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Julie Legg and Jel Legg discuss ADHD and dating â how ADHD traits can impact some of our dating skills and dating experiences, managing expectations, and being authentic.
Dopamine, diving in, intensity, and passion.Fight, flight, and red flags of dating experiences.ADHD vs non-ADHD dating experiences.Having fun on dates and managing expectations for what comes next.The importance of being yourself, naturally â open and honest.Bouncing back and moving on after a date that didnât go well.
They chat about how the search for dopamine may drive impulsivity, passion, energy, and excitement. They discuss their personal experiences when it comes to diving in, quick exits, bouncing back, and ultimately what their ADHD brain is searching for.
Topics discussed in this episode:Key takeaways:
Itâs important that those with ADHD understand how and why their brain works the way it does, but not shy away from being authentic during the dating process. Being open and honest, and not masking in order to impress, will go a long way to find âyour personâ.While some ADHD traits can trip us up at times, remember we have extremely positive traits too that others can find very attractive.Enjoy the dating experience one date at a time, and try not to race ahead and plan future outcomes beyond the first date.Links:
Julie is the author of THE MISSING PIECE: A Woman's Guide to Understanding, Diagnosing and Living with ADHD (Harper Collins, 2024)Do you have a story to share? We'd love to hear from you if you have inspiring ADHD experience/journey you'd like to share. We are looking for strategies that work for you, uplifting stories of overcoming adversity, or celebrating success.
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Julie Legg and Jel Legg discuss ADHD and friendships â the challenges faced when trying to make friends, keeping them, and high expectations placed upon what a friend should be.
Defining what a friend is, and what challenges they had/have throughout adulthood.The upside of many close acquaintances.Object permanence and how this relates to friends and friendship.Understanding yourself before expecting others to understand you.Managing expectations.Tips and ideas for meeting like-minded friends-to-be.
They chat about awkward and confusing moments with schoolmates, social groups, and workmates. They discuss close acquaintances, managing expectations, and how to go about making friends as adults.
Topics discussed in this episode:Key takeaways:
ADHD traits such as oversharing, over-talking, over-excitement, interrupting, and intensity can be equally welcomed as they can be shunned by neurotypicals. This can leave people with ADHD confused due to their good intentions being misunderstood by others.Despite having challenges with friend groups in the past, you donât have to give up trying in future. Understanding how your brain works, managing expectations, active listening and finding tribe with a shared interest can be a great start.Links:
Julie is the author of THE MISSING PIECE: A Woman's Guide to Understanding, Diagnosing and Living with ADHD (Harper Collins, 2024)
Do you have a story to share? We'd love to hear from you if you have inspiring ADHD experience/journey you'd like to share. We are looking for strategies that work for you, uplifting stories of overcoming adversity, or celebrating success.
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Julie Legg and Jel Legg discuss the big emotions that can accompany ADHD â emotional dysregulation, and the challenges faced when exhibiting them.
Positive and negative outcomes of big emotions.Why they think ADHD emotions often are explosive and appear at unexpected moments.The unlikely triggers that observers may puzzle over or may find irrational.Needing time to process feelings.How we can be emotionless in a crisis.
They chat about love, fear, excitement, sadness, and anger, along with the roller-coaster of overwhelm frequently experienced. They discuss the time it takes to process feelings and the triggers that make them explode, often in the most unexpected situations.
Topics discussed in this episode:Key takeaways:
Everyone, including neurotypicals, can have big emotions. Those with ADHD are likely to experience heightened emotions frequently without being able to regulate them, often observed by some as irrational and âover the smallest of things.âIn the DSM-5 examples of big emotions are noted as having frequent mood swings, irritability and having a quick temper â often with a negative outcome. People with ADHD can experience an array of emotions in a heightened manner, including excitement, joy, love too.For many with ADHD it takes time to process feelings, often bottling them up until they spill over in an unexpected manner.Links:
Julie is the author of THE MISSING PIECE: A Woman's Guide to Understanding, Diagnosing and Living with ADHD (Harper Collins, 2024)
Do you have a story to share? We'd love to hear from you if you have inspiring ADHD experience/journey you'd like to share. We are looking for strategies that work for you, uplifting stories of overcoming adversity, or celebrating success.
