Afleveringen
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Why do we think boundaries are about making others behave when theyâre actually about our choices?
Ever set a boundary only to feel like it didnât work? Maybe you told someone not to do something, and they did it anywayâso much for boundaries, right? Turns out, a lot of us have been thinking about boundaries all wrong! In this episode, we break down a powerful yet simple truth: a real boundary is something you will do, and it doesnât require the other person to do anything. đ¤Ż
Join us as we unpack what healthy, biblical boundaries actually look like in friendships, dating, marriage, and even work relationships. Weâll share real-life stories, Scripture-based wisdom, and practical ways to set boundaries that strengthen relationships rather than create unnecessary conflict.
Plus, if youâve ever struggled with people-pleasing, overextending yourself, or feeling guilty for saying no, this episode is for you! Boundaries can bring freedom, peace, and deeper connections with the people we love.
Hebrews 12:11...No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it.
Original reel can be found here.
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Ever felt like itâs your full-time job to keep your partner happy? Guess whatâitâs not even in your job description!
In this episode of the "I Feel Loved WhenâŚ" Podcast, we break down an Instagram reel from @buildthepositivity w/ Jef DeWitt that challenges the idea that a healthy relationship is all about happiness. Whether youâre dating, engaged, married, or even just navigating friendships and family relationships, we dive into what it actually means to love and support others without carrying the weight of their emotions.
Join us as we unpack practical ways to cultivate trust, stability, and genuine connectionâwithout slipping into people-pleasing. Weâll also tackle the difference between happiness and holiness (hint: one is the goal, the other is a byproduct) and how pursuing godliness strengthens every relationship in your life. With real-life examples, biblical insight, and a few laughs along the way, this episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking Christ-centered relationships.
So, what does it really mean to love well? And how do we set an atmosphere that fosters both joy and holiness? Tune in as we explore these questions, share personal stories, and offer encouragement for singles, couples, and everyone in between. Letâs grow in faith and loveâtogether.
Listen to original reel here.
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If someone had to marry you right nowâwould they be getting a great deal or a fixer-upper? đŹ
Turns out, the secret isnât in finding the perfect person but in becoming the person youâd want to marry! In this episode, we dive into a powerful (and slightly humbling) truth: the character traits you seek in a partner should be the ones youâre cultivating in yourself. Whether youâre single, dating, engaged, or married, this conversation will challenge you to look inward and ask, Am I becoming the kind of person Iâd want to commit to for life?
We unpack the wisdom of adopting godly characteristics and how mirroring Christâs traits in our own lives leads to stronger, healthier relationships. Through scripture, real-life insights, and a few good laughs, we explore how faith, trust, loyalty, and kindness arenât just qualities to look for in a spouseâtheyâre the very traits that shape a Christ-centered marriage (or prepare you for one).
If you're tired of the never-ending search for âthe one,â maybe it's time to refocus. Instead of checklist dating, letâs talk about how God transforms us as we seek His kingdom firstâbecause the right relationship starts with a heart anchored in Him. Tune in for encouragement, practical wisdom, and a fresh perspective on what it means to truly prepare for love.
Matthew 6:33-34... But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.
Original Reel can be found here.
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Whatâs the difference between a toxic person and someone whoâs just having a bad day? Letâs clear up the confusion!
Weâve all been thereâstuck in a fog of confusion, questioning if weâre the problem, or if something deeper is at play. In this episode, we dive into a thought-provoking discussion sparked by Donald Millerâs insights on identifying toxic people. But hereâs the real question: how do we separate truly toxic behavior from normal conflict in relationships? And more importantly, how do we handle it in a Christ-centered way?
Join us as we explore the key traits of a toxic person, contrast them with healthy conflict, and unpack what the Bible has to say about it. Weâll talk about setting godly boundaries, guarding our hearts, and making sure weâre not unintentionally the difficult ones in our own relationships. Whether youâre single, dating, engaged, or married, this conversation will help you discern, grow, and navigate relationships with wisdom, grace, and truth.
At the heart of it all, relationships are about loving one another as Christ loves us. But what happens when love isn't reciprocated? When manipulation, deceit, and blame take center stage? Letâs talk about what it means to build godly relationships where both people take responsibility, honor one another, and reflect the love of Jesus. If youâve ever struggled with relational confusion, this oneâs for you!
Romans 12:10... Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor.
Original Reel can be found here.
