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Join TalkDoc, Meredith, and Teighlor on the latest episode of “Asking for a Friend with TalkDoc,” where we revisit an essential topic covered in Episode 58: Keeping Your Cool: How to Control Your Emotions So They Don't Control You. We explore practical strategies for navigating challenging emotions, we draw from the insights of leading researchers like Marc Brackett and Brené Brown.
In this episode, we emphasize the art of recognizing and understanding the initial physical sensations that accompany emotional responses, a crucial step in preventing emotions from hijacking rational thought processes. Instead of trying to evade these feelings, we advocate for embracing them and employing mindful techniques to regain control.
Key techniques discussed include body awareness exercises to pinpoint emotional triggers, conscious deep breathing to promote relaxation, and leveraging the parasympathetic nervous system to lower cortisol levels and promote calmness. By tuning in to this episode, you'll gain valuable tools for managing emotions effectively, maintaining composure in stressful situations, and fostering healthier communication and relationships. Tune in for transformative insights and actionable steps toward emotional mastery.
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SHOW NOTES:
Experts : Dr. Marc Brackett and Dr. Brene Brown
Links :
AFAF Episode #058: Keeping Your Cool: How to Control Your Emotions So They Don't Control You
https://pod.link/afafwithtalkdoc/episode/e7556c93c8e574aa35cdcff0b649e66e
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In this latest episode of our podcast, TalkDoc, Meredith, and Teighlor tackle the intricate dance between mothers and their smartphone habits. With Mother's Day as our backdrop, we embark on a heartfelt exploration of personal anecdotes, unveiling the layers of guilt that often accompany excessive phone use, particularly when it interferes with meaningful moments with our children.
Our conversation is a poignant reflection of the ongoing struggle to strike a harmonious balance between fulfilling digital responsibilities and being fully present for our kids, shedding light on the phenomenon known as “technoference” and its impact on maternal contentment.
Delving into the research, we dissect studies that illuminate the effects of maternal smartphone engagement on children's emotional states and cognitive synchronization during face-to-face interactions. These insights serve as a sobering reminder of the need to navigate our digital lives mindfully, cultivating strategies to mitigate guilt and foster healthier coping mechanisms. We don’t just stop at analysis; we share actionable tips and techniques aimed at improving this dynamic.
From establishing designated "phone-free" hours to prioritizing self-care for mental and relationship well-being, our episode serves as a beacon of support for mothers navigating the intricate web of modern-day connectivity and parenting. Join us as we navigate this nuanced terrain with empathy, understanding, and a commitment to nurturing stronger, more present relationships.
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SHOW NOTES:
Experts : Wolfers, Wendt, Becker, and Utz (2023), Pew Research Center, McDaniel & Radesky
Technoference is defined as “everyday interruptions in interpersonal interactions or time spent together that occur due to the digital and mobile technology devices” (McDaniel & Radesky, 2018, p. 100.
Resources :
Wolfers, Wendt, Becker, and Utz (2023) article: “Do you love your phone more than your child? The consequences of norms and guilt around maternal smartphone use”
https://academic.oup.com/hcr/article/49/3/285/7010694
Cartoon by Michael Leunig (2019):
https://www.leunig.com.au/curly-world/opinion-september-2020/35-news/recent-cartoons-images/988-mummy-was-busy
Research on Parental Burnout by Zhang, Hu, and Mao (2023):
https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/01430343231201863
Pew Research on Teens and Parents Approach to Screen Time:
https://www.pewresearch.org/internet/2024/03/11/how-teens-and-parents-approach-screen-time/
Research on Still Face and Babies:
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3289403/
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/32857440/
Research on Reading and Phone Interruptions:
https://www.researchgate.net/publication/358408603_Reduced_mother-child_brain-to-brain_synchrony_during_joint_storytelling_interaction_interrupted_by_a_media_usage
Links :
AFAF Episode #015: What the Phub!
https://pod.link/afafwithtalkdoc/episode/49181892af68bd3170e025ea77a58de5
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Are your loved ones left guessing about your true feelings? Do you often find yourself taking the safer route by avoiding emotional conversations? It’s easy to overlook the importance of identifying, labeling, and expressing our emotions effectively. However, enhancing our emotional expression is crucial for nurturing healthy relationships. After all, we’re emotional beings who sometimes think!