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Julie Legg and Jel Legg discuss ADHD and overthinking â the loops of thoughts that continuously consume the minds of many with ADHD.
Time wasting and procrastination.Is overthinking an issue, or just a normal process of finding resolution for an ADHD brain?Overthinking and underthinking.Rejection sensitive dysphoria, ghosting and defence mechanisms.Diversion therapy.
They chat about those situations when overthinking has its place, and when overthinking has negative implications such as depression, anxiety, and stress. They discuss how as a couple they combat overthinking using diversion techniques, and personal tips they use as individuals.
Topics discussed in this episode:Key takeaways:
Overthinking is normal, everyone does it from time to time. It is more likely to be a frequent occurrence for those with ADHD and can have negative implications that impact time management, decision making, stress, depression, and anxiety. Finding resolution to an unsolvable problem or puzzle can be futile. Diversion therapy or distractions can help shift obsessive thinking to another task or area of interest.You can only control what is within your control.Turning your attention to something that you can solve or achieve, even if challenging, will provide a dopamine hit reward. At times overthinking is necessary to be able to process information. It is not a weakness by default for those with ADHD, itâs just part of our ADHD difference.Links:
Julie is the author of THE MISSING PIECE: A Woman's Guide to Understanding, Diagnosing and Living with ADHD (Harper Collins, 2024)
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Julie Legg and Jel Legg discuss ADHD Superpowers - is there such a thing, what it really means, and why it is such a polarising ADHD subject.
Realistically, what is a superpower when it comes to ADHD.Tall Poppy syndrome.Superheroes and super villains.Creativity, empathy, humour, tenacity, hyperfocus, strong moral compass, zest for life, and initiative.Self-acknowledging successes.Neurodiversity in the workplace.
They chat about those who believe ADHD is/has a superpower element, and those who donât, and why that may be the case. They discuss an array of areas where ADHDers find success, ADHD and HR, and how ADHD traits can lead to super successes and super disasters!
Topics discussed in this episode:Key takeaways:
To have an ADHD superpower is subjective â there are differing opinions, and we must respect them all. Take the win! If you are great at something, celebrate that!ADHD traits have a yin and a yang â we may be exceptional in some areas, but struggle with others.Everyone is good at something. Just donât give up searching for it if it hasnât fallen into your lap.Human Resources should consider the advantages of including neurodiverse employees to enhance any team.Links:
Julie is the author of THE MISSING PIECE: A Woman's Guide to Understanding, Diagnosing and Living with ADHD (Harper Collins, 2024)
Do you have a story to share? We'd love to hear from you if you have inspiring ADHD experience/journey you'd like to share. We are looking for strategies that work for you, uplifting stories of overcoming adversity, or celebrating success.
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Julie Legg and Jel Legg discuss âsmall talkâ and ADHD â why is it so annoying and how can we it.
They chat about why small talk seems at times painful when, not long after the pleasantries are over, the conversation doesnât progress. Why is small talk frustrating? How can small talk become big talk? What soft strategies can be used to âsurviveâ small talk when needed?
Small talk, pleasantries, water-cooler talk and shallow conversations.How ADHD, particularly dopamine deficiency, may have a direct impact our tolerance to small talk.Intelligent conversations, the entertainment factor, and high energy.Seeking interesting information through alternative, non-conversational interactions.Survival mechanisms for dealing with small talk.
Topics discussed in this episode:Key takeaways:
Small talk may be frustrating as it does not trigger interest, entertainment, pleasure, or ârewardâ that ADHD dopamine deficient brains crave.Weighting the value of the relationship one has with another, may impact levels of frustration or expectations, when it comes to small talk. Finding a shared interest early in the conversation can help negate a âshallowâ conversation and therefore be a more fulfilling one.Links:
Julie is the author of THE MISSING PIECE: A Woman's Guide to Understanding, Diagnosing and Living with ADHD (Harper Collins, 2024).
Do you have a story to share? We'd love to hear from you if you have inspiring ADHD experience/journey you'd like to share. We are looking for strategies that work for you, uplifting stories of overcoming adversity, or celebrating success.
