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I'm 60 years old and I'm just getting started. when I look back, I see too many wasted years. I don't have time to waste any more.
I've set myself on a 10-year track to personal success that will not be denied.
It doesn't matter what has happened up to this point. It's only made me who I am. What I do today will make what I will become.
Age is just a number and late is no longer in the equation.
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Easy is stuff that's given to you. Easy come. Easy go. But if you work for it. I mean, work hard for it, you will value it much more. It is the representation of you blood, sweat and tears.
I fought for my marriage that I almost lost. In order to make it strong again, I had to work hard at it. Harder than anything i've ever worked at before.
If it's worth the prize, it's worth the fight.
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This doesn't mean sitting on your hands doing nothing. Do not confuse patience with laziness. Do not use patience as an excuse for being lazy.
Patience is working hard, working smart, working fast. The results are not immediate. They may even be a long way off but you keep working knowing that eventually all your hard work will pay off.
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Very simple, direct thought...
The Result is Worth the Sacrifice.
If the sacrifice is compromised, the result will never be realized.
Do the work! Do whatever it takes to get the result you want. Sacrifice.
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"Anybody can make a mistake but only a fool makes the same mistake twice."
I guess that makes me a fool a few times over. The difference is, now I don't let failure keep me from trying again. I'm the kind of guy that will not quit.
I believe anything worth doing is worth doing poorly. This is true as long as doing it poorly doesn't become a habit. Get better at it or stop doing it altogether.
I'm learning how to learn better. A few years ago I had a goal of reading 50 books. It ended up just reading and not learning. My goal this year is to read 4 books and go deep in each one for 3 months. I want to learn, not read.
When you learn, write it down. Have a notebook and keep details. Writing will help you retain what you learn.
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Yup, I lost a couple grand following the money. It seemed like an easy thing at the time. Just promote the other website and get $1,000 commission. Do it twice and I'm even. Do it more and you're in the black.
Well, I'm still in the red on that one. Color me a sucker. That's what I was.
I'm now on a mission to follow my purpose, and my primary purpose in life is to help others grow and share their wisdom with the world.
I guess we could call that Wisdom-trading. We are wisdom-traders with the world. As we share and follow our own purpose and help others. money will find us.
it's not a magic money belt. It's not a get rich quick scheme. It's not even a get rich slow scheme. It's not a scheme at all. Money will follow in it's own time. Focus on your purpose and you will find ways to make money by helping others through your purpose.
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If you want to change the outcome of whatever it is you're working on, you must first change your focus to the best possible outcome for that project.
Belief is the first action and attitude to have before any project will be successful.
My word for the year 2019 is "BELIEVE." What's yours?
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Friends may come and friends may go but enemies accumulate.
3 Questions...
1. Who hates you?
2. Why do they hate you?
3. Does it matter who hates you?
While watching a behind-the-scene video on how to do Facebook Live, this social media Boss did the best thing ever when the trolls and haters started commenting on her broadcast. She didn't read them. She deleted them. Haters have no foothold in her business, work and life. They don't matter.
Fringe friends who are always negative about your work and progress are not your friends. Ditch them.
When you know you're heading in the right direction, it doesn't matter who hates your work or who hates you.
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That's right, people. Fear is an illusion. It isn't real. It's all in your head.
It's created in your imagination and you shouldn't give it any time to occupy and paralyze your life... like it has mine for too many years.
2 Things
1. There is no reason to listen to unfounded fears
No reason to hold back.
No reason to fear failure.
No reason to fear rejection.
No reason to fear embarrassment.2. There is no excuse to stop because of unfounded fears
Don't play the "What if...?" game.
Don't have any "What if...?" conversations.
Don't have any exucses.Live each day beyond the idea of fear.
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I once worked for a man who did just two things to me. Not for me. Not with me... but to me. He lied to me and he lied about me. He treated all of his staff that way and I feel fortunate to have walked away without any damage to my own reputation. He was eventually removed from his position. For the next several years, I refused to talk to anyone about the situation because I could not speak honestly about him without "trashing" him.
