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Have you ever been in a conflict with someone and came out feeling like a victim? Or do you find yourself in dysfunctional relationships where communication between each other is difficult? Whether at work or at home, you might find yourself trapped in the dreaded Karpman drama triangle. In psychology, it is used to describe a cycle where we can find ourselves in one of these 3 common roles the "victim," "persecutor" or "rescuer." In this episode, our guest David Emerald Womeldorff will dive into how you can learn to escape the Drama Triangle and feel more empowered in your communication and relationships.
David’s biography:
Drawing on over 30 years of experience in in leadership development, leading through change, self-leadership, and employee engagement, David is the author of 2 best-selling books, The Power of TED (The Empowerment Dynamic), as well as 3 Vital Questions: Transforming Workplace Drama. Both of his books draw on his extensive experience in the field, and David also served for 20 years as a senior consultant for The Leadership Circle and as an Executive Coach at the University of Notre Dame's Executive Leadership Program. He shares his frameworks to inspires individuals and organisations to reach new levels of collaboration through empowering relationships and work from an outcome-focused and passion-powered orientation. In this episode, we dive deep into answering the following thorny questions:
0:00 - Intro
2:25 - How did David get started?
5:35 - What is the difference between victimization and victimhood?
8:00 - What is the karpman drama triangle?
9:55 - How can you break free of the drama triangle (The Empowerment Dynamic)?
13:00 - Why focusing on outcomes instead of which version of current reality is correct is key.
15:40 - What are the 3 vital questions to end workplace conflict?
18:45 - How can you shift from a reactive response to problems to a more empowering response instead?
24:35- What are the common causes of workplace drama?
26:00 - What are the 3 reactive strategies to challenges that are unhelpful?
29:20 - How can you stop yourself from being reactive to problems?
31:30 - How to create more positive relationship dynamics
34:07 - How do you develop leaders in the workplace
38:35 - What are the characteristics of high performing leaders?
42:50 - How to give constructive feedback from a growth mindset?
45:15 - What happens if the person receiving the feedback is being defensive
48:40 - How can individual employees create psychological safety in their workplace culture
52:10 - When is conflict at work unhealthy
55:00 - Are there generational differences to consider in workplace drama
56:55 - How can you effectively lead those who are neurodiverse
59:00 - What is David’s one wellbeing practice?
Learn more about David:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/david-emerald-womeldorff-bab4494/
Helpful resource:
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Life is full of ups and downs, and it can be easy to let the bad things that are happening to you result in negative emotions that completely take over. Have you ever felt out of control with your anger or had very intrusive thoughts? Or you have been thinking about how you can better regulate your emotions? If so, this is the episode for you! Our guest today is Dr Cristian Conte, who will share with us some simple techniques behind anger management to help you calmly cope with the trials of everyday life, which can make a world of difference to your wellbeing.
Christian’s Biography:
Dr. Christian Conte is a world-renowned Level-V anger management expert, a licensed professional counsellor and author of a dozen books. From working with celebrities to hall of fame athletes, from elite military personnel to people on death row and everyone in between, Dr. Conte has spent over 25 years helping people deal with their anger. Although Dr. Conte specialises in working with some of the most dangerous individuals on the planet, his passion now is in training others in how to communicate effectively, regardless of the intensity of the situation. Helping you speak in ways that can overcome other people’s ego and defensiveness in order to be heard.
In this episode, we dive deep into answering the following thorny questions:
0:00 - Intro
2:10 - How did Christian get started?
4:00 - What is anger management?
5:00 - How do you know if you have a problem with anger?
11:10 - What are the different level of consciousness that we act from?
17:20 - Why having an expectation of how things “should be” is what will trigger our anger response. 18:20 - Bridging the gap between expectation and reality by using accurate language and compassion
22:15 - What is Yield Theory?
24:37 - Do rich and famous people have the same difficulties managing their anger?
26:55 - How to get people to apply knowledge into action when managing their anger.
32:45 - How do you deal with violent people or abusive relationships?
35:00 - How to communicate in a way that doesn’t trigger someone's anger and be heard.
41:35 - How can we best parent a child with anger issues?
47:30 - Why your physical state affects your mental state.
48:45 - The role of setting realistic expectations in anger management.
51:40 - How to maintain realistic expectations in the context of social media comparisons.
53:55 - Is it normal if someone is not expressing their emotions?
57:40 - What is Christian’s one wellbeing practice?
Learn more about Dr. Christian Conte:
https://www.drchristianconte.com/about/
Learn more about Clearhead:
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Parenting is one of the most difficult yet rewarding jobs in the world. While raising children to be the best versions of themselves is exciting and fulfilling, the hours spent worrying about their wellbeing and their future can take a huge toll. This is why it’s important to understand your children the best you can, so you can spend more time feeling confident about how to guide them, and less time feeling stressed.
In this episode, Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart will join us to discuss the highs and lows of parenthood and how to help your children thrive, even if they are currently struggling with mental illness.
Ann-Louise’s biography:
Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart, PsyD, ABPP, is a paediatric psychologist, parenting coach, wife of 25 years, and mother of 2 children with over 17 years of experience in the field. She specialises in helping overwhelmed parents to better understand their children and teenagers. She has presented to numerous media outlets, schools and corporations around the globe. Additionally, Dr. Lockhart is a freelance writer for PBS Kids for Parents and a contributor for The Gottman Institute. Dr. Lockhart also serves as a Review Board Member for Verywell Family and Parents.
