Afleveringen
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Stacie wraps up this season of Communication Untangled! She shares how she'll be spending her summer, what she's learning from her business, and where she's heading with it, as well as what she plans to accomplish between seasons. She finishes off the series by reinforcing the power of good communication skills, and leaves us with a fond farewell!
More Stacie
www.staciespeaker.com
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In this episode, Stacie welcomes Elena Deutsch to the Communication Untangled podcast! Elena works with attorney's in order to help them figure out their next step, kick that inner nay-sayer to the curb, and to take action on their dreams. The funny thing: Elena is not, and has never been a lawyer, but she has a massive passion for helping women in law.
In This Episode
How and why she decided to work with lawyers
The core concept that Elena goes through with her clients
Saying no and created a desired life
Questioning your thought process using 4 simple questions
âThis idea of helping women lawyers kept waking me upâ
âShe's saying yes to sleep and recuperationâ
âThey are a generation of change agentsâ
âWhen you're not taking other people's inventory, there's a lot more space for you to take your ownâ
More Elena
www.womeninterestedinleavinglaw.com
More Stacie
www.staciespeaker.com
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Stacie is excited to welcome Ellen Fields onto this episode of Communication Untangle. Ellen has over 30 years in Corporate America to draw from, first in the consumer healthcare industry, and now she's a communication executive. She started off wanting to make the world better, ad now she helps leaders communicate in a better way!
In This Episode
Growing within an industry as a woman, and an executive
The power of perception
Being yourself is important, but so are your goals.
Things Ellen would say to her younger self
Communicating during the interview process
âIn the early part of my career, gender wasn't as big of an issueâ
âI couldn't take that comment personallyâ
âWhat is your goal, and what does it take for you to do that?â
âWhat types of things do you want to be doing?â
âIt was delivered poorly, but he gave me excellent adviceâ
More Ellen
www.ellenfields.com
More Stacie
www.staciespeaker.com
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Stacie Speaker is unbelievably thrilled to welcome Rick Sharpe to the show to discuss mental health, and how Men are being more outwardly communicative about their emotions and feelings. Rick has written an awesome book called The Price of Heartbreak. Rick is a man on a mission and he is here to help us raise awareness about emotional struggle and the importance of communication within that struggle.
In This Episode
Heartbreak, Patterns and how the book came to be
Why men tend to avoid the deep emotional conversations.
How men like to be received in conversation in order to open up more
Why men will die on their white horse before risking a fall off of it
Finding someone you would die for, and living for them.
âI had to go places in my past in order to figure out why this was happeningâ
âI had to look at myself in the mirror and say 'you're an idiot'â
âWhen you lie to yourself, that's a huge betrayalâ
âIf those open conversations take place, we actually enhance each otherâ
More Rick
www.rick-sharpe.com
More Stacie
www.staciespeaker.com
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In this episode of Communication Untangled, Stacie is totally stoked to welcome her husband Raymond Lee to the show! Ray is a football coach, and he sees it as a way to help a great many people, and he finds enjoyment in a lot of aspects of it. Although he doesn't consider himself a master communicator, he enjoys the challenge and often finds that the hardest young people to get through to often create the biggest rewards in life.
In This Episode
Communicating with high school students to steer them in a productive and successful direction
Ray explains that men do express their feelings, they're typically just not public about it
Communication between men and women doesn't have to differ or be tougher than other types of communication
How to create a positive team environment and foster a positive group relationship
The challenges in communication between Ray and Stacie
âYou have to have a multi-pronged communication approachâ
âYou have to spend a good amount of time getting to know the kidsâ
âIt's a misconception that men don't have those emotions flowing through them and express themâ
âJust find what their passion is and get them to relay thatâ
âI think that's the key to anything is just knowing someoneâ
âSome things take time to open up toâ
âThe more we understand who we're communicating with, the betterâ
More Stacie!
www.staciespeaker.com
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On this episode of Communication Untangled, Stacie Speaker welcomes Tiana Sanchez in a #1 best selling author on Amazon, as well as a corporate trainer who serves innovative companies throughout the U.S. Tiana also hosts an awesome podcast called Like A Real Boss.
