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How much can you really know about someone after three dates? Not enough to know if they're your forever person, but definitely enough to spot signs that they're worth continuing to get to know. In this episode, I'm breaking down 10 green flags to look for on the first few dates that tell you to keep going! We'll talk about the difference between real green flags and behaviors that only look promising, why consistency matters more than chemistry, and how to tell whether someone's actions actually match their words.
You'll learn:
The #1 green flag that creates connection quicklyWhy initiative and follow-through are different (and why you need both)How to tell if someone is rushing the connectionThe role consistency plays in building trustWhat someone's relationship history can reveal about themWhy feeling calm around someone is often a better sign than feeling a sparkGreen flags submitted by listeners from their own dating experiencesBehaviors that seem like green flagsābut aren'tPlus, I answer a Dating Dilemma from a listener whose partner struggles with emotional conversations and discuss how couples can navigate different comfort levels around difficult feelings.
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Things are not looking good for the islander's connections, and we can learn a lot about dating just from spotting the early signs things won't work out. Iām watching Love Island USA Season 8 to pull real-life dating lessons from the villa. This week (Week 3, Episodes 10ā15), Iām breaking down what happens when you rush physical intimacy too soon, why emotional repair breaks down in early relationships, and how defensiveness can quietly destroy a connection before it ever has a chance. I also get into the importance of multi-dating in early stages, why slow-burn connections built on friendship can actually be stronger than instant chemistry, and how extreme highs and lows are often a huge red flag. So much to unpack here.
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I'm chatting with Amanda McCracken, author of When Longing Becomes Your Lover, about the psychology term taking over dating culture: limerence. We're discussing everything from the difference between a crush and full-blown limerence to how ADHD can fuel the dopamine chase, why distance and uncertainty make feelings burn brighter, and how Amanda finally took her real-life crushes off the pedestal. Amanda also shares how she identified as a late-in-life virgin into her forties, and how she eventually built the secure, "boring," trusting relationship she once avoided. At the end, we tackle a dating dilemma about a casual hookup that turned into real feelings, right before he moved several states away.
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Book: When Longing Becomes Your Lover: Breaking from Infatuation, Rejection, and Perfectionism to Find Authentic Love
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We have five new dating dilemmas! I'm answering listener questions about uneven effort, intense early connections, addiction recovery, confusing endings, and relationships that move way too fast.
I get into...
What it means when you're always the one initiating datesHow to tell the difference between interest and investmentWhy we ignore red flags when we're excited about someoneThe mistake people make after noticing a shift in someone's behaviorWhether it's too risky to date someone in addiction recoveryIf sending a "close the loop" text is actually worth itWhat to do when a new relationship is moving at lightning speedWhy trying to decode someone's feelings often keeps you stuckIf you've ever found yourself wondering, "am I overreacting?" or spending more time analyzing someone's behavior than evaluating whether the relationship is working for you, this episode is for you.
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What can we learn about dating from Love Island? Turns out - a lot. I'm watching Love Island USA Season 8 to pull real-life dating takeaways from the villa. This week (episodes 5-9), I'm getting into early dating expectations, knowing your needs, and how important it is to let someone show you who they are. Actions speak louder than words every time. I also talk about how people pleasing can be harmful and why it's GOOD that secure relationships feel boring. So much to unpack here.
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Have you read or heard of the book Attached? I'm chatting with Dr. Amir Levine, psychiatrist, neuroscientist, and author of Secure and co-author of Attached, a book that has indefinitely changed my life. In this episode, we break down exactly how to attract and spot a securely attached person in early dating, and how to build more security in your life (whether you're in a relationship or not). At the end, we tackle a dating dilemma from a listener who flew across the country for a guy who then changed his mind.
You'll learn...
All about Dr. Levine's CARP and SIMI frameworksWhy CARP should be your new non-negotiable dating standardHow to do a "CARP intervention" early without it feeling like a big emotional conversationWhy a secure relationship is supposed to feel boringThe strategy for distancing yourself from someone who isn't meeting your standardsWhy most of us already have secure people in our lives and keep ignoring themHow your attachment style can be totally different with different people (yes, even your pet)MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE
Secure by Dr. Amir Levine
Dr. Levine's website: amirlevinemd.com
Attachment Quiz
Dr. Levine's Masterclass: The Science Of Connection
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In this episode, I'm walking you through everything you need to nail a first date, from confirming the time and getting in the right mindset to navigating the conversation, handling the check, and knowing whether to go in for the kiss. This episode originally aired in January 2024/ At the end, I tackle a new dating dilemma about a woman who's dating a guy who didn't acknowledge her birthday.
