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  • Be Proud of Yourself: Training Your Brain to SEE Your Value

    Be Proud of Yourself: Training Your Brain to SEE Your Value

    · Perfectionism Rewired with CLG

    Discover why being proud of yourself is a mission critical skill for all perfectionists and how to rewire your brain to see your value. Un-learn the misconceptions currently getting in the way of you being proud of you and how to exit the inadequacy cycle. Thinking I don't have anything to be proud of? I'm giving you 5 reasons that you can be proud of yourself + the tool I use everyday to be proud of myself NO MATTER HAT I have or haven't accomplished.

    On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, PRESENCE with your family or turning down the volume on self-criticism, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized

    TIMESTAMPS:

    00:00-Perfectionists + Valuing Yourself Beyond Achievements

    01:52-Upgrading From "Being Successful to Be Proud Of You"

    03:15-Why being proud is USEFUL SKILL for perfectionists

    04:57-Living a life stuck in inadequacy

    06:03-Fear of Losing Motivation if Proud Now

    07:48-Finding something to be proud of: $3,000,000 challenge

    08:31-Attaching productivity to proud aka POISON

    09:50-Passive failing vs. active failing

    11:17-Feeling proud without eradicating negative emotions

    12:56-Shrinking the part of your brain that triggers stress

    SOURCES REFERENCED In Ep. 237

    Fischer, J. (2012). Being Proud and Feeling Proud: Character, Emotion, and the Moral Psychology of Personal Ideals. The Journal of Value Inquiry, 46(2), 209–222. https://doi.org/10.1007/s10790-012-9337-xNeff, K. D. (2009). The Role of Self-Compassion in Development: A Healthier Way to Relate to Oneself. Human Development, 52(4), 211–214. https://doi.org/10.1159/000215071Nepon, T. (2024). Perfectionism, Self-Image Goals and Compassionate Goals in Health and Mental Health: A Longitudinal Analysis - Taryn Nepon, Gordon L. Flett, Paul L. Hewitt, 2024. https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/07342829241239997
  • Confessions of an Approval Seeking Perfectionist: From Insecure to Empowered Oscar Winner

    Confessions of an Approval Seeking Perfectionist: From Insecure to Empowered Oscar Winner

    · Perfectionism Rewired with CLG

    Do compliments make you uncomfy? Tired of constantly achieving and never feeling satisfied? Discover the *real reason* you’re still chasing validation from other people (it has nothing to do with accomplishments or self-esteem) and how to stop relying on external praise + recognition. Perfectionism Optimized client, bravely shares her story of being an Oscar-winning superstar vying for attention, feeling undeserving of praise and constructing her whole life around getting approval (and avoiding rejection). Hear step-by-step how she dropped the fears of not being good enough + being judged by others, let go of needing anyone’s approval and rewired recognition on her own terms.

    If you want to make sure the Approval Trap never trips you up again, and want proven, science-backed tools to become SO CERTAIN about the value you bring, become RESILIENT + RESOURCEFUL during your most stressful moments and finally feel as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside, you belong inside Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized

    Listen to the Full Episode To Hear:Why Achievements Feel Empty and How to Change ThatHow lies we tell ourselves hold us back from seeing our own valuePractical steps to start giving yourself the praise you deserve. Resources Mentioned:Decoding Your Unconscious Motivational Patterns (Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 80)Perfectionism Optimized: Patented, proven science-backed tools that help you take charge of your perfectionism and learn to celebrate your achievements the healthy way.

    Credible Scientific Sources Cited In Ep. 236

    Burton, K. D., Lydon, J. E., D'Alessandro, D. U., & Koestner, R. (2006). The differential effects of intrinsic and identified motivation on well-being and performance: Prospective, experimental, and implicit approaches to self-determination theory. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 91(4), 750-762. https://doi.org/10.1037/0022-3514.91.4.750Deci, E. L., & Ryan, R. M. (2015). Intrinsic Motivation and Self-Determination in Human Behavior. SpringerLink. https://doi.org/10.1007-978-1-4899-2271-7Nepon, T. (2024). Perfectionism, Self-Image Goals and Compassionate Goals in Health and Mental Health: A Longitudinal Analysis - Taryn Nepon, Gordon L. Flett, Paul L. Hewitt, 2024. https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/07342829241239997

