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Tune in this week as Jill explores the ups and downs of relationships, breaking down how comparisons and hidden resentments can quietly erode them. She looks at how our childhood, unconscious thoughts, and past experiences can distort our view of our partners, and she stresses the value of self-awareness and personal growth.
Jill explains how true transformation in relationships begins within, and by addressing deep-seated insecurities and traumas, individuals can alter their dynamics and foster genuine intimacy.
This conversation encourages listeners to reflect on their own growth, urging them to embark on a journey of self-love and healing to enhance their connections!
Don't forget, Jill is gearing up for an in-person retreat in September which is not just a gathering but a transformative experience where women are already starting to see shifts just by committing! Go to jillherman.com for more info!
Show Notes:[1:16] - Comparisons and hidden resentments quietly erode relationships, affecting how we feel about our partners.
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[4:02] - Our past shapes how we see partners and affects intimacy; real change starts with self-awareness.
[7:06] - Overcoming partner issues involves personal growth, confronting deep truths, and releasing emotional baggage.
[9:57] - Hear how trauma resurfaces as reactions, influencing our relationships; healing prevents repeating harmful patterns.
[11:41] - Start healing by examining and loving yourself, addressing deep-seated wounds, and seeking guided help.
[13:24] - Change is challenging yet rewarding, and true transformation requires deep self-examination and committed effort.
[16:04] - While doing self-work, list what you love about your partner to combat resentment and appreciate them.
[18:52] - The approach that Jill proposes doesnât apply to abusive relationships but is useful for personal growth after initiating self-work.
[19:59] - You empower your feminine energy and transform relationship dynamics positively by focusing on self-healing.
[21:55] - Itâs important to focus on self-reflection before prematurely setting boundaries in relationships; healing begins with self-acceptance.
[24:44] - Hear how Jill had to confront deep wounds and do her own healing work regarding her husband's refusal to have a child with her.
[26:32] - Jill also reveals having faced challenging situations with her husband's parents, learning to set boundaries and heal her own wounds.
[29:05] - Through self-work, Jill has transformed her perspective and strengthened her relationship with her husband significantly.
[31:51] - By doing this inner work, you transform the dynamic with your partner, often even inspiring them to join you.âI love Be You Podcast!â â If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps the podcast reach more people just like you. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select âWrite a Review.â I know there was something in this episode that you were meant to hear. Let me know what that is!
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Jill gives a brief life update including a few lessons learned and then lists ten ways to know that you're actually healing. Many times, we chase being healed and forget that it's not a destination. It's a lifelong journey.
AND, we forget that embodiment shows up in ways we least expect. When we no longer feel guilty for resting, for example, that's a sign we are healing!
Don't forget, Jill is gearing up for an in-person retreat in September which is not just a gathering but a transformative experience where women are already starting to see shifts just by committing! There is even a private room left if youâre feeling called to join us! Go to jillherman.com for more info!
Show Notes:[2:16] - Create a season of intention to avoid regrets and to feel fulfilled.
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[3:08] - Jill's summer plan includes no travel between July 12 and August 31 and better sleep habits.
[6:00] - Jill also plans to remove her amalgam fillings safely, using detox measures.
[7:30] - Hear about a moving and insightful Zoom session with psychic medium Jessica Lynne that Jill recently had.
[10:00] - Learn about an in-person retreat that Jill is hosting; go to jillherman.com for more info!
[13:57] - Resistance to change is normal, but it's important to be detached from outcomes and trust divine timing.
[15:21] - Jill shares how she decided not to attend a friendâs party, trusting her intuition despite initial doubts and guilt.
[17:28] - Jill is excited for her first-ever girls' weekend in Denver and is relieved to not have to plan it.
[18:46] - Jill moves into discussing ten signs that you are embodying healing work, beginning with being less reactive.
[19:39] - The second sign is trusting your own judgment and decisions without seeking others' opinions.
