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Picking up where we left off in our last episode on polarity, Aimee and Ellie are diving deep into the trenches of their own journeys. We'll be sharing the nitty-gritty struggles (and the unexpected breakthroughs!) that comes from embracing your feminine energy. Forget the outdated housewife stereotype â this is about trading in the gotta-do-it-all hustle, shifting out of overwhelm and burnout, and creating hot, harmonious relationships with men. In this weekâs episode we share how learning to ask for help, and receiving the support and love you need to embrace a more surrendered way of living, is the key for unlocking your feminine powerâ and we share practical tips on how to get there. Get ready to ditch the drama, embrace your radiance, and unlock deeper connections for relationship bliss!
Chapters:
00:00 - 01:32 Our journey with polarity teachings and learning to integrate them, versus taking them to the extreme01:32 - 12:07 Ellie shares about her journey with alchemizing her boss-babe drive and opening to receive her husbandâs reflections, support and provision on a whole new level⊠and what that has opened up for her
12:07 - 16:07 The backwards values in our culture and the deep work many of us need to do to truly embody our radiance and attract an aligned, devoted partner
16:07 - 17:50 How your out-of-balance masculine energy may be blocking the men in your life from feeling inspired to provide for and cherish you
17:50 - 20:22 Why itâs so helpful and important for women to be in community with other women who are embodied in their feminine energy, receptivity and respect for the masculine, in order to make this shift yourself
20:22 - 21:58 Invitation to the Radiant Woman Weekend, June 7-9th!!
Resources mentioned:
Click here to learn more and join us on The Radiant Woman Weekend, June 7-9th 2024:www.radiantwomanweekend.com
Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/
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Connect with Aimee:
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The term âpolarityâ gets thrown around a lot⊠but have you ever wondered what it actually means, and why it matters?! In this episode, we break down our perspective and experience, and share examples of how our practice with empowered polarity is changing our relationshipsâ and why we believe itâs the KEY to hot, harmonious relationships with men!
Chapters:
03:40 An update about our living situation and how weâre creating more work/life balance.
09:31 The dynamics of masculine/feminine energies.
12:11 The power of getting truly vulnerable, and asking men for help.
13:32 Aimee shares a story about what her dating life looked like BEFORE practicing polarity⊠and how her unconscious drive to protect herself drove men away.
17:41 How to communicate your needs and ask for support.
20:33 Our take on whatâs behind the current climate around relationships⊠âtoxicâ masculinity, failed relationships, 50% divorce rate.
24:09 We share the changes we believe are needed, like embracing mutual respect and understanding.
35:40 An invite to dive deeper into this work of embodying your feminine energy, and to join us in Austin, TX in June! If youâre craving sisterhood, community, and healing with the masculine, youâll want to listen all the way to the end!
Resources mentioned:
Click here to learn more and join us on The Radiant Woman weekend in Austin:www.radiantwomanweekend.com
Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/
Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DofCommunity/
And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/
Connect with Aimee:
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Connect with Ellie:
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Weâve been cooking up something new for you.
A whole new frequency. A new transmission. A new level of reality. And itâs all been Spirit-guided.
The fruits of a whole lotta inner-work labor over the last yearâ a total death & rebirth...
Shedding deeper layers of programming than we ever have before â so that we can be more ourselves, more free, living in full integrity with our missionâ and more of service to the women who walk this path alongside us.
In this episode, weâre taking you behind-the-scenes of the whole ride weâve been on, birthing our new virtual 5-day event, The Feminine Revolution.
In this 5 day journey, weâll be helping you unlock the code that has been the KEY for us (and the thousands of women weâve mentored) to embody the full expression of our Feminine.
Itâs for those of you ready to shed layers of masculine conditioning, and step into the highest potential of your feminine essence⊠so that you can become the woman who can have the life-giving intimacy + relationships you desire.
Hint: it involvesâŠ
Uncovering blocks + shedding armor that are keeping you stuck in your relationships with men
Healing wounds with women + cultivating soul-aligned sisterhood
Connecting to your body, awakening your sensuality + releasing shame
If you know our annual virtual event The Pleasure Revolution (that weâve run 9 times!) and youâre curious about the change, this episode will let you in on everything we went through to birth this new transmission of our work into the world.Reclaiming the ancient wisdom + full range of our FEMININE is what we get to dig into in this event⊠and we are SO turned on by it!
