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Welcome to the Her On Top Podcast, Season 2, Episode 13!
Delving into the often overlooked dimensions of desire, Kayla Moore presents a thought-provoking episode that challenges conventional wisdom about sexual attraction and intimacy. She opens the discussion by inviting listeners to ponder their own desires and what it might mean to pursue them in a way that is authentic and fulfilling. This episode offers a fresh perspective on the interplay between sexual desire and the various aspects of our lives, suggesting that our relationship with our desires can reflect broader themes of self-worth, connection, and personal empowerment.
Throughout the episode, Kayla introduces the concept of responsive desire, a term that reframes how many individuals perceive their sexual appetites. Instead of viewing desire as something that must be spontaneously ignited, she argues for the importance of creating an environment conducive to arousal and connection. By highlighting the need for safety and emotional intimacy, she encourages listeners to reflect on the contexts in which their desires can thrive, thereby normalizing the idea that desire can be responsive rather than purely spontaneous. This nuanced understanding opens up a dialogue about the complexities of human sexuality and the ways in which emotional states can significantly impact our intimate experiences.
In a particularly enchanting segment, Kayla leads a guided visualization, inviting listeners to connect with their body and mind in a tranquil setting. This exercise not only serves as a tool for grounding but also acts as a catalyst for self-discovery, allowing individuals to appreciate the beauty of their desires and recognize their intrinsic value. As the episode concludes, Kayla emphasizes the importance of nurturing intimate relationships and prioritizing self-care, encouraging a proactive approach to understanding and cultivating desire. This episode serves as a powerful reminder that our desires are sacred, and by embracing both our sexual and emotional needs, we can transform our intimate lives into a more satisfying and connected experience.
Takeaways:
Desire is a sacred aspect of our lives, impacting our sexuality and overall fulfillment. Responsive desire requires context and connection, emphasizing the importance of safety and intimacy. Recognizing barriers to desire can help us cultivate a deeper connection with our needs. The journey toward desire is not about whether we have it, but how we can nurture it. Understanding the duality of spontaneous and responsive desire can transform our sexual experiences. Grounding ourselves in the present moment allows us to reconnect with our desires and bodies.Go To reclaimingstoriestherapy.com to schedule your FREE 30 minute consultation with Kayla if you want to dive deeper into these topics for yourself in a therapeutic setting.
Please leave a Google review for Kayla about the podcast at:
https://g.page/r/CdRiE1BnrCIVEAI/review
Resources:
Podcast Website: her-on-top.captivate.fm
Instagram: @reclaimingstoriestherapy and @herontoppod
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Welcome to the Her On Top Podcast, Season 2, Episode 12!
The complexities of consent and personal boundaries take center stage in Kayla Moore's thought-provoking dialogue, where she invites listeners to reflect on their own experiences with saying yes when they truly wish to say no. Through insightful questions and guided reflections, Kayla encourages her audience to examine the relationships in their lives where they struggle to assert their boundaries. This exploration is especially pertinent to women, who often find themselves caught in the societal web of people-pleasing. The episode unfolds as a compassionate journey toward self-awareness, inviting listeners to connect with their bodies and emotions as they navigate these challenging dynamics.
Diving deeper, Kayla sheds light on the consequences of neglecting personal desires, particularly in the context of sexual relationships. She articulates how societal expectations have historically placed the burden of pleasing partners predominantly on women, leading to a pattern where many women feel compelled to say yes, even when it contradicts their personal desires. This habit can create an emotional disconnect and resentment in intimate partnerships, underscoring the importance of recognizing and honoring one's own needs. Kayla emphasizes that understanding and embracing the power to say no is essential for fostering genuine intimacy and satisfaction, both in sexual relationships and across all aspects of life.
As the episode draws to a close, Kayla leaves her listeners with a powerful message of empowerment. She reassures them that learning to assert their boundaries opens the door to authentic yeses in the future, enriching their experiences and relationships. By prioritizing self-care and personal agency, individuals can cultivate deeper connections and a more fulfilling life. This episode is not just a discussion about consent; it is a compelling invitation to reclaim one's power and agency, fostering healthier and more satisfying relationships.
Takeaways:
Recognizing the difficulty in saying no is crucial for establishing healthy boundaries in relationships. Women often feel pressured to please partners, leading to saying yes when they truly want to refuse. Understanding your own desires and needs is essential for fostering genuine intimacy and pleasure. Saying no when you mean no is a powerful act that reinforces your self-worth. Learning to say no can ultimately create more space for enthusiastic yeses in your life. Empowering yourself to prioritize your feelings over others can lead to healthier relationships.Go To reclaimingstoriestherapy.com to schedule your FREE 30 minute consultation with Kayla if you want to dive deeper into these topics for yourself in a therapeutic setting.
