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Itâs time for your December Indulgence Gospel.
Todayâs episode is both holiday and sex-themed, which seems right! Weâre getting into:
ïž How diet culture and anti-fatness show up during the holiday season. Comments from relatives! Fitness equipment as gifts! Matching family PJs! Etc.
ïž Our NEW Ask Corinne segment, where Corinne answers your fat sex and dating questions, like: What do you do when certain positions just donât work for your body?
To hear the whole conversation or read the whole transcript, you'll need to become a paid Burnt Toast subscriber. Subscribe here.
If you are already a paid subscriber, youâll have this entire episode in your podcast feed and access to the entire transcript in your inbox and on the Burnt Toast Substack. You can also subscribe to Corinne's newsletter, Big Undies, for 20% off using this special link.
To get all of the links and resources mentioned in this episode, as well as a complete transcript, visit our show page.
Also, don't forget to order Fat Talk: Parenting In the Age of Diet Culture! Get your signed copy now from Split Rock Books (they ship anywhere in the USA). You can also order it from your independent bookstore, or from Barnes & Noble, Amazon, Target, Kobo or anywhere you like to buy books. (Or get the UK edition or the audiobook!)
Disclaimer: Virginia and Corinne are humans with a lot of informed opinions. They are not nutritionists, therapists, doctors, or any kind of healthcare providers. The conversation you're about to hear and all of the advice and opinions they give are just for entertainment, information, and education purposes only. None of this is a substitute for individual medical or mental health advice.
CREDITS
The Burnt Toast Podcast is produced and hosted by Virginia Sole-Smith (follow me on Instagram) and Corinne Fay, who runs @SellTradePlus, and Big Undiesâsubscribe for 20% off!
The Burnt Toast logo is by Deanna Lowe.
Our theme music is by Farideh.
Tommy Harron is our audio engineer.
Thanks for listening and for supporting anti-diet, body liberation journalism!
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Today Virginia is chatting with Anna Maltby.
Anna is a health journalist, editor, content strategist, personal trainer, and author of the newsletter How to Move. Anna also created Pilates For Abortion Funds, a monthly online class that has raised about $30,000 for abortion funds since July 2022. She has been an ACE-certified personal trainer since 2015, and a certified mat pilates instructor since 2021. Sheâs also a certified prenatal and postpartum exercise specialist. Anna lives in Brooklyn with her husband, two kids, and two extremely cute cats.
Anna was previously a guest on one of Burnt Toastâs most popular ever episodes, The Myth of Visible Abs. Whatâs so great about Annaâand what makes her different from a lot of fitness writers and personal trainers out thereâis that sheâs so smart about bodies, sheâs truly anti-diet and size neutral as a fitness professionalâŠand, sheâs been in the belly of the beast. Anna worked in womenâs magazines with me long enough to know all the diet culture tricks. So sheâs one of my favorite people to talk fitness with, because she can dissect what is marketing, what is diet culture, and what is actually maybe useful for your body.
Two content warnings for today:
1. We are going to talk about specific forms of exercise. This will always be through a weight neutral lens, but if youâre recovering from an eating disorder or just otherwise in a place where exercise is not serving you, please take care.
2. CW for Butter, because we ended up talking quite a lot about toilets! And while I feel itâs all incredibly practical information and youâre going to thank me for my great Butter recommendation this week, I do realize that toilet conversation is not for everyone. Itâs usually not for me! So I get it! Youâve been warned.
To tell us YOUR thoughts, and to get all of the links and resources mentioned in this episode, as well as a complete transcript, visit our show page.
If you want more conversations like this one, please rate and review us in your podcast player! And become a paid Burnt Toast subscriber â subscriptions are just $7 per month! âto get all of Virginia's reporting and bonus subscriber-only episodes.
And donât forget to check out our Burnt Toast Podcast Bonus Content!
Disclaimer: Youâre listening to this episode because you value my input as a journalist who reports on these issues and therefore has a lot of informed opinions. Neither my guest today nor I are healthcare providers, and this conversation is not meant to substitute for medical or therapeutic advice.
FAT TALK is out in paperback! Order your signed copy from Virginia's favorite independent bookstore, Split Rock Books (they ship anywhere in the US!). Or order it from your independent bookstore, or from Barnes & Noble, Amazon, Target, or Kobo or anywhere else you like to buy books. You can also order the audio book from Libro.fm or Audible.
CREDITS
The Burnt Toast Podcast is produced and hosted by Virginia Sole-Smith and Corinne Fay. Follow Virginia on Instagram, Follow Corinne @SellTradePlus, an Instagram account where you can buy and sell plus size clothing and subscribe to Big Undies.
Our theme music is by Farideh.Tommy Harron is our audio engineer.Thanks for listening and for supporting anti-diet, body liberation journalism.
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Welcome to Indulgence Gospel After Dark! It's time for your December Extra Butter!
Today, weâre talking about belliesâand how weâve been taught to dress them. You need this conversation if you have feelings about:
Spanx
Horizontal stripes
The Millennial structured camisole era + long, flowy tops
Always tucking in your shirt/never tucking in your shirt
And so much more.
If you are already an Extra Butter subscriber, youâll have this entire episode in your podcast feed and access to the entire transcript in your inbox and on the Burnt Toast Substack. To get all of the links and resources mentioned in this episode, as well as a complete transcript, visit our show page.
Otherwise, to hear the whole conversation or read the whole transcript, you'll need to join Extra Butter. It's just $99 per year, and is the hands down best way to keep Burnt Toast an ad- and sponsor-free space.
PS. Don't forget to order Fat Talk: Parenting In the Age of Diet Culture! Get your signed copy now from Split Rock Books (they ship anywhere in the USA). You can also order it from your independent bookstore, or from Barnes & Noble, Amazon, Target, Kobo or anywhere you like to buy books. (Or get the UK edition or the audiobook!)
Disclaimer: Virginia and Corinne are humans with a lot of informed opinions. They are not nutritionists, therapists, doctors, or any kind of healthcare providers. The conversation you're about to hear and all of the advice and opinions they give are just for entertainment, information, and education purposes only. None of this is a substitute for individual medical or mental health advice.
CREDITS
The Burnt Toast Podcast is produced and hosted by Virginia Sole-Smith (follow me on Instagram) and Corinne Fay, who runs @SellTradePlus and Big Undiesâsubscribe for 20% off.
The Burnt Toast logo is by Deanna Lowe.
Our theme music is by Farideh.
Tommy Harron is our audio engineer.
Thanks for listening and for supporting anti-diet, body liberation journalism!
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This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit virginiasolesmith.substack.com
Itâs time for your November Indulgence Gospel. Today, weâre doing an old fashioned mailbag episode for you.
We are going to chat about grocery shopping.
Weâre going to talk about what to do if you are ânot fat enoughâ to be in a fat space.
We are going to talk about how to get divorced.
Weâre going to talk about a mom who wants to stop her adult daughter from getting diabetes.
And weâre both going to dig into our phones and face up toâŠjust how much time we spend on them and why.
To hear the whole conversation or read the whole transcript, you'll need to become a paid Burnt Toast subscriber. Subscribe here.
If you are already a paid subscriber, youâll have this entire episode in your podcast feed and access to the entire transcript in your inbox and on the Burnt Toast Substack. You can also subscribe to Corinne's newsletter, Big Undies, for 20% off using this special link.
To get all of the links and resources mentioned in this episode, as well as a complete transcript, visit our show page.
Also, don't forget to order Fat Talk: Parenting In the Age of Diet Culture! Get your signed copy now from Split Rock Books (they ship anywhere in the USA). You can also order it from your independent bookstore, or from Barnes & Noble, Amazon, Target, Kobo or anywhere you like to buy books. (Or get the UK edition or the audiobook!)
Disclaimer: Virginia and Corinne are humans with a lot of informed opinions. They are not nutritionists, therapists, doctors, or any kind of healthcare providers. The conversation you're about to hear and all of the advice and opinions they give are just for entertainment, information, and education purposes only. None of this is a substitute for individual medical or mental health advice.
CREDITS
The Burnt Toast Podcast is produced and hosted by Virginia Sole-Smith (follow me on Instagram) and Corinne Fay, who runs @SellTradePlus, and Big Undiesâsubscribe for 20% off!
The Burnt Toast logo is by Deanna Lowe.
Our theme music is by Farideh.
Tommy Harron is our audio engineer.
Thanks for listening and for supporting anti-diet, body liberation journalism!
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This is a public episode. If youâd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit virginiasolesmith.substack.com/subscribe
Welcome to Indulgence Gospel After Dark! It's time for your November Extra Butter!
This month weâre talking about Emily Osterâand her evolving views on kids, weight and health.
We recorded this before the election. But as we all continue to grapple with how America slid to the right, the story of a public health advocate and scholar who is now aligned with conservative media feels especially timely. That said, we also want to hold space for how much Emilyâs work has meant to so many of us (including Virginia!).