Sometimes honesty requires you to just keeping your mouth shut.Some truth is just opinion. "Is this dress pretty?" The answer is subjective.
When my wife asks me this, I tell her she is gorgeous but the dress is not my favorite. Honest answer to a subjective question. If I just blurt out and say the dress is ugly, it is also true to me because my opinion of a dress is subjective. I choose a more tactful approach. You should too.
This idea comes from a Zig Ziglar quote... If you always tell the truth, you will have nothing to hide. Telling the truth tactfully is an artform. It should never include half-truths or avoidance.
Best rule of thumb is simple:be a person of integrity at all times. You can do it in a way that builds respect with everyone you deal with.
Lies will come back to haunt you. Guaranteed. Truth and integrity will come back to bless you. Also guaranteed.
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Not a lot of notes today except to ask you this: How are you learning new stuff?
Is it on YouTube? Kinda legit, depending on the topic.
Podcasts? Well, you're listening to this one, right?
Books? That's one of two primary ways for me. (The other is online membership sites specific to areas I want to excel in)Whatever your mode of learning is, do it everyday. Learn something new every day. Create the habit of learning and recording something new every single day without fail. When you do, you move closer to achieving your goal.
But it doesn't stop there. Learning is one thing. Putting what' you've learned into practice is where the gold can be found. Being smart and knowledgable is useless without practical application.
Learn stuff. Put it into practice in your daily life.
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Never take gratefulness for granted.
A simple list of things to be grateful for every day.
Family... stuff that works... stuff you have... the opportunity before you... right now... good times... rough times... learning times... the littlest of things...
The big widsom bomb of the day:
WHAT YOU ARE TRULY GRATEFUL FOR
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Too many people try to be like everybody else. They dress like them, try to talk like them, copy their style, their mannerisms, and so on.
DON'T BE A CLONE ARTIST!
The more you try to recreate someone else, the less you become of, well, you.
There is some truth to the phrase, "I'm unique, just like everybody else."
There are a lot of people online who may be doing the same thing but nobody's doing it the same way. They have a unique slant that takes information and makes it uniquely theirs.
Even though you've heard the topic many times before, it is the presentation and individual slant that may resonate with you.
I met a unique person who does what many other people so online, but it's her uniqueness, just being herself, that makes her business and presence fresh and unique. She does online social media marketing. Her name is Rachel Pedersen. You can say she's just like everybody else that does SMM. You can also say she's uniquely her in everything she does.
Take the knowledge. Be yourself with what you learn.
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I don't know how many times I've talked about this and I don't care. I guess it's because I've taken too many back doors or open windows in my past and don't want to take any more.
Once you're past half way, there's absolutely no reason why you'd turn back. That being said, you still have to move forward and finish what you started.
When you leave an out, a side door, a back door, an open window, the struggle is to ignore the opportunity, however small, to take that out.
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This is the 6th habit in the “20 Habits of Success” series
Is there any chance you might have a bad habit or two?
Everybody probably does.
What if those bad habits are keeping you from being more successful?
Currently, the worst bad habit that I can identify with is getting caught in the black hole of media videos…
I watch just one that may even be relevant to my writing or research.
The next one is right there waiting for you to click on it… and I do.
Next thing I know, 30 minutes has passed and I’m still watching “Fail Army” or “People are Awesome.”
The result of this bad habit is wasted time. I don’t have any time to waste. Neither do you.
I want you to memorize a definition… a definition for the word “Habit.”
You’re not going to find this definition in any dictionary or even in popular books written specifically about habits.
Here it is:
Habits are a conscious, daily activity you’ve chosen not to live without.
3 Elements…
#1 Conscious... You’re aware of the action
#2 Daily Activity... You do it everyday.
#3 You’ve chosen not to live without.... Your voluntary decision
What daily habits are you conscious of that may be hurting your growth?
Too much TV?