In this episode, we dive deep into answering the following thorny questions:
0:00 - Intro
2:20 - How did Ann-Louise get started?
6:18 - What does it mean to be a parenting coach?
8:25 - Where to find trustworthy information on parenting?
10:58 - Debunking common parenting myths.
13:05 - Why young people are less resilient today?
16:40 - How being a new parent affects your mental health.
19:05 - How to feel less guilty and find the balance as a working parent?
23:13 - Are there additional challenges of being a single parent?
25:08 - How can HR / employers provide support to employees who are parents?
28:17 - Is there a rise in mental illness in young people today?
31:33 - How parents and teachers can best support children with mental illness.
34:22 - When should you get a mental health professional to help your child?
36:10 - What can we learn from high performing athletes like Simone biles who took a mental health break?
38:05 - How do you know when to take a break vs pushing through to develop grit?
42:52 - What are extra considerations for parents who's child has ADHD?
45:45 - Why have we seen a rise in ADHD diagnosis?
49:15 - How do you know whether your child has ADHD or a different mental health diagnosis?
52:55 - What should you do when you feel exhausted as a parent?
55:55 - How do you manage having a different parenting style to your partner?
58:25 - What can you do to help your child open up?
1:00:43 - What is Ann-Louise’s one wellbeing practice?
Learn more about Dr. Lockhart:
https://www.anewdaysa.com/meet-the-team
Learn more about Clearhead:
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Sport: It is about so much more than just physical fitness. It is also excellent for your mental health and can provide you with a sense of belonging and community through being part of a team. This is why is it important that everyone has access to being able to play a sport, regardless of their gender or sexuality. In today’s episode we will delve into the benefits of playing a sport, but also what we can do to make it more inclusive for the LGBTQ+ community.
Our guest today is Jason ball, one of the first openly gay Aussie Rules players in Australia which was a game changer in this hyper-masculine sport. He’s been named Young Australian of the Year for his advocacy work in promoting equality for LGBTQ+ players, and has undertaken ambassador roles with Beyond Blue, the Safe Schools Coalition, the Victorian Pride Centre, and the Human Rights Arts & Film Festival, just to name a few! In this episode, he will share with us why it was initially difficult to accept his sexuality and his journey of coming out, and what we can do to make it easier for others to share their true identity both at home and at work.
In this episode, we dive deep into answering the following thorny questions:
0:00 - Intro
2:10 - How Jason Ball got started in playing professional sport
3:55 - The benefits of playing sport on your mental health
6:50 - The role of diet on your physical and mental health
8:10 - How to deal with pressure when playing professional sport
10:30 - Why Jason's sexuality initially caused him to leave his sporting career
14:30 - What made Jason finally come out with his true identity
20:55 - How to deal with a negative response when coming out
23:35 - The unique mental health challenges faced by the LGBTQ+ community
25:30 - How to reduce discrimination towards the LGBTQ+ community
28:35 - What is needed to create a more inclusive environment for the LGBTQ+ community
33:04 - How can one be an ally?
36:15 - How do we know we have created an inclusive society?
38:55 - Why is representation important?
41:30 - What is toxic masculinity?
45:00 - How to challenge gender stereotypes
47:06 - When should LGBTQ people seek professional help and what are available services in Australia?
50:30 - What has Jason learnt about managing stress and negative emotions?
52:45 - What is Jason's one message to those who are questioning their identity and their allies
54:00 - What is Jason's one wellbeing practice
Learn more about Jason here:
https://jasonball.com.au/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/mrjasonball/
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Menopause is a significant life transition that 50% of the population goes through, but often is not talked about enough, especially in the workplace. Aside from physical symptoms, menopause can also have a big impact on your mental health. In this episode, we’ll be learning what is menopause and how to manage it both in your personal and work lives.
Dr Linda Dear MBBS, FRNZCGP, BA (Hons) Psychology, DRCOG, NCMP.
Linda is a specialist GP and Menopause Doctor, trained in the UK and based in New Zealand. She currently runs a private menopause clinic called Menodoctor and sees women from all over the country for specialist consultations. She has also created New Zealand and Australia’s largest survey on menopause and runs menopause training and education service for workplaces.
In this episode, we dive deep into answering the following thorny questions:
0:00 - Intro
2:05 - What was Linda's journey to becoming a menopause doctor?
3:50 - What is menopause?
6:15 - What age does menopause start?
8:50 - How do you know if you are experiencing menopause?
10:50 - What are menopause-related mental health symptoms?
14:04 - What can you do to manage the menopause-related mental health symptoms?
17:50 - How does Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT) work?
22:15 - How long should you stay on HRT?
24:40 - How do you treat vaginal symptoms related to menopause?
26:10 - What lifestyle changes improve the transition through menopause?
32.37 - How does menopause impact someone at work and how can organisations support them?
37:40 - How can managers better support employees who are experiencing menopause?
41:50 - What resources are available to assist workplaces to better support employees experiencing menopause?
44:10 - Can men also experience menopause?
47:30 - Are there higher risk groups that will experience a more difficult perimenopausal period?
51:45 - Are there special considerations organisations with a predominantly female workforce need to be aware of?
54:40 - What is a menopause policy?
57:09 - What are the key findings from the largest menopause survey?
1:00:50 - What is Linda's one wellbeing practice?