[20:02] - The third sign is that you enjoy being alone, but note that there is a difference between solitude and isolation.
[20:33] - No longer catastrophizing or at least doing it a lot less is another sign.
[21:28] - Jill discusses the fifth sign of healing: no longer feeling the need to apologize for imaginary wrongs.
[22:54] - The seventh sign is that you've learned to appreciate slowness and simple pleasures.
[24:56] - Related to the seventh sign, it's important not to feel guilty about taking time to rest.
[25:50] - The ninth sign that Jill discusses is that you've stopped being overly critical of others, seeing them as wonderful without the need for criticism.
[26:21] - Jill's final sign is that you recognize recurring patterns without self-criticism, instead giving yourself grace and understanding.âI love Be You Podcast!â â If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps the podcast reach more people just like you. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select âWrite a Review.â I know there was something in this episode that you were meant to hear. Let me know what that is!
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Have you heard? Jill is hosting the very first retreat for the Be You community!
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Even if itâs not summer where you are, youâll love this solo episode!
This practical and energizing exercise will ensure that the season ahead is experienced (and ENJOYED) by DESIGN and not by default.
So many people find that summer goes so quickly and gets away from them and then before they know it, they look back with regret, missed opportunities and canât even remember what they did all summer.
Has this happened to you? Do you feel like itâs already starting with all of the graduation parties and weddings, other invitations and new responsibilities?
Jill shares a really energizing and practical exercise so that you can truly have a summer of YOU.
Show Notes:[2:55] - Letâs have an attitude of intentionality going into the summer.
[5:05] - We can be grateful for busy plans, and we can also feel overwhelmed.
[8:18] - Literally write down the things you want to experience this summer AND the things you donât want to experience.
[10:59] - Jill shares some of the things on her list.
[13:48] - You can have amazing and beautiful experiences that donât cost a dime. What do you want to experience?
[16:50] - Sometimes we need something to cleanse our palette when things get too much.
[19:13] - Whatever you do by default is what you do all the time.
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Have you heard? Jill is hosting the very first retreat for the Be You community!
Go to www.jillherman.com
Emily Oriana Todd is an ICF-certified Personal Freedom and Business Coach.
She supports entrepreneurs to scale their businesses through social media strategy, messaging and content strategy, energetics, subconscious reprogramming, and hypnosis.
Emilyâs approach is rooted in 15 years in marketing supporting both Fortune 500 companies and startups alike to grow their businesses using the power of social media, influencer marketing, brand development, and word of mouth marketing.
Emilyâs greatest passion lies in supporting service providers to unf*ck their marketing and stand out outline.
Connect with Emily on Instagram @emilyorianatodd and her website HonorYourWild.co
Show Notes:[6:10] - Emily shares her background and the 15 years she spent climbing a career ladder.
[8:25] - She went into marketing and consulting, but when Covid hit, she made a shift.
[10:51] - Emily describes a wake-up call that she got during a phone call with her dad.
[14:40] - Itâs one thing to go from good to great. Itâs another thing to go from great and the potential of even greater to leaving it behind for uncertainty.
[16:28] - At the start of her business, she felt regret and grief over the loss of her identity markers and âthrowing it all away.â
[18:09] - Her ego was in rejection of what was occurring, but there was something in her that knew it was worth it. She kept going with no tangible evidence that it was working.
[19:35] - Emily took an opportunity for a lengthy interview process and realized that she couldnât see it through.
[21:24] - There can be some programming that includes a lot of guilt and shame for entrepreneurs having a typical ârealâ job.
[25:06] - She truly followed her intuition. She physically felt her intuition telling her to keep going.
[27:14] - Entrepreneurship is pushing a boulder up a mountain for an extended period of time. But eventually you create momentum.
[30:22] - When she started on her entrepreneurship journey, she resisted anything that felt like marketing.
[32:32] - Entrepreneurship is shadow work like no other. It activates all your greatest doubts, insecurities, and fears.
