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In this âDear DSOâ episode, I respond to a story from Johnâa newly separated man wondering if itâs time to ditch the 9-to-5 life, buy a van, and find himself on the open road.
Is this a classic midlife crisis, or the adventure of a lifetime? Letâs talk about what it means to "lose yourself" in the family machine⊠and whether itâs ever too late to start over.
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In this Dear DSO submission, a follower named John reached out to share his story. He was in a long-distance relationship, had clear boundaries about contact with the opposite sex, and discovered that his girlfriend followed and messaged a local pharmacy techâwithout telling him. That was enough for John to walk away⊠but now heâs second-guessing everything.
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Michael reached out to me with a story I hear way too often. Thirty years of a sexless marriage, confusion, shame, guilt â and then, one day, his wife finally opens up with a truth that changed everything.
In this raw, honest conversation, we explore what it means to sacrifice your needs, the silent damage it does, and how deeply hidden trauma can shape a marriage for decades.
This oneâs for the guys out there wondering:
âIs it me?â
âAm I broken?â
âShould I just stay?â
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In todayâs Dear DSO, I respond to a heartbreaking story from a 39-year-old Army Special Ops veteran who's been through the wringerâdivorce, remarriage, infidelity, therapy, and now⊠his wife wants to separate again, âdate,â and possibly reevaluate in six months.
If you've ever felt like you're living in a constant loop of chaos in your relationship, especially after betrayal, this one will hit home. We unpack anxious attachment, gaslighting, guilt, PTSD, and how military culture compounds all of it.
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In this episode of Dear DSO, I respond to a letter from Jeromeâa man whoâs feeling disillusioned and depressed about relationships and marriage. After a breakup and years of being told that âmarriage is the dream,â heâs beginning to question everything.
Does long-term monogamy even work anymore? Are women really wired for it? Is the âwife and kidsâ dream still alive for men today?
I unpack all of this and moreâincluding what Iâve learned from helping thousands of men, my interview with Womenâs Infidelity author Michelle Langley, and my own personal experiences.
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In this live conversation, I sit down with Dr. Robert Glover, author of No More Mr. Nice Guy, to talk about the psychology of the modern manâespecially the ones struggling in dead bedrooms, difficult marriages, and post-divorce confusion.
We dig into why so many men unknowingly sabotage their relationships, how covert contracts fuel resentment, and what it takes to stop being the ânice guyâ and start living a better life. If youâve ever felt stuck in a marriage with no affection, no sex, and no answersâthis is the episode for you.
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We all crave emotional safety and stability in our long-term relationshipsâŠ
But what if that very safety is what slowly smothers erotic desire?In this livestream, I dive into one of the most frustrating and misunderstood dynamics in long-term monogamy: the trade-off between comfort and sexuality.
Why does it feel like the more secure your relationship becomes, the more the passion disappears?
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Brendanâs been dating his girlfriend for three years â and the sex is already slowing to a crawl. Heâs worried this is setting the tone for a future marriage, and heâs not wrong. In this clip from a LIVE DSO, we dig into one of the biggest red flags guys ignore: early sexual disinterest. If youâre seeing signs of a dead bedroom while youâre still dating⊠buckle up.
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Ramius has been married for 47 years. In his 70s, heâs gotten healthy, got his testosterone up, and wants to stay sexually and emotionally connected to his wife. The problem? Sheâs done. No interest, no desire, early bedtime, and emotionally checked out from intimacy. What do you do when one partner still wants connection⊠and the other is ready to ride off into the grandma sunset?
Letâs talk aging, sex, emotional reality, and the hard truth most men wonât hear until itâs too late.
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Keith has been married six years. No sex since baby #1. Volatile arguments. Threats of suicide. Police visits. And yet â he's afraid to leave. This is the classic trauma-bonded, broken-from-the-start marriage. In this episode, I talk about what it means to finally say âenough,â and how men can break free from toxic relationships.
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Ross is in a marriage where intimacy is dead, but the jealousy is alive and well. Despite his massive physical transformation and emotional growth, his wife remains cold and uninterested â while also resenting any female attention he gets. Oh⊠and she had an affair last year. Let's unpack this contradiction and talk about what it really means when your wife doesn't want you, but doesnât want anyone else to have you either.