Learn more about Linda:
https://menodoctor.com/pages/about
https://www.linkedin.com/in/lindamdear/?originalSubdomain=nz
Helpful resources:
Perimenopausal or Menopausal Quiz:
https://menodoctor.com/pages/about#quiz-qrHPoP
Learn more about Clearhead:
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Addiction is a major global issue. While it may be seen as ‘part of our culture’ to use alcohol or even recreational drugs to unwind and celebrate important milestones, substance abuse often goes unnoticed until it has already taken a toll on our relationships, safety, and mental health. Whereby, the Alcohol and drug foundation states that 1 in 3 adults drink alcohol at levels that put them at risk of alcohol-related disease or injury. In this episode, we’ll be unpacking how and why people become addicted to substances, and what we can do to help people overcome addiction.
Kenenth’s biography:
Dr. Kenneth Leonard is the Director of the Clinical Institute on Addictions, and Research Professor in Psychiatry at the University at Buffalo Medical School in New York. He is a member of multiple research journals' editorial boards and various research organisations specialising in alcoholism. Kenneth is internationally recognised for his research on the impact of substance abuse on relationships and has published more than 200 articles, including on the topic of alcohol's influence on domestic violence and child development, and the role of family in the prevention and treatment of addiction.
In this episode, we dive deep into answering the following thorny questions:
0:00 - Intro
2:30 - Why Kenneth started his research on alcoholism?
3:40 - What causes addiction?
5:55 - What is considered heavy and regular drinking?
8:10 - Who is susceptible to addiction? 9.50 - Why do people self medicate with drugs and alcohol? 11:28 - What is the first step to reducing our dependency on using substances?
13:53 - How to assess your level of addiction?
15:07 - Negative impact of alcohol on marriages and child development.
18:35 - Role of marriage and childbirth in reducing addiction.
20:25 - What are the advantages of children with secure attachment?
21:50 - How you social environment influences your level of addiction.
23:45 - How to build self awareness about your level of addiction?
25:40 - Why we should not protect our loved ones from the consequences of their addiction.
27:22 - Tips on how to approach people about their drinking.
29:15 - When should you approach them about their drinking?
34:55 - How many times do people need treatment before they recover?
35:37 - What are the treatment options out there?
39:25 - How to put a plan in place to prevent relapse
44:51 - Cold turkey vs gradual reduction 46.33 - What can you do if rehab hasn't worked
47:50 - Are there generational differences in substance abuse
50:00 - What to know about cannabis use
51:57 - what government policies can help with reducing substance abuse?
53:13 - What is the role of alcohol in domestic violence
56:12 - What is Ken's one wellbeing practice?
Learn more about Kenneth:
Website: www.buffalo.edu/cria
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/UBResearchInstituteonAddictions?ref=hi
Twitter: https://twitter.com/UB_RIA
Helpful resources:
Check Your Drinking Tool: https://www.cdc.gov/alcohol/checkyourdrinking/index.html
Learn more about Clearhead:
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Everyone has their own challenges to face, but have you ever considered yourself to be an obstacle in your mental health journey? Whether you are aware of it or not, it’s easier than you think to find yourself ‘in your own mental prison,’ letting certain doubts and beliefs hold you back from your full potential. In this webinar, we are joined by Dr. Paul Wood, who will help us learn how turn our post traumatic stress into post-traumatic growth.
Paul’s Biography:
Dr. Paul Wood, best-selling author of bestselling author of “How to Escape from Prison” and “Mental Fitness” will be sharing how to use your experiences to inspire you and lift you up, rather than hold you down. Paul has dealt with his own fair share of grief, fear, and troubling times, overcoming a situation that felt hopeless and a 10-year prison sentence to become a beacon of hope for those in similar circumstances. Now a thriving husband, father, and speaker, he has dedicated his life to helping people become mentally fit and ‘free,’ able to turn their darkest moments into valuable lessons that make them stronger and more equipped to build a life they are proud of.
In this episode, we dive deep into answering the following thorny questions:
0:00 - Intro
2:20 - Reflecting on our mental state when experiencing problems.
5:05 - What were the factors that led Paul to commit murder and get sent to prison for 10 years?
9:35 - How Paul processed being sexually abused as a youth to prevent himself from developing PTSD.
13:30 - The power of therapy in recovering from trauma.
15:25 - What are your mental health symptoms trying to tell you?
17:50 - How to adopt a trauma-informed approach to become a better person.
19:55 - What was the turning point for Paul to change his life and mindset?
21:30 - What is post traumatic growth and the importance of having a sense of progress.
27:50 - How to develop a “stress is enhancing” mindset to stay resilient.
29:15 - How to cope with multiple life challenges at once when you are emotionally fatigued.
33:25 - What are the habits needed to stay mentally fit and overcome adversity?
40:30 - How to change your social circles if they are not healthy for you.
45:50 - How to stop comparing your life with others.
48:35 - How do we escape the prison of our mind and self actualize.
51:24 - The importance of work life balance and investing in your personal relationships.
52:45 - What is Paul’s one wellbeing practice?
Learn more about Paul:
https://paulwood.com/
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There are lots of studies that show innovation is unlocked when you have a diverse workforce that brings together individuals with unique perspectives, knowledge, and experiences. However, if we are not equipped with the right tools to foster diversity, equity, and inclusion in the workplace, we risk continuing to disproportionately affect underrepresented communities by failing to construct a safe psychosocial environment for everyone.
