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  • #456 - Stuck in the “I Hate My Life” Spiral? Let’s Do a Hard Reset

    #456 - Stuck in the “I Hate My Life” Spiral? Let’s Do a Hard Reset

    · Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

    Ever looked around and thought, “I hate my life
 I don’t want to do this anymore”?

    If that’s where you are right now—first of all, I’m giving you a big virtual hug.

    Second of all, you’re not broken, you’re not failing, and you’re on the right track. This moment could be the best thing that’s happened to you in a long time. Why? Because that awful, burn-it-all-down energy can also be your launchpad to something way, way better.

    In this episode of the Love, Happiness and Success podcast, I’ll walk you through my step-by-step process to help you stop spiraling, get clear, and create a life you’re genuinely excited to wake up to.

    It’s time to harness the power of that personal meltdown and turn it into the catalyst for a total life upgrade.

    Timestamps:
    0:00 – The “I Hate My Life” Moment: Why It’s Actually a Gift
    2:36 – Your Inner Flare Gun: Pain as Your Wake-Up Call
    5:20 – Step 1: Get Honest About What’s Not Working
    8:12 – Step 2: Define What You Do Want (With Real Specifics)
    12:47 – Step 3: The Real Reason You’re Stuck—Obstacles and Skills Gaps
    17:09 – Step 4: Ask the Power Question That Changes Everything
    21:42 – Step 5: Build Your Action Plan (One Small Step at a Time)
    25:33 – When It’s More Than Frustration: Signs of Depression & What To Do
    30:55 – What Comes Next: From Stuck to Strategy

    If you’re sitting there thinking, "Yes. This is exactly where I am and I’m ready to change," I want you to know: you don’t have to figure this out alone.

    My Clarity and Confidence Coaching is designed for moments just like this. We’ll help you get unstuck, gain clarity on what you really want, identify obstacles (including sneaky internal ones), and create a plan that actually works.

    The best part? You can book a free consultation call right now to get matched with the right coach for you. You’ll get to work with one of our expert therapists trained in coaching psychology at a fraction of the normal cost. Because money should never be the thing that keeps you stuck.

    Oh! And don’t forget to follow me on Instagram or subscribe on YouTube. I share interviews with experts, motivational tips, and evidence-based strategies to create love, happiness, and success in your life. I’d love to see you there.

    Xoxo

    Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

    www.growingself.com

    P.S. Know someone else who's silently thinking “I hate my life”? Be their light today. Share this video with them. You might just change everything. đŸ’«

  • #455 The Overthinker’s Guide to Inner Peace

    #455 The Overthinker’s Guide to Inner Peace

    · Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

    Let’s be honest: if overthinking were an Olympic sport, I would’ve medaled by age ten. And attempts to stop overthinking often never work or they unintentionally make it worse. You too? Then friend, you’re in the right place.

    As a therapist and coach, I’ve worked with thousands of thoughtful, high-achieving, big-hearted humans who are amazing at thinking things through—but sometimes that superpower turns into a mental trap. The good news? You can absolutely re-train your brain to work for you instead of against you.

    In this episode, we’ll talk about what overthinking really is, how it’s different from anxiety, and the science-backed skills you can start using today to stop overthinking so you can finally find peace, trust yourself, and move forward with clarity and confidence.

    Timestamps:
    00:00 – Understanding Overthinking: The Basics
    01:23 – When Caring Becomes Overthinking: Personality Traits That Fuel It
    03:06 – Is It Anxiety or Just Overthinking? Here’s How to Tell
    06:11 – 3 Steps to Stop Overthinking and Rewire Your Brain
    09:52 – Overthinking in Relationships: How to Stop the Spiral
    14:53 – Mastering Emotional Intelligence to Calm Your Mind
    16:43 – When to Get Help: Coaching, Therapy, and Real Solution

    If you're not totally sure why you're stuck in your head all the time, my free quiz What’s Holding You Back? is the perfect next step. It’ll help you uncover the mental and emotional patterns that might be fueling your overthinking—and give you personalized insight to start shifting out of it. Think of it like a flashlight for your inner world.

    And if you’re ready for real change, you don’t have to figure this out alone. At Growing Self, our team of expert therapists and coaches offers support that’s actually effective. Whether you need therapy to tackle deeper anxiety or evidence-based coaching to build confidence and emotional intelligence, schedule a free consultation with us to get matched with someone who’s a great fit for you. No pressure. Just help.

    Lastly, let’s stay connected! I’m always sharing new tools, insights, and behind-the-scenes goodies on Instagram and YouTube. Follow me there for weekly insights and support on your growth journey.

    Xoxo

    Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

    www.growingself.com

    P.S. Know someone whose brain just won’t shhh lately? Be a good friend and share this episode with them. It might be exactly what they need today. 💛

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  • #454 Should You Stay or Go? How To Know When Your Marriage Is Over

    #454 Should You Stay or Go? How To Know When Your Marriage Is Over

    · Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

    There are few questions more terrifying, more soul-shaking, or more likely to keep you awake at 3 a.m. than this one: How to know when your marriage is over? I mean
 whew. Just saying that out loud makes my stomach flip.

    As a licensed marriage and family therapist, I’ve walked this path with many people, and in this episode of the Love, Happiness & Success podcast, I’ll help you walk through it too—with clarity, compassion, and courage.

    Today we’re unpacking the hidden signs, hard truths, and hopeful possibilities around one of life’s biggest crossroads. We’ll talk about the difference between a rough patch and a dead end, what to do if your partner won’t engage, and how to get the real support you need to move forward confidently—whether that means healing your relationship or letting it go.

    Timestamps:

    00:00 – Is It Over? The Emotional Toll of Not Knowing
    02:47 – When Your Relationship Lives in the Gray Zone
    10:40 – Why "Couples Counseling" Often Doesn’t Work—and What Does
    31:02 – What Is Discernment Coaching, and How Can It Help?
    49:41 – Free Resources + Your Next Right Step

    I’ve put together a free resource that might help you take the next step: my How Healthy Is Your Relationship? Quiz. It’s a quick and insightful tool that can help you see where things are strong, where they’re struggling, and what might be possible. You’ll also get a custom report with suggestions you can actually use. You can find the quiz right here on my website.