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In this Dear DSO submission, a husband shares his frustration: after two kids, his wife seems to have completely disappeared into motherhood. Once bubbly and fun, now sheâs anxious, overwhelmed, and only shows affection after wine or exotic vacations.
Heâs worked on himself, lost 60 lbs, rebuilt his confidenceâbut his wife wonât join him. No therapy. No gym. No time for herself. And definitely no connection with him as a man.
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Ned is a Special Ops vet whose marriage has seen it all â deployment, infidelity, gaslighting, emotional chaos⊠and now his wife wants to âseparate, date around, and reevaluate in 6 months.â What should he do? This episode dives deep into how trauma, emotional abuse, and codependency show up in military marriages â and what men need to reclaim clarity and strength.
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In this powerful Dear DSO entry, I read a message from a man whose wife left him after 20 years of marriage. He gave everything to his familyâhis time, energy, identityâand now he's completely lost. No friends. No hobbies. No direction.
This story is not uncommon, and it shines a light on what happens when men sacrifice themselves entirely for the sake of family and end up with nothing when it all falls apart.
In this video, I break down his story and share what men in similar situations can do to rebuild and come back stronger than ever.
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A husband writes in with a heartbreaking and outrageous story: after 16 years of marriage and raising six boys together, his wife gave him an ultimatum â âOpen marriage or no marriage.â She claims to be polyamorous and bisexual⊠and already has a boyfriend sheâs in love with. Now she expects her husband to accept it â even while the boyfriend sleeps with her in their own marital bed.
In this episode of Dear DSO, Ralph (Dad Starting Over) breaks down the emotional chaos, whatâs really happening behind the scenes, and what this man â and others in similar situations â need to do next.
đ§ Topics Covered:
Open marriages and polyamory
Betrayal trauma and denial
Emotional manipulation in relationships
What healthy boundaries actually look like
Why men must take back control of their life
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What happens when your wife cheats... not just with anyone, but with your married next-door neighbor you've known since childhood?
Jake wrote in to share his heartbreaking story of betrayal and confusion after discovering a year-long affair between his wife and their neighbor. They've been together 13 years, have kids, and heâs trying to work through itâbut the emotional fallout is brutal.
In this episode, we break down:
Why affairs feel so addictively powerful
Why âforbidden and newâ is a dangerous combo
What healing really looks like
The brutal truth about reconciling after infidelity
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Victoria reached out to share her story â a candid, emotional, and often shocking look into a toxic relationship filled with insecurity, gaslighting, and infidelity.
From being accused of cheating over a sex toyâŠ
To discovering her partner was visiting massage parlors and hiding condomsâŠ
To finding the strength to walk away for the sake of her child and herself.This is one womanâs raw account of breaking free, setting boundaries, and learning to trust herself again.
If youâve ever stayed too long in the wrong relationship, this oneâs for you.
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In this candid livestream, Ralph is joined by psychologist and creator of @psychacks , Dr. Orion Taraban, for a powerful and thought-provoking conversation on modern masculinity, dating, marriage, and purpose.
Topics include:
Why fewer men are choosing marriage
Whether commitment still makes sense in todayâs dating landscape
The reality behind sex, status, and the modern mating game
Developing purpose without relying on external validation
How to become a high-value man in todayâs world
đ„ Whether youâre divorced, in a dead bedroom, or just lost in the dating worldâthis episode is for you.
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What happens when a man starts taking control of his healthâdrops weight, hits the gym, starts TRT and Viagraâand his wife doesnât like it?
In this clip from a Dad Starting Over livestream, I share a common (and surprising) reaction many men hear from their wives when they try to turn their life around physically, emotionally, and sexually. The truth? Some women feel threatened by the changes⊠especially when those changes mean a man is more confident, more virile, and more sexually energized.
This isnât anti-womanâitâs a real conversation about the complicated dynamics that come with aging, libido, and relationship expectations.
Whether youâre a man on a journey of self-improvement or a woman trying to understand your partner better, this oneâs for you.
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A reader sent me an email with some harsh feedbackâhe says my book is BS because by the time a man picks it up, his marriage is already doomed. Heâs frustrated, resentful, and exhausted from trying everything, and he doesnât believe any change in him will ever fix his wifeâs lack of desire. Is he right? Or is he missing something deeper?
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