Join us in this episode as we dive back into the valuable insights from episodes 53 and 55. We’ll explore actionable strategies to help you better understand and convey your emotions. Tune in now to discover ways to strengthen communication with your closest relationship partners, ensuring that you leave no room for guesswork.
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SHOW NOTES:
Experts : Marc Brackett
AFAF Episode #053: Sad? Mad? Glad? How to Expand Your Emotional Vocabulary
https://pod.link/afafwithtalkdoc/episode/6838118c4eb4b0ddd297f0f74e2edd26
AFAF Episode #055: All the Feels! How to Better Express Your Feelings
https://pod.link/afafwithtalkdoc/episode/1b17807d586eb084ea5e45230bcd422b
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Understanding Codependency and Hypervigilance
In this episode of Asking for a Friend with TalkDoc, we deep dive into the intricate dynamics of Codependency and Hypervigilance. Our guest, Carrie Johnson, brings a wealth of knowledge and experience to the table, enriching our understanding of these crucial subjects.
Join TalkDoc, Meredith, Teighlor, and Carrie as we navigate the nuances of codependency, moving beyond its conventional ties to addiction and exploring its multifaceted manifestations in various relationships. Drawing from a poignant personal story shared by a student, our conversation sheds light on how codependency can manifest in interactions with narcissists and dependents alike, offering profound insights into the complexities of human connection.
Hypervigilance takes center stage as we unravel its impact on individuals navigating emotionally volatile environments. We explore how this heightened state of awareness influences coping mechanisms and discuss practical strategies for cultivating resilience and reclaiming autonomy.
Throughout the episode, we emphasize the transformative power of self-compassion, the healing journey of re-parenting oneself, and the importance of establishing healthy boundaries. Our exploration extends to valuable resources such as therapy and support groups, underlining the significance of seeking professional guidance and communal support in navigating these challenges.
Tune in as we champion self-awareness, advocate for nurturing meaningful relationships, and champion the invaluable practice of prioritizing mental well-being. This episode promises a wealth of wisdom and actionable insights for anyone seeking to unravel the intricacies of codependency and hypervigilance in their lives.
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SHOW NOTES:
Experts : Murray Bowen (Family Systems)
https://www.thebowencenter.org/core-concepts-diagrams
Resources :
Co-Dependent No More by Melody Beattie
https://www.melodybeattie.com/codependentnomore
Co-Dependents Anonymous
https://coda.org/
Alcoholics Anonymous (Al-Anon)
https://al-anon.org/
Adult Children of Alcoholics by Woititz
https://www.amazon.com/Adult-children-alcoholics-Geringer-Woititz/dp/B000720PS8
Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents by Gibson
https://www.amazon.com/Adult-Children-Emotionally-Immature-Parents-ebook/dp/B00TZE87S4
Boundaries by Cloud and Townsend
https://www.boundariesbooks.com/
Links :
Instagram Emily H. Sanders LMFThttps://www.instagram.com/emily.sanders.therapy/?hl=en
Instagram Lisa Romano @LisaRomano
https://www.instagram.com/lisaaromano/?hl=en
AFAF Episode 71: AFAF with Carrie Johnson on People Pleasers!
https://pod.link/afafwithtalkdoc/episode/f51d610dd854351ecace50e61afb0c01
AFAF Episode 59: Anger Management! How to Tame Your Temper with Christopher Faris and Carrie Johnson
https://pod.link/afafwithtalkdoc/episode/d3a4aa5fad6104f0aafc2a80e3cb04dc
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Celebrating Episode 100
In the 100th episode of “Asking for a Friend with TalkDoc,” hosts TalkDoc, Meredith, and Teighlor celebrate the milestone by revisiting the very first episode titled, “The Message Received is the One That Counts.”
We discuss the challenges and misunderstandings that arise in communication, particularly focusing on the negative perception of sensitivity. Through personal anecdotes, we explore how being labeled as 'too sensitive' impacts relationships and communication, suggesting that sensitivity should instead be seen as a strength.
We delve into the importance of acknowledging the impact of our words on others, rather than justifying intentions, and offer strategies for better understanding and validating each other's feelings in conversations. The episode underscores the value of empathy and the significance of how messages are received in shaping effective and compassionate communication.