Please leave a Google review for Kayla about the podcast at:
https://g.page/r/CdRiE1BnrCIVEAI/review
Resources:
Podcast Website: her-on-top.captivate.fm
Instagram: @herontoppod and @reclaimingstoriestherapy
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Welcome to the Her On Top Podcast, Season 2, Episode 11! A rich tapestry of emotions, experiences, and insights unfolds as Shauna Stewart shares her remarkable journey in the realm of women's sexuality and pleasure. The episode draws listeners into a deep conversation about the societal constructs that have historically marginalized women's desires, framing sexual pleasure as a domain primarily for men. Shauna’s candid reflections on her own experiences, including a life-altering health crisis, reveal how she found healing through the reclamation of pleasure. This transformative journey led her to establish Linger Boutique, a space designed to empower women to explore their sensuality without shame or objectification.
The dialogue navigates the intricate landscape of women's emotional lives, particularly the feelings of rage and grief that often accompany the journey of rediscovering one's sexual identity. Shauna passionately argues that embracing these feelings is essential for authentic self-exploration and empowerment. She eloquently discusses the importance of creating safe, welcoming spaces for women to access their desires, emphasizing that pleasure is not merely a luxury but a fundamental aspect of well-being. This perspective challenges the pervasive narratives that dictate how women should feel about their bodies and sexuality, encouraging a more holistic and liberated approach to intimacy.
Listeners are introduced to the unique offerings of Linger Boutique, which go beyond traditional retail to foster community and connection among women. From workshops that encourage couples to communicate and experiment together to personalized shopping experiences, the boutique serves as a catalyst for transformation. Shauna’s vision is rooted in the belief that women's pleasure is a birthright, and she invites listeners to join her in redefining what it means to embrace one's sexuality. This episode not only informs but also inspires, leaving an indelible message about the power of pleasure and the importance of prioritizing oneself in the quest for intimacy.
Go To reclaimingstoriestherapy.com to schedule your FREE 30 minute consultation with Kayla if you want to dive deeper into these topics for yourself in a therapeutic setting.
Please leave a Google review for Kayla about the podcast at:
https://g.page/r/CdRiE1BnrCIVEAI/review
Resources:
Podcast Website: her-on-top.captivate.fm
Instagram: @herontoppod and @reclaimingstoriestherapy
Shauna Stewart
Website: https://lingerboutique.com/
Socials: @lingerbtq and @linger.u and @lifeturnedonpodcast
Podcast: Life Turned On Podcast (available on all major platforms)
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Welcome to the Her On Top Podcast, Season 2, Episode 10! Kayla explores the importance of healing as a collective group instead of solely on your own. Kayla first announces some events in the works. Kayla and her co-worker Hannah Olivia are facilitating a Women's Circle on Nov. 30th. 2024 in Gig Harbor, WA. Stay tuned for more info. Kayla also put out the idea of doing a women's pop up choir locally for women to come to sing together, heal together, and have fun. Please contact Kayla if you are interested in participating or helping making this dream a reality. Kayla then discusses the different types of loneliness and why being in a collective group is so important to our human health. Kayla leans into the power that can be shared when women come together to support each other and heal. Kayla then puts forth that she will be bringing other practitioners and important people in the community on to the podcast in the coming episodes to give listeners a taste of the personally curated village that Kayla wants you to be aware of and seek out in addition to talk therapy for your own healing journey.
Go To reclaimingstoriestherapy.com to schedule your FREE 30 minute consultation with Kayla if you want to dive deeper into these topics for yourself in a therapeutic setting.
Please leave a Google review for Kayla about the podcast at:
https://g.page/r/CdRiE1BnrCIVEAI/review
Resources:
Podcast Website: her-on-top.captivate.fm
Instagram: @herontoppod and @reclaimingstoriestherapy
Hannah Olivia
Website: https://www.naturalglowesthetics.com/
Socials: @hkolivia
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Welcome to the Her On Top Podcast, Season 2, Episode 9! Kayla explores what trauma is and how it might affect you through different definitions of trauma. Kayla then describes what someone who has sexual trauma may be experiencing when they come to see her for healing. Kayla then takes you through the healing journey, starting out with how you can become safe and aware in your own body and then how to pair that with the sexual experiences you want to have with your partner. Kayla ends with how she would help your partner support you and what the ultimate goals of healing could look like.
Go To reclaimingstoriestherapy.com to schedule your FREE 30 minute consultation with Kayla if you want to dive deeper into these topics for yourself in a therapeutic setting.
Resources:
Podcast Website: her-on-top.captivate.fm
Instagram: @herontoppod and @reclaimingstoriestherapy
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Welcome to the Her On Top Podcast, Season 2, Episode 8! Kayla discusses body image and how reclaiming your relationship to your body is paramount to having a deeper relationship to yourself and more ease in your sex and intimacy. Kayla deconstructs how society convinces women that you are not enough in order to sell products and keep us in a state of control. Kayla then offers ways to begin to cultivate a deeper love and reverence for your body. Kayla ends by telling women that you deserve to love yourself fully, including your beautiful and powerful body!
