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Do you hope to break generational patterns of pain? Are childhood hurts haunting your marriage? Todayâs guest Kristen Hallinan is a writer and speaker, and today she helps you see how to identify and break generational patterns to find hope, healing and redemption.
We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.
Episode highlights include:
How your past trauma can affects your current reactions
What makes it so hard to break cycles
Red flags of unhealthy family dynamics
How to work with God to find his redemption
Steps to making a redemption plan for your marriage
*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!
QUOTES
âIt can be easy to say, âWhy didnât I know better?â You didnât know better because thatâs all you knew.â - Kristen Hallinan
âThe more Iâve gotten to know who God is, the more I understand who I am.â- Kristen Hallinan
âI used to believe if I just tried hard enough, I could grow up and create this perfect family.â - Kristen Hallinan
MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
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Learn more about how to make your marriage conflict healthy by joining Dr. Kim for the 8 Guidelines for Fighting Fair Webinar
Dr. Kim recommends the book, The Body Keeps the Score
Grab Kristenâs book, Legacy Changer for more great info on the topic
Follow Kristen on Instagram and check out her website
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Today we are sharing the final episode with Kathy McAtee Young and her story of finding safety after decades in an abusive marriage. In this episode Kathy shares some of the barriers that prevent spouses in abusive marriages from seeking safety and help, ways to begin moving out of the abusive relationship, and the ways healing begins afterward.
Donât miss the conclusion to Kathyâs story. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.
Episode highlights include:
Reasons that abused spouse donât trust their own judgment
Steps to get out of an abusive marriage
Is it ever appropriate to intervene if you believe someone is being abused?
What the process of healing looks like after you get safe
*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!
QUOTES
âOne of the hallmarks of an unsafe relationship is confusion.â - Kathy McAtee Young
âGod sees you. He cares. And he is faithful.â - Kathy McAtee Young
âWe donât want your pity. Compassion, yes. There is a difference.â - Kathy McAtee Young
âHealing is a lifestyle, not a finish line.â - Kathy McAtee Young
âWhen you can name it, then you can process it.â - Kathy McAtee Young
MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
Contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline : 800-799-7233 https://www.thehotline.org/
Visit Kathyâs website to learn about the helpful resources and services she offers
Kathy can also be reached for coaching on Instagram
This previous episode explains a Biblical perspective on abuse
Lies That Keep You With Your Abuser with Dr. David E Clarke | Ep. 541
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Today in Part 2 of Kathyâs story, Kathy shares the ways she sought support from the church when she realized her marriage was in trouble, the responses she received, and the effects that had on her marriage. In this episode Kathy shares why itâs not possible for the abused spouse to end the abuse, and the difference between biblical versus unbiblical advice about abuse.
We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.
Episode highlights include:
Interventions the church put in place, and why they were not successful
The wake up moment that turned things around for Kathy
What is an appropriate response to spousal abuse?
The red flags that advice or counsel about abuse is unbiblical
*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!
Red flags that advice or counsel about abuse is unbiblical
They wonât call out that abuse is abuse
They will not call the abuse sin
The safety of the abused spouse is not top priority
There is no call for repentance
They advise you to stay, regardless
Blaming the abused for the abuse
QUOTES
âThere is one person responsible for abuse: It is the abuser.â - Kathy McAtee Young
âThe Bible definitely commands forgiveness. It does not command reconciliation.â - Kathy McAtee Young
MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
Contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline : 800-799-7233 https://www.thehotline.org/
Visit Kathyâs website to learn about the helpful resources and services she offers
Kathy can also be reached for coaching on Instagram
This previous episode explains a Biblical perspective on abuse
Lies That Keep You With Your Abuser with Dr. David E Clarke | Ep. 541
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When does an unhealthy marriage become an abusive marriage? Where can you go when you need to get out? In todayâs episode we hear part 1 of Kathyâs real marriage story. Kathy shares how she came to believe that divorce was the most God-honoring option in her situation, and how she found safety after 30+ years in an emotionally abusive marriage.
We are so grateful to Kathy for generously sharing her story. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.
Episode highlights include:
Dispelling myths about who falls into abuse
Why marriage counseling does not work in abusive marriages
How Kathy learned her marriage was abusive
Why she stayed as long as she did, and why she later divorced
*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!
MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
This previous episode defines a clear Biblical perspective on abuse:
Lies That Keep You With Your Abuser with Dr. David E Clarke | Ep. 541
QUOTES
âI want to debunk the myth that abused women are poorly educated, lower income, women who can easily be taken advantage of. Thatâs just not accurate.â - Kathy McAtee Young
âWithin the first year, I knew we had troubleâŠâ - Kathy McAtee Young
âMarriage counseling does not work if thereâs abuse involved. I know that now.â - Kathy McAtee Young
âMost people who are narcissists are really good at it.â - Dr. Kim Kimberling
âYou have this idea that, âIf she could fix all these things, then I wouldnât be this way.â Thatâs the blame shifting.â - Kathy McAtee Young
âThe heart of abuse is power and control. Everything else is tactics.â - Kathy McAtee Young
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Do you fight fair, or do you wish there was a referee to call a stop to the foul play when you argue with your spouse? Ground rules are an important step toward having healthy marriage conflict, so today Dr. Kim will spell out how to make sure youâre fighting fair in your marriage. We want to empower you to fight fair, and resolve issues in a kind and loving way.
If you need help to fight fair and truly resolve issues without making things worse, you will love todayâs conversation.
We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.
Episode highlights include:
The DOs and DONâTs of fighting fair
The side effects of unhealthy conflict
A healthy way to âlet it all outâ
Can honesty go too far? How do you know?
Tips to the reconnection process - how to make up well
*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!
QUOTES
âWe both learned we needed to reconnect and apologize, but sometimes we werentâ ready to take that step at the same time. We had to learn that somebody needs to take the step. It doesnât really matter who started the fight or who was wrong.â
âTaking responsibility is huge. Owning your part in it, even if you think you only did 10%, you still did 10%.â
âWhat are you sorry for? Be very specific in what you did and why you're taking responsibility.â
âI say it a lot: One of the best gifts you can give your marriage is to learn how to resolve conflict.â
Forgiveness and apologies need to have no strings attached. Itâs just that I choose to do this.
Weâre not just trying to clear a slate so our spouse stops bugging us. Have you repented before the Lord? Thatâs where this starts.
We are accountable to Him before being accountable to our spouse. Did I just treat my spouse in the way He would have me treat them? If not, I need to take that up with Him
QUESTIONS FOR YOU
When you really think about it, how did it affect your spouse when you had this conflict?
Repentance. Learning from the mistakes made and committing to work on them together.
MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
Learn more about how to make your marriage conflict healthy by joining Dr. Kim for the 8 Guidelines for Fighting Fair Webinar
Our Conflict Resolution Cheat Sheet is your quick guide to get marriage conflict on the right track.
If youâre ready to learn how to do conflict well, the Conflict Resolution Guide helps you diagnose the problem areas in your marriage, then learn the steps to resolve them.
TODAY is the last day for our 7 Most Popular Resource Bundle! Donât miss the chance to get 7 of our most-loved resources for 1 donation of ANY amount in support of the ministry of Awesome Marriage! Get all the details here!
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Sick of the same old fights over and over with your spouse? Learn to de-escalate marriage fights and resolve issues in a healthy and helpful way. Conflict in marriage is inevitable, but the way you handle it is what matters most. Learning to deal with it well will benefit your marriage in so many ways! Tune in today to learn how.
We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.
Episode highlights include:
Common conflict pitfalls to avoid
The problem with âwinningâ marriage fights
Tips to help you break the fighting cycle
What to do if one spouse is not ready to reconnect
DISCUSSION QUESTIONS:
Are you stuck in a conflict cycle? If so, work together to identify whatâs triggering it.
Choose 1 tip from Dr. Kimâs list below that you will both agree to use this week.
*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!
QUOTES
âWhen we try our best to avoid conflict, weâre not really equipping ourselves with the skills to handle it well.â - Lindsay Few
âAwareness gives you some insight that can really be useful.â Dr. Kim Kimberling
MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
Learn more about how to make your marriage conflict healthy by joining Dr. Kim for the 8 Guidelines for Fighting Fair Webinar
Our Conflict Resolution Cheat Sheet is your quick guide to get marriage conflict on the right track.
If youâre ready to learn how to do conflict well, the Conflict Resolution Guide helps you diagnose the problem areas in your marriage, then learn the steps to resolve them.
