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  • In this episode, we journeyed further into the heart of understanding the unintended consequences of avoiding triggers and how such actions can inadvertently escalate reactivity in our dogs.

    Be sure to listen to part 1: EBD301 “Shrinking Worlds, Growing Reactivity: Why Avoiding Triggers Backfires.”

    One of the insights from this discussion is that trust is not transactional, and we can’t buy trust from our dogs at any price. Instead, trust is earned through consistent, reliable actions that demonstrate to our dogs that they are safe with us and can rely on us to navigate the world around them.

    With a focus on fostering trust and safety, we delved into why genuine connection, rather than distraction, is key to a harmonious life with our four-legged friends.

    Key Takeaways from the Episode:

    Trust Cannot Be Bought: One of the most profound insights from our discussion is the reminder that trust is not transactional.

    The Problem with Avoiding Triggers: We examined how avoiding triggers—although well-intentioned—sends a message to our dogs that the world is a place to be feared.

    Being Congruent: When our actions, feelings, and intentions are aligned, we foster an environment of trust and safety with our dogs.

    The Power of Connection: Central to our discussion was the idea that a strong, secure connection with our dogs is the foundation upon which all else is built.

    LOVE TO LEARN MORE?

    Become a calm and confident Dog Mom with a cooperative, happy dog ... without obedience training, or relying on treats or arousing games, or corrections of any type.

    Here are some next steps:

    SUBSCRIBE to Kathy’s YouTube Channel:

    https://www.youtube.com/c/DancingHeartsDogAcademy/videos

    LISTEN or READ Kathy’s Podcast and Blog on her Website:

    https://dancingheartsdogacademy.com/

    GET STARTED work with Kathy:

    https://dancinghearts.link/foundation

    LET’S CONNECT on the socials for more partnership tips and advice:

    -Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/dancinghearts/

    -Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kathykawalec/

    LISTEN TO PODCASTS:
    Subscribe to the Enlightened By Dogs podcast in your favorite app! Don’t forget to leave us a rating and review – it would make Kathy very happy!

    Subscribe on  Apple Podcasts | Listen on Spotify

    Connect on Facebook: facebook.com/dancinghearts/

  • Recently, I've had the joy of exploring the often challenging terrain of reactivity in dogs, peeling back the layers to understand the underlying causes that sweep us and our canine companions into this whirlwind. It's been an enlightening journey, especially during my "Growing Together from Reactive to Remarkable" workshop, where we shared breakthroughs as dedicated dog moms.

    In our latest episode, we've ventured into a topic that's both pivotal and potentially mind-bending: the counterintuitive truth about avoiding triggers. Yes, you've heard me champion the cause of green zone experiences, crafting a world of safety, calm, and happiness for our dogs. Yet, there's a pervasive misunderstanding that I’ve been eager to clear up.

    We dived into why avoiding triggers isn't the panacea we might think it is. Here's the essence of what we uncovered:

    Responsibility and Safety: The bedrock of our partnership with our dogs lies in creating a safe haven, a bubble where our dogs feel secure and unbothered by external stressors. This involves being proactive rather than reactive, focusing on the things within our control — our thoughts, our intentions, and our connection with our dog.

    Circle of Influence vs. Circle of Concern: Imagine two circles; one gold, symbolizing our sphere of influence (where connection, trust, and safety lie), and one blue, representing external factors (potential triggers) beyond our control. The key is to expand the gold circle, empowering ourselves and our dogs to navigate the world with confidence and calm.

    Reactivity and Protection Mode: Reactivity isn't just about our dogs responding to external stimuli; it's a signal that we've ventured beyond our current capacity for connection and calm. Recognizing this allows us to recalibrate and strengthen our partnership muscles, ensuring we're both equipped to handle life's surprises.

    Avoiding Triggers – A Misstep: Here's where the plot thickens. Steering clear of potential triggers might seem like a sensible strategy, but it's a misguided one. Avoidance can actually shrink our world, limiting the rich experiences and joys of life with our dogs. Instead, we're invited to focus on making it easy to have connected adventures often!

    LOVE TO LEARN MORE?

    Become a calm and confident Dog Mom with a cooperative, happy dog ... without obedience training, or relying on treats or arousing games, or corrections of any type.

    Here are some next steps:

    SUBSCRIBE to Kathy’s YouTube Channel:

    https://www.youtube.com/c/DancingHeartsDogAcademy/videos

    LISTEN or READ Kathy’s Podcast and Blog on her Website:

    https://dancingheartsdogacademy.com/

    GET STARTED work with Kathy:

    https://dancinghearts.link/foundation

    LET’S CONNECT on the socials for more partnership tips and advice:

    -Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/dancinghearts/

    -Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kathykawalec/

    LISTEN TO PODCASTS:
    Subscribe to the Enlightened By Dogs podcast in your favorite app! Don’t forget to leave us a rating and review – it would make Kathy very happy!

    Subscribe on  Apple Podcasts | Listen on Spotify

    Connect on Facebook: facebook.com/dancinghearts/

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  • This episode unfolds a compassionate and insightful exploration into what reactivity in dogs truly means, advocating for a profound shift in our understanding and response to it.

    Kathy introduces listeners to a reimagined definition of reactivity, rooted in the complexities of canine communication and the frequent misunderstandings that arise when these communications go unheard or unheeded.

    It challenges the common definition of reactivity—behavior that is inappropriately out of proportion to a situation—by suggesting that what is often seen as reactive behavior is actually a sign of high intelligence, sensitivity, and confusion in dogs.



    Key Takeaways:

    Kathy challenges traditional views on reactivity, advocating for a definition that acknowledges it as a complex expression of unmet needs and emotions, rather than a straightforward behavioral issue to be trained away.

    The profound connection we have with our dogs is the very thing that pulls us both into the Reactivity Spiral.