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Six mindset tips for a first dateMy fave low-pressure first date questionsWhat to do when your date isn't pulling their weightWho pays for the first date?Why you should NEVER plan date two on date oneMENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE
90+ questions to ask your date!
My dating "rules" episode
Anti-Ghost text templates
Relationship Needs Masterclass - June 22 & 29
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Iām Talia, host of Dating Intentionally, and Iām kicking off a six-week āLove Island Lessonsā series alongside Love Island USA Season 8 (spoilers for episodes 1ā4) to pull real-life dating takeaways from the villa. Tune in to hear me break down five key lessons about early dating we learned this week in the villa: why trying to be chosen keeps you stuck, how jumping to conclusions pushes people away and tips for navigating a dating culture where multi-dating is the norm. I'm sharing my biggest gripe about first interactions on the show, which can teach us how to have better first dates.
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I'm chatting with my best friend Rachel Saslaw, founder of Storytell NYC. She talks about how she spent six years actively dating before landing a committed relationship with an amazing match in an unexpected way. We're discussing everything from why she refused to subscribe to the "men suck" mentality to using dating as a training ground for self-discovery to the "flirting with life" energy that shifted everything. At the end, we tackle a dating dilemma about a guy who went quiet right before a planned first date, then resurfaced at the last minute with a long explanation.
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Why hating men won't help you date men (same goes for men dating women!)How to set a "minimum viable goal" for dating when your calendar is packedWhy the most aligned version of you is the one who attracts the right personHow to give a new person a blank slate after you've been burnedThe case for grieving your single years and not racing past themWhy low-barrier first dates (the coffee walk) beat the high-stakes dinnerMENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE
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In this episode, I'm breaking down the 3 core mistakes that lead people to commit to the wrong person. It's not a broken picker or a shortage of good people out there. I'm covering why dating for potential keeps you stuck, what happens when you don't know or can't communicate your non-negotiable needs, and why ignoring your gut (which is quieter than anxiety) almost always backfires. I share my own stories from past relationships, what these mistakes actually look like in real time, and what to focus on instead, so you can choose someone you don't have to abandon yourself to keep.
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I'm chatting with Sandy Weiner, a dating coach who has spent 13 years helping people date after divorce, and started her own dating journey at 52 after leaving a 23-year marriage. We're discussing everything from knowing when you're actually ready to date again to navigating the "jaded factor" in midlife dating to having the dating conversation with your kids (at any age). Sandy also shares why being picky about what matters and wide open about what doesn't is the mindset shift most people miss, plus how she creatively meets people offline through meetups, classes, and even emailing her network with her dating profile. At the end, we tackle a dating dilemma from a 51-year-old single mom in a casual situation with a separated 43-year-old, and whether she should walk away or stay.
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Communication is the most important thing in a relationship, but no one tells you what good communication actually looks like in practice. In this episode, I'm getting into relationship check-ins: the structured conversations my husband, Johnny, and I have had about 70 times over three years, and the single biggest reason our day-to-day relationship is virtually tension-free. I'm walking you through the exact questions we use (based on the Gottman State of the Union method, with our own additions), how check-ins have actually changed our relationship over time, when to start doing them, how to bring it up with your partner without making it weird, what to do if things get heated, and the most common mistakes people make. At the end, I tackle a dating dilemma about whether to give a great connection another shot after months apart.
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My original episode on check-ins (ep 14)The Gottman State Of The Union check-in formatMy post on other check-in formatsFree dating guides: datingintentionally.com/giftMy episode with Zach Brittle on repair vs resolveTHANKS TO OUR PARTNERS
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I'm chatting with Trevor Hanson, a licensed marriage and family therapist. He and his team at The Art Of Healing help people move from anxious attachment to secure attachment in a structured, results-oriented way. We get into what anxious attachment actually looks like in dating for both men and women, why you can feel totally secure when you're single but completely fall apart once a relationship starts, and what emotionally corrective experiences are, and why they're what actually rewires your nervous system, not just reading more books or gaining more self-awareness. Trevor also shares why you don't need to be fully healed before you date, how conflict, followed by repair, builds real security over time, the problem with using AI to write your texts, and more. At the end, we tackle a dating dilemma from a guy who's not sure how to follow up after sending someone a rose on Hinge.