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  • How to Stop Feeling Guilty (lessons from perfectionist parent)

    How to Stop Feeling Guilty (lessons from perfectionist parent)

    · Perfectionism Rewired with CLG

    Tired of thinking about work during family time? Feeling guilty whenever work takes you away from your family? Learn step-by-step how to LET GO OF GUILT. Perfectionism Optimized client Nicole shares how she went from mom guilt overload to missing her kids' first day of school and her entire family celebrating it. Also, discover the why behind your guilt, cost of continuing to carry guilt and how other approaches to stop feeling guilty simply *don't work* for perfectionists.

    On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, PRESENCE with your family or turning down the volume on self-criticism, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized

    Credible Scientific Sources Cited in Ep. 235:Flynn, F. J., & Schaumberg, R. L. (2012). When feeling bad leads to feeling good: Guilt-proneness and affective organizational commitment. Journal of Applied Psychology, 97(1), 124–133. https://doi.org/10.1037/a0024166Schaumberg, R. L., & Flynn, F. J. (2012). Uneasy lies the head that wears the crown: The link between guilt proneness and leadership. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 103(2), 327–342. https://doi.org/10.1037/a0028127Wiltermuth, S. S., & Cohen, T. R. (2014). “I’d only let you down”: Guilt proneness and the avoidance of harmful interdependence. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 107(5), 925–942. https://doi.org/10.1037/a0037523
  • What Fear of Failure is Masking

    What Fear of Failure is Masking

    · Perfectionism Rewired with CLG

    You've been thinking about fear of failure all wrong. Get it right and find out what fear of failure is protecting you from, the underlying reasons behind fear of failure, the sneaky ways fear of failure shows up for perfectionists, what fear of failure really is (not good enough) why popular advice for overcoming fear of failure isn’t helpful for perfectionists and practical steps you can take today to dissolve this pattern.

    On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, PRESENCE with your family on vacation or turning down the volume on self-criticism, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized

    Episode 234 Timestamps:

    00:57-Sneaky Ways Fear of Failure Shows Up For Perfectionists
    02:32-What Are You Waiting For?
    04:47-Protecting Subconscious Mind From Feeling Inadequate
    05:40-Black and White Thinking
    06:17-Fear of Inadequacy
    07:44-Procrastination and Indecision
    09:34-Surfing Through Fear of Failure
    10:25-Growth vs Fixed Mindset
    11:32-Cognitive Dissonance in Perfectionism
    14:06-Solving and Evolving Through Mistakes
    16:46-Discovering the Only Problem You Have + Solving It

  • The Crucial Role of Perfectionism Coaching for Women in Leadership

    The Crucial Role of Perfectionism Coaching for Women in Leadership

    · Perfectionism Rewired with CLG

    Ever feel like you're constantly walking a tightrope? Expected to be confident but not too intimidating. Be assertive, but don't get aggressive. As women in leadership we've developed coping mechanisms to navigate these obstacles - like over-preparing, always getting it right and making sure we're well liked. These strategies have kept us afloat, but at what cost? Putting our careers ahead of our values, keeping one eye on the inbox even at the playground. So, how do we break free from this cycle? How do we burn bright without burning out and lead without losing ourselves? Your answers are inside this episode. .

    On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, PRESENCE with your family on vacation or turning down the volume on self-criticism, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized

  • How Proving Yourself is Career Poison (+ the Cure for Unrivaled Growth)

    How Proving Yourself is Career Poison (+ the Cure for Unrivaled Growth)

    · Perfectionism Rewired with CLG

    Discover why proving yourself is career poison, how to recognize the hidden, nuanced ways proving shows up (like when you put $$ in tip jar) and what lies beneath this constant pressure to constantly prove yourself. Finally get to the source of why even when you're at the top of your game, what's driving you to overwork, question your value and seek validation at every turn.