    A shift from a one-size-fits-all obedience training approach to a more compassionate, understanding method that nurtures each dog's unique potential.

    The episode discusses why some dogs are reactive and others are not, pointing out that differences in individual sensitivities, needs, and upbringing can lead to varying behaviors.

    LOVE TO LEARN MORE?

    Become a calm and confident Dog Mom with a cooperative, happy dog ... without obedience training, or relying on treats or arousing games, or corrections of any type.

    Here are some next steps:

    SUBSCRIBE to Kathy’s YouTube Channel:

    https://www.youtube.com/c/DancingHeartsDogAcademy/videos

    LISTEN or READ Kathy’s Podcast and Blog on her Website:

    https://dancingheartsdogacademy.com/

    GET STARTED work with Kathy:

    https://dancinghearts.link/foundation

    LET’S CONNECT on the socials for more partnership tips and advice:

    -Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/dancinghearts/

    -Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kathykawalec/

    LISTEN TO PODCASTS:
    Subscribe to the Enlightened By Dogs podcast in your favorite app! Don’t forget to leave us a rating and review – it would make Kathy very happy!

    Subscribe on  Apple Podcasts | Listen on Spotify

    Connect on Facebook: facebook.com/dancinghearts/

  • In this episode Kathy explores the nuanced communication between dog moms and their dogs, emphasizing the importance of understanding and reframing our perceptions of our dogs' behaviors.

    Kathy shares the idea that behaviors we often interpret as disobedience or refusal are actually our dogs communicating their unmet needs. She advocates for a shift from correction to connection, suggesting that listening and engaging in a dialogue with our dogs can lead to a deeper understanding and a more harmonious relationship. Kathy offers practical advice on becoming a guide for our dogs by establishing clear, kind communication and developing a lifestyle that fosters mutual respect and understanding.

    Key takeaways from this episode include:

    Reframing Perception: Viewing behaviors not as defiance but as communication of unmet needs.

    Building Connection: Focusing on creating a circle of safety and trust rather than correcting behaviors.

    Role Modeling: Being a guide for our dogs through clear communication and heart-to-heart connection.

    Lifestyle Approach: Treating interactions as part of a lifestyle, not isolated training sessions.

    Plan and Progress: Developing plans with our dogs to address behaviors, focusing on progress, not perfection.

    Kathy's insights encourage us to approach our relationships with our dogs with empathy, understanding, and patience, fostering a deeper bond and a more joyful life together.

    LOVE TO LEARN MORE?

    Become a calm and confident Dog Mom with a cooperative, happy dog ... without obedience training, or relying on treats or arousing games, or corrections of any type.

    Here are some next steps:

    SUBSCRIBE to Kathy’s YouTube Channel:

    https://www.youtube.com/c/DancingHeartsDogAcademy/videos

    LISTEN or READ Kathy’s Podcast and Blog on her Website:

    https://dancingheartsdogacademy.com/

    GET STARTED work with Kathy:

    https://dancinghearts.link/foundation

    LET’S CONNECT on the socials for more partnership tips and advice:

    -Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/dancinghearts/

    -Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kathykawalec/

    LISTEN TO PODCASTS:
    Subscribe to the Enlightened By Dogs podcast in your favorite app! Don’t forget to leave us a rating and review – it would make Kathy very happy!

    Subscribe on  Apple Podcasts | Listen on Spotify

    Connect on Facebook: facebook.com/dancinghearts/

  • In this inspiring podcast replay, Kathy interviews Ros about her transformative experience with her two Hungarian Vizslas, Phoebe and Myrtle. Ros discusses the initial challenges of their reactivity and her subsequent journey to understanding and connecting with them in a way that led to an enjoyable life together.

    The episode highlights the pivotal role of a dog mom’s mindset in influencing dog behavior, the importance of addressing the underlying causes of reactivity, and the effectiveness of the 'Safe, Calm, and Happy' approach. It showcases the significant behavioral transformation possible through partnership-based methods.

    Listen to the full interview for insights into this life-changing journey!

    Key Takeaways:

    The critical impact of a dog mom's emotional state and mindset on her dog's behavior.

    Addressing the root causes of a dog's reactivity, rather than just the symptoms, leads to more effective results.

    'Safe, Calm, and Happy' protocol's role in managing and transforming a dog's behavior.

    Value of supportive community and structured guidance in navigating challenges with reactive dogs.

    Potential for substantial behavioral improvement and enhanced life quality for both dogs and dog moms through dedicated partnership training.

    LOVE TO LEARN MORE?

    Become a calm and confident Dog Mom with a cooperative, happy dog ... without obedience training, or relying on treats or arousing games, or corrections of any type.

    Here are some next steps:

    SUBSCRIBE to Kathy’s YouTube Channel:

    https://www.youtube.com/c/DancingHeartsDogAcademy/videos

    LISTEN or READ Kathy’s Podcast and Blog on her Website:

    https://dancingheartsdogacademy.com/

    GET STARTED work with Kathy:

    https://dancinghearts.link/foundation

    LET’S CONNECT on the socials for more partnership tips and advice:

    -Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/dancinghearts/

    -Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kathykawalec/

    LISTEN TO PODCASTS:
    Subscribe to the Enlightened By Dogs podcast in your favorite app! Don’t forget to leave us a rating and review – it would make Kathy very happy!

    Subscribe on  Apple Podcasts | Listen on Spotify

    Connect on Facebook: facebook.com/dancinghearts/

  • Today’s episode addresses the common yet frustrating issue many dog moms face - their dogs not responding to recall in everyday situations.

    In this insightful episode, host Kathy sheds light on why traditional command-based recall methods often fall short and offers a more effective, connection-based approach.

    This podcast is essential for dog moms looking to understand their dogs better and build a relationship where recall becomes a natural, stress-free part of their daily life. Kathy guides listeners through practical, real-life scenarios, demonstrating how empathy and understanding can transform recall from a struggle to a joyful interaction.