And we canât wait to bring you along with us!!
Join us for FREE, April 29 - May 3rd đč
Link to sign up: www.femininerevolution.live
Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/
And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/
Connect with Aimee:https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/
Connect with Ellie: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie
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This week, we have a very special, long-awaited episode for you. We sat down with Rob Montgomerie to finally get his story out into the world (this is part 1 of a multi-part series)!
Up until now, Rob has been a private person, happily serving behind-the-scenes, coaching leaders of some of the most powerful companies in the world. You may not be aware that Rob has also been a huge supporter of our work at Desire on Fire, consistently backing us in a myriad of ways to grow as leaders and serve our community at the highest level.
But the birth of his son, Bear, two years ago, has ignited Rob even more deeply into his purpose, and called him step forward into a new role thatâs more public-facingâ in service of doing everything he can to support men especially, and do his part to create the world he wants to leave to his son.
Aimee and I have been asking Rob for YEARS to create a brother program to do the work we do with women at Desire on Fire, and Iâm so thrilled to share that he finally said yes!!
It begins mid-April, and itâs called The Kings Code. â€ïžâđ„
Rob has been walking his own deeply transformational path for close to two decades now, which he generously shares about (without holding back) in this episode. The incredible life he has created of impact, abundance, family, and contribution, is a reflection of how this man deeply embodies the King archetype, and we really canât imagine anyone more qualified to guide men on their awakening journey.
Inside the program, men will dive deep into rites of passage and archetypal psychology to help them claim their birthright as potent kings and leaders in their lives, relationships, and in the bedroom.
Expect to Uncover:
The delicate balance of sharing transformative experiences authentically.
How conventional success metrics can lead to personal emptiness.
An invitation to explore the Kingâs Code, for profound personal growth.
Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/
Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DesireOnFire/
And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/
Connect with Aimee; https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/
Connect with Ellie: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerieDive into this episode for a deeply moving conversation that we hope will inspire, expand and ignite you on your spiritual path. Weâd love to hear what you receive from listening!
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Hey there, welcome back to the Desire on Fire podcast!
Visioning a lifestyle without the need to trade time for money Why itâs not as difficult as it might seem to understand, manage, and grow your wealth Create ideas for how to create passive income and become financially free Penelope's "MESS" system for accelerating wealth creation and financial freedom The importance of having the right mindset about money and prosperity
Today's episode is a bit of a departure from our typical topics, but an important one! This week weâre diving into talking about money, abundance, and financial freedom, topics that go hand-in-hand with living a life led by your deepest desires, and expanding into a life of abundance and fulfillment.
Ellie sat down with an amazing guest expert: Penelope Jane Smith. She's a true thought leader in the realm of financial freedom, empowering countless female entrepreneurs with her unique strategies.
Penelope shares her incredible money journey, from building a real estate empire to navigating tough times during market crashes. Her story is a testament to resilience and determination, and we hope it inspires and educates you.
Find out what's in store for you in this episode:
Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DesireOnFire/
And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/
Connect with Aimee:Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/
Connect with Ellie:Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie
The Financial Freedom (free ebook) by Penelope Jane Smith:
In this training, youâll discover exactly what itâll take for you personally tobecome financially free so that you donât have to depend on your business,
a job, the government, a partner, or anyone else for money.
The Two Types of Passive Income (and How to Get More of Each) Why Itâs Important to Create a Clear Financial Freedom Vision 3 Keys to Accelerating Your Journey to Financial Freedom Simple Steps You Can Take Right Now That Your Future Self Will Thank You For
Youâll also learn:(Sheâll Have an Abundance of Money and Choice In Her Life!)
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Dive into an episode where vulnerability meets transformation, and authenticity challenges the status quo. Aimee and Ellie, joined by Ellie's insightful husband, Rob, peel back the layers of their personal and professional journeys, revealing the raw, unedited truths that lie beneath the surface. They touch on moments of struggle and the deep, often uncomfortable shifts that have defined their paths.
The concept of âcoherenceâ becomes a beacon of hope and a guide towards authenticity. But what does it really take to align your life and work with your deepest truths? Aimee, Ellie, and Rob don't just tell you; they take you on a journey through their own battles with resistance, fear, and the quest for authenticity in a world that often demands conformity.