    On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, PRESENCE with your family on vacation or turning down the volume on self-criticism, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized

  • The REAL Reason Your Inner Critic Won't Shut Up

    The REAL Reason Your Inner Critic Won't Shut Up

    · Perfectionism Rewired with CLG

    Did I make the wrong choice? Why does this bother me so much? Am I letting them down? What if I fail? Spinning in self-judgement and second guessing every small move you make, your brain won't stop replaying magnifying your mistakes. Find out the REAL reason your inner critic won't shut up and how to start asking better questions so you can feel better right NOW.

    On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, PRESENCE with your family on vacation or turning down the volume on self-criticism, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized

    Resources Mentioned In Ep. 231Episode on the science of how your brain answers questions (Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 39)Questions To Ask Yourself For Instant Excellence (Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 23)
  • Feeling Clenchy? Fascinating Connection Btwn Your Pelvic Floor + Perfectionism

    Feeling Clenchy? Fascinating Connection Btwn Your Pelvic Floor + Perfectionism

    · Perfectionism Rewired with CLG

    Discover the clues you’re clenching that you’d NEVER GUESS are rooted in your perfectionistic tendencies. Plus how Perfectionism Optimized client Molly reversed her Osteoporosis diagnosis and regained her sex drive. Learn why we clench, what’s happening inside your body + brain, the 5 core pillars key to releasing the clench

    You don't have to white knuckle your perfectionism. And if you feel like you are, I invite you to come coach with me 1-on-1 inside Perfectionism Optimized, where you'll learn how to take charge of your perfectionistic tendencies, which means you'll finally feel as awesome as your life looks and stop trying to control everyone in your orbit. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized

    Perfectionism Rewired ep. 411 on Fasciahttps://perfectionismrewired.com/episode/fascia-the-missing-puzzle-piece-for-perfectionists Truth + Accuracy Brought To You By:Chiara Ghetti, Skoczylas, L. C., Oliphant, S. S., Nikolajski, C., & Lowder, J. L. (2015). The Emotional Burden of Pelvic Organ Prolapse in Women Seeking Treatment. Female Pelvic Medicine & Reconstructive Surgery, 21(6), 332–338. https://doi.org/10.1097/spv.0000000000000190Khan, Z. A., C. Whittal, S. Mansol, Osborne, L. A., Reed, P., & Emery, S. (2013). Effect of depression and anxiety on the success of pelvic floor muscle training for pelvic floor dysfunction. Journal of Obstetrics and Gynaecology, 33(7), 710–714. https://doi.org/10.3109/01443615.2013.813913Taple, B. J., Griffith, J. W., Weaver, C., & Kenton, K. S. (2020). Enhancing behavioral treatment for women with pelvic floor disorders: Study protocol for a pilot randomized controlled trial. Contemporary Clinical Trials Communications, 17, 100514–100514. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.conctc.2019.100514
  • How to Prevent Passing Anxiety on to Your Kids

    How to Prevent Passing Anxiety on to Your Kids

    · Perfectionism Rewired with CLG

    Signs you’re programming your kids for anxiety without knowing it, how children pick up anxiety from perfectionistic parents, why traditional methods like therapy are 15x slower at achieving results, what *actually works* for caring, busy, perfectionist parents who want a physiology of excellence and how developing a physiology of excellence gives you unrivaled resilience, presence, and emotional intelligence

    On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized



    Preventing passing of anxiety to your kids starts with understanding how your own physiology affects theirs. Children are always parroting you, especially how you carry worry, anxiety and guilt. Making it vital to learn how to metabolize your emotions efficiently with daily practices instead of shutting down or sweeping it under the rug. Learn how implementing a daily hygiene practice, like the patented E.P.I.C. Skills framework, you free up energy for what matters most and create a healthier environment for your whole family.