In today’s webinar we will speak with Meghna Majmudar from Ready Set to discuss the trials that underrepresented communities face in the workforce, and the practical, actionable steps we can take to create an environment where cultural differences are not only acknowledged, but integrated into every aspect of the organisation.
Meghna's Biography:
Meghna is an experienced anthropologist, strategist, and transformational neuro-linguistic programming practitioner and through her work, she has learnt how to highlight where unfair power imbalances are occurring and propose solutions to help people feel safe in their identities at work.
In this episode, we dive deep into answering the following thorny questions:
0:00 - Intro
2:00 - How Meghna got started.
3:45 - What does the minority experience feel like?
5:00 - How to balance assimilation vs authentically showing your identity.
8:00 - Using the term "Underestimated identity" to reframe underrepresented communities.
9:28 - When does bias become negative?
11:15 - How does bias enter the workplace?
13:12 - What are the 4 stages of the DEI maturity model?
16:20 - How do you give feedback in a safe and culturally appropriate manner?
24:15 - What does having an 'overly nice' work culture mean?
27:26 - How to use the ROPA framework to decide whether to speak out about bias at work.
30:20 - How can implementing DEI go wrong at work?
38:00 - What is real allyship for minorities?
46:00 - What is the communication style needed to support DEI?
51:28 - How to navigate the difference in generational attitude at work.
54:30 - What does successful DEI implementation look like?
56:05 - What is Meghna's one wellbeing practice?
Learn more about Meghna:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/meghnamajmudar/
Learn more about Clearhead:
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Most people would like to know how to become a high performer, or at the very least more confident and less self-critical. However, the secret habits and quiet discipline to build the resilience required in becoming the best is not always easily understood. Whether it is imposter syndrome or self-sabotage that is preventing us from unlocking our true potential, there are simple steps we can take to overcome our brain’s inherent bias and limitations in the face of failure.
To help us unpack the psychology behind high performance and consistently enter a state of flow, even for those of us who are not professional athletes, is Dr. Nate Zinsser.
Nate’s biography:
Dr. Nate Zinsser is an expert in the psychology of human performance and have consulted with many high performing individuals and organisations seeking a competitive edge. Dr Zinsser has been at the forefront of applied sport psychology for over thirty years and is the Director of a cutting edge program at the United States Military Academy’s Center for Enhanced Performance, personally conducting over seventeen thousand individual training sessions and seven hundred team training sessions for cadets seeking the mental edge for athletic, academic, and military performance. He is also the author of multiple research papers, a textbook and his latest book, The Confident Mind: A Battle-Tested Guide for Unshakable Performance has been endorsed by Olympic coaches and more.
In this episode, we dive deep into answering the following thorny questions.
0:00 - Intro
2:44 - What got Nate interested in understanding the psychology of high performers?
4:10 - What is the role of psychology on top of raw talent in high performers?
6:22 - What is the number 1 myth about becoming a high performer?
9:53 - How can one consistently enter a state of flow?
13:07 - What are techniques to quieten your inner critic and build self confidence?
22:18 - Why do we constantly have so many negative thoughts?
26:23 - How do you know if you are a high performer or not?
30:35 - How to assess for high performers in job interviews.
32:35 - How does self sabotage prevent people from unlocking their true potential.
35:35 - How can one overcome imposter syndrome through positive affirmation?
40:29 - Can one overcome failure by just working on our strengths?
43:28 - How does one develop resilience in the face of failure by recognising our brain's attribution bias?
46:26 - How long should one be analysing one's failure for?
50:55 - What is the role of resilience in becoming a high performer?
53:59 - Why cultivating an anti-fragile and optimistic mindset is a personal choice everyone can make. 56:47 - What is the role of a leader in creating high performing teams?
1:00:30 - Why self-discipline is the secret to self confidence.
1:02:06 - What is Nate’s one wellbeing practice?
Learn more about Nate:
https://www.natezinsser.com/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/nate-zinsser-35349010/
Helpful resources:
- Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl
- Meditations by Marcus Aurelius
- Antifragile: Things That Gain from Disorder by Nassim Nicholas Taleb
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There is never a good reason for bullying and sexual harassment to exist in the workplace. Due to fear of repercussions towards the victims, these cases are rarely reported with only 1 in 4 cases estimated to be reported. Shockingly, the perpetrators of these negative behaviours often don’t realise they are at fault and the bystander effect means that their behaviour never gets challenged. Additionally, minorities in the workplace tend to be disproportionately affected by this. The first step to creating a psychologically safe workplace for everyone is to understand why and how these negative interpersonal behaviours at work occur and foster new understandings of how to deal with bullying in the workplace.
Ivana’s biography:
Ivana Vranjes is an Assistant professor in Work and Organisational Psychology at Tilburg University in the Netherlands. She obtained her PhD in workplace cyberbullying in Belgium for which she collaborated with several private and public companies to collect data and develop an understanding of why people misbehave online. With further research projects completed in Canada and Finland on inappropriate workplace behaviors, such as aggression, bullying and sexual harassment. Her current focus is looking at how people who engage in mistreatment at work reflect on their own behaviour, in order to break the negative spirals of mistreatment at work. She also brings to the table valuable insights on how technology is shaping the way we work, and the impact it has on the way we are communicating with each other.
In this episode, we dive deep into answering the following thorny questions:
0:00 - Intro
2:50 - How did Ivana get first become interested in the topic of cyber bullying?
