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đ Feeling down about Valentineâs Day? Youâre not alone. Whether you're single, healing from a breakup, or in an unfulfilling relationship, this special bonus episode is here to offer comfort, encouragement, and a fresh perspective.
⨠In this episode, weâll explore:
â How to reframe your thoughts and emotions around Valentineâs Day
â Why social media might be making today harder (and what to do instead)
â The real foundation of fulfilling relationshipsâbeyond grand gestures
â Five powerful self-reflection questions to help you build the love and life you truly deserve
â Fun and unexpected hobbies to try (including Neurographic Art and handwriting analysis!)
đĄ Remember, your happiness isnât dependent on a relationshipâitâs about creating a life that feels full and meaningful on your own terms.Show Links:
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In this episode of Breakup to Blessing, weâre diving into one of the biggest missing pieces in relationship and conflict resolutionâemotional regulation.
Weâve all been taught communication techniques like âIâ statements, active listening, and mirroring, but if youâve ever tried these strategies and still felt stuck, frustrated, or unheard, youâre not alone. The truth is, no communication skill will work if youâre emotionally dysregulated.
In this episode, youâll learn:
â Why emotional regulation is the foundation of healthy communication
â Signs that you may be emotionally dysregulated (and what to do about it)
â How to stay present and grounded during conflictâwithout relying on your partner to change
â The mindset shifts that turn conflict from a power struggle into an opportunity for deeper connection
By the end of this episode, youâll have practical tools to navigate disagreements with more clarity, confidence, and emotional control.
đ§ Listen now and take the first step toward transforming the way you handle conflict.
⨠Breakup to Blessing is now available as a self-paced course! â¨
If youâre ready to heal, let go, and step into your next chapter with confidence, you can now access my signature program at a lower priceâwith lifetime access and one private coaching session included. Get started today at sylviasuwan.com/program or find the link in the show notes.
Episode Mentions:
What Attachment Style Are You? Pt.1
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Listen on SpotifyHow To Become More Securely Attached Pt. 2
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In this episode, Sylvia brings it back to basics and reminds us of the essential foundations for healing, especially when life feels overwhelming. Whether you're deep into your healing journey or just starting out, sometimes we need a reminder of the most important things to focus on.
Sylvia discusses Maslowâs hierarchy of needs and how our basic needsâlike food, water, shelter, and emotional safetyâmust be met before we can progress to higher goals, such as self-actualisation and personal growth. She explains why it's crucial to check in with ourselves to ensure we're addressing these fundamental needs, especially during times of hardship like breakups or major life changes.
Along the way, Sylvia touches on how an unhealthy lifestyleâpoor diet, lack of exercise, and nutrient deficienciesâcan contribute to mental health struggles like anxiety, depression, and stress. She shares practical insights on how simple adjustments to your physical health can have a significant impact on your mental well-being.
If you're feeling stuck or overwhelmed, this episode is a reminder to return to the basics. By prioritising your health, security, and emotional well-being, youâll be in a stronger position to face lifeâs challenges and continue your healing journey.
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Have you ever felt like life is passing you by while everyone else seems to be moving forward? In this episode, we dive deep into the feeling of being left behindâwhether it's watching friends settle down, pursue their dreams, or take bold steps forward while you feel stuck in the same place.
We'll explore why we compare ourselves to others, the biological and social roots of comparison, and how to shift our mindset to use it as motivation instead of discouragement.
You'll also hear personal insights from my own journey, including how I reframed my past choices and learned to embrace the season I'm in. We'll discuss practical strategies to help you let go of regret, stop playing catch-up, and focus on building the future you truly want.