    Perfectionism Rewired episode 411 on Fasciahttps://perfectionismrewired.com/episode/fascia-the-missing-puzzle-piece-for-perfectionists Truth + Accuracy Brought To You By:Bordoni, B., & Simonelli, M. (2018). The Awareness of the Fascial System. Curēus. https://doi.org/10.7759/cureus.3397Langevin, H. M. (2022). Making Connections to Improve Health Outcomes - Helene M. Langevin, 2022. Retrieved June 22, 2024, from Global Advances in Health and Medicine website: https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/2164957X221079792Lesondak, D. (2018, April 6). Fascia: What it is and Why it Matters. Retrieved June 22, 2024, from ResearchGate website: https://www.researchgate.net/publication/324261326_Fascia_What_it_is_and_Why_it_Matters
  • Fascia: The Missing Puzzle Piece for Perfectionists

    Fascia: The Missing Puzzle Piece for Perfectionists

    · Perfectionism Rewired with CLG

    Fascia is the Wi-Fi of your insides, with over 250 million sensory receptors weaving through its matrix - it’s how emotions are made and where we feel our sensations, instincts and intuition. But if you tend to overthink, ruminate, catastrophize or stress out, you're compromising your fascia which impacts your body's ability to function optimally + think clearly. Discover why fascia is the missing puzzle piece for perfectionists and how to detect if there's dead zones in your own fascial network- where your sensations, instincts and intuition intersect.

    On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized

    EP 228 TIMESTAMPS:

    01:38-The Role of Fascia in Mental Clarity and Confidence
    02:10-Where fascia is found and its impact on your body
    03:03-Fascia's Role in Breaking Generational Belief Patterns
    04:06-How fascia sends and receives information at the speed of light
    05:01-Wi-Fi of your Insights + Intuition
    06:10-What Skin is to Touch, Fascia is to Your Feelings
    07:25-How To 10x Your Emotional Intelligence
    09:18-The flexibility of fascia for quick improvements
    10:15-Benefits of upgrading your fascia's communication system.

    Truth + Accuracy Brought To You By:Bordoni, B., & Marelli, F. (2017). Emotions in Motion: Myofascial Interoception. Complementary Medicine Research, 24(2), 110–113. https://doi.org/10.1159/000464149Bordoni, B., & Simonelli, M. (2018). The Awareness of the Fascial System. Curēus. https://doi.org/10.7759/cureus.3397Fede, C., Petrelli, L., Guidolin, D., Porzionato, A., Pirri, C., Fan, C., 
 Stecco, C. (2021). Evidence of a new hidden neural network into deep fasciae. Scientific Reports, 11(1). https://doi.org/10.1038/s41598-021-92194-zPalomero-Gallagher, N., & Katrin Amunts. (2021). A short review on emotion processing: a lateralized network of neuronal networks. Brain Structure & Function, 227(2), 673–684. https://doi.org/10.1007/s00429-021-02331-7
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  • The Most Important De-Stress Skill for Perfectionists

    The Most Important De-Stress Skill for Perfectionists

    · Perfectionism Rewired with CLG

    Stressed out, frustrated or having trouble sleeping? Stress is physiological for perfectionists and our physiological stress impacts our brain, our ability to speak, to think and our emotional agility. So if you want to have the ability to take charge of perfectionism, you gotta solve stress at the source. Bc you don't have time to do 20 minutes of deep breathing when stressors pop up, you need a personalized process that works instantaneously fast. And that's the first thing I teach Perfectionism Optimized clients, how to de-stress level in any moment, so they can get back in charge. Discover how to solve stress at the source and the exact clues to identify if you need a process to help you handle your stress ASAP.

    On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Apply today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized

    Mentioned In This Episode:Why Perfectionists Burnout (Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 176)When Deep Breaths Aren't Enough (Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 192)EP 227 TIMESTAMPS:

    00:00-The Most Important De-Stress Skill Nobody Taught You
    00:47-Why Intellectual Solutions Don't Ease Stress
    02:10-The Impact of Stress on the Body's Systems
    03:55-The Looming Shadow of Chronic Stress
    06:38-Recognizing Stress Eruptions
    07:30-Patterns of Self-Destructive Stress Behavior
    09:48-Physical Manifestations of Unresolved Stress
    11:17-Rewiring Perfectionistic Habits