Go To reclaimingstoriestherapy.com to schedule your FREE 30 minute consultation with Kayla if you want to dive deeper into these topics for yourself in a therapeutic setting.
Resources:
Podcast Website: her-on-top.captivate.fm
Instagram: @herontoppod and @reclaimingstoriestherapy
Blog:
How You Feel About Your Body Is Keeping You From Pleasurable Sex
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Welcome to the Her On Top Podcast, Season 2, Episode 7! Kayla tells the sacred feminine story of the Virgin Mary and discusses why our understanding of this story and the word 'virgin' has been so skewed. Kayla poses a different definition of the word 'virgin', meaning a woman unto herself. Kayla asks the question, what would your life be like if you had grown up with this version of the story of Mary and this definition of the word 'virgin'? What would it mean to be a woman unto yourself?
Resources:
Website: her-on-top.captivate.fm
Instagram: @herontoppod
Kayla's Therapy Website:
https://www.reclaimingstoriestherapy.com
Sarah Jenks: https://sarahjenks.com/
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Welcome to the Her On Top Podcast, Season 2, Episode 6! Kayla discusses the new moon being in the sign of Leo this month and how this lends itself to talking about how women can work on standing in their own spotlight and shedding the things that no longer serve them. Kayla describes the barriers women encounter when they think about whether or not sex is for them and how those keep us in a place of compliance to the patriarchy. Kayla leads a mindfulness meditation around how your body feels when you think of the phrase "sex is for me" and ends with the invitation to answer the question "Do I want sex to be for me?" You decide!
Resources:
Website: her-on-top.captivate.fm
Instagram: @herontoppod
Kayla's Therapy Website:
https://www.reclaimingstoriestherapy.com
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Welcome to the Her On Top Podcast, Season 2, Episode 5! Kayla discusses the nervous system and how it is an integral part in healing your relationship to sex. Kayla goes over the differences between the sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous system and how this affects your ability to get into a space of lust. Kayla explains how the nervous system operates on the familiar and anything unfamiliar feels unsafe. Kayla ends with a guided meditation to invoke the parasympathetic nervous system and to begin your journey in understanding what your body's story is around sex.
Resources:
Website: her-on-top.captivate.fm
Instagram: @herontoppod
Kayla's Therapy Website:
https://www.reclaimingstoriestherapy.com
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Welcome to the Her On Top Podcast, Season 2, Episode 4! Kayla discusses grief that comes with unlearning the pesky patriarchal narratives we are told about women's bodies, sex, and sexuality. Kayla then leads you on a guided somatic meditative journey to understand for yourself where and how you may be experiencing grief around your unlearning of stories about sex. Kayla asks a series of questions for you to dive deeper into your body and soul and continue the healing process.
Resources:
Website: her-on-top.captivate.fm
Instagram: @herontoppod
Kayla's Therapy Website:
https://www.reclaimingstoriestherapy.com
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Welcome to the Her On Top Podcast, Season 2, Episode 3! Kayla discusses the idea of Egg Wisdom and how we can learn from the new and improved narrative of how an egg and sperm meet during the reproductive process. Kayla describes the 4 phases that occur with the egg and sperm and what lessons we can learn from each phase to live out in our own lives. Kayla provides a new lens for women and womb owners to look at their body through in order to heal negative body image and reclaim the power and possibility our bodies hold.
Resources:
Website: her-on-top.captivate.fm
Instagram: @herontoppod
Kayla's Therapy Website:
https://www.reclaimingstoriestherapy.com
Kate Northrup's Book "do less": https://www.amazon.com/Do-Less-Revolutionary-Approach-Management/dp/1401954987
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Welcome to the Her On Top Podcast, Season 2, Episode 2! Kayla sheds light on the insanity our world is currently in right now when it comes to access to abortion and women's health care. With the 2 year anniversary since Roe v. Wade was overturned by the Supreme Court, Kayla tells her own personal story of seeking and having an abortion to help other mothers seeking abortion or women who just simply do not want to become mothers feel normal and justified in their right to the decision that is best for them. Kayla provides the statistic that 6 out 10 women who seek abortions already have at least one child and half of those women have at least two children. The majority of women seeking abortion are mothers and yet we never hear their stories. Here is one story to give women a sense of community and solidarity. Kayla wants to make her voice known and not shy away from this topic just because our country is trying to silence women's voices and experiences. This is an important election year and our voices and stories can make a difference.