    If you're ready to talk to someone about your relationship — whether you're hoping to repair it or just looking for clarity — my team and I are here. You can book a free consultation call and we’ll help you find the right next step, whether that’s discernment coaching, relationship therapy, or support just for you.

    And hey — I’d love to stay connected. You can find me on Instagram and YouTube where I’m always sharing tips, tools, and a little bit of love to help you create the life and relationships you deserve.

    Xoxo

    Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

    www.growingself.com

    P.S. Know someone who’s going through this exact same thing? Maybe they’re stuck in the gray zone too, or quietly suffering through something they haven’t told anyone about. Please send this their way. You never know — sharing this episode might be the first step toward their healing.

  • #453 Why Do I Keep Thinking About My Ex?

    #453 Why Do I Keep Thinking About My Ex?

    · Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

    Ever feel like your ex is living rent-free in your head, even though the relationship is so over? Whether it’s been weeks, months, or (gulp) years since your breakup, if you’re wondering “Why do I keep thinking about my ex?” and you’re still caught in a loop of thoughts, memories, or even fantasies about them, I made this episode just for you.

    I know firsthand — both as a therapist and from my own experience — that getting stuck on an ex is exhausting. But there is a path forward. In this episode of Love, Happiness and Success, I’m walking you through exactly why this happens (spoiler alert: it’s not your fault — it’s biology), and more importantly, how to finally break free so you can move forward into peace, clarity, and emotional freedom.

    Together, we’ll explore the hidden layers that keep people emotionally stuck after a breakup — and I’ll share some of the healing work in my Heal From Heartbreak Program that can help you finally stop thinking about your ex for good.

    Timestamps:
    00:00 – Why Do I Keep Thinking About My Ex?
    06:30 – Love and Addiction: Your Brain on Heartbreak
    14:58 – The Truth About Breakup Recovery
    28:17 – Emotional Loose Ends: The Silent Saboteur
    38:05 – Rebuilding Your Self & Reclaiming Your Future
    48:14 – You’re Not Doomed to Keep Thinking About Your Ex

    If this episode resonated with you, please know this is just the beginning of what’s possible. If you want a full, guided journey through every layer of healing, I created the Heal From Heartbreak Program for exactly this purpose. In the self-paced program, I’ll walk you through all nine stages of breakup recovery, with optional group coaching or one-on-one support from our expert breakup coaches — all of whom are licensed therapists trained in breakup recovery.

    This isn’t just about “getting over it”. It’s about becoming whole again. You are not alone in this, and with the right support you can turn this breakup into your biggest breakthrough.

    This program goes live this Friday, 5/16 and you can sign up for the waitlist here: Heal From Heartbreak Program. Once the program is live, you can start healing right away. No more waiting to feel better or trying to figure it out on your own. I'm so excited for you to check it out.

    Xoxo

    Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

    www.growingself.com

    P.S. Ready to find out what stage of healing you’re in? Take my free breakup quiz to find out and get a free custom report with the next steps to heal your broken heart.

    And if you know someone who keeps spiraling over their ex, share this with them. Forward the link, post it on your story, or send them a little nudge. Be the friend who helps them start healing.

  • #452 How to Create a Career Aligned with YOU

    #452 How to Create a Career Aligned with YOU

    · Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

    Ever wake up at 3am thinking, “What am I doing with my life?” If so, you are not alone—and you are definitely not lost. In this inspiring episode of Love, Happiness, and Success, I’m joined by bestselling author, NYU professor, and former editor-in-chief of the Harvard Business Review, Suzy Welch, to help you get the career clarity and alignment that you deserve.

    Suzy shares her personal journey of reinvention and introduces her life-changing methodology from her new book, Becoming You. This isn’t just motivational fluff. We’re talking concrete tools and research-backed frameworks to help you get clarity around your path, stop second-guessing yourself, and make empowered choices about your life and career—without burning it all down.

    Timestamps:
    00:00 – “What Am I Doing With My Life?"
    02:20 – Suzy Welch’s Story
    05:55 – Discovering Your Real Values
    14:57 – What to Do When the Lighthouse Goes Dark
    29:35 – The 3-Part Framework That Changes Lives
    35:23 – The Value of “Scope”: Big Life vs. Little Life
    40:13 – Eudemonia and Generational Differences
    43:35 – Aptitudes, Personality, and the Enneagram
    47:23 – Don’t Quit the Job Yet: Is It the Role or the Culture?
    52:45 – Conclusion and Final Thoughts

    I hope this episode inspired you as much as it did me. And I want you to know you don’t have to figure this out on your own. Our Clarity and Confidence Coaching pairs you with an expert therapist trained in coaching psychology to help you uncover your purpose, break through fear and confusion, and take decisive steps toward a fulfilling career.

    You can schedule a free consultation to talk to an expert on our team. No pressure, just a warm, judgment-free conversation with someone who truly understands. This is your moment to stop second-guessing and start moving forward — with clarity, courage, and real support.

    And hey — if you’re not already following me on Instagram or YouTube, come say hi! I’m always sharing bite-sized wisdom, clips from interviews with experts, and free resources to support you on your journey to love, happiness, and success.

    Xoxo
    Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
    www.growingself.com

    P.S. If you thought of someone while listening to this—someone who’s been feeling lost or unclear about their career path—share this episode with them. It might be exactly the breakthrough they need.

  • #451 How to Break Free From Bad Habits, feat. Ian Cron

    #451 How to Break Free From Bad Habits, feat. Ian Cron

    · Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

    Have you ever caught yourself reaching for a glass of wine, scrolling endlessly, or obsessively organizing your to-do list
 and thought, Wait, why am I doing this again?! You might not think of yourself as "addicted" — but what if you’re using these “fixes” to soothe something deeper?