    Key Takeaways:

    Recall as an Invitation, Not a Command: Shifting from commanding to inviting your dog strengthens your bond and makes recall a positive experience.

    Understanding Over Obedience: Understanding your dog's unique personality, needs, and emotions is key to effective recall training.

    Building Trust, Not Just Compliance: Fostering trust and safety with your dog leads to more natural and reliable recall responses.

    The Power of Connection: A deep, heart-centered connection with your dog is transformative in overcoming recall challenges.

    Practical Everyday Applications: Practical insights into everyday scenarios improve recall reliability and overall cooperation.

    LOVE TO LEARN MORE?

    Become a calm and confident Dog Mom with a cooperative, happy dog ... without obedience training, or relying on treats or arousing games, or corrections of any type.

    Here are some next steps:

    SUBSCRIBE to Kathy’s YouTube Channel:

    https://www.youtube.com/c/DancingHeartsDogAcademy/videos

    LISTEN or READ Kathy’s Podcast and Blog on her Website:

    https://dancingheartsdogacademy.com/

    GET STARTED work with Kathy:

    https://dancinghearts.link/foundation

    LET’S CONNECT on the socials for more partnership tips and advice:

    -Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/dancinghearts/

    -Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kathykawalec/

    LISTEN TO PODCASTS:
    Subscribe to the Enlightened By Dogs podcast in your favorite app! Don’t forget to leave us a rating and review – it would make Kathy very happy!

    Subscribe on  Apple Podcasts | Listen on Spotify

    Connect on Facebook: facebook.com/dancinghearts/



  • In this episode, Kathy discusses the profound impact our subconscious beliefs can have on our dogs' behavior, drawing on the concept of the Pygmalion Effect or Self-fulfilling Prophecy.

    Common frustrations and challenges dog moms face, like reactivity, over-excitement, and disobedience, can be transformed by starting with a shift from judgment to understanding and support. Negative beliefs about our dogs can create a challenging loop of behavior that spirals into meltdowns or shutdowns, while positive perceptions can lead to more harmonious interactions.

    Kathy's message is clear: when dog moms believe in cooperation, they create an environment where both they and their dogs can thrive.

    Key Takeaways

    Our subconscious beliefs about our dogs can significantly shape their behavior, illustrating the Pygmalion Effect.

    Viewing dogs' behaviors as forms of communication encourages a more empathetic and effective response to their needs.

    Changing our perception from seeing our dogs as problematic to understanding their actions can transform our relationship with them.

    Accepting and loving our dogs as they are can lead to significant positive changes in their behavior and our relationship with them.

    LOVE TO LEARN MORE?

    Become a calm and confident Dog Mom with a cooperative, happy dog ... without obedience training, or relying on treats or arousing games, or corrections of any type.

    Here are some next steps:

    SUBSCRIBE to Kathy’s YouTube Channel:

    https://www.youtube.com/c/DancingHeartsDogAcademy/videos

    LISTEN or READ Kathy’s Podcast and Blog on her Website:

    https://dancingheartsdogacademy.com/

    GET STARTED work with Kathy:

    https://dancinghearts.link/foundation

    LET’S CONNECT on the socials for more partnership tips and advice:

    -Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/dancinghearts/

    -Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kathykawalec/

    LISTEN TO PODCASTS:
    Subscribe to the Enlightened By Dogs podcast in your favorite app! Don’t forget to leave us a rating and review – it would make Kathy very happy!

    Subscribe on  Apple Podcasts | Listen on Spotify

    Connect on Facebook: facebook.com/dancinghearts/

  • In this insightful episode, Kathy delves into the nuanced topic of leadership in the context of a relationship with our dogs that cultivates natural cooperation. She emphasizes the importance of being a loving leader without resorting to dominance or obedience training. Kathy explains that true leadership is about guiding, listening, and fostering trust rather than commanding or exerting control.

    Kathy advocates for a leadership style that centers on making dogs feel safe, thereby cultivating trust and cooperation. This episode is not only a guide to better understanding dogs but also a reflection on the transformative power of empathy and kindness in leadership.

    Tune in for Kathy’s strategies and personal experiences that will help you nurture a space where your dog feels secure, trusting and cooperative.

    Key Takeaways:

    Leadership with our dogs should focus on guidance and cooperation, not dominance or obedience.

    Listening and understanding to both human and canine needs are crucial for building trust and a sense of safety and security.

    Observations from animal behavior research, such as in wolves and elephants, can inform effective and compassionate dog parenting strategies.

    A loving leader influences the family's tone, setting an example of calmness, decisiveness, and kindness.

    Creating a safe and trusting environment is essential for fostering cooperation and reducing negative behaviors like hyper-vigilance and reactivity in dogs.

    LOVE TO LEARN MORE?

    Become a calm and confident Dog Mom with a cooperative, happy dog ... without obedience training, or relying on treats or arousing games, or corrections of any type.

    Here are some next steps:

    SUBSCRIBE to Kathy’s YouTube Channel:

    https://www.youtube.com/c/DancingHeartsDogAcademy/videos

    LISTEN or READ Kathy’s Podcast and Blog on her Website:

    https://dancingheartsdogacademy.com/

    GET STARTED work with Kathy:

    https://dancinghearts.link/foundation

    LET’S CONNECT on the socials for more partnership tips and advice:

    -Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/dancinghearts/

    -Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kathykawalec/

    LISTEN TO PODCASTS:
    Subscribe to the Enlightened By Dogs podcast in your favorite app! Don’t forget to leave us a rating and review – it would make Kathy very happy!