In this episode, we cover:
Why we feel left behind and how comparison plays a role The importance of acknowledging that your life is exactly where it's meant to be How regret can keep you stuckâand how to move past it Practical steps to start living the life you want today Insights from The Top 5 Regrets of the Dying and how they can inspire changePractical steps you can take right now:
Start Small: Take one small step towards something youâve been putting off. Focus on Progress, Not Perfection: Every small step counts. Shift Your Mindset: Reframe comparison as inspiration, not a measure of your worth. Embrace Fear: Growth happens outside your comfort zone. Set Intentions: Think about where you want to be in five years and take action today.Remember, life isnât a race. You're exactly where you're meant to be, and each day offers a new opportunity to move forward.
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In todayâs episode, we dive deep into the concept of ambiguous loss, a type of grief that doesnât have the usual clarity, closure, or resolution. Whether youâre dealing with a breakup that ended without answers or a relationship that wasnât serving you, this episode will help you understand how to navigate that uncertain emotional space.
Iâll discuss why ambiguous loss can feel so difficult to process, particularly after a breakup, and offer practical advice on how to manage unresolved emotions and feelings of uncertainty. Iâll also share tips on how to build resilience in the face of ambiguity, from redefining expectations to focusing on personal growth, and how leaning into supportive relationships can help you move forward.
If youâve been stuck in an emotional limbo, unsure of how to grieve a relationship that you know wasnât right for you, this episode will guide you through embracing the discomfort and finding a path toward healing.
⨠In this episode, youâll learn:
⢠What ambiguous loss is and how it affects the grieving process
⢠How to manage unresolved emotions and prolonged grief
⢠Practical strategies for building resilience when closure seems out of reach
⢠The importance of redefining expectations and embracing uncertainty
⢠How to use this tough experience as an opportunity for personal growth
If you enjoyed this episode, donât forget to hit the follow or plus button â itâs the best way to support the show and stay updated on new episodes.Show Links:
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Welcome back to another episode of Breakup to Blessing! I hope you're having a good start to the new year. If you're not, hang in thereâyouâre doing all you can right now, and thatâs enough. In todayâs episode, Iâm sharing some powerful mindset shifts that helped me navigate some of my own deepest challenges.
Weâll talk about the importance of not letting anticipation ruin the present, why embracing change is key to growth, and how to stop thinking thereâs only one ârightâ way to do things. I also explore how we deal with pain and difficult emotions, why it's crucial to learn how to sit with discomfort, and how to break free from the need for control.
I also draw parallels between these life lessons and what Iâve been experiencing as a parent to a toddler going through the âterrible twos.â Itâs been a reminder of how important emotional regulation isânot just for kids, but for adults too.
Finally, I dive into the transformative power of acceptance, especially when faced with situations you canât control. Finding acceptance may feel impossible at times, but itâs the first step towards healing and growth.
If you're going through a tough time right now, whether itâs a breakup, a life setback, or just the overwhelming weight of lifeâs challenges, I encourage you to tune in. This episode is about how to shift your mindset to navigate life with more strength, clarity, and peace.
Key Takeaways:
⢠Why the anticipation of something often feels worse than the actual event.
⢠The power of reframing your thoughts to focus on constructive actions.
⢠How embracing change can lead to unexpected blessings.
⢠The importance of learning to regulate your emotions and deal with pain.
⢠Why letting go of the "right way" opens up possibilities for growth.
⢠How acceptance is the key to moving forward, even in difficult circumstances.
Remember: You can create an even better life, no matter what you're going through right now. If you're ready to move forward, this episode is for you.
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Welcome back to Breakup to Blessing! As we start the new year, it's a great time to focus on growth, self-discovery, and creating the lifeâand relationshipâyou truly want.
In this episode, Iâm sharing practical strategies to help you attract the relationship youâve been dreaming of. Whether youâre ready to settle down, start a family, or just find someone who aligns with your values, this episode is for you.