    In today’s episode, I’m sitting down with the incredible Ian Morgan Cron — bestselling author, psychotherapist, and spiritual teacher — to unpack a radical idea: We’re all a little bit addicted.

    Whether it’s people-pleasing, overworking, or that toxic relationship you just can't quit, we’re diving deep into why we get stuck, how the 12-step process can change your life (even if you don’t have a “capital A” addiction), and how to truly heal from the inside out.

    You’ll walk away with a totally new roadmap for transformation — and trust me, by the end of this episode, you’re going to feel empowered, enlightened, and ready to love yourself and your life in a whole new way. Let’s do this!

    Timestamps:
    00:00 – Why You Keep Going Back to Your "Fix"
    01:21 – Meet Ian Morgan Cron: Author, Therapist, Spiritual Teacher
    01:45 – The 12 Steps: Not Just for “Addicts” Anymore
    07:55 – What the Enneagram Reveals About You
    11:46 – Applying the 12 Steps to Everyday Life
    24:57 – The Freedom in Admitting You're Powerless
    40:40 – Feeling “Not at Home” in Yourself?
    41:36 – The Dangerous Myth of the "Quick Fix"
    44:37 – The Paradox of Letting Go and Taking Responsibility
    53:13 – Addictions, Trauma, and the Road to Compassion
    56:51 – Real Stories of Radical Transformation
    59:50 – You Are Not Alone: Why Community Heals
    1:11:19 – Next Steps for Your Healing Journey

    If you found yourself nodding along today — realizing that maybe, just maybe, there’s a “fix” that’s been holding you back — I've got the perfect next step for you. Take my free What's Holding You Back? Quiz! It’s designed to help you get crystal clear on the hidden patterns, habits, or beliefs that might be quietly running the show in your life. Once you see what’s really going on beneath the surface, it becomes so much easier to break free and move forward with confidence, clarity, and strength.

    And if you're ready for even deeper growth, let’s talk! Schedule a free consultation with one of the talented coaches or therapists at Growing Self. We'll help you put everything you’re learning into action — so you can finally create the joyful, thriving life you deserve.

    Oh, and don’t forget — let's stay connected! Come hang out with me on Instagram or YouTube for more real talk, fresh inspiration, and plenty of support. We're in this together.

    Xoxo

    Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
    www.growingself.com

    P.S. If you thought of someone while listening to this episode — maybe a friend who’s been struggling or could just use a little love and insight — Please share this episode with them. A little encouragement can change everything.

  • #450 Rewiring Mental Health from the Inside Out with Metabolic Psychiatry

    #450 Rewiring Mental Health from the Inside Out with Metabolic Psychiatry

    · Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

    What if your anxiety, brain fog, or mood swings aren’t in your mind... but in your mitochondria?

    I know—that sounds wild. But in this jaw-dropping episode of Love, Happiness & Success, I’m talking with Dr. Bret Scher about something that completely changed the way I think about mental health: Metabolic Psychiatry.

    We dive into the cutting-edge (but surprisingly old!) science behind mind and energy psychiatry that connects mental health challenges like depression, anxiety, ADHD, and even serious psychiatric conditions with how your body uses energy. Spoiler alert: your brain runs on fuel, and what you eat matters a lot more than we were taught in grad school.

    Together, Dr. Scher and I unpack how ketogenic therapy is helping people reclaim their mental clarity, lift mood disorders, and, in some cases, experience complete transformation. If you’ve been “doing the work” and still not feeling like yourself, this conversation might be the missing piece you’ve been searching for.

    Timestamps:
    00:00 The Link Between Metabolism and Mental Health
    01:17 Dr. Brett Scher and Metabolic Psychiatry
    02:39 The History and Science Behind Ketogenic Therapy
    10:36 Exploring the Ketogenic Diet and Its Benefits
    17:59 Implementing a Ketogenic Diet
    30:32 Patient Transformations and Success Stories
    32:23 Impact of Ketogenic Diet on Mental Health
    33:35 Inflammation and Brain Function
    34:46 Ketogenic Therapy vs. Traditional Approaches
    39:11 GLP-1 Drugs and Metabolic Health
    42:42 Implementing Dietary Changes in Families
    46:01 Ketogenic Diet for Autism Spectrum Disorders
    49:27 Comparing Ketogenic and Plant-Based Diets
    52:23 Resources and Final Thoughts

    I learned SO much from chatting with Dr. Scher. I hope you did too. If you're ready for a more personalized approach to start feeling like yourself again—clear, focused, calm, and energized—I’d love for you to check out my Clarity & Confidence Coaching. It’s a powerful way to build self-awareness and make meaningful changes in your life while getting expert support and structure from a licensed therapist trained in coaching psychology. You can book a free consultation call to take the next step. We’ll answer all of your questions and help you get started.

    And hey, let’s stay connected! You can find me sharing more science-meets-heart insights over on Instagram and YouTube—where I drop fresh content every week to help you grow, thrive, and live your best life.

    Xoxo

    Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

    www.growingself.com

    P.S. If you thought of someone while listening to this—someone who’s been struggling, or who’s always trying to "fix their mindset" but nothing’s working—share this episode with them. It might be exactly the breakthrough they need.

  • #449 Coaching versus Counseling: Why Your Therapist Might Be Keeping You Stuck

    #449 Coaching versus Counseling: Why Your Therapist Might Be Keeping You Stuck

    · Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

    Ever feel like you’ve been in therapy forever and nothing’s actually changing? Or maybe you have a life coach that loves to just hang out and vibe instead of actually helping you reach your goals?

    In this eye-opening episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on something that has been driving me absolutely bonkers for years—and might be costing you time, money, and progress. If you’ve ever felt stuck in therapy, underwhelmed by coaching, or just totally confused about which path is right for your growth, this one’s for you.

    I’m talking about the real difference between coaching versus counseling, why one might be the wrong fit for what you actually need, and how to finally choose the right support system that gets results (without wasting another minute or dollar).