Itâs here! Our 7 Most Popular Resource Bundle is LIVE! That means you can get 7 of our most-loved marriage building resources by making 1 donation of ANY amount to support the ministry of Awesome Marriage! The bundle is available for a limited time only. Get all the details here!
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Learn how conflict can create a deeper connection between you and your spouse. Todayâs special guest, marriage coach Dana Che is very open about the struggles her marriage faced. In todayâs episode she shares her marriage story, what got them through, and how you can use the conflict you face in marriage to draw you toward deeper connection.
We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.
Episode highlights include:
What we can learn from our conflict triggers
How to deal with different conflict styles in marriage
Steps to break generational cycles in your marriage
The power of speaking life to our spouse and our marriage
How being emotionally unavailable tends to show up in husbands and in wives & what to do about it
*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!
QUOTES
âAs a wife, I knew I couldnât change my husband ⊠but that didnââ keep me from trying.â Dana Che
âWhen you actually engage in conflict, you can start to learn more about your spouse, whatâs important to them.â -Dana Che
âYouâve got to feed the right things if you want to change the wrong things.â - Dana Che
âJust like you learned that bad behavior, you can unlearn it and learn something new.â Dana Che
âTrue repentance is visible.â Dana Che
âWhat we believe, we will begin to speak. What we speak, we will begin to behave.â Dana Che
QUESTIONS FOR YOU
What does your most recent marriage conflict reveal about whatâs most valuable to you?
MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
Find more from Dana at DanaChe.com, where you can take her âConnection Checkâ quiz
Listen to the âReal Relationship Talkâ podcast
Joining Marriage Changers now means you score a huge haul of marriage-building goods when our annual *7 Most-Popular Resource Bundle* goes live on April 2nd!
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Why do Christians need counseling? Isnât the Gospel enough to transform us? We hear these questions fairly often. Today Dr. Kim and special guest Jason VanRuler dive deeper into these questions and the conversation about the role of therapy and counseling in a life devoted to following Jesus.
Donât miss this helpful conversation! We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.
Episode highlights include:
How often do clients have no idea that they havenât gotten past their past?
Unexpected ways your past might be showing up & affecting your marriage today
Updating the negative messages we believe about ourselves
The effect of vulnerability on our marriage connection
*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!
QUOTES
âWhere there's a disconnect in relationships, itâs often a disconnect from the system we witnessed growing up and what weâre trying to make happen today.â - Jason VanRuler
âWhen we get comfortable, the old ways seep out to the surface.â - Jason VanRuler
âEvery time a client says a negative message about themselves, I ask, is that the message you think God gave you?â - Jason VanRuler
âOne of my great joys is working with people to eliminate distractions so they can focus on the truth and live the life God has called them to.â- Jason VanRuler
âIf we want to feel connected and weâre not feeling connected, a lot of times that emotional intimacy and depth is the missing link.â - Jason VanRuler
âWhen we get vulnerable and honest, it attracts intimacy from our partner and we have a different relationship.â - Jason VanRuler
âThe marriage we want is often on the other side of vulnerability. We just donât often know how to get there.â- Jason VanRuler
QUESTIONS FOR YOU
Do you recognize any ways you havenât gotten past your past?
MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
Get Jasonâs book, Get Past Your Past
His site: https://www.jasonvr.com/
If youâre ready to heal your marriage from p*rn, join us for the â5 Steps to Healing After P*rn Betrayalâ LIVE webinar.
Joining Marriage Changers now means you score a huge haul of marriage-building goods when our annual *7 Most-Popular Resource Bundle* goes live on April 2nd! -
Are you a man living in the stress bubble? Itâs when the years of marriage, career building and raising kids all happen at once. Youâre figuring everything out, trying to be there for it all, and it. Is. Stressful. If youâre there, you want to hear from a godly dad who has been there.
Weâre so happy to share this conversation with Jim Ramos. Jimâs wisdom and experience will equip and encourage you to be the husband and dad you want to be. Donât miss this episode.
We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.
Episode highlights include:
Jim defines the 4 phases of fatherhood
Advice for the dad who never had a role model to guide him
Common mistakes dads make in the âstress bubbleâ years
Types of provision that the family needs from a husband / father
3 easy things Jim did that he recommends for all couples
*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!