[35:44] - The focus on money freaks a lot of entrepreneurs out and activates the fear that they arenât doing enough.
[40:59] - Sales is a crucial part of being an entrepreneur but it makes a lot of women business owners feel icky.
[45:06] - Emily discusses the difference between the law of attraction and the law of action.
[47:43] - Entrepreneurship is not for everyone. It is inherently hard due to uncertainty and discomfort.
[52:10] - Marketing isnât saying a million different things. It is saying the same thing a million different ways.
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Have you ever wondered what it means to be more of you?
Do you get confused about who you really are at your core?
Are you curious about how life would look if you stripped it all down, took off the masks, laid down the armor and rejected the script you were handed?
I did it. So can you. Here's how.
Jill's hosting the first Be You retreat!! "More of ME" retreat this September.
Visit www.jillherman.com to learn more and/or apply.
Show Notes:[2:01] - It happened to all of us. We were taught to be someone we arenât.
[3:30] - We are so full of stuff from our past, we sabotage ourselves.
[5:50] - We donât know the things weâre doing subconsciously.
[8:40] - This entire podcast is about excavating the person you already are.
[10:34] - The upcoming retreat in September is a gift to Jill as well.
[15:20] - This retreat is for women who are ready to heal and crack open in a safe space.
[17:49] - There are experiences that will literally change you.
[20:16] - Jill can hold someone who has a history of trauma as a trained and certified coach who has done her own work.
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Jill traveled to Brazil and recorded on her iPhone for a quick life update and⊠a Be You BIG announcement!!!
Sheâs hosting the first Be You retreat, âMore of ME,â this September and applications open TODAY!!!
She only has 8 spots maximum and may keep it as intimate as 4-6.
Go to www.jillherman.com to learn more and apply.
Show Notes:[1:31] - Jill gives a quick life update at a beautiful wedding ceremony in Brazil.
[3:39] - Recording from her phone is a little out of her comfort zone, but she has since learned why she didnât choose to pre-record.
[5:48] - In September, Jill is hosting the retreat she has always known sheâs wanted to.
[7:41] - Apply to make sure this is the right fit for you.
[8:20] - Put some real thought into the answers on the application.
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Too few of us are willing to be true to ourselves and risk disappointing or (GASP!) offending others.
We rarely speak our truth or ask for what we want.
We shrink, hide and politely accept and agree to terms we donât want in order to be accepted and liked.
What if we didnât?
Show Notes:[3:10] - We need to be willing to get uncomfortable and potentially make others uncomfortable by asking for the things we want.
[4:21] - Weâve been taught to be âthe good girl.â We wind up saying yes to everything to be nice and not be âtoo much.â
[7:07] - Itâs hard to stand up for ourselves and it takes practice.
[8:50] - When will you allow yourself to have the things you want to your satisfaction?
[10:27] - With more practice it becomes harder to not follow your true north.
[14:29] - Donât apologize for your decisions. You can apologize for taking someoneâs time or inconveniencing them, but not for your decision.
[17:40] - Many times life is going to put us in situations that are so extreme to show us how bad it feels to abandon ourselves so we can really make the decision to choose ourselves.
[19:14] - Think of a situation where you spoke up for yourself and how it showed up in your body. Now think of a time when you didnât.
[21:08] - You donât have to abandon yourself and your needs to fulfill the needs of someone else.
[23:36] - It will eventually feel so natural to stand up for yourselves.
[29:03] - Jill gives an example of how âthe flavor can change.â What feels right to you and when are you willing to compromise?
[31:10] - What are your rules? What are your boundaries?
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Jill uses her gift of storytelling and uses her words to paint three pictures that the listener can see vividly and clearly as they extract a personal message and lesson for themselves.
Show Notes:[2:27] - Every human being deserves to have these âah-haâs.â
[5:41] - Sometimes, the biggest gifts come from struggling. But suffering is optional.