If you are already an Extra Butter subscriber, youâll have this entire episode in your podcast feed and access to the entire transcript in your inbox and on the Burnt Toast Substack. To get all of the links and resources mentioned in this episode, as well as a complete transcript, visit our show page.
Otherwise, to hear the whole conversation or read the whole transcript, you'll need to join Extra Butter. It's just $99 per year, and is the hands down best way to keep Burnt Toast an ad- and sponsor-free space.
PS. Don't forget to order Fat Talk: Parenting In the Age of Diet Culture! Get your signed copy now from Split Rock Books (they ship anywhere in the USA). You can also order it from your independent bookstore, or from Barnes & Noble, Amazon, Target, Kobo or anywhere you like to buy books. (Or get the UK edition or the audiobook!)
Disclaimer: Virginia and Corinne are humans with a lot of informed opinions. They are not nutritionists, therapists, doctors, or any kind of healthcare providers. The conversation you're about to hear and all of the advice and opinions they give are just for entertainment, information, and education purposes only. None of this is a substitute for individual medical or mental health advice.
CREDITS
The Burnt Toast Podcast is produced and hosted by Virginia Sole-Smith (follow me on Instagram) and Corinne Fay, who runs @SellTradePlus and Big Undiesâsubscribe for 20% off.
The Burnt Toast logo is by Deanna Lowe.
Our theme music is by Farideh.
Tommy Harron is our audio engineer.
Thanks for listening and for supporting anti-diet, body liberation journalism!
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Today Virginia is chatting withMara Gordon, MD.
Dr. Gordon is a family physician on the faculty of Cooper Medical School of Rowan University, as well as a writer, journalist, and contributor to NPR. Dr. Gordon also writes Chief Complaint, about her efforts to make medicine more fat friendly, and help her patients and herself explore body liberation and radical bodily autonomy.
In our conversation today, Dr. Gordon and I get into why the healthcare system is set up the way it is, and what we can do to advocate for more weight-inclusive careâeven when weâre not seeing weight-inclusive doctors.
She also answers your questions about common weight-linked health conditions like acid reflux, sleep apnea, and prediabetes.
To tell us YOUR thoughts, and to get all of the links and resources mentioned in this episode, as well as a complete transcript, visit our show page.
If you want more conversations like this one, please rate and review us in your podcast player! And become a paid Burnt Toast subscriber â subscriptions are just $7 per month! âto get all of Virginia's reporting and bonus subscriber-only episodes.
And donât forget to check out our Burnt Toast Podcast Bonus Content!
Disclaimer: Youâre listening to this episode because you value my input as a journalist who reports on these issues and therefore has a lot of informed opinions. Neither my guest today nor I are healthcare providers, and this conversation is not meant to substitute for medical or therapeutic advice.
FAT TALK is out! Order your signed copy from Virginia's favorite independent bookstore, Split Rock Books (they ship anywhere in the US!). Or order it from your independent bookstore, or from Barnes & Noble, Amazon, Target, or Kobo or anywhere else you like to buy books. You can also order the audio book from Libro.fm or Audible.
CREDITS
The Burnt Toast Podcast is produced and hosted by Virginia Sole-Smith and Corinne Fay. Follow Virginia on Instagram, Follow Corinne @SellTradePlus, an Instagram account where you can buy and sell plus size clothing and subscribe to Big Undies.The Burnt Toast logo is by Farideh.
Our theme music is by Jeff Bailey and Chris Maxwell.Tommy Harron is our audio engineer.Thanks for listening and for supporting anti-diet, body liberation journalism.
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Today Virginia is chatting with Amy Palanjian.
You probably already know Amy as Yummy Toddler Food, which is her blog/Instagram/Tiktok. Sheâs also the bestselling author of Dinnertime SOS, and writes a great bi-weekly newsletter called YTF Community, which comes with super helpful meal plans.
Some of you may have listened to our old podcast, Comfort Food, or maybe youâve just heard Amy on her previous appearances on Burnt Toast (one, two and three). But we realized that Amy hasnât been on the pod since we both got divorced! Obviously a lot in our lives has changed, but specifically, a lot has changed in terms of how we feed our people and how we feed ourselves.
So this is an episode about single mom dinner. I think youâll enjoy it.
To tell us YOUR thoughts, and to get all of the links and resources mentioned in this episode, as well as a complete transcript, visit our show page.
If you want more conversations like this one, please rate and review us in your podcast player! And become a paid Burnt Toast subscriber â subscriptions are just $7 per month! âto get all of Virginia's reporting and bonus subscriber-only episodes.
And donât forget to check out our Burnt Toast Podcast Bonus Content!
Disclaimer: Youâre listening to this episode because you value my input as a journalist who reports on these issues and therefore has a lot of informed opinions. Neither my guest today nor I are healthcare providers, and this conversation is not meant to substitute for medical or therapeutic advice.
FAT TALK is out! Order your signed copy from Virginia's favorite independent bookstore, Split Rock Books (they ship anywhere in the US!). Or order it from your independent bookstore, or from Barnes & Noble, Amazon, Target, or Kobo or anywhere else you like to buy books. You can also order the audio book from Libro.fm or Audible.
CREDITS
The Burnt Toast Podcast is produced and hosted by Virginia Sole-Smith and Corinne Fay. Follow Virginia on Instagram, Follow Corinne @SellTradePlus, an Instagram account where you can buy and sell plus size clothing and subscribe to Big Undies.The Burnt Toast logo is by Farideh.
Our theme music is by Jeff Bailey and Chris Maxwell.Tommy Harron is our audio engineer.Thanks for listening and for supporting anti-diet, body liberation journalism.
This is a public episode. If youâd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit virginiasolesmith.substack.com/subscribe -
This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit virginiasolesmith.substack.com
Itâs time for your October Indulgence Gospel. And today⊠weâre going to look back at all of our Butters!
If youâre new here, Butter is the recommendation segment that runs at the end of every podcast episode. Butter is sometimes things you can buy, but it can also be a show or book we love, something great that we ate, a current mood, etc. Butter is any small moment of joy. (It can also, ofc, be literal butter, which we all know to be synonymous with joy.) But sometimes joy is fleeting!
So today, paid subscribers get to hear which Butters have stood the test of time:
Is Virginia still wearing her trad wife dress?
Does Corinne still love her $100 baseball hat?
Are we still into the bra that made us break up with underwire?
Plus a few low-key life-changing household appliances, Virginiaâs favorite thing about her bedroom, and what weâre definitely going to STOP recommending from now onâŠ
To hear the whole conversation or read the whole transcript, you'll need to become a paid Burnt Toast subscriber. Subscribe here.
If you are already a paid subscriber, youâll have this entire episode in your podcast feed and access to the entire transcript in your inbox and on the Burnt Toast Substack. You can also subscribe to Corinne's newsletter, Big Undies, for 20% off using this special link.
To get all of the links and resources mentioned in this episode, as well as a complete transcript, visit our show page.
Also, don't forget to order Fat Talk: Parenting In the Age of Diet Culture! Get your signed copy now from Split Rock Books (they ship anywhere in the USA). You can also order it from your independent bookstore, or from Barnes & Noble, Amazon, Target, Kobo or anywhere you like to buy books. (Or get the UK edition or the audiobook!)
Disclaimer: Virginia and Corinne are humans with a lot of informed opinions. They are not nutritionists, therapists, doctors, or any kind of healthcare providers. The conversation you're about to hear and all of the advice and opinions they give are just for entertainment, information, and education purposes only. None of this is a substitute for individual medical or mental health advice.
CREDITS
The Burnt Toast Podcast is produced and hosted by Virginia Sole-Smith (follow me on Instagram) and Corinne Fay, who runs @SellTradePlus, and Big Undiesâsubscribe for 20% off!
The Burnt Toast logo is by Deanna Lowe.
Our theme music is by Farideh.
Tommy Harron is our audio engineer.
Thanks for listening and for supporting anti-diet, body liberation journalism!
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Today Virginia is chatting with the delightful Julia Turshen!
Julia is a New York Times bestselling cookbook author, and today weâre celebrating her brand new cookbook What Goes With What. WGWW is built on the simple premise that if we understand what makes food delicious, we can feed ourselves well. Nobody understands this better than Julia, who has been excavating the rules, limitations, and hidden diet mindset of food writing for years now, and in doing so, offers us all a better, more straightforward way to think about food and making meals happen.
If you have ever felt overwhelmed by the deeply loaded question of âWhatâs for dinner?â Juliaâs work is a safe place to start figuring it all out.
You can order What Goes With What through the Burnt Toast Bookshop. Donât forget, you can always take 10 percent off that purchase if you also order (or have already ordered!) Fat Talk from Split Rock Books! (Just use the code FATTALK at checkout.)
To tell us YOUR thoughts, and to get all of the links and resources mentioned in this episode, as well as a complete transcript, visit our show page.
If you want more conversations like this one, please rate and review us in your podcast player! And become a paid Burnt Toast subscriber to get all of Virginia's reporting and bonus subscriber-only episodes.