In This Episode
Management at 17 years old, and learning the complexities of people.
Why focusing on communication can mess things up for people
One of the best things you can do when you find yourself in a new environment
Navigating conflict, and how to deal with people who are frustrated or upset.
What is an empathy statement, and why you may want to start using them.
âPeople are complex and we are all uniquely differentâ
âThe best part of my career was developing othersâ
âThere's nothing soft about the soft skillsâ
âIf you don't have trust first, you're not going to communicate effectivelyâ
âSeek to understand, not seek to judgeâ
To find out more about Tiana
www.nolimit2yoursucess.com
More Stacie
www.staciespeaker.com
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Stop. Communicate and Listen, Stacie's back with a brand new mission (admit it, you read that in the style of Vanilla Ice). But Seriously! Stacie is back and talking about the skill of active listening, and how it can improve your communication skills and help you have better conversations with the people in your life.
In This Episode
Objective Listening
Subjective Listening
Intuitive Listening
How Sympathy and Empathy differ
âIt's unbelievably imperative that not only do we talk to each other, but we listen to each otherâ
âYou want to be genuinely interestedâ
âYou notice their tone of voice, you notice their body languageâ
âYou're empathizing with the person, you're putting yourself into their situationâ
âThere's a difference between sympathy and empathyâ
âYou have to listen because you don't know what that other person is experiencingâ
Courageous Conversations
www.staciespeaker.com
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In this episode of Communication Untangled, Stacie Speaker reunites with Alison Deutsch . Alison is a certified positive psychology practitioner and professional coach who has experienced the challenge of relocating with her young family 4 times over a period of 10 years both domestically and overseas. Stacie first welcomed Alison as a guest on Reignite Your Light, and is thrilled to speak with her again!
In this episode
Stress and how the body responds to it.
The 3 Super Powers and how they keep you calm.
The cuddle hormone, and hugging yourself.
Shining light on the issue, and feeling powerful.
Taking power away from yourself and subtle self sabotage.
âThat moment when you're up in front of the room, or the mic goes live... it's like a free fallâ
âThe breath is a way of calming down that fearâ
âWe all need a chance to breatheâ
Here is the link to Alison:
http://www.alisondeutsch.com/
Here are the links to the Ted Talks we mention:
https://www.ted.com/talks/amy_cuddy_your_body_language_shapes_who_you_are
https://www.ted.com/talks/kelly_mcgonigal_how_to_make_stress_your_friend
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Stacie is excited to welcome Michael O'Brien to the Communication Untangled Podcast. Michael helps sales and marketing leaders who are juggling it all slay the internal feelings of worry and doubt so they can accomplish complete success.
In this episode:
Comparison, and the âDo Have Beâ way of life
Life and Death
From Victim to Victor
Doing less in order to have better conversations
Asking Why
âIf I got that new car, I'd be happyâ
âI caught happiness for a bit, but then it flew away, like any good vapor finish lineâ
âI didn't have to put on the brave face anymore, but I was scared to deathâ
âThe conversation I was having with myself wasn't fueling meâ
âI want to be present with my family as opposed to just doing all the timeâ
For Michael
www.michaelobrienshift.com
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Anastasia Netri is a coach and guide and has been for nearly a decade. She works with people who wish to live a self realized life awake and free.
In this episode, Stacie and Anastasia:
Discuss self-realization, what it feels like, and why it's so important.
Personal and Professional conversations, and how Anastasia navigates them.