QUOTES
âWhether we tell our kids that weâve made mistakes or not, theyâre still noticing. Especially during those teen years.â - Jim Ramos
"Our families require much more than physical provision. The damage most men do has nothing to do with physical provision; it has to do with heart care and soul care.â Jim Ramos
âYou donât have to be flashy. You don't have to be Superman. You just have to show up.â - Jim Ramos
âAs men we have to realize our wife is the most important person on the planet, and itâs our job to make one person feel special.â - Jim Ramos
âYou will not be remembered for what you did 9-5, you will be remembered for what you did 5-9.â - Jim Ramos
QUESTIONS FOR YOU
Jim shared 5 traits that set a âmanâ apart from a âmaleâ:
Protect integrity Fight apathy Pursue God passionately Lead courageously Finish strong each day Which one of these is God calling you to grow in today?MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
Find Jim online @ https://meninthearena.org/
On instagram @themeninthearena
Get the book Strong Men Dangerous Times
Listen to the Men in The Arena Podcast
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Dr. Kim has said that prayer is the #1 most impactful thing you can do for your marriage. Today he explains why that is, and how to make it a habit in your marriage. Today we want to make praying with your spouse more approachable by sharing 4 biblical prayers to pray with your spouse that will grow your marriage.
The Bible lists a lot of reasons for marriage, and praying in line with Godâs purpose and intention for marriage is very powerful.
We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.
Episode highlights include:
Why prayer is an essential act of spiritual protection against the enemy
Why itâs so hard to get started, and how to overcome
Healthy perspective shifts praying will provide in your marriage
How to handle some of the uncomfortable realities of answered prayers
The power of prayer to help you take personal responsibility
*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!
QUOTES
âPraying together puts God where he wants to be in our marriage: Right in the center of it. - Dr. Kim Kimberling
âThe enemy does not want Christian marriages to work.â - Dr. Kim Kimberling
âWhen you pray together you find that it unites you.â - Dr. Kim Kimberling
âThereâs a ripple effect: Itâs not just about the couple, itâs about the family; itâs about the community.â - Lindsay Few
âI am more of who God created me to be after being married to Nancy all these years than I would have been without her.â - Dr. Kim Kimberling
âGod put us together. Heâs got some fun stuff for us to do. Letâs look out and letâs get this stuff going!â - Lindsay Few
Blame is a very human responseâŠbut we all have a way we can influence the world. We do have control over how weâre responding to Godâs call on us.â - Lindsay Few
QUESTIONS FOR YOU
4 Prayers to Pray together:
Protection from the enemy of our souls That your marriage will sharpen you Pray that your marriage be fruitful That your marriage will be a lightMENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
Our 21 Prayers for Building An Awesome Marriage makes it simple to make prayer a regular part of your marriage
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When we pray, it can be tempting to make our prayers a wishlist. But praying in line with Godâs word changes things, and today weâre talking about why that matters and how to pray biblically for your marriage. Today Dr. Kim shares 4 prayers that line up with Scripture that you can be praying daily to grow you, and your marriage!
Donât miss this powerful episode. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.
Episode highlights include:
Why it matters to pray biblically
What makes a prayer biblical
The risk involved in praying these things, and the reward they provide
How these prayers have impacted Dr. Kim and Nancyâs marriage
*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!
QUOTES
Weâve probably all heard some things taught, or caught, that were not biblical. Weâve heard ideas like, 'If God loves you, Heâll make you happy,' or 'If you marry the right person, marriage will be easy,' that do not line up with Scripture.â- Lindsay Few
âTrusting him may be the hardest first step for some of us, because weâre not sure what heâll do.â - Dr. Kim Kimberling
âSometimes the prayer we want answered is just the thing thatâs easiest for us.â - Lindsay Few
âHeâs always good, even though we donât see it at times.â - Dr. Kim Kimberling
âEach of us can be thankful that God knows not only whatâs best for us, but for the whole world. We donât have to be burdened with that. Heâs got that.â - Lindsay Few
âIf youâre lining up with what God states in his word that He wants to have happen, thatâs going to be really powerful.â - Lindsay Few
âWe canât hide anything from God.â - Dr. Kim Kimberling
âSexual desire is created for a reason. Itâs not a secret from God.â - Lindsay Few
4 Prayers to Grow You and Your Marriage:
Pray that God will help you love like Christ loved.
Ask God to search you, know your heart, and reveal any offensive way.
Pray that your desire will be for your spouse only.
Ask God to help you see your spouse as He does.
MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
Make prayer a regular part of your marriage with our 21 Prayers for Building An Awesome Marriage
If your marriage is struggling to recover after infidelity, please check out our Affair Recovery Course. For less than the cost of 2 counseling sessions, this course helps you learn and take the needed steps to healing.
If porn has damaged your marriage, please take advantage of these resources weâve created just for you:
The Marriage Undefiled Course
Dr. Kimâs podcast episode with Matt Cline
Find more prayers to grow your marriage in the 7 Prayers YouVersion Bible reading plan
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What does it look like to live in intimacy with God each day? We are delighted to have Faith Eury Cho with us today, sharing about what friendship with God means, even in the âwildernessâ times in our lives.
Faith is the CEO and founder of the Honor Summit, a gospel preacher, and author of the new book, Experiencing Friendship with God: How the Wilderness Draws Us to His Presence. Faith does a great job de-mystifying this lofty topic, so you donât want to miss this conversation.
We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.
Episode highlights include:
What does âfriendship with Godâ actually mean?
Practical ways to âpractice Godâs presence,â even if it seems out of reach
How friendship with God impacts marriage
How to grow spiritually with your spouse
Ways to take these concepts into parenting / grandparenting
How to navigate the wilderness seasons of our faith
*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!
QUOTES
âSometimes without even knowing, we believe so that God can give us a better life.â - Faith Eury Cho
âFriendship with God is just intimacy on a day to day level.â Faith Eury Cho
âWe need to really redefine what experience actually means. Because if we go into any relationship, any - our spouse, our kids, our friends - having a set agenda of what experiencing that relationship should look like to us, it can be very unhealthy really quick.â - Faith Eury Cho
âStart simple. Start with something that is a natural offshoot to your regular rhythms of life.â - Faith Eury Cho
âI remember moments I would tell God, âI donât have a prayer to pray, I donât have a song to sing, but Iâm here.ââ - Faith Eury Cho
âGod cares about every little thing, and we want to give him the opportunity to show us that.â - Dr. Kim Kimberling
âSome of us are friends with fear, not the presence of God, and I think weâve got to break up with our fear!â - Faith Eury Cho
QUESTIONS FOR YOU
What is one way you and your spouse like to worship God together?
Have you seen God move during a âwildernessâ season?
MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
Find Faith on Instagram or at her website, www.faitheurycho.com
Grab Faithâs book, Experiencing Friendship with God: How the Wilderness Draws Us to His Presence.
Our 2 Week Couples Scripture Challenge is a practical tool to help you get in the Word with your spouse each day. Find out more here!
Our House Prayer Cards are one of our best-loved resources, making it simple to use mundane moments for godly purpose in your home. Learn more HERE!
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Howâs the romance in your marriage? How does it compare to when you were dating? (⊠and does that matter?)
Romance can fall by the wayside in marriage because it seems like an âextraâ that youâll get around to when you have extra time or money, or if you feel inspired to make a grand gesture.
But today Dr. Kim shares several reasons NOT to let that be the case in your marriage. Listen to learn why you need to bring the romance back and HOW to realistically make that happen.
We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.
Episode highlights include:
Dr. Kim shares specific ways romance benefits a marriage
What does romance look like for men vs. for women?
What to do if youâre just not feeling it
Whose job is it to make sure the romance is good?
*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!
QUOTES
âMost people would say at some point it was there. So how do you get it back?â - Dr. Kim Kimberling
âWe kind of quit doing romantic things because weâre not feeling it. Sometimes we have to go ahead and do them, so that we feel it again.â - Dr. Kim Kimberling
âMarriage is a lot better when youâve got romance in it.â - Dr. Kim Kimberling
âI think weâd like it to come naturally, like it does in the movies
âItâs ok to have the conversation. We have to get past the mindset of, âIf you really loved me, youâd know.ââ - Dr. Kim Kimberling
âRomance is a great way to show your spouse, I see you, I appreciate you, and I care about what you care about.â Lindsay Few
QUESTIONS FOR YOU
Have you talked about romance with your spouse?
Ask them: What is sexy to you? What is romantic to you?
Donât judge their answers!
Answers may change over time, so check in every now and then.
MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
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Whether you love it or hate it, you spend the majority of your waking hours doing it. And as todayâs guest tells us, itâs mentioned over 800 times in the Bible: Weâre talking about work.