Disclaimer: Virginia is a journalist and human with a lot of informed opinions. Virginia is not a nutritionist, therapist, doctor, or any kind of health care provider. The conversation you're about to hear and all of the advice and opinions she and her guests give are just for entertainment, information, and education purposes only. None of this is a substitute for individual medical or mental health advice.
FAT TALK is out! Order your signed copy from Virginia's favorite independent bookstore, Split Rock Books (they ship anywhere in the US!). Or order it from your independent bookstore, or from Barnes & Noble, Amazon, Target, or Kobo or anywhere else you like to buy books. You can also order the audio book from Libro.fm or Audible.
CREDITS
The Burnt Toast Podcast is produced and hosted by Virginia Sole-Smith and Corinne Fay. Follow Virginia on Instagram, Follow Corinne @SellTradePlus, an Instagram account where you can buy and sell plus size clothing and subscribe to Big Undies.The Burnt Toast logo is by Deanna Lowe.Our theme music is by FaridehTommy Harron is our audio engineer.Thanks for listening and for supporting anti-diet, body liberation journalism.
This is a public episode. If youâd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit virginiasolesmith.substack.com/subscribe -
This is a public episode. If youâd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit virginiasolesmith.substack.com/subscribe
Welcome to Indulgence Gospel After Dark! It's time for your October Extra Butter!
This month weâre diving into some big, hard questions, like:
How do you mourn big body changes?
What happens if your body size really is the reason you canât do something you used to love?
Does the âHealth At Every Sizeâ framework ever fail fat people?
When is it systemic oppression and when is it justâŠphysics?
OrâŠdo we all just need a Fat Day?
If you are already an Extra Butter subscriber, youâll have this entire episode in your podcast feed and access to the entire transcript in your inbox and on the Burnt Toast Substack. To get all of the links and resources mentioned in this episode, as well as a complete transcript, visit our show page.
Otherwise, to hear the whole conversation or read the whole transcript, you'll need to join Extra Butter. It's just $99 per year, and is the hands down best way to keep Burnt Toast an ad- and sponsor-free space.
PS. Don't forget to order Fat Talk: Parenting In the Age of Diet Culture! Get your signed copy now from Split Rock Books (they ship anywhere in the USA). You can also order it from your independent bookstore, or from Barnes & Noble, Amazon, Target, Kobo or anywhere you like to buy books. (Or get the UK edition or the audiobook!)
Disclaimer: Virginia and Corinne are humans with a lot of informed opinions. They are not nutritionists, therapists, doctors, or any kind of healthcare providers. The conversation you're about to hear and all of the advice and opinions they give are just for entertainment, information, and education purposes only. None of this is a substitute for individual medical or mental health advice.
CREDITS
The Burnt Toast Podcast is produced and hosted by Virginia Sole-Smith (follow me on Instagram) and Corinne Fay, who runs @SellTradePlus and Big Undiesâsubscribe for 20% off.
The Burnt Toast logo is by Deanna Lowe.
Our theme music is by Farideh.
Tommy Harron is our audio engineer.
Thanks for listening and for supporting anti-diet, body liberation journalism!
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This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit virginiasolesmith.substack.com
It's time for your Indulgence Gospel! And today weâre talking all things Fat Travel!
Weâll be answering your questions, sharing travel hacks, and just getting into the nitty gritty of how to be a fat person going places in the world.
And so much more!
To hear the whole conversation or read the whole transcript, you'll need to become a paid Burnt Toast subscriber. Subscribe here.
If you are already a paid subscriber, youâll have this entire episode in your podcast feed and access to the entire transcript in your inbox and on the Burnt Toast Substack. You can also subscribe to Corinne's newsletter, Big Undies, for 20% off using this special link.
To get all of the links and resources mentioned in this episode, as well as a complete transcript, visit our show page.
Also, don't forget to order Fat Talk: Parenting In the Age of Diet Culture! Get your signed copy now from Split Rock Books (they ship anywhere in the USA). You can also order it from your independent bookstore, or from Barnes & Noble, Amazon, Target, Kobo or anywhere you like to buy books. (Or get the UK edition or the audiobook!)
Disclaimer: Virginia and Corinne are humans with a lot of informed opinions. They are not nutritionists, therapists, doctors, or any kind of healthcare providers. The conversation you're about to hear and all of the advice and opinions they give are just for entertainment, information, and education purposes only. None of this is a substitute for individual medical or mental health advice.
CREDITS
The Burnt Toast Podcast is produced and hosted by Virginia Sole-Smith (follow me on Instagram) and Corinne Fay, who runs @SellTradePlus, and Big Undiesâsubscribe for 20% off!
The Burnt Toast logo is by Deanna Lowe.
Our theme music is by Farideh.
Tommy Harron is our audio engineer.
Thanks for listening and for supporting anti-diet, body liberation journalism!
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Today Virginia is chatting with Claire Ayoub. Claire is the writer and director of the brand new feature filmâopening tomorrow!!â called Empire Waist, a heartfelt comedy about teens learning to love their bodies through fashion design and friendship.
Empire Waist opens in movie theaters across the country tomorrow, September 27! Go to empirewaistfilm.com for screening info, or set an alert on Fandango. You can also download the Empire Waist Curriculum at empirewaistfilm.com/curriculum. And follow empirewaistfilm on Instagram.
To tell us YOUR thoughts, and to get all of the links and resources mentioned in this episode, as well as a complete transcript, visit our show page.
If you want more conversations like this one, please rate and review us in your podcast player! And become a paid Burnt Toast subscriber â subscriptions are just $7 per month! âto get all of Virginia's reporting and bonus subscriber-only episodes.
And donât forget to check out our Burnt Toast Podcast Bonus Content!
Disclaimer: Youâre listening to this episode because you value my input as a journalist who reports on these issues and therefore has a lot of informed opinions. Neither my guest today nor I are healthcare providers, and this conversation is not meant to substitute for medical or therapeutic advice.
FAT TALK is out! Order your signed copy from Virginia's favorite independent bookstore, Split Rock Books (they ship anywhere in the US!). Or order it from your independent bookstore, or from Barnes & Noble, Amazon, Target, or Kobo or anywhere else you like to buy books. You can also order the audio book from Libro.fm or Audible.
CREDITS
The Burnt Toast Podcast is produced and hosted by Virginia Sole-Smith and Corinne Fay. Follow Virginia on Instagram, Follow Corinne @SellTradePlus, an Instagram account where you can buy and sell plus size clothing and subscribe to Big Undies.The Burnt Toast logo is by Farideh.
Our theme music is by Jeff Bailey and Chris Maxwell.Tommy Harron is our audio engineer.Thanks for listening and for supporting anti-diet, body liberation journalism.
This is a public episode. If youâd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit virginiasolesmith.substack.com/subscribe -
Today Virginia is chatting with Nicola Salmon. Nicola is a leading voice for fat folks seeking fertility support, and author of the book Fat and Fertile.
As a fertility coach and fat activist, Nicola works to challenge the fertility industryâs entrenched weight bias and empower marginalized folks to take control of their reproductive health. (You may know her from Instagram.)
If you want more on this whole conversation, check out episode 29 of this podcast, where I talked through all of my reporting and the research on weight and fertility, as it stood at that point. And then go listen to episode two of Cult of Perfect, where we explored the fat mother narrativeâand the kind of healthcare that fat moms, and fat pregnant people, get.
To tell us YOUR thoughts, and to get all of the links and resources mentioned in this episode, as well as a complete transcript, visit our show page.
If you want more conversations like this one, please rate and review us in your podcast player! And become a paid Burnt Toast subscriber â subscriptions are just $7 per month! âto get all of Virginia's reporting and bonus subscriber-only episodes.
And donât forget to check out our Burnt Toast Podcast Bonus Content!
Disclaimer: Youâre listening to this episode because you value my input as a journalist who reports on these issues and therefore has a lot of informed opinions. Neither my guest today nor I are healthcare providers, and this conversation is not meant to substitute for medical or therapeutic advice. AND: If you are in the thick of your own fertility journey, and todayâs episode doesn't feel good for you to hear, please take good care.
FAT TALK is out! Order your signed copy from Virginia's favorite independent bookstore, Split Rock Books (they ship anywhere in the US!). Or order it from your independent bookstore, or from Barnes & Noble, Amazon, Target, or Kobo or anywhere else you like to buy books. You can also order the audio book from Libro.fm or Audible.
CREDITS
The Burnt Toast Podcast is produced and hosted by Virginia Sole-Smith and Corinne Fay. Follow Virginia on Instagram, Follow Corinne @SellTradePlus, an Instagram account where you can buy and sell plus size clothing and subscribe to Big Undies.The Burnt Toast logo is by Farideh.
Our theme music is by Jeff Bailey and Chris Maxwell.Tommy Harron is our audio engineer.Thanks for listening and for supporting anti-diet, body liberation journalism.
