Afleveringen
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Procrastination is the thief of progress, opportunity, exciting adventures and brand new experiences.
This week The Speakmans discuss why we procrastinate, and how we can make simple but positive changes to part ways with our procrastination.
If your progress is plagued by the statement "I just don’t have time”, The Speakmans share how you can create this. They also explain why saying "yes" too often actually adds to the burden, anchoring you in this pattern of procrastination.
In this episode, you’ll learn how to leave work at work, the impact of mess on the mind, plus the link between mental health challenges and procrastination, as well as the influence of the pressure to be perfect.
In this week's Science Corner, Liv explains why we default to postponing our progress, and how catastrophising actually makes this worse.
Whether it’s work, housework, going to the gym, or even taking steps to fulfill your dreams, in this episode you'll be presented with an abundance of simple tips, to help you prevent the pattern of procrastinating.
If you're someone who puts things off, don't delay listening to this episode!
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If happiness were a cake, this week The Speakmans' are sharing their magical recipe.
Questions answered include:
Are The Speakmans always happy?Were they born happy?Do Liv & Hunter feel pressure to be happy, being the children of therapists?How do The Speakmans' deal with life’s challenges?The family talk comparison and how this can crush your happiness, as well as discussing the influence of family, friends, work colleagues, low self-esteem, trauma and stresses, whether these be current, or in the past.
Nik explains both how and why unresolved worries and anxieties grow, as well as why the line “I’ll be happy when…” defers your chance to be happy now.
You will learn how life is like a game of snakes and ladders, and how and why having goals, no matter how small these may be, creates happiness; giving you focus, drive, energy and purpose.
We hear how Hunter starts the day singing himself happy, even with an unexpected audience, and in this week's Science Corner, Liv shares how a fall or fail nearer to your destination actually feels so much bigger, plus how only 46% of people who are struggling with their mental health, actually speak out.
In this episode, you really are gifted with The Speakmans' jam-packed toolbox for happiness.
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An emotional episode underpinned by hope, help & healing.
Addiction is often a taboo subject, but whether it’s alcohol, food, gambling, drugs, exercise, sugar or social media, this episode offers understanding, an explanation, and the answer as to how to heal from addiction.
Eva opens up about how her life was affected, and why addiction can lead to catastrophising, self-hatred, feeling like life always goes wrong for you; and to making your world a very negative place.
This week, The Speakmans are joined by Paul, who visited them in 2006 for help with his alcoholism. Paul shares his journey with alcohol from the age of 12, as well as his traumas from the age of 3, that led him to walk through The Speakmans' door.
Paul shares his journey before meeting Nik & Eva, together with the growth of his issue from being a social drinker, to a daily drinker, when he would normalise and justify his behaviour, to avoid accepting his issue.
Paul also shares his life now, 18 years after therapy with The Speakmans, and having faced further devastating trauma, as he bravely shares the harrowing and devastating loss of his daughter.
In this week's Science Corner, Liv explains the science behind addiction, and why the need for our fix can accelerate, due to how the brain adjusts. She also explains how casinos use psychology research, and knowledge of how addictions are created, to manipulate customers into gambling more.
Learn how people can affect your recovery, how childhood trauma can lead to self-medication in adulthood, and how you don’t need willpower if the cause of your addiction is effectively addressed.
The Speakmans advise how to prevent weight gain if quitting smoking, the many reasons behind addiction, and their own ‘go to’ if they need to switch off.
This episode offers you numerous tips to help you, or a loved one, from the path of addiction, to the path of freedom & happiness.
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We’re all born with the ability to sleep, so why do so many of us struggle to do so?
Get comfy, and get ready to discover your recipe to a good night's sleep, as The Speakmans share how your poor sleep is actually a symptom, behind which always lies a cause. Hear many examples of what causes poor sleep, to help listeners explore their potential causes, as well as how to address these.