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Julie Legg and Jel Legg discuss ADHD, conflict and confrontation - why, when and how we are likely to react in certain situations.
Adrenaline and dopamine. Fighting vs Flighting.Debating vs Conflict and when one is likely to over-spill into the other.How we can be the instigator of conflict, not just the recipient of conflict.Acting as a mediator for others.Addressing conflict in an ADHD marriage.Rebels with a cause.
They chat about the common fight or flight scenario, how dopamine may be at the heart of our likely responses, and the ramifications of both fighting and flighting.
Topics discussed in this episode:Key takeaways:
The fight or flight scenario is common for ADHD brains when faced with conflict and confrontation. Both adrenaline and dopamine share the same dopa molecule, one that we are naturally deficient of, and triggers our gut instinct for survival.Fighting a confrontation can lead to spill over of anger, impulsivity and emotional dysregulation as ADHD brains are often challenged to regulate these emotions.Flighting from a confrontation may lead to the ADHDer feeling misunderstood, unheard, or at times bullied.Good communication over time may deflect a conflict situation, especially with someone you have a relationship with - whether friendship, intimate or work colleague.At times, a 'cooling off' period may be the best method for conflict in a relationship - time to gather thoughts, speak calmly and kindly, rather than impulsively and with big emotions.Links:
Julie is the author of THE MISSING PIECE: A Woman's Guide to Understanding, Diagnosing and Living with ADHD (Harper Collins, 2024)
Do you have a story to share? We'd love to hear from you if you have inspiring ADHD experience/journey you'd like to share. We are looking for strategies that work for you, uplifting stories of overcoming adversity, or celebrating success.
Did you find this podcast helpful? Please subscribe if you'd like to hear more, or share with friends/family if you think there's a topic that may provide some insight. Our mission is to keep the ADHD conversation flowing and support each other.Thanks for listening. Visit ADHDifference.nz to find video links or to say hello.
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Julie speaks with Dani Donovan, CEO/founder of The Anti-Boring Project. Dani is known worldwide for her ADHD comic illustrations. She's a graphic designer, content creator, public speaker and now author of 'The Anti-Planner: How to get sh*t done when you don't feel like it' that deals with procrastination and all the emotions that hinder us from doing those projects and chores that don't excite us.
Topics covered in this episode:
Being diagnosed with ADHD in freshman year in the United States.The role ADHD plays in the way that we communicate.Dani Donovanâs backstory that led her to creating ADHD comics and info-graphics and how her Storytelling comic reached 100 million views.Public speaking about a variety of ADHD related challenges including, the social penetration theory, accommodating executive dysfunction, ADHD in the workplace.Over-compensations we make for our ADHD when undiagnosed, and after diagnosis.The Anti-Planner: ways to over-come executive dysfunction and ADHD âroad blocksâ in order to complete chores or tasks.Key takeaways:
There is a need to bridge the gap between the clinical knowledge and the lived experienced with ADHD.Having ADHD can be compared to being a sprinter rather than a marathon runner.Taking ADHD medication will help, but you need still need drive and determination to complete tasks (they don't do them on their own).Strategies may look good on paper, but unless one overcomes the challenges/emotions such as procrastination, they wonât be put into practice.·Bosses who understand ADHD are going to have a lasting impact on the daily life of employees with ADHD.Links:
Julie is the author of THE MISSING PIECE: A Woman's Guide to Understanding, Diagnosing and Living with ADHD (Harper Collins, 2024). ADHDDD.com The Anti-PlannerDani Donovan InstagramDo you have a story to share? We'd love to hear from you if you have inspiring ADHD experience/journey you'd like to share. This may include strategies, uplifting stories, overcoming adversity, or celebrating success.
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Julie Legg and Jel Legg discuss the link between ADHD and masking - why, when and how we are likely to mask and unmask.
Definition of âmaskingâ from an ADHD perspective.Why girls are more likely to mask than boys.The environments in which masking may occur most.âThe standard narrativeâ: how you're expected to behave in certain situations, how societal groups function.The Iceberg Theory.Our âsafe spaceâ where we can unmask and be ourselves.