Thatâs why weâre so pleased to have Jordan Raynor join us on the podcast today to talk about how your work matters to God - today, every day of your life, and for eternity. This conversation will leave you inspired and encouraged to engage well with the word God is calling you to do, every single day.
We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.
Episode highlights include:
3 ways your everyday work matters for eternity
Why Jordan advocates for making an âAnti-Bucket Listâ
The Biblical truths of Heaven & Eternity that NO ONE is talking about
The âabridged Gospelâ that most of us believe & the implications we miss if we do
The practical ways these deep biblical truths will impact your marriage
*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!
QUOTES
âWhen we understand what Godâs word has to say about work, it frees us up to be exceptional both at work and at home.â - Jordan Raynor
âWhile Godâs word is clear that our labor in the Lord is not in vain, it also makes clear that GOd doesnât need you or me - His purposes will not be thwarted. He does not need us, he wants us.â - Jordan Raynor
âI can be at peace walking away from my work at the end of the day ⊠because I know that if the things on my to - do list are on Godâs to - do list, heâs going to complete them with or without me. Thatâs terrifically freeing.â - Jordan Raynor
âScripture mentions work more than 800 times. Thereâs no need to doubt whether or not God cares about your work.â - Jordan Raynor
âWhen you understand that 100% of your time at home and at work matters to God, you become fully alive. And this world is desperate to see people that are fully alive.â Jordan
âI went to Christian school for 13 years. And I remember frequently sitting in chapel, and quietly dreading the thought of heaven.
âWe are called to keep watch for Christâs return, not by sitting on our hands and waiting for heaven to drop from the sky, but by working with our hands and joining him in cultivating heaven on earth today.â - Jordan Raynor
QUESTIONS FOR YOU
How does the Biblical idea of stewarding your time change your daily work life?
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Work - life balance is not limited to the workplace: Itâs also the work of running a home, and itâs a challenge for most couples to share this load well. Today Dr. Kim is sharing some of his best tips for finding balance in the home.
The struggle to find work - life balance does not end when you get home in the evening. Taking care of a home and family is a huge portion of our workload that you canât ignore. But you can find ways to handle it well â TOGETHER!
We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.
Episode highlights include:
Tips for spouses who work outside the home
Tips for those who work from home
Tips for stay-at-home parents
Signs you & your spouse need to work toward better balance
The need for boundaries to help with balance; how to work on them together
What to do if you get stuck, or if youâve tried to address things and itâs not working
*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!
QUOTES
Resolving conflict doesnât have to be a bad thing. It takes work, but when you talk and listen well, youâll find that most things, you can resolve. - Dr. Kim Kimberling
At the end of your life, youâre not going to look back and say, âI wish Iâd looked at my phone a few more times.â - Dr. Kim Kimberling
If you get stuck, itâs ok to get help. - Dr. Kim Kimberling
The things that matter work themselves out in the very small details of life. - Lindsay Few
Maybe you think everyone else is doing it all, so youâre trying to do it all. I donât think thatâs realistic or healthy. - Lindsay Few
Itâs easy to fall in those traps and not really know that youâve even fallen into them. - Dr. Kim Kimberling
We have to make sure weâre saying what we mean and what we need instead of just hoping our spouse catches the hint. - Lindsay few
QUESTIONS FOR YOU
Is the workload in your home balanced?
Do you have a mentor couple in your life?
Are your boundaries with tech (screentime, phones) working well?
Talk with your spouse and rate how youâre doing with work / life balance together, on a scale of 1-10?
MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
Get all the details about our limited time Sexy Bundle HERE
Team You & Me
For more help with setting healthy boundaries, listen to our Boundaries Series:
Boundaries For Your Marriage: What They Are and Why They Are Important | Ep. 544
Boundaries Within Your Marriage | Ep. 546
Boundaries Outside Your Marriage | Ep. 547
How to Set Marriage Boundaries | Ep. 548
Boundaries & Marriage: What NOT to Do | Ep. 550
Real Stories of Healthy Marriage Boundaries | Ep. 551
Boundaries Q & A | Ep. 552
Boundaries Course
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Practically speaking, balance is hard to find, and even harder to maintain. While work-life balance is a very common issue, it IS possible to alleviate unnecessary stress and find better balance.
In todayâs episode Dr Kim will share practical tips to help you find that balance. Dr. Kim shares some of the common pain points that he sees couples facing, and some of the best ways heâs seen to deal with those.
We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.