This episode is more than just a conversation; it's a gateway to a transformative experience. If you've ever felt the pull between who you are and who you're meant to be, between the safety of the known and the exhilarating fear of the unknown, then this is for you. Step into a space where the transformation is real, the vulnerability is palpable, and the journey towards authenticity is anything but linear.
Prepare to be intrigued, challenged, and inspired!
In this episode, you'll discover:
The importance of stepping back and reflecting on the hidden wounds that may be driving our behavior and actions How identifying a âvirusâ at Aimee's birthday party sparked business changes and massive growth for all of us What weâre learning about polarityâ what it actually means to us and how itâs playing out in our lives
Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DesireOnFire/
And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/
Connect with Aimee:
Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/
Connect with Ellie:
Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie
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We are BACK with a very special episode series for you!!
If youâve been plugged into our community for the last six months or so, youâre probably aware that weâve been going through a major metamorphosis over here at Desire on Fire. Releasing scarcity, fear and control so we can open to being held by and receiving from the masculine on a wholeee new level.
And Ellieâs husband Rob has been a key player who has catalyzed and supported this deep transformation (while simultaneously undergoing his own changes + awakening!).
So, we invited Rob onto the podcast so that we can dive deep with him, and really let you into the behind-the-scenes of this journey of what itâs REALLY looked like for each of us (the messy, real and raw!)
In this episode, Rob opens up about his own journey of healing, personal growth and finding coherence.
Rob shares how the power of masculine and feminine energies has helped him overcome generational wounds, enabling him to break free from harmful cycles, and helped him become the amazing husband and father that he is todayâas well as his passion for bringing this work to the world, to impact future generations.
Get ready to be moved by Rob's story!
In this episode, youâll learn:
What past experiences changed Robertâs life
How one tough family dinner conversation showed the need for healing
Why it doesnât end with addressing relationship issues and why it needs commitment
How the âSacred Initiationâ retreat was the âsetupâ he needed
The unfolding of the âmedicine for the collectiveâ
What shaped his new life principles as husband and father
Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/
Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DesireOnFire/
And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/
Connect with Aimee:
Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/
Connect with Ellie:
Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie
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To listen to Jordan Candlish now, you might never guess he was once an ambitious ladder-climber in the corporate accounting world.
To the outside world, he was the picture of success: achievement, stability, recognition.
But deep down, he knew that staying in that world and doing things the way everyone else did them was actually playing small and safe with his life. He knew he was meant for more.
So he took the leap into his own healing and evolution, and itâs never been more clear to him that he made the right choice.
Today, Jordan facilitates The Path, a menâs coaching program that helps men heal old wounds, open up new possibilities and true purpose, and gain the maturity and confidence they need to live full-on in their lives and relationships.
Aimee sat down with Jordan in Austin for a wide-ranging and intimate conversation about why menâs personal growth work matters now more than ever, and why healthy brotherhood is so essential for men to thrive.
What youâll learn in this episode:
How Jordan went from high-powered corporate life to coaching men
Who he had to disappoint â and why he got okay with it
What propelled him into this work
The main issues that get addressed when coaching men
Jordanâs view of porn (and what he thinks men should do)
How he deals with controversy, failure, and criticism
Come join us Oct. 13-15 at Desire On Fire Experience LIVE in gorgeous Austin, TX!
Get 50% off your ticket when you use the code COMMUNITY. https://www.desireonfirelive.com/desireonfire-experienceExplore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/
Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DesireOnFire/
And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/
Connect with Aimee:
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In todayâs episode we sat down with our client and a college friend of Aimeeâs, Makayla Davis.
Sheâs in one of our all-time favorite photos taken at a Desire On Fire Live event. Sheâs crying, fully immersed in a private moment of reckoning, and sheâs holding the hand of her good friend.
Itâs an image that perfectly encapsulates what we do and why weâre here: to help women thaw out, connect deeply with their aliveness in every area of life, and do it all together, held in a powerful container of real sisterhood.
What Makayla reveals in todayâs conversation is that that moment happened at last yearâs Desire On Fire experience, in response to a question from Ellie onstage.