They chat about whether masking is intentional or unintentional, detrimental to our self-esteem, and why they feel it is deemed necessary in certain situations. They discuss how others perceive their masked behaviours, how masking can evoke feelings of being misunderstood, the Iceberg Theory and the times when unmasking has surprised or even shocked those around them.
Topics discussed in this episode:Key takeaways:
Girls are more likely to be covert in trying to hide their ADHD symptoms and mask very successfully, often to the detriment of their self-esteem. Boys tend to be more overt with their ADHD traits making them easier to spot.Masking is often used as a survival behaviour. A somewhat âtoned downâ version of their authentic self (verbally and/or physically) is displayed in order not to be singled out in an environment where they just want to fit in.The mask cannot be worn 24/7 â eventually it comes off, whether accidentally or in the presence of those who are non-judgemental. To unmask means feeling safe enough to take off all the veneers and let yourself shine through. And while many neurotypical people may just say "What's the big deal? Just be yourself." There's a lot of reasons why that can be quite exhausting or nerve-racking after masking or partially masking for so long. Known as the Iceberg Theory (or Social Penetration Theory) often we will only show part of our whole (the âtip of the icebergâ or the âouter layers of the onionâ) thus protecting our deepest fears and vulnerabilities.Links:
Julie is the author of THE MISSING PIECE: A Woman's Guide to Understanding, Diagnosing and Living with ADHD (Harper Collins, 2024).
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Julie Legg and Jel Legg discuss the link between ADHD and hypersensitivity â not necessarily a trait, but a common attribute for people with ADHD.
They chat about each of their senses, the weird and wonderful extremes they experience. From datum lines to aesthetics, bass drums and distant conversations, scratchy clothing labels to repetitive touch, Christmas shopping to confrontation. They ponder criticism, expected outcomes, adverse reactions to not feeling in control of self, empathy, negative people and energy levels â to name a few.Topics discussed in this episode:
HSP, a highly sensitive person.Line of focus, peripheral vision, and datum lines.Acutely sensitive to a range of noise frequencies and pitches, and unexpected loud noisesTaste, smell and memory links.Sensory overload to texture - difficulty swallowing medication, clothing labels, certain fabrics ... or being repetitively touched by another person.Being highly sensitive to criticism or confrontation (actual or perceived), body language, and othersâ energy.Key takeaways:
While we all have a given set of ears, eyes and nervous system that reacts the same, it is how ADHD brains process those sensory signals that makes us more hypersensitive in many instances.Hypersensitivity is not a clinical ADHD trait in accordance with the DSM, however it is a common attribute that is experienced by many people with ADHD.Some ADHD brain reactions to âseemingly normalâ everyday sights, sounds, tastes, textures and smells may appear very irrational to neurotypicals: âOh they get so upset over the littlest of things."Every individual is different, as with every ADHD brain in so far as some may, or may not, experience these hypersensitive occurrences.Links:
Julie is the author of THE MISSING PIECE: A Woman's Guide to Understanding, Diagnosing and Living with ADHD (Harper Collins, 2024).
Do you have a story to share? We'd love to hear from you if you have inspiring ADHD experience/journey you'd like to share. We are looking for strategies that work for you, uplifting stories of overcoming adversity, or celebrating success.
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Julie Legg and Jel Legg discuss the link between ADHD and creativity â a mighty strength for many individuals with ADHD. They ponder what creativity is - from the arts, to communication, storytelling, and non-linear thinking.
Delving into what it means to be creative.How dopamine plays a part in boosting our joy in creative fields.Creativity, self-criticism, and imposter syndrome when comparing ourselves to others.Looking back at our younger selves to find where creative traits were very evident. Music, art, dance, crafts, DIY, photography, systems and processes, cooking, gardening, alternative thinking.
From hobbies, to careers, to household chores, creative thinking can be applied in every waking hour - even mowing the lawns! They chat about the links between creativity and dopamine, imposter syndrome, burnout and brilliance. They dissect their childhood and reflect on their present where creativity is very much alive and well.
