNRa2wu2DW--0-JQ Financial Fairness in Divorce https://open.spotify.com/episode/3S73M140m759WcOrrKms2k?si=YzpyqEpPT4iJ8EWeLbyuXg Disclosure https://open.spotify.com/episode/07olqt4NN0MQQ0Y5KiHkP2?si=ojEdwxpgSWyg2pBb3EhWRA Handover Hell https://open.spotify.com/episode/6Pskjns3vZkLyv9FCefvxm?si=pfZ4ctZbS1CsjWJdoHifgw Navigating Parental Trash Talk https://open.spotify.com/episode/7bxqn5I6B1HCzO9r0zKnxY?si=kP__OnksRxivMCK8k8bMbw
Links to other things https://www.ourfamilywizard.com.au/ https://www.ourchildren.com.au/Emergency Contacts:
WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
LEGAL AID
Lifeline: 13 11 14
Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978
Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800
Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123
Relationships Australia
Police: 000
DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week)
DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636
National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT)
Thank you for tuning in to this episode about managing your income, expenses, and savings during the separation period. We hope this episode provides the knowledge and tools you need to protect yourself during the often tricky period before property settlement. If you found this episode helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your support helps others find the guidance they need. Stay strong and take care.
Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances.
00:00 Introduction to Divorce Boundaries 02:41 Communication Boundaries 06:55 Task Boundaries 09:25 Digital Boundaries 15:28 Living Boundaries 18:59 Financial Boundaries 25:06 Managing Child Support and Private Agreements 26:51 Setting Legal Boundaries 30:20 Creating Emotional Boundaries 33:12 Establishing Custody and Restraining Orders 36:48 Navigating Family and Friendship Boundaries 43:29 Summary and Final Thoughts -
What happens to your income, expenses and savings in the time between breaking up and official separation and getting final property orders? In this episode we take a look into what happens to your income, expenses, and savings during this in-between period. We discuss how the Family Court of Australia usually treats savings, the importance of documenting expenses, and how your wages may be considered.
Whether youāre squirrelling away savings, managing a joint account, or figuring out how to navigate expenses after separation, this episode provides crucial insights to help you protect yourself during property settlements. They also tackle the concept of "ad backs" and when they might apply. Please note that this is a general discussion and everyoneās situation is different so please do not make any legal decisions based on this podcast discussion, always see a lawyer who knows the full facts of your case before making any decisions.
Listen to This Episode If You:
š Are confused about how savings are treated during the divorce process.
ā Want to know how to manage expenses and income between separation and property settlement.
š” Need to understand what happens to wages after separation.
š” Are unsure about how to protect yourself from your ex draining joint accounts or going on spending sprees.
š Want to learn how to document expenses and safeguard your assets in case of high-conflict situations.
Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode:
Savings and Property Settlements: How savings accumulated between separation and final property orders are sometimes handled.
Income and Wages Post-Separation: What can happen to your wages after separation and why itās sometimes crucial to separate your accounts.
Reasonable Expenses: What the family court may consider as reasonable expenses during this period, from bills to childcare and beyond.
Ad Backs Explained: Understanding what an "ad back" is and how it might affect your settlement if your ex has spent joint money.
Documentation Is Key: The importance of tracking and documenting all financial transactions during the divorce process.
Handling Joint Accounts: Ways to protect yourself from joint accounts being drained and what you can do if this happens.
High-Conflict Tips: Strategies for protecting yourself financially when your ex is manipulative or controlling. Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast:
Related Episodes: Navigating the Mortgage Minefield in Divorce https://open.spotify.com/episode/4wPp... Help My Ex is spending all the money https://open.spotify.com/episode/32WS... Record Keeping: Protecting Yourself https://open.spotify.com/episode/4tNr... Protecting yourself from Darvo https://open.spotify.com/episode/0Jyf... Debt Episode https://open.spotify.com/episode/074h...
Free Resources: Go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au
Emergency Contacts: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE LEGAL AID Lifeline: 13 11 14 Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia Police: 000 DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636 National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT)
Thank you for tuning in to this episode about managing your income, expenses, and savings during the separation period. We hope this episode provides the knowledge and tools you need to protect yourself during the often tricky period before property settlement. If you found this episode helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your support helps others find the guidance they need. Stay strong and take care. Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances.