4:00 - How does technology affect people's wellbeing and way of work?
5:20 - How flexibility allows for the best balance of hybrid work.
7:30 - How does cyberbullying at work manifest?
10:00 - What is the psychology behind the perpetrators of bullying at work?
12:40 - What is the impact on people who have been bullied?
14:35 - What are the signs that someone is being bullied?
17:10 - How do people successfully stop bullying from happening?
21:53 - What is 'The Bystander Effect' and how does it perpetuate bullying?
24:17 - Is Bystander Training to stop bullying the same as Conflict Management Training?
28:00 - What are the work environments where bullying is more likely to occur?
29:45 - What are preventative measures the organisation can take to prevent bullying at work?
31:10 - How annual performance reviews can be used to monitor bullying.
33:50 - In what circumstances does sexual harassment usually occur?
36:50 - What are the mechanisms in place that allow the victim to stand up against the bully, when the bully is in a more powerful position?
42:22 - How does the Johnny Depp vs. Amber Heard trial make people think that most sexual harassment claims are false?
47:30 - How can we confront men's fear of supporting women at work and the fear of untrue harassment claims?
52:50 - How people can navigate the shifting lines of what behaviour is considered discrimination? 56:00 - What are successful strategies to reduce harassment or bullying at work?
57:50 - What is Ivana's one wellbeing practice?
Learn more about Ivana:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/ivana-vranjes-4554506b/
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It can be hard to stay positive when you are facing adversity, and it can be even harder to learn how to pull yourself out of a rut and start building positivity into your daily life. This session covers how you can stay optimistic and pick yourself up when you are down no matter how big or small the trials that you face are.
Suzy's biography:
Today’s guest is Dr. Suzy Green. Suzy is a Clinical Psychologist and the Founder of The Positivity Institute, a organisation dedicated to the research and application of the science of optimal human functioning in organisations and schools. She is a leader in Coaching Psychology and Positive Psychology and has published over twenty peer reviewed journal articles. She lectures at University of Sydney and is a fellow at Australia’s Black Dog Institute, and has worked with many large organisations such as ANZ, Fitbit, Nivea, Office works and more.
In this episode, we dive deep into answering the following thorny questions:
0:00 - Intro
2:20 - How did suzy get started into positivity psychology
4:00 - What is positive psychology
6:08 - Why is it so hard for people to take action to proactively maintain their mental wellbeing
7:55 - What are automatic negative thoughts that stop us from making positive behaviour change? 9:00 - How can you use mindfulness to be aware of the automatic negative thoughts
12:50 - What are prime statements and how does it change your negative mindset to a positive one. 14:55 - how to overcome unhelpful beliefs such as "I am incompetent" and "I am unloveable" and have more of a growth mindset.
17:35 - How to accept and deal with situations that is not in your control.
20:50- What does it mean to be my best possible self and to live by our values
22:20 - When and where to get professional help including EAP support
23:10 - How to stay positive when you are overwhelmed when multiple things are going wrong at the same time.
27:20 - how to learn to ask for help even if you are coping and avoid learned helplessness.
29:10 - what is toxic positivity
32:33 - How to determine which mental health category you are in eg. flourishing, languishing, burnout, clinical depression, etc.
36:30 - Strategies to stay positive and practice self-compassion
38:30 - What are common psychosocial hazards at work.
40:30 - How to deal with constantly changing priorities at work
42:50 - What is the role of EAP to identify the psychosocial risks, assist middle managers, and support employees with mental illness and returning to work
47:00 - What can individuals do to prevent burnout
50:00 - How can one get into the habit of regularly practice mental wellbeing techniques
54:20 - What is Suzy’s one wellbeing practice?
Learn more about Suzy here:
https://thepositivityinstitute.com.au/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-suzy-green-the-positivity-institute/
Helpful resources:
- Clearhead's Finding Purpose Tool
- Stephen Covey’s Circles of Influence
- Dr. Kristin Neff (Self Compassion)
- Clearhead's Blog explaing ISO 45003
- Integrated Approach to Workplace Mental Health
- Social and Emotional Contagion Theory
- The Positivity Institute's Core Values (from Suzy's website)
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Self-confidence, self-esteem, and self-actualisation. Have you ever wondered how you could develop more self-love and less imposter syndrome? We scale the pyramid of Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs to discuss what you can do to quieten the inner critic that makes you feel like you aren't good enough, and unpack how to reduce the constant need to seek external validation from others.
About Marco: Today’s guest is Marco Sander, a German psychologist and author who has coached more than 400 people worldwide on a 1-on-1 setting. He is prolific at creating mental wellbeing content on youtube with almost 70k followers and achieving millions of views on his videos. His work with entrepreneurs who are outwardly rich and successful but still suffering from low self esteem, confidence, and insecurity makes him the perfect guest to explore this topic with us in this session.
In this episode, we dive deep into answering the following thorny questions:
0:00 - Intro
2:34: Why did Marco become a psychologist?
4:25 - What is the difference between self esteem and confidence?
7:30 - Can you have high self esteem that is not dependent on other people’s opinions?
11:10 - What are some strategies to help improve your self esteem?
16:55 - Why “rich and successful” people may still feel unloved and not good enough
21:10 - What can you do to figure out what you actually value that will bring you happiness.
24:54 - Why habits that help you develop self awareness are the most important step.