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SHOW NOTES:
Link to AFAF Episode #001: Our First Full Episode!
https://pod.link/afafwithtalkdoc/episode/6dce9b4a421e11cc80560cc626684dde
Link to AFAF Episode #000: Nice to Meet You!
https://pod.link/afafwithtalkdoc/episode/dc060c5a327d77522d1f2e3a5322d7b8
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Have you ever been told, “I don't like your tone?” That simple statement carries a world of significance. It reflects not just the words spoken but also the emotional context and intention behind them. Our tone of voice serves as a powerful vehicle for transmitting feelings, attitudes, and intentions in every interaction.
In this episode, we explore the intricate world of nonverbal communication, with a focus on tone as a vital component of paralanguage. Join TalkDoc, Meredith and Teighlor, as we unravel the layers of how tone can profoundly shape the interpretation and reception of our messages.
From the volume and pitch to the pace and clarity of our speech, every nuance of tone plays a crucial role in conveying emotions, confidence levels, and overall competence. Drawing from personal experiences, we share anecdotes that illuminate how tone can either strengthen or strain relationships and communication dynamics.
We dive into fascinating research on how voice pitch can influence attraction and how subtle variations in tone can reveal underlying emotions or hidden intentions, often speaking louder than words alone.
Ultimately, this episode serves as a gentle reminder of the power of tone in our everyday interactions. By becoming more aware of our tone and learning to adjust it consciously, we can unlock the potential for more meaningful, empathetic, and impactful communication in both personal and professional realms.
Tune in as we unravel the nuances of tone and its profound impact on our relationships and communication efficacy.
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SHOW NOTES:
Experts : Gottman, Gottman Institute, Guerrero, Touch Research Institute
Resources :
Maya Angelou quotation:
“I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”Gottman and Notarius (2004): Observing Marital Interaction
https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1111/j.1741-3737.2000.00927.x
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In case you missed it, we are back with another AFAF Rewind! This is your chance to revisit Episodes #023 and #024: How to Manage Gaslighting (Part 1 and 2)
In this compelling two-part series, we delve deep into the often-misunderstood concept of “gaslighting” with Staci Ross, M.A., L.M.F.T., an expert in the field.
Discover the nuanced layers of gaslighting as Staci breaks down this extreme manipulation tactic. Unveiling its systemic nature, she reveals how gaslighting is an intentional effort to erode a person's sense of self over time, strategically dismantling their support systems and fostering isolation. Join our insightful conversation with TalkDoc, Meredith, Teighlor, and Staci as we explore the subtle warning signs of gaslighting and empower you with strategies to break free from these toxic relationships.
Staci's wealth of knowledge extends beyond theory, as she draws upon her personal experiences to shed light on these destructive patterns. Tune in to gain invaluable insights into discerning gaslighting and learn actionable steps to reclaim your sense of self.
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SHOW NOTES:
Link to full AFAF Episode 23:
https://pod.link/afafwithtalkdoc/episode/172b1da84e9ef9e99153bd3d3622698b
Link to full AFAF Episode 24:
https://pod.link/afafwithtalkdoc/episode/3a5b4efae31991c46b80678dfad86f9f
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Join us for a special episode of Asking for a Friend with TalkDoc as we delve into the world of Multiple Sclerosis (MS) in honor of MS Awareness Month. Our guest, Marissa Cirbo, bravely shares her personal journey with MS, shedding light on the challenges and triumphs she has faced since her diagnosis in 2022.
Marissa takes us back to the beginning, recounting the unusual symptoms that first appeared after a trip to Mexico and the journey of discovery that followed. She discusses the frustrating experience of being initially misdiagnosed and the emotional rollercoaster of shock and grief upon receiving the correct diagnosis of MS. Throughout our conversation, Marissa eloquently navigates the complex medical maze she encountered and shares valuable insights into self-advocacy and finding a support network.
One of the key takeaways from our discussion is the concept of MS as a "snowflake disease," highlighting the unique experiences and challenges that each individual with MS faces. Marissa's story emphasizes the importance of MS Awareness Month in raising awareness about these complexities, particularly the often invisible symptoms that can be so difficult to communicate.