00:00 Introduction to Divorce & Money 01:31 Understanding Savings During Separation 03:08 Expenses and Their Impact on Property Settlement 06:04 The Concept of Ad Backs in Divorce 16:27 Managing Wages and Income Post-Separation 20:46 Understanding Financial Responsibilities Post-Separation 22:34 The Importance of Documentation and Mediation 24:21 Strategies for Managing Financial Manipulation 29:28 Navigating Government Support and Property Pools 32:45 The Role of Reasonable Living Expenses in Settlements 34:54 Proactive Steps for Financial Security 38:50 Final Thoughts
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Do you ever wish you had a time machine to go back and give yourself advice before starting your divorce journey? In this episode, we share valuable insights and tips from listeners who have gone through it all. Together, we will break down some of the most important things people wish they had known before starting the process, from not rushing into decisions to custody issues. They also discuss some of the key mistakes to avoid, especially in high-conflict or narcissistic divorces. Whether youāre just starting out or deep into the process, this episode will offer practical advice to help guide you through your divorce with more confidence and clarity.
Listen to This Episode If You:
ā Wonder how to gather the right information and evidence to protect yourself.
š” Need to understand the importance of not rushing into decisions or being pressured by others.
š” Are navigating a high-conflict divorce and need strategies to protect yourself from manipulation.
š Want to learn how to create a strategy and stay organized during the divorce process.
š Are at the beginning of your divorce and want advice on how to avoid common mistakes.
Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode:
Donāt Rush: Take your time to gather all your information before making any major decisions. Avoid being pressured into rushing through the process.
Collect and Organise Your Information: Get all your documents and information together before starting the legal process to avoid mistakes and delays.
Parenting Plans: Donāt force your children into uncomfortable situationsāespecially when the other parent may not be interested in the relationship.
Look Out for Hidden Assets: Learn how to identify secret bank accounts and other financial manipulations that may arise during a divorce.
Get a Lawyer Who Understands Narcissistic Behaviour: Make sure your lawyer knows how to handle high-conflict individuals who use manipulative tactics.
Court Orders for Sole Occupancy: Understand how to get your ex out of the house if needed, and the risks involved.
Donāt Settle Too Quickly: Take your time to evaluate any settlement offers and donāt let anyone pressure you into accepting less than what is fair.
Protect Your Mental Health: Treat the divorce process like a part-time jobādonāt let it consume your entire life.
Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast:
Related Episodes:
How to Document Coercive Control - Communicating Coercive Control in Documents / Ep. 161
Record Keeping: Protecting Yourself
https://open.spotify.com/episode/4tNrLiwyDO07jnbzNVxe4m?si=OPR9iwTzQKOKc2HOHvcH-Q
Divorce Delay Tactics https://open.spotify.com/episode/2st3qxvJByN981xqZgPRIR?si=l0LL9935S0GAQ6Wx2qJhIg
Disclosure Dilemas Overcoming Disclosure Dilemmas: Your Path to Divorce Victory / Ep. 148
Divorce Budgeting 101: Understanding Legal Fees & Six Simple Saving Strategies / Ep. 119
Free Resources:
Property Settlement Checklist www.thedivorcecourse.com.au
Divorce Documentation Guide www.thedivorcecourse.com.au
Emergency Contacts:
WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
LEGAL AID
Lifeline: 13 11 14
Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978
Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800
Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123
Relationships Australia
Police: 000
DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week)
DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636
National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT)
Thank you for listening to this episode. We hope these listener-shared insights and practical advice will help guide you through your divorce journey. Remember, you are not alone, and taking the time to understand and plan will make all the difference. If you found this episode helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Stay strong and take care.
Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances.
Contents of this Video
00:00 Introduction: Navigating Divorce
01:25 Key Tip: Don't Rush
02:43 Gathering Information: Collate Your Documents
04:00 Children and Visitation and Custody: Complexities and Considerations
05:38 Property Settlement Financial Precautions: Secret Bank Accounts and Abuse
08:22 Legal Strategies: Understanding Narcissistic Tactics
08:56 Court Orders: Sole Occupancy and Safety Concerns
10:50 Disclosure Challenges: Waiting for Information
12:33 Settlement Tips: Don't Settle for Less
15:14 Emotional Toll: The Full-Time Job of Divorce
20:24 Free Resources for Mediation and Negotiation
21:03 Is the System Child-Centred?
