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  • Are you a current or former Christian still learning how to have guilt-free sex? Mattie Jo Cowsert is a recovering Evangelical who moved to New York City to find her husband - and then learned the world is bigger and more diverse than she had been raised to believe. Meet a shameless oversharer who wrote about her experiences with God, Sex, and Rich people.

    3:00 evangelical and moved to NYC

    7:00 sex and shame

    10:00 rich people were unexpected

    13:00 white, blue eyed woman privilege 

    18:00 where my Evangelicals at?

    20:00 abuse dismissed as sin

    25:00 jesus defended cheaters from death

    29:00 further reading for hip Christians

    34:00 what are “misogynist daywalkers”

    37:00 how to give yourself permission to have good sex

    41:00 disordered eating mention

    44:00 on spirituality now

    49:00 DOGMA was a weird movie 

    52:00 a confession from Mattie Jo

    55:00 red flags

    57:00 “sex ghosts” is a weird orgy

    1:01:00 progress and pushing forward

    1:06:00 have sex with people who respect you



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  • What does penis health have to do with heart health? A lot! Erica Leroye was a teacher and a lover when a tragic death led her to a new calling: teaching people about penile health, and doing touch work around pleasure and healing. You’re invited to November’s ‘Soft Cock Week’, and listen here now to learn about the penis in its most common state: soft.


    3:00 - this episode can save lives

    8:00 - sex is outercourse and intercourse 

    12:00 - retrograde ejaculation and ED - common symptoms of undiagnosed diabetes

    16:00 - go to the Genital Gym

    19:00 - “you have to train for what you want to be good at”

    22:00 - how do I help men tap into the erotic self?

    25:00 - pleasure mapping

    29:00 - her fave way to play with a softie 

    33:00 - what is Soft Cock week?

    37:00 - what else can you learn?

    42:00 - what to eat?

    46:00 - create a scavenger hunt for a treat

    49:00 - trouble with orgasm

    52:00 - “is gooning bad?” 

    54:00 - disconnect between brain and penis

    59:00 - fear of penis in medical systems

    1:03:00 - am i normal? 



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  • Lenora Claire was a business owner and public figure in Los Angeles before her stalker incidents led her to becoming a private investigator and media consultant.  Learn how survivors and perpetrators of stalking can be handled smarter, by a person who teaches better practices for true-crime coverage.

    2:00 - reality shows and progressive parents

    5:00 - crime show producers don’t know how to treat survivors

    7:00 - Batman and Superman to the rescue!

    10:00 - why blocking isn’t always best

    14:00 - risk assessment 

    18:00 - “what did you do to upset them?”

    23:00 - her current work

    25:00 - Private investigator things

    28:00 - women producers and empathy

    31:00 - British production companies doing it better

    34:00 - treated like dogshit by cops when reporting

    38:00 - how to help people open up?

    41:00 - disclosure tips

    45:00 - being judged on appearance 

    51:00 - what to NOT do to survivors in interview

    56:00 - what is the guiding purpose of the media?

    58:00 - a sex tip? Maybe :) 

    Your guest can be found at lenoraclairellc.com


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  • Jack Parker has been doing sex work since just before he was an adult, and he’s now a writer and publisher of an anthology of stories from other trans-masculine sex workers. Let’s talk about how queerphobia makes unique spaces and options for some working guys in the arts and adult industries.

    3:00 sex work before 18, before public

    7:00 making $4 an hour? WHAT

    10:00 not enough options for advertising or undies

    14:00 how to transition without them knowing?

    17:00 any port in a storm

    23:00 my favorite part is strange bookings

    26:00 nightmare coworkers can make it hard

    28:00 enjoyable client sex

    32:00 age gaps with clients

    36:00 clients objectifying us, their own insecurities

    41:00 where to find the book!

    45:00 how to find trans masc providers

    50:00 targeting for homosexuality

    54:00 criticisms of jack’s work

    57:00 resources for more reading

    Find your guest on JackViolet.com and @mxjackparker on all socials.


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  • If you’ve ever watched mainstream tv or movies with sex scenes in them, you can appreciate the people who make them look more realistic, while helping the performers be safest. Let’s talk with our guest Jamie Monahan, who works as an Intimacy Coordinator and Director.

    3:00 #MeToo history

    6:00 actors are taught to Say Yes

    8:00 sexual alignment on film 

    11:00 there is a lack of lube in film 

    14:00 history behind intimacy coordinator

    17:00 scenes that stuck in your mind

    21:00 other memorable scenes

    25:00 kissing on film

    28:00 elle’s preference on oral sex visuals/contact

    31:00 prosthetics are not common

    35:00 more rules and regulations

    40:00 the sounds of sex on film 

    45:00 don’t copy movies and that includes Titanic

    49:00 have you ever mimicked a film?