28:30 - What are the questions to ask yourself to figure out who you are and what do you actually want in life
32:30 - How long does it take before you see positive change once you take action?
36:37 - What is Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs?
38:35 - Why you stop feeling jealousy once you reach self actualisation?
40:20 - The missing final stage in Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs, 'Self Transcendence' (or 'Enlightenment')
41:50 - What are the signs that you have a healthy self esteem vs narcissism?
44:34 - What is the difference between confidence and arrogance in the context of tall poppy syndrome?
48:55 - How does one deal with imposter syndrome?
49:40 - What is Marco’s one wellbeing practice?
To learn more about Marco, visit:
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/MarcoSanderCoaching
Website: https://www.marcosander.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marco_sander_coaching
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Every day in the news, we hear about how divisive countries have become. In the workplace, relationship conflict is one of the most common issues individual employees and managers struggle with. Of course the holy grail we are all working towards is developing highly effective and collaborative teams to unlock innovation and productivity in the workplace. Here to tell us the secrets to making this happen through better understanding the different personality types out there is Dr. Stephanie Schoss!
About Stephanie:
Stephanie is a Chairwoman of her own business psychology company and Director at Switzerland’s HSG Executive School of Management responsible for high ranking C-Level and Board-level Programmes. Stephanie completed her studies at prestigious universities including Harvard and wrote her doctoral thesis about team effectiveness. Her main research and teaching focus is on team personality, self-leadership, and the effects of conflicts, empathy, and “we-consciousness” on team effectiveness. Besides her academic career, Stephanie is an active entrepreneur and a passionate (private and commercial) pilot and recognised as manager of the year in 2013 by Generation CEO.
In this episode, we dive deep into answering the following thorny questions:
0:00 - Intro
02:00 - How Stephanie developed her interest in creating the blueprint of successful teams.
03:36 - How is personality defined? 05.20: What are the different personality types?
07:45 - How do you deal with misunderstanding in a diverse team?
08:20 - What is the secret to creating successful teams?
09:35 - 3 steps to resolving conflicts in a team using the “Clear the air” conflict management technique.
13:50 - Are personality tests like Myers Briggs helpful?
14:50 - What are the risks of using personality tests.
17:14 - What is the leadership of self mean?
18:50 - What are the different type of motives that gives us energy and brings us joy in life?
20:55 - How self awareness and self regulation makes you the best leader possible for others.
22:40 - How to give constructive feedback to your manager without causing any misunderstanding.
28:00 - Why conflict management technique starts with managing your own thoughts and emotions.
30:15 - What should you do when you have a toxic manager?
34:50 - Are younger generations less resilient than before leading to higher employer turnover?
37:35 - Does mental illness change your personality and vice versa?
42:30 - What is the best way to deal with someone’s strength or weakness?
45:25 - What is the neuroscience behind personality?
47:20 - How leaders use story telling to align employees internal purpose to motivate different
personality types to achieve company goals.
50:45 - How leaders create psychologically safe workplace that gives employees the permission to bring their authentic self to work.
53:17 - What can you do to be more confident in who you are as a person?
56:05 - Should managers do anything if they feel their employees are not comfortable showing their real self?
57.55: What is Stephanie’s one well-being practice?
Learn more about Stephanie:
https://es.unisg.ch/en/person/dr-schoss-stephanie/
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Employees are increasingly expecting their employers to create workplaces that prioritises their wellbeing and provide them with free mental health support. We also see governments all around the world, especially Australia, introducing legislations that enforce the creation of psychologically safe workplaces. With all these changes coming, we speak to our guest Rachel King who unpacks what all these changes mean for employers.
About Rachel:
Today’s guest is Rachel King who runs the company Human Risk Management, where she is dedicated to sharing her knowledge with boards, CEOs and their teams to help them meet their legal and regulatory obligations around Human Risk. This includes Mental Health Risk while also increasing the value of their most valuable asset, their human capital.
In this episode, we dive deep into answering the following thorny questions:
0:00 - Intro
2:05 - How Rachel got started.
3:30 - What happens when the brain is constantly under stress?
7:00 - What are common psychosocial hazards at work?
11:05 - What is the role of EAP to support employees mental health?
19:03 - What does successful workplace wellbeing look like?
22:35 - What does psychological safety mean?
28:10 - Is mental health first aid training valuable for managers?
33:15 - The importance of developing self awareness and checking in with yourself.
36:25 - How do you get leadership buy in and show the ROI of employee wellbeing support?
41:36 - What is Rachel’s one wellbeing practice?
Learn more about Rachel here:
https://www.rachelking.global/about
https://www.linkedin.com/in/rachel-ki...
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Relationships; we can’t live with them, and we can’t live without them! Yet our expectations for our romantic partners can be unrealistically high. We expect our partners to be our best friend, our trusted confidant, our passionate lover, the father/mother of our children, our financial security, our sense of identity and the ultimate source of our happiness. No wonder more than 50% of marriages end in divorce, as we have pretty much set our partner up for failure! How do we get past this?
Steven's biography:
Today’s guest is Steven Dromgool, the Clinical Director of Relate, a specialist relationship service. Over the past 2 decades Steven has travelled the world, training under renowned relationship experts, including John and Julia Gottman. His training coalesced into the development of Presence Oriented Relationship Therapy – an advanced integrated approach to working with couples. Steven has a special interest in preparing couples for healthy relationships and affair recovery, and will help us bust common relationship myths in today’s episode.