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Ever wonder if something as small as a âGood morningâ text could actually change someoneâs life? Sounds almost too easy, right? But scienceâand more importantly, Scriptureâtell us that intentional connection can make all the difference in battling loneliness and strengthening relationships. In this episode, we dive into why checking in can be a game-changer for emotional and spiritual well-being.
Join us as we explore the biblical and practical power of simple daily connection, from friendships to dating relationships to marriage. We talk about how a quick message can remind someone theyâre not alone, encourage them in faith, and even act as a âspotterâ in life's heavy-lifting moments. Plus, we share real-life stories of how small acts of reaching out have made a huge impact.
So, whether youâre single, dating, engaged, or married, this episode is your nudge to be intentional. Who in your life could use a quick âI see youâ today? Letâs embrace Hebrews 10:24-25 and spur one another on to love, encouragement, and good deedsâone text at a time.
Hebrews 10:24-25âŚAnd let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one anotherâand all the more as you see the Day approaching.
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How long does it take to build transformative connection? 8 minutes!
In this episode of the "I Feel Loved When..." podcast, we explore how a tiny window of time can bring profound comfort and connection, even in the busiest of days. Whether you're single, dating, engaged, or married, this episode will inspire you to rethink how you show up for othersâand how you ask for help when you're struggling.
We take a fun, faith-filled journey through friendship, communication, and the biblical importance of supporting one another. With a little help from Simon Sinek's insight on emotional needs, Suzi and Cosmo discuss the simple yet profound idea of having a "code" for asking for helpâlike saying, "Do you have eight minutes?"
They highlight the power of lifting each other up, even with just a moment of intentional connection.
Ecclesiastes 4:9-10âŚ"Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up."
Original reel is here.
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Do you know when to listen, when to help, and when to just make sâmores?
How often do we rush to fix, solve, or advise when a friend is hurting? In this episode, we take a heartfelt and humorous look at what it means to truly be present in Christian relationships. Inspired by a poignant Instagram reel from psychotherapist Matthias J. Barker (@matthiasjbarker), we explore how simply showing upâwithout judgment or solutionsâcan bring comfort and healing to those we love.
Sometimes the best ministry is as simple as sâmores and silence. đŤđ¤ŤđĽ
We dive into biblical insights like Jobâs journey with his well-meaning (but flawed) friends, unpack Galatians 6:2 and Philippians 4:6-7, and reflect on how carrying each otherâs burdens fulfills the law of Christ. Whether youâre single, dating, engaged, or married, learning to "just be" in the midst of someoneâs struggles is a spiritual practice that grows empathy and strengthens connections.
Tune in to be encouraged, equipped, and anchored in Godâs love as you navigate the messy, beautiful work of walking alongside others.
Philippians 4:6-7âŚ"Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus."
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Original reel can be found here.
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What if at the end of the year, you had a jar filled with evidence of Godâs faithfulness?
In this episode, Suzi and Cosmo dive into a fun and faith-filled idea weâre calling the Jar of Joy. Spoiler alert: it involves colorful paper, weekly reflections, and a big dose of gratitude. We'll share how this simple practice can help you spot Godâs hand in your life and celebrate His blessings, big and small.
We'll explore how intentionally recording daily joys shifts your focus from lifeâs challenges to Godâs goodness. By the end of the year, your jar could be brimming with Godâs faithfulness and everyday victories to revisit and rejoice over.
So grab a jar, start jotting down what went well, and join the fun! Donât forget to share your progress with #JarOfJoy and #SoulAnchoring on Instagram and celebrate how Godâs goodness is anchoring your soul.
Philippians 4:8âŚFinally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirableâif anything is excellent or praiseworthyâthink about such things.
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Ever feel like New Yearâs resolutions are just promises waiting to be broken? đ Us too!
In this first episode of 2025, weâre kicking off Season 2 with a look back at the previous year and look ahead to what God has in store for the year to come. Forget the guilt-laden âIâll do betterâ lists. Instead, letâs reflect on Godâs guidance, explore how to grow spiritually, and seek to deepen our understanding of His purpose for our lives.
Join Cosmo and Suzi as they share candid insights into their year of personal ministry, from navigating unplanned coaching opportunities to creating meaningful one-on-one connections with those seeking support in dating, marriage, and singleness. Youâll hear how they turned missed opportunities into blessings and laid the groundwork for exciting new resources, like online courses and soul-anchoring guidebooks, designed to help Christians strengthen their relationships and walk closer with God.