Eva admits the one major incompatibility in her relationship with Nik, whilst also sharing why poor sleep often leads to a poor diet, poor eating patterns, and therefore weight gain. She also candidly opens up about the effects of growing up in a turbulent home, witnessing domestic violence, experiencing kidney failure, and watching violent crime; whilst Nik admits to the devastating effects of his chronic inflammatory bowel disease, ulcerative colitis and toxic megacolon.
Hunter, the Speakman family's ‘Prince of the Power Nap’, shares his daily nap time schedule, as well as his ability to fall asleep in any place, at any time, anywhere.
Both junior Speakmans share this week's Science Corner, with Liv sharing research in regards sleep, the different stages, the ideal time to nap, and how to prevent waking up feeling groggy. There’s also fascinating facts on how to know if you’re getting the best and right amount of sleep, and how certain foods can affect your sleeping (circadian) rhythm.
Hunter shares the biological effects of sleeping tablets & melatonin supplements on uninterrupted sleep, and Liv gives a refreshing sleep hack, as well as sharing her personal experience on how to sleep through an earthquake.
Grab a notepad and pen or you’ll need a second listen, as this episode offers a barrage of peaceful sleep hacks, help, tips and solutions.
Sweet dreams!
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Wouldn’t it be great if we, or at least our children, came with an instruction manual!
This podcast episode will help you to navigate through your journey as a parent, and will teach you how to support your children who may be suffering with their mental health, as well as help you to understand and allow you to make peace with your own parents' parenting.
Is there such a thing as the perfect parent? Do you carry guilt because you have to work, or don’t have the time or means to actually give your children what you wish you could? Or perhaps you worry that your mental health issues will negatively affect your children in the future?
Learn the psychology behind why children push boundaries, as well as simple bonding tips, how to help children struggling with anxiety issues, bullying, and exam stress; plus how to approach sensitive topics, including a parental addiction.
This episode explores the repercussions of low self-esteem, both as a parent and a child, plus the adverse effects of overprotective parenting, overbuying, and comparison.
Eva admits that she never wanted children, and Liv quizzes Nik on how he proposed (including exclusive details of Eva's vomit-covered acceptance).
Nik shares his Star Trek upbringing, and Hunter’s unintentional Darth Vader/Barry White impression creates a rather hilarious discussion.
If you were ever a child, have parents, or are a parent; this episode will really resonate.
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If you fear flying, or are terrified of turbulence - this episode is for you!
This week The Speakmans explain the possible causes of a fear of flying (and of all phobias generally), then share their step by step fix-it formula, to help you address your fear.
They will share why you may not know the origin of your fear, plus their magic words to retrieve and understand your installation.
Questions answered in this episode include: Why did my fear of flying become apparent after having children? Can sceptics be helped? Can one fear transfer to another? Is turbulence dangerous? What happens if a plane is hit by lightning? What if the engines fail? Can a plane just fall out of the sky?
The Speakmans also catch up with David, after helping him on TV 9 years ago. Did The Speakmans' process really work? And most importantly, 9 years later... did it last?
EPISODE EXCLUSIVES:
- Eva admits her terror of turbulence
- The man, the myth, the legend - Nik admits the truth behind the stolen penguin urban myth!
- One of Nik’s jokes actually makes Eva laugh (yes, really!)
- Nik & Liv share how they went out for groceries, yet came home with an array of reptiles and a tarantula
- The Speakmans share parental advice for taking long haul flights with little ones
- Liv shares how aviation could prevent future medical error, and how you might actually be making your fear worse!
- Do you feel your fear is the result of ‘not being in control’? The Speakmans bust that myth!
This episode is packed with an abundance of help, and facts that will start to ease your fears, to start your journey to overcoming your fear of flying.
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A powerful episode from the Speakman family, encompassing the feelings of abandonment that come from parental or partner rejection or divorce. The Speakmans also discuss empty nest syndrome, as we're now at that time of year when your children may be leaving for school, university or to follow their dreams! Additionally, not forgetting the overwhelming emptiness of grief, and the emotional repercussions of adoption, and younger siblings being born.