We also explore the impact of chronic illness on relationships, emphasizing the need for open and honest communication. Marissa shares practical advice for those who are newly diagnosed with MS and their families, including tips on setting boundaries and increasing self-awareness in communication.
Throughout the episode, Marissa's resilience and proactive approach to managing her MS journey shine through, including her involvement in a support group for newly diagnosed individuals. Join us as we discover hope, healing, and meaningful connections amidst the challenges of chronic illness, and learn valuable communication strategies from Marissa's inspiring story.
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SHOW NOTES:
Experts : National MS Society, Multiple Sclerosis Association of America
Resources/Links:
National Multiple Sclerosis Society https://www.nationalmssociety.org/
The National MS Society's vision is: A World Free of MS. The Society's mission is: We will cure MS while empowering people affected by MS to live their best lives.
Multiple Sclerosis Association of America (MSAA) https://mymsaa.org/
The Multiple Sclerosis Association of America (MSAA) is a leading resource for the entire MS community, improving lives today through vital services and support.
Can Do MS: https://cando-ms.org/
Free programs and resources help people living with multiple sclerosis and their care partners make each day the best it can be. Learn how MS can impact your life, find motivation and personalized guidance to overcome challenges and build a positive support network.
Lived Health: https://www.livedhealth.org/
A free, patient-led online video resource shining light on long-term health conditions. We guide fellow patients through diagnosis, treatment and lifestyle.
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In case you missed it, we are back with another AFAF Rewind! This is your chance to revisit Episode #028: How to Stop Over Explaining!
Ever catch yourself in the loop of over-explaining? It's like a dance move where we talk too much and end up regretting the whole interaction later on. We look back on Episode 28 where we unpack the anxieties that fuel our tendency to over-explain, from the fear of others' perceptions to the nagging sense of not quite fitting in.
Join TalkDoc, Meredith, and Teighlor as we dissect four common pitfalls that muddy our messages: the stumbling block of repetition, the art of false starts, the peril of filled pauses, and the awkwardness of unfilled pauses. These communication hiccups not only risk confusing your audience but can also leave you second-guessing your entire interaction.
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SHOW NOTES:
Link to AFAF Episode 28:
https://pod.link/afafwithtalkdoc/episode/7256cb9fd6ba3bb1893f130453818b47
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Have you ever pondered the complexities of your own reactions to being touched? Join us as we dive into the nuanced dynamics of touch, where it can be both a positive connection and, in certain contexts, a source of discomfort.
In this episode, we begin our exploration of nonverbal communication by drawing on Judee Burgoon's renowned Expectancy Violation Theory. We dissect the intricate tapestry of our responses to touch from others. Burgoon provides a valuable framework that helps us navigate through instances where touch exceeds our expectations, both positively and negatively.
Tune in to hear engaging discussions fueled by both research findings and personal experiences. Beyond adult interactions, we explore the profound significance of human touch in the early stages of life, acknowledging its indispensable role as a soothing and regulating force for infants and children.
Join us as we unravel the layers of touch, an essential component of the human experience that not only connects us on a profound level but also serves as a powerful tool for maintaining our connections with others. Your understanding of communication and relationships is about to reach a whole new depth.
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SHOW NOTES:
Experts : Judee Burgoon, Mehrabian, Touch Research Institute, L. Guerrero, Scientific American
Resources :
Judee Burgoon’s Expectancy Violation Theory
https://www.communicationtheory.org/expectancy-violation-theory/
Judee Burgoon Explains Expectancy Violation Theory
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-kmnZIxiYHk
Touching Map from University of Oxford
https://www.ox.ac.uk/news/2015-10-27-maps-show-where-touching-allowed-0
Infant Touch Article
https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/infant-touch/
Power of Touch by Chillot- Psychology Today
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/articles/the-power-of-touch
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In case you missed it, we are back with another AFAF Rewind! This is your chance to revisit some of our most impactful episodes! In this episode, we are bringing you a clip from Episode #005: Shut Down Mode - How to Manage Stonewalling.
Stonewalling can be a red flag in any relationship, signaling potential challenges ahead or even worse. Join TalkDoc, Meredith, and Teighlor as we review practical ways to improve our relationships by managing stonewalling.