For 30 years, she had been standing on the sidelines with her desires. When she reconnected with Aimee on social media and started seeing her posts, she experienced a whole range of feelings: judgment, envy, resistance, curiosity.
The loudest message in her head was: Thatâs not for you. For someone else, maybe, but not for you.
Today we sat down with Makayla to get the whole story â what brought her here, what held her back at first, what had her finally say âyes,â and why thatâs made all the difference for her in her life, work, and relationships.
Makaylaâs journey is perfectly her own, and also super relatable. Sheâs finally finding her center; discovering what itâs like to look people in the eye for the first time and ask for what she wants; practicing saying what needs to be said, even when itâs hard and messy; and finally buying lingerie.
Itâs been a year of small steps that have added up to big transformation, with so much more ahead. If youâre wondering if this work is for you, or youâre curious but stuck because it feels way to edgy or taboo to talk about these things â we think youâre going to love this conversation.
In this episode, youâll learn:
All the doubts, judgments, and fears that kept Makayla on the sidelines for so long⊠and what finally had her jump in
The question on the first day that changed everything for her
Whatâs shifted for her in the year since she said yes to Desire On Fire
Come join us Oct. 13-15 at Desire On Fire Experience LIVE in gorgeous Austin, TX!
Get 50% off your ticket when you use the code COMMUNITY. https://www.desireonfirelive.com/desireonfire-experienceExplore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/
Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DesireOnFire/
And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/
Connect with Aimee:
Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/
Connect with Ellie:
Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie
Connect with Makayla at Awaken Coaches: https://www.awakencoaches.com/
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We love to hear from our community, and we love to share stories and breakthroughs with you! This work all happens inside of real lives⊠and thereâs no better way to understand its transformative power than hearing directly from the women who have been through our programs and events.
Last year, Prudence Stein-Greene was a successful real estate agent in LA â an extremely high-stress and high-drive industry.
At the time, she was struggling with a business decision, so when a friend invited Prudence to attend our Desire on Fire Experience live in LA, she said yes, thinking it would be a great opportunity to have a business breakthrough.
There was something else, something bigger that was underneath her reason for saying yes to DOFE: she was completely, utterly exhausted. With everything.
Her work was incredibly demanding. She was burning out and missing out on coveted time with her kids. She had no connection at all to what she even wanted â in her work, in her marriage, in her life. She resorted to controlling things and people around her, including her husband, blaming him for her dissatisfaction and why their marriage wasnât aligned.
Her friend encouraged her to spring for the hotel room, get away, and really devote herself to the work that weekend. She took the leap.
What happened in those couple of days changed everything. She had the business breakthrough⊠and a whole lot more.
We know youâre going to love this conversation with Prudence. Youâll get a real-life, down to earth take on what this work is, who itâs for, what it can do for you, and why we are SO passionate about getting women in a room together for this experience!
In this episode, youâll learn:
What her fears were coming into the event
The powerful breakthrough she experienced â and what it led to when she returned home
Whatâs different for her now in her life, work, and relationships
The big change she made that has allowed her to expand her ability to hold sensation in her body
The next steps she took after DOFE to fully claim her purpose, joy + passion
Come join us Oct. 13-15 at Desire On Fire Experience LIVE in gorgeous Austin, TX!
Get 50% off your ticket when you use the code COMMUNITY. https://www.desireonfirelive.com/desireonfire-experienceExplore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/
Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DesireOnFire/
And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/
Connect with Aimee:
Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/
Connect with Ellie:
Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie
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Have you ever had a moment in your life when all your pain and accompanying coping mechanisms finally caught up with you?
When you finally saw with total clarity that if you wanted to be able to have any kind of happiness in life, youâd have to face that pain and find healing?
Our guest today is the relationship and intimacy coach Stefanos Sifandos â and he shares how that moment of getting âcaughtâ forced him to reckon with a lifetime of abuse, fear, shame, and insecurity⊠and how that moment opened him up to the possibility of real love, deep connection, profound growth, and BIG impact on the world.
Today Stefanos is a husband and happy new dad, and in his work with individuals and couples, he helps people on the journey to loving all the parts of themselves that theyâve been trying to run from and getting back into healthy relationship with the core of what matters most to them.
And as he says: You canât run a new life from an old blueprint â and that applies to healing, surrender, intimacy, becoming a parent, and any kind of major personal transformation.