Fantasy Football Fanatic?
Too much sugar intake?
No exercise?
If habits are something you are conscious of, that means you can chose to stop doing them.
Habits are hard to break… especially bad habits.
The best way to get rid of a bad habit is to replace it with a good habit. Work the good habit and then reward yourself for the victory.
I’m currently working on a concept called...
DRIP Theory
One drop in the bucket on a regular basis and over time, the bucket is full.
The drops must be regular.
A drop of water in a bucket once a week accumulates nothing due to evaporation or a thirsty dog. Single drops daily, guarded well will eventually fill the bucket.
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This is the 5th habit in the “20 Habits of Success” series
Control Your Own Life
This means you should take responsibility for your own life.
Being personally responsible means not making any excuses.
It wasn’t my fault.
The other guy screwed up.
I didn’t have the right instructions.
Google Maps was wrong.
I once interviewed with a man who wanted to hire me to work for his “company.”
The entire interview he told me about himself, how he built the company, he makes the money, he controls the growth. He also told me he owned a softball team. (Nobody owns a softball team) He just sponsored the team by buying their uniforms for them.
Needless to say, he was a narcissist and a control freak. To work for him would mean him telling me exactly what to do and I would have to do it.
I turned that job offer down.
Even though I needed a job, I wasn’t going to work for him.
I knew that if everything went well, he’d take the credit. If anything went wrong, he’d blame me for it.
Florence Nightingale said it best…
“I attribute my success to this: I never gave nor took any excuse.”
How many excuses do you make on a daily basis? Count them for one day.
Please understand that no one is asking you to take responsibility for something you didn’t do.
I am telling you to stop making any excuse for not getting ahead in your own life. You are where you are right now because of choices you’ve made.
Let go of the past. You can’t change any of it.
Start today and take responsibility for where you’re headed in the future.
This habit of success is daily taking control of where you are and where you’re going.
Control your own life. You get to decide what your future is. No excuses.
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What’s one job around the house that you absolutely hate to do?
For me… mowing the lawn. Mowed in circles for 2 years just to mess with the neighbors
It’s been said that one will work 8 hours for a job, 10 hours for a good boss 24 hours for a cause he believes in.
What is your definition of success?
I heard John Maxwell say, “Success is having the love and respect of those you love the most.”
Note what’s missing from that definition… Title (or) Position and Money
Take some time and write out your definition of success.
Don’t research it. Just do it.
If your definition of success involves negatively affecting or excluding others close to you…
IT’S NOT SUCCESS. DO IT AGAIN.
If your definition of success involves making a ton of money…
IT’S NOT SUCCESS. DO IT AGAIN.
If your definition of success involves breaking or tearing others down as you build yourself up…
IT’S NOT SUCCESS. DO IT AGAIN.
Bottom line…
Nothing replaced hard work. Do you want to be the definition of success that you just defined?
Get to work.
No one’s going to hand it to you. No one’s going to do it for you.
This is not a group project where 6 of you get the same grade for something only two of you really worked on.
Being a success in like means working your tail off for that success.
Hard work is a daily habit of character.
Interview with Jack Nicklaus about Tiger Woods. Jack was asked if Tiber would ever break his record of winning 18 majors in his career. Jack answered immediately by saying, “Absolutely, but he has to do it.”
Can you be a success? Absolutely, but you have to do it. Plan, hard work will get you there.
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3rd installment in a series “20 Habits of Success”
Think back to your teenage years.
High school… Scary, right?
Think of the time you absolutely blew it… Missed the shot. Missed the tackle. Didn’t ask the girl to the dance because you were afraid she’d say no.
Got it in your mind…
OK, now change it!
You can’t. It’s impossible. It’s in the past yet you remember that failure and wish you’d done something different.
Past failures have a habit of creeping back into your head and telling you you’ll fail again.
Your past doesn’t dictate your future.
It will only if you let it. Don’t let it.
As I grew up, my father told me I’d never amount to much. He never said it but I cannot remember a single word of encouragement he gave me. Not one.