Topics discussed in this episode:Key takeaways:
Creativity is more than just âthe creative artsâ. It includes creative thinking and problem solving too which can be applied to pretty much every, every minute of the day.Even mundane tasks can become quite interesting by applying a creative approach.Hyperfocusing on a creative hobby or project, while fun, can also lead to burnout or self-combustion, without life balance.Perfectionism towards our creative endeavours can lead to dismissing our unique talents â be aware: creativity need not be a competition. Creativity is a personal expression, much like storytelling.Links:
Julie is the author of THE MISSING PIECE: A Woman's Guide to Understanding, Diagnosing and Living with ADHD (Harper Collins, 2024).
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In this episode Julie Legg interviews guest Leonie-Ruth Acland (aged 68, NSW) who identifies with ADHD but is not formally diagnosed. They chat about how this came about, feelings of âdeficitâ as a child, and the inspirational women she has met on her ADHD journey.
Ruth shares personal stories of her time in Java and Tanzania as a young mother, her association with the UN, her strength, emotional intelligence, and helping others to flourish. Ruth talks about self-compassion, the daily routines that keeps her grounded as an older adult with ADHD, ageism, her love of nature, and the importance of oneâs personal growth.
Topics discussed in this episode:
Decision-making regarding seeking a formal diagnosis vs identifying with ADHD and being content with an informal diagnosis.Considerations around ADHD medication for older adults.Growing up as a child feeling a sense of deficit, undiagnosed.ADHD being genetically linked.Parenting and living overseas, undiagnosed â Java and Tanzania.Experience working in association with the United Nations.Ageism.Personal growth.Key takeaways:
If you identify with ADHD traits, and it makes a positive difference to your life with regards to self-compassion, understanding without the need to seek medication, a formal diagnosis may not be considered essential for some.If ADHD stimulant medication is not available for health reasons, other treatments, such as strategies and management tools may help.Taking time for self-care, daily routines and personal growth helps the ADHD brain feel grounded.Our personal strength, empathy and our drive can help ourselves and others flourish.The more we can understand and know ourselves, the more real we show up in the world.Links:
ADHD Women Explore The Neuroverse Podcast
Flourishing Education Podcast
Ruth Acland, Tanglewood
Julie is the author of THE MISSING PIECE: A Woman's Guide to Understanding, Diagnosing and Living with ADHD (Harper Collins, 2024).
Do you have a story to share? We'd love to hear from you if you have inspiring ADHD experience/journey you'd like to share. We are looking for strategies that work for you, uplifting stories of overcoming adversity, or celebrating success.
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Julie Legg and Jel Legg discuss life following their adult ADHD diagnoses â taking ownership of their ADHD and how it has impacted their past, and will impact their future too.
They candidly chat about unpacking decades of past choices made and emotions felt prior to their ADHD diagnosis, and now with a better understanding of ADHD how it may affect their future journey. They discuss soft tactics they use as a couple to keep them on track and happy, talk about friendship groups and acquaintances, careers, and many other adult ADHD related topics.
Topics discussed in this episode:
Common reactions to an ADHD diagnosis.Reflections on decades of undiagnosed actions, choices, and perceptions.Mismanagement of ADHD traits when undiagnosed vs soft tactics used to keep on track post-diagnosis.Whether to tell friends, family, and work colleagues about an ADHD diagnosisFriendships, acquaintances and relationships.ADHD stimulant medication.Key takeaways:
There is no right or wrong way of feeling following an adult ADHD diagnosis. Feelings can range from relief and validation, to anger and grief for not knowing sooner.Understanding your ADHD brain is important. Donât expect others to understand you if you don't understand how your ADHD impacts you.We are the same people before and after an ADHD diagnoses â so âlife-changingâ means we have a different view of ourselves and our world, rather than a personality change.Own your differences. There will be positive and negative sides to every ADHD trait. Be sure to reflect on them with balance and kindness.Be with people who love you, who enable you, and encourage you to be the best version of yourself.ADHD stimulant medication will not âfix youâ as you are not broken! It will however, help to smooth off some rough or sharp edges and provide the dopamine levels required to assist in staying focused, managing emotions and time management, for example.Links:
Julie is the author of THE MISSING PIECE: A Woman's Guide to Understanding, Diagnosing and Living with ADHD (Harper Collins, 2024)
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Julie Legg and Jel Legg discuss the adult ADHD diagnosis process in New Zealand â what lead them to seek a diagnosis in their 50s, the assessment procedure, and their personal journey.