Episode highlights include:
Tips to help you handle the stress between spouses so that your marriage tension doesnât add onto the stress of work-life balance
Some early signs of burnout you cannot afford to ignore
The importance of making peace with imperfection
Helpful perspective tips for both career and extracurricular commitments
Practical tips for work-from-home balance
Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode. When you sign up, you will get our 4 Week Connection Challenge for free! Plus you will get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox.
*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!
QUOTES
âI was saying no to my family a lot because I was saying yes to all these other things.â - Dr. Kim Kimberling
âFigure out who you are, who youâre working for, what do you really want, and what do you need to get there. Sometimes we get on that treadmill and we just keep going.â - Dr. Kim Kimberling
âI think it is changing, but thereâs still a culture that glorifies overwork, burnout and hustle. It can be hard to step out of that because it feels important to be in it.â - Lindsay Few
âWe have a God that is bigger than my mistakes and imperfections. If I really think the world depends on me being perfect, then Iâve got a problem.â - Dr. Kim Kimberling
âYou donât just get balanced and stay balanced forever. Itâs a constant work in progress.â - Lindsay Few
âWe look around and everyoneâs dealing with this, so we just think this is normal. If something has resonated with you, itâs okay to acknowledge that you want things to go better.â - Lindsay Few
QUESTIONS FOR YOU
4 reflection questions to help you move forward: What worked, what do I want to do more of, what didnât work, what do I want to do less of?
God wants you to thrive. Trust that when you seek these answers, He will answer.
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Does your home echo with the sounds of sibling squabbles?
Do you wish for more connection with your kids?
If so, todayâs episode is for you! Don & Suzanne Manning, the founders of Crazy Cool Family, are passionate about equipping Christian families with strategies to cultivate a family culture they ALL enjoy living with!
We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.
Episode highlights include:
Effective ways to protect kids from screen & tech temptations
Where to invest your time and energy for the best parenting outcomes - and where NOT to
The goal of disciplining our kids and how to work toward it
*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!
QUOTES
âDonât look at the outside and all the fearful things - don't waste your time and energy there: Youâre going after your kidsâ heart.â - Suzanne Manning
âKids are wired to want us on their team. They want our input. â - Suzanne Manning
âControl is based in fear, and connection is based in love.â - Don Manning
âMost people try to control, because we donât know what to do. But it doesnât work.â Dr Kim Kimberling
âWe never tell parents they need to work harder. They need to work differently. Becoming an encourager and being a listener are two ways to do that.â - Don Manning
âOur children are going to go where the encouragement is.â - Suzanne Manning
âBecause of technology and culture, connection today is more important than itâs ever been.â - Don Manning
âThe goal of discipline is self-control. When situations come up, they are opportunities to build self control in my kids. Opportunities to build them up for the next stage of life.â - Don Manning
QUESTIONS FOR YOU
Do you lean more toward connection, or control?
MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
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Reduce unnecessary arguments, decrease stress in your home, develop better understanding of your spouse, AND strengthen your bond as a couple with THIS: Our 30-Day Communication Challenge!
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Questions about gaslighting, narcissism and blame? Submit them anonymously HERE or DM us on Instagram. Dr. Kim will answer them in an upcoming episode
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Are you uncertain with your food choices or unhappy with your body? Is it possible to truly be at peace with food and your body? If youâre not comfortable with your body, this will spill over into your marriage. Gaining a biblical perspective with this will help you heal your relationship with your body and food choices, and in turn, your marriage.
Today we are delighted to have Brittany Braswell joining us to tackle these personal and often painful topics, and share hope, help, and Biblical perspective on these topics. Brittany is a Registered Dietician, Christian speaker and host of the Joy-Filled Eater Podcast, and a wealth of wisdom and encouragement on navigating these challenging topics.
We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.
Episode highlights include:
What does Scripture actually say about body image?
How our view of our body impacts our marriage
Brittanyâs 1st priority for her clientsâ nutrition â this might surprise you!
Tips to handle food choices if you and your spouse are not on the same page
Ways to support your spouse if they are struggling in this area
Ways to ask for your spouseâs support if youâre struggling in this area
*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!