If youâve been on the verge of big change, and you know the time is right to face and heal your past, we think youâll be deeply inspired by this heartfelt conversation with Stefanos!
What youâll learn in this episode:
Where Stefanos got his start in transformational work
How and why becoming a parent can feel like a âregressionâ in personal growth
How shame holds us back â and what happens when we finally drop it
Practical tips for balancing your nervous system when youâre in anxiety & shame
How commitment actually leads to feeling more free
Join The Pleasure Revolution: a live, 5-day guided experience for those who are ready to release the hustle and see how much more you can magnetize with your feminine energy leading the way.
Join Us Here: https://bit.ly/TPRpodcast
Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/
Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DesireOnFire/
And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/
Connect with Aimee:
Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/
Connect with Ellie:
Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie
Connect with Stefanos:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stefanossifandos/
Website: https://stefanossifandos.com/
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Weâve taken a break from our podcast lately â not because we donât love it, but because we realized we just needed to pull back on some aspects of the business to make room for all the change thatâs been swirling around us.
So today weâre back, and weâre sharing a deep-dive conversation about whatâs been going on in the business, in our relationships, and in our own personal growth as we navigate our transition to Austin together.
As we let the conversation flow, hereâs a theme that kept arising:
We are both deeply committed to practicing what we preach, and one of the most powerful opportunities we get to do that is when things are not working for us.
Itâs when we get stuck in âobligationâ energy that we have the chance to reconnect authentically with a desire-led life.
Itâs when our most intimate relationships are experiencing their biggest challenges that we get to lean into radical honesty, sisterhood, and surrender.
Itâs when life doesnât meet our expectations that we have the choice to either stay stuck in judgment and resentment⊠or move into looking at all the patterns that arenât serving us and find the true medicine.
Choosing desire as a way of life is not easy. It will bring up ALL your shit and bring you to your knees.
And as we keep finding: itâs also the key to unlocking a quality of freedom and joy in life that we couldnât even have imagined.
So listen in and catch up with us today!
What youâll learn in this episode:
Navigating the complexity of living together as friends and business partners
Aimee is confronted by her desire to go to Bali
Why conscious relating is not for the faint of heart
How to find the gold in situations that arenât meeting your expectations
What it means to surrender when youâre in the middle of true pain + challenge
Discerning when itâs time to surrender, and when itâs time to speak up
A sneak peek into Amyâs most recent Tantric experience
Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/
Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DesireOnFire/
And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/
Connect with Aimee:
Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/
Connect with Ellie:
Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie
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One of the things that consistently brings women into the Desire On Fire community is shame.
Shame around sex for sure â wanting it, knowing what you want, asking out loud for what you want (often the most difficult and vulnerable part of our journey).
But itâs not just about sexual shame. Itâs also about shame around all kinds of desire â for any kind of pleasure, fun, abundance, agency, freedom, or satisfaction.
Where does this shame come from? And how is it that even people who were raised outside of traditional religious environments and in sex-positive families (like Aimee and Ellie) still carry trauma and fear around sex and desire?
Our guests today have a unique perspective, because they grew up inside the conservative evangelical structures that gave rise to purity culture.
And through the long journey of exploration, unlearning, and finally being trained as sex therapists themselves, theyâve found a way forward towards healing, freedom, and wholeness â not just in their sex lives, but in the fullness of all kinds of desire.
If you grew up in purity culture (and spoiler alert: we all feel the effects of this paradigm, whether we grew up with religion or not), we think youâll find this conversation with Juila Postema and Jeremiah Gibson to be enlightening and deeply encouraging.
Julia and Jeremiah are currently the hosts of the Sexvangelicals, a sexual health podcast and education platform with the mission to support relationships in reclaiming sexuality following adverse religious experiences.
What youâll learn in this episode:
How Julia and Jeremiah found their way to freedom (and to each other)
What exactly is purity culture?