    Whether you're working on your relationship, your career, or your confidence, this episode will help you get clarity around your path forward.

    Timestamps:
    00:00 Unveiling a Hidden Industry Secret
    01:35 The Therapy Gap: Why Traditional Methods Fall Short
    06:18 Understanding the Different Types of Therapy
    23:34 The Rise of Coaching: A New Solution?
    24:26 The Wild West of Coaching: Risks and Realities
    34:31 Finding the Right Help: Therapy vs. Coaching
    38:29 Evidence-Based Clarity & Confidence Coaching Program
    45:54 Conclusion and Next Steps

    If you’re nodding along and thinking, “Yes, this is what I’ve been missing,” I’d love to invite you into our Clarity & Confidence Coaching Program. This is a results-driven, action-oriented coaching experience designed for people who are ready to make real changes—not just talk about them.

    What makes it different? It’s led by licensed therapists who are trained in evidence-based coaching psychology—so you get both the depth and the direction. No fluff. No therapy traps. Just growth that actually sticks.

    Schedule a free consultation call to see if it’s a good fit. We’ll talk about what you’re working on, where you feel stuck, and how we can help you move forward with clarity and confidence.

    If you want to keep learning and growing, I’d love to connect with you on Instagram and YouTube! Come hang out with me and get tons of free insights and encouragement every week.

    Xoxo
    Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
    www.growingself.com

    P.S. Know someone who’s stuck in therapy, overwhelmed by coaching options, or just craving something real? Share this video with them. You might just be the reason they finally find what works.

  • #448 How to Get Out of a Slump

    #448 How to Get Out of a Slump

    · Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

    Ever feel like you're stuck in molasses with zero motivation, energy, or sparkle? Me too, friend. Let’s talk about how to get out of a slump.

    In this episode of Love, Happiness, and Success, we’re diving deep into that “meh” space we all land in from time to time. Maybe your house is a mess, your energy is flatlined, and your dinner for the third night in a row is fried takeout. Here’s the thing, slumps happen. And they are 100% resolvable.

    I’ll be unpacking why these slumps sneak in, what they really mean, and most importantly—how to actually get out of them. I’m sharing science-backed strategies, personal stories, and the little mindset and habit shifts that truly move the needle.

    By the end of this episode, you’ll have your very own slump-busting plan—and you’ll know exactly where to start, whether you need a mindset shift, a behavior reboot, or both.

    Timestamps:
    00:00 — Slumps are normal (but let’s not stay there)
    06:18 — How to spot your personal “uh-oh” signs
    10:32 — Slump vs. Depression: What you really need to know
    24:44 — Why slumps happen: burnout, transitions, and mystery fogs
    31:55 — Lifestyle habits that quietly wreck your vibe
    33:17 — Why trying to “feel better” first doesn’t work
    34:24 — What to do instead (this changes everything)
    42:51 — Create your personalized slump-busting strategy
    52:28 — Quick wins: tiny shifts that make a big impact
    57:54 — Your next steps to get back to YOU

    If you’re ready for a real, lasting reset—come join me and my amazing team in the Clarity & Confidence Coaching Program. This is where the magic happens. Together, we’ll help you reconnect with your sense of purpose, build habits that actually support the life you want, and shift the unhelpful thoughts that have been keeping you stuck. It’s not about a temporary mood boost—it’s about creating true, sustainable transformation from the inside out.

    Schedule your free consultation now and let’s start building your breakthrough together.

    And, I’d love for us to stay connected! Each week, I drop a new podcast episode and share resources to help you create love, happiness, and success in your life. I also go live every Thursday on Instagram and Youtube to talk about the topic of the week and answer all of your questions. So check out the full podcast episode and join me on Thursday at 12pm MT / 2pm EST. I’d be so glad to see you!

    Xoxo

    Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

    www.growingself.com

  • #447 From Guilt Trips to Gaslighting: How to Outsmart a Manipulator

    #447 From Guilt Trips to Gaslighting: How to Outsmart a Manipulator

    · Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

    Ever leave a conversation feeling like your brain’s been scrambled and you’re not sure why? Maybe you’re suddenly questioning your own reality, feeling guilty, or bending over backwards for someone who... let’s be real, might not deserve it? If that sounds familiar, pull up a chair, my friend.

    Today, we’re pulling back the curtain on manipulation—not to teach you these tactics (please don’t use them!), but so you can spot them, disarm them, and never get played again.

    In this episode of the Love, Happiness & Success podcast, I’m breaking down the five most common manipulative tactics, why they work so well, and how to protect yourself—with confidence, clarity, and maybe even a little compassion.

    TIMESTAMPS
    00:00 – Welcome to the dark side (just kidding... kind of)
    01:28 – Why manipulation works on good people
    04:51 – Awareness is your superpower
    06:01 – Guilt-tripping 101: How they hook you
    09:07 – How to disarm a guilt trip like a boss
    18:03 – Playing the victim: When empathy is used against you
    31:36 – Love bombing: It’s not just for dating apps
    33:01 – Healthy relationships take time (and boundaries)
    36:55 – Narcissists, splitting, and people who come on way too strong
    43:22 – Withdrawal + passive aggression = manipulation in disguise
    54:11 – Let’s talk about gaslighting (finally!)
    01:01:18 – What to do if you have vulnerabilities that get you caught in this stuff

    If you’re realizing that certain relationships in your life are way more complicated than they should be—or if you’ve been stuck in a cycle of guilt, confusion, or second-guessing yourself—you don’t have to stay there. You deserve support. You deserve clarity. You deserve healthy connections.

    Come connect with me and my amazing team at Growing Self and schedule your free consultation. Whether you’re looking for therapy or coaching, we’re here to help you break free from toxic patterns and build the life and relationships you actually want.

    And hey—don’t be a stranger! You can find me on Instagram and YouTube for even more real-talk, tools, and live Q&A sessions. Let’s grow together.