This week Eva admits to her breakdown in the biscuit aisle, whilst Liv & Hunter explain how a lasagna came in front of Nik & Eva, and how taking part in Celebrity Hunted allowed them both to grow.
Nik shares the story of his first day at school, when he felt totally abandoned, and Eva opens up about the overwhelming feelings of emptiness and lack of purpose when Hunter left for university.
Liv talks about adapting after her long-term relationship ended, and the family share the often life-changing repercussions of grief, adoption, a sibling being born, a parent leaving through choice or death, and so much more.
This episode will offer you the tools to restructure your beliefs, and set you free from the pain of feeling unworthy, unloved, abandoned or rejected.
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Are you overwhelmed by overwhelm? Do you feel powerless and totally out of control? Do you have too much to do, but not enough time, energy or resources in order to complete your tasks?
In this week's episode, Liv shares how overwhelm left her at breaking point, whilst Eva shares her simple system to address overwhelm, that she uses both in her capacity as a mum, and as a therapist. She also shares a different view, of how feeling overwhelmed actually excites her, and gives her a purpose.
Nik gets teased about his accent, and being an advanced driver; plus he gives us a good giggle with his famous ‘dad jokes’.
In this week's 'Science Corner', Liv shares the 'Zeigarnik Effect', which explains why we can’t ignore incomplete tasks, all adding to our feelings of overwhelm.
You’ll be told about the brilliant Speakman Success 7 technique, which helps with prioritisation, organisation and even restful sleep; as well as learning the importance of saying no, and how social media contributes to overwhelm.
Finally, Hunter shares his exciting news!
In this episode, The Speakmans will guide you through the maze of overwhelm, to show you a simple solution to freedom.
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There are hundreds, if not thousands of diet plans available, yet none seem to work long term! Why is that?
Today’s guest, Kat, hated herself... She was overweight and overate, creating a perpetual spiral of increased self-loathing and weight gain.
After multiple unsuccessful diets, plus counselling, cognitive behavioural therapy and hypnotherapy, Kat turned to The Speakmans' simple approach, effortlessly losing 5 stone in just 1 year.
In this episode of Handbook To Happiness, you will learn the reasons why you may be self-medicating with food, just like Kat; how to pinpoint the origin of your overeating, and most importantly, how to address this.
In this week's Science Corner, Liv shares how you can think yourself slim and healthy, as well as the link between low self-esteem and failure in weight loss.
This informative episode highlights exactly how you can lose weight without feeling miserable and deprived, by understanding how to address the cause of your weight gain, as opposed to just consistently battling with the symptom of overeating.
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Life... There’s just so many pressures! The pressure to look perfect, be perfect, have a perfect family, perfect relationship, have children by a certain age, fit into a certain dress size, always be super sociable, positive and energetic.
But why do we feel these pressures? Is it society? Is it self-imposed? Is it our parents? Partners? Siblings? School? Social Media? Conditioning? Perhaps generational?
The Speakmans help to expose the source of our pressure for perfection, as well as explaining why many men are reluctant to express their emotions, and why the pressure of finding friends and partners can lead us to make poor choices.
If you don’t feel good enough, if you feel compared and criticised, and if your overwhelming desire to be perfect batters your self-esteem; this is the episode for you!
Providing you with an avalanche of tips to help you embrace your incredible originality, this episode will make you realise why you are already perfect, and why it’s totally okay to be unique.
With discussions around thin and over-plucked 80’s eyebrows, the beauty of curvy ladies, why Gerard Butler and Vicky Pattison are great role models, and how to deal with pressures imposed by your boss, teacher, parent, family, friend or partner; this really is the ‘perfect podcast’.
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Have you stayed in a bad relationship longer than you should?
Have you been let down by someone who called themselves a friend?
Does a family member hurt you, but expect you to still love & care for them?
Is your partner, friend, neighbour or work colleague, not the person you thought they were?
In this episode, The Speakmans discuss 'family obligation', why friendships fall apart, when the relationship ‘ick’ kicks in, why partners cheat; and how all this affects you, your happiness, your self-worth & your self-esteem.