23:40 Dealing with Nasty In-Laws
27:03 Family Court Legal Costs and Settlements
29:34 Importance of Family Violence Protection Orders
34:46 Managing Expectations and Seeking Support in Divorce
38:16 Final Thoughts and Farewell
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Listen to This Episode If You:
š Are navigating a parenting plan or consent or court orders for children at different stages of development.
ā Want to understand how the court views plans for babies and the differing age groups all the way to teenagers.
š” Are trying to figure out how to create a flexible and adaptable parenting plan as your child grows.
š” Are dealing with high-conflict ex-partners and need strategies to protect your child's best interests.
š Want to learn more about how to handle special situations like breastfeeding, car seats, and school-related issues.
Are you overwhelmed by trying to come up with a fair parenting plan or consent order offer after separation or divorce? Wondering what will happen as they get older, or struggling to figure out what is what when it comes to the different age groupsātoddlers, tweens, and teens and everything in-between. In this episode, we discuss the unique challenges and considerations for each stage of your childās development when creating parenting plans and consent orders or asking for court orders. We discuss topics like the primary attachment theory for babies, navigating parenting plans for young children, and managing the evolving needs of primary school-aged kids and figuring out what to do with stubborn teenagers. Whether youāre in the early stages of separation or dealing with an ongoing custody battle, this episode provides valuable insights on how to approach parenting plans that truly serve the best interests of your children.
Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode:
Primary Attachment for Babies: Why babies up to three years old typically benefit from staying with their primary caregiver, and how this impacts parenting plans and court orders. Navigating Consent Orders: How to create orders that take into account the evolving needs of your children as they grow from toddlers to teens. Transitioning to Overnights: Strategies for gradually increasing parenting time and handling situations where the non-primary caregiver hasnāt been involved. Primary School Age Considerations: Managing custody and parenting plans as children start school, including logistical challenges like packing bags and attending social events. Teenagers and Flexibility: How to adapt parenting plans for teens who want more independence, and what happens when they refuse to follow the existing custody arrangements. High-Conflict Co-Parenting: Dealing with manipulative and controlling ex-partners, and tips for creating clear, enforceable orders to protect your childās well-being. Navigating Changing Court Views: Understanding the recent changes in the Family Law Act and how it affects shared parental responsibility and 50/50 time. Free Resources: https://www.judcom.nsw.gov.au/publications/benchbks/children/cpm_allerton_attachment.htmlhttps://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/divorcewebinarregistration (webinar)
https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/opt-in (before you go checklist)
https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/opt-in-4ab0c1ab-f43e-4db3-b49b-43c865aa8b1d (mediation checklist)
https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/disclosurechecklist (disclosure checklist)Podcast Episode Timeline
00:00 Introduction to Parenting Plans
01:08 Understanding Parenting Plans for Babies
03:53 Challenges with Parenting Plans for Babies
13:56 Parenting Plans for Primary School Kids
17:56 Common Issues with Primary School Kids
21:56 Navigating Parenting Plans for Teens
22:55 Planning for Your Child's Future
23:41 Teenagers and Court Orders
24:13 Navigating Parental Breaches
25:44 Resources for Mediation and Disclosure
26:27 Mental Health and Teen Independence
27:32 Pressure on Children in Custody Cases
30:06 Handling Avoidant Parents
33:03 Dealing with High-Conflict Exes
33:51 The Importance of Detailed Orders
35:23 Co-Parenting with Manipulative Exes
38:13 Final Thoughts and Encouragement
Emergency Contacts: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE LEGAL AID Lifeline: 13 11 14 Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia Police: 000 DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636 National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT) Thank you for tuning in to this episode on navigating parenting plans through various stages of your childās life. We hope you find the advice helpful in creating a plan that truly meets the needs of your children, regardless of their age. If you found this episode valuable, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your support helps others find the guidance they need. Stay strong and take care. Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances. -
When going through a divorce and dividing assets, there's an essential factor that many people overlook or have no idea about: future needs. In this episode, we discuss what "future needs" mean in family law in Australia, how they are considered by the court, and how they can significantly affect the division of property. From your health and age to your earning capacity and childrenās future, understanding these factors is crucial for a fair property settlement. We also touch on the future needs factors outlined in Section 75(2) of the Family Law Act and discuss how to navigate property settlements both inside and outside of court based on the four divorce personalities, high conflict, manipulative and controlling (narcissistic types), amicable and avoidant.