Hereâs what weâll cover:
The most common barriers to finding the right relationship, like a lack of clarity, being overly rigid, or holding onto past hurts. How to shift your mindset to break free from a scarcity mentality and embrace possibility. Practical steps to date with intention and maximise opportunities to meet the right person. Why consistency, self-reflection, and emotional intelligence are key to building meaningful connections. The importance of committing to the journey of finding love, rather than focusing solely on the destination.Dating doesnât have to feel overwhelming or frustrating. With the right mindset and tools, you can open yourself up to the opportunities that lead to the relationship youâve been hoping for.
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In this final episode of the year, Sylvia shares a practical and simple 5-step framework to help you start 2025 with clarity and confidence. After offering free strategy sessions to some of her followers, Sylvia wanted to ensure that everyone has the tools to set meaningful goals and create a vision for the year ahead.
In this episode, youâll learn:
How to take inventory of your life by reflecting on key areas like relationships, health, career, finances, personal growth, and more. How to identify your priorities and choose what matters most to you in the coming months. The importance of setting clear, achievable goals that are tailored to your needs. A fun exercise to create a vision of your ideal life and activate the power of your brain to help you achieve it. The importance of building accountability to stay on track and ensure progress throughout the year.This framework is designed to help you reflect, plan, and stay committed to your goals in 2025. Whether you're looking to improve your health, career, finances, or personal growth, these tools will guide you every step of the way.
Tune in for a fresh start to the new year, and letâs make 2025 your best year yet!
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Join Breakup to Blessing: https://sylviasuwan.com/programWishing you a Happy New Year!
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The holiday season can be one of the most challenging times of the year, especially if youâre navigating heartbreak or on a healing journey. In this episode, I reflect on my own experiences with Christmas during a time of personal struggle and share practical strategies to help you cope during this festive period.
We explore:
⢠How to embrace acceptance and move through difficult emotions.
⢠The power of choice and how it can transform unfair or challenging situations.
⢠Why conflicting emotions, like sadness and excitement, can coexist, and how to hold space for both.
⢠How to use the holiday season as an opportunity to reflect, dream, and set intentions for the year ahead.
To help you kickstart 2025 with clarity and purpose, Iâm offering 10 free strategy sessions for listeners who are serious about creating a better year. During the session, weâll:
⢠Identify where you are now and clarify your goals.
⢠Define your relationship intentionsâwhether itâs moving on from an ex, building confidence to date again, or finding a meaningful connection.
⢠Develop actionable steps to achieve your goals throughout the year.
This offer is only available for the remainder of the calendar year, so book your spot now via the link in the show notes!
Remember, healing is a journey, not a destination. No matter how tough things feel now, youâre stronger than you realise, and the best is yet to come.
If this episode resonates with you, Iâd love to hear from you. Reach out to me on Instagram or email me to share your thoughts or takeaways.
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In this episode of Breakup to Blessing, weâre tackling a big question: How do you get yourself to do the hard things, especially when motivation is nowhere to be found? Whether itâs moving forward after a breakup or simply starting your day on the right foot, Iâll share actionable tips to help you push through resistance and build habits that stick.
Iâll also get personal about how Iâve been struggling with motivation this week and what Iâve learned from recognising where my brain naturally pulls me toward procrastination and comfort. Together, weâll explore how to override those instincts and take small, consistent steps toward growth.
What Youâll Learn in This Episode:
⢠Why your brain seeks comfort and âsafetyâ instead of growth.
⢠How procrastination and avoidance show up in everyday life (especially during tough times).
⢠A simple framework to break down big goals into small, manageable steps.
⢠Practical tools like the âPause and Acknowledgeâ method to help you take action.
⢠The importance of celebrating small wins to build resilience and momentum.
If youâre feeling stuck, unmotivated, or overwhelmedâespecially in the wake of a breakupâthis episode is for you. Learn how to start where you are, take one small step at a time, and build the life you deserve.
Show Links:
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Welcome to the 100th episode of Breakup to Blessing! I canât believe weâve hit this milestoneâthank you for being part of this journey. To mark the occasion, Iâm sharing the most impactful lessons Iâve learned throughout my life in the realms of dating, relationships, and heartbreak.