    54:00 SAG requirement to become IC


    Your guest is at www.Jamiemonahan.com

    IG/Facebook/X: @Jmemonahan


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  • Elizabeth Foreman works sober in New Orleans strip clubs these days. Here she shares her experience with sex work and sobriety which has given her insight, tactics and coping mechanisms while she continues to share her healing journey with others.

    4:00 disclaimer - experiential and not academic

    6:00 dancing instead of full-service

    9:00 confusing laws around sw and trafficking 

    13:00 NOLA vs PDX stripper economics

    17:00 how she got started in sobriety self-help

    20:00 alcoholism in the family and the club

    24:00 tips to not get drunk at the strip/club

    27:00 check-ins reminders

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    32:00 why do you use while working?

    37:00 mental strain of sobriety

    40:00 why we numb out or use it to enhance performance

    48:00 practicing setting boundaries

    54:00 don’t stop drinking abruptly

    57:00 what happens when you stop drinking?

    1:01:00 do you have the wrong prescription?

    1:05:00 resource share

    1:08:00 the downsides of AA

    1:12:00 ADHD and sex tips, slow down




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  • Erica Smith is a sex educator specializing in purity culture trauma and recovery. Let’s talk about dealing with shame and some tips for better sexual health and lives.

    4:00 a controversial event in 2000

    7:00 working in abortion clinic, juvenile justice system

    10:00 youth in sex work or experiencing trafficking

    14:00 how purity culture relates to juvenile justice

    17:00 the Army of God loves fake anthrax

    20:00 sexually active teens

    23:00 she who is without shame!

    27:00 how to tell my partner I’m queer?

    30:00 use your hands more

    33:00 chronic health disclosures to partner?

    37:00 herpes shaming, we hate it

    40:00 purity culture grossness

    43:00 social media and sex education

    47:00 who is her clientele?

    50:00 tradwife trend will have impacts later - @missgingerlocks on IG

    53:00 confessions

    57:00 sex advice

    Find your guest at purityculturedropout.com


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  • Have you ever been made to feel like an object instead of a person? Do you objectify others? What does objectification mean, how can we take our power back, make the best of it, or get off on it?

    Let’s talk with Suzannah Weiss, author of “Subjectified: Becoming a Sexual Subject”


    2:00 See her live August 18th at Sanctuary club in Portland

    6:00 growing breasts made people treat her differently 

    9:00 sexuality healed her disordered eating!

    13:00 people being degrading at cam models

    16:00 this economy making me do more

    18:00 if a SW takes advantage!

    21:00 examples of objectification from others 

    24:00 “I don’t do bareback with someone I just met”

    28:00 former sex worker(?)

    30:00 examples of objectification in language

    33:00 Nina Menkes + film POV

    36:00 we need to see what women desire, more often

    39:00 it is a turn-on for me, being objectified 

    42:00 anxiety about fantasies in relationship 

    46:00 Stoya started hitachi reading! 

    50:00 less respect happens for escorts

    55:00 work stress - stigma 

    59:00 examples, more

    1:02:00 sex tips from suzannah and elle


    Find your guest at SuzannahWeiss.com


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  • How can intentional psilocybin use help people heal from big life events, or create a better understanding of theirselves? Let’s talk with “trauma queen” expert and educator Jimanekia Eborn.

    4:00 policing to psychology 

    7:00 numbing vs pushing through 

    15:00 what has changed for you?

    17:00 tripping tips 

    20:00 how did shrooms impact you?

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    27:00 more advice for tripping 

    30:00 sensory play ideas 

    34:00 small vs big trauma

    37:00 germ transfer overload

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    44:00 that medication might not work for you!

    48:00 dating a survivor class 

    52:00 you're going inside, not outside

    55:00 sex advice 



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  • What’s it like to go to a clinic to receive an abortion? Our guest has been escorting patients for years and talks about the science of medical abortion, care tips and how to advocate for yourself when you need one. Meet the Executive Director of Nebraska Healthcare Resource, Shelley Mann.

    3:00 patient to clinic escort to executive director 

    6:00 why people need abortions

    8:00 known as the abortion lady 

    12:00 pointless to argue with these people 

    15:00 why are you so obsessed with me?

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    20:00 how to tell my boyfriend I need an abortion?

    23:00 find out as early as you can

    25:00 TRAP laws and “cardiac activity”

    28:00 more on clinics getting shut down

    31:00 “late term abortion” is not a medical term

    34:00 99% of abortions prior to 21 weeks 

    37:00 what can you do to prepare for an abortion?

    40:00 how to care for yourself after?

    43:00 what about a bad experience?