Plus, get your hands on six reflection questions to help you process the past year and set faith-focused goals for the new one! Whether you're married, dating, or single, this episode offers encouragement, practical tools, and a sprinkle of laughter to inspire you in your relationships, spiritual growth, and trust in Godâs plan for 2025. Donât miss itâyour soul (and your relationships) will thank you!
The Six Reflection Questions plus helpful Scripture:
1. What is one area of my life where Iâve seen Godâs growth or guidance this past year? How did I respond to it?
Philippians 1:6âŚ"Being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus."Isaiah 30:21..."Whether you turn to the right or to the left, your ears will hear a voice behind you, saying, âThis is the way; walk in it.â"Colossians 2:6-7..."So then, just as you received Christ Jesus as Lord, continue to live your lives in him, rooted and built up in him, strengthened in the faith as you were taught, and overflowing with thankfulness."2. What small habits or routines did I establish this year that brought me closer to God or others? How can I continue or build on them?
Galatians 6:9..."Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up."Hebrews 10:24-25..."And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one anotherâand all the more as you see the Day approaching."1 Timothy 4:7-8..."Have nothing to do with godless myths and old wivesâ tales; rather, train yourself to be godly. For physical training is of some value, but godliness has value for all things, holding promise for both the present life and the life to come."
What are 3 character traits God has been working to develop in me this year, and how have I noticed changes?Galatians 5:22-23..."But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. Against such things there is no law."Philippians 1:6..."Being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus."Romans 12:2..."Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what Godâs will isâhis good, pleasing and perfect will."
Whatâs something I did this past year that I regret or want to do less of in the future, and what did I learn from it?1 John 1:9..."If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness."Proverbs 24:16..."For though the righteous fall seven times, they rise again, but the wicked stumble when calamity strikes."Philippians 3:13-14..."Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus."5. Whatâs something I discovered that brought me joy or fulfillment this past year that I want to do more of?
Psalm 37:4..."Take delight in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart."John 15:11..."I have told you this so that my joy may be in you and that your joy may be complete."Ecclesiastes 3:12-13..."I know that there is nothing better for people than to be happy and to do good while they live. That each of them may eat and drink, and find satisfaction in all their toilâthis is the gift of God."6. How did I make time for what I loved this year, and what did I learn about prioritizing my passions and values?
Ecclesiastes 3:1..."There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens."Psalm 37:4..."Take delight in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart."Colossians 3:17..."And whatever you do, whether in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him." -
Hi friends and Happy Holidays!
This time of year is one of our favorites, and like many of you, we find ourselves extra busy! To ensure we continue sharing meaningful content with you, weâre re-broadcasting our 5-part mini-series of core concepts over the next 5 weeks. These episodes dive into some of our foundational ideas and concepts, perfect for revisiting or discovering for the first time or sharing with friends and family (hint, hint).
Mark your calendarsâseason 2 of the âI Feel Loved WhenâŚâ podcast launches with brand-new episodes on January 13th! Until then, we wish you a very Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!
Our fifth core concept is the Weekly Meeting!
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Hi friends and Happy Holidays!
This time of year is one of our favorites, and like many of you, we find ourselves extra busy! To ensure we continue sharing meaningful content with you, weâre re-broadcasting our 5-part mini-series of core concepts over the next 5 weeks. These episodes dive into some of our foundational ideas and concepts, perfect for revisiting or discovering for the first time or sharing with friends and family (hint, hint).
Mark your calendarsâseason 2 of the âI Feel Loved WhenâŚâ podcast launches with brand-new episodes on January 13th! Until then, we wish you a very Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!
Our fourth core concept is Managing Expectations!
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Hi friends and Happy Holidays!
This time of year is one of our favorites, and like many of you, we find ourselves extra busy! To ensure we continue sharing meaningful content with you, weâre re-broadcasting our 5-part mini-series of core concepts over the next 5 weeks. These episodes dive into some of our foundational ideas and concepts, perfect for revisiting or discovering for the first time or sharing with friends and family (hint, hint).
Mark your calendarsâseason 2 of the âI Feel Loved WhenâŚâ podcast launches with brand-new episodes on January 13th! Until then, we wish you a very Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!
Our third core concept is Brownie Points are Evil!
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Hi friends and Happy Holidays!