He taught me how to be afraid of everything.
I grew up believing I had to be afraid of everything and that belief has robbed me of many opportunities to be and act differently.
Not anymore…
I still have many fears ingrained into me… hardwired through the first 22+ years of my life.
Now when I feel those feelings of fear and failure creep up, I see them as a challenge.
I’m rewiring my brain to translate old fears into new challenges to conquer.
2 things…
Have an answer ready for those times when your past fears and failures creeps back into your mind. Anticipate when those past fears creep up and replace them with a positive answer.
Think of 3 specific failures from your past that haunt you.
Have a bold and positive answer to counteract those failures.
Your past does not dictate your future.
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Today is the HABIT OF PERSONAL DIRECTION…the second of 20 “Habits of Success” and I’m sharing my honest journey through each of them.
I know what it’s like for someone to feel they have no direction in life. I was there, and I stayed there too long. I had to learn to aim at something and become laser-focused on that target.
The habit of personal direction will help set you on a course that is more pavement than gravel, has less early morning fog and the view from the top as well as the journey itself is breathtaking.
Every PERSONcan KNOW WHERE THEY’RE GOING IN LIFEby CULTIVATING THE HABIT OF PERSONAL DIRECTION.
My wife and I were with friends and together decided to drive to the top of Mount Evans, one of few 14,000 ft. mountains you can drive to. We paid our fare and started up the paved road, but the weather was not very good at all. Within two miles we were in dense fog. We couldn’t see more than 10 feet in front of the vehicle. My wife started to freak out because she has a very real fear of heights and this road has no guard rails. Just road and cliff. I’m not kidding. Her panic became so bad we had to turn around. Couldn’t see anything anyway due to the fog. No gorgeous vistas to take in. No “I can see for miles” comments. Just fog. All we could do was wait for another day for that drive.
Most people don’t know where they’re headed in life. They find themselves in a fog that’s so thick all they can do is follow the road in front of them and hope it’s going in the direction they want to go.
Several years ago, I found myself in such a fog, curled up in the corner of my living room crying uncontrollably for at least half an hour. I had slowly digressed from just living to realizing my own lack of purpose and direction in my life. My purpose and direction were wrapped up in a career so when the career path changed, I was left clueless and directionless.
Too many people have a Monday target that is clearly focused no further than Friday night. I’m sorry but that’s kind of sad.
Why is Personal Directiona habit? Because every day you need to wake up and know you have a clear direction in your life. Every day you need to wake up knowing and having something important to do. You have a clear direction and a target that’s way out ahead of you and today, you are heading in the direction of that target.
With personal direction the fog clears. You can see the path ahead of you, leading you to your intended goal. Not only that, you get to enjoy the view the entire way.
I’m just three months into my 60th year here on earth. I took some time last week to plot out a 10-year plan for my life. I’m now looking 10 years down the road. I know exactly where I’m going to be when I reach the age of 70.
I will be breaking those 10-year goals down into yearly and even quarterly goals. All of it has a direction that I remind myself of everyday.
Here’s three things you can do right now to begin discovering your own direction.
Think beyond the weekend or even the month. Think at least 1 year down the road. Where do you want to be in one area of your life, one year from today? Write it down as a clear, precise goal. (Weigh less is too vague) Make simple plans that will get you there. Big & elaborate plans can be intimidating and may overwhelm you. Overwhelm can lead to quitting and quitting is unacceptable. Start with a simple plan and elaborate as you get started. Many times, starting can open up areas where more planning needs to take place. Take one step today. Just one step. Take another one tomorrow. Slowly, a plan will take shape. Just keep moving in the direction of your goal. If it’s weight loss, one step today is getting rid of all the Twinkies in your house. Hey, it’s one step in the right direction.The payoff for a one-year goal comes in one year. It could be earlier but if it’s too early your goal wasn’t as challenging as it could have been. Most people want quick payoffs. Those payoffs are usually far short of your goal, a compromise at best. Don’t settle for a compromise. Keep moving one step at a time, one day at a time, toward your goal. The payoff is reaching the goal. Once you conquer a goal in your life on purpose, you’ll want to do it again.
