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What if orgasm wasn't the goal? What if pleasure was allowed to just be?
This week on Come Talk with Aimee, I'm sitting down with Nathalie Dewalhens, a certified somatic intimacy coach, author, and creative force helping people reconnect with desire, pleasure, and their most authentic selves. We get into non-coming practices, how our goal-oriented approach to sex has turned orgasm into a finish line, and why slowing down, savoring, and staying present can transform your erotic life.
We also talk about:
How goal-oriented sex turns pleasure into a task
The difference between rushing to orgasm and staying in the room longer
Reclaiming sensuality and desire after menopause
The "sensual crone" archetype and why aging can deepen eroticism
Why we live in an oversexualized and under-sensualized society
Practical tips for reconnecting with your body
Nathalie's upcoming retreat for post-menopausal women in Spain
If you've ever felt like sex has become a task with a destination, this episode is your invitation to slow down, savor, and stay in the room longer.
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https://www.nathaliedewalhens.com/
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https://mybook.to/thesensualcrone
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Women are taught to prioritize everyone else's pleasure in the bedroom and out of it. But what happens when you finally stop performing and start taking charge of your own orgasm?
This week on Come Talk with Aimee, I'm sitting down with Brooke Bralove, an AASECT-certified sex therapist with over 20 years of experience helping individuals, couples, and throuples heal from trauma and build deeply satisfying sex lives. We get into the biggest myths about female orgasm, why only 13% of women orgasm from penetration alone, and why taking responsibility for your own pleasure is the most empowering thing you can do.
We also talk about:
How Hollywood and media shape our expectations
Why masturbation is the foundation of great sex
How to talk to your partner about what you want
How to give feedback with curiosity, not criticism
How unresolved trauma can impact desire and how to heal
Why pleasure is your birthright
If you've ever wondered why orgasm feels complicated, why you're performing instead of enjoying, or how to finally take charge of your pleasure, this episode is for you. Your orgasm is yours to own.
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www.brookebralove.com
https://www.facebook.com/brookebralovepsychotherapy/
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What does ADHD have to do with kink? This episode explains why neurodivergent brains crave intensity, how to navigate desire discrepancies, and why your needs aren't the problem.
This week on Come Talk with Aimee, sexologist Tarah Sykes is breaking down why neurodivergent brains work differently when it comes to intimacy, desire, and pleasure. We get into the neuroscience of it all: dopamine, oxytocin, and why intensity can actually create calm. She also explains why traditional sex can feel like trying to listen to someone whisper in a crowded room for ADHD brains, and how kink, power dynamics, and sensory play can provide the strong signal they need to finally drop in and be present. Because when your brain is finally getting enough input, that executive function hamster wheel stops spinning, and you can actually enjoy yourself.
We also talk about:
how ADHD brains process desire and intimacy differently
why traditional sex can be challenging for neurodivergent people
how kink and BDSM provide the strong signal ADHD brains crave
why intensity creates calm for neurodivergent nervous systems
how shame from being "too much" or "not enough" shows up in the bedroom
navigating intimacy when one partner is neurodivergent and the other isn't
why curiosity over correction is a game changer for relationships
and why your needs have never been the problem
If you've ever felt broken for needing more intensity, more structure, or more novelty in the bedroom, Tarah wants you to know something: your brain isn't the problem. It's just different. And when you stop fighting how you're wired and start working with it, pleasure becomes possible in ways you might never have imagined.
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Sexual intimacy does not end when you turn 80, and Linda is living proof.
This week at Come Talk with Aimee, Linda talks about sex and intimacy after 80 and why desire never expires no matter what stage you are in life. Linda is an author, intimacy and relationship coach, and the unapologetic voice behind the fast-growing digital talk series Next with Linda. She shares her own love story, including falling head over heels at 80, how women can shed the “stinking thinking” that tells them their best days are behind them, and why sexual health and desire look different, and often better, with age.