Join us as we dissect stonewalling and offer practical tips to transform your approach to relationships. Tune in, rewind, and rediscover the keys to unlocking stronger, more resilient connections in the relationships you want to keep.
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SHOW NOTES:
Experts : Dr. John Gottman, Gottman Institute
Episode #005: Shut Down Mode - How to Manage Stonewalling (Full Episode)
https://pod.link/afafwithtalkdoc/episode/100334e9de176a1fa5f53be4503458cf
Links:
https://www.gottman.com/
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Ready to break free from the comfort zone and expand your world? Join us in the latest episode of Asking for a Friend with TalkDoc as we dive deep into the transformative power of Trading Comfort for Growth.
Are your relationships and decisions keeping your world confined? Explore the subtle ways we unknowingly limit our choices and hinder personal growth. Delve into the dynamics of playing it safe versus embracing change in your social circles. Discover how resisting risk can affect the depth and richness of your connections. Learn about the pivotal moments where decisions either shrink or expand your world. Uncover the psychology behind choices and their impact on personal development.
Join TalkDoc, Meredith, and Teighlor as we share actionable strategies to make your world bigger on both macro and micro levels. From meeting new people to making bold decisions, we've got you covered. Understand why a bigger world equals broader perspectives. Gain insights into yourself, others, and the world around you by breaking free from the confines of a small world mindset.
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SHOW NOTES:
Experts : Brene Brown, Latimore
Resources :
Brene Brown’s Book - Braving the Wilderness
https://brenebrown.com/book/braving-the-wilderness/
AFAF Episode 23 and 24 Gaslighting Episodes
Episode #023: AFAF with Staci Ross on How to Identify Gaslighting (PART 1)
https://pod.link/afafwithtalkdoc/episode/172b1da84e9ef9e99153bd3d3622698b
Episode #024: AFAF with Staci Ross on How to Manage Gaslighting (PART 2)
https://pod.link/afafwithtalkdoc/episode/3a5b4efae31991c46b80678dfad86f9f
Quotation :
"The heaviest weight at the gym is the front door." —Ed Latimore
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Introducing AFAF Rewind! Your look back on our podcast's greatest hits!
As February unfolds, we pay homage to American Heart Month by revisiting Episode 60, a crucial discussion on Women and Heart Attacks. Tune in for poignant clips that shed light on the often overlooked signs, emphasizing the importance of awareness and proactive care.
Consider this episode a heartfelt reminder to safeguard the well-being of the women in your life. Whether you missed it the first time or just want to revisit the essential insights, these curated snippets serve as a teaser, encouraging you to delve into the full episode.
Join us in honoring American Heart Month by not only enjoying this retrospective episode but also sharing it with friends and family. Let's amplify the conversation on health, relationships, and the vital connections that make life meaningful. Your heart will thank you for it!
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SHOW NOTES:
AFAF Episode #060: Women and Heart Attacks
https://pod.link/afafwithtalkdoc/episode/5802794d3abd2e633ee6f988817c5777
Experts : Kim Newlin, RN, CNS, NP-C and Staci Ross, M.A., L.M.F.T.
Resources : American Heart Association, New England Journal of Medicine, British Heart Foundation, Lancet, Oregon Health & Science University, mysisters.org, Tisch Center for Women's Health at NYU’s Langone Medical Center, Harvard Researcher Dr. Catherine Kreatsoulas
Tools : (below)
American Heart Association - Women:
https://www.goredforwomen.org/en/
Youtube recommendation from Kim- “Just A Little Heart Attack”:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t7wmPWTnDbE
What’s your Heart Health? Link to the Tool: Essential 8
https://www.heart.org/en/healthy-living/healthy-lifestyle/lifes-essential-8
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Have you ever been caught in the web of an undefined relationship, grappling with the ambiguity of where you stand? We've all been there, especially during those moments of introspection around widely celebrated holidays like Valentine’s Day.
In this thought-provoking episode, TalkDoc, Meredith and Teighlor dive into the world of undefined relationships, including "situationships." Join us as we navigate through the complexities of Valentine's Day and the myriad emotions it stirs within undefined connections. Ever heard of DTR (Define the Relationship) Talks? We unpack the significance of these crucial conversations and their impact on shaping the trajectory of relationships.