They chat about the reasons they chose to be assessed and what it was like to be assessed online rather than in person. They candidly chat about all things ADHD relating to their adult ADHD experience.
Topics discussed in this episode:
Making the choice between a clinical psychologist and a psychiatrist for the ADHD assessment.Assessment via Health New Zealand (formerly DHBs) vs going private, and how assessments may differ.Personal reasons for seeking an ADHD assessment.Choosing to treat ADHD unmedicated.Suggestions of homework to do before your assessment to gather helpful information.Key takeaways:
Many qualified people can assess ADHD but for an adult diagnosis, it needs to be done through a clinical psychologist or a psychiatrist.Only a psychiatrist (medically trained) can prescribe ADHD medication.Psychologists and psychiatrists assess âthe all of youâ â be prepared for a diagnosis that you had not necessarily anticipated, including comorbidities (several disorders).If you have ADHD you would have the disorder/difference as a child too. Looking back to your younger years (12 years of age) is required to establish that traits have existed throughout your lifetime.The assessment is the process that you go through and the diagnosis is literally the result at the end of it, whether it's ADHD, whether it's ADHD plus something else, or whether it's none of the above.Links:
Julie is the author of THE MISSING PIECE: A Woman's Guide to Understanding, Diagnosing and Living with ADHD (Harper Collins, 2024).
Do you have a story to share? We'd love to hear from you if you have inspiring ADHD experience/journey you'd like to share. We are looking for strategies that work for you, uplifting stories of overcoming adversity, or celebrating success.
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Julie Legg and Jel Legg discuss Imposter Syndrome â what itâs all about and how it can play out in the lives of those with ADHD.
What triggers their Imposter Syndrome and feeling like a phony? They candidly chat about how doubt, inner strength and belief, and the complexities of managing Imposter Syndrome with ADHD.Topics discussed in this episode:
The definition of âImposter Phenomenonâ aka imposter syndrome, and how it relates to ADHD brains.Imposter syndrome experienced during/after the ADHD assessment and diagnosis process.The juxtaposition of the co-existence of self-belief and self-doubt. Self-taught and high achieving individuals without tertiary qualifications.Is imposter syndrome self-imposed, or do others play a part in triggering this doubt?Correlation between imposter syndrome, self-criticism and self-identity.Key takeaways:
While initially the original 1978 study focused on high achieving women, anyone can experience imposter syndrome. Even those awaiting an ADHD assessment, or those recently diagnosed may feel like an âADHD fraudâ, that maybe theyâre just lazy after all, when comparing themselves to others with more severe ADHD symptoms.Self-doubt, despite being successful achievers, can have crippling effects when it comes to careers, promotions or even taking a compliment.The generational differences of âlearning on the jobâ vs âuniversity qualifiedâ can result in a disjointed view on capability and talent, lending some to doubt their abilities regardless of experience.Links:
Julie is the author of THE MISSING PIECE: A Woman's Guide to Understanding, Diagnosing and Living with ADHD (Harper Collins, 2024).
Do you have a story to share? We'd love to hear from you if you have inspiring ADHD experience/journey you'd like to share. We are looking for strategies that work for you, uplifting stories of overcoming adversity, or celebrating success.
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Julie Legg and Jel Legg discuss impatience â what triggers theirs, what extreme impatience can result in, and how this ADHD trait affects them personally.
From supermarket queues to road rage, extreme impatience has led them to be impulsive, irrational, overly emotional, accident prone, and have an impact on their health. Impatience, along with other ADHD challenges, are often intertwined.Topics discussed in this episode:
The relationship between dopamine and extreme impatience.Triggers such as waiting in queues, driving and technology.Careless mistakes and being accident prone.Anxiety.Over-talking and interrupting.Interrelated ADHD traits such as impulsivity, emotional dysregulation.Key takeaways:
Everyone (including neurotypicals) will experience impatience in their lives however those with ADHD may experience extreme impatience, often. Not all ADHD brains are impatient about the same things. We are all different and can be triggered in different environments.Extreme impatience may lead to impulsivity and emotional dysregulation (also ADHD interrelated traits) resulting in anxiety, or regrettable actions, whether verbal or physical.Distraction therapy can help during impatient moments to help calm the ADHD brain or shift focus.At times impatience may be observed as irrational or unreasonable by neurotypicals and simply statements such as âjust chill outâ are not helpful, nor necessarily achievable.Links:
Julie is the author of THE MISSING PIECE: A Woman's Guide to Understanding, Diagnosing and Living with ADHD (Harper Collins, 2024).