“Without direction, you’ll end up in the wrong section. If you don’t know where you’re going, you’ll end up some place else. Successful people know where they’re going. They have big, clear meaningful goals and they fight for them.”
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Today is the HABIT OF PERSONAL BELIEF… the first of 20 “Habits of Success” and I’m going to share my honest journey through each of them.
Every PERSON can HELP THOSE THEY LOVE THE MOST by BELIEVING IN THEMSELVES FIRST.
I know for a fact that if you don’t believe you, no one else will either. Your own negative self-doubt starts to rub off on those you’re closest to, like your spouse, kids and friends.
The habit of personal self-belief will give you confidence that cannot be confused with arrogance, you will not turn into someone’s puppy dog and your future will look brighter than ever.
Confidence should be taught at a very young age. Children should be raised to be self-confident. Most are not. I was not. Because I was not raised this way, I became dependent on another person’s confidence.
When I was growing up through junior high and high school I remember I had no identity of my own and no confidence in myself. I had glasses I had to wear every day. They weren’t stylish and none of my peers wore them. I was it. Odd man out. I also had flat feet and my mom insisted I wear orthopedic shoes. (In case you’re wondering, it was the early 1970’s) Big black, round-toed shoes that no one else wore. They all had running shoes. Not me. Just another oddity that set me apart from the crowd in the worst way possible.
I was teased a lot.
A new kid came to town. His name was Don Sidney. He was confident, athletic and most things I wanted to be. We became friends. He was Don Sidney and I was a Don Sidney wannabe. I tried to be like him, act like him. Even dress like him. How he put up with me I have no idea, but he did.
This went on all through high school. I grew out of the big black shoes but not the glasses. Joined the football team, ran track, got involved in everything that Don was involved in. I was Don’s puppy dog. I felt like I had no personal identity apart from Don.
I didn’t break out of this “puppy dog phase” until my senior year. Not because I gained personal belief in myself. My focus shifted.
Here’s another problem… my focus shifted away from Don and on to something else. I didn’t break free from dependence on someone else’s confidence. As a result, I worked hard for the approval of others and not for the service of others. I still had very little confidence in myself. I lived most of my adult life without believing in myself
I’ve realized you can’t effectively believe in your own growth, your own success or your own relationship success until you have belief in yourself.
See yourself for who you are. Filter through all the negative things you learned growing up. Learn to recognize them and commit to overcoming them. For me, I was raised to believe everything I did wasn’t good enough. I was fed sarcasm and “Not good enough” messages my entire life from birth until I left home. I had no idea what it meant to be confident in myself. I had no one to guide me and realized I had to guide myself. I saw the confidence other people had in themselves and I wanted it too.
Here’s your action plan:
Wake up every morning with something positive to say to yourself/about yourself... Then say it. Say it convincingly. Say it with conviction. “I am…” I can…” “I will…” The world doesn’t have to believe you. You have to believe you.
Remember Mohammed Ali, “I am the greatest.” Start feeding yourself daily doses of positive input. Read self-help books. Find podcasts that build you up and challenge you to be better. You need to counteract any negative thoughts and input that may be keeping you down. Make this a 90-day goal. Every day. Never miss. Commit to it. Don’t get down on yourself if you miss a day. Keep going. Keep at it. Mark it off every day on a calendar. Make a chain of X’sWhen you do this… when you do believe in yourself fully and completely, you will begin to act out your own belief. Progress leads to belief. Growth leads to belief. Feed your mind everyday with self-development material, new knowledge, empowering speakers and taking action. Once you start making progress belief will come. Belief will grow. Back yourself. You can do this.
No one will believe in you until you believe in you. If you want people to support you, lead by example. Back yourself. If you want people to believe in you, believe in yourself.
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