How purity culture affects even non-religious people
Why early + clear conversations around sex, pleasure, and desire are so important
How you can begin your journey to break free from sexual shame
Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/
Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DesireOnFire/
And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/
Connect with Aimee:
Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/
Connect with Ellie:
Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie
Connect with Julia and Jeremiah:
Sexvangelicals website
Julia and Jeremiah on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexvangelicals/
Sexvangelicals podcast
People + resources mentioned in this episode:
DOF Episode with Elena Rossi on sexual healing after trauma
AASECT (American Association of Sexual Educators, Counselors, and Therapists)
Multi-Orgasmic Man, by Mantak Chia
Extended Massive Orgasm, by Steve Bodansky
Dr. Wednesday Martin
Sexvangelicals podcast episode with Kara Haug - Reframing Our Stories
Apple Podcasts summary:
If you grew up in purity culture (and spoiler alert: we all feel the effects of this paradigm, whether we grew up with religion or not), we think youâll find this conversation with Juila Postema and Jeremiah Gibson to be enlightening and deeply encouraging.
Julia and Jeremiah are currently the hosts of the Sexvangelicals, a sexual health podcast and education platform with the mission to support relationships in reclaiming sexuality following adverse religious experiences.
Weâre looking at the roots of purity culture, its far-reaching effects on everything we do â and how to find healing and freedom in truth, love, and community.
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You know how we love to invite men onto our podcast, and todayâs guest brings a ton of depth, insight, and honesty around the male perspective.
Kevin Hermann is a highly skilled and experienced coach, specializing in business, leadership, and life coaching. Heâs led over 25 in-person retreats (thatâs a LOT of retreats!!).
But so much more than all these credentials and accomplishments, what you get from Kevin is just the transparency he brings to this conversation. He shares openly about being newly engaged and monogamous, what this new level of commitment has brought up in his relationship⊠and so much more!
If youâve ever been curious about menâs work â what it is, what it isnât, how itâs changing â then this episode is for you.
Youâll hear about what men are struggling with the most, what they need the most, and how connecting at a deeper level with themselves and other men is essential for their growth and wellbeing. (Sound familiar? We say the same about sisterhood all the time!)
You can find Kevin on Instagram where heâs riffing on the evolution of the masculine and exploring the connection between style and spirituality.
What youâll learn in this episode:
What Kevin thinks about polarity â its benefits and challenges for men and women
How Kevin responds to the question, Where are all the good men?
Why you canât push your man into being in a menâs group (and a better way to introduce it)
Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/
Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DesireOnFire/
And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/
Connect with Aimee:
Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/
Connect with Ellie:
Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie
Connect with Kevin:
Kevinâs Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kev_hermann/
Kevinâs website: https://www.kevinhermann.com/
Kevin on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kevinhermann/
People + resources mentioned in this episode:
Dan Doty: https://dandoty.com/
David Diedaâs The Way of the Superior Man
Groups recommended by Kevin:
Everyman
ManKind Project
Sacred Sons
Man UNcivilized
ManTalks
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Weâve got another incredible Inner Circle Q&A call for you today!
As so often happens, there is a common thread that winds its way through all these powerful shares today.
Whether itâs being a caretaker for an ailing family member, dealing with old patterns in your family dynamics, navigating the fear and tenderness of a new relationship, or living in the tension of taking on bold new thingsâŠ
⊠todayâs brave women are all dealing in some way or another with what it means to jump in bravely, with total honesty and vulnerability, and then trust the Universe to give you whatâs best for you.
If youâre seeking a straight shot of spiritual connection⊠then this episode is for you!
These calls are like parachuting right into the heart of why spirituality + sisterhood are SO important for transformation.
There is so much gold in these calls, and weâre excited to share this one with you!
What youâll learn in this episode:
What it looks like to finally stop playing games and manipulating men
What you might be fundamentally misunderstanding about vulnerability in relationships
Why money made in the energy of turn-on + alignment goes WAY farther than money made from force or obligation
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Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DesireOnFire/
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Connect with Aimee:
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Lynne Forrestâs Victim Triangle
Lynne Forrestâs book, Guiding Principles for Life Beyond Victim Consciousness
Alison Armstrong
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In her âbefore doing the workâ life, this is what Tanai Milgram said about herself: My whole life, I was so proud that no guy ever hurt me, that I was always the one to run away or catch the asshole before he hurt me.
Sheâd left a trail of dozens of broken hearts in her wake ⊠but she felt more alone and angry than ever.
Like a lot of girls, Tanai grew up with the conditioning that it wasnât okay for her to express her full range of emotion. Being kind, sweet, and compliant was rewarded. But expressing things like anger, disappointment, deep sorrow, shame, or even ecstatic joy â these were on the ânot approvedâ list.