    Xoxo

    Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

    www.growingself.com

    P.S. Know someone who’s been struggling with manipulation in their relationships? Be a good friend—share this with them. It might be the lightbulb moment they’ve been waiting for. đŸ’Ąâ€ïž

  • #446 How to Be a More Positive Person

    #446 How to Be a More Positive Person

    · Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

    Tired of being your own worst critic? What if I told you that positivity isn’t something you’re born with—it’s a skill you can learn? ✹

    In this powerful episode of the Love, Happiness and Success podcast, I sit down with Dr. Nick Holton of the Anti-Fragile Academy to explore how to be a more positive person—without ignoring your difficult emotions or pretending everything is fine when it’s not. Because here’s the truth: toxic positivity isn’t helpful, and sometimes the most powerful thing you can do is feel your feelings and grow from them.

    We’re diving deep into the science of positive psychology, how to stop gaslighting yourself with "just think positive" advice, and practical mindset-shifting tools that can help you feel stronger, more resilient, and yes—more joyful, too.

    Timestamps:
    00:00 – Why ‘just be positive’ backfires
    01:12 – Meet Dr. Nick Holton
    03:18 – What positive psychology actually is
    04:38 – The real role of emotions in your wellbeing
    06:33 – How to start changing your mindset
    08:09 – Growth vs. Fixed Mindsets
    10:32 – Why acceptance is the missing piece in positivity
    21:25 – The power of gratitude
    31:24 – You don’t control performance (and why that’s great news)
    33:10 – Visualizing failure? Yep—it’s a secret to resilience
    34:41 – What elite athletes know about mindset that you should too
    40:16 – Turning trauma into growth: How to bounce forward
    42:51 – Want to feel better? Expand your emotional vocabulary
    48:32 – What passion + perseverance have to do with great relationships
    54:20 – Access real growth tools

    If you're craving more clarity, joy, and empowerment in your life—or if you’re just feeling a little stuck and unsure how to shift your mindset—this episode is filled with practical wisdom that can help.

    And if you’re ready to take the next step, we’re here for you. Book a free consultation at Growing Self, and we’ll help you get matched with the right therapist or coach for you. Whether you want to work on your mindset, your relationships, your career, or all of the above, our team of warm, experienced experts can help you start moving forward with confidence and clarity.

    I’d also love to connect with you beyond the podcast! Subscribe to my channel on YouTube for weekly videos packed with insights on love, happiness, and success—and follow me on Instagram for expert advice, bite-size interviews, and daily encouragement. We’re building a community of growth-minded, big-hearted humans, and you belong with us.

    Thanks for being here with me today. Sending you so much love—and I’ll see you in the next one!

    Xoxo

    Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

    www.growingself.com

    P.S. If you know someone who could use a positivity boost today, send this episode over to them. Let’s help each other grow. đŸŒ±

  • #445 How to Build a Healthier Relationship With Money

    #445 How to Build a Healthier Relationship With Money

    · Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

    Ever wonder why your relationship with money feels so complicated? It’s more than just dollars and cents—it’s emotional, it’s psychological, and it deeply affects your life and relationships. Today, I'm talking with a marriage and family therapist who specializes in financial therapy, Jillian Knight. We're diving into why understanding your relationship with money can be a total game-changer for your finances, career, and relationships.

    From unconscious money beliefs to how your upbringing shapes your financial habits, we cover it all. Whether you're struggling with debt, feeling anxious about spending, or having money-related conflicts with your partner, this conversation is for YOU.

    In this episode, we’ll discuss:

    What happens when we’re not self-aware about our relationship with money

    How money scripts influence our behaviors and decisions

    Why it’s crucial to approach money with empathy—not shame

    And most importantly, how to shift your money mindset to build a healthier, more balanced financial life

    Timestamps:
    00:00 – Exploring Your Relationship with Money
    00:49 – Introducing Jillian Knight: Financial Therapy Expert
    01:21 – Understanding the Impact of Money Beliefs
    04:49 – The Cultural Ideals of Financial Management
    06:39 – Challenging Authoritarian Financial Advice
    08:07 – Personal Stories and Financial Therapy Insights
    10:53 – The Importance of Compassion in Financial Health
    19:31 – Identifying Your Money Scripts
    23:13 – Exploring the Enneagram and Money
    24:46 – Couples and Money Dynamics
    28:39 – Understanding Money Stories
    33:30 – Identifying Core Needs and Triggers
    36:55 – Building Bridges and Shared Goals
    42:12 – Conclusion and Resources

    I know talking about money can feel uncomfortable. That’s why conversations like this one are so important! I also created something to help you navigate those tough financial conversations with love, empathy, and understanding—without the stress or conflict.. Check out my Communication That Connects 2-part training. You’ll learn how to approach money talks in a way that strengthens your relationships, rather than creating distance. I hope you check it out!

    Also, let’s connect on Instagram and Youtube! I drop a new podcast every week with interviews just like this one so you can create love, happiness, and success in your life. I also go live every Thursday at 12pm MT on both platforms. I chat about the topic of the week and answer any questions you might have live. This week, I’ll be digging into your relationship to money!

    Let’s break free from old financial patterns together and build a future where money feels like a source of freedom, not stress. See you there!

    Xoxo
    Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
    www.growingself.com

    P.S. If this episode was helpful for you, share it with a friend or family member who could use the info too!

  • #444 Child-Centered Play Therapy for Raising Emotionally Resilient Kids

    #444 Child-Centered Play Therapy for Raising Emotionally Resilient Kids

    · Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

    Ever wonder why your child melts down over the tiniest thing—or how to actually help them navigate big emotions? Today, we’re diving into the world of Child-Centered Play Therapy, an evidence-based approach that helps kids build confidence, self-regulation, and emotional resilience
 all through PLAY.

    I’m joined by the amazing Dr. Brenna Hicks, a specialist in helping parents use these techniques at home to create a happier, calmer family environment. Whether you have a preschooler, a strong-willed school-age kid, or a moody teen, this conversation will give you powerful tools to understand your child’s emotional world—and strengthen your bond in the process.