This time of year is one of our favorites, and like many of you, we find ourselves extra busy! To ensure we continue sharing meaningful content with you, weâre re-broadcasting our 5-part mini-series of core concepts over the next 5 weeks. These episodes dive into some of our foundational ideas and concepts, perfect for revisiting or discovering for the first time or sharing with friends and family (hint, hint).
Mark your calendarsâseason 2 of the âI Feel Loved WhenâŚâ podcast launches with brand-new episodes on January 13th! Until then, we wish you a very Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!
Our second core concept is No Nagging!
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Hi friends and Happy Holidays!
This time of year is one of our favorites, and like many of you, we find ourselves extra busy! To ensure we continue sharing meaningful content with you, weâre re-broadcasting our 5-part mini-series of core concepts over the next 5 weeks. These episodes dive into some of our foundational ideas and concepts, perfect for revisiting or discovering for the first time or sharing with friends and family (hint, hint).
Mark your calendarsâseason 2 of the âI Feel Loved WhenâŚâ podcast launches with brand-new episodes on January 13th! Until then, we wish you a very Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!
Our first core concept is Believing the Best!
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Resentment + Bad Decisions = BFFs
This week on the "I Feel Loved When..." podcast, we explore the powerful connection between gratitude and decision-making. First, we'll listen to an insightful Instagram reel from Jon Acuff (@jonacuff) where he share's a life-changing quote about gratitude and decision making: "You make the best decisions when you're grateful you make the worst decisions when you're resentful."
Whether youâre married, engaged, dating, or single, this episode will help you see how gratitude impacts every relationshipâstarting with your relationship with God. From life-changing decisions to everyday moments, choosing gratitude not only honors God but also renews your perspective.
Ready to take a step toward healthier, faith-filled decisions? Join us for an honest, laughter-filled conversation as we share practical ways to shift from resentment to gratitude. Tune in now and start your âVitamin G" regimen!
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What is God's will for my life?
This weekâs episode dives deep into this so-simple-to-answer question...
We start with a thought-provoking Instagram reel by Mike Donehey (@mikedonehey), lead singer of Tenth Avenue North. Spoiler alert: Godâs will might not be about your career path, hobbies, or even your relationship status.
Join us as we unpack two transformative Bible passages:
1 Thessalonians 5:16-18...Be joyful always, pray continually, and give thanks in all circumstances for this is God's will for you in Christ Jesus
Micah 6:8...Act justly, love mercy, and walk humbly with your God.
These scriptures challenge us to rethink the pressure to âfigure outâ life and instead embrace a calling centered on trust, gratitude, and faith in Jesus Christ. Whether youâre single, dating, engaged, or married, this episode provides a biblical framework for living with purpose and peace in every season.
Discover how surrendering your plans to God opens the door to deeper spiritual growth and joy. If youâve ever wondered how to navigate lifeâs twists and turns with a Christ-centered perspective, this conversation will equip and encourage you to anchor your soul in Godâs eternal love and truth.
Original Instagram Reel can be found here.
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Do you long for "normal" in your relationships or do you embrace the quirk?
In this week's episode, weâre wrapping up our seven-part series on relationship patterns that build strong couples. We dive into the fourth pattern that helps couples âmake itâ...
Pattern 7: They made light of each other's quirks. They appreciated and acknowledged the quirks in each other. Even if they were at times annoying they made light of them and were never hypercritical. (From Dr. Nicole LePera â @the.holistic.psychologist)
This can be the most endearing of the 7 patterns! Get ready to laugh along with us as we share our own quirks (anybody else need multiple drink cups at all times?) and discover why these little idiosyncrasies can actually strengthen your bond.
Throughout this episode, we reflect on the difference between quirks that make us lovable and habits that may harm a relationship. With a healthy dose of humor, we unpack how celebrating your partnerâs uniqueness fosters deeper connection and a stronger sense of unity. Weâre learning to let quirks bring us closer instead of driving us apart.
Join us as we wrap up this series with faith-filled wisdom and practical tips for loving wellâquirks and all. Whether youâre single, dating, engaged, or married, this episode will leave you encouraged to trust Godâs plan for all your relationships and appreciate the wonderfully unique people Heâs placed in your life. Letâs lean into grace, grow in patience, and celebrate what makes each of us special.
Proverbs 27:6...Faithful are the wounds of a friend; profuse are the kisses of an enemy.