Values and where they fit into personal and professional relationships
âWe form these identities and we don't know who we areâ
âKnowing who you are has everything to do with good communicationâ
âThis person I am as a coach doesn't really get turned off when I'm in relationships.â
âHow is it that they see the world from their point of view?â
âWhat we value dictates how we see the worldâ
www.anastasianetri.com
More Stacie
www.staciespeaker.com/communicationuntangled
Communication Untangled Group
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Stacie welcomes her podcast producer, Scott Doucet of Podcast Bay to the show to discuss the results of a quiz he took in order to determine his communication archetype! Scott leads a production team, and runs a community of podcasters and aspiring podcasters online, ans so communication is a massive part of his day to day. He wanted to learn more about his archetype, but more importantly, how he can communicate more easily with others.
In this episode:
Scott shares his Communication Archetype with Stacie
He shares the challenges that come along with his communication style
The role of empathy in communication
Men and Women communicating with each other
How Scott can communicate better with the people in his life
Quotes
âMy archetype is almost counter-productive at timesâ
âThe phone is my nightmareâ
âEverybody has to have the willingness to put themselves in someone else's shoesâ
âEveryone needs their momentâ
âYou don't understand. You don't get itâ
âYou are just there to listen, and not fixâ
âListening is not just letting someone speakâ
âYou have to listen in order to be heardâ
âPeople leave bosses, people don't leave jobsâ
Take the Quiz!
www.staciespeaker.com
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Stacie welcomes back Luke Iorio!! Stacie interviewed Luke on her last Podcast, Reignite Your Light, and had a great time speaking with him. He's the President of IPEC, and hosts his own podcast as well!
Stacie brings him back to the Communication Untangled podcast as a result of a post he posted on social media #notokay. He made a large point about how distorted our communication is, and how little we actually try to understand one another.
Luke and Stacie talk about how to have those difficult conversations, or if opinions greatly differ: how do you stop it from turning into a shouting match? Luke shares various questions you can ask yourself during a conversation that can help you build a strong connection and great conversations.
He gets excited over one of Stacie's question about how to teach children to listen in order for generational improvement. Luke gives great examples of things that parents can do to encourage empathy and understanding within our children.
Luke also brings some profound insights around compassion and kindness, and the impacts they have on us neurologically. So much depth and intelligence, so many reasons to do the right thing and seek to understand one another.
Quotes
âWe're not spending enough time really truly understanding the otherâ
âit's the most connected and disconnected we've beenâ
âWhat are the roots of happiness?â
âThe most important and under utilized aspect of communication is listeningâ
âIn many ways, teaching or relating some of this to children is so much easier than teaching adultsâ
âHow does it feel when you're truly accepted?â
More Stacie
www.staciespeaker.com/communicationuntangled
Communication Untangled Group
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In this episode, Stacie goes over the 4 Communication Archetypes that she's talked about on the last 4 episodes of the Communication Untangled podcast!
Director
Driven by the need to get things done, and the need to be in control
Most comfortable in managing others and taking control
Focused on results and achieving success
They love autonomy and freedom
Skip the small talk and give them the details
Strategist
Systematic people who enjoy problem solving
They are very detail oriented
Proud of great work and willing to jump in without extra coaxing.
Be sensitive to their time and allow them to talk in great detail.
Let them now if something isn't going to get done.
Influencer
Friendly an enthusiastic
They thrive on compliments and acknowledgment
They want work to be fun for everyone.
They have a tendency to tease people
They are very talkative and open about themselves.
Connector
Excellent listeners
Friendly and approachable disposition
Tend to strive for strong relationships
Consistent and reliable once given responsibilities
They require security and won't take big risks
They can appear to be stubborn, but often just want the best for the team.
Be patient and show sincere interest in them.
Quotes
âCommunication is everythingâ
More Stacie
www.staciespeaker.com/communicationuntangled
Communication Untangled Group
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Stacie dives into the 4th communication archetype this week: The Connector. She explains why it's so crucial to understand the style of communicator you're dealing with, as well as the one that you are, in order to have smooth, effective conversations that leave you feeling great and getting results. She also summarizes the 3 types previously discussed on the show!~ If you missed out on them, go check out the last 3 episodes!
Stacie describes the connector as being very open, and easy to relate to, as they are always striving to find that way to connect with the person they are speaking to. They tend to have a relaxed disposition, making them very relaxed, warm and approachable.