QUOTES
âSo much of it is our perception: If I see my body negatively, then Iâm assuming my spouse does too.â - Brittany Braswell
âSo much of the conversation around body image is very me-centric, not Christ centric.â - Brittany BraswellâThe Lord blessed us with this variety of flavors and gave us taste buds to be able to enjoy them!â - Brittany Braswell
âItâs ok to ask for help. You donât have to meet a certain criteria to deserve some support.â - Brittany Braswell
âWe can eat in a way that helps our bodies to thrive so that our bodies donât become the thing that holds us back from fulfilling the calling and purpose God has placed on our lives.â - Brittany Braswell
QUESTIONS FOR YOU
If itâs hard for you to believe it when your spouse says they are attracted to you, dig a little deeper: Why is it hard to believe?
MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
For more wisdom on these topics, listen to Brittanyâs podcast, The Joy Filled Eater
Hereâs the episode on gluttony she mentioned in todayâs conversation with Dr. Kim
Find Free Resources as well as coaching, courses & community on Brittanysâ website BrittanyBraswellRD.com
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If you want to avoid communication breakdowns in your marriage, todayâs episode is for you!
Today, Dr. Kim is going to share 3 very common mistakes he sees as he counsels couples, so that you can avoid them! Whether you need a total overhaul or just a few friendly reminders, todayâs episode has practical, actionable advice that will help you improve the communication in your marriage.
Are you making the same mistakes most couples make with communication? Dr. Kim has pretty much seen it all, and today he is going to help you avoid those mistakes, and build better communication instead.
We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.
Episode highlights include:
3 of the most common mistakes Dr. Kim sees over and over with couples he counsels: Blame, discounting, and distraction.
The impact each of these mistakes has on a spouse and marriage
The practical steps to avoid each of these communication pitfalls
*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!
QUOTES
When you resolve conflict, both of you have to take responsibility for your part in it. Iâve never seen an issue where 1 person was 100% responsible. - Dr. Kim
I think itâs easy for us to rationalize, fool ourselves, and take the time to think it through. - Dr. Kim
Iâve done it, Iâve seen it in other wives: Itâs easy for us in parenting to discount our husbandâs opinion. - Lindsay
Listen in a way that you can let them know you heard what they said. - Dr. Kim
As a parent with kids in the home, itâs great to have the reminder that they are benefitting from us putting boundaries that let us have an adult relationship with our spouse. As important as they are to us, we should value showing them that solid foundation and modeling marriage for them. - Lindsay
I identify with all three of these, Iâve done them all. Iâts not something you just get right then coast, you have to stay on top of it. - Dr. Kim
QUESTIONS FOR YOU
Do you use âIâ statements to communicate what you need with your spouse?
For example: Instead of, âYou always ignore me when Iâm talking,â say, âI feel hurt when you scroll on your phone when Iâm talking. I want to know that you care about what I have to say.â
MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
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Questions about gaslighting, narcissism and blame? Submit them anonymously HERE or DM us on Instagram. Dr. Kim will answer them in an upcoming episode
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While their life appeared to be successful, fun and amazing, Andy and Saraâs marriage was at a breaking point. Their life was at a high point, but their relationship had reached a low. In todayâs episode they share how their marriage recovered.
Can a marriage survive the damage of gaslighting and blame? Todayâs episode is proof it can. Dr. Kim got to witness a complete transformation in Andy and Saraâs marriage. Their story is full of grace and hope, and we are so thankful to them for sharing it with us today.
We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.
Episode highlights include:
How did things look good from the outside for as long as they did?
How Sara used waiting to grow closer to God
The turning point that allowed Andy to start to change
The specific process that changed Andy from the inside out
*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!
QUOTES
âWe lived this big, giant, amazing life. The problem was, I was getting wrapped more and more into my success, thinking I was this great gift to humanity.â - Andy
âI felt like he didnât know me. He didnât know my heart.â - Sara
âI was searching for the world to fill that void in my chest that only God can fill.â - Andy
âYou need to meditate and delight in the word of God to change the trajectory of your life.â Pastor Mike (via Andy)
âThe Lord didnât care about all my success. He wanted me broken at the foot of the cross.â - Andy
QUESTIONS FOR YOU
How have you seen God show up in the midst of difficult times?What are the little things your spouse does that make you feel loved?
MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
Questions about gaslighting and blame? Submit them anonymously HERE or over on Instagram for Dr. Kim to answer in an upcoming episode
Want to reduce unnecessary arguments, decrease stress in your home, develop better understanding of your spouse, OR just strengthen your bond as a couple? Our 30-Day Communication Challenge is for you!
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