We bring in the expertise of Dr. Davilla, who recommends developing essential skills to enhance the health of our relationships. From effective communication strategies to fostering commitment, Dr. Davilla's insights provide a roadmap for navigating the twists and turns of modern relationships.
Whether you're in the throes of a situationship or seeking new strategies, tune in as we unravel the mysteries of undefined relationships and equip you with the tools to foster a healthier and more fulfilling connection. Your journey to improved relationship dynamics starts here!
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SHOW NOTES:
Experts : Dr. Joanne Davilla’s Ted Talk: Skills for Healthy Relationships
Developing Relationship Skills: Insight, mutuality, and emotion regulation.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gh5VhaicC6g
Resources :
Situationships: What They Are and 5 Signs You’re in One
https://health.clevelandclinic.org/what-is-a-situationship
The DTR Talk: How To Define The Relationship & When To Do It
https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/why-defining-the-relationship-is-important-and-how-to-have-the-conversation
Links :
75% cite “lack of commitment” as their identified reason for divorce. More information:
https://www.forbes.com/advisor/legal/divorce/divorce-statistics/
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The holidays are a time of joy, but they can also bring about stress, especially when it comes to openly discussing topics like money and gift-giving. It's a delicate dance that demands clarity and courage, especially in relationships that are already sensitive.
In this episode, TalkDoc, Meredith, and Teighlor dive into the topic of setting expectations about gifts and money in those relationships we want to keep. Join us as we embark on a journey to explore practical strategies for our listeners to navigate these potentially tricky conversations. We discuss strategies including understanding the recipient's primary love language, emphasizing the importance of focusing on gifts that the receiver truly desires, rather than projecting the giver's preferences.
Candid conversations are at the heart of healthy relationships, and we delve into the art of having open and honest discussions about expectations. Setting boundaries is another key aspect that we explore, providing valuable insights on maintaining balance and ensuring mutual respect.
Finally, we explore creative approaches to gift-giving, proving that thoughtful gestures often carry more weight than extravagant presents. So, whether you're in a long-term partnership, a new romance, or navigating family dynamics, this episode is packed with actionable advice to help you foster meaningful connections during the most wonderful time of the year.
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SHOW NOTES:
Resources :
The Five Love Languages
https://5lovelanguages.com/
Steig Article on Holiday Expectations:
https://www.refinery29.com/en-us/holiday-relationship-expectations
The Simpsons - Homer’s Bowling Ball Episode “Life on the Fast Lane”:
https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0701152/plotsummary/
Real Simple Article by Latimer
https://www.realsimple.com/work-life/money/talk-about-money-with-friends
Martha Stewart Article - “Setting Boundaries for the Holidays”
https://www.marthastewart.com/8186986/how-tell-friends-no-holiday-gifts
Links :
Episode 75: How to Express Your Needs to Unlock More Intimacy
https://pod.link/afafwithtalkdoc/episode/0fe8e82f7c04dd389c68b0029e5b4abd
Episodes 20, 21, 22 Boundaries Series
https://pod.link/afafwithtalkdoc/episode/c6b431c4b18335a1759db7588986fd0d
https://pod.link/afafwithtalkdoc/episode/8dc8625be3a918b62f8c9d16a1f888f9
https://pod.link/afafwithtalkdoc/episode/04a05256443fa4baabf2b3dcbfcc32d9
Money Playlist - Music from the Quiz
Money Money Money by ABBA
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ETxmCCsMoD0
Bitch Better Have My Money by Rihanna
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B3eAMGXFw1o
Can’t Buy Me Love by The Beatles
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h3WJiqc_bEs
Bills Bills Bills by Destiny’s Child
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NiF6-0UTqtc
Rich Girl by Hall and Oates
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oIAkRVBS-0U
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Money matters can be challenging terrain for many couples, often leading to heated arguments and unnecessary stress. Research consistently highlights the prevalence of issues arising from a lack of open communication about finances. How were you raised to approach the subject of money? Was it a common topic or a conversational taboo?
Join TalkDoc, Meredith, and Teighlor as they unravel the complexities of financial discussions within relationships. In this episode, we explore the roots of financial communication education – or lack thereof – and its impact on current relationship dynamics.