We also talk about:
why desire and desirability do not have an expiration date
what changes about sex as you age and how intimacy can actually get better
how menopause affects the body and the practical ways to work around it
why self-pleasure matters for your sexual health at every age
the conversations around aging and desire that women over 60 are rarely given space to have
how to stop apologizing for who you are and reclaim what you still want
If you have ever told yourself that sex and intimacy are no longer for you, this episode is your permission slip to think again. Linda is 83, still open to desire, and she wants every woman to know it is your turn.
Connect with Linda
Next with Linda: https://www.nextwithlinda.com/
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The script you were handed about sex and relationships was never written for you. And if you are neuroqueer, it probably never even came close.
In this episode, I sit down with Emily Zawadzki, also known as Emily Zed Sex Ed, a Canadian queer sex educator, coach, and support worker with over 10 years of experience supporting kinky neuroqueer folks. We talk about what it means to be neuroqueer, how social conditioning shapes the way we think about sex and relationships long before we even start having them, and how masking shows up in the bedroom in ways we might not even recognize. Emily also shares how her wife's ADHD diagnosis transformed the way they communicate and connect, and why redefining what intimacy looks like is one of the most liberating things a neuroqueer person can do.
We also talk about:
how to tell the difference between a genuine desire and an inherited cultural script
why sensory accommodations can actually create more eroticism, not less
why sexual confidence is not about experience but about self-awareness and having your own sexy toolkit
the huge overlap between neurodivergence and kink
what neurotypical partners can do to show up better for their neuroqueer loves
If you have ever felt like you were performing in your relationships, or wondered why the standard relationship script never quite fit, this episode is your permission slip to throw it out and write your own.
Connect with Emily Zawadzki
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/emilyzedsexed/
Website: https://www.emilyzedsexed.com/
From Awkward to Assured Webinar: https://www.emilyzedsexed.com/neuroqueer-webinar
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What if the reason you struggle to receive pleasure has everything to do with how your nervous system was wired?
In this episode, I sit down with Lorina Manzanita, somatic intimacy coach, somatic experiencing trauma resolution practitioner, author, and educator with over 25 years of experience in the healing arts. We get into why so many empaths, caregivers, and people pleasers have a hard time receiving, how your nervous system sets your pleasure threshold, and how to expand your capacity for pleasure, intimacy, and connection through somatic practices. Lorina also introduces us to the savoring practice, the Wheel of Consent, and her own framework called the Four Rs of Fulfillment, all of which are practical tools you can start using right now.
We also talk about:
how self-abandonment shows up in intimate relationships, from tolerating touch you do not love to overgiving financially and emotionally
why receiving a compliment, touch, money, or pleasure can feel physically uncomfortable
the savoring practice and how mindfully luxuriating in good feelings rewires your nervous system
why grief is a common response when people finally begin to receive
how advocating for your pleasure becomes even more important as your body and desires change over time
If you have ever deflected a compliment, tolerated less than you deserve, or felt uncomfortable the moment things started to feel really good, this episode is your permission slip. You do not have to nibble on scraps. The full course meal is available, and you are allowed to receive it.
Connect with Lorina Manzanita
Website: https://www.lorinamanzanita.com/
Held and Fulfilled: A 6-week small group program for professional empaths who struggle with owning our desires & boundaries: https://integratingeros.com/
Nourished: The Neuroscience of Receiving Beautifully http://www.integratingeros.com/nourished-mini-course
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How well do you know your finger techniques?
In this second anniversary episode, I’m sharing another After Hours moment with you! This time, it’s with Steph Zapata, sexual health educator, anti-colonial organizer, and the visionary behind SLAM, a groundbreaking conference centering sex, liberation, and movement work. We kick things off with a game called Fingering It Out, where Steph schools us on fingering techniques, erogenous zones, and why lube is always the answer. Then we get real and go deeper into Steph's personal journey from years of shame and disconnection to reclaiming their body, their pleasure, and themselves.