    We’re covering:

    What makes Child-Centered Play Therapy different from other approaches

    How play can help kids process emotions (even when words fail!)

    What really causes tantrums and dysregulation

    Simple therapist-approved parenting strategies you can start using today

    How to know if your child might need therapy—and how to find the right therapist

    Timestamps:
    03:29 - What is Child-Centered Play Therapy (and why does it work?)
    09:27 - The parent’s role in play therapy (and why it’s a game-changer!)
    16:03 - Why kids “act out” and what’s really going on
    23:09 - The surprising science behind play as therapy
    34:41 - How therapy transforms kids from anxious to confident
    36:27 - What to do if your child is struggling emotionally
    43:20 - How to tell if a therapist is actually qualified to help your child
    47:58 - Parenting tips: What to say (and what not to say) to your kid
    53:11 - When to seek professional help & what to look for in a therapist
    01:02:49 - Resources, next steps & final thoughts

    I know how much you love your child and want the absolute best for them. Parenting is one of the most rewarding—and challenging—jobs in the world, and sometimes, we all need a little extra guidance and encouragement. That’s why I created the Happy Families Collection—a curated set of expert tips, strategies, and insights designed to help you build a stronger, more connected, and emotionally healthy family. ✹

    👉 Access the Happy Families Collection here!

    And if you loved this episode, let’s stay connected! Find me on Instagram for daily inspiration and expert-backed advice, and don’t forget to subscribe on YouTube for even more deep-dive conversations so you can create love, happiness, and success in your life.

    You’re doing an amazing job, and I’m so honored to be on this journey with you!

    Xoxo
    Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
    www.growingself.com

    P.S. If you know a parent who could benefit from this episode, share it with them! I know personally that us parents really appreciate the love and support.

  • #443 Love Shouldn’t Erase You: How to Stop Losing Yourself in a Relationship

    #443 Love Shouldn’t Erase You: How to Stop Losing Yourself in a Relationship

    · Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

    Ever felt like you completely lost yourself in a relationship?

    Like one day you woke up and thought, Wait
 who even am I anymore? If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone—and, spoiler alert, it’s not just in your head. There’s real science behind why we fuse our identities with our partners and why breakups can feel like more than just heartbreak—they can feel like an identity crisis.

    In this eye-opening conversation, I sit down with relationship scientist Dr. Morgan Cope to break down the psychology behind losing yourself in a relationship, why it happens, and most importantly—how to rebuild your identity after love. Whether you're freshly single, in a relationship that feels too enmeshed, or just curious about how relationships shape our sense of self, this episode is packed with insights, humor, and practical strategies to help you come back to YOU.

    Timestamps:

    00:00 - Is Losing Yourself in a Relationship a Real Thing?

    00:35 - Meet Dr. Morgan Cope & Her Research on Relationships & Identity

    01:00 Understanding Identity in Relationships

    03:07 - Attachment Styles and Identity

    07:30 - Impact of Breakups on Identity

    24:42 - Mental and Physical Effects of Breakups

    30:27 - Fear of Being Single

    32:02 - Changing the Environment vs Changing Yourself

    36:56 - Rebounding and Self-Expansion

    39:14 - Identity and Values Assessment

    44:11 - Cult Psychology and Group Identity

    51:21 - Personal Growth Through Relationship Challenges

    Feeling lost after a breakup? I know how hard it can be to find yourself again, so I created something to help you out on your healing journey. Check out my FREE Breakup Recovery Quiz to get personalized insights on where you are in your healing journey & how to move forward so you can begin to feel like yourself again.

    And if you’d like to keep this conversation going, I’d love to hear from you! You can find me on YouTube or Instagram. Every week, I drop a new podcast episode dedicated to your personal growth and healing so you can create love, happiness, and success in your life. I hope to see you there!

    Xoxo

    Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

    www.growingself.com

    P.S. Know someone who might need to hear this? Share this video with a friend who’s struggling in their relationship or going through a tough breakup. 💕

  • #442 When Therapy For Breakups Backfires (And What To Do Instead)

    #442 When Therapy For Breakups Backfires (And What To Do Instead)

    · Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

    Ever feel like therapy is supposed to help you move on after a breakup
 but instead, you’re just rehashing your pain over and over again? The truth is that most therapists are not actually trained in breakup recovery—which means traditional therapy for breakups might be keeping you stuck instead of helping you move forward.

    In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on why therapy for breakups doesn’t always work, and what actually does. If you’re tired of feeling like you’re trapped in an endless loop of overthinking, heartbreak, and emotional pain—definitely give this a listen. I break down:

    The missing pieces in traditional therapy for breakups

    The 8 essential stages of breakup recovery (skip one and you stay stuck!)

    Why your brain reacts to breakups like a drug withdrawal (and how to cut the cords)

    The biggest myths about healing after a breakup that keep you spinning in circles

    Timestamps:

    00:00 - The Problem With Therapy For Breakups (Nobody Talks About This!)

    00:51 - Why Therapists Aren’t Trained in Heartbreak Recovery

    02:47 - My Journey: From Therapist to Breakup Specialist

    15:49 - How Your Biological Attachment System Keeps You Stuck

    24:10 - The Real Path to Moving On (hint: it’s NOT what you think!)

    26:25 - The Eight Stages of Heartbreak Recovery (Which one are you stuck in?)

    34:23 - For You: Heartbreak Recovery Resources

    I know how hard this is. If you’ve been feeling stuck, like no matter what you do, you just can’t seem to move on—please know that it’s not your fault. Healing from heartbreak is a process, and if you don’t have the right map, it’s so easy to stay lost in the pain.

    That’s exactly why I created the Breakup Recovery Quiz—to help you get clarity on where you are in your healing journey and what might be holding you back from truly letting go. It’s completely free, and I made it just for you, so you can finally start moving forward.

    And if today’s conversation resonated with you, I really encourage you to check out my other podcast episodes and follow me on Instagram and Youtube. Every week, I share my years of expertise and interviews with experts so you can achieve the love, happiness, and success you deserve!