[7:23] - Jill was convinced that she would learn something specific, but she had to learn something different and trust the process.
[9:01] - Integration and embodiment can be used in so many different areas. The difference between knowing in your head and knowing in your body.
[11:26] - Subtle change leads to huge change.
[12:45] - Jill describes the experience.
[15:10] - âItâs a trick question. I choose both.â
[16:57] - The second lesson is all about how Jillâs art will be perceived.
[18:45] - Someone could have told me these things, but I had to experience this and release so much through physical discomfort to access this.
[21:18] - Jill describes what she saw that led to the third lesson learned in this journey.
[23:48] - What if we look back at trauma and painful experiences as a grown adult and not from the perspective of a child?
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Meet one of Jillâs dearest friends and soul sisters, who happens to be 20 years younger. What? YES!
Sydney Pacula Owen has a love for both the energetic world unseen and our earthly three dimensional experience. She professionally works as a jewelry designer in her familyâs Diamond business focusing on engagement rings and redesigning the old to new. In her creative work, dance is her religion. She has taught creative movement and movement arts to all ages over the past 15 years. Her teaching emphasizes dance as an enjoyable, authentic form of expression. She finds her greatest fulfillment in connecting with others through art whether it be diamonds or dance.
Listen as they explore unconventional friendship, spirituality, the healing art of intuitive dance, and what it means to find God without rules.
Show Notes:[2:08] - Do you have relationships with other people that arenât easy? Do they feel forced or feel like they donât flow well?
[4:16] - Do you radically accept everything about yourself? Because if you donât, you canât expect that out of a relationship.
[7:50] - Check out Sydneyâs website: Pacula Diamonds.
[12:21] - Jill shares her version of meeting Sydney and the deep knowing that she was supposed to do something with her.
[14:45] - Sydney explains how she knew she was supposed to be there for Jill.
[19:02] - Sydney invited Jill to the moon dance experience and kept the invitation intentionally vague.
[21:29] - If you are at all interested in a womenâs dance circle, observe one. It opens up a sense of community.
[22:46] - Giving yourself permission gives others permission.
[25:43] - Sydney had to learn to just trust in the space she has created.
[27:30] - Sydney explains how and why she got into dancing and movement as a way to overcome her disconnection.
[31:53] - Intuitive dance is not planned or choreographed. It will be different every time because it is what you need at the moment.
[35:03] - Give yourself the time and space to just be.
[38:47] - By connecting with her body and truly loving herself through movement and dance, she was able to love herself and her body more.
[41:21] - Sydney describes her faith and how her spirituality doesnât fit into societal religious practice.
[45:13] - Jill has discovered the freedom of being in tune with herself and finding God there.
[47:50] - Prayer and church do not need to look the same for everyone.
[54:21] - Sydney has always been told that she is âan old woman.â
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After talking about how we sometimes pretend not to know what to do, this week Jill explains how to know if it's intuition and truth or interference.
And today is the day you get asked a really sobering question.
Tune in to find out what that question is....
Show Notes:[2:21] - With any type of deep inner work, you are going to create new neural pathways and new ways of being.
[3:44] - Your intuition will not lead you to confusion.
[4:36] - If it comes from divine truth, it will not be a wobble. It will be clear.
[8:01] - How do you know if something is intuition? How do you know if something is true for you?
[9:23] - If thereâs any area of your life where you are not fully yourself, how long are you willing to continue that?
[12:01] - If you are your true authentic self, you are going to trigger some other people.
[13:27] - I will not abandon myself for anyone. When you walk this way, you will recognize the wobble and discern the difference.
[16:12] - When are you going to honor your own guidance? When are you going to step into the role of leading yourself?
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Jill takes the gloves off and gives us bare knuckles coaching on:
Pretending we donât know what to do
Not admitting we arenât willing to do what it takes to get what we say we want
Being ask-holes
The lies we tell ourselves about weakness and strength
Blaming everything outside of ourselves for the life we have
Why quitting is sometimes the bravest act
Show Notes:[1:27] - Letâs chat about the lie we share that we donât know what to do.