Do you have a story to share? We'd love to hear from you if you have inspiring ADHD experience/journey you'd like to share. We are looking for strategies that work for you, uplifting stories of overcoming adversity, or celebrating success.
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Julie Legg and Jel Legg discuss time management â the ups, the downs, and the realities of living with this very common ADHD challenge.
How a lack of time management has impacted their lives, from childhood through to adulthood.Technology and its ability to distract.The dreaded appointment! Over-compensating for potentially being late.Running on adrenalin vs good time management.Multitasking, managing careers, and parenting with undiagnosed ADHD.Needing time-out to re-energise, and burnout.Positive impacts of nature on ADHD brains. Work and reward.
Topics discussed in this episode:Key takeaways:
Simplified lifestyles, routines and nature can help calm ADHD brains.Time management isnât just about getting to an appointment on time, it challenges the efficient use of time in every waking hour, including at work.ADHD challenges are often interrelated â hyperfocus, time management, forgetfulness, short attention span, careless mistakes, for example.·âRunning on emptyâ or adrenalin, without life balance, can lead to burnout and health issues.Rewarding your ADHD brain for achieving or completing a task or chore, brings on a much-needed dopamine hit.Links:
Julie is the author of THE MISSING PIECE: A Woman's Guide to Understanding, Diagnosing and Living with ADHD (Harper Collins, 2024).
Do you have a story to share? We'd love to hear from you if you have inspiring ADHD experience/journey you'd like to share. We are looking for strategies that work for you, uplifting stories of overcoming adversity, or celebrating success.
Did you find this podcast helpful? Please subscribe if you'd like to hear more, or share with friends/family if you think there's a topic that may provide some insight. Our mission is to keep the ADHD conversation flowing and support each other.
Thanks for listening. Visit ADHDifference.nz to find video links or to say hello.
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Julie Legg and Jel Legg introduce their first ADHDifference Podcast in an ongoing series. They discuss why they created this series of ADHD podcasts and why they prefer the word âdifferenceâ to âdisorderâ.
Upbeat and informal, in this episode they touch on many aspects of ADHD including the post-diagnosis journey and how, with newfound knowledge and understanding, it has helped them to reframework their relationship to many aspects of their lives.
You'll hear their personal experiences with living with ADHD as adults (after being diagnosed in their fifties) as a married and unmedicated couple. It's an open and honest conversation where over-talking, interrupting and not finishing sentences are alive and well.
Topics in this episode:
ADHD isn't a one-size-fits-all disorder.The impact of an adult ADHD diagnosis with regards to understanding the present, reframeworking the past, and shaping the future.Acknowledging the 'trip-hazards' (ADHD traits that negatively impact our lives).Simplifying life can help manage ADHD symptoms to a certain extent.Living rurally isn't as quiet as you may imagine!Key takeaways:
While ADHD is defined on a clinical level as a disorder, âdiversityâ means different or variant. We prefer to see ADHD as a difference, a human variation.We may share numerous common ADHD traits however our personal journeys will be as individual as our fingerprints. An adult ADHD diagnosis is not the end ... it's the beginning of a new journey of self-acceptance. Understanding yourself is essential before expecting others to understand you.Links:
Julie is the author of THE MISSING PIECE: A Woman's Guide to Understanding, Diagnosing and Living with ADHD (Harper Collins, 2024).
Do you have a story to share? We'd love to hear from you if you have inspiring ADHD experience/journey you'd like to share. This may include strategies, uplifting stories, overcoming adversity, or celebrating success.
Did you find this podcast helpful? Please subscribe if you'd like to hear more, or share with friends/family if you think there's a topic that may provide some insight. Our mission is to keep the ADHD conversation flowing and support each other.
Thanks for listening. Visit ADHDifference.nz to find video links or to say hello.
