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In todayâs episode of The Loving Truth, I discuss the unique challenges and opportunities of going through a 'gray divorce'âdivorce after the age of 50. Divorce is never easy, but divorcing later in life comes with its own set of complexities, from financial considerations to emotional shifts. I share valuable insights, statistics, and advice for those navigating this stage of life and relationship changes
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In todayâs episode of The Loving Truth, I address the complex and often painful decision of leaving a good man. Many women find themselves in a situation where they are married to someone who is genuinely kind, caring, and stableâyet they feel unfulfilled or disconnected. I share my personal experience and explore the challenges of holding two truths at once: loving and caring for a good person while also recognizing they may not be the right partner for your most intimate relationship.
In this episode, I encourage listeners to explore whether a "good man" is the right partner for them and empower them to make decisions that honor their needs, while still maintaining respect and care for their partner.
Mentioned In This EpisodeIf you've been stuck and struggling in your marriage for years or even decades, and you're serious about finding the confidence, clarity, and peace you desire, it's time to book a truth and clarity session.
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âWill my partner ever change? Because I really want him to.â What a great question - and itâs one I hear all the time.
Let me start with this: Yes, people can change. And I can say this with deep humility⊠the person I was in my first marriage is NOT the person I am now.
In this episode, I talk about the ways Iâve changed in my own relationships (and the reasons why), plus
what we really have control over (and what we donât) what is actually our personal responsibility (and what belongs to our partners) and the greatest teacher of my life (and probably yours!)MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE
If you've been stuck and struggling in your marriage for years or even decades, and you're serious about finding the confidence, clarity, and peace you desire, it's time to book a truth and clarity session.
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Do you want your marriage⊠or do you just WANT to want it? This is an important distinction (and something I teach inside my membership program: The Decision).
In this episode of the podcast, I share the story of Sue: Sheâs got the âperfectâ marriage⊠but sheâs unhappy with it. I talk about why this might be, plus how she can take steps to fix the problem.
Whether or not you relate to Sueâs problem of the âperfectâ marriage, I think youâll find these clarifying questions VITAL to your own relationship dilemma⊠listen in to find out!
MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODEIf you've been stuck and struggling in your marriage for years or even decades, and you're serious about finding the confidence, clarity, and peace you desire, it's time to book a truth and clarity session.
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Most people in the world will never have the marriage they want⊠but what about you?
If youâve been listening to this podcast for any length of time, you know a fair number of things you can do differently. But listening to new information is only part of the equation.
Whatâs your next step?
In this episode, Iâll explain why it might be time to embody the tools youâre learning (plus, how to get started!)
MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODEIf you've been stuck and struggling in your marriage for years or even decades, and you're serious about finding the confidence, clarity, and peace you desire, it's time to book a truth and clarity session.
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Just one generation ago (and even for many of us now), SEX was considered a taboo topic of conversation⊠even though weâve all been told to expect less sex the longer weâre married.
So⊠what exactly happens to intimacy the longer we stay in committed partnerships? In this episode, Iâll explain why desire wanes the longer weâre married and what to do to prioritize YOUR pleasure.
Because the problem of a sexless marriage does not resolve on its own, and the solution requires effort (from both parties).
0:30 - What happens to your sex life the longer youâre married6:25 - When having sex feels like betraying YOURSELF10:22 - Women & sexual pleasure within marriage17:46 - If you want to enjoy sex, you have to enjoy yourself20:20 - But thereâs no magic equationâŠ
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NEED ANSWERS ABOUT YOUR STRUGGLING MARRIAGE?
Iâll teach you how to get them in my FREE video series, 4 Ways to Find Clarity in Your Struggling Marriage. No more paralyzing indecision or fear of regret; just a clear, realistic path toward happiness.
Get instant access at https://sharonpopefreetraining.com/training.If you've been stuck and struggling in your marriage for years or even decades, and you're serious about finding the confidence, clarity, and peace you desire, it's time to book a truth and clarity session.
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Difficult conversations are bound to happen in your most intimate relationships - whether youâre prepared or not. This episode will teach you how to have PRODUCTIVE conversations about difficult topics.
Youâll also learn why we avoid conflict in the first place, how to stop pretending things are âfine,â and the three parts to communication you need to know.
1:26 - How we avoid conflict (and why it doesnât work)4:27 - What works for women⊠but not for men9:09 - What might happen if you tell your partner THIS?14:29 - This will change your experience of difficult conversations
YOU'LL LEARN
MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODEIf you've been stuck and struggling in your marriage for years or even decades, and you're serious about finding the confidence, clarity, and peace you desire, it's time to book a truth and clarity session.
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Is it time to pump the brakes on your affair relationship? How do you know if your secret partnership can last beyond the affair?
Whatever happens after your affair relationship, I want you to be prepared - whether you stay with your affair partner or not.