These lessons come from my personal experiences, and my hope is that they resonate with you. Take what feels helpful, leave what doesnât, and apply them in a way that fits your life.
Hereâs what Iâll cover in this episode:
Make a Decision and Accept It Fully
Learn why embracing your choicesâwhether in dating or relationshipsâleads to greater satisfaction and less regret.You Decide Your Happiness
How managing expectations and identifying non-negotiables can help you find peace in your relationships.You Are Stronger Than You Think
Discover how resilience emerges during lifeâs toughest challenges, including breakups.Be the Person You Want to Date
Attract the right partner by embodying the qualities youâre looking for.Stay Present, Stop Overthinking the Future
Avoid losing sight of meaningful connections by being open to whatâs unfolding in the moment.Find Peace Where You Are
Why true happiness and meaning must come from within, not from external achievements or relationships.Itâs Okay to Have RegretsâBut Donât Let Them Define You
How to process regret in a way that helps you move forward instead of staying stuck in the past.Show Links:
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In this episode of Breakup to Blessing, we explore a common fear that holds many people back from moving on after a breakup: the belief that letting go means giving up on the possibility of reconciling with an ex. This internal conflict can be paralysing, but today, Iâm here to guide you through a healthier mindset.
Iâll explain why moving on is not the end of hope but rather the start of personal growth that increases your chances of either reconnecting in a stronger way or finding happiness elsewhere. Weâll dive into the distortions our emotions can create and why genuine healing and independence are essential to building any successful relationship.
I also share actionable mantras to help you reframe your thoughts and prioritise your well-being. From embracing the unknown to recognising that true love cannot be forced, these insights are designed to empower you as you move forward with courage and clarity.
If youâre feeling stuck between wanting to move on and fearing what it might mean, this episode is for you.
Key Takeaways:
Letting go doesnât erase the love or memories. Moving on creates space for mutual growth and healthy relationships. Prioritising your emotional well-being leads to peace and self-discovery. True love is reciprocal and cannot be forced. Embracing the unknown opens doors to opportunities and happiness.Listen now and start building the life you deserve.
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In this episode, Sylvia reflects on a life-changing lesson she learned from communications expert Vinh Giang. Inspired by his insights, Sylvia delves into how the beliefs and narratives we hold about ourselves are not fixed and can be changed. Drawing from personal experiences and neuroscience, she explores how our behaviours often stem from old beliefs and how we can consciously break free from them.
You'll learn how to identify and challenge limiting beliefs that may be holding you back and discover the power of neuroplasticityâyour brain's ability to reorganise itself and create new neural connections. This episode offers practical steps for creating a new narrative, one that aligns with the life you want to live.
Key Takeaways:
How old beliefs shape your identity and behaviours. The role of neuroplasticity in changing your habits and thought patterns. Tips for breaking free from limiting beliefs and rewriting your story. The power of taking conscious action to create a new future.Show Links:
Website: www.sylviasuwan.com Book Your Free ConsultationRemember to subscribe, rate, and review if you found this episode helpful! Have a beautiful week, and I'll catch you next time.
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Hey everyone, welcome back! As we near the end of the year, itâs a great time to reflect on whatâs worked â and what hasnât. In this episode, Iâm speaking directly to those of you whoâve had a tough year, especially if youâve been struggling to move past a difficult breakup. Together, weâll look at why itâs been so hard to get unstuck and, more importantly, how you can make next year different.
Iâll share insights on the stages of grief and how we often find ourselves holding onto emotions like denial, anger, and regret far longer than we realise. If you feel as though youâre looping in these stages, you might be reinforcing patterns that keep you from moving forward. Letâs talk about the difference between healthy processing and unhelpful rumination, and explore strategies to leave those habits behind.