A common fear among connectors is sudden change, they're not a fan of when things suddenly take a turn without time to prepare. They can appear stubborn, but that could be a result of wanting things to remain the same. They can also seem overly sensitive, because they want to ensure the boat doesn't get rocked.
Connectors are amazing planners, being able to share responsibilities and being amazing at follow through gives them an edge in forming solid relationships. They don't readily give opinions, although that doesn't mean they don't have any, and they often know the most about how work is getting done.
Quotes
âWhy is it that I can talk to some people better than others?â
âThe more prepared you are, the betterâ
âYou really can do an awesome service by connecting with them on a deeper level.â
âThey need things to be stableâ
âSocial media has a way of sharing all the happy stuffâ
Links
www.staciespeaker.com/communicationuntangled
Communication Untangled Group
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This week is week 3 of the Communication Archetypes series! Which means we'll be uncovering the talents and style of the Influencer today. We've already discussed the task oriented and fact driven Director's and Strategists, and Stacie summarizes what we've learn about them so far, but now it's time to take a walk on the social side and see what the Influencer is all about hand how they can make their biggest splash on the world.
Stacie is actually an Influencer when it comers to being a communicator, so this one is a little near and dear to her heart. Some of their strengths include being great at breaking the ice and getting conversations started. They have a gift for persuasion and interacting with others. Influencers have very little trouble making connections with people, and actually crave it.
Influencer have their weaknesses. They have a tendency to be impatient, and don't like to be kept waiting. They sometimes have an aversion to being alone, and prefer to have at least one other person around, if not a while group. They don't the longest attention span and can often be disorganized.
How to connect with an Influencer: Encourage their gifts rather than stifle them. In a professional setting, be clear on who is going to do what, by when. You're going to want to show interest in their opinions and big ideas. Their goals are often about getting proper recognition and applause. They like being popular and fear losing that prestige.
Quotes
âThis is the charmer of the groupâ
âThey really do thrive on admiration and acknowledgmentâ
âHow do you leave people?â
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Stacie lifts the curtain and gives us a tiny peek into her life before Communication Untangles and coaching. She reveals that she grew up professionally in Hollywood, and got the chance to work on quite a few Television shows and movies. During that time, she was involved in, and witnessed, a ton of examples of good communications, and bad communication. She also recaps last week's archetype: The Director.
Much like the director, the strategist is focused on tasks. They are logical and methodical in their thinking, as well as their approach. Often they let things simmer until the entire idea is planned out, before bringing it up at all.
Strategists tend to enjoy communicating with people who want to hear details on how to get things done, and can sometimes require a lot of time before coming to a decision on some topics. If you do make plans with a strategist, be sure that they've got the date marked. Do the same. Also, they enjoy being recognized for their knowledge, help, or effort. A little acknowledgment can go along way.
Stacie refers to men and women, and the differences they tend to exhibit in the world. She then goes on to talk about her relationship, and what living life married to a strategist is really like. She explains where it's helpful, and where she may clash with his meticulous nature a bit.
Quotes
âWe can have the conversations that make us happyâ
âNo problem really is too big to ponderâ
âMake good on your promisesâ
Links
ks
Communication Untangled Group
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This episode kicks off a 4 part series about the communication archetypes, and which category you fall into! She describes various communication issues that people can find themselves running into as a result of not knowing the archetypes of the people who surround them, and talks about how just being aware can shift these conversations to make them more meaningful, productive and effective. She also has a quiz you can take!
Stacie references personality tests, and explains that communication archetypes are similar in a way to the personality tests, but there are also differences. She lists out the 4 major communication archetypes as The Director, Strategist, Influencer and Connector. While the Director and Strategist are more task oriented, the Influencer and Connectors of the world are relationship focused.