In this conversation, Tanai and I get to the very heart of why we close off so much, the price we pay for our silence and withholding, and what miracles start to happen when we FINALLY give ourselves permission to be fully self-expressed.
I think youâll find SO much to relate to here â the anger and resentment, the pain of not holding good boundaries, the absolute terror of being seen, the ways our bodies are constantly trying to send us signals, and the wild journey weâre all on.
Today, Tanai is a Womenâs Intimacy Coach, podcast host, and somatic trauma healer. Sheâs helped hundreds of women be unapologetically self-expressed in their relationships, using different styles of coaching, somatic meditations, retreats, and feminine embodiment practices.
And in her âafter doing the workâ life, she knows that the key to finding true, lasting love is â paradoxically â allowing yourself to be heartbroken. Tune in today to receive this juicy wisdom!
In this episode, youâll learn:
All about Tanaiâs exciting journey and how she got where she is today
What happens in our bodies and our lives when we repress our anger
How her pussy was trying to communicate with her â and what happened when she finally listened
The moment on a DoF retreat that was the turning point for her
Why sisterhood matters so much â even if your âissueâ is with men
The key to finally attracting the kinds of men you say you want
Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/
Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DesireOnFire/
And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/
Connect with Aimee:
Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/
Connect with Ellie:
Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie
Connect with Tanai:
Check out Tanaiâs Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/tanaimilgram
Tanaiâs website: https://www.tanaimilgram.com/
Wild Ugly Beautiful Retreat in Mexico (with Rinsha Ballani) â happening this April!
The Unapologetic Program
Resources mentioned in this episode:
A Return to Love by Marianne Williamson
Landmark Education
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Itâs not every day you hear about someone getting her start in the world of sexual education by opening up a sex shop with her mom â but if thereâs one word to describe our guests today, itâs definitely âunconventional.â
Amy Baldwin is a Certified Sexuality Educator with a degree in Psychology and a minor in Human Sexuality from San Francisco State University. In 2008, she opened Pure Pleasure Shop with her mother in Santa Cruz, CA.
Their first employee was April Lampert⊠and the rest, as they say, is history.
April showed up with a little less experience but a whole lot of fun and curiosity, and today she is the Vice President of Hot Octopuss, an innovative pleasure product company, and has dedicated her working life to educating people on a global scale about sexual pleasure, health and wellness, and pleasure products.
Together, Amy and April started the Shameless Sex podcast. Their goal is to engage in unabashed real talk about sexuality with a playful twist, so that people everywhere can be inspired to experience radical self-love, sexual empowerment, and shame-free intimacy.
Today weâre diving in with Amy and April to talk about how to start using sex toys, what to do if youâre curious (and maybe a little squeamish) about trying anal, and how to keep sex hot and alive in long term relationships.
Youâre going to love this no-holds-barred conversation with two hilarious women who know how to put pleasure first.
What youâll learn in this episode:
Where to start if youâve never used sex toys before
How to safely explore anal to increase pleasure
How Amy and April got into business together
Whether porn can be a positive resource in your own sex life
Amy and Aprilâs tips for keeping the sizzle in long-term relationships
Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/
Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DesireOnFire/
And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/
Connect with Aimee:
Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/
Connect with Ellie:
Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie
Connect with Amy + April:
April on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/aprillampert
Amy on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amyshamelesssex
Pure Pleasure website: https://www.purepleasureshop.com/
Listen to the Shameless Sex podcast
Products + Resources mentioned in this episode:
Uberlube
Hot Octopuss sex toys
Esther Perel
Dipsea erotica
Bree Mills at Adult Time for educational porn
Tristan Taormino and Sex Out Loud Radio
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Today weâre giving you another peek behind-the-scenes, into a call with some of our inner circle clients.
And there must be something in the air, because this call definitely seemed to have a theme: navigating unknowns, holding tension in the in-between, and nurturing connection in our existing relationships as weâre changing.
Hereâs something that not a lot of people talk about in transformational work: it can be lonely at times.
Yes, there are the highs. Moments of total magic and healing. Reaching new levels of love for yourself and others. Really feeling your own power. Itâs amazing!