This is a public episode. If youâd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit virginiasolesmith.substack.com/subscribe -
This is a public episode. If youâd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit virginiasolesmith.substack.com/subscribe
Welcome to Indulgence Gospel After Dark! It's time for your September Extra Butter!
Today we are discussing... dating as a fat person! We'll get into navigating the apps, Corinne's rules for first dates, and why do so many cishet men post fishing pictures.
If you are already an Extra Butter subscriber, youâll have this entire episode in your podcast feed and access to the entire transcript in your inbox and on the Burnt Toast Substack. To get all of the links and resources mentioned in this episode, as well as a complete transcript, visit our show page.
Otherwise, to hear the whole conversation or read the whole transcript, you'll need to join Extra Butter. It's just $99 per year, and is the hands down best way to keep Burnt Toast an ad- and sponsor-free space.
PS. Don't forget to order Fat Talk: Parenting In the Age of Diet Culture! Get your signed copy now from Split Rock Books (they ship anywhere in the USA). You can also order it from your independent bookstore, or from Barnes & Noble, Amazon, Target, Kobo or anywhere you like to buy books. (Or get the UK edition or the audiobook!)
Disclaimer: Virginia and Corinne are humans with a lot of informed opinions. They are not nutritionists, therapists, doctors, or any kind of healthcare providers. The conversation you're about to hear and all of the advice and opinions they give are just for entertainment, information, and education purposes only. None of this is a substitute for individual medical or mental health advice.
CREDITS
The Burnt Toast Podcast is produced and hosted by Virginia Sole-Smith (follow me on Instagram) and Corinne Fay, who runs @SellTradePlus and Big Undiesâsubscribe for 20% off.
The Burnt Toast logo is by Deanna Lowe.
Our theme music is by Farideh.
Tommy Harron is our audio engineer.
Thanks for listening and for supporting anti-diet, body liberation journalism!
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Today Virginia is chatting with romance author Nisha Sharma, author of Marriage & Masti. We discuss Nisha's own writing and get into some big questions about the romance genre: What is happening with bodies? How do romance authors think about fatness? And where are all the fat male love interests already?
Marriage & Masti is available in the Burnt Toast Bookshop!
Donât forget, you can always take 10 percent off that purchase if you also order (or have already ordered!) Fat Talk from Split Rock Books! (Just use the code FATTALK at checkout.)
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Episode 157 Transcript
Virginia
Youâre listening to Burnt Toast! This is the podcast about diet culture, fatphobia, parenting, and health. Iâm Virginia Sole-Smith I also write the Burnt Toast newsletter.
Corinne
And Iâm Corinne Fay. I work on Burnt Toast and run SellTradePlus, an Instagram account where you can buy and sell plus sized clothing.
Virginia
We have so many good questions this month. A lot of parenting food questions. I think maybe because I just ran the lunchbox piece in the newsletter itâs on everybodyâs minds. But also, as usual, some fat fashion stuff. Clogs are coming up later. And Ozempic, because obviously. So itâs gonna be a good one.
Virginia
So before we dive in, how are you doing? Whatâs new with you, Corinne?
Corinne
Iâm doing well. One thing thatâs new with me is: I just signed up to do a powerlifting meet. So Iâm feeling nervous.
Virginia
Well, yeah. Is this like a competition thing, where people come and watch?
Corinne
I think so. I mean, obviously, Iâve never done something like this before. Itâs in Albuquerque, and itâs being run by my gym. And itâs all womenâs.
Virginia
That sounds very cool.
Corinne
Iâm just having a little of like, Oh, what did I do? Letâs see. Wow. Am I going to be the most amateur, weakest person there? I might.
Virginia
But youâll still be super strong and amazing. Because the weakest person at a powerlifting competition is still the strongest person in most other rooms.
Corinne
Thatâs a good point. And I think one great thing about lifting is, itâs really more about your own goals and competing with yourself. But still.
Virginia
So is it like whoever lifts the most is the winner?
Corinne
So my understanding is very loose, but I know there are different weight classes. So you compete against people who are roughly around the same size?.
Virginia
Interesting. Okay.
Corinne
And then I think itâs a cumulative weight of how much you lift, like combined squat, deadlift, bench press.
Virginia
Wow, thatâs so cool. Julia Turshen recently did one of these.
Corinne
I feel like I was slightly influenced by Julia Turshen.
Virginia
Did she enable you? Julia, good job! The pictures and videos she posted of it looked super exciting. And it looked like a very professional athletic setting. I would be intimidated for sure.
Corinne
The other thing that Iâm sure weâll end up talking about again, but you have to wear a singlet which is like, where am I gonna find a singlet? And knee socks.
Virginia
Knee socks! Why knee socks?
Corinne
Iâm like, oh my God, Iâm never gonna find knee socks that fit me, but Iâm trying to figure out if I can wear Universal Standard body shorts as a singlet, because I already have one of those.
Virginia
That feels like a great solution.
Corinne
Itâs singlet-esque? But I donât know what the actual requirements are.
Virginia
Girlfriend Collective also has a shorts body suit thing.
Corinne
I should look into that.
Virginia
But I feel like you should be able to work with what you have. Especially for your first one. Once youâre a pro and doing this all the time, youâll get, like, something with rhinestones.
Corinne
Once Iâm a sponsored Olympic athlete. Yes.
Virginia
I love that like weâre getting to follow along on the journey. Obviously weâre going to need another installment on this afterwards.
Corinne
Okay, yes. And just to be clear, the meet isnât until July, so, so I have a lot of time to think about it.
Virginia
Iâm just saying though. A few months ago, you were recommending Casey Johnston and her couch-to-barbell program. And you were like, âIâm just using a broomstick.â
Corinne
Itâs true.
Virginia
And now!
Corinne
Itâs true and now Iâm lifting actual pounds.
Virginia
Very, very cool.
Corinne
Yeah, whatâs new with you?
Virginia
I feel like whatâs new with me is that I am surviving, not thriving a little bit. So this is going to come out in mid-April. So weâll be two weeks out from book launch. So I will either be better or I will be way worse. I mean, having had two children, itâs sort of similar to the last month of pregnancy when youâre like, itâs all you can think about, this thing is happening, but you have no control over it. I mean, at least with the book, you know, like the date itâs coming. Which with pregnancy, they have yet to really figure out, unless youâre scheduling. But I counted it up this morning, I have recorded 18 podcasts so far. Of other peopleâs podcasts. Like for talking about the book. 18 peopleâs podcasts.
Corinne
Oh whoa. Thatâs wild.
Virginia
And like, seven of them were in the last week and a half? So I feel like my voice is hanging on by a thread. And Iâm just getting a little mush-brained about it. I need to step back a little.
Obviously, I am super grateful. I love that people want me to talk about the book. I love that people are excited about the book. I cannot wait for it to be out. But itâs just at a point where there are a lot of details. Like, review all the press release materials, review the marketing planâŠ. I forgot we were recording today. And itâs not the first thing Iâve forgotten. Like, I forgot the kids had a dentist appointment. We made it, but Iâm just like, my brain is holding too many pieces of information. Some things are getting dropped. Iâm just coming in with a sort of scattered energy. But Iâve got the Throat Coat Tea that Iâm living on right now. And weâre gonna do it!
Corinne
Do you have any upcoming book promo stuff that youâre really excited to do?
Virginia
Well, I did an interview yesterday that I canât talk about yet, because I donât think it will be out by the time this launches.
Corinne
Top secret.
Virginia
There are two top secret ones that will be coming out in the week or two after this podcast episode. And theyâre both very exciting. And I will say that I was very happy with my outfit for one. So that was good. And the other one the outfit matters less because it is not visual. I will say no more!
And yeah, that partâs been fun, actually figuring out clothes for like the book tour Dacy has been helping me and maybe some time weâll do a follow up about finding clothes for this. Because itâs a very specific level of, how dressy do you want to be versus comfortable? So maybe there will be an essay of what I wore for the book tour.
Corinne
I would love to read that.
Virginia
Okay, so weâre going to do some questions! The first one is a hot take opportunity. This came in over Instagram multiple times. People would like to know what we saw of Jia Tolentinoâs Ozempic piece in The New Yorker.
Corinne
Okay, well, now is my time to be embarrassed when I admit that I read it really lightly. I did a really light skim sort of read, and was like, seems fine. And then Iâve seen everyone else being like, âThis article is horrible.â And Iâve been like, wow, I really need to revisit that and find out why people are so upset.
Virginia
Iâm glad to hear people are saying theyâre upset! I felt like no one was talking about it at all for a little bit. And I was like, what is happening? I feel like the New York magazine piece came out, which I wrote about and that was not great. And then this piece comes out two weeks later, and Iâm just like, why? Why did it come out? Itâs the same piece really.
And I want to be clear that I love Jiaâs work. I loved Trick Mirror. I think she writes phenomenal stuff. The piece she did on Angela Garbes last year was just incredible. And this was⊠not that. It is very much centering the story on thin people who would like to be thinner if they take Ozempic. Thereâs one fat person interviewed for the story. And, you know, of course, every fat person is entitled to their own experience of fatness. But her quotes just reinforced so many stereotypes. She talks about wanting to lose weight because she feels like she canât hike or run at her current size. And itâs like, come on. We can do better.