    Here’s to your healing and growth. đŸŒ±

    Xoxo

    Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

    www.growingself.com

    P.S. If you know someone who could use a little bit of support today as they navigate their breakup, share this episode with them. It could be exactly what they needed to hear today. ❀

  • #441 Why Your Ex Moved On So Fast (And How You Can Too)

    #441 Why Your Ex Moved On So Fast (And How You Can Too)

    · Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

    That moment when you see your ex looking happier than ever with someone new—while you're still crying in the bathroom at work? Yeah
 it’s brutal. You might be wondering to yourself, “Why did my ex move on so fast? Did they care about me AT ALL?” But before you spiral, let's talk about what’s really happening here and dig into how you can finally move on too.

    In this episode of Love, Happiness, and Success, I'm breaking down the psychology behind why some people seem to bounce back instantly (spoiler: it’s not always what it seems). You’ll also learn why your path—however slow and painful it may feel—is actually the healthiest, strongest, and most transformational.

    By the end of this podcast, you’ll understand:

    Why your ex seems to be over it (and why that may not be the whole story)

    The biggest mistake people make when they rush into something new

    What avoidant attachment has to do with it (and why it’s not about you)

    How to turn your pain into fuel for real growth and healing

    Grab a cup of tea and get cozy. This one is for YOU.

    Timestamps:
    00:00 - Why Does This Keep Happening?!
    01:40 - The Weird Ways Your Ex Still Sneaks Into Your Mind
    02:37 - The REAL Reason You Can’t Let Go
    06:02 - The 8 Stages of Heartbreak Recovery—Which One Are You Stuck In?
    16:05 - The Science of Heartbreak: Your Brain on Love (and Withdrawal!)
    21:34 - Unfinished Business: What You Need for REAL Closure
    29:35 - How to Finally Move On—For GOOD
    34:39 - Next Steps & How I Can Help You

    I know how hard this is. Going through the breakup recovery process can be long and grueling, but you don’t have to figure this all out on your own. As a licensed therapist and psychologist specializing in relationships and heartbreak, I’ve seen people grow and thrive after a breakup time and time again. And you can do it too.

    I took all of the information I’ve learned over the years and created a free Heartbreak Recovery Quiz to help you on your journey to reclaim your heart and your life. By taking this quiz, you’ll be able to figure out exactly where you are in your healing journey—and what steps to take next. You’ll get a personalized roadmap to moving forward with clarity and confidence. I hope this helps. ❀

    Xoxo

    Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

    www.growingself.com

    P.S. If you know someone who needs a little extra support today, send this podcast episode over to them. It could be exactly what they needed to hear.

  • #440 Why Your Ex Still Haunts You (And How to Let Go For Good)

    #440 Why Your Ex Still Haunts You (And How to Let Go For Good)

    · Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

    Ever feel like your ex is still haunting you? You’re living your best life, maybe even in a happy, healthy relationship—so WHY do they keep popping up in your head, completely uninvited? If you've ever caught yourself late-night stalking their Instagram (oops), wondering what if?, or feeling like you just can’t shake the past, don’t worry. There are steps you can take to move forward.

    In this episode of Love, Happiness & Success, I dive deep into why you still think about your ex—even when you don’t want to. We’ll talk about the science of attachment, why your brain keeps looping back, and—most importantly—how to finally break free.

    Timestamps:
    00:00 - Why Does This Keep Happening?!
    01:40 - The Weird Ways Your Ex Still Sneaks Into Your Mind
    02:37 - The REAL Reason You Can’t Let Go
    06:02 - The 8 Stages of Heartbreak Recovery—Which One Are You Stuck In?
    16:05 - The Science of Heartbreak: Your Brain on Love (and Withdrawal!)
    21:34 - Unfinished Business: What You Need for REAL Closure
    29:35 - How to Finally Move On—For GOOD
    34:39 - Next Steps & How I Can Help You

    I know how hard it can be to feel stuck in the past when all you really want is to move forward and feel at peace. If today’s conversation resonated with you, I have some resources that can help.

    First, if you’re wondering why this is happening to you and what you can do about it, I invite you to take my Heartbreak Recovery Quiz. It’s a free tool designed to help you understand where you are in the healing process and what specific steps you can take next to finally be free of the past. Healing is possible, and you will get through it.

    And if you’d like to keep this conversation going, I’d love to hear from you! Come join my live stream this Thursday at 12 PM MT on YouTube or Instagram. We’ll be talking more about why you still think about your ex—and I’ll be answering your questions live. Whether you need advice, reassurance, or just a supportive space, come chat with me.

    Sending you warmth and support, always.

    Xoxo

    Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

    www.growingself.com

    P.S. Know someone who could use this advice? Share this video with them—it might be exactly what they need to hear today. ❀

  • #439 How To Be a Better Communicator with Charles Duhigg

    #439 How To Be a Better Communicator with Charles Duhigg

    · Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

    What if the secret to transforming your relationships wasn’t about saying more, but saying it better?

    I know how hard it can be when communication in your relationship just isn’t working. Those moments when you’re trying so hard to connect, but it feels like you’re speaking two different languages—they’re exhausting and heartbreaking. I’ve seen so many people struggling with this, and I want you to know it doesn’t have to be this way!

    This week on the Love, Happiness, and Success podcast, I sat down with Charles Duhigg, New York Times bestselling author of Supercommunicators, to dive into how to be a better communicator. We talk about the importance of knowing what kind of conversations you’re having, how to ask better questions to unlock deeper connections, and steps to actually hearing and understanding each other.

    Whether you’re trying to connect with a partner, a friend, or even a coworker, this conversation is packed with eye-opening insights and actionable tips to help you truly get and be gotten.