She breaks down the Director for our listening pleasure. She begins by stating that Directors are often C.E.O's, and tend to live in the realm of fact. They like to get in, get the conversation over quickly, and get back to accomplishing things. She describes that they are very focused, and driven people, and can often come off as insensitive, or impatient. They like to make quick, calculated decisions and make things happen, and can get a lot accomplished in a short conversation.
Some points to note when communicating with a Director: Be efficient, be brief, remain fact oriented and be willing to say âI don't know, but I'll find outâ. Director's have very little time for tall tales or guesses. It's always good to lend yourself to their vision, and ask often how they'd like things to be, or what they need help with. When you need something from them: be upfront, and ask them directly.
Quotes
âYou just have to recognize what drives peopleâ
âBe ready to provide solutions.â
âArgue with facts, don't argue with feelingsâ
Links
Communication Untangled Group
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Thanks for joining us for another episode of Communication Untangled! In this episode, Stacie is joined by Calvin Chen. Calvin is an executive life coach who specializes in emotional intelligence for high performance, leadership and happiness. His coaching is based on the same values he lives his life by: Love and truth, possibility and practicality.
Stacie kicks off asking Calvin about his path to coaching Calvin explains that he started off pursuing a science degree, but ended up not wanting to continue, and being sold the entrepreneurial dream through a book. He began cold calling, and learning the skills he needed to thrive within the cold calling environment. He began cold calling for Tony Robbins, and within 7 months got the opportunity to sell coaching for Tony. Stacie asks a few questions about what had happened, and Calvin shares the exact moment that he talked his way into the position.
Stacie congratulates Calvin on finding his calling at a young age, and Calvin shares his thought process surrounding age, learning and money. He also describes how he uses communication to build relationships with his clients, as well as find out where they are, what they're wanting, and to help them build relationships of their own.
Calvin tells Stacie what he feels his role as a coach is, and how it's important to him to be able to give input in a way that is safe to the recipient. Stacie then Asks Calvin what he would do in a situation where the client were to get defensive or even argumentative. He explains that he would pause and listen, because people tend to get that way when they feel they're not being heard, and it's crucial to hear where the other person is coming from in order to move forward toward a positive result.
He tells the story of the elephant and the blind men, and gives insights about the differences we all have in perspective. He says that he wishes more people would consider different people's perspectives in order to become better leaders, husbands, wives or even just better people.
Stacie asks Calvin about communication within his marriage, and how he navigates difficult conversations, she also offers a piece of her own wisdom and shares that sometimes problems don't need to be solved, so much as listened to.
Quotes
âHe said 'I'm not going to hire you, go work on something else' and I said noâ
âThis is making the best use of all the BS I've been through in my lifeâ
âI'm definitely in my learning phase right nowâ
âThe communication is to achieve relationship and not just some sort of a transactionââDirect communication is a very important component to coachingâ
âLet me see what you seeâ
âIf I'm not careful, I can get too in my head and too analyticalâ
Link
www.calvinvchen.com
Stacie
www.staciespeaker.com/communicationuntangled
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Welcome back to Communication Untangled! On this episode Stacie greets Jessica Lorimer with open arms to discuss the topic of Sales, and how to have sales conversations more effectively. Jessica is a sales coach who helps clients sell with more ease an integrity, while adding revenue to their business each month without spending all of their time on FB.
Jess describes her journey into sales as a result of enjoyment, rather than a purpose from birth. She got a job at a jewelry store at a young age and really enjoyed the journey of getting to know customers and building relationships while learning their taste. After school, she was headhunted into sales in the fashion industry and excelled in that field by building genuine connections with people and communicating in a way the built solid foundations with her customers, and realized that she could dominate the sale niche with ease.
Jess talks about the lifetime value of a client or customer and tells the story of one of her clients, and the relationship they've developed. She also explains long term relationships and how they continuously benefit both parties through repeat business and referrals, rather than just a one and done sale.
Stacie asks why Jess chose to work specifically with women. Jess loves the question, and laughs that in 3 years, no one has asked her that. She describes the issues women face when communicating their value to the outside world. She talks about women aren't taught to be in the spotlight, but rather nurturing others, and Jess wishes to change that dynamic in order to help female entrepreneurs state their value, sell themselves proudly and with confidence, and make the money they wish to make.