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This is part 7 of our 7-part series based on Dr. Nicole LePera's (@the.holistic.psychologist) 7 Patterns in Couples Who "Made It." Previous episodes linked below:
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What if fighting in your relationship could actually bring you closer together?
In this week's episode, weâre continuing our seven-part series on relationship patterns that build strong couples. We dive into the fourth pattern that helps couples âmake itâ...
Pattern 6: They fought. They got on each other's nerves, they fought, and were frustrated with each other at times. But they knew how to navigate conflict, bounce back, and move forward. (From Dr. Nicole LePera â @the.holistic.psychologist)
Let's dive into the surprising truth that healthy conflict isnât about avoiding arguments but learning how to navigate them with grace. Based on insights from Dr. Nicole LaPeraâs research on lasting couples, we explore why couples who âmake itâ often have moments of frustration but use them to build resilience, deepen trust, and grow in faith together.
Join us as we talk candidly about the reality of getting on each otherâs nerves and why itâs normalâand even healthy. From sharing practical tips on managing conflict to recognizing our own tendencies toward selfishness, we look at how Godâs guidance can transform the way we relate to each other. Whether youâre married, engaged, dating, or single this episode offers faith-based tools to overcome frustrations, support each other, and foster Christ-centered relationships that honors God.
Through laughter and honest conversation, weâll help you see how God uses our relationships to shape us, refine us, and teach us to love selflessly. Tune in to learn how even conflict can become an opportunity for spiritual growth, leading to a stronger, more anchored connection with God and each other.
Proverbs 15:1...A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.
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This is part 6 of our 7-part series based on Dr. Nicole LePera's (@the.holistic.psychologist) 7 Patterns in Couples Who "Made It." Previous episodes linked below:
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True or False? Avoiding difficult conversations will make your relationships better.
FALSE!
In this week's episode, weâre continuing our seven-part series on relationship patterns that build strong couples. We dive into the fourth pattern that helps couples âmake itâ...
Pattern 5: They had difficult conversations. They communicated regularly and were open to each other's perspectives. They didn't cope or avoid or deny. Emotional regulation was present so conversations rarely became explosions. (From Dr. Nicole LePera â @the.holistic.psychologist)
Let's talk about how to lean into those difficult conversations with grace, honesty, and an open heart. Healthy relationships arenât about avoiding conflict; theyâre about facing it together with a Christ-centered mindset. Weâre unpacking the steps to approach hard talks, whether you're single, dating, engaged, or married, and how they lead to deeper understanding and unity.
Drawing on biblical principles like âspeaking the truth in love,â weâll explore how emotional regulation, active listening, and assertive speaking build trust and peace. Together, weâll talk about why couples who communicate regularly and authentically are more resilient and grounded in their faith.
Join us as we invite the Holy Spirit into our relationships, learning how to pray and prepare for these talks in a way that glorifies God. Whether youâre navigating a work or roommate relationship or nurturing a long-term marriage, these insights offer hope and encouragement for building lasting, soul-anchored relationships.
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This is part 5 of our 7-part series based on Dr. Nicole LePera's (@the.holistic.psychologist) 7 Patterns in Couples Who "Made It." Previous episodes linked below:
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Ever feel tempted to âfixâ a person youâre in relationship with?
In this week's episode, weâre continuing our seven-part series on relationship patterns that build strong couples. We dive into the fourth pattern that helps couples âmake itâ...
Pattern 4: They let each other be themselves. There was a base level of respect and admiration for each other rather than a desire to change each other. This Freedom brought out the best parts of each of them. (From Dr. Nicole LePera â @the.holistic.psychologist)
When two people try to change each other, it can lead to frustration and resentment. But what happens when you respect each otherâs quirks, preferences, and differences? You build a foundation of trust, freedom, and real love.
We get real about how allowing your partner to be who God created them to be can actually bring out the best in your relationship. With personal stories and Biblical insights, we explore how to cultivate a spirit of acceptance and admirationâeven when your spouseâs interests or habits donât match yours. Discover how to discern the difference between areas to lovingly address and quirks to embrace!
Whether youâre single, dating, engaged, or married, this episode will help you honor God by honoring the unique person Heâs placed in your life. Tune in and learn how letting go of control can transform your relationship into a place of freedom and joy.
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This is part 4 of our 7-part series based on Dr. Nicole LePera's (@the.holistic.psychologist) 7 Patterns in Couples Who "Made It." Previous episodes linked below:
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