Discover the power of proactive stress management versus reactive stress when it comes to discussing finances. Listen to strategies for navigating these inevitable stress points, emphasizing the importance of addressing money matters outside the heat of a crisis. Tune in as we guide you through healthy ways to approach, articulate, and time your discussions about money with your partner. From strategies on staying informed and educated to incorporating productive language, we've got you covered.
Ever thought about scheduling "money check-ins"? We explore this innovative approach as a pathway to fostering consistent and constructive communication about finances in your relationship. Don't let money be a stumbling block; turn it into a catalyst for deeper connection and understanding.
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SHOW NOTES:
Resources : marriage.com
Top ten reasons for divorce from marriage.com
https://www.marriage.com/advice/divorce/10-most-common-reasons-for-divorce/
Statistics on arguing about money:
https://www.marketwatch.com/story/this-common-behavior-is-the-no-1-predictor-of-whether-youll-get-divorced-2018-01-10
Lack of Money Communication before marriage:
https://www.prnewswire.com/news-releases/get-engaged-over-the-holiday-its-time-to-set-a-dateto-talk-about-money-300773761.html
Tools :
Tips from WhiteBoard Finance (Youtube):
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y4_CdtkcCxM
Be honest / transparent (go over you assess and liabilities 401k vs student loans)Goals (shared not individual) 1. saving /emergencies 2. Travel 3. Taxes 4. House 5. Car 6. Insurance Separate or joint (studies suggest joint = happier longer marriages) Hybrid put in same percent of income into shared expenses Budget together recurring expensesNo need to split 50/50. Maybe higher earner takes on bigger cost mortgage vs billsMax out tax advantages (401k) first Regular Reviews (should meet regularly to go over goals, revisit shared goals and new goals) Monthly Quarterly AnnuallyTC4G (TRADING COMFORT FOR GROWTH) : Schedule and Have Regular Conversations about Money!
Links :
Episode 80 - Red Flags in Relationships and Dating!
https://pod.link/afafwithtalkdoc/episode/04fba5aa22def91904d762e99f13460b
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Ever felt like your attempts to listen were falling short? Do you find yourself inadvertently steering conversations in the wrong direction? We've all been there. Join your hosts, TalkDoc, Meredith, and Teighlor, as we navigate the nuances of effective listening and unravel responding errors that hinder our ability to truly connect with others.
Communication breakdowns happen when we misinterpret the context or jump into problem-solving mode when someone simply needs an empathetic ear. Have you ever noticed the domino effect of someone tuning out when they feel unheard? It's a cycle we've all experienced.
In this episode, we're not just scratching the surface—we're diving deep. Learn from real-life scenarios as we discuss nine common responding errors that can throw a conversation off course. Tune in for practical tips and strategies to enhance your listening skills. Discover how to break free from the cycle of communication breakdowns and foster deeper connections with those around you. Because when we truly listen, we not only hear words but also understand the emotions and stories behind them.
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SHOW NOTES:
Experts : Wolvin and Coakley
Resources :
Listening Education
https://www.listen.org/resources/Documents/LE%202011-2.pdf
https://edge.sagepub.com/system/files/77593_5.1ref.pdf
Responding Errors:
Stage HoggingOverly Focusing on DetailsCreating DistractionsSelectively RespondingInterruptingFocusing on the Speaker’s Delivery or Criticizing the SpeakerInsensitive RespondingDefensivenessAmbushingLinks :
Dave Barry’s Complete Guide to Guys
https://www.amazon.com/Dave-Barrys-Complete-Guide-Guys/dp/0449910261
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Have you ever pondered the art of effective listening? Are you truly a master of the subtle yet essential skill of listening?
Join TalkDoc, Meredith, and Teighlor as we dive deep into the world of listening. Discover the mechanics behind this underrated but vital aspect of communication. We'll explore the key elements of the listening process, as highlighted by communication experts Wolvin and Coakley: Hearing, Attending, Understanding (Comprehension), Remembering, and Responding.
We shed light on the common pitfalls and errors in listening that can hinder our connections with others. From not paying attention and faking interest to the sneaky tactics of selective listening, insulated listening, insensitive listening, and ambushing, we'll help you identify and overcome these barriers to truly enrich your relationships.