    Chapters:
    00:00 - Why communication is the ultimate relationship glue
    00:35 - Meet Charles Duhigg, your new favorite communication guru
    07:38 - Game-changing tips to up your communication game
    08:57 - The art of asking deep, meaningful questions
    17:31 - What really works in tough conversations
    28:30 - Identifying what people really need from you
    31:58 - Building trust through listening and understanding

    36:02 - Redefining the goal of conversations

    37:49 - Resources for communication skill building

    My favorite takeaway from this episode was that you don’t have to be born a “supercommunicator.” These are skills that you can learn and improve with practice.

    So if you’re thinking “Heck yes! I’m ready for some growth!”, check out my free Communication That Connects 2-Part Training. It’s a step-by-step guide to help you understand what’s really going on beneath the disconnect, and how to rebuild the trust and emotional safety that can get lost along the way.

    Together, we’ll explore tools and strategies to stop the cycle of conflict, restore your connection, and start creating a more positive chapter for your relationships.

    Also, let’s connect on Instagram or YouTube! I go live every Thursday at 12pm MT on both platforms, diving deeper into topics just like this one and answering all of your personal questions. So check out this episode, and then come chat with me! I’m here to help. đŸ©”

    Xoxo,

    Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

    P.S. Know someone who could use this guidance? Maybe a partner or a bestie struggling to communicate? Share this with them! Because better communication makes the world (and your group chats) a much better place.

  • #438 Sleep Like a Pro: Secrets for Better Nights and Brighter Days

    #438 Sleep Like a Pro: Secrets for Better Nights and Brighter Days

    · Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

    How are you really sleeping these days? Be honest—are you waking up feeling refreshed, or is it more like dragging yourself out of bed and powering through the day on fumes? If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone. Sleep is a huge part of feeling like your best self, but it’s so easy to overlook.

    In this podcast episode, I’m sitting down with my friend, Dr. Michelle Okun, a health psychologist and sleep scientist. We’re talking about how sleep impacts literally everything—your mood, your stress levels, your health, and even your energy. We’re diving into the science of why sleep matters and the simple things you can do to feel like your best self again. Don’t worry, your sleep helpline is here!

    So, grab a cup of tea, cozy up, and let’s talk about how to get the rest you need to feel amazing. You deserve this! 💖

    Timestamps:

    00:00 – Tired and Stressed? Let’s Fix That! 00:41 – Meet Dr. Michelle Okun 02:12 – The Surprising Ways Sleep Impacts Your Life 06:48 – Stress, Cortisol, and Sleep 09:56 – How Stress Keeps You Awake (and How to Fix It) 19:42 – Common Causes of Sleep Issues 23:40 – When to Consider a Sleep Study 32:09 – Practical Sleep Tips That Actually Work 50:08 – Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for Insomnia 53:50 – Resources to Improve Your Life

    I hope this podcast was as helpful for you as it was for me. I learned so much from Dr. Okun! If you’re ready to take the next step or just curious about what might be holding you back—whether it’s sleep-related or just something in your overall wellness—check out my free What’s Holding You Back? Quiz.

    Gaining clarity and self-awareness around the places in my life where I needed some extra love and attention was a huge game changer for me. This quiz will give you the same insights so you can start taking steps to thrive in your life.

    If you have questions or want to chat with me more about this, I’d love for you to join me for this week’s livestream on Thursday at 12 PM MT on Instagram and YouTube! I’m diving even deeper into how to improve your sleep and answering your questions live.

    Oh, and don’t forget to subscribe and hit the bell! I’m here every week sharing insights and resources with you so you can achieve the love, happiness, and success that you deserve. Let’s figure this out together, friend!

    Xoxo

    Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

    www.growingself.com

    PS: If you know someone who’s running on empty and could use this advice, send this podcast their way. Sleep is life-changing, and we all deserve to wake up feeling amazing! 😮✹

  • #437 The Upside of ADHD: Unlocking Your Hidden Superpowers

    #437 The Upside of ADHD: Unlocking Your Hidden Superpowers

    · Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

    Recently diagnosed with adult ADHD (or thinking that you probably should be?) Well friend, welcome to the club, and I'm glad you're here to learn all about the upside of ADHD superpowers!

    In this episode of the Love, Happiness, and Success Podcast, I sit down with my colleague and fellow therapist, Jesse S., to talk about the ups and downs of ADHD—especially when you’re diagnosed as an adult.

    Together, we share our personal stories (and some laughs!) about what it’s like to navigate life with ADHD—before and after diagnosis. We dive deep into the challenges, relationship struggles, and unexpected upside of ADHD superpowers, while offering practical tools to help you thrive.

    Timestamps:

    00:00 Is This You? Recognizing ADHD as an Adult 00:42 Meet Jesse S.! 02:12 The “Aha!” Moment That Changed Everything 03:49 How to Get Diagnosed: Jesse’s Journey 05:07 Life Before and After Diagnosis 17:06 ADHD and Relationships 23:42 Struggles, Self-Esteem, and Stigma 26:39 Thriving in School and Work 28:29 Finding Your Zone 30:18 Structure for ADHD Success 39:46 Boosting Brainpower: Sleep, Nutrition, and Hydration 42:20 Resources and Words of Hope

    Living with ADHD can feel like a whirlwind—your creativity and energy can light up a room, but staying organized or focused might sometimes feel like an uphill battle. And let’s be real: when ADHD gets in the way of meeting expectations (yours or others'), it can take a toll on your self-esteem.

    The good news? Self-esteem isn’t a fixed trait—it’s something you can strengthen with the right insights and support. Take my How Healthy is Your Self-Esteem? quiz to discover where you’re thriving and where you could use a little extra love and support. It’s quick, eye-opening, and might just be the first step toward embracing the amazing person you are, ADHD and all.

    And don’t forget to stay connected with me on social media! I’m always sharing tips, insights, and inspiration on Instagram and YouTube. I also host regular live streams on both platforms where we can dive deeper into topics like ADHD, relationships, and personal growth. See you there!

    Xoxo

    Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

    www.growingself.com

    P.S. Share this podcast with someone who needs a little ADHD inspo today! Let’s thrive together. 💖

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