    Subscribe on  Apple Podcasts | Listen on Spotify

    Connect on Facebook: facebook.com/dancinghearts/

  • Today on The Enlightened by Dogs Show, our host Kathy Kawalec dives deep into the beautiful world of empathy, connection, and mindful partnership with our dogs. She reminds us that it's not just about what we do, but also about who we are being in our relationship with our dogs. Our intentions and values shape our actions and the results we achieve.

    To truly connect with our dogs, Kathy encourages us to reflect on what we truly value and desire in our relationship with them. She shares some fantastic exercises to help us gain clarity on our core values and the qualities we aspire to live by. By making value declarations based on these qualities, we can guide our actions and intentions in our relationship with our dogs.

    But it doesn't stop there! Kathy wants us to imagine what our dogs love about our relationship and the qualities they value in a human partner. By expressing these qualities in our interactions with our dogs, we can create an even stronger bond.

    Tune in to cultivate a more fulfilling and successful partnership with your dogs.

    Key Takeaways:

    It's not just about what we do, but also about who we are being in our relationship with our dogs.

    Reflect on your core values and the qualities you admire in others to guide your actions and intentions.

    Imagine what your dog loves about your relationship and express those qualities in your interactions.

    LOVE TO LEARN MORE?

    Become a calm and confident Dog Mom with a cooperative, happy dog ... without obedience training, or relying on treats or arousing games, or corrections of any type.

    Here are some next steps:

    SUBSCRIBE to Kathy’s YouTube Channel:

    https://www.youtube.com/c/DancingHeartsDogAcademy/videos

    LISTEN or READ Kathy’s Podcast and Blog on her Website:

    https://dancingheartsdogacademy.com/

    GET STARTED work with Kathy:

    https://dancinghearts.link/foundation

    LET’S CONNECT on the socials for more partnership tips and advice:

    -Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/dancinghearts/

    -Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kathykawalec/

    LISTEN TO PODCASTS:
    Subscribe to the Enlightened By Dogs podcast in your favorite app! Don’t forget to leave us a rating and review – it would make Kathy very happy!

    Subscribe on  Apple Podcasts | Listen on Spotify

    Connect on Facebook: facebook.com/dancinghearts/

  • In this heartfelt episode, we delve into the essence of being a dog mom, exploring the powerful bond between women and their dogs, highlighting the unique perspectives and experiences that shape this relationship.

    Kathy challenges conventional dog training philosophies, advocating for a partnership approach rooted in understanding, respect, and mutual growth. We delve into the concepts of power and leadership, contrasting traditional 'Power Over' methods with a more nurturing, 'Power WITH' approach, which aligns with the natural tendencies of women to create safe, empathetic environments for growth and connection.

    Tune in for practical insights into dog parenting that also serve as a reminder of the profound impact our mindset and approach can have on a cooperative relationship with our dogs.

    Key Takeaways:

    Empathy and Connection: The key to a strong relationship with our dogs lies in empathy and connection. By understanding their needs and emotions, we can nurture a deep bond that goes beyond dominance.

    Mindful Partnership: Instead of asserting dominance, we should strive for a mindful partnership with our dogs. This means embracing our strengths and vulnerabilities, and learning from their teachings to grow together.

    Embracing Authenticity: We are encouraged to embrace our authentic selves as dog moms. Making mistakes and having flaws are part of the journey towards empowerment, and our dogs can teach us valuable lessons about acceptance and self-love.

    Collaboration and Communication: Effective dog training is not about controlling or suppressing our dogs, but rather about collaborating and communicating with them. By working together, we can create a sense of belonging and foster a relationship based on mutual understanding and support.

    Thriving Together: The future holds endless possibilities for women and their dogs to understand and thrive together. By embracing our power and living in harmony with our furry companions, we can create a world where both women and dogs can learn from each other and grow.

    LOVE TO LEARN MORE?

    Become a calm and confident Dog Mom with a cooperative, happy dog ... without obedience training, or relying on treats or arousing games, or corrections of any type.

    Here are some next steps:

    SUBSCRIBE to Kathy’s YouTube Channel:

    https://www.youtube.com/c/DancingHeartsDogAcademy/videos

    LISTEN or READ Kathy’s Podcast and Blog on her Website:

    https://dancingheartsdogacademy.com/

    GET STARTED work with Kathy:

    https://dancinghearts.link/foundation

    LET’S CONNECT on the socials for more partnership tips and advice:

    -Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/dancinghearts/

    -Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kathykawalec/

    LISTEN TO PODCASTS:
    Subscribe to the Enlightened By Dogs podcast in your favorite app! Don’t forget to leave us a rating and review – it would make Kathy very happy!

    Subscribe on  Apple Podcasts | Listen on Spotify

    Connect on Facebook: facebook.com/dancinghearts/

  • As we step into the festive season, we often find ourselves swept up in the whirlwind of holiday preparations. However, amidst the glittering lights and cheerful melodies, our sensitive dogs can sense our stress along with the change in their environment, sometimes reflecting it in their own behavior. This season, Kathy invites you to create a holiday 'green zone' – a sanctuary of calm and connection for both you and your beloved dogs.

    Creating this green zone starts with us, the devoted dog moms. When we acknowledge our own stress and take steps to manage it, we pave the way for a happier holiday experience for our furry family members. Remember, our dogs are incredibly attuned to our emotions. If we’re frazzled, they feel it too. By taking a few simple steps to keep ourselves regulated, we help them stay balanced and calm.

    Key takeaways:

    Less is more: our dogs don't need a picture-perfect holiday; they need a happy, connected, and stress-free family.

    Sensory overload makes dogs hyperactive, barky, anxious or easily triggered, so keep holiday decorating simple this year.

    Set up a cozy hideaway for your dog away from the action. It's their safe retreat for a peaceful escape during holiday gatherings.

    LOVE TO LEARN MORE?

    Become a calm and confident Dog Mom with a cooperative, happy dog ... without obedience training, or relying on treats or arousing games, or corrections of any type.