[2:48] - Our brain craves safety. But safety isnât safe. Itâs just what is familiar.
[4:20] - Some of us are genuinely unwilling to do what it takes. That radical honesty is fine.
[6:18] - Some people will continue to complain about not knowing what to do, even though the solutions have been provided.
[9:33] - We canât pretend to not know what to do. If we really donât know what to do, we can find the answers.
[11:03] - You need to do the work, read the books, find the information, take the courses, and do it all yourself. You canât rely on someone else to give it to you.
[12:18] - Some people will not only complain about not knowing what to do, but will come up with lists of reasons why they canât do it.
[14:17] - Being a people pleaser is actually a form of control.
[16:02] - Weâre married to our story. Weâre married to the excuses. What if we decided to propose to the answers?
[19:54] - We donât know what we donât know.
[21:08] - Are you willing to become the student?
[24:51] - Things will change for you when you realize you are the director of your own theater.
[27:23] - No one is coming to save you. You are your own hero.
[32:26] - Thereâs a difference between rest and weakness.
[34:03] - Functional freeze is when you are able to function, but inside you are stuck.
[37â25] - Are you going to heed the advice?
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When you look out at others, where does it come from?
Does it come from safety and truth?
Or are you needing and wanting to confirm some sort of story youâve made up?
In this episode, Jill explores the reasons behind our need to see other people and make up a story about their successes and compare them to our own insecurities.
Show Notes:[9:58] - Some of us are in bondage to these made-up stories.
[11:47] - Why is our knee-jerk reaction to focus on the things that other people seem to be doing better, but when we look at ourselves, we focus on the negative?
[13:44] - We play a comparison game because we focus outward.
[16:24] - When youâre focusing externally to find meaning, thatâs the pitfall.
[17:49] - Why are you looking outward?
[21:13] - If your âcome fromâ is safety and security, you wonât feel threatened.
[22:58] - There are things you simply wonât know about someone else by looking at them.
[26:06] - We find ourselves looking at other people and weâre thinking that theyâre doing things better because deep down we still feel like we are not enough.
[28:29] - If it is coming through the lens of love, we wonât make anything up or add anything to the picture. We wonât make it mean anything about ourselves.
[31:02] - Everybody does this. But is it all-consuming?
[33:03] - Consider who you are looking at and how you are making a made-up story mean something about your own life.
[34:32] - It all boils down to outsourcing our worth.
[36:30] - We avoid being still and quiet to face insecurities. It's easier to look outward.
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With over 25 years of experience in education, Kelly has taught some form of personal growth to individuals from preschool to graduate school and beyond. His early training in drama therapy, non-violent communication, and childhood development combine with his more recent experiences in parenting, personal development and leadership training to create a unique approach to helping individuals grow their most loving relationships.
Show Notes:[1:56] - This conversation goes in many different directions and youâll learn a lot about yourself.
[6:04] - Kelly shares a bit about his background and the foundational experiences that shaped him.
[9:08] - Kelly began working with men, particularly about developing healthy relationships.
[10:56] - What is Drama Therapy and how can this approach guide people through self-discovery and expression?
[16:00] - Jill shares the experience of watching a movie that moved her to identifying and expressing something that was heavy to her.
[19:05] - Kelly became involved in this work early in his life, but continues to learn more and more.
[21:46] - What is the difference between a caregiver and a caretaker?
[24:07] - What are things that show up for you that appear good, but are not what they appear?
[28:17] - Kelly explains how he discovered that he was pointing his finger at someone else.
[30:02] - Women coming together and being vulnerable is built into society. But men in community are socialized in a world where that is not normalized.
[33:50] - What things donât you want other people to know about you?
[36:40] - Kellyâs societal expectation was to create and provide safety, but what value do men have when they fear they canât keep it together?