The Speakmans also provide simple & effective techniques to help you find the relationships & friendships you deserve, as well as helping you to understand why it really wasn’t your fault.
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Do you have a phobia of vomit, or ill health? Does it dominate your life, and destroy your happiness?
Are you exhausted from constantly being on high alert? Do you obsessively worry, scan & catastrophise, and now panic about panicking?
Do you wonder how to overcome your phobia? Live free of fear? And question; is it even possible?
If you’re sick of fearing sick, and sick of hiding away and living in fear, this episode is a must.
As well as sharing an abundance of tips, help and advice, today’s guest shares her journey to complete and full recovery from her complex vomit phobia (known as emetophobia). Charlotte tells us how after 27 years she’s finally free, happy, and no longer lives in fear.
This episode really is a must listen for anyone who is fed up with their phobia, anyone wondering about The Speakmans' phobia approach, and anyone who needs a boost of hope that no matter who you are, and no matter what you struggle with, you really can get better.
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Does your inner voice tell you why you shouldn’t, as opposed to why you should? Why you can’t as opposed to why you can?
Do you look at others thinking; I wish I could do that? I wish I could have that? I wish that was me?
Do you worry what others think? Or perhaps you’re unhappy and feel stuck in your job, relationship or even daily life?
In this episode, The Speakmans tell you how to leap out of your comfort zone with confidence.
While Eva admits to her pre-stage panic attacks, Nik questions if he was just a holiday romance, and Hunter shares how he overcame his fear of public speaking, resulting in happily presenting to 300 people each week.
Liv surprises her former radio boss, CAR SOS TV presenter Tim Shaw (aka Mr Inappropriate from Balls of Steel), who shares some fantastic advice regarding the 'gym of confidence'. In Science Corner, Liv further explains how to trust in your capabilities, and how to grow your self-confidence, self-belief, and optimism.
With a multitude of tips for successful public speaking, and how to be confident in your own company, plus a fabulous technique to fast-track confidence, if right now you can’t do what you wish you could, this episode will highlight exactly how you can!
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Is guilt eating away at you? Does it dominate your thoughts? Do you punish yourself with repetitive negative overthinking of past events and people? And do regrets prevent you from happiness?
In this episode, Nik makes an unexpected apology to Hunter, Liv breaks down as she shares her guilt at not saying goodbye to her grandma, and Eva shares her words of wisdom as to why guilt is futile.
You’ll hear Speakman family admissions, from polishing fetishes to a secret crush that will make James Dyson blush! The Speakmans also answer your listener questions; including hearing from Jenny, who has guilt from grief, Emily who feels guilty for having lived her life to the full whilst her mum was struggling, and Lisa who feels guilt for leaving her family, to go and live her dream.
In this week's Science Corner, Liv shares the science behind why we negatively overthink, as well as a simple process to help, whilst Nik shares a fabulous tip to abruptly stop overthinking and our negative inner dialogue; a significant cause of those feelings of guilt.
If you’re looking for advice on how to stop regret, overthinking and feeling suppressed by guilt, this episode offers you the keys you need to help lift that burden and set you free.
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Is your world being polluted by toxic people? Do you tolerate them, because you fear change, the unknown, and don't know how you’ll cope?
Do you feel trapped in a toxic relationship, family, workplace or friendship, drowning in the poisonous words and actions of others, and need to know just how to get out?
Do you sabotage relationships and your happiness, as you’ve been made to feel worthless, useless and undeserving?
In this episode of our Handbook To Happiness, hear how Eva desperately tried to sabotage her relationship with Nik, and how she flipped the switch from self-deprecation, to self-appreciation.
Liv opens up about her imposter syndrome, as well as why people bully, why we tolerate them, why it’s not your fault, and how to make effortless decisions in this week's Science Corner.
Our special guest will inspire you, as she shares how she worked in and walked away from, one of the UK's largest and oldest institutions after two decades; and as a working mum of four, how she hit breaking point, which allowed her to then rebuild.