We also talk about:
how shame shows up in the bedroom and what to do instead of fighting it
reclaiming your identity and body as home through sex education
how to live from your heart instead of your anxiety-riddled mind
using dirty talk to turn intrusive thoughts into real-time communication with your partner
why imposter syndrome and fear do not have to hold you back from showing up
If you have ever felt disconnected from your body, stuck in your head during sex, or like pleasure is something you have to earn, this episode is your reminder that becoming whole is a process, shame is not yours to keep, and dirty talk might just be the hack that changes your sex life.
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Did you know that different kinds of lube are designed for different sensitivities, toys, and sexual activities? Because yes, your lube actually matters more than you think.
In this anniversary episode, I’m sharing an After Hours moment with previous podcast guest and founder of Lubify, Orla Maguire. We break down the differences between water-based, silicone, oil-based, and organic lubes, how to know which one works best for your needs, and why ingredients matter when it comes to intimate care.
We also talk about:
ingredients to look for and why lube should feel like skincare for your vulva and penis
somatics and what it means to reconnect with your body
self-pleasure, sensation, and embodied intimacy
simple breathwork techniques for grounding and nervous system regulation
why slowing down helps you experience more pleasure and connection
how to become more aware of what your body actually wants and needs
If you have ever grabbed a random bottle of lube without thinking twice, this episode might completely change the way you think about pleasure products. Your body deserves care, attention, and products that actually support your pleasure instead of working against it.
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Your sexual energy is not dirty, shameful, or something you need to suppress. It is life force, creativity, connection, and one of the most powerful expressions of being human.
In this episode, I sit down with transformational life coach, Kundalini yoga teacher, and Sacred Alchemy podcast host Elizabeth Hudson for a deeply expansive conversation about sacred sexuality, shame, spiritual connection, and reclaiming pleasure. We talk about the ways religion, purity culture, trauma, and societal conditioning disconnect people from their bodies and desires, and why so many people carry shame around the very energy that created them. Elizabeth breaks down the sacral chakra, sexual energy as creative force, and the connection between spirituality, embodiment, pleasure, and healing.
We also talk about:
healing sexual trauma through somatic work, breathwork, and nervous system regulation
why pleasure is your birthright and not something to feel guilty about
the connection between spirituality, sensuality, and divine energy
conscious partnership and creating deeper intimacy through presence and awareness
feminine energy, embodiment, and reclaiming pleasure without shame
why creativity and sexuality are more connected than most people realise
If you have ever struggled with shame around your body, your pleasure, or your desires, this episode is your reminder that there is nothing inherently wrong with your sexuality. Your body is not something to disconnect from. It is something to come home to.
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https://elizabeth-hudson.com/
https://www.instagram.com/elizabeth.hudson11/
https://elizabeth-hudson.com/sexual-alchemy-podcast/
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What exactly happens in an erotic bodywork retreat?
In this solo episode, I take you behind the scenes of my experience attending a seven-day Back to the Body retreat in Sicily with Pamela Madsen. Ten days after interviewing Pamela on the podcast, I booked a flight to Italy and found myself immersed in somatic work, erotic touch, sisterhood, consent conversations, breathwork, body-based healing, and some of the most profound nervous system regulation I have ever experienced. I share what the retreat structure actually looked like, what surprised me the most, the emotional and physical shifts that came up during the experience, and why this work was about so much more than orgasms.
I talk about:
the importance of consent conversations before entering erotic spaces
why safety changes your ability to access pleasure and embodiment
sisterhood, connection, and the unexpected emotional impact of the retreat
why erotic touch is not just about orgasms, but presence, safety, and healing
how to advocate for yourself and your boundaries in erotic spaces
If you have ever been curious about erotic bodywork, somatic sex education, or retreats like Back to the Body, this episode is an honest look at what these spaces can actually feel like from someone who experienced it firsthand. This conversation is not about shock value or fantasy. It is about embodiment, consent, safety, pleasure, and what becomes possible when you finally allow yourself to fully drop into your body.
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Abortion is not shameful, controversial, or up for debate. It is normal, common, and a fundamental part of healthcare.