It starts with recognizing these 4 Red Flags you might be missing in your affair partner.
0:28 - Why we overlook bad behavior from our affair partner4:50 - Red Flag - Does he feel entitled to you? 7:57 - Red Flag - Is his control & manipulation just hidden? 10:13 - Hereâs the reality (for YOU and your affair partner)
What You'll LearnMentioned In This Episode
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âI had one foot out the door⊠but pretending otherwise only led to greater disconnection and resentment.â - Sharon Pope
This is a soulful revelation for anyone whoâs given up on the evolution of their marriage. I stopped trying when things got hard in my first marriage - and thereâs just ONE thing Iâd do differently.
In this episode, youâll hear me talk about the main reasons women stop trying, what to do if you feel like giving up (OR if youâve already given up) - plus the root cause of resentment in relationships.
4:27 - After 10 years, I just gave up trying5:01 - Hereâs my ONE regret7:10 - If YOU feel like youâd rather give up than try again⊠12:06 - Hereâs what I want you to think about
WHAT YOU'LL LEARN
MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODEIf you've been stuck and struggling in your marriage for years or even decades, and you're serious about finding the confidence, clarity, and peace you desire, it's time to book a truth and clarity session.
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âHow do I compromise with a partner who I no longer respect? How can I increase my respect for him⊠without lowering my standards?â
In this episode, Iâm answering a question from one of our podcast listeners about what she can do differently or better to build back trust with her partner - after itâs been lost.
Youâll learn 4 practical steps you can take, including whether and how to compromise, plus where to put your focus as you move forward.
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If you've been stuck and struggling in your marriage for years or even decades, and you're serious about finding the confidence, clarity, and peace you desire, it's time to book a truth and clarity session.
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If itâs the fear of what might happen on the OTHER side of divorce thatâs keeping you stuck, this episode is for you! Iâm joined by leading Family Law Attorney & Mediation expert, Susan Guthrie, to discuss exactly what to consider when youâre stuck in the decision to âstay or go.â
And I have to tell you: Susan shared advice that I wasnât expecting!
You'll Learn:
5:29 - People are often better off in their âbeyondâ
12:35 - Divorce will be one of the most stressful events in your life, BUTâŠ
16:30 - How to avoid regret on the other side
19:32 - High emotions donât make the best cocktail for rational thinking
26:20 - The best $$ youâll ever spend during your divorce
30:21 - You donât have to villainize your ex-partner - in fact, you shouldnât
37:03 - Life after divorce is not actually the big black hole of a future you imagine
41:33 - You will become a different person as you heal
50:38 - What will really matter a few years from nowâŠ
Mentioned In This EpisodeNEED ANSWERS ABOUT YOUR STRUGGLING MARRIAGE?
Iâll teach you how to get them in my FREE video series, 4 Ways to Find Clarity in Your Struggling Marriage. No more paralyzing indecision or fear of regret; just a clear, realistic path toward happiness.
Get instant access at https://sharonpopefreetraining.com/training.If you've been stuck and struggling in your marriage for years or even decades, and you're serious about finding the confidence, clarity, and peace you desire, it's time to book a truth and clarity session.
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If youâve ever wondered whether your marriage (and your life) would be better if you JUST had the ârightâ partner⊠this episode is for you.
This romantic idea that the ârightâ person is always easy to love is whatâs ruining our ability to thrive within marriage! And I want to talk about it.
In this episode, Iâll explain the problem with our unrealistic expectations, the reason your partner might not be âeasyâ to love, and why we get stuck in âthe honeymoon phase.â
âCompatibility is an achievement of love; it shouldnât be its pre-condition.â - Alain de Button
3:06 - Is your relationship transactional OR growth-oriented? 5:54 - THIS is the person best-suited to you⊠8:35 - If your marriage feels doomed, consider your expectations10:01 - No one is easy to love⊠even you
What You'll Learn in This EpisodeMentioned in this Episode
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How do you navigate divorce when you have a strong faith (and a strong desire for the âtraditionalâ family)? What happens when you divorce âthe nice guyâ and become the villain?
Today on the podcast, Iâm speaking with special guests Noam Raucher & Leeron Tal, co-hosts of The Jewish Divorce Podcast, about their personal journeys through divorce, plus the different ways men & women interpret confrontation and âfighting,â why we so often feel unprepared for the reality of marriage, and the additional pressures of marriage (and divorce) when you have a strong faith.