And also? Sometimes thatâs weird for other people. They donât know how to handle it. You might worry about losing friendships, or dynamics changing. You might feel pulled to try and mend broken relationships, or to let go of those that arenât in alignment. You might realize that your old friendships canât quite hold the depth we crave â and it can be hard to know how to find that solid sisterhood you really desire.
In this call, weâre going deep on what it means to surrender to this messy middle, and to trust that something greater is guiding you through.
What we cover in this episode:
What to do with the fear of losing control
How to stay intimate + vulnerable when weâre going through intense transformation
How sisterhood can help ALL your relationships
How to listen to your body so you know when itâs time for a change
What it means to âintentionally cause intimacyâ when youâre longing for more connection in your life
Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/
Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DesireOnFire/
And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/
Connect with Aimee:
Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/
Connect with Ellie:
Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie
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If youâve ever felt yourself buying into the cultural idea that sexiness, play, and pleasure fizzle after a certain age ⊠then stop everything youâre doing and listen to this episode!
Today weâre thrilled to have Tantra expert and international bestselling author Laurie Handlers on the show, and what an incredible conversation this is.
Laurie is full of fire â you can feel it. Itâs in her body, her voice, her stories. She oozes confidence and total Pleasure Queen energy.
Also? She knows her shit. Sheâs been doing this work since 1978 and is one of the worldâs foremost authorities on Tantra and transformation through pleasure.
In this interview, we cover everything from BDSM and what makes a relationship sizzle to her first marriage at 75 and embracing lifelong sexiness.
Youâll see why sheâs helped tens of thousands of couples and singles all over the world to experience the healing principles of Tantra and to discover why our higher purpose and creative life force are so intimately linked to our sexuality.
Trust us, Laurie Handlers is #goals and youâre gonna love her.
What youâll learn in this episode:
Why Laurie decided to get married at 75 (and their unique love story!) How women 50 years and beyond can stay sexy, curious + adventurous What Laurie saw was missing from Tantra that prompted her to write her bestselling book The importance of masculine and feminine energy to create whole-life integrity What made Laurie change her mind about BDSM The unusual definition of love Laurie and Michael hold â and why it works
Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/
Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DesireOnFire/
And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/
Connect with Aimee:
Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/
Connect with Ellie:
Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie
Connect with Laurie:
Website: https://lauriehandlers.com/
Instagram: www.instagram.com/laurie.handlers
Sex & Happiness book
Extraordinary Lovers retreat
Resources mentioned in this episode:
Existential Kink, by Carolyn Elliott
Rinsha episode on loving your body as it is
International School of Temple Arts (ISTA)
Miss Jaiya + Erotic Blueprint
Om Rupani, Tantra + BDSM teacher
Orgasmic Meditation
Guy Shahar + Tantra Speed Date
Landmark Education
Allison Armstrong
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Weâre doing something weâve never done on the podcast before!
We know that real sisterhood is medicine. The vulnerability, the intimacy, the no-BS reflections â this is the stuff that heals, expands, and empowers like nothing else.
The Inner Circle is a paid membership for women that have been working with us for years: graduates of our Pleasure Mastery Program, retreats, or leadership programs. And each month, we do a real-time Q&A with the biggest things theyâre facing.
And we realized something: there is SO much gold inside these calls.
These are women who are living from their desires, who are exploring all kinds of new ways of thinking, acting, and being in the world.
They are IN IT, doing this work with such heart. And witnessing that work in real time can be an incredible teacher for all of us.
We love our Inner Circle calls so much that we wanted to try sharing them with everyone! So with the permission of the Inner Circle members, weâre trying something new.
We recorded this call and are offering it to you. Itâs basically a free mini-masterclass, filled with the wisdom that only sisterhood can bring. We hope you enjoy it!
Inside the episode youâll learn:
How to handle uncomfortable conversations with people who disagree with you (especially when you crave their approval) Practical tools that can help you let go of spiritual bypassing and work with your rage so that it actually comes in service of your highest good Noticing the difference between and open-hearted boundary and a wall What you can do if youâre experiencing intense PMS symptomsExplore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/
Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DesireOnFire/
And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/
Connect with Aimee:
Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/
Connect with Ellie:
Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie
Spiritual Bypassing book Robert Augustus Master
Woman Code by Alisa Vitti
Code Red by Lisa Lister
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