    Here are some next steps:

    SUBSCRIBE to Kathy’s YouTube Channel:

    https://www.youtube.com/c/DancingHeartsDogAcademy/videos

    LISTEN or READ Kathy’s Podcast and Blog on her Website:

    https://dancingheartsdogacademy.com/

    GET STARTED work with Kathy:

    https://dancinghearts.link/foundation

    LET’S CONNECT on the socials for more partnership tips and advice:

    -Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/dancinghearts/

    -Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kathykawalec/

    LISTEN TO PODCASTS:
    Subscribe to the Enlightened By Dogs podcast in your favorite app! Don’t forget to leave us a rating and review – it would make Kathy very happy!

    Subscribe on  Apple Podcasts | Listen on Spotify

    Connect on Facebook: facebook.com/dancinghearts/

  • In this podcast episode, Kathy Kawalec talks about the importance of communication in building a beautiful and cooperative relationship with our dogs. She starts by expressing how living with dogs is a gift, despite the challenges that sometimes come with it. Kathy emphasizes that communication with our dogs isn't just about giving commands; it's a two-way street. It's about exchanging ideas, feelings, and understanding each other's intentions. She points out that dogs don't just act out or misbehave without a reason. Instead, their actions often come from a place of need or misunderstanding. Understanding this can change how we respond to them.

    Kathy dives deeper into the concept of intention in communication. She explains that knowing the purpose behind our dogs' actions can help us understand them better. For example, a dog not coming in from the backyard when called isn't trying to be uncooperative but might be busy or wrapped up in something. Kathy encourages dog moms to see behavior as a form of communication and to look beneath the surface to understand the real message our dogs are trying to convey.

    Throughout the episode, Kathy advocates for a partnership approach in our relationship with dogs. She stresses the importance of being attentive, responsive, and respectful to both our needs and our dogs' needs. By focusing on building a consensual and collaborative partnership, we can create a deeper bond and a more harmonious life with our canine companions.

    Key Takeaways

    Communication is Two-Way: Building a relationship with our dogs involves listening and understanding their needs and expressions, not just giving commands.

    Understanding Intentions: Behind every action of our dogs is an intention. Understanding these intentions can help resolve misunderstandings and strengthen our bond.

    Behavior as Communication: Dogs communicate through their behavior. Recognizing this can help us respond more empathetically to their needs.

    Partnership Approach: Building a partnership with our dogs, based on mutual respect and understanding, is more effective than focusing solely on obedience.

    Respectful and Consensual Relationship: Our interactions with our dogs should be based on mutual consent and respect, considering both their needs and ours.

    LOVE TO LEARN MORE?

    Become a calm and confident Dog Mom with a cooperative, happy dog ... without obedience training, or relying on treats or arousing games, or corrections of any type.

    Here are some next steps:

    SUBSCRIBE to Kathy’s YouTube Channel:

    https://www.youtube.com/c/DancingHeartsDogAcademy/videos

    LISTEN or READ Kathy’s Podcast and Blog on her Website:

    https://dancingheartsdogacademy.com/

    GET STARTED work with Kathy:

    https://dancinghearts.link/foundation

    LET’S CONNECT on the socials for more partnership tips and advice:

    -Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/dancinghearts/

    -Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kathykawalec/

    LISTEN TO PODCASTS:
    Subscribe to the Enlightened By Dogs podcast in your favorite app! Don’t forget to leave us a rating and review – it would make Kathy very happy!

    Subscribe on  Apple Podcasts | Listen on Spotify

    Connect on Facebook: facebook.com/dancinghearts/

  • Inspired by a Business Insider article on meditation's impact on the human brain, Kathy ponders whether our stressful lives might be affecting our dogs more than we realize in this replayed episode. This leads her to question if our hectic lifestyles might also be changing our dogs' brains, possibly increasing their stress and anxiety.

    The strong bond we share with our dogs has been shaped by years of living together, and while our furry friends help reduce our stress, we might unknowingly be causing them stress. Kathy observes that many modern dogs seem over-aroused, anxious, and stressed, and seem to be mirroring our own overwhelming lives.

    By supporting our dogs' natural way of living in the moment, and doing what they do best, we can enhance both their lives and ours. This heartwarming episode is a call to be more mindful of our impact on our canine companions and to embrace a lifestyle that benefits both humans and dogs.

    Key Takeaways:

    Mutual Influence: Our stress and lifestyle choices can significantly impact our dogs' mental and emotional health.

    Balanced Dog Activities: Dogs benefit from a mix of activities, with half being calming and relaxing to counteract stress.

    Mindful Companionship: By allowing dogs to live in the moment and engage in natural behaviors, we can create a healthier, more fulfilling life for both ourselves and our furry friends.

    LOVE TO LEARN MORE?

    Become a calm and confident Dog Mom with a cooperative, happy dog ... without obedience training, or relying on treats or arousing games, or corrections of any type.

    Here are some next steps:

    SUBSCRIBE to Kathy’s YouTube Channel:

    https://www.youtube.com/c/DancingHeartsDogAcademy/videos

    LISTEN or READ Kathy’s Podcast and Blog on her Website:

    https://dancingheartsdogacademy.com/

    GET STARTED work with Kathy:

    https://dancinghearts.link/foundation

    LET’S CONNECT on the socials for more partnership tips and advice:

    -Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/dancinghearts/

    -Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kathykawalec/

    LISTEN TO PODCASTS:
    Subscribe to the Enlightened By Dogs podcast in your favorite app! Don’t forget to leave us a rating and review – it would make Kathy very happy!

    Subscribe on  Apple Podcasts | Listen on Spotify

    Connect on Facebook: facebook.com/dancinghearts/

  • Sometimes, in the hustle of dog sports and the pursuit of the 'perfectly trained' dog, we might lose sight of why we welcomed these loving creatures into our lives in the first place. This episode is a gentle nudge to step back and cherish the unconditional love, companionship, and personal growth our dogs bring to us every single day.