In this episode, I sit down with Sophie Nir, co-founder and CEO of the Abortion Positivity Project, for a bold, unfiltered, and deeply necessary conversation about abortion, stigma, and reclaiming the narrative. We talk about what abortion positivity actually means, why abortion is not a political issue but a politicised one, and how shame has been intentionally taught and reinforced in both culture and policy. Sophie breaks down the language we have been using for decades, from “pro-choice” to “safe, legal, and rare,” and why those frameworks actually distance us from abortion instead of supporting it. We also get into the real-life impact of abortion access, why abortion is overwhelmingly common and supported, and what it looks like to move from apologising for abortion to proudly standing behind it.
We talk about:
why abortion is not political, but politicized
the problem with language like “pro-choice” and “safe, legal, and rare”
why abortion does not need to be justified to be valid
how stigma directly impacts policy, access, and people’s lived experiences
the reality of abortion access, restrictions, and who is most affected
why the most common emotional response after abortion is relief
how to start having confident, stigma-free conversations about abortion in everyday life
If you are ready to drop the shame, question the narratives you have been taught, and start speaking about abortion with clarity and confidence, this episode is your permission slip. You do not need to soften it. You do not need to apologise for it. You can support it, talk about it, and stand behind it fully.
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What if the reason your desire feels confusing, inconsistent, or even absent… is because it is not actually aligned with who you think you are?
In this episode, I sit down with the OG in the sexual wellness space, somatic sex educator, and founder of Back to the Body Retreats, Pamela Madsen, for a bold and deeply eye-opening conversation about sexual identity and what it really means to live in alignment with your desire. We talk about the sexual authenticity model, the tension between who you believe you are, what you actually want, and how you show up in your relationships. Pamela shares her journey from being the “good girl” who had the perfect life on paper to confronting desire that did not fit her identity, and how that misalignment became the catalyst for everything that followed. We also get into why so many women feel disconnected from their bodies, how desire gets suppressed over time, and what it takes to reconnect with your pleasure in a real, embodied way.
We talk about:
why your desire can feel out of sync with your current life
becoming erotically fluent and learning how to feel again
why safety is required for women to access pleasure
the difference between performing sex and experiencing it
reconnecting with your body through somatic awareness
why your pleasure is something you actively take ownership of
If you have ever felt like your desire does not match the life you are living, or like you are playing a role instead of actually experiencing pleasure, this episode is your invitation to get honest about what you want and start aligning your life around it. Your desire is not random. It is information. And when you learn how to listen to it, everything begins to shift.
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http://www.backtothebody.org
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What if the end of your marriage is actually the beginning of your best sex life?
In this episode, I sit down with Amber Joy Simon, founder of QUIVR, for a real, funny, and deeply validating conversation about sex after divorce and what it actually means to choose pleasure over pressure. We talk about how so many women leave long-term relationships disconnected from their bodies, stuck in routine, and performing instead of actually experiencing pleasure. Amber shares her own journey from being in a formulaic sex life to rediscovering desire, safety, and curiosity, and why divorce can be the moment where everything finally opens up.
We also talk about:
why your pleasure is your responsibility, not your partner’s
moving out of “pick me” energy and into self-worth and boundaries
how to rebuild confidence and feel safe receiving pleasure again
the difference between performing in bed and actually experiencing pleasure
why nervous system safety is required for real intimacy and connection
how to listen to your body and trust what it is telling you
If you are navigating life after divorce, feeling unsure about intimacy again, or ready to experience sex in a completely different way, this episode is your reminder that this is not the end, it is a reset. You get to rewrite the script, choose yourself, and build a sex life that actually feels good in your body.
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What if the most important shift in your life is not the big, dramatic moment but the decision to start choosing yourself?
In this episode, I sit down with certified holistic sexuality educator and embodied intimacy coach Lauren Elise Rogers for a deeply honest, slightly unhinged in the best way, and incredibly validating conversation about the invisible season of becoming and what it really means to own your pleasure. We talk about what it looks like to slowly wake up inside a life that no longer fits, the conditioning that teaches women to abandon their desires, and the moment you realise that your pleasure is not someone else’s responsibility, it is yours.
Lauren shares her journey through a misaligned marriage, religious conditioning, and deep disconnection from her body, and how small, almost invisible choices helped her rebuild her sense of self, desire, and agency.