    Truth + Accuracy Sources:Chu, B., Marwaha, K., Sanvictores, T., Awosika, A. O., & Ayers, D. (2024, May 7). Physiology, Stress Reaction. Retrieved June 14, 2024, from Nih.gov website: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK541120/Handley, A. K., Egan, S. J., Kane, R. T., & Rees, C. S. (2014). The relationships between perfectionism, pathological worry and generalised anxiety disorder. BMC Psychiatry, 14(1). https://doi.org/10.1186/1471-244x-14-98Larijani, Roja, and Mohammad Ali Besharat. “Perfectionism and Coping Styles with Stress.” Procedia—Social and Behavioral Sciences 5 (2010): 623–27. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.sbspro.2010.07.154Sirois, F. M., J. Monforton, and M. Simpson. “If Only I Had Done Better: Perfectionism and the Functionality of Counterfactual Thinking.” Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin 36, no. 12 (2010): 1675–92. https://doi.org/10.1177/0146167210387614.
  • From Pushing Through To Presence (lessons from perfectionist architect)

    From Pushing Through To Presence (lessons from perfectionist architect)

    · Perfectionism Rewired with CLG

    Racing through your days on hyper-speed but still not present for any of it? Discover how high-achieving architect Jessica went from pushing through "everything will be better once..." to being present during the most challenging time of her life, her mother’s passing. Hear from Jessica how Perfectionism Optimized coaching gave her the tools to stop the worry/wish cycle, metabolize her stress an handle excruciating times with confidence and grace, and why it's "the best thing I've ever done for myself, I think, in my entire life."

    On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, PRESENCE with your family on vacation or turning down the volume on self-criticism, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized

    Episode 226 Timestamps:
    00:41-Pushing Through: Super Ineffective Perfectionistic Strategy
    01:32-Recognizing Pushing Through in Your Own Life
    03:00-The Exhausting Game of "Whack a Mole"
    04:54-Chasing the Illusion of "Once It Gets Better"
    05:54-Living in Fast Forward or Slow Motion
    07:58-Being Present For Meaningful Moments
    09:04-Fueling Fierce Ambition in a Grounded Way
    10:53-How To Be More Present

  • On Vacation, Can't Relax

    On Vacation, Can't Relax

    · Perfectionism Rewired with CLG

    Feeling like you can't relax on vacation? As perfectionists the way we relax is completely different than other people. Learn why and how to start relaxing on your own terms.

    On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, PRESENCE with your family on vacation or turning down the volume on self-criticism, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized

    Listen To The Full Episode To Learn:

    Why You Can't Relax on VacationStep-by-step to stop putting pressure on yourselfHow to cultivate the skill of relaxing

    Episode 225 Timestamps:
    00:00-Why Perfectionists Struggle to Relax on Vacation
    01:45-Athleticism of Relaxing: Training Your Mind to Unwind
    05:41-How can I clear my mind and relax
    06:50-Dissolve Pressure and Anxiety While Relaxing
    08:53-Getting an A+ in Relaxing as a Perfectionist

  • The Secret Solution to Removing OVERWHELM Revealed

    The Secret Solution to Removing OVERWHELM Revealed

    · Perfectionism Rewired with CLG

    Take the overwhelm out of perfectionism, starting today with the one SKILL SET you’ve never been taught. #truthbooth it’s the only skill set that’ll save you from a life that feels frustrating - like you’re always chasing happiness. Because when you put yourself in charge of your internal world and remove overwhelm- the way you show up in the world shifts. Like you're no longer snapping at your partner or seizing up with anxiety when looking at your email.

    On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, PRESENCE with your family or turning down the volume on self-criticism, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to exude confidence in each + every part of your life and *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized

    Listen To The Full Episode To Learn:

    Why Outsourcing Increases Overwhelm For PerfectionistsWhat you Gain by Developing resilience and inner calm instead of depending on controlHow to Feel Amazing Right Now - No More Overthinking or Doubting
  • Upgrade Compartmentalize for Confidence