Corinne
If you want to hike and run, you could work on hiking and running?
Virginia
Right! There are so many fat hikers and runners on Instagram.
Corinne
I thought the compounding pharmacy thing was kind of interesting.
Virginia
Oh, like explaining how sort of like loosey goosey it is and getting the drugs?
Corinne
Because Iâve seen a lot of people on TikTok being like, Iâm getting this patented drug from a compounding pharmacy. And Iâm like, wait, is that real? Like, what is that? So I thought that part was interesting.
Virginia
It was interesting. But when she goes through the process of getting it herself, I always just worryâthis is the eating disorder handbook stuff.
Corinne
True true. Youâre literally telling people how to do it.
Virginia
And I get that thatâs not hard to find. We all have Google. But is that something The New Yorker should be doing? Does The New Yorker need to teach us how to get our weight loss drugs? I donât know. I feel like the general trend in the Ozempic coverageâAnd this is not just Jia, not just New York Magazine. But by and large, this coverage has this underlying question of: If we have now found a silver bullet that will make people thin, does that mean we can just forget about anti fat bias? And that is so dark. We cannot just say, now that we have a way to make everybody thin, itâs okay to hate fat people, because we can just make them thin.
Corinne
Thatâs a good point.
Virginia
Iâm not judging anyoneâs individual decisions about this. But this larger discourse is not helpful. Thatâs my hot, grouchy take.
Corinne
Thatâs the hot take! I would love to know also, if any listeners have strong feelings about it?
Virginia
Yes. Comments are open!
Corinne
Okay, the next question is:
Q: The one thing I canât shake as a new mom is worrying about making my daughter fat. How do I shake that? I grew up fat and it was hard. I want better for her. But does that mean dieting?
Virginia
This is a very understandable fear. But no, it does not mean dieting.
Corinne
I want to validate this parentâs worries, because you're coming from a place where it sounds like you struggled a lot. And you donât want your kids to struggle, and that totally makes sense.
Virginia
I think what Iâm stuck on is, âI grew up fat and it was hard.â Yes, absolutely. Not denying that. But was it hard because you were fat? Or was it hard because the world made fat not okay?
And so, this is kind of the Ozempic thing, right? Is the answer to erase fatness by which we mean erase fat people? Or is the answer systemic change and unlearning this bias on a personal level? But I know, that is a terrible question. You cannot make all those systemic changes by yourself. That is not doable. So it is really, really hard.
Corinne
The one thing thatâs sort of not explicit in this question is whether the kid is actually fat.
Virginia
She says sheâs a new mom. So Iâm thinking she has a baby. So she probably doesnât know?
Corinne
Because my next thought was, you could talk to your kid about it being hard. But maybe not for a newborn.
Virginia
But maybe start now! Get the conversation going.
Corinne
Start thinking about it. You can talk to yourself about it. I think now might be a time to start therapy.
Virginia
Therapy, always a great option.
You are not going to make your daughter thin or fat. You donât actually control her body size. The number of factors that go into determining body sizes is this sort of endless and murky list, and no one really knows what are the largest drivers. But how you feed her, and how much you make her run around are not the largest drivers of her body size. And putting all your energy there is only going to cause damage, which you yourself probably know, because when you say it was hard, Iâm guessing that some kind of childhood dieting might have been a piece of that.
So I feel like we need to let you off the hook of the âIâm gonna make her fat.â She may be fat. There is nothing wrong with that. It is not your fault. And what she really needs is for you to unconditionally accept her body.
Corinne
I also think this could be a really good time to think of some advocacy you could do, whether thatâs looking into school policies about bullying or even at the legislative level, like laws about anti fat bias. Or just trying to be an advocate in your community for body liberation or fat liberation?
Virginia
I love that. And I just wanna say this is hard. It is really unfair that that is asked of us. But that is where we are on this issue. And weâre only going to make progress if we all approach it from that perspective.
Corinne
And I want to reiterate: The thing about bias is, the solution is never to get rid of the people weâre biased against. Or to change them somehow.
Virginia
Right. So itâs okay. Maybe your daughter is going to be fat and how are you going to support her and advocate for her and make your home a safe space for her body?
Corinne
All right, Iâm going to read the next one too:
Q: I am trying very hard to be very neutral about food with my son whoâs four years old. From the start, I have not labeled foods as good or bad. I have not restricted access to sweets or desserts. But lately, Iâve started questioning this. Iâve always felt pressure because I am not able to manage cooking meals. So from the start, my son was fed using a grazing technique where I would put together various foods and he would eat what he wanted. As he has gotten older, he is more specific in his tastes in a way that feels normal to me, pretty much macaroni and cheese or similar foods most of the time. There are other things he will eat, but I feel a lot of grief about my inability to get it together and provide regular hot balanced meals, also for myself.
Recently, Iâve been trying to limit his intake of sweets just a little bit and it feels like a backside but Iâve been confused. Only two cookies and even suggesting he eats something before he gets the cookies. This weekâs mailbag episode made me reorient when you talked about not doing this and reminded me why I wanted to avoid this restriction based language. And I admit the reason I started thinking about this was twofold. I filled out a research survey that made me admit a lot of things about our household eating that I feel low level guilty about and I felt the sting of perceived societal shaming.
And my son started talking about treats. I was a bit miffed as categorizing something as a treat, as opposed to food which he labeled the rest as, was something I was trying to avoid. Then I realized this could have come from daycare television, the fact that we give the dog treats, and so I am overreacting. I find itâs so hard to be consistent in my parenting in many avenues and food encroaches on that too. Giving food as a reward for example, this is something I do for myself, and I like it. But perhaps it is part of the problem of saving food for a special occasion as opposed to having it because you want it.
I need some perspective, please. Is it ever useful to direct a child to a more balanced diet as opposed to just modeling it? I do not mean telling them that specific foods help your eyes. What a relief to see that debunked, but more that many foods are yummy. And basically some form of kid specific âeverything in moderation.â
Virginia
The first thing I want to say is: You are doing a great job. You are feeding your child. It does not matter that you are not cooking. And that the food is not hot or homemade. It does not matter at all. You are meeting your sonâs needs by making sure he is fed every day, and making sure that he has enough to eat in order to grow. Thatâs the most important thing and youâre doing it. Youâre winning! Youâre doing great.
And this really drives home for me the stigma we have around the idea that you canât feed kids processed foods, you have to cook meals. All of this is so unhelpful because there are just so many reasons why that model of family meals is not a good fit. There could be disability issues. There could be cost issues, time bandwidth issues, all sorts of hurdles. There could also just be that you donât like cooking. You can still be a good parent and not like cooking. Itâs not a requirement. SoI just want to encourage you to take some of the shame away.
Corinne
Thatâs a great place to start. I totally agree. I was thinking about the study that you mention in FAT TALK about how it doesnât matter what youâre eating and it much more matters that kids are just eating.
Virginia
Oh, thatâs a quote from Katherine Zavodni, whoâs one of my favorite pediatric dietitians. So teaser for everyone who hasnât read the book yet, but itâs a quote that I want to put on our fridge! She says, âThe most important thing about good nutrition is making sure kids have enough to eat.â Because if you have enough to eat, all the minutiae of micronutrients, and macronutrients tends to work itself out.
Now, obviously, there are kids with severe food issues like feeding disorders, allergies or other medical conditions where it may be more complicated. Their nutritional needs may be more specific. But if your kid is not dealing with one of those things, and has enough to eat on any given day, you have done your job as a parent.
Corinne
And you also talked about the studies on family meals, right? And how the benefits come from eating together rather than making sure itâs a home-cooked meal.
Virginia
Iâm so glad you brought that up. All the research on family dinners, which talks about how important they are for kidsâ overall well-being and healthâitâs because families are spending time together. So you could do that around breakfast, you could do that around a snack, you could do that in ways that have nothing to do with food. Like maybe you regularly have a long car ride to commute to school and work together. And thatâs when you talk and catch up on your day. Kids need connected time with their caregivers. Food is just one helpful way to do it.
Corinne
It doesnât matter if you are eating snack plates, or macaroni.
Virginia
Some of my most connected meals with my kids are when weâre eating takeout or bowls of Cheerios for dinner! Because everyone is relaxed and you can focus on each other. And youâre not in this place of, âI put all this work into this meal and nobody likes it.â.
So then letâs talk about feeling like you need to limit his intake of sweets. I think youâre going there because youâre feeling ashamed about what youâre doing. So Iâm hoping just lifting some of the shame lets you step back from that a little bit.
I also think the research shows pretty clearly that requiring kids to eat in very specific ways, like micromanaging their plate by saying âyou have to eat something else before you get the cookiesâ or âonly two cookies,â does not. in the long-term, serve kidsâ relationship with food. It tends to result in kids who are overly fixated on the foods that have a lot of rules around them. Youâre going to find yourself in power struggles where itâs like, why only two cookies, why not three cookies, why not two and a half cookies.