    In this episode, Kathy shares a heart-to-heart talk about the deep and enriching bond we share with our dogs and a reminder of what's truly important in our lives together.

    In our lives with dogs, the essence of our bond goes far beyond ribbons, titles, or the quest for a 'perfect' pet. It's about the unconditional love, the laughter over their quirky habits, and the lessons they teach us about being present and patient. These moments of connection remind us to appreciate the now, to meet our dogs and ourselves exactly where we are - perfectly imperfect.

    And while it's important to have dreams and goals, it's just as crucial to remember that the journey with our dogs shouldn't be clouded by undue stress or unrealistic expectations. Let's take a step back from the pressures and cherish the unique, heartwarming journey we share with our furry friends.

    Listen in and embrace your perfectly imperfect dog! 🎧💖



    Key takeaways:

    Focus on the real reasons for sharing life with dogs, like unconditional love and companionship, rather than superficial achievements.

    Accept both yourself and your dog as they are, celebrating imperfections and using daily interactions as opportunities for personal growth.

    Avoid the stress of timelines and goals in dog training, focusing instead on the joy and journey of the relationship with your dog.

    LOVE TO LEARN MORE?

    Become a calm and confident Dog Mom with a cooperative, happy dog ... without obedience training, or relying on treats or arousing games, or corrections of any type.

    Here are some next steps:

    SUBSCRIBE to Kathy’s YouTube Channel:

    https://www.youtube.com/c/DancingHeartsDogAcademy/videos

    LISTEN or READ Kathy’s Podcast and Blog on her Website:

    https://dancingheartsdogacademy.com/

    GET STARTED work with Kathy:

    https://dancinghearts.link/foundation

    LET’S CONNECT on the socials for more partnership tips and advice:

    -Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/dancinghearts/

    -Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kathykawalec/

    LISTEN TO PODCASTS:
    Subscribe to the Enlightened By Dogs podcast in your favorite app! Don’t forget to leave us a rating and review – it would make Kathy very happy!

    Subscribe on  Apple Podcasts | Listen on Spotify

    Connect on Facebook: facebook.com/dancinghearts/

  • Today's podcast is a beloved replay of Kathy’s special tribute to our faithful friends—our dogs. Dogs are embodiments of love, laughter, and connection. Yes, they can sometimes be the source of frustration, but the joy they sprinkle in our lives eclipses those fleeting moments of worry. And even when we face communication hurdles, the bond remains unshaken.

    In the first segment of this podcast, Kathy shares an excerpt from Mary Oliver's "Dog Songs." The passage read is a testament to the untamed spirit that dogs carry, a spirit that echoes the wilderness from which we all emerged. Oliver's words remind us that dogs are beings that connect us to the larger tapestry of life:

    "The dog would remind us of the pleasures of the body with its graceful physicality and the acuity and rapture of the senses..."

    Reflecting on Oliver's sentiments, it's clear that dogs are not just living in our world—they magnify its beauty. They invite us to savor the present, to relish life's simple joys, and to embrace the world with open arms and an open heart.

    LOVE TO LEARN MORE?

    Become a calm and confident Dog Mom with a cooperative, happy dog ... without obedience training, or relying on treats or arousing games, or corrections of any type.

    Here are some next steps:

    SUBSCRIBE to Kathy’s YouTube Channel:

    https://www.youtube.com/c/DancingHeartsDogAcademy/videos

    LISTEN or READ Kathy’s Podcast and Blog on her Website:

    https://dancingheartsdogacademy.com/

    GET STARTED work with Kathy:

    https://dancinghearts.link/foundation

    LET’S CONNECT on the socials for more partnership tips and advice:

    -Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/dancinghearts/

    -Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kathykawalec/

    LISTEN TO PODCASTS:
    Subscribe to the Enlightened By Dogs podcast in your favorite app! Don’t forget to leave us a rating and review – it would make Kathy very happy!

    Subscribe on  Apple Podcasts | Listen on Spotify

    Connect on Facebook: facebook.com/dancinghearts/

  • We are replaying this deep and insightful episode of Enlightened By Dogs, where Kathy shares a story that many struggling dog moms will relate to. Hear how she overcame difficult challenges and learn how her hardest dog taught her the true meaning of living a joy-filled partnership lifestyle with dogs.

    Some of our most important life lessons come from our hardest dogs. If it wasn’t for those challenges, Kathy tells us that she would never have the experience, insight, and determination to become the better person she is today.

    Phoenix taught her partnership lessons like how to be a loving leader for our dogs, how our emotional responses inform our dogs and how to communicate with our dogs the right way.

    Then there was the crucial life skill of the importance of taking responsibility for our own thoughts, emotions and actions.

    And, most of all, the importance of being patient.

    Tune in to this candid episode that might just fill your eyes with tears…and your heart with hope.

    LOVE TO LEARN MORE?

    Become a calm and confident Dog Mom with a cooperative, happy dog ... without obedience training, or relying on treats or arousing games, or corrections of any type.

    Here are some next steps:

    SUBSCRIBE to Kathy’s YouTube Channel:

    https://www.youtube.com/c/DancingHeartsDogAcademy/videos

    LISTEN or READ Kathy’s Podcast and Blog on her Website:

    https://dancingheartsdogacademy.com/

    GET STARTED work with Kathy:

    https://dancinghearts.link/foundation

    LET’S CONNECT on the socials for more partnership tips and advice:

    -Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/dancinghearts/

    -Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kathykawalec/

    LISTEN TO PODCASTS:
    Subscribe to the Enlightened By Dogs podcast in your favorite app! Don’t forget to leave us a rating and review – it would make Kathy very happy!