[40:24] - We need authentic masculinity, but thatâs not just a manâs job.
[42:57] - The antagonist is a reflection of the externalized version of the protagonistâs internal drama.
[45:25] - You can only see so much through your own ego. You might not be able to do this alone.
[47:57] - Kelly shares the story of a man he has worked with that experienced profound healing in building relationships.
[53:38] - Itâs not building up strength and hardness that allows you to let go. Itâs softening.
[54:50] - The things that bring you success are oftentimes the things that hold you back, especially when it comes to relationships.
[57:38] - Kelly explains compassionate communication.
[60:36] - Some communication is just taking your judgments and squeezing them into a form that you think would be more easily accepted. But it's still judgment.
[63:08] - We canât argue with feelings.
[65:44] - Every communication is seeking something that needs to be met.
[68:03] - Sometimes, we truly want conflict.
[70:01] - Jill admits something about how she communicates with her husband sometimes and Kelly suggests it is about wanting to be invited.
[75:03] - Identify why you are going into a conversation and the core need you are seeking to be met.
[76:55] - The majority of conflicts in a relationship stem from both parties needing to be heard and seen.
[79:05] - There are programs online that can help provide community.
I know there was something in this episode that you were meant to hear. Let me know what that is. Thank you for being here today with me on our healing journeys.
Connect with Kelly:Kelly Gardner Coaching Website
@iamkellygardner on Instagram
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In this solo episode, Jill catches the listeners up on some recent developments in her life while weaving in some bread crumbs of wisdom, no BS guidance with a splash of coaching.
You will have a good laugh when she talks about purchasing a Yoni steamer, and youâll feel inspired when she explains how she finally conquered her battle with exercise and shows you how you can do the same.
She shares the antidote to comparison, gives you a pep talk to help you break up with perfection, and gives you an invitation to come hang out with her this fall.
Show Notes:[3:36] - Who is Jill actually? Not who people are telling her to be.
[4:42] - Over time, Jill has thought about putting the podcast aside and doing something else.
[8:09] - Jill is working on a book and shares what plans she thinks she has, even though she knows that itâs a challenge to know what will actually happen.
[12:05] - Jill shares an experience when she spoke to a psychic a few years ago.
[15:46] - After some health updates, Jill made some changes.
[20:06] - If you are over 40 years old, start learning about menopause.
[23:03] - Jill has cracked the code to having a good relationship with exercise and physical movement.
[24:53] - Sheâs not following a strict regimen.
[29:17] - âCrushing itâ does not need to mean perfection.
[31:14] - Sheâs not seeing physical results, but sheâs feeling emotional, internal, and spiritual results.
[36:01] - Listen for some updates on upcoming podcast episodes and interviews.
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Have you wondered why some of us rarely choose change and others appear to thrive when they try new ways of living and expressing who they are?
Do you want to take a big leap but can't get over the fear of failure or critique?
How do you react when you see someone take a total left turn and create their own plot twist?
Jill reads a recent article she wrote on blooming, renewal, expansion and reinventing ourselves at any age.
Check out the published article here: http://thedesignhornet.com/books/rved/#p=52
Show Notes:[1:56] - Why do people hold themselves back when they have the desire to reinvent themselves in any capacity?
[3:43] - We see people making changes and it will trigger different things for different people.
[4:23] - Jill shares the different types of responses we might have to a change in someone else.
[8:03] - A person doesnât see the gift until theyâve made the transformation. Most of us resist change and will never see the gifts we have.
[9:53] - Our subconscious brain is driving the bus.
[11:57] - There are parts of you from childhood that want to keep you small and close to home plate.
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A solo episode where Jill shares her recent diagnostic health results, announces her first retreat open to Be You listeners and delivers a message her angels told her to share about the art of slowing down.
Show Notes:[3:02] - Jill was supposed to be traveling but something didnât feel right for her.
[7:08] - Jill shares the experience of changing plans based on gut feelings.
[11:17] - Be willing to let things go, because something better is going to come. But it canât show up if weâre not willing to create space for it.
[13:26] - It is so important for us to look in unexpected places for answers and not to rely on the information we get. Be willing to look at other sources.
[16:45] - Jill shares some health updates that make a lot of sense for the issues she is experiencing.
[19:26] - Sometimes we have to do things we donât want to do.
[21:03] - Jill is planning on hosting a retreat this year, so stay tuned for updates.
[23:09] - It is imperative to slow down. You canât intellectualize healing.
[25:32] - The more you are willing to release, the more love and joy you can hold.
[30:38] - We will choose a familiar hell over an unfamiliar heaven because it feels safe.
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Part two with hellenistic astrologer and astrological coach Rachel Ruth Tate. The listener gets a front row seat to a private 1:1 reading Rachel does for Be You host Jill Herman. It's fascinating and super interesting. Wait till you hear what Jill learns about herself!
Rachel Ruth Tate has generously offered a discount only for the Be You listeners.
When you go to rachelruthtate.com and schedule a reading you can enter code âBe Youâ for 24% off any reading for all of 2024!
Show Notes:[1:53] - This is a lot to understand and complex. Rachel is such a great teacher and gives the highlights of Jillâs private reading.
[3:14] - Rachel explains the sun and the moon and what they mean for each individual.
[4:59] - Rachel describes Jillâs Scorpio sign.
[8:41] - The spectrum of human emotion is vast. And itâs intense.
[11:28] - Conjunctions are light fusing by the time we receive it.
[13:46] - Because of her chart, Jillâs life has had some interesting experiences and people in her life.
[15:51] - Rachel describes some of the ways Jill might have experienced âbad-mouthingâ especially when it comes to family.
[19:32] - We all want to be right. But Jillâs chart shows that although she has an internal knowing, she has a hard time putting it into words.
[24:10] - Jill learns her tendency to struggle putting into words the love she has for her children and knows that she shows them love differently.
[27:30] - Jill is somebody who moves toward the position of community authority.
[29:24] - Jill and her husband are completely different when it comes to being alone.
[31:23] - Rachel explains why Jill needs time to be quiet and internal.
[34:32] - Are you in your fifth house year?
[35:55] - Rachel expects Jill to accomplish a big creation this year, between May and November.
[39:37] - Jill and her children are going to travel in May which lines up with something Rachel explains from her natal chart.
[42:12] - There are a series of eclipses in the house of Libra this year that may cause a difficult time for the relationships of others.
[44:38] - When Mars is in retrograde in December this year, there could be some sort of loss for someone close to Jill.
[48:04] - When someone has the sun and the moon in the same sign, that means there is the least amount of light in the evening the day they were born. They need quiet.
[52:55] - Scorpios typically donât want to experience a journey in front of other people.
[56:09] - Jill describes an experience that the connection to her natal chart gives her goosebumps.
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Have you been curious about astrology?
Are you skeptical? Confused?
Do you fear that it conflicts with your faith or religion?
Join Jill and hellenistic astrologer and astrological coach Rachel Ruth Tate for
Astrology 101 and a 2024 forecast
Rachel breaks it all down and explains the origin of astrology, how it's used and what we can learn from it for every aspect of our life.
Rachel Ruth Tate has generously offered a discount only for the Be You listeners.
When you go to rachelruthtate.com and schedule a reading you can enter code âBe Youâ for 24% off any reading for all of 2024!
Show Notes:[8:02] - This topic is a first for Be You Podcast and Jill has been drawn to it lately.
[9:50] - Rachel shares her background and her upbringing. Astrology came knocking at her door.
[11:57] - Astrology is a way to navigate your lived experience on Earth.
[14:15] - Rachel explains what a lunar cycle is and how the traditional monthly calendar works. She also touches on some of the history behind astrology.