Donât feel bad that youâve done this, because I think we all get into these sort of panic moments where we do this because weâre just struggling and it feels like the âright thing to do.â But I donât think it will ultimately serve you or serve your child. I think modeling eating a variety of foods is the best thing we can do. And even using phrases like âbalanceâ or âeverything in moderation,â I donât love because not every day is going to be about moderation. And that can turn into a rule. Because what is âmoderation?â
And then the last thing Iâll say is, I think we touched on this in a previous episode. But I donât think treat needs to be a bad word. Yes, we give the dog treats. Dogsâ existences are largely treat-based, at least in my house. We give ourselves food as rewards when weâre stressed out or we need some extra comfort. When we talk about keeping all foods neutral, I think we can take it too far, to this place where it feels like weâre not supposed to have any feelings about food at all. And that is not realistic or fair, or in line with how humans interact with foods.
So we do use the word treat in our house. And this came up with the lunchbox piece because I have a category of treats on the little chart I made for Beatrix and folks were like, âI canât believe you have a treat category.â And I realized they had a different definition of that word. If you donât have restrictive rules around when or how much treats you can eat, then treat is a neutral word. It just means foods that feel extra fun. Just something extra fun you want to have on your plate along with your other foods. And if youâre not saying âwe only eat treats once a day,â or âwe only eat treats on Saturdays;â if itâs not paired with restrictive language, then itâs still keeping foods neutral. Does that make sense?
Corinne
I think especially with the lunch box example, youâre using treat as a category to make sure youâre getting a treat. That seems really positive.
Virginia
Because I want them to know that those foods are welcome in their lunchboxes. Yes.
Corinne
Or required, even!
Virginia
None of itâs required, Corinne, they can skip the treat if they want! But itâs a part of the meal.
Corinne
Maybe thatâs a way that this person could reframe it. It feels like youâre hearing your kid say treat and thinking theyâre feeling like itâs something to be restricted. When could you be like, âLetâs make sure youâre getting enough treats.â
Virginia
Thatâs a great re-framing. I hope this helps. This is a big question. And I can tell youâre working through a lot of big stuff. So we would like an update. Please keep us posted!
Corinne
Youâre doing a great job.
Virginia
Yes.
Corinne
Iâm gonna read the next one as well.
Q: My daughter is in fifth grade. At school sheâs often given food in addition to what she brings for her lunch and snacks. Candy is handed out as an incentive. Snacks, as well as non-edible items, are available to purchase with Classroom Bucks earned for good behavior. Several days a week she has after school activities that include a good deal of snacking. For the most part, Iâve accepted that I have no control over what she eats when sheâs away from me.
However, she is regularly coming home not hungry for the dinner Iâve prepared. Itâs becoming more frequent lately that sheâll snack so much at school, and at after school activities, that she will eat only a couple bites of dinner, and occasionally nothing at all. Dinners are usually meals she likes and she always has the opportunity to choose a backup option if she doesnât. So I donât think itâs an issue of filling up because she wonât get food she likes at dinner. She chooses and packs her own lunch and snack. We generally have a rule that if you put it on the grocery list, Mom will buy it, which is to say she has a lot of control of choice and regular access to candy and snack foods, both at home and in her lunch.
Is it diet culture to expect her to come to dinner ready to eat? Or is it valid for me to feel miffed that sheâs already full? And yeah, I realize weâll all have an off day or skip a meal once in a while. This is becoming a regular occurrence though.
Virginia
I donât think itâs diet culture exactly. I think itâs performative parenting culture a little bit, where we are very tied to this idea that, again, the family dinner is this all-important cornerstone of the day, where we have to provide a certain kind of meal. And that it is only successful if our children eat the meal. If they participate in, and enjoy the meal. And even if weâre like, âthey can choose how much theyâre hungry for,â if they donât want to eat it at all, itâs really hard.
I say this from extensive personal experience. Itâs really hard to not feel like you failed because youâre like, âI just spent 40 minutes making this and you ate two bites and ran away.â
But what I also want to say is: 9 out of 10 family dinners in my house involve one or both children eating two bites of the meal and running away. I think itâs very, very, very common at sort of all ages. And yes, it is often because they had a lot of snacks in the afternoon. Because that is when they were really hungry and needed to eat. And so my expectation that 5:30 or 6:00 pm is when weâre all going to sit down and eat this big meal together is out of line with the reality of at 3:30 or 4:30 pm, they are ravenous and need to eat. And so weâre just always going to have that mismatch and it is what it is. Nobody needs to feel bad.
Corinne
This relates back a little to the parent whoâs feeling guilty about not cooking meals. Itâs kind of the flip side where this parent is cooking meals and feeling bad about them.
Virginia
I also want to speak to the piece about food given out at school. I donât love candy being handed out as an incentive in class. And that is not because I donât want the kids eating the candy. Itâs because I think it does play into making candy seem so special and coveted. And for kids who have more restrictive relationships with candy at home, I donât feel like itâs helpful. Does that make sense? I donât have a problem with there being a birthday party in class and everyoneâs eating cupcakes or candy just being there, like if the teacher just wants to have a candy jar on their desk and kids can help themselves. But itâs layering on the messages about earning the candy that I really donât love. Because diet culture is going to teach kids so many different ways that you have to earn your treats.
But I have not figured out a way to eradicate this practice from the American public school system. Itâs a very common tactic. And I think teachers have very, very hard jobs and if handing out M&Ms for getting math problems right makes it easier to do their job? I donât know, man, I think thatâs where we are.
Corinne
Yeah.
Virginia
And if itâs happening in the context of, your child also has all this great regular access to candy and treats because like you said, youâre involving her in the grocery list and lunch packing and all that, then I donât think it being handed out as an incentive is going to do that much damage.They can understand that at school, M&Ms are being given as a reward. And at home, there is a bag of M&Ms that I can just eat.
Corinne
With the teachers handing out candy as incentives, Iâm worried more about the kids who are not getting candy as incentives.
Virginia
Oh, what a terrible message. Thatâs so sad. You did this wrong. No candy for you. It is tricky. And I mean, I donât mind kids purchasing snacks with Classroom Bucks. That feels a little more diffuse to me. Thatâs giving them some independence. And after school activities should include snacks because the majority of children are starving after school.
I think the key here is donât demonize the way sheâs eating because sheâs getting her needs met. Just maybe take some pressure off yourself. If dinner is usually something she likes, if thereâs an option to choose a backup option and she doesnât, then sheâs just not hungry.
Corinne
And maybe that can take some of the pressure off dinner. Like maybe you just make a snack plate.
Virginia
Something simpler. Or make something youâre really excited to eat.
Corinne
Something you like!
Virginia
Thatâs what I often do when I can tell the kids are not in like super dinner oriented phases. Iâm like, Okay, then Iâm picking what I want. And we also do a bedtime snack. And in fifth grade, sheâs probably staying up late enough that sheâs up a few hours after dinner. And if she was really hungry for dinner at 3pm, and then she wasnât that hungry for real dinner at 6pm, by 8 or 9pm, she probably needs something before she goes to bed.
Alright, should I read the next one?
Q: My question is about restricting food, not for dietary reasons, but because of the financial and waste concerns. My spouse and I wince when we see our kids drowning their waffles in maple syrup and leaving a plateful of it, eating all the prepackaged expensive foods we try to save for their lunches and eating all the Girl Scout cookies so they donât have to share them with a sibling.
Iâve told my kids that they never need to hide food, but I find them doing so in order to get the last of something like the Oreos they want to keep from their brother. I buy Oreos every time we go to the store, and our house has plenty of sweets and other snack foods, but eventually we will run out of things. How do we keep them out of the scarcity mindset while still dealing with the realities of eating with a family?
I really feel you on the syrup. Itâs so expensive.
Corinne
I know I was thinking youâre basically watching your kid pour gold on their pancakes.
Virginia
Itâs so much.
Corinne
I mean this whole question is relatable to me. I definitely had some anxiety growing up about like, I feel like my dad would always eat stuff that I wanted, like leftovers or like the last cookie or something, you know?
Virginia
Yeah, itâs really tricky because the bummer answer to this is: A finance-based scarcity mindset can be just as damaging as a diet-culture based scarcity mindset.
Corinne
So true.
Virginia
Kids who grow up without enough to eat, or with this sort of ever-present worry about there being enough to eat often end up with some disordered eating stuff down the road, understandably, because when there is food, theyâll feel like, âI have to eat it all. Because I donât know what Iâm going to eat it again.â Itâs totally logical. So this can be really tough. And Iâm not sure from this question, if you are struggling to afford these foods? Is there a true food insecurity issue in your house? Or if itâs more just, you are on a budget.
Corinne
You only go grocery shopping once a week and Oreos donât last the whole week.