    Subscribe on  Apple Podcasts | Listen on Spotify

    Connect on Facebook: facebook.com/dancinghearts/

  • Today, we are replaying a compilation of inspiring tales from dog moms who faced various challenges with their reactive dogs and then completely turned things around.

    From dogs barking incessantly at fences, reacting aggressively on leashes, fearing strangers, or simply refusing to move on sidewalks due to panic, these stories shine a light on hope. No matter the existing relationship with your dog - even if it's already good - there’s so much more!,

    These dog moms embraced the partnership principles, and with a change in mindset that led to a trust-based approach, they transformed their relationships and their life with their dogs.

    Key Takeaways:

    Importance of Partnership: Many dog moms who faced challenges with their dogs achieved transformation by adopting the 'partnership approach’. This approach focuses on mutual understanding, trust, and cooperation rather than traditional training methods.

    Mental Shift Over Training: A recurring theme is the transition from trying to "fix" the dogs through intensive training sessions to changing one's mindset. By understanding and connecting with their dogs on a deeper level, many dog moms found that their dog’s behavior transformed, without intensive training.

    Challenges Vary: Dogs can exhibit a range of unwanted behaviors, from aggression to fearfulness. Each story emphasizes that regardless of the nature of the challenge, there is hope for improvement and transformation through a trusting partnership.

    Empathy and Understanding: In multiple stories, dog moms expressed a profound sense of empathy, both for their dogs and for other dog moms facing challenges. This sense of community and understanding underscores the shared experiences of dog moms.

    Continuous Journey: While many stories highlight significant improvements, they also suggest that the journey with their dogs is continuous. The emphasis is on mutual growth, understanding, and exploring the depth of the bond between human and canine.




    Listen to these live interview snippets and get inspired to nurture a partnership lifestyle with your own dogs. Their stories are testament to the transformative power of a partnership-driven approach.




    Featured Stories:



    1. BETTINA and Murphy:

    Adopting Murphy, a deaf dog, posed numerous challenges for Bettina. Beyond his hearing impairment, Murphy was anxious and often acted out, leading to household disruptions. However, Bettina's shift towards a 'brilliant partnership' approach transformed their lives.

    "I stopped trying to fix Murphy... The neighbor who was upset about our barking dogs last year asked me why he hasn’t heard my dogs barking now. BPA has been a life-changer for us."

    2. ANYA and Zoe:

    Zoe, a rescue, initially showed aggression towards other animals and would run away during walks. However, after participating in a partnership workshop, Anya discovered a new approach to their relationship.

    "It feels like a mutual exploration of the love we share."

    3. MARIANNE with Clover and Bowie:

    Formerly leash-reactive Clover and over-enthusiastic Bowie made walks a challenge. Now, Marianne cherishes the harmony they share during their outings.

    "Our walk today was perfect... It was about understanding and learning from each other."

    4. SUE and Charlie:

    Charlie, a rescue dog, was driven by fear and had a strong urge to chase, causing Sue physical injury. As a professional dog trainer, Sue realized the value of partnership over pure training.

    “Moving from a transactional relationship to one based on heart-connection made all the difference... Partnership principles are now central to our lifestyle."

    5. MARY and Flicka:

    Flicka's overactive behavior was a cause for concern for Mary. Her dreams of agility and herding seemed distant. However, by adopting the partnership lifestyle, Mary and Flicka now enjoy a harmonious bond.


    Quote: "We’re now deeply engaged in forming brilliant partnerships, cherishing every day."

    LOVE TO LEARN MORE?

    Become a calm and confident Dog Mom with a cooperative, happy dog ... without obedience training, or relying on treats or arousing games, or corrections of any type.

    Here are some next steps:

    SUBSCRIBE to Kathy’s YouTube Channel:

    https://www.youtube.com/c/DancingHeartsDogAcademy/videos

    LISTEN or READ Kathy’s Podcast and Blog on her Website:

    https://dancingheartsdogacademy.com/

    GET STARTED work with Kathy:

    https://dancinghearts.link/foundation

    LET’S CONNECT on the socials for more partnership tips and advice:

    -Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/dancinghearts/

    -Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kathykawalec/

    LISTEN TO PODCASTS:
    Subscribe to the Enlightened By Dogs podcast in your favorite app! Don’t forget to leave us a rating and review – it would make Kathy very happy!

    Subscribe on  Apple Podcasts | Listen on Spotify

    Connect on Facebook: facebook.com/dancinghearts/

  • Kathy Kawalec shares an intimate story about her border collie Maya, who had been rejected by three homes by the time she was six months old. Maya was labeled "untrainable" due to her uncontrollable and dangerous chasing habits. Experienced trainers struggled with her, but Kathy approached the situation differently.

    Instead of focusing on training specific behaviors, Kathy prioritized establishing a strong foundation with Maya, emphasizing these key partnership principles:

    Role modeling: Showing Maya the norms of living as a family and helping her adapt through classical conditioning.

    Meeting Maya's needs: Ensuring she felt heard, had a sense of belonging, and felt she was contributing to the family.

    Building trust: Not setting timelines for Maya's progress, but taking things day by day.

    Decision-making: Using the clarity framework to guide choices, based on trust and desired outcomes.

    The Partnership Dance Steps: Incorporating dance steps into their daily activities to foster connection and communication.

    Once their foundation was strong, Kathy began Maya's sheepdog training. This once "untrainable" dog went on to become a finalist in national competitions and was ranked among the top 30 in North American border collie sheepdog standings.

    The essence of their journey is a testament to the power of patience, understanding, and partnership. Kathy encourages others to adopt a similar approach, emphasizing the "95% Rule" (only asking your dog to do something if you're 95% certain they can do what you’re about to ask) and prioritizing deep listening and building a sense of belonging.

    Kathy's story with Maya serves as an inspiration to believe in the potential of every dog, regardless of their past.

    LOVE TO LEARN MORE?