We talk about:
the invisible season and why nothing feels like it is happening when everything is shifting
how purity culture and societal scripts disconnect you from your desires
losing yourself in roles and learning how to come back to who you are
moving out of the martyr mindset and into self-led desire
grief, loss, and rebuilding your life after everything falls apart
learning how to choose yourself without guilt
why becoming “selfish” might actually be the most aligned thing you do
If you are in a season where things feel unclear, slow, or quietly uncomfortable, this episode is your reminder that becoming does not always look dramatic. Sometimes it looks like choosing yourself in small ways, over and over again, and learning that your pleasure, your desires, and your life are yours to own.
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Opening your relationship is not a shortcut to better sex or fewer problems. If anything, it will expose every single communication issue you have been avoiding.
In this episode, I sit down with licensed clinical social worker and certified sex therapist Dr. Lee Phillips for a real, funny, and refreshingly honest conversation about ethical non-monogamy. We break down what ENM actually is, why it is not just about having more options, and how it requires way more communication, clarity, and emotional awareness than people expect. Dr. Lee shares his own experience navigating an open marriage, the realities of jealousy, and why most people get into trouble when they try to open a relationship from a place of disconnection instead of stability. We also get into dating apps, emotional availability, boundaries, and the difference between fear and caution when navigating new connections.
We talk about:
what ethical non-monogamy actually means and the different forms it can take
why opening a relationship will not fix communication problems, it will amplify them
the importance of having a strong foundation before exploring ENM
emotional bandwidth, time, and attention as boundaries people forget to set
how different partners can have completely different approaches to non-monogamy
why communication needs to be proactive, not reactive
dating apps, red flags, and what emotional availability actually looks like
fear versus caution when navigating vulnerability and new connections
If you have ever been curious about ethical non-monogamy, already exploring it, or questioning whether it could work for you, this episode will give you a much more honest picture of what it actually requires. It is not about more people, it is about more honesty, more communication, and a whole lot more self-awareness.
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What if the thing you were taught to fear most about your sex life is actually… not a big deal?
In this episode, we are dismantling one of the most overblown, misunderstood, and unnecessarily stigmatized topics in sex: herpes. And no, your sex life is not over. Not even close.
I’m sitting down with the iconic Tricia Wise, also known as Safe Slut, for a bold, funny, and refreshingly honest conversation about what it really means to navigate dating, sex, and identity after a herpes diagnosis. We talk about how she coined “Safe Slut” the same day she was diagnosed, how she turned that into a platform that educates and empowers thousands, and why herpes is way more common and way less dramatic than we have been led to believe. From disclosure and dating to sex work, stigma, and reclaiming the word “slut,” this conversation is equal parts liberating and real.
We talk about:
why STI stigma is usually worse than the reality
how to disclose to partners without turning it into a dramatic confession
why sexual health is a shared responsibility between you and your partner/s
reclaiming the word “slut” and unlearning shame around sexuality
how misinformation around STIs has been shaped by culture, media, and fear
why your sex life is not over, it might actually be leveling up
If you have ever felt shame around your body, your desires, or your sexual history, this episode is your reminder that you get to define your own narrative. Sex can still be hot, fun, and deeply connected, and honestly, maybe even better when you stop buying into the fear.
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What if I told you that you don’t have to have sex and that it's a perfectly valid and fulfilling way to live?
In this episode, we're flipping the script on one of society's biggest unspoken rules: that everyone wants sex, everyone should want sex, and if you don't, something must be wrong with you. Spoiler alert: that's a load of pressure we don't need.
I'm sitting down with the fabulous sex, relationship, and intimacy coach Jamie Azar to unpack the concept of compulsory sexuality. We're talking about why this idea flies under the radar, how it affects everyone (including sex coaches), and why saying "no thanks" to sex can be one of the most radical things you do. Whether you're asexual, going through a dry spell, or just feeling the pressure to perform, this conversation is your permission slip to do pleasure on your own terms.