Listen to This Episode If You:
š Are in the process of a property settlement and need to understand what "future needs" mean.
ā Want to explore how the court factors in age, health, earning capacity, and other personal circumstances.
š” Are looking to understand how future needs affect property division in both marriages and de facto relationships.
š” Want to learn how to protect your interests in property settlements, especially if you have children or a lower income.
š Are curious about the impact of future needs when dividing property amicably or through mediation.
Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode:
What Are Future Needs?: Explanation of how the court considers future needs when dividing property.
Section 75(2) Factors: A breakdown of the 17 key factors listed in this section of the Family Law Act.
Health and Age: How your current health or age could influence your property settlement.
Earning Capacity: What happens if one partner earns significantly more or has greater financial resources.
Children and Their Needs: How the care of children under 18 can affect property division.
Impact of the Length of Marriage: How a long marriage can affect property division, especially if one spouseās career supported the other.
Practical Tips for negotiating these factors amicably, as well as what happens if the case ends up in court.
Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast:
Related Episodes:https://link.chtbl.com/DivorceEpisode139 (Splitting Silver Hairs : A guide to grey divorce)
https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastfiftyeight (When an Amicable Divorce goes wrong and what you can do about it in your Property Settlement and Parenting Agreement)
https://link.chtbl.com/DivorceEpisode124 (Gold Diggers in Divorce: Strategies TO PROTECT YOUR ASSETS FROM A NON CONTRIBUTING EX)
https://link.chtbl.com/DivorceEpisode125 (when you mediation goes wrong and what to do next in your divorce, custody or property negotiations)
Other Resources: THE DIVORCE COURSE www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/enrol Emergency Contacts: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE LEGAL AID Lifeline: 13 11 14 Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia Police: 000 DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636 National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT)Thank you for tuning in to this informative episode on future needs in property settlements. Whether youāre navigating these factors in mediation or preparing for court, understanding the role of future needs is crucial to achieving a just and equitable outcome. If you found this episode helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your support helps others find the guidance they need. Stay strong and take care.
Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances.
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Are you wondering if you really need a lawyer for mediation or family dispute resolution? In this episode, we discuss the ins and outs of mediation and whether you really need a lawyer by your side. Explore the different types of meditations, the pros and cons of having legal representation, and pick up some helpful tips for those on a tight budget who may not be able to afford a lawyer. If you're wondering how to approach mediation in your divorce journeyāwhether itās about property settlements or children's mattersāthis episode will provide valuable insights to help you make a decision.
Listen to This Episode If You: š Are considering mediation but unsure if you need a lawyer. ā Want to know what happens during mediation and the role a lawyer plays. š” Need strategies for navigating mediation on your own or with minimal legal assistance. š” Want to weigh the pros and cons of bringing legal support to your mediation. š Are on a tight budget and looking for ways to handle mediation cost-effectively. Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode: Types of Mediation: The different stages of mediation, from initial discussions to court-appointed mediation. Do You Need a Lawyer?: The advantages and disadvantages of having a lawyer during mediation. Cost Considerations: How to handle mediation if youāre on a tight budget and canāt afford legal representation. Mediation Preparation: Tips on how to prepare for mediation and what documents to gather. Self-Representation: How to navigate mediation without a lawyer, including understanding the process and legal expectations. High Conflict vs. Amicable Mediation: How the nature of your relationship with your ex can impact whether or not you need a lawyer present. Settlerās Remorse: What happens if you agree to something in mediation and regret it later, and how to avoid this. Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast: Related Episodes:https://link.chtbl.com/DivorceEpisode166 (Understanding Legal Gatekeeping: Is Your Lawyer Telling Your Full Story in Divorce?)
https://link.chtbl.com/divorceepisodefour (How to negotiate an agreement after divorce.)
https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcasttwentytwo (Convincing the unconvincible in divorce negotiations for family law0
https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastfiftyfour (FDR, Conciliation Conference & Mediation: the what, how, when, who, why of your family dispute resolution)
https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcasteightyone (10 things that could happen legally and emotionally after mediation (in the family court or privatley)
https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastonehundredtwo (What Is Mediation & Am I Ready For It? Navigating mediation during your divorce or de facto separation.)