Virginia
So Iâm not sure which one weâre dealing with. But I just want to say if affording food is really hard for you, then obviously, your first priority is getting whatever support you can around that. Which could be finding out if youâre eligible for SNAP benefits, making sure your kids are on the school lunch program, all the stuff that I am sure you are already doing. And donât need me to explain to you.
If itâs more just the âGood God, that was a $9 bottle of syrupâ moment, I think itâs okay to say to kids, âThis is a more expensive food.â So weâre going to be mindful of that. With syrup, if you have little ramekins or bowls, you can say, âWeâre going to give everyone their own syrup.â And pour generously! Donât flood the plate the way they would flood the plate, but pour generously enough so that every kid feels like they have their own and they donât have to share it.
We do this sometimes with something like brownies. Or if we have cake or some dessert that we donât have as often. When I know the kids are going to be really excited about it, I often will just go ahead and portion it out. Not because Iâm trying to control how much they eat. But because I want them to know, âIâm definitely getting mine.â
This actually just happened with Cadbury Mini Eggs, which are just a prime example of a scarcity mindset food because you can only get them for a month a year and theyâre the best candy. Itâs so hard! Dan brought home a big family-size bag from the grocery store. And between me and the girls, it was gone by the next night and he was like, âReally? Really? There are none left?â I think he was mad he didnât get any. But I was like, âYeah, no there are none left.â I know that you thought that was a big bag, but we havenât had these in ages and weâre all real jazzed about it.
Corinne
You need to start portioning out some for Dan.
Virginia
I suppose that would have been nice of me.
Corinne
So if youâre portioning out the brownieâwhat does that mean? Like you cut the brownies into four squares and give everyone a square?
Virginia
I usually give everyone two squares because I feel one brownie is never enough.
Corinne
Oh, you cut them into normal sized pieces.
Virginia
Oh yes. I just cut up the brownies. But rather than put the pan of brownies in the middle of the table, which might make everyone worry, like, âAm I going to get the piece I want?â Especially because, in my household, center-of-the-pan brownies are highly coveted. Itâs a whole thing. So Iâll just go ahead and be like, âHereâs your center brownie.â So they donât have to be anxious about whether theyâll get one.
Maybe also, talk to your kids about which foods they worry about wanting the most. Itâs useful to know what that is. So you can think about how to ease up that fear, in a way that is in line with your budget. But maybe the kid whoâs hiding the Oreos, you buy them their own jumbo bag of Oreos and they donât have to share. And maybe if thatâs in your budget, you do that for a few weeks and see how that goes. And maybe every kid gets their own favorite snack food in that kind of quantity, which they donât have to share with a sibling. And then itâs understood that all the other stuff is shared. Itâs not teaching restriction or scarcity to say, âOkay, letâs make sure everyone has their seconds before you have thirds.â Thatâs manners. Thatâs okay.
Corinne
Or to maybe just one week buy like super extra amounts of Oreos and be like, eat as many Oreos as you want this week.
Virginia
And see what they do with that. That would be interesting.
Corinne
All right. Hereâs a question for you: How comfortable are your Charlotte Stone clogs?
Virginia
They are comfortable for clogs, is what I would say. And I love clogs very much. But they are a little bit of a scam in that they are not actually the most comfortable shoe. So I do not equate them to sneakers. For sure sneakers are more comfortable. Birkenstocks are more comfortable. But I wear my Charlotte Stone clogs the way other people might wear a ballet flat, or a loafer, like a dressier shoe. And I feel like no dressy shoe is ever really that comfortable. Theyâre pinchy or they give you blisters. And so by that standard, these are quite comfortable. Because they have a built-in memory foam padding situation. So youâre not walking on a block of wood the way you are with some clogs. I feel like I got shin splints from those, back in the day. Theyâre definitely more comfortable than that. But I wore them downtown yesterday. And I did move my car to avoid walking two blocks because it was uphill. So I donât wear them for extensive walking.
Corinne
But you would say theyâre more comfortable than some clogs?
Virginia
I think yes. Of the various cute clog brands.
Corinne
Fashion clogs.
Virginia
They are the most comfortable fashion clog I have tried and I have tried probably three or four brands. Like theyâre better than Number Six. Theyâre better than Swedish Hasbeens.
Corinne
My issue is that clogs are always too narrow for me. I can never find clogs that fit.
Virginia
Yeah, and I mean I have narrower feet, so I donât know how useful Charlotte Stone is on that front.
Corinne
They do have a lot of sizing info. I tried some Charlotte Stone non-clogs, like they had a cute sneaker-ish thing, because they go up to size 12. Which should be what my size is, but they were way too narrow. Like I could not even get my foot in.
Virginia
Thatâs such a bummer. Somebody could get into the wide width clog market and do very well.
Corinne
Oh God, seriously. I found one clog that works for wide-ish feet. Itâs called Haga Trotoffel or something.
Virginia
That sounded like a very accurate pronunciation.
Corinne
Iâve had a pair, but itâs the non-padded pure wood kind. So itâs just not super comfortable to me.
Virginia
Those are rough. Ever since I sprained my ankle, I am very cautious. Where am I going to wear these clogs? What sort of terrain am I walking? I really want to find some cute ones with a strap at the back for more stability. I think Charlotte Stone has ones with a strap that Iâm thinking about trying, except I donât need more clogs.
Corinne
Number Six also has some that are really cute and the base is almost flat. That might be more uncomfortable. I donât know.
Virginia
Well I wear the lowest height Charlotte Stone clog. I do not go for their super platforms. I am not 22. That chapter of my life is closed. But theyâre not a Dansko clog! Letâs be clear. And, I would say to be realistic that if you live on the east coast, or the Midwest, theyâre like, a three month a year shoe. Theyâre great in the spring. Theyâre great in the fall. Theyâre going to be too hot in the summer and theyâre going to be useless in the winter. So factor that in.
Okay, so next up:
Q: I have a question about chafing. Since giving birth for the second time in 2021, my body has changed and I probably fall in the small fat category. Iâve dealt with chafing between my thighs and in the summers before, but now that I have to wear outside clothes and get out of the house more, I am dealing with chafing in the groin area even in the winter, which is the thing I didnât I donât have prior experience with. I am looking for recommendations for underwear that have a wide enough gusset to hopefully prevent this. And any other tips to be more comfortable in this regard with this new body of mine?
Corinne, youâre the underwear queen!
Corinne
I have a lot of thoughts about this.
Virginia
You are the resident Burnt Toast underwear expert.
Corinne
My first thought is: Are we sure this is a chafing issue?
Virginia
Oh, what else could it be?
Corinne
Well, another thing that can happen when you become fat is you get irritation in your skin folds area. So just something to throw out there, because Iâve heard people having confusion around that before. Itâs like a yeast infection you can get in your skin folds. Itâs like a diaper rash. And you can treat it with diaper rash cream or zinc cream.
Virginia
Aquaphor?
Corinne
No! Aquaphor? Isnât Aquaphor like Vaseline?
Virginia
Yeah, but I used it on my kidsâ butts when they had diaper rash.
Corinne
Okay, well, maybe I donât know anything about diaper rash.
Virginia
Maybe that was a bad move.
Corinne
I feel like a lot of diaper rash cream has zinc in it, and it coats your skin to protect it.
Virginia
I know what youâre talking about now.
Corinne
In terms of wider gusset underwear, there are not a lot of good options. The one option that I have found out about which I have not tried but have ordered and am currently waiting on is this underwear from the brand Panty Drop. Iâm kind of confused about whatâs going on with them because it seems like they merged with another brand which was Kade & Vos. Okay. But they claimed to have wider gusset underwear.
And another thing you could consider would be boxers or boxer briefs.
Virginia
I was wondering about even a boyâs short underwear. Something that has a longer thigh situation.
Corinne
It goes down further.
Virginia
Or bike shorts as underwear.
Corinne
And I mean, people definitely make chafing shorts.
Virginia
Yes! I just ordered some from Snag.
Corinne
People also like Thigh Society. So you could shop around and look for chafing shorts that you could just wear as underwear.
Virginia
Right, just under your jeans or other hard pants, And where are you on MegaBabe or the other chafing balms? Do you have one you like?
Corinne
I have MegaBabe. I almost never need it. Just, whatever way that Iâm designed, itâs not an issue for me right now.
Virginia
I get chafing but I havenât tried MegaBabe. I actually have a very low tech hack. But I use Old Spice antiperspirant, which is my husbandâs antiperspirant, and I use that as my antiperspirant. And so then I just put it between my thighs as well. And I find that holds up pretty well. I sometimes have to reapply it during the day, like on a very hot day. And one of the reasons I think I donât wear dresses as much anymore is, chafing is an automatic reality in dresses. And some shorts too, depending on how theyâre cut. So we feel you. This is a reality of fat life for sure!
Corinne
If you have fat friends, you can talk to them about it because a lot of people have this problem.
VIrginia
Itâs an evergreen conversation. Everyone will have opinions.