As always, Nik shoehorns his jokes, and Eva shares how she fell for an 80’s perm and a rather large briefcase.
With the tools shared in this episode, prepare to be cleansed, and ready to love yourself, and to create the happy life that you undoubtedly deserve.
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Has someone taken away every ounce of your confidence, self-esteem and self belief?
Were you bullied, put down by a parent, or made to feel worthless?
Do you sabotage your happiness & success, because you feel like you don’t deserve either?
Is loving others easy, but loving yourself an impossibility?
In this episode, you may be shocked to learn that The Speakmans' felt this way too.
How can the child of a therapist suffer with low self-esteem, social anxiety and imposter syndrome, and why does negative thinking become a habit?
This episode has the answers to all of these questions and more! There’s secret family admissions - including how Hunter, a future medic, failed his first aid exam, and how Liv felt that she didn’t deserve her place at the University of Oxford - but most importantly, there's a magnitude of solutions, to help you finally start loving yourself.
We’d so love to hear your thoughts and questions, so do leave us a message (& a like or 5 star review!) if you’re enjoying our Handbook To Happiness. Huge love & thanks from us all - N, E, L & H xx
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Do you feel like you'll never be happy? Are you facing a challenge, fear, condition or anxiety, that you can't imagine you will ever overcome?
Decorated by King Charles for saving more than 80 lives in a single attack, Conspicuous Gallantry Cross decorated Sergeant Josh Griffiths was told by numerous psychiatrists that he would never overcome his Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. In this episode, Josh shares his emotional, astonishing, and harrowing journey to happiness, with The Speakman family.
Josh is proof that where hope exists, happiness will follow. An incredibly powerful episode with help, tips, a dash of science from Liv, a sprinkle of biology from Hunter, and not forgetting a smidge of Married At First Sight Australia - this episode has it all.
Please Note: This is Josh’s version of his experience, and no disrespect is meant to the Ministry Of Defence, who we all hugely respect & are grateful to, for protecting us & our country.
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The Speakmans explore if and how you can be anxious, yet still be happy; guiding you through all the tools needed to identify the causes of your anxiety, and also sharing just how they tackled theirs.
Buckle up for a jam-packed table talk with the Speakman family, as they discuss everything from fears to farts, whether you can be generally anxious, different types of anxiety, and their own issues with phobias - including health anxiety and a fear of death.
This week you will learn that all of The Speakmans at one time feared speaking (publicly), Liv faces her childhood fear live on the pod, and they're also joined by Coronation Street legend and supervillain, Richard Hillman (Brian Capron). Together they share a multitude of techniques, to show you that you can be anxious yet happy.
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In their very first episode, the Speakman therapy family open up and candidly talk about their own anxieties, confidence issues, grieving, and their parenting skills. Why did Hunter have to jump ship at university recently due to his mental health? And does Liv talking about comparing yourself to others resonate with you?
Does being a therapist or child of a therapist offer immunity from the effects of bullying, low self-esteem, fears or anxieties? And what advice can they offer to help you; as an individual, partner, friend or parent?
The entire Speakman family share an abundance of simple and effective tips to help you in promoting your happiness, no matter what your age. They offer interesting facts, details into their life, and opportunities to have a giggle, as well as explaining why we all need to give ourselves a break.
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In their very first episode, the Speakman therapy family open up and candidly talk about their own anxieties, confidence issues, grieving, and their parenting skills. Why did Hunter have to jump ship at university recently due to his mental health? And does Liv talking about comparing yourself to others resonate with you?
Does being a therapist or child of a therapist offer immunity from the effects of bullying, low self-esteem, fears or anxieties? And what advice can they offer to help you; as an individual, partner, friend or parent?
The entire Speakman family share an abundance of simple and effective tips to help you in promoting your happiness, no matter what your age. They offer interesting facts, details into their life, and opportunities to have a giggle, as well as explaining why we all need to give ourselves a break.