Resources:
Website: her-on-top.captivate.fm
Instagram: @herontoppod
Kayla's Therapy Website:
https://www.reclaimingstoriestherapy.com
The Abortion Project no longer has a website but here is a podcast episode they were on.
https://www.apodcastaboutabortion.com/episodes/bonus-destigmatizing-abortion-through-photography-with-the-abortion-project
Here is also an article about the pictures they took and descriptions of what happens in a medical abortion. Do note these photos are graphic so be gentle with yourself on what you are comfortable with.
https://www.thecut.com/2022/08/what-abortion-actually-looks-like-photos.html
Their free abortion guide is also no longer available so if you message me, I would be happy to send that to you.
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Welcome to the Her On Top Podcast, Season 2 Episode 1! Kayla addresses the shift to the podcast becoming a solo show and where Alex has gone. Kayla then discusses where she has been these last few months and what has been influencing her new direction for the podcast. Kayla talks about Kate Northrup and Sarah Jenks and how they have been extremely influential in guiding her to wanting to work solely with women in her practice and on this podcast. Kayla then discusses cyclical living and the 4 phases of the menstrual cycle. Kayla explains the different energy levels women and people with wombs have in each phase and why this knowledge matters. Kayla questions what could have been different if this was what we learned about periods and the menstrual cycle instead of all the shameful narratives. Kayla ends by sharing how women can use this knowledge to be more reverent and caring towards themselves and their bodies and feel more connected to their inner strength and power.
Resources:
Website: her-on-top.captivate.fm
Instagram: @herontoppod
Kayla's Therapy Website:
https://www.reclaimingstoriestherapy.com
Kate Northrup: https://katenorthrup.com/
Sarah Jenks: https://sarahjenks.com/
Dr. Mandi Murtaugh: https://www.drmandimurtaugh.com/ AND https://www.thresholdscollective.com/
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Sex and relationships can be scary, taboo, and hard to talk about. Do you ever feel like sex is a chore that you have no time for? Do you feel like sex is not for you and are only concerned about if your partner is getting what they need? Do you struggle with desire for sex or reaching orgasm? Maybe you feel like even talking about sex makes you squirm. Because of this, you may feel disconnected from your partner and from yourself. As women we have been told many narratives about our role in sex and relationships and though our generation is trying to break the mold, many women still feel as though they do not have a desire for sex and do not even think of themselves as sexual beings. Welcome to the Her On Top Podcast! Hi I’m Kayla Moore, a licensed sex and couples therapist, here to create a space for women to feel normal, learn, and reclaim their relationship to sex and intimacy. This podcast releases bi-weekly on Friday mornings with 30ish minute episodes, centered around the many aspects of sex and relationships women struggle with. I will be sharing my expert knowledge straight from my therapist chair with tips on how to apply this knowledge to your own life. I will be including some of my own personal stories and weaving in the insights I continue to learn from my work with clients. Along the way, I plan to chat with some guests who are either relevant experts or other women like you that want to talk about their own personal experiences. Come chat with ME and experience the embodied pleasure, satisfaction, and connection you deserve and desire. You can find this podcast in any podcast app, including of course spotify, apple podcasts, youtube music, and amazon. I am excited to begin this journey with you! This is Her On Top!
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Welcome back to the Her On Top Podcast, Episode 11! Today Kayla and Alex discuss make up sex! The duo explore the benefits and potential pitfalls of make up sex. They also get into what it means to have an awareness of your own internal dialogue, how to cope with your own emotions in a conflict situation, and how to find resolution in conflict with your partner. Finally, the conversation ends with how to use sex as a way to reconnect with your partner once you have both been able to come back to a state of calm in your own bodies. Thanks for listening!
Resources:
Website: her-on-top.captivate.fm
Instagram: @herontoppod
Kayla's Therapy Website: https://www.reclaimingstoriestherapy.com
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Welcome back to the Her On Top Podcast, Episode 10! Today Kayla and Alex discuss motherhood in honor of Mother's Day. Alex asks Kayla questions such as: what has been the biggest shift from before motherhood to now and what have been the greatest joys experienced in motherhood so far? Kayla and Alex also have a long discussion of baby names and the often difficult process in coming up with a name for your bundles of joy. To all the mama listeners out there, we wish you a very happy mothers day and hope you feel recognized, loved, and appreciated for all that you do! Thanks for listening!
Resources:
Website: her-on-top.captivate.fm
Instagram: @herontoppod
Kayla's Therapy Website: https://www.reclaimingstoriestherapy.com
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Welcome back to the Her On Top Podcast, Episode 9! Today Kayla and Alex discuss is watching pornography cheating? They discuss why and how someone may think watching and engaging with porn is cheating and how it can also be seen as a non-threatening tool to enhance individual and/or couple sexual experiences. They finish out the episode by discussing how ultimately the focus should not be on porn or masturbation but instