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Do you ever feel like no matter how much healing work you do, you still get overwhelmed, anxious, or reactive? Maybe you even catch yourself thinking, âI should be past this by now.â If so, youâre not alone.
Dysregulation isnât failureâitâs communication. Your nervous system is always working to keep you safe, and when it shifts into fight, flight, freeze, or fawn mode, itâs responding to somethingâwhether thatâs stress, past experiences, or simply the demands of daily life.
In this episode, weâre shifting the way you see dysregulation and, more importantly, giving you tools to navigate it with more awareness and self-compassion.
What Youâll Learn:
Why dysregulation happens and what your nervous system is trying to tell you.The biggest misconceptions about healing and nervous system regulation.How to recognize your personal signs of dysregulation before it spirals.Why avoiding discomfort keeps you stuckâand how to break free.Simple, practical tools to regulate in the moment and build resilience.Key Takeaways & Tools:
â Recognize Your Triggers: Pay attention to physical and emotional signs like tension, shallow breathing, or feeling shut down.
â Shift from Fixing to Listening: Instead of forcing yourself to âcalm down,â ask what your system actually needsâmovement, stillness, connection, or space.
â Break the Avoidance Cycle: Small, safe steps toward discomfort teach your nervous system that you can handle it.
â Regulation Techniques: Try grounding exercises, deep sighs, cold exposure, or humming to activate your vagus nerve and create a sense of safety.
â Your Bounce-Back Rate Matters: Healing isnât about never feeling dysregulatedâitâs about how quickly and effectively you can return to regulation.
Dysregulation is a normal part of being human. The goal isnât to avoid it but to respond to it in a way that builds trust, resilience, and self-awareness. Every time you support yourself through it, you strengthen your nervous system and remind yourself: I am safe.
Let's Connect:
. Website: www.belindaanderson.com.au
. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/belinda.anderson
. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/belindaandersonau/
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We all want to raise calm, emotionally regulated kidsâbut how calm and emotionally regulated are we? Kids donât just learn from what we say; they absorb how we react, how we process emotions, and how we handle stress.
If youâve ever lost your patience, snapped, or regretted a reaction, this episode is for you. Those moments arenât failuresâtheyâre opportunities to learn and model repair. And if you didnât show up in the past the way you would have liked, itâs not too late to do things differently now. Growth isnât about getting it perfect; itâs about showing up in a new way, one moment at a time.
What Youâll Learn:
⢠Why your nervous system plays a huge role in your childâs behaviour.
⢠How kids co-regulate with us and what that actually means.
⢠The patterns we unconsciously pass down.
⢠Practical ways to shift from reacting to responding with intention.
Key Takeaways & Tools:
â Regulate Yourself First â A dysregulated parent canât teach regulation. Before correcting your childâs behaviour, check in with your own. Ask: âAm I reacting from stress, or am I responding from calm?â
â Grounding Techniques for Triggers â Try breathwork, movement, cold water, or an affirmation like âPeace begins with me.â
â Reframe Meltdowns â Instead of seeing them as bad behaviour, see them as a stress response. A child acting out is communicating an unmet need.
â Co-Regulation First â Before jumping to solutions, focus on connection and validation. Swap âYouâre okayâ with âI see youâre really frustrated. That makes sense.â
â Repair After Reacting â No parent is perfect, but modelling accountability teaches kids emotional responsibility. Saying, âI got frustrated earlier, and that wasnât fair to you. Iâm working on handling my emotions better,â helps them learn that mistakes are okayâwhat matters is how we own them.
Raising emotionally regulated kids starts with us. The more we support our own nervous system, the easier it is to guide our children through theirs.
Let's Connect:
. Website: www.belindaanderson.com.au
. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/belinda.anderson
. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/belindaandersonau/
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Have you ever set a goal, felt motivated, and then found yourself procrastinating, overthinking, or backing out? Do you avoid opportunities, steer clear of tough conversations, or repeat patterns that no longer serve youâdespite knowing better?
Self-sabotage isnât about willpower; itâs about subconscious patterns and nervous system responses keeping you stuck. In this episode, weâre unpacking why we hold ourselves back and, most importantly, how to break free.
What Youâll Learn:
⢠What self-sabotage is and how it shows up in daily life.
⢠The link between self-sabotage and instant gratification.
⢠Why fear, subconscious beliefs, and nervous system responses keep you stuck.
⢠How to recognize and interrupt self-sabotaging patterns in real time.
⢠Practical tools to rewire your brain, regulate your nervous system, and build small, safe wins.
Key Takeaways & Tools:
â Identify Your Triggers: Notice moments of hesitation or procrastinationâwhatâs the deeper fear or belief?
â Pattern Interrupts: Use quick shifts like clapping, snapping your fingers, or saying âGo!â to break autopilot habits.
â Regulate Your Nervous System: Breathwork, cold exposure, and grounding exercises help create internal safety.
â Rewire Limiting Beliefs: Shift from âIâm not readyâ to âI am learning and growing.â
â Create Small, Safe Wins: Build confidence with small, achievable steps that show your nervous system change is safe.
The secret to breaking free isnât just knowing what to doâitâs knowing how to take action. Small steps lead to big transformations.
Let's Connect:
. Website: www.belindaanderson.com.au
. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/belinda.anderson
. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/belindaandersonau/
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Relationships challenge us, grow us, and reflect back our deepest wounds and our greatest potential. In this episode of Beyond the Surface, I explore what makes relationships work, the patterns that hold us back, and how to create deeper, healthier connections.
We'll dive into:
. The power of having a "WE" not "ME" relationship
. How attachment styles are formed and how they shape the way we connect (secure, anxious, avoidant, disorganized)
. Understanding love languages and how we express and receive love differently
. Why healthy relationships still challenge you-just in a different way
. How self-awareness and accountability are key to breaking cycles
. Conflict styles and why it's not about if you fight, but how
you fight
Whether you're in a long-term relationship, dating, or reflecting on past experiences, this episode will help you better understand your patterns, your partner's needs, and how to create deeper, healthier connections.
Resources & Links:
.Take the Love Languages Quiz:
https://5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/love-language
Let's Connect:
. Website:
www.belindaanderson.com.au
. Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/belinda.anderson
. Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/belindaandersonau/
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In this episode, we explore how your focus shapes your realityâyou see what you look for. Ever notice that when youâre focused on somethingâgood or badâit starts showing up everywhere? Thatâs because what you focus on grows. Whatâs wrong is always available, and so is what is right.
Iâll break down why shifting your focus isnât just about âthinking positiveâ and how your brain and nervous system filter your reality. Plus, youâll learn a powerful exercise to shift your perspectiveâespecially in your relationships. Iâll explain why shifting your focus starts from within and share practical tools to help you do it.
Youâll also hear why so many of us get stuck scanning for problems or become addicted to stress, negativity and chaos without even realizing itâand how to start breaking that cycle.
In this episode, youâll learn:
How your brain filters what you see (hello, RAS!) Why a dysregulated nervous system makes positivity feel fake A quick focus exercise to help you understand that what you see is what you look for How shifting your focus can change your relationships with your partner and kids Breaking free from unconscious patterns of stress, negativity and chaos Simple daily practices to help you shift your perspective How gratitude can literally rewire your brainLetâs Connect:
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Are you living your lifeâor just rushing through it? In this episode of Beyond the Surface, weâre shifting from the deeper inner work to something that shapes your everyday lifeâyour values. If youâve ever felt out of alignment, caught in the âbusyâ trap, or wondering why life feels âoff,â this oneâs for you.
Hereâs what youâll walk away with:
Why knowing your values isnât enoughâyou have to live them.A fresh take on valuesâwhat they truly are and how they shape your life, relationships, and choices.The hidden ways misalignment with your values leads to burnout, frustration, and feeling lost.Simple, practical steps to identify your top valuesâand spot where your actions donât align.Why âbusyâ feels safe (but keeps you stuck)âand what you might be avoiding by staying busy.How learning to say no can be one of the most powerful ways to honour your values.Plus: I share personal stories, including how discovering and living by our values transformed my relationship with my husband and the way we show up for ourselves and each other.
Letâs Connect:
Website: www.belindaanderson.com.auInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/belinda.andersonFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/belindaandersonau/Sponsor Spotlight:
Big thanks to our sponsor, Fem21 and their new product, Man21. Fem21 & Man21 are carefully crafted naturopathic blends of 21 natural herbs and superfoods, designed to holistically support womenâs and menâs hormonal and gut health, vitality, and overall wellbeing. Find out more at: fm21.au
If this episode resonates, share it with a friend who needs to hear itâand donât forget to subscribe and leave a review to help us reach more people ready to heal, grow, and thrive.
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Ever feel like youâre doing all the right thingsâpracticing gratitude, setting goals, reading the booksâbut something still feels stuck? Like thereâs an invisible force holding you back?
Thatâs your subconscious mind at work.
In this episode of Beyond the Surface, weâre diving deep into subconscious programmingâthe hidden beliefs that shape your reality and keep you stuck in patterns you donât even realize youâre repeating. Iâll be sharing some of the biggest limiting beliefs I had to unlearn (ones that kept me doubting myself, playing small, and feeling unworthy) and how I reprogrammed them into empowering beliefs that changed everything.
What we cover in this episode:
How your subconscious mind is running 95% of your life (whether you realize it or not)Why you keep falling into the same patterns, even when youâre consciously trying to changeThe three biggest limiting beliefs I had (and how they were keeping me stuck)The simple reframing technique that shifts limiting beliefs into empowering onesA powerful exercise we do on retreat to rewrite subconscious beliefsWhy your nervous system needs to feel safe before real change can happenHypnosis, somatic practices, and other powerful tools for reprogramming your subconsciousYour subconscious doesnât know the difference between real and imaginedâso whether you think you can or think you canât, youâre right. This episode is about choosing a new belief that aligns with the life you actually want.
Links:
Website: www.belindaanderson.com.auInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/belinda.andersonFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/belindaandersonau/Sponsor Spotlight:
Special thanks to our sponsor, Fem21 and their new product, Man21. Fem21 & Man21 are carefully crafted naturopathic blends of 21 natural herbs and superfoods, designed to holistically support womenâs and menâs hormonal and gut health, vitality, and overall wellbeing. Find out more at: fm21.au
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If youâve ever felt stuck despite all the work youâve doneâwhether itâs thinking positive, talking it out, or trying to move onâthis episode is for you.
Trauma isnât just a memory. Itâs something your body holds onto. And no, you canât simply think or talk your way through it. True healing happens in the body. Today, weâre diving deep into what trauma and trapped emotions do to your nervous system and, most importantly, how to release them.
Youâll learn:
⢠Why trauma is stored in the bodyânot just the mind
⢠The four nervous system stress responses: fight, flight, freeze, and fawn
⢠Why unprocessed emotions can lead to anxiety, fatigue, and even physical pain
⢠Powerful body-based tools to help you regulate your nervous system and release stored trauma, including:
⢠Somatic exercises
⢠Grounding techniques
⢠Breathwork
⢠Vagus nerve stimulation
⢠Psoas and fascia release
⢠EMDR and other somatic practices
This episode isnât just about understanding traumaâitâs about releasing it.
If youâve been carrying the weight of old wounds, past experiences, or unprocessed emotions, itâs time to give your body what it truly needs to heal.