https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastninetythree (Can you really mediate with a narcissist? Mediation and negotiation tips for divorcing an ex with narcissistic behaviours.)
https://link.chtbl.com/DivorceEpisode125 (when you mediation goes wrong and what to do next in your divorce, custody or property negotiations)
https://link.chtbl.com/DivorceEpisode136 (The real deal with mediation: dispelling 5 myths)
Free Resources: Mediation Checklist (Available on our website) www.thedivorcecourse.com.auWebinars and Courses:
DIY Divorce Blueprint www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/enrol Webinars on Navigating Divorce www.thedivorcecourse.com.au https://www.patreon.com/TheDivorceCoursePodcast Emergency Contacts: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE LEGAL AID Lifeline: 13 11 14 Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia Police: 000 DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636 National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT)Thank you for tuning in to this episode on mediation and legal representation. Remember, your situation is unique, and weighing the pros and cons is crucial to making the right decision. If you found this episode helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your support helps others find the help they need. Stay strong and take care.
Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances.
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The DARVO methodāDeny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offenderāis a tactic often employed by narcissists in legal battles, particularly during divorce or family court cases. In this episode, we shed light on the DARVO strategy and share eight essential ways to protect yourself against it. Whether youāre facing family violence court, property settlement agreements, or a child custody battle, these insights will empower you to stay calm, gather evidence, and ensure your truth is heard. Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances. Listen to This Episode If You: š Are dealing with a narcissistic ex who might be the type to manipulate the narrative in court. ā Want to understand the DARVO method and how it impacts family court cases. š” Need strategies to counteract manipulation and lies in affidavits or legal documents. š” Want to protect yourself from being gaslit and maintain your mental health. š Are looking for ways to keep communication calm and factual during a contentious divorce. Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode: Understanding DARVO: What it means and how it shows up in legal battles. Importance of Written Communication: Why all communication should be documented via emails or apps. Respond, Don't React: Techniques for staying calm and responding thoughtfully instead of reacting emotionally. Gathering Evidence: How to collect and organise evidence to challenge false claims. Setting Firm Boundaries: The importance of setting clear boundaries to protect your mental health. Affidavit Strategies: How to stick to the facts and tell your story effectively in legal documents. Slow and Steady Wins the Race: Understanding that the truth will unfold over time with patience and perseverance. Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast:
Episodes for More Insight:
https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcasttwentyfive (Divorcing a narcissist: what to expect in the family law process and courts and how to prepare)
https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastthirtythree (The Narcissist Playbook in Divorce)
https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastfiftytwo (Co-parenting: How to successfully do it even with a high conflict, narcissistic controlling or avoidant ex partner.)
https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastseventytoo (How To Use The Grey Rock Method in Divorce & Family Law Proceedings with a narcissistic ex)
https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastseventyfive (Co parenting and family court with a Narcissist)
https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastninetythree (Can you really mediate with a narcissist? Mediation and negotiation tips for divorcing an ex with narcissistic behaviours.)
https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastninetyseven (The Post Separation Abuse Playbook and what you can do about it. Part 1)
Post-Separation Abuse: What You Need to Know
https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastninetyeight (The Post Separation Abuse Playbook and what you can do about it. Part 2)
https://link.chtbl.com/divorceepisode113 (Why your narcissistic ex might want a parenting coordinator and what you can do about it)
https://link.chtbl.com/DivorceEpisode134 (Mind over matter: divorcing a narcissist)
https://link.chtbl.com/DivorceEpisode140 (The Narcissistsā Chess Board: Understanding The Divorce SLAY strategy
https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastninety (A simple way to protect your children from being used as chess pieces in your divorce or de facto separation)
Webinars and Courses:
DIY Divorce Blueprint www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/enrol
Webinars on Navigating Divorce www.thedivorcecourse.com.au
https://www.patreon.com/TheDivorceCoursePodcast
* ARC App website https://download.arc-app.org.au/
* Empower You App https://www.police.nsw.gov.au/safety_and_prevention/policing_in_the_community/empower_you_app
Emergency Contacts:WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
LEGAL AID
Lifeline: 13 11 14
Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978
Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800
Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123
Relationships Australia
Police: 000
DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week)
DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636
National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT)
Thank you for tuning in to this important episode on understanding and counteracting the DARVO strategy. Remember, you are not alone, and there are ways to protect yourself and ensure that the truth comes out. If you found this episode helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your support helps others find the help they need. Stay strong and take care. Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances. -
Are you feeling like your lawyer isn't telling your full story? In this episode, Laura and Lynette dive into the issue of legal gatekeeping and how it can impact your divorce case. They discuss why it's crucial for your lawyer to present all the relevant facts, including those that might be uncomfortable or distressing about Family Violence or Coercive Control. With new property legislation potentially on the horizon in Australia, it's more important than ever to ensure your story is heard, whether it concerns property settlements or children's matters. Tune in to learn strategies for advocating for yourself and making sure your experiences are properly represented in court. Trigger Warning this could be distressing or triggering for victim survivors of family violence or coercive control.