Music by epidemic sound.
SHOW NOTES:
Experts : Wolvin and Coakley, DeVito
Resources :
Listening Education
https://www.listen.org/resources/Documents/LE%202011-2.pdf
https://edge.sagepub.com/system/files/77593_5.1ref.pdf
Links :
Episode #005: Shut Down Mode - How to Manage Stonewalling
https://pod.link/afafwithtalkdoc/episode/100334e9de176a1fa5f53be4503458cf
Episode #015: What the Phub!
https://pod.link/afafwithtalkdoc/episode/49181892af68bd3170e025ea77a58de5
It’s Not About the Nail
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-4EDhdAHrOg&t=3s
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Grief is a universal emotion, yet it remains a topic shrouded in misunderstanding and discomfort. How do we navigate grief, and can we find new ways to understand, manage, and even grow through it? Join us as we embark on a transformative conversation with Arianna Caligiuri, who shares her profound insights and strategies to cope with grief.
Join TalkDoc, Meredith, Teighlor, and Arianna, as we dive into unique approaches to grief management. Listen to Arianna explain how breathwork and physical movement effective tools for healing and processing grief can be. Discover how these practices can guide you through the labyrinth of emotions that grief often brings.
But that's not all; Arianna also helps us understand the importance of our words and phrases when supporting those who are grieving. Learn why saying "Everything will be okay" or "Call me if you need me" may not always be the most helpful expressions of empathy and discover alternative ways to connect and be there for our loved ones in their times of need.
This episode is a heartfelt exploration of grief, offering both solace and practical strategies for anyone navigating this complex and deeply personal journey. Join us as we find hope, healing, and meaningful connections in the face of grief.
Music by epidemic sound.
SHOW NOTES:
Experts : Brene Brown, David Kessler
Resources :
Psalm 56:8 (NLT): “You keep track of all my sorrows. You have collected all my tears in your bottle. You have recorded each one in your book.”
Brene Brown - Braving the Wilderness
https://brenebrown.com/book/braving-the-wilderness/
Kessler - Finding Meaning: The Sixth Stage of Grief
https://grief.com/sixth-stage-of-grief/
Tools : Grief Day By Day
https://www.griefdaybyday.com/
Links :
https://www.ariannabythesea.com/
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Have you ever found yourself at a loss for words when someone close to you is grieving? That initial encounter can be challenging. You might wonder what to say, how to provide support, or if you've been on the receiving end of condolences, perhaps you've felt unsupported or misunderstood.
In this thought-provoking episode, your hosts, TalkDoc, Meredith, and Teighlor, engage in a heartfelt conversation with a special guest, David Leonard, the Executive Director of New Hope Grief Support Community. Together, they explore the multifaceted nature of grief, recognizing that each person's grieving process is as unique as a fingerprint. David poignantly describes grief as a beautiful mess, one that has the potential to evolve into a beautiful mosaic over time.
David shares a powerful perspective: "Grieving people don't need to be fixed because they are not broken. They may be broken-hearted, but they are not broken." In this enlightening dialogue, we invite you to listen in and discover invaluable strategies to navigate your own journey through grief and to better support others during their times of mourning.
Tune in to gain insights, empathy, and practical tools for fostering meaningful connections and communication in the face of grief. Together, we'll explore the transformative power of understanding and compassion in the midst of life's most challenging moments. Don't miss this episode—it's an essential guide for anyone seeking to navigate the complex terrain of grief with grace and wisdom.
Music by epidemic sound.
SHOW NOTES:
Experts : Elisabeth Kubler-Ross; Dr. William Worden; Edith Edgar
Resources/Links:
New Hope Grief Support Community https://www.newhopegrief.org/
Childhood Estimation Bereavement Model - Judy’s House and Jag institute in Colorado
https://judishouse.org/research-tools/cbem/cbem-reports/
What’s Your Grief? On Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/whatsyourgrief/?hl=en
Modern Loss on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/modernloss/
National Alliance for Children Grieving (NACG): https://nacg.org/
Camp Erin: https://camperinparents.com/about-camp-erin/
Recommended Google Searches:
“Grief support near me”“Grief Experience Camps near me” - Laat meer zien