Resources Mentioned:
The Body Keeps the Score â Bessel van der KolkLinks:
Website: www.belindaanderson.com.au Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/belinda.anderson Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/belindaandersonau/Sponsor Spotlight:
Special thanks to our sponsor, Fem21 and their new product, Man21. Fem21 & Man21 are carefully crafted naturopathic blends of 21 natural herbs and superfoods, designed to holistically support womenâs and menâs hormonal and gut health, vitality, and overall wellbeing. Find out more at: fm21.au
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In this episode of Beyond The Surface, we dive into the transformative power of breaking generational patterns. Many of the beliefs, behaviours, and emotional cycles we carry werenât created by usâtheyâve been passed down. Recognizing and releasing these patterns is a powerful step toward writing your own story, living life on your terms, and paving the way for future generations.
Weâll explore how to identify generational cycles and the courage it takes to break free from what no longer serves you.
What Youâll Learn in This Episode:
⢠How generational patterns are formed and how they affect your life.
⢠Signs that you might be carrying inherited beliefs or behaviours.
⢠Why breaking these cycles is one of the most powerful forms of healing.
⢠Steps to start rewriting your story for yourself and future generations.
Journal Prompt:
What patterns have you noticed that you have brought with you into adulthood? How can you consciously begin to shift them?
Links and Resources:
Website: www.belindaanderson.com.au Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/belinda.anderson Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/belindaandersonau/Sponsor Spotlight:
Special thanks to our sponsor, Fem21 and their new product, Man21. Fem21 & Man21 are carefully crafted naturopathic blends of 21 natural herbs and superfoods, designed to holistically support womenâs and menâs hormonal and gut health, vitality, and overall wellbeing. Find out more at: www.fm21.au
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In this very first episode of Beyond The Surface, I share a deeply personal story about my journey of healing my inner child. Growing up, I unknowingly stepped into survival mode at a young age, leaving my innocence behind far too early. Through my healing journey, Iâve come to understand how these early experiences shaped me. It wasnât until I felt safe in my body as an adult that I began uncovering suppressed emotions and memories that had manifested as physical pain.
Join me as I reflect on this transformative process, and learn why healing your inner child is the foundation for stepping into the person youâre truly meant to be.
What Youâll Learn in This Episode:
⢠What the inner child is and why itâs so important to connect with it.
⢠How early experiences impact your behaviours, emotions, and self-perception.
⢠My personal healing story and the lessons Iâve learned along the way.
⢠Simple ways to begin exploring your own inner child healing journey.
Journal Prompt:
Take some time to reflect: What were your earliest memories of feeling unseen or unsupported? How might those experiences still influence you today?
Go-To Guide Tip:
Keep a journal handy to capture your thoughts and reflections as you listen. Use this as your go-to guide for tracking insights and action steps from each episode.
Links and Resources:
Website: www.belindaanderson.com.au Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/belinda.anderson Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/belindaandersonau/Sponsor Spotlight:
Special thanks to our sponsor, Fem21 and their new product, Man21. Fem21 & Man21 are carefully crafted naturopathic blends of 21 natural herbs and superfoods, designed to holistically support womenâs and menâs hormonal and gut health, vitality, and overall wellbeing. Find out more at: fm21.au
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Welcome to Beyond The Surfaceâthe podcast where we explore how to heal, grow, and thrive. Iâm your host, Belinda Anderson, here to guide you on a journey of transformation from the inside out.
This is a space for vulnerability, meaningful conversations, and uncomfortable truthsâconfronting topics that encourage you to look within and unravel the layers.
Together, weâll dive into nervous system regulation, somatic practices, emotional healing, and personal growth. Weâll explore breaking generational patterns, inner child healing, releasing trauma, challenging limiting beliefs, the importance of values, relationships, conscious parenting, healthy living, navigating midlife, and so much more.
For over a decade, Iâve guided women and couples through transformational retreats in Australia, Bali, and Fiji. With a grounded, practical approach, Iâm here to share tools and thought-provoking insights to help you break free from whatâs holding you back and go beyond the surface to uncover whatâs truly possible.
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