We talk about:
- what compulsory sexuality is and how it shows up everywhere
- why not wanting sex doesn't mean that there’s something wrong with you
- the difference between sexual liberation and sexual obligation
- how to deal with mismatched desire in a relationship
- expanding your definition of sex and intimacy
- centring pleasure over performance
If you've ever felt like you're doing something wrong for not prioritizing sex, this episode is for you. Let's get curious about what actually feels good and not what we're told should feel good.
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Being a bad bitch isn't just about looking cute and doing self-care. It's about showing up for what you think is right, walking away from what's not working for you, and speaking the fuck out.
In this episode, I sit down with comedian, actress, and Bad Bitch Brunch creator Brittany Brave to talk about what it really means to embody confidence in every area of your life, including the bedroom. Brittany shares how she took back Bad Bitch Brunch from a misogynistic business owner, why she's an advocate for intimate partner violence survivors, and what she'll teach her future daughter about sex, agency, and consent.
This conversation gets real about domestic violence, sexual performance pressure, and betting on yourself as the foundation for everything.
We talk about
what being a bad bitch actually means
using comedy as reclaiming power after domestic violence
Bad Bitch Brunch and creating spaces for women and queer talent
dropping the sexual performance anxiety and just enjoying yourself
why "I gave it up too soon" is patriarchal bullshit
communication and consistency as the ultimate turn-ons
raising daughters with body autonomy and sexual agency
teaching consent, not shame
If you've been performing instead of enjoying, people-pleasing instead of speaking out, or wondering what confidence actually looks like in practice, this episode will remind you that being a bad bitch starts with betting on yourself.
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From vibrator myths to dating app disasters, we're breaking down what sex education actually missed.
In this episode, I sit down with licensed psychologist and sex therapist Dr. Sonya Maya to bust myths, challenge performative sexuality, and talk about what real pleasure actually looks like. Sonya breaks down why chemistry does not equate to compatibility, how vibrators actually build nerve endings (not numb them out), and why that whole "if he wanted to, he would" narrative is more nuanced than what other “experts” are trying to put it.
This conversation gets into the science of hormones during sex, the difference between swingers spaces and ethical non-monogamy communities, and why social media is both helping and hurting our sex lives.
We talk about
why sex is so much more than penis-in-vagina penetration
why simultaneous orgasms are rare and shouldn't be the goal
the myth that vaginas get loose from sex (they don't)
body count, slut-shaming, and why that question reveals more about the asker
how porn warps our expectations of real sex
why removing expectations is actually the sexiest thing you can do
If you've been scrolling TikTok for sex advice, watching porn as your primary sex education, or trying to figure out why your dating life feels hollow, this episode will shift your perspective on what good sex actually requires.
Connect with Dr. Sonya Maya
Website: https://www.sonyamaya.com/
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What if understanding your cycle could make you better in bed, more confident in your body, and more connected to your pleasure?
In this episode, I sit down with fertility awareness educator Kate Douglas to explore how tracking your cycle isn't just about baby-making or avoiding pregnancy, it's about understanding when you're at your most creative, confident, and yes, turned on. Kate breaks down how hormones affect everything from your libido to your skin to who you want to have sex with, and why knowing where you are in your cycle can transform your intimate life.
This conversation goes beyond basic biology into why cervical fluid is nature's lube and how becoming cycle literate can help you communicate what you need in and out of the bedroom.
We talk about
how your hormones affect libido, who you're attracted to, and when you're most turned on
why cervical fluid is nature's lube and what it tells you about your body
the two biomarkers you need to track: cervical fluid and basal body temperature
ovulation as creative and sexual energy, not just a fertility event
how cervical fluid is literally a sperm snack (you'll never forget this)
myth busting: day 14 ovulation, feeling ovulation, and textbook cycles
why hormones don't make you unstable (they make you dynamic and cyclical)
If you've ever wondered why your sex drive changes throughout the month, felt disconnected from your body, or want to understand what your hormones are doing to your libido and confidence, this episode is your invitation to start listening to what your body is telling you.
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Website: https://helloearthbody.com/
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