In this episode, we really dive deep into answering the following thorny questions:
0:00 - Intro
2:34 - Why did Steven become a relationship counsellor?
4:30 - Why do more than 50% of relationships end in divorce?
7:40 - Why being in the honeymoon phase of a relationship is similar to being high on cocaine?
9:50 - Why expecting love in a marriage leads to relationship failure?
12:04 - How does what feels familiar from our childhood determine the type of love we look for?
15:00 - Why do couples struggle for power against each other after the honeymoon phase?
17:20 - What can you do to stop fighting?
19:15 - Why do people choose to be in dysfunctional relationship?
21:25 - What are the two main attachment styles and how do they manifest themselves in the relationship?
27:30 - How do you reduce miscommunication?
31:00 - How long should you wait before you resolve a conflict?
34:40 - Why do people have affairs?
35:28 - What is the first step to take towards recovery after an affair?
41:04 - What do you do in the first 2 weeks after learning that your partner has had an affair?
43:50 - What is the one question you can ask your partner to get them to work on the relationship?
50:50 - Why is becoming a parent like having an affair?
52:20 - How can you keep your relationship exciting and recreate that honeymoon spark again?
57:50 - What is Steven's one wellbeing practice?
Learn more about Steven here:
https://www.relate.kiwi/
https://www.facebook.com/RelateProject/
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It’s the first week back for most people in 2023 and it sure feels hard to kick start back into the new year. For some its due to the overhang of being burnt out last year and for others the New Year serves as a cyclical marker of time during which the break gave us a bit of time to reflect and re-evaluate whether we are living our best lives that is consistent with our values. It is this search for meaning and purpose that we will delve into today.
Clearhead has launched our free AI tool to help you find your purpose - check it out here: https://www.myclearhead.com/finding-purpose
Shruthi biography:
Today’s guest is Shruthi Vijayakumar a coach and educator based in Aotearoa NZ, hailing from South India but is at heart a global citizen. As today’s topic touches on how one is able to step off the rat race and find fulfilment beyond one’s own personal needs, I will rattle off some of Shruthi’s background to provide context. Shruthi is an alumni of the University of Oxford, World Economic Forum global shaper, former Boston Consulting Group (BCG) consultant and Westpac bank’s advisory panel member.
Instead of continuing to chase these traditional metrics of success, Shruthi now coaches social impact driven business leaders and changemakers, supporting them with their inner wellbeing and in creating organisations and societies that foster the wellbeing of people and Nature. She does this by harnessing the wisdom across Indigenous, Eastern & Western knowledge systems. Welcome Shruthi.
In this episode, we really dive deep into answering the following thorny questions.
0:00 - Intro
2:20 - How does society condition us to chase conventional external metrics of success.
7:05 - What brings fulfilment, wellbeing and happiness?
10:22 - What are the philosophies behind achieving a peace of mind?
15:02 - Why does the paradox of choice robs us of contentment?
16:10 - What were the steps Shruthi took to leave BCG management consulting and live a life that is more aligned to her purpose.
20:02 - Can business be a force for good?
22:01 - What you can do to explore when you are feeling stuck in your life?
24:12 - How do you figure out the personal values that shapes your purpose?
27:15 - What are the fears that stops you from transitioning into a more purposeful life?
31:10 - Why you need to continue to do the internal work to feel that you are enough even when doing more social impact work.
32:45 - What does a more purposeful life look like?
38:20 - The importance of figuring out your strengths in helping you find your purpose.
39:38 - Practical tools to help you be more aligned day to day rather than being driven by fear. 43.45: Importance of stillness in understanding what you need in your life.
46:39 - Meditation and indigenous world views of wellbeing
50:50 - How to question the traditional paradigms of how to live a meaningful life
52:18 - Bringing together all the learnings we shared today
52:53 - Shruthi’s go to wellbeing practice.
Learn more about Shruthi: https://www.shruthi.co/
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Michael Bungay Stanier a Rhodes Scholar, is at the forefront of shaping how organizations around the world make being coach-like an essential leadership competency.
He founded Box of Crayons, a learning and development company that helps organizations move from advice-driven to curiosity-led. They’ve trained hundreds of thousands of managers to be more coach-like and their clients range from Microsoft to Salesforce to Gucci. His book The Coaching Habit is the best-selling coaching book of this century, with over a million copies sold. In 2019, he was named the #1 thought leader in coaching.
His latest book How to Begin helps people be ambitious for themselves and for the world and, find their Worthy Goal, and start something thrilling, important and daunting. and his first published piece of writing was a Harlequin Romance story involving a misdelivered letter … and called The Male Delivery
In this episode, we really dive deep into answering the following thorny questions.
0:00 - Intro
1:59 - MBS Story
4:47 - What is coaching
8:49 - What are the 3 main reasons people are unhappy in their jobs
11:25 - How can managers be more coach-like to help their employees work through these 3 reasons.
15:11 - What are the questions you need to ask to coach your people to be better at prioritising
20:44 - What to do when someone who is underperforming is resistant to being coached
25:28 - What are the 4 elements to consider when giving negative but constructive feedback
27:31 - How to repair relationships at work
33:05 - When do you use coaching as a leadership style
37:20 - How do you ensure employees feel appreciated
42:00 - When should you coach someone vs giving advice
42:50 - What is Michael’s one well-being practice
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**Trigger warning.** This episode contains content on suicide and mental health distress. If you need help please reach out to your free available mental health helplines or reach out to Clearhead for support if your employer uses Clearhead as your EAP provider.