Jess and Stacie talk about the difference between men and women and the ways that they communicate their issues, their objectives and their desires. Jess also talks about how much more personally women take rejection in a business environment, and how they take it as a personal affront to their own self worth, instead of considering that the other party might not be ready yet.
Jess talks buyer psychology, and sales styles, and how 3 major types of sellers exist: Aspiration, Emotion, and Fear Of Missing Out. She briefly describes them, and how we as people fit all of them at different times. She also talks about Facebook, and shares the role it plays in building community and establishing a healthy business.
Finally, Stacie asks Jess why she decided to start a podcast and why she continues to do so Jess explains that Podcasts are more intimate than other platforms she's used, and she feels like a podcast is equivalent to sitting down to tea with a friend.
Quotes
âIt's about how you position the conversation, but also how you position the relationshipâ
âYou need to be very clear from the outset what the relationship is aboutâ
âThe lifetime value of a customer isn't just one saleâ
âWealthy women can change the worldâ
âWomen don't like confrontationâ
âReputations take years to build and moments to crashâ
âA rise in tides lifts all boatsâ
Links
www.smartleaderssell.com
Stacie
www.staciespeaker.com/communicationuntangled
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Alexa is a sex coach and a mentor on a mission to reform sex education and sexual expression across the globe. She was born in the deep south of Louisiana, and experienced an âabstinence onlyâ style of sexual education growing up. After spending the majority of her adult life on aboard a cruise ship, and enduring a relationship that seemed perfect from the outside, but in reality was very disconnected, she decided to explore the world of sex, love and relationships. After meeting tons of people, having a lot of different experiences, and helping solve sexual disconnect within others, she found her life's purpose in her sex positive brand: The Violet Butterfly.
Stacie talks about sex, and it's purpose being for reproduction, and Alexa is more than happy to debunk that myth. She shares various insights that show we as humans, have sex for pleasure, and that our connection to our sexuality is vital to our health and well being overall. She describes the relationship most people have with sex, and how we're taught not to prioritize it, or it's significance.
Alexa and Stacie go on to discuss how to openly talk about sex and fantasies within your relationship in order to open up exploration in the bedroom and beyond. She shares ways to keep the sexy in the room while trying new things, and how to set up a fun and introduce new things into the bedroom without having the expectation that sex is going to happen. She goes on to describe sexual energy, and how play and flirtation can be just as exciting, and that sexual energy can manifest itself in many creative places as well.
Alexa talks non verbal cues, and gives a few examples that you can use to set a sexy tone without using so much as a word, and how to tell is someone is giving off a sexual vibe. She explains how body language can play a huge part in attraction, and how both women and men use body language to show who they are attracted to, from their neck to their shoes. She also talks about the biological perspective where sex is concerned, and how everything from a woman's voice to a man's anatomy lends itself to the sexual nature of human kind.
Stacie asks about boundaries, and how to set the framework in order to not only have boundaries, but have the other person respect them. Alexa clarifies that you need to have that conversation with yourself first of all. She tells a story about a time someone crossed a line and stepped beyond her boundaries by touching her without invitation, and how that was not okay within that particular situation. Had he checked in and found out where her boundaries were, things would have gone in a much better direction.
Alexa shares an exercise called Want Will and Won't. She explains how the exercise works in order to express what you truly want, what you're okay with, and what you will not do.
Quotes
âTo everyone on the outside looking in, it was literally the coolest life.â
âWhen you question the box instead of yourself, then things shift and they changeâ
âThere's only one other species of primate that has sex almost as much as we doâ
âA big part of a human's life is their sexuality and their connection to self.â
âWe are built for sexâ
âYour views on your body and your sexuality: how were they shaped and who shaped them?â
âIt all comes down communicationâ
âOnce you get comfortable, you can't go backâ
Links
www.thevioletbutterfly.com
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