    Upgrade Compartmentalize for Confidence

    · Perfectionism Rewired with CLG

    Feel like you’re carrying the weight of the world? You want to be a present parent, crush it at work, keep it fresh with your partner, call your bestie back and drink your water, BUT when you compartmentalize and be whoever you need to be to get the result, you end up exhausted. Say goodbye to the exhausting cycle of squishing yourself to fit in. Trade being contrived for exuding confidence, with the only sustainable solution for ambitious perfectionistic people. Plus hear about that one time CLG sharted in her jumpsuitđŸ€Ł

    On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, PRESENCE with your family or turning down the volume on self-criticism, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to exude confidence in each + every part of your life and *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized

    Sneaky Peek at What You'll Learn In This Episode:

    Why compartmentalizing parts of yourself leads to burnout, disconnection and resentment in your relationships.How to be grounded and solid in who are, without the wishy-washy contorting yourself to meet external expectations.Giving yourself permission to experience joy without conditions
  • How to Harmonize Striving For Excellence w/ A High-Stakes Career

    How to Harmonize Striving For Excellence w/ A High-Stakes Career

    · Perfectionism Rewired with CLG

    Feeling Clenchy? Discover the truth about what *really* happens when you let go of rigid rules that've made you super successful. I'm giving you the uncensored inside scoop on exactly wha happened when I stopped fisting, opened up to new possibilities and began to surf my own ocean--my achieving + energy increased 80%!!!!! If you're exhausted or feel like it's always something, this episode will give you the fuel to rise up.

    On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, PRESENCE with your family or breaking generational cycles of Self-Criticism, Perfectionism Optimized private 1-1 coaching is how you expand your confidence, make your choices aligned with your values and *finally feel* as amazing as your life looks. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized

    Sneaky Peek at What You'll Learn In This Episode:

    Why wayyy too often perfectionists overwork while oblivious to our own underperforming (aka sunk cost fallacy)How to know if you're fistingWhere you can go to get unrivaled support designed specifically for high performance people who want to feel good again without sacrificing

  • "I Should Know This" Lies We Tell Ourselves in Rumination

    · Perfectionism Rewired with CLG

    If you've ever felt trapped in a cycle of I should be past this and using your intellectual smarts as evil tools to hammer yourself with, this episode is for you.

    On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, PRESENCE with your family or breaking generational cycles of Self-Criticism, Perfectionism Optimized private 1-1 coaching is how you expand your confidence, make your choices aligned with your values and *finally feel* as amazing as your life looks. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized

    Sneaky Peek at What You'll Learn In This Episode:

    Unconscious Competence: Understanding embodied knowledge vs mental masturbation How telling yourself "I should know this" is the cowardly response (and what the courageous one is)Why knowing something intellectually doesn't translate to action
  • Perfectionism is the New ADHD

    Perfectionism is the New ADHD

    · Perfectionism Rewired with CLG

    Fighting against yourself IS playing life on torture mode AND entirely OPTIONAL. Most solutions for overcoming perfectionism suck. They're not empowering, efficient or any FUN, plus research shows Overcoming Perfectionism simply *doesn’t work*when you are driven, ambitious, caring, high-performer. That’s WHY I’m revealing how you can take your frustrating perfectionistic tendencies—like catastrophizing, people-pleasing and overthinking— and remix them with refreshingly practical perspectives from our neurodiversity neighbor, ADHD.

    Want to feel as incredible on the inside as your life looks on the outside? Then you gotta check out Perfectionism Optimized, the only 1-1 private coaching backed by SCIENCE for driven, ambitious, Type-A high performers with perfectionistic tendencies. Inquire today over at: https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized

    Perfectionism Rewired podcast is brought to you by America's leader on rewiring perfectionism, Courtney Love Gavin (CLG) and is committed to neuroscience truth + accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens.

    WTF does Perfectionist Affirming mean? Perfectionist affirming is an empowered view where perfectionistic tendencies are not seen as deficits to be “fixed” - no victims, powerlessness or fighting against. Instead your perfectionism is leveraged to work for you. Part of neurodiversity movement that sees humans as uniquely wired individuals who all experience the world differently.