Listen to This Episode If You:š Feel like your lawyer is not presenting the full picture in your case.
ā Are dealing with family violence or coercive control and want to know how it affects your legal proceedings.
š” Need to understand the role of your lawyer versus the role of the judge in court.
š” Want to ensure that critical information about your case is not being withheld.
š Are interested in how upcoming legislation may change the way family violence is considered in property settlements.
Understanding Legal Gatekeeping: Is Your Lawyer Telling Your Full Story?
Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode:Understanding Gatekeeping: What it is and how it can affect your case.
The Role of Lawyers vs. Judges: Clarifying what each should be doing in the context of your story.
Importance of Telling Your Full Story: How withholding information can negatively impact court outcomes.
Legislation Update: A look at potential new laws in Australia that could affect property settlements involving family violence.
Kennanās Case: How this landmark case impacts current family law and property settlements.
Strategies for Self-Advocacy: Tips on how to ensure your lawyer is representing all relevant facts.
Impact on Children: The importance of being upfront about family violence to protect and support your children.
Mediation and Legal Strategy: How to handle mediation and what to do if you're feeling pressured by your lawyer.
Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast:Episodes for More Insight:
The Pep Talk You Didn't Know You Needed
Choosing a Family Lawyer & the Red Flags not to ignore
Three ways to choose and use your family lawyer (that you probably havenāt heard of for your divorce.
Post-Separation Abuse: What You Need to Know
Using children as chess pieces in divorce
Webinars and Courses:
DIY Divorce Blueprint
Weekly Webinars on Navigating Divorce
https://www.patreon.com/TheDivorceCoursePodcast
Emergency Contacts:WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
LEGAL AID
Lifeline: 13 11 14
Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978
Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800
Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123
Relationships Australia
Police: 000
DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week)
DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636
National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT)
Thank you for listening to this important episode on ensuring your story is fully represented in court. Remember, your experiences are valid, and the right legal representation can make all the difference. If this episode resonated with you, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your support helps others find the help they need. Stay strong and take care.
Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances
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In every divorce, there are two primary positions people find themselves in: sitting pretty or completely overstressed. In this episode, Laura and Lynette break down these common divorce dynamics and provide strategies to help you navigate whichever position you're in. Whether you're feeling trapped in a gilded cage with everything provided for you, or you're overwhelmed with stress, paying the bills, and managing all the responsibilities, this episode offers practical advice on how to shift the balance and move forward in your divorce journey.
Listen to This Episode If You:š Feel like you're stuck in divorce limbo and donāt know how to move forward.
ā Are overwhelmed with financial or emotional stress during your divorce.
š” Need strategies to encourage your ex to engage in mediation or negotiation.
š” Are sitting comfortably but worried about what might happen if things change.
š Want to ensure youāre not being manipulated or controlled during the divorce process.
Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode:Sitting Pretty vs. Overstressed: Understanding the two primary positions in divorce dynamics.
The Gilded Cage: Recognizing when comfort is actually a trap and why itās important to start planning your next steps.
Overcoming Financial Stress: Tips for managing overwhelming financial responsibilities and negotiating support.
Mediation Strategies: How to encourage your ex to come to the table and negotiate fairly.
The Impact on Kids: Why dragging out a divorce can harm children and how to avoid it.