    Become a calm and confident Dog Mom with a cooperative, happy dog ... without obedience training, or relying on treats or arousing games, or corrections of any type.

    Here are some next steps:

    SUBSCRIBE to Kathy’s YouTube Channel:

    https://www.youtube.com/c/DancingHeartsDogAcademy/videos

    LISTEN or READ Kathy’s Podcast and Blog on her Website:

    https://dancingheartsdogacademy.com/

    GET STARTED work with Kathy:

    https://dancinghearts.link/foundation

    LET’S CONNECT on the socials for more partnership tips and advice:

    -Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/dancinghearts/

    -Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kathykawalec/

    LISTEN TO PODCASTS:
    Subscribe to the Enlightened By Dogs podcast in your favorite app! Don’t forget to leave us a rating and review – it would make Kathy very happy!

    Subscribe on  Apple Podcasts | Listen on Spotify

    Connect on Facebook: facebook.com/dancinghearts/

  • Kathy is replaying this important episode featuring the journey she took with her sheltie from fearful to confident. In this heartwarming and enlightening episode, Kathy reminisces about her journey with her Sable Sheltie, Haley, from the early 1990s. Beginning with a look at Haley's profound fear of strangers, the narrative evolves to reflect on the transformational nature of their bond.

    Despite the obstacles they faced, like Haley's unexpected chase after horses, Kathy employed her deep respect for animals, intuitive training methods, and a departure from conventional wisdom.

    Over the years, Kathy's philosophy has come full circle. While obedience, even when taught through positive reinforcement, was long seen as the gold standard, Kathy believes it's not the most compassionate way to connect with our dogs. She emphasizes that positive reinforcement training isn’t the end; it’s just the beginning. Introducing her progressive concept: partnership-centered cooperation. This method prioritizes living harmoniously with dogs without the confines of obedience training.

    Kathy's vision is clear: she sees this becoming the new norm and is on a mission to revolutionize the dog-human relationship, especially for dog moms who value cooperation over obedience.

    Key Takeaways:

    Teaching My Dog Not to Come When I Called: How a Bad Decision Led to Loss of Trust

    Beyond Positive Reinforcement: While positive reinforcement has its merits, it’s merely a starting point in the evolution of harmonious living with dogs.

    Partnership-Centered Cooperation: Kathy's innovative philosophy emphasizes a life with dogs where obedience training takes a backseat, replaced by mutual understanding and trust.

    Patience and Time: Even when faced with challenging behaviors or situations, given enough patience and time, positive change can happen.

    The 95% Rule: Only ask your dog to do something when you're 95% sure they can. This rule, inspired by Haley, helps in ensuring success while building trust.

    Recovering From Mistakes and Standing Up for What is Right: Haley's Lesson To Us

    LOVE TO LEARN MORE?

    Become a calm and confident Dog Mom with a cooperative, happy dog ... without obedience training, or relying on treats or arousing games, or corrections of any type.

    Here are some next steps:

    SUBSCRIBE to Kathy’s YouTube Channel:

    https://www.youtube.com/c/DancingHeartsDogAcademy/videos

    LISTEN or READ Kathy’s Podcast and Blog on her Website:

    https://dancingheartsdogacademy.com/

    GET STARTED work with Kathy:

    https://dancinghearts.link/foundation

    LET’S CONNECT on the socials for more partnership tips and advice:

    -Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/dancinghearts/

    -Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kathykawalec/

    LISTEN TO PODCASTS:
    Subscribe to the Enlightened By Dogs podcast in your favorite app! Don’t forget to leave us a rating and review – it would make Kathy very happy!

    Subscribe on  Apple Podcasts | Listen on Spotify

    Connect on Facebook: facebook.com/dancinghearts/

  • Ever caught your dog looking into your eyes and felt they were trying to tell you something, but couldn't quite grasp their message? You try to listen, but deep down you continue to wonder what your dog is really trying to say.

    Whether it's a simple need or a crucial warning, our four-legged friends communicate using body language, vocalizations, and various behaviors. While they can't 'speak human,' we often don't 'speak dog’ – creating misunderstandings that can lead to frustrations, meltdowns, over-arousal and other escalations that happen when there is a communication gap.

    In this episode, we dive into understanding these subtle "dog whispers" that are often overlooked. We'll uncover the importance of recognizing and honoring these signs to nurture a relationship based on trust and connection. From decoding 'bad behaviors' to recognizing early signs of discomfort, we'll discuss ways to strengthen your bond with your furry friend.

    Join us as we help you step into your dog's paws and see the world through their eyes, revealing the importance of trust and safety in your relationship.



    Key Takeaways:

    What might seem like 'bad behavior' from dogs can actually be their way of communicating discomfort or stress.

    Listening and paying attention to early signs or 'whispers' from your dog can prevent ‘big emotional behaviors’ down the road.

    Prioritizing trust and understanding by listening to your dog's whispers leads to a harmonious relationship.

    LOVE TO LEARN MORE?

    Become a calm and confident Dog Mom with a cooperative, happy dog ... without obedience training, or relying on treats or arousing games, or corrections of any type.

    Here are some next steps:

    SUBSCRIBE to Kathy’s YouTube Channel:

    https://www.youtube.com/c/DancingHeartsDogAcademy/videos

    LISTEN or READ Kathy’s Podcast and Blog on her Website:

    https://dancingheartsdogacademy.com/

    GET STARTED work with Kathy:

    https://dancinghearts.link/foundation

    LET’S CONNECT on the socials for more partnership tips and advice:

    -Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/dancinghearts/

    -Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kathykawalec/

    LISTEN TO PODCASTS:
    Subscribe to the Enlightened By Dogs podcast in your favorite app! Don’t forget to leave us a rating and review – it would make Kathy very happy!

    Subscribe on  Apple Podcasts | Listen on Spotify

    Connect on Facebook: facebook.com/dancinghearts/