Today we are looking at what we can do to improve the mental resilience of those in the construction and manufacturing industry where the pressures of the jobs are really high. We also understand that it has traditionally been very hard to reach the stereotypical blue collar worker as due to the stigma they feel the need to portray an image of toughness and that everything is alright. However what we know from the research for example is that construction workers are six times more likely to lose their lives due to suicide than in a workplace accident.
Joining me today are 3 very special guests. We will kick off with Mates in Construction field workers Nicole and Nathan. Mates in Construction is an industry backed, research-based, suicide prevention and support program to share the insights they have learnt onsite. Then we will get Rob to share his personal story about how he got to the brink of suicide and how he turned it all around as founder of Beard Brothers, award-winning sausages and one of Deloitte’s Top 50 fastest-growing companies of 2022.
In this episode, we really dive deep into answering the following thorny subjects:
0:00 - Intro
2:00 - Mates in construction introduces themselves
3:25 - What are the challenges for the construction industry
4:55 - How to address the systemic issues in the construction industry
8:23 - How do you define wellbeing for those that might think it’s fluffy
11:35 - What are the cultural considerations for migrant mental health
16:05 - Rob shares his personal story with overcoming his suicidal thoughts
27:21 - Angela summarises what are the signs of someone who is feeling suicidal
33:40 - What are the wellbeing practices to stay well after going through severe depression?
36:50 - What do you do to maintain work-life balance in a high workload/pressure environment?
38:15 - How do you check in with someone you are worried about?
40:18 - Angela summarises what you can do if you are struggling with your mental health.
43:40 - What can you do when life gets overwhelming and you need to find balance?
47:45 - How do you move away from using alcohol to self-medicate your stress?
53:50 - How do you get people to share about their mental health and wellbeing?
57:10 - What is our guest's one well-being practice?
Visit:
https://mates.net.nz/
https://mentalhealth.org.nz/suicide-prevention
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Since the pandemic we have seen a collective trauma and loss of the lives we used to live and the people we love. We also see people struggling to know how to support those coping with disruption, challenge, change and loss.
Today’s guest is Dr. Lucy Hone, best-selling author and Adjunct senior fellow at the University of Canterbury, who’s work is regularly featured the Guardian, Washington Post, BBC, CBS, ABC and more. Regarded as a thought leader in the field of resilience psychology, tragic circumstances forced Lucy to focus more closely on grief when her 12-year-old daughter was killed in a horrific motor accident. Covid-19 saw her TED talk, *3 Secrets of Resilient People,* go viral making it one of the Top 20 most watched TED talks of 2020.
In this episode, we really dive deep into answering the following thorny questions.
0:00 - Intro
2:00 - What is grief?
2:37 - Are there different types of grief?
6:14 - What are the signs of grief that indicate clinical support is needed?
9:05 - How long is a normal grieving period?
11:50 - Is the 5 stages of grief a myth?
15:05 - What are the 3 secrets of resilient people?
22:55 - How do you deal with people at work who are dismissive of your grief?
25:30 - What is psychological safety at work?
26:47 - What can managers / workplaces do to support employees who are grieving?
31:12 - How do you maintain social capital with a remote/hybrid workforce?
34:50 - Why is asking “how can we help” unhelpful to those that are struggling?
37:22 - Should you offer job opportunities to the bereaved?
40:04 - Summary of 3 key strategies to build resilience.
41:15 - Busting myths around the process of grief and loss.
43:48 - What is an employee bereavement onboarding plan?
Learn more about Lucy:
https://leadershiplab.co.nz/team/lucy-hone/
https://www.instagram.com/wildandpreciouslives/?hl=en
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Today’s topic is about Burnout, which is clearly on the rise. The stress of the pandemic compounded by the stress of constant availability through remote work has led to burnout and prompted many to reorganize priorities. Whether it is the Great resignation of 2020 or the viral Tik Tok trend about Gen Z’s quiet quitting. They are all a symptom of an underlying global trend that I will unpack today with our guest, Suzi McAlpine, and ensure we provide you with practical tips you can implement in the organisations that you lead.
About Suzi:
Suzi is a leadership coach who specialises in leadership development for CEOs and executive leadership teams for large enterprise companies. Suzi is also the creator of The Leader’s Map, a blended leadership programme for organisations wishing to equip their emerging leaders with the necessary leadership capabilities for success. She has been featured in several media channels and is the author of the bestselling book, Beyond Burnout and an award-winning blog, The Leader’s Digest.
In this episode, we really dive deep into answering the following thorny questions.
0:00 - Intro
1:45 - What is burnout?
2:55 - What is the cost of burnout to organisations?
5:40 - Suzi’s personal burnout story.
10:03 - What are the 3 red flags/symptoms of burnout?
14:41 - What are the 6 causes of burnout?
19:25 - The 4 key strategies to address burnout at an individual, leadership, and organisational level.
25:44 - How to build a wellbeing culture at work?
33:15 - What traits are found in the best leaders?
37:07 - Case study on implementing wellbeing as a strategic pillar.
43:01 - How do I give constructive feedback to my manager to help them be a better leader for me and the organisation?
47:52 - How can I get my organisation to address the root causes of burnout?
Learn more about Suzi McAlpine
https://suzimcalpine.com/
Have a burning question about mental health that you want us to answer?
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