Balancing the Scales: Practical steps to move from an overstressed position to a more balanced dynamic.
The Importance of Knowledge: How understanding your rights and the divorce process can protect you from manipulation.
Finding Incentives: Creating motivation for both parties to settle and move forward.
Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast:Related Episodes:
Divorce Limbo
Central Practice Directions
How to Engage in Mediation
Webinars and Courses:
THE Divorce Blueprint
Webinars on Navigating Divorce
https://www.patreon.com/TheDivorceCoursePodcast
Emergency Contacts:WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
LEGAL AID
Lifeline: 13 11 14
Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978
Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800
Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123
Relationships Australia
Police: 000
DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week)
DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636
National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT)
Thank you for tuning in to this episode on navigating divorce dynamics. Whether you're sitting pretty or completely overstressed, understanding your position is the first step to moving forward. If you found this podcast helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your feedback helps others find the support they need. Stay strong and take care.
Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances.
Episode 165 Divorce Dynamic: Balancing Power & Progress
Introduction to Divorce Dynamics
Understanding the 'Sitting Pretty' Position
Exploring the 'Overstressed' Position
Strategies for Financial Stress
Navigating Manipulative Tactics
The Role of Emotions in Divorce
Understanding Your Legal Rights
Navigating Separation and Living Arrangements
Emotional Preparedness and Counseling
Financial Preparations and Legal Timelines
The Importance of Mediation
Impact on Children and Family Dynamics
Taking Action and Seeking Help
Conclusion and Final Thoughts
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Divorce is often described as a journey, and just like any journey, it requires navigation tools to get to your destination successfully. In this episode, Laura and Lynette use the analogy of driving a car to discuss how to handle the emotional and practical challenges of divorce. They break down the five essential "tools" you need to navigate this journey: your handbrake, gas pedal, reverse, steering wheel, and road map. Whether youāre dealing with gaslighting, running out of steam, or simply trying to stay on course, this episode provides practical advice and emotional support to help you reach the other side of your divorce in the best shape possible.
Listen to This Episode If You:
š Are struggling with self-doubt or gaslighting during your divorce.
ā Need motivation to keep pushing forward through tough times.
š” Want to avoid the pitfalls of overreacting or taking things too far.
š” Are looking for strategies to stay in control of your divorce process.
š Need guidance on how to map out your divorce journey effectively.
Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode:
The Handbrake: How to stop self-doubt and gaslighting from derailing your progress.
The Gas Pedal: Finding your "why" to keep moving forward when the going gets tough.
The Reverse: Understanding when to pull back if youāre overreacting or taking things too far.
The Steering Wheel: Keeping control of your divorce process and not letting others take the wheel.
The Road Map: Mapping out your divorce journey and understanding the steps ahead.
Navigating your Divorce: the 5 tools you need to stay on course
Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast:
Related Episodes:
Disclosure Dilemmas
The Pep Talk You Didn't Know You Needed
Handover Hell
Webinars and Courses:
Divorce Blueprint
In Depth Webinar on Navigating Divorce
Patreon for a worksheet that goes with this episodeEmergency Contacts:
WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
LEGAL AID
Lifeline: 13 11 14
Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978
Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800
Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123
Relationships Australia
Police: 000
DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week)
DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636
National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT)
Thank you for tuning in to this episode on navigating your divorce journey. We hope you find these strategies helpful as you move forward. If you found this podcast valuable, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your feedback helps others find the support they need. Stay strong and take care.
Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances.
00:00 Introduction to Divorce as a Journey
00:30 Understanding Gaslighting and Self-Doubt
01:40 Five Essential Tools for Your Divorce Journey
02:24 The Handbrake: Stopping Self-Doubt
05:30 The Accelerator: Finding Your Motivation
09:35 The Reverse: Knowing When to Pull Back
14:56 The Steering Wheel: Maintaining Control
20:38 Cutting Out Irrelevant Details
21:09 Steering Your Legal Strategy
22:16 Understanding Court Conventions
22:39 Introducing the Divorce Blueprint
23:18 Balancing Property and Children's Matters
25:03 Taking Control of Your Case
25:46 Navigating Legal Advice
26:47 Empowering Yourself Through Knowledge
29:09 Organising Your Legal Documents
30:26 Preparing for Legal Challenges
33:06 Recap and Final Thoughts
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