    49:00 pregnancy and birth is 13.5x more deadly than legal abortion

    53:00 www.plancpills.com, www.ineedana.com, www.abortionfunds.org

    55:00 sex tip


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  • Naomi left the strict Amish at seventeen, and worked for twenty years in adult entertainment, and wrote an erotic memoir about that time. We talk about dating, parenting, boundaries and sex clubs.

    1:00 raised as strict Amish, left at 17

    4:00 literally pushed to audition by friends

    10:00 financial advice from a coworker 

    14:00 the regret was having to hide it

    18:00 online use

    21:00 being OUT to family?

    24:00 dark days and substance abuse

    28:00 coercive partner sex

    31:00 leaving the situation

    33:00 parenting a kid now

    37:00 I know that sex club!

    40:00 everybody is different! 

    45:00 how to prevent sexual assault in small communities?

    48:00 communication

    53:00 try new things!

    Find our guest @AmishInspiration on IG, TikTok

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  • Miss Mei is a political organizer in Miami Florida and talks sex work, explains what can help prevent trafficking and police abuse, and gives tips on how to look for bad-actor organizations.


    3:00 - a friend got her work doing threesomes to begin SW

    6:00 - they prefer in-person work

    9:00 Slutwalk helped lead to #MeToo

    12:00 reclaiming the word Whore

    15:00 Amber Rose did not invent Slutwalk

    19:00 women’s spaces and nonbinary ppl 

    22:00 no arrests YET

    26:00 when the client follows your Other Work

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    32:00 child labor laws in Florida

    37:00 a long road ahead about record expungement 

    40:00 I grew up as a young whore

    47:00 @ Jonni_qwest is a pal

    50:00 In-fighting 

    54:00 “Sex Workers and the Left: Pass The Mic” Tryst.Link article 

    58:00 AOC endorsed anti-SW and homophobic organization NCOSE

    1:01:00 “we cannot defeat what we cannot define”

    1:04:00 should strippers be able to work at 18?

    1:07:00 fibromyalgia and cops


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  • Mike Stabile is a journalist and documentary filmmaker and ol’ gay activist who has written about and advocated for sex workers and sexual speech for twenty years.

    2:00 - I was an anonymous hand once

    6:00 - why Twitter is relevant to free speech and liberties

    8:00 - Polari - slang speak of gay sailors and sw’s

    10:00 gay porn film history and Chuck Holmes

    15:00 - what is KOSA and why should we hate it?

    18:00 do u want the government to see your searches?

    21:00 age verification doesn’t work

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    29:00 do journalists fear cops?

    32:00 more fear about retribution?

    35:00 why journalists are fooled by cop press releases

    40:00 Tim Ballard and Operation Railroad is a scam

    42:00 “ending modern slavery” is a red flag 

    46:00 protecting safety and privacy

    49:00 if a journalist contacts you as a SW

    53:00 GetTheLayer.com - ELLE code for 10% off

    54:00 haters?

    58:00 conspiracy theories AGAIN

    1:02:00 be your own expert on your life

    1:04:00 Lorelei Lee tweet (they/them)



    Find our guest on: IG @fauxjob and Twitter/X @mikestabile and https://www.freespeechcoalition.com/staff


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  • Born in India, neurodivergent, non monogamous, a New York sex therapist who loves sex-positive spaces, let’s talk healing with Nikita Fernandes MHC-LP and learn some healing tips for life and sex.

    1:00 meet our guest

    3:00 women’s gender studies classes were key to critical thinking 

    6:00 assimilation as a safety mechanism

    9:00 tips for therapeutic movement 

    12:00 dance, hiking, kink, gym

    15:00 medical issues

    19:00 The People’s Book of Human Sexuality - Laureano

    23:00 coping tips

    26:00 more tension release tips

    28:00 fantasies around sexual assault 

    40:00 needing to offload or share to others

    43:00 what if I’m not responding to trauma?

    50:00 DBT (dialectical behavior therapy)

    55:00 partner jealousy and disclosure

    58:00 working all the time makes healing harder

    Find our guest on: healingwithnikita.com


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  • He’s telling his life story besides the two random events that led to him working in the xxx industry as a Bull in the cuckold scene. “Thrash: “Penetrating the Business” author talks about filming and life.

    4:00 Brickhouse Magazine

    6:00 the pros of accessible technology

    9:00 @brickhousemag on Twitter

    13:00 there’s levels to it

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    20:00 what is the best part of being a bull?

    24:00 filming vs real life

    29:00 a one man show on stage

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    37:00 reflecting on the cuck episode

    40:00 does Thrash have preferences?

    43:00 trends in porn?

    47:00 becoming ambivalent to porn

    54:00 sex tips

    Find our guest on:

    IG @thrashculture23


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  • Pomma is a xxx content creator who tirelessly informs followers on news, legislation, harm reduction practices, and hazards related to online sex work and adult industry work. Let's talk!