Youâll also hear us talk about what makes a marriage âsuccessfulâ (besides longevity) and what Noam and Leeron wish theyâd known before going through divorceâŠ
âAs a Rabbi, I have to remind myself and the people I serve: Our âmistakesâ make us more human.â - Noam Raucher
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2:44 - âEverything in my life was great⊠except my marriage.â
6:45 - Her a-ha moment happened when she realized: Her kids were scared
11:31 - Marriage felt like his next ârightâ step
15:01 - He was surprised when his ex asked for a divorce
17:02 - Men & women perceive confrontation (and fighting) differently
21:02 - What it feels like to âwobbleâ in your decision
26:16 - The pressure of marriage & divorce when you have a strong faith
30:55 - When youâre going through divorce & it feels too hard to talk with other couples
34:10 - We need a new âsuccessâ marker than longevityâŠ
37:01 - What do Noam & Leeron wish theyâd known before divorce
39:54 - More information about The Jewish Divorce Project podcast (& more!)NEED ANSWERS ABOUT YOUR STRUGGLING MARRIAGE?
Iâll teach you how to get them in my FREE video series, 4 Ways to Find Clarity in Your Struggling Marriage. No more paralyzing indecision or fear of regret; just a clear, realistic path toward happiness.
Get instant access at https://sharonpopefreetraining.com/training.If you've been stuck and struggling in your marriage for years or even decades, and you're serious about finding the confidence, clarity, and peace you desire, it's time to book a truth and clarity session.
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How can he have an affair if he truly loves me? Should I tell my best friend about his betrayal? Why do men cheat (and what defines cheating)?
In this episode, Iâm answering these questions (and more) from real listeners whoâve recently discovered their partnerâs betrayal.
I cover everything from how both partners can get support to whatâs required if you choose to stay together - plus the reason I think every married couple should have a conversation about betrayal (even if there hasnât been one yet).
NEED ANSWERS ABOUT YOUR STRUGGLING MARRIAGE?
Iâll teach you how to get them in my FREE video series, 4 Ways to Find Clarity in Your Struggling Marriage. No more paralyzing indecision or fear of regret; just a clear, realistic path toward happiness.
Get instant access at https://sharonpopefreetraining.com/training.If you've been stuck and struggling in your marriage for years or even decades, and you're serious about finding the confidence, clarity, and peace you desire, it's time to book a truth and clarity session.
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Every woman I know has felt some level of shame for showing emotion⊠and on every end of the spectrum. Deep grief, anger, even pure joy.
In this episode, Iâm talking about the importance of understanding your emotions for a healthy, intimate relationship.
Youâll learn about the wide range of emotions we have access to (but why weâre only familiar with a handful), how your avoidance of emotion is keeping you stuck in indecision about your marriage, plus the two options you have when it comes to uncomfortable emotions - including heartbreak.
What You'll Learn:
1:10 - From positive to negative emotions⊠whereâs your âhome baseâ emotion?
5:01 - Why we avoid emotions & shame people who show them
7:06 - Your emotions offer important guidance about whatâs for you⊠and not for you
10:00 - What this means for your most intimate relationship
13:24 - Are you trying to avoid heartbreak? (Is that possible?)
15:03 - You have two options
17:09 - THIS is the price of a life well-lovedMentioned In This Episode
If you've been stuck and struggling in your marriage for years or even decades, and you're serious about finding the confidence, clarity, and peace you desire, it's time to book a truth and clarity session.
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âMy kids are so lucky [that I] have Sharon [...] I would never have done this [so peacefully] without her.â - Tania
I have something extra special to share with you this week⊠Three of my long-time members from inside The Decision are sharing their real-life stories from the other side of divorce.
Charles, Rachel, and Tania have been part of my membership program for more than three years, and together we have an important conversation about the opportunity for personal growth after an affair, what itâs like to ânestâ with your ex-partner, and how to care for & develop yourself through the process of divorce - and after!
This is a beautiful conversation (originally ONLY offered as a *bonus* call with other members inside the program!) But I invite you to listen to this candid back-and-forth to hear what it might be like from the other side of what youâre considering right nowâŠ
Please Note: This episode was originally recorded as a *bonus* call inside The Decision. Charles, Rachel, and Tania agreed to share their stories publicly on the podcast. Enjoy!
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The Decision Membership program :: https://thedecisionmembership.com/NEED ANSWERS ABOUT YOUR STRUGGLING MARRIAGE?
Iâll teach you how to get them in my FREE video series, 4 Ways to Find Clarity in Your Struggling Marriage. No more paralyzing indecision or fear of regret; just a clear, realistic path toward happiness.
Get instant access at https://sharonpopefreetraining.com/training.If you've been stuck and struggling in your marriage for years or even decades, and you're serious about finding the confidence, clarity, and peace you desire, it's time to book a truth and clarity session.
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Love is pain⊠and if you donât want to feel pain, you should just give up on love, right?
In this episode, Iâll explain where this line of thinking comes from and what happens when our expectations of love and marriage donât match the reality.
Iâll walk you through the ways that Iâve learned to think about love and marriage relationships, answer the question, âDoes the âperfectâ soulmate partner exist?â and tell you what to give up on - instead of love.