    Truth + Accuracy In Episode 220 Is Brought To You By:

    Curran, T., & Hill, A. P. (2019). Perfectionism is increasing over time: A meta-analysis of birth cohort differences from 1989 to 2016. Psychological Bulletin, 145(4), 410–429. https://doi.org/10.1037/bul0000138

    Daniilidou, A. (2023). Understanding the relationship between the multidimensional perfectionism and self-compassion in adults: The effect of age. Europe’s Journal of Psychology, 19(4), 371–386. https://doi.org/10.5964/ejop.11981

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    Unlearning Learned Helplessness

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    Rewire the right way (not the hype way) inside Perfectionism Optimized, the only 1-1 private coaching backed by SCIENCE + exclusively designed for driven, ambitious + type-A high achievers with perfectionistic tendencies who want to feel as incredible on the inside as their life looks on the outside. Melt your stress away starting today over at: https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized

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    00:00-Understanding Learned Helplessness Embedded In Perfectionism Recovery

    01:28-Challenging Lies About Perfectionists with Science

    02:16-Celebrating Famous Perfectionists Behind World-Changing Innovation

    03:55-WTF Are Enduring Identity Markers + Why Do They Matter?

    05:12-Unlearning Learned Helplessness with Dr. Martin Seligman (Godfather of Positive Psychology)

    06:11-The Problem With Blaming Perfectionism

    07:03-Flipping Helplessness to Empowerment

    08:46-Rediscovering Being In Charge and Response-ability

    10:12-Helplessness + Feeling Out of Control Re: Childhood Conditioning

    11:58-Reframing Perfectionism as an Empowerment Journey

    13:20-How To Quit Fighting Against Your Perfectionism + Work WITH It

    15:05-What incest + perfectionism recovery have in common

    16:40-Getting Your Perfectionism Right

    17:25-Quality Questions To Snuff Out Helplessness

    Truth + Accuracy In Episode 219 Is Brought To You By:

    Abramson, L. Y., Seligman, M. E., & Teasdale, J. D. (1978). Learned helplessness in humans: Critique and reformulation. Journal of Abnormal Psychology, 87(1), 49–74. https://doi.org/10.1037/0021-843X.87.1.49

    Quchani, M. (2023). The mediating role of coping styles in the association between perfectionism and learned helplessness in students’ population. Annales MĂ©dico-Psychologiques, 181(7), 619–627. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.amp.2022.07.010

    Woodfin, V., Binder, P. E., & Molde, H. (2020). The Psychometric Properties of the Frost Multidimensional Perfectionism Scale–Brief. Frontiers in Psychology, 11, 1860.

  • How To Let Go Of Resentment (w/o Exploding On Your Partner)

    How To Let Go Of Resentment (w/o Exploding On Your Partner)

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    Upgrade from resentment to reconnection inside Perfectionism Optimized, the only 1-1 private coaching backed by SCIENCE + exclusively designed for driven, ambitious + type-A high achievers with perfectionistic tendencies who want to feel as incredible on the inside as their life looks on the outside. Melt your stress away starting today over at: https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized

    đŸŽâžĄïž 🎉 Rewire the Resentment in Your Relationship with this Top-Tier TOOL I created for private clients. Yours to enjoy as a gift for my bday https://bit.ly/perfectionism-rewired-tool
    Truth + Accuracy In Episode 218 Is Brought To You By:Graff, T. C., Birmingham, W. C., Wadsworth, L. L., & Hung, M. (2023). Doing it all: Effects of Family Responsibilities and Marital Relationship Quality on Mothers’ Ambulatory Blood Pressure. Annals of Behavioral Medicine, 58(1), 67–78. https://doi.org/10.1093/abm/kaad058Hiekel, N., & Ivanova, K. (2023). Changes in Perceived Fairness of Division of Household Labor Across Parenthood Transitions: Whose Relationship Satisfaction Is Impacted? Journal of Family Issues, 44(4), 1046-1073. https://doi.org/10.1177/0192513X211055119Nelson, M. H. (2022). Resentment Is Like Drinking Poison? The Heterogeneous Health Effects of Affective Polarization. Journal of Health and Social Behavior/Journal of Health & Social Behavior, 63(4), 508–524. https://doi.org/10.1177/00221465221075311
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