    4:00 what kind of work?

    7:00 money is tight for many 

    10:00 socialized to be performative as youth

    13:00 banned from social media ooops

    16:00 FOSTA SESTA

    19:00 facial recognition and TSA

    22:00 will this get me evicted?

    27:00 when your beloved sugar daddy dies

    30:00 the athletes of sex workers 

    35:00 thick models like London Andrews, Valentine Von Bettie

    39:00 some advice for receiving shibari ties 

    42:00 please do not ask to meet us while on paysites

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    50:00 UNICEF supported bad legislation FOSTA and SESTA

    54:00 law enforcement raiding Backpage.com owners

    57:00 Decrim305, Cupcake Girls, SWOPBehindBars.org

    1:00:00 organizations we like

    1:03:00 sex tips for our audience?

    Find our guest on:

    IG: @onlypomma @notonlypomma
    Twitter: Succubusluut
    Tiktok: Juicypomma2.0 and LeaveJuicyPommaAlone


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  • His nickname is The Dick Whisperer and he’s spent years perfecting his penis-injections services and science: Meet the founder of PhalloFill . Let’s talk about why some men want to augment theirselves and why you should always follow post-procedure advice!

    3:00 - hair removal and penis augmentation

    4:00 - the P shot began

    7:00 porn, peer comparison, indirect teasing

    11:00 how to talk to youth about media 

    14:00 confidence in the workplace

    18:00 let’s talk about complication rates

    21:00 increase in sensitivity

    25:00 what is Hyaluronic acid?

    28:00 explaining the filler and amount

    31:00 Phalloboards.info - forum 

    34:00 he’s the penis master

    38:00 more science on filler

    41:00 what is fascia?

    46:00 example patient who needed a fixjob

    52:00 discussing costs

    55:00 width vs girth


    Find them on PHALLOFILL.com

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  • She’s a model, full contact fighter and martial arts instructor, genderfluid princess and more: lets meet Sybilla Bakzaza.

    3:00 martial arts, baseball, football, sailing, relay racing, US NAVY

    5:00 a commentary on Marine culture or US Navy

    8:00 (devil dock is a penis joke)

    9:00 cross-dressing as an entry

    12:00 American assimilation 

    18:00 what can suck about gym environments

    22:00 she has a team of Hulks on her side

    25:00 how to screen employers/venues?

    29:00 advice on showing up as trans in cis spaces?

    32:00 you gotta project confidence 

    34:00 red flags for clients

    39:00 on bullying in the workplace

    43:00 what is your support network?

    49:00 perception is more powerful than truth sometimes

    53:00 some people are only as good/bad as their commanders

    55:00 sex tips!

    59:00 some inspo and support from our guest

    Meet our guest on TikTok, OF, and Twitter and

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  • Let’s explore the history behind masturbation misinformation, pseudoscience and shaming, with clinical psychologist and author Dr Eric Sprankle.

    3:00 how he got here

    7:00 a vast conspiracy to teach education (elle has worked with PH tho)

    10:00 history repeating on anti-porn 

    13:00 misinformation is the same 

    16:00 exploring negative online comments

    20:00 be a man - destroy your lungs

    23:00 how do people feel about the word?

    27:00 does ejaculation impact hormone levels?

    32:00 what do “sex rehab programs” look like?

    36:00 how can masturbation be harmful?

    38:00 chemical castration

    40:00 high libido does not equal offensive behavior

    45:00 sperm vs semen vs female ejaculate

    48:00 more about ejaculate fluid

    51:00 events causing shame

    56:00 online communities and hate groups

    1:01:00 white genocide conspiracy

    1:06:00 a cute childhood anecdote

    1:09:00 Dr Drew - how could you?!?


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  • Our last episode of this season and O what fun - let’s talk cuckolding!  Join Mistress Elle for a chat with her favorite cuckold and hear how he discovered his kinky lifestyle, how he interacts most ethically with the women he worships, and please enjoy some of our funny stories, too.

    3:00 how he finds women to worship

    5:00 a catholic priest client - Lady Vi

    8:00 legal and artistic aid for a friend

    10:00 scrotal piercings for a leash

    11:00 Mickey Mod and Mistress Gia DeMarco

    13:00 first anal cream pie

    14:00 Mistress Sandi in Montreal

    16:00 his first ever cucking appointment - Mistress January Seraph

    21:00 there’s a lot of cum soon

    25:00 moral of the story is be yourself

    29:00 what’s the best part?

    33:00 beneath a woman and helping her

    36:00 how to protect yourself from scammers?

    39:00 losing friends over it?

    43:00 am I gay or less of a man?

    47:00 economic impacts?

    52:00 Americans are more taboo about sharing

    55:00 Shoutout to his Doms

    59:00 honored to be the first



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