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Emotional availability is one of the most desired traits in a partner, but it's so hard to find. In this episode, I'm walking through four real listener dilemmas that show how emotional unavailability actually shows up: from being blindsided by a breakup after a seemingly perfect relationship, to oversharing too early with someone you barely know, to getting stuck in a months-long holding pattern, to wondering if your sky-high standards are actually a wall. I'm breaking down what emotional availability really looks like, why "chasing the feeling" keeps people stuck, and how to start recognizing emotional availability so you don't miss it.
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Episode 152 - a deeper dive on emotional unavailabilityEpisode 217 - with Julia Kristina, a therapist and expert on emotional intelligence and maturityEpisode 255 - healing anxious attachment with Rebecca OreTHANKS TO OUR PARTNERS
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This episode originally aired on Sex Ed with DB!
In Sleepless in Seattle, a woman hears a strangerās voice on the radio and decides she has to be with him. A few cross-country flights, some light stalking, and one dramatic Empire State Building finale later. Was it a recipe for true love? Or just another rom-com ignoring boundaries in the name of "destiny?"
In this episode, I joined DB to unpack the filmās gender dynamics, its borderline obsessive premise, and why rom-coms always overlook the stable, reliable guy.
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I'm chatting with Hanna Anderson and Mackenzie Foltz, the co-hosts of The Dating Detectives, a podcast that combines real PI work with deeply ethical storytelling about people who got conned in love. We're discussing everything from what "dogfishing" actually is (and how it's different from catfishing) to the subtle early red flags most people miss, to why love bombing feels so good even when it's a setup. Mackenzie and Hanna also share their PI-approved guide to vetting someone you're dating without feeling "crazy," including the exact line to use when you've found something on them, plus practical safety tools every single person should know about. At the end, we tackle a dating dilemma about a guy who keeps liking other women's photos on Instagram after being asked to stop.
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"The Origin Story" ā the case that inspired the show
The crypto catfish (FaceTime sob story episode)
The "time-traveling" investor episode
The Twitter vegan episode
The "evil stepmother" episode
My guest appearance on The Dating Detectives!
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In this episode, I'm covering how attraction actually works when you're dating for a long-term relationship, from how to know if you're attracted to someone and what's "enough," to how long to give it before walking away, to how attraction can grow over time and what it actually takes for that to happen. I'm also answering a few listener questions, and at the end, I tackle a dating dilemma about a confusing Bumble interaction.
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Free dating FAQ guideStop looking for attraction on the first dateDating outside your typeFlirting tips episodeTHANKS TO OUR PARTNERS
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I'm chatting with Keltie Maguire, a life coach who specializes in helping people navigate the kids-or-child-free decision ā a topic we've never covered on this show before. After spending years as a fence-sitter herself before ultimately choosing a child-free life, Keltie now helps individuals and couples gain clarity on one of the most complex decisions they'll ever make. We're discussing everything from why "you'll just know" is terrible advice to why a pros and cons list won't actually help you, how to approach this decision when you're ambivalent, and why both people in a couple need to be willing to compromise. Keltie also shares how to talk about the kids question while you're dating: when to bring it up, what to put on your profile, and what to do when your person isn't sure. At the end, we tackle a dating dilemma about a woman who's finally found a stable, kind man she feels safe with, but she's embarrassed by how he looks.
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Kids or Child Free Podcast (Keltie's pod)
We Are Child Free Podcast
The Baby Decision (book)
Amanda White's Substack, Fence Sitter
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Don't let your situationship stop you from getting into a relationship. In this episode, I'm getting into how situationships happen in the first place to why leaving feels impossible to the exact words to use when you finally end it. I share my own 2-year situationship story, break down the difference between situationships and casual dating or friends with benefits, and give you a real plan for healing that works. At the end, I tackle a dating dilemma about how to handle inconsistent communication early on when someone takes three days to confirm date plans.
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Signs you're in a situationship (ep 69)THANKS TO OUR PARTNERS
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I'm chatting with Amy Chan, relationship expert, retreat founder, and author of the brand-new book Unsingle, about why most people are just a few strategic adjustments away from finding their match. We're discussing everything from the dating funnel (and which stage you're most likely sabotaging) to the spectrum between having no standards and over-icking yourself out of love to why dating is a personality game, but relationships are a character game. Amy also breaks down the difference between preferences and non-negotiables, why narcissists are actually great daters, and how to build intuition so you stop overriding your gut. At the end, we tackle a dating dilemma about taking it slow with a work crush you've known for seven months.
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