This episode is all about preparing for 2025 with purpose. Instead of waiting until New Yearâs Eve to set resolutions, Iâll guide you on how to gradually build a new version of yourself, starting right now. By identifying what truly motivates you and setting small, achievable goals, youâll set yourself up for long-term success instead of quick burnout.
Questions to ask yourself:
What kind of person do you want to be a year from now? How do you want to feel about yourself and your life? Whatâs one step you can take today to start moving forward?If youâre ready to start letting go of the past and embracing the possibilities ahead, this episode is here to support you. Listen in, take notes, and letâs make the next year your best one yet.
Thank you for tuning in. Donât forget to subscribe if you havenât already, and Iâd love it if you could leave a rating or review. Hereâs to a beautiful week and an even better year ahead!
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Today, weâre diving into a topic many of us face: the way we handle conflict in our relationships. Often, we wait until tensions peak before addressing issues, but Iâm here to encourage a different approachâdiscussing these things before they escalate, while weâre in a positive, calm state. This allows us to communicate more constructively and prevents the cycle of recurring arguments and unresolved feelings.
In this episode, I explore the difference between focusing on symptoms (the surface-level problems) and tackling the roots (the deeper issues driving these conflicts). When we only address symptoms, itâs like covering a wound without cleaning itâtemporary fixes wonât heal the deeper issues.
Some key points we discuss:
⢠Why âsymptom-fixingâ often fails: Without addressing the underlying emotions, resentment and frustration can build up, leading to recurring conflicts.
⢠Missed opportunities for growth and intimacy: By avoiding difficult conversations, we miss out on moments of vulnerability that foster deeper connection.
⢠Self-reflection in conflict: Often, symptom-fixing leads us to blame our partnerâs actions instead of exploring our own role or the dynamics between us.
Common examples of symptom-focused behaviour include:
⢠Trust issues: Addressed only by setting boundaries instead of exploring underlying insecurities.
⢠Communication breakdown: Limiting phone use without tackling the root issue of emotional disconnection.
⢠Physical intimacy: Creating âremindersâ for physical affection rather than exploring unspoken feelings or shifts in priorities.
To build a healthier approach, I discuss the importance of self-awareness, learning to self-regulate, and effective listening. I also talk about reframing complaints as needs, so we can better understand and communicate our deeper emotions and desires.
Take some time to reflect on your relationship. Are there issues that keep resurfacing? Could there be a deeper root youâre overlooking? Try making one small change this weekâtake a step back, look deeper, and open up an honest conversation
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In this episode, we tackle the painful and often polarising topic of infidelity. Cheating can feel like a devastating breach of trust and, for many, it seems unforgivable. Drawing from personal experience and insights from relationship expert Esther Perel, I discuss why viewing infidelity in black-and-white terms can complicate our healing and growth. We examine some of the common emotions people feel after betrayalâsuch as self-blame, doubts about self-worth, and a shattered trust in others. These reactions can be debilitating, making it crucial to develop a mindset that doesnât allow betrayal to dominate our happiness.
I share ways to rebuild inner security so that fear of potential betrayal doesnât overshadow your relationships. Key steps include cultivating a strong sense of self-worth, reframing trust, and focusing on your resilience and ability to recover.By understanding the reasons people may cheatâsuch as seeking novelty, identity exploration, or relief from unmet emotional needsâyou can view infidelity less as a reflection of your worth and more as a sign of the other person's struggles.
Ultimately, this episode is about finding peace and confidence within yourself, embracing love and connection without letting the possibility of betrayal take control.
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In this episode, we dive into the process of recognising and breaking unhealthy relationship patterns, specifically focusing on why we might be drawn to emotionally unavailable partners. Youâll learn how to identify your own thoughts, behaviours, and decisions that contribute to these patterns and, more importantly, what you can do to shift them.
Key Takeaways:
How to recognise if you have a relationship pattern thatâs holding you back The role childhood experiences play in attracting emotionally unavailable partners How to create a âred flag listâ for yourself The importance of setting clear boundaries and creating new standards for your relationships How to embrace vulnerability and express your needs in healthy ways Why building a support system and practicing patience are crucial steps in breaking these patternsFree Masterclass: Donât miss my upcoming free masterclass on How to Move On From Heartbreak on 6th November at 7am (AEST). Register here
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In this episode, we dive into a topic thatâs relevant to everyone at some point in their livesâhow to be okay with not being okay. Whether youâre going through heartbreak, dealing with a difficult situation at work or home, or just feeling like you want the pain to disappear, this episode is for you.
I explore how many of us, growing up, werenât taught to sit with our feelings. Instead, our parents or caregivers tried to make us feel better as quickly as possible, unknowingly teaching us to avoid discomfort. As a result, many of us never learned how to regulate our emotions, which often manifests in adulthood as an inability to handle challenging situations calmly.
Key topics in this episode include:
Why we avoid uncomfortable emotions and how it impacts us as adults The importance of learning to sit with your feelings rather than immediately comforting yourself How social media, Netflix, and other distractions prevent us from regulating our emotions Practical steps to retrain your nervous system and become more emotionally resilient Why insight alone isnât enoughâyou need to apply what youâve learned to truly change your behaviourIf youâve struggled with feeling overwhelmed by emotions or find it hard to return to a calm state after being challenged, this episode will provide you with practical tools and guidance to start creating lasting change.
Listen in and discover how to be more present with your emotions and why itâs okay to not always have everything together.
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In todayâs episode, I dive into the process of rebuilding your life after a breakup. If you're feeling lost or unsure of how to move forward, you're not alone. Many people experience this after a relationship ends, and it can feel like you're wandering through life without direction.
Last week, we talked about shifting your mindset and taking control of your life â if you havenât listened to that episode, I recommend checking it out first to lay a strong foundation for today's discussion.
In this episode, I walk you through the steps of making small, consistent changes to rebuild your life. Whether itâs your career, relationships, or another part of your life, these small shifts can lead to profound transformation over time. I use examples like the British cycling teamâs success story, which highlights how even marginal gains can lead to incredible outcomes.
Key points covered include:
Taking small, manageable steps towards change Setting realistic expectations for your progress Assessing different areas of your life using tools like the Wheel of Life Building and nurturing your inner circle of friends to provide support during tough timesIf youâd like to dive deeper into how you can implement these strategies in your life, send me a DM on Instagram @sylviasuwan or Book a free consult
Resources Mentioned:
Simon Sinekâs book, Start With Why Atomic Habits by James ClearListen to the full episode and learn how to start rebuilding your life, one small step at a time.
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In this episode, I reflect on the biggest shift that transformed how I view my life, no matter the circumstances. From my childhood to my rebellious teen years, marriage, divorce, and the journey of self-discovery, I've come to realise that my attitude has always been the deciding factor in how I feel and respond to life.
We often let our circumstances dictate our happiness, but today, I want to talk about finding sufficiency in the here and now. I share how I moved from feeling powerless during a difficult divorce to gaining clarity, gratitude, and control by shifting my mindset. I discuss the importance of focusing on what we have instead of what we lack, and how that change in perspective can lead to better decision-making and a sense of empowerment.
This episode is for anyone feeling stuck, uncertain, or overwhelmed by life. Iâll guide you on how to move from victimhood to agency, so you can make intentional decisions and create the life you truly want. Itâs about learning to appreciate what you have, while also working toward the goals that bring you joy and fulfilment.
Tune in to discover:
Why your perspective is the key to happiness How finding sufficiency in your current situation can transform your life Practical steps to start taking control of your future The power of pursuing goals to increase your sense of self-worth and diminish envyPlus, if you're in need of immersive healing after a breakup or difficult relationship, donât miss out on my upcoming retreat. It's happening on the 10th of November, and it's designed for those looking for a supportive space to heal and grow.
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