What Youâll Learn In This Episode:
0:55 - Iâm never going to tell you to give up on love, BUTâŠ
3:33 - Does the âperfectâ partner exist?
5:10 - I think about love & marriage like this
7:39 - Instead of giving up on love, give up on thisâŠ
9:22 - The reality of loving someone wellMentioned In This Episode
On Love: A Novel by Alain De BottonIf you've been stuck and struggling in your marriage for years or even decades, and you're serious about finding the confidence, clarity, and peace you desire, it's time to book a truth and clarity session.
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I get it: You donât want to regret the choice you make (and you donât want to make your life worse).
But what happens when we dig into whatâs really behind your fear of making a âwrongâ decision about your marriage? What happens when you challenge the general opinion that there is a right and wrong step forward - toward deepening your marriage or ending in divorce?
In this episode, weâll find out! Iâm talking about the safety net of indecision, regrets and âwhat ifâ thinking, plus the uncomfortable back-tracking that sometimes happens, even after you decide.
What You'll Learn In This Episode:
1:32 - Indecision might be less scary, BUTâŠ
5:49 - Whatâs ârightâ and âwrongâ for YOU?
7:35 - âWHAT IF⊠I have regrets later, and I canât go back?â
9:07 - The most important thing about making a decisionâŠ
12:59 - You donât know what will happen⊠until you decide
Mentioned In This EpisodeIf you've been stuck and struggling in your marriage for years or even decades, and you're serious about finding the confidence, clarity, and peace you desire, it's time to book a truth and clarity session.
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The current legal process for divorce is complicated - not to mention expensive. Thatâs why I invited Erin Levine, Founder of Hello Divorce, to join me today on the podcast.
Sheâs here to demystify the legal details of separation and explain her 3-step alternative for a simpler, kinder, and less stressful divorce.
We talk about the problems with bringing your divorce to court, how to navigate divorce when you donât trust your ex, and the âdivorce mathâ you should consider (i.e. itâs not just financially draining). Erin also explains why sheâs determined to NEVER again litigate a divorce, plus the most-used service within Hello Divorce - and how it can save you money (and tears!)
What Youâll Learn In This Episode:
2:09 - Top 3 problems Erin witnessed within the divorce courts⊠and what led her to create another option
7:47 - âConscious Uncouplingâ isnât just hype from Gwenyth Paltrow
12:31 - Remember: the system is set up for lawyers⊠itâs not designed to support families
20:04 - When the spirit of âmaking things peacefulâ mixes with DISTRUST
23:12 - Hello Divorce breaks down the divorce process into 3 parts
32:51 - Divorce Math: Consider the emotional toll this process takes
37:47 - Your lawyer is not your life coach⊠but you need additional support!
45:02 - Erinâs advice for keeping the divorce peaceful (even when your spouse isnât focused on that)About The Guest:
Erin Levine has more than a decade of experience litigating complex family matters in court, but when she saw the need for a kinder, easier, and more affordable pathway through divorce, she set out to revolutionize the broken divorce legal system and founded Hello Divorce: a venture capital-backed and tech-enabled platform that helps separating spouses reorganize their lives and finances with less stress and mess.
Erin is on a mission to help everyone design a better life after divorce. Sheâs already helped thousands of Americans reorganize their lives and families through the Hello Divorce framework that levels the playing field between spouses, so they can sort things out fairly, avoid missteps, and reimagine their next and best chapter.
Learn more about Erin Levine and Hello Divorce at hellodivorce.com (and on Instagram @hellodivorce).
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NEED ANSWERS ABOUT YOUR STRUGGLING MARRIAGE?
Iâll teach you how to get them in my FREE video series, 4 Ways to Find Clarity in Your Struggling Marriage. No more paralyzing indecision or fear of regret; just a clear, realistic path toward happiness.
Get instant access at https://sharonpopefreetraining.com/training.If you've been stuck and struggling in your marriage for years or even decades, and you're serious about finding the confidence, clarity, and peace you desire, it's time to book a truth and clarity session.
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If you want to be truly adored and cherished in your most intimate relationship (as though you are the Queen of his world!) this episode is for youâŠ
Often we say that we want to be treated like a queen⊠but when it doesnât happen, we get angry and place blame (or give up the dream).
In this episode, Iâll give you 3 important things to consider if you desire Queendom within your marriage - because itâs possible with a few vital adjustments! Iâll share the first question you need to ask yourself, how you can keep your expectations high (no, really!) - PLUS the 1 thing you need to stop doing to your husband.
Tune in for a quick, deep dive episode for the Queens among us!
What Youâll Learn In This Episode:
1:47 - People will meet you at your level of expectation, BUTâŠ
4:49 - If you want to be treated like a Queen, consider starting here
7:42 - Because THIS is the real problem⊠and a solution!Mentioned In This Episode
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