[20:20] - Rachel describes the scientific reasons behind the moonâs impact on us.
[24:18] - Weâve been conditioned to think that astrology is wrong.
[28:36] - Resolutions are only in alignment with certain types of people.
[34:19] - The twelve numbers on a clock are based on the twelve signs of the zodiac.
[36:12] - Rachel explains what signs are important to different types of people and what the signs mean.
[41:49] - The cycles of the planets take different lengths of time to revolve around the sun and they have different impacts on us.
[48:37] - At the time of this recording, Pluto just entered into Aquarius.
[53:02] - The different hemispheres also make a big difference. We experience time differently, depending on where we are located.
[56:21] - There are so many different ways to take in this information.
[61:46] - Creation is constant.
[64:15] - Not knowing can be scary and things are constantly uncertain.
[68:17] - For the year 2024, things will be more positive.
[70:03] - Rachel explains eclipses and what to look forward to this spring.
[75:16] - Observe and be mindful of who and what is calling for your attention around eclipses.
[77:54] - The month of April will be full of surprises.
[81:19] - Rachel explains some of the discomfort that could be coming as well.
[82:48] - What is retrograde?
[85:38] - What if a person doesnât feel the disruption of retrograde?
[89:02] - The second half of the year will feel a lot different than the first half.
[91:39] - The fall will see a lot of transformation as long as we are open.
[95:22] - Late in the year, we will experience some tension within relationships.
[97:16] - Rachel shares what she offers on her website RachelRuthTate.com.
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Jill's former coach and former Be You guest Christine Hassler is hosting a ten week inner child healing experience. This work changed Jill's life and she highly recommends clicking on the link to the FREE recorded "intro" experience or just jumping right into the ten week registration. Jill does not receive any compensation for this advertisement! It's from her heart to yours.
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Last week Jill promised to revisit the real life example of her friend who was stuck in a pattern of overthinking so this episode starts there and goes deep into where these patterns start and how we can learn from them. Jill shares an additional example of coaching another friend who was stuck in the same pattern.
Show Notes:[2:38] - We have aspects of ourselves that we tend to hide, shame, and judge.
[3:39] - Jill recommends the book All is Well by Louise Hay and Mona Schulz.
[5:25] - You have to trust your own intuition and what your heart is telling you.
[7:24] - Whatever we feel is a flaw in us is also a superpower. It is a double edged sword.
[8:45] - If you judge this part of you, you are actually making it worse.
[11:22] - When we were small, we were watching our parents and observing what would get us love and what would not get us love.
[13:15] - The messages we receive as children lead us to learn to not be ourselves.
[14:54] - We abandon ourselves to make it feel safer.
[17:03] - This âflawâ doesnât need improvement, it needs love.
[19:05] - Sometimes, we stop ourselves from doing something we know we want to do.
[23:02] - What if you were able to see it from a place of knowing that you are in charge?
[26:15] - Remember this conversation when you judge yourself internally or even outwardly.
[27:20] - We all have blindspots.
[29:04] - Any time you go out of your comfort zone and challenge your paradigm, itâs going to scare your nervous system.
[30:58] - Observe yourself and where you are doing this in your life and just see it without judgment.
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For the first time in my life, my nervous system feels safe and relaxed enough to allow me to move toward this goal slowly with no pressure on myself, celebrating each tiny win, while enjoying every single moment of the journey.
Show Notes:[4:10] - Hear an update after Januaryâs health and wellness episode series.
[9:16] - What can you celebrate for yourself?
[12:12] - Little by little and breath by breath might not sound appealing but it works.
[16:50] - Every time, there will be a new win.
[19:52] - Itâs all about how you feel.
[21:55] - An editor of a magazine reached out and asked Jill to write an article. This gave her motivation to write.
[24:52] - Perfectionism causes us to procrastinate, but donât be hard on yourself.
[26:50] - Jill reads an excerpt from an article she wrote recently for a magazine.
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