Corinne
Okay, next question:
Q: Any tips on changing the dialogue with mom friends or friends in general who are progressive and informed otherwise, but still mired in diet culture? I feel like Iâm the only one who isnât intermittent fasting or doing keto.
Virginia
I posted a meme on Instagram today, there was something like to all the women who are bullying each other to order salads, arenât you so sad that you hate your life so much. And my DMs are currently flooded with people asking some version of this question: How do I keep going out to dinner with my friends who are so in this space? One person was telling me about being out to dinner and this group of women were trying to split tacos. Like tacos are small to start with. And they were all like, âWell, I canât eat a whole one.â
Corinne
Iâm like, âAm I ordering 9 or 12.â
Virginia
Correct. The number of tacos I need to be full is a very high number. I would not split one in two. Itâs already only two bites!
Corinne
Itâs like trying to split a popsicle.
Virginia
Itâs a total mess. So I feel like my first piece of advice is, can you make new friends? Iâm sorry. Iâm sorry. I know.
Corinne
My first piece of advice is just like, Man up. Tell them you donât want to talk about it.
Virginia
Thatâs better than mine.
Corinne
I mean, maybe itâs harsh. Itâs a little tough love. Your advice is good too. Thereâs gotta be other people out there who are sick of this. Like, every person I know could benefit from some examination of their relationship with diet culture. So I just feel like, you canât be the only one whoâs struggling.
Virginia
There are almost 30,000 people subscribed to this newsletter, who probably feel the same way as you because why else are they reading the newsletter and listening to this podcast?.
Corinne
Okay. Actually, this is a little off topic. But can I tell you something? So, as previously discussed, I go to the gym. I have a trainer there. And this week, when I saw her, she was like, âHey, so this person contacted me who found me through Burnt Toast.â
Virginia
Yay!
Corinne
So Iâm just saying what that basically means is there is another person in the city that I live in, whoâs reading Burnt tToast who I donât know. And none of my friends know.
Virginia
Right! But who maybe would be an awesome friend.
Corinne
Or who at least also has some skepticism of diet culture stuff. So thatâs got to be true for you as well.
Virginia
And you have powerlifting in common! Yes, in my close group of friends, we really never talk about this. And maybe itâs because they read the newsletter and know that Iâm not the friend for this.
Corinne
Theyâre scared.
Virginia
But we have so many better conversations because this is off the table for us. And we never made a conscious decision to do it. It just kind of happened. I do feel like in the past, we had more diet-y conversations. And weâve all kind of shifted away from it. And itâs been lovely and great for our friendships. And so maybe you do need to officially say it to these people: I love you. But I just donât want to talk about diets. This really isnât good for me. I just end up feeling shitty about myself. And there are so many more interesting things to talk about here.
Corinne
Yeah. I think itâs good for people to know that too. If people are totally unaware that talking about their diets constantly is hurting people, then they should know. And they deserve to know that.
Virginia
Completely agree. And often this talk is very performative because we think we have to talk this way. And so you being the first one to say, âWhat if we just ordered what we wanted to eat and didnât do this whole dance?â I call it like playing the game of Salad Chicken, where youâre like,âCould I order the pasta? No, not if sheâs ordering the salad.â Like, if you could not do that? Man, dinner is gonna be way more fun. So just give people permission to not do it and see what happens.
And if they really canât get there, then I circle back to: Can you have other friends? Or can you say to them, I donât want to spend our time talking about this but Iâm really sorry youâre struggling and how can I support you?
Corinne
Oh my God, I love the idea of responding to someone whoâs excited about intermittent fasting with, âIâm sorry, youâre struggling.â
Virginia
How can I support you in this starvation?
Corinne
Iâm so sorry that youâre not eating food.
Virginia
Youâre right. That might not be the moment.
Corinne
No, I like it.
Virginia
I think it could work? I think itâs an option.
Corinne
I mean, I think this is also that sort of situation where you can be like, âItâs so interesting that weâre all so focused on our weird diets.â
Virginia
The patented Corinne âItâs so interesting!â
Corinne
Just an anthropological, outsider observation.
Virginia
Itâs always, always a good moment for that. All right. Should we do Butter?
Corinne
Yes. I do have a Butter. What I want to recommend is this recipe called Trouble Cookies. Itâs from a cookbook called Mother Grains, but itâs also on the Bon Appetit website. And I feel like itâs a little annoying to recommend because it does have a really annoying to find ingredient which is sorghum flour.
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Virginia
Oh Lord.
Corinne
But you can order it from the internet!
Virginia
Corinne will find a link for you.
Corinne
Bobâs Red Millâs has it. So if you have that kind of grocery store. Anyways, they also have coconut cashews and toffee bits and are extremely delicious. Iâve been trying to get my mom to make them for like a month and now Iâm moving on to the Burnt Toast community. Please make Trouble Cookies and tell me how good they are.
Virginia
I will try them. I will report back if I can get it together to get sorghum flour. I could use a new cookie. Weâre just a standard chocolate chip cookie household.
Corinne
I feel like chocolate chip cookies are good. But sometimes, a different direction is really good, too.
Virginia
Is there chocolate in it?
Corinne
No, itâs coconut toffee bits cashews.
Virginia
Could I put chocolate chips in instead of the toffee bits.
Corinne
I mean, I feel like you could? But itâs really good. Do you not like caramel-y, coconut-y stuff?
Virginia
Amy will tell you it is very hard for me to have a dessert that doesnât have chocolate in it.
Corinne
Okay, this one is not for you.
Virginia
Iâm just always like, but whereâs the chocolate?
Corinne
Oh my God.
Virginia
What am I doing here?
Corinne
Iâm the opposite. And I mean, I really like chocolate. But I also really like a coconut-y caramel-y vibe.
Virginia
I do too. Iâm just like, but how much better if there was chocolate. Thatâs all Iâm saying.
Corinne
I feel like maybe you could dip it in chocolate?
Virginia
All right. I donât know. Iâll try them out. Iâll report back. Maybe Iâll do half the batch with the toffee, half the batch with the chocolate chips. I can tell you my kids wonât touch them if thereâs no chocolate. So thatâs like a non-starter.
Corinne
Really? Wow.
Virginia
Oh, please.
Corinne
I feel like a lot of kids donât like chocolate.
Virginia
That is not the case in the Sole-Smith home. See previous anecdote regarding Mini Eggs consumed in a day. And center brownies. Itâs very clear what weâve come here to do.
Corinne
All right, whatâs your Butter?
Virginia
All right, my Butter is, I am breaking up with underwire bras. Breaking news.
Corinne
This is big news.
Virginia
Youâve all been wondering. Iâm not totally breaking up with them because I havenât quite found a non-underwire bra that works under every outfit. Because there can be a uniboob situation? But I have recently purchased some non-underwire bras. And I realize now that I donât know how I made it through the whole pandemic while still wearing underwire bras every day. Every day!
Corinne
Me neither! I feel like when we originally talked about bras on a mailbag episode, I recommended the bras that you ended up getting.
Virginia
The True & Co bras?
Corinne
Yes! And you were like, âOh, never heard of them.â
Virginia
Well, you influenced me. And then Marielle Elizabeth really influenced me. And I bought a bunch of them and theyâre awesome.
Corinne
Theyâre really good. The sizing is super flexible. I can wear anywhere from a 1x to a 3x. And I have a big chest.
Virginia
You do have to look for the full cup. Because I ordered some that were like a half cup and they do not work if you are someone with a big chest.
Corinne
Yes, they have full cups and regular cups.
Virginia
So you have to look for the full cup. I can only find them on Amazon right now. I donât know.
Corinne
Theyâre only on Amazon now.
Virginia
Itâs really irritating. I would like there to be other options. But the other one Iâm wearing a lot of, is I have some of the Paloma bras from Girlfriend Collective. And actually, this one isnât the Paloma, itâs the high necked? I donât know. But I like it because it feels just like a tank.
Yeah, I donât know why itâs taken me so long to get here. I will be 42 a few weeks after you hear this episode. Itâs taken me a while. But now, I realize that I donât have to accept permanent marks on the side of my body from bras. Like what was I doing? I think I thought I really needed more structure. Iâll unpack it all in an essay at some point. But for now, I just want to report the liberation that I am wearing underwire bras much less frequently. And itâs delightful.
Corinne
I love that.
Virginia
All right. Thank you all so much for listening to Burnt Toast!
Corinne
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Laura is a Registered Nutritionist who specializes in responsive feeding and anti-diet, body affirming nutrition. Her work centers on helping parents and families end inter-generational dieting and body shame, and work towards a greater sense of embodiment and ease in their relationship with food. She writes the newsletter Can I Have Another Snack? and is the author of two books; Just Eat It and How to Just Eat It.
Laura did an awesome three part series on her newsletter last summer, and as soon as I read it, I knew I wanted to have her on the podcast to discuss. Weâll be getting into:
* What even is an Ultra-Processed Food?
* What does the research tell us about how UPFs impact our health?
* How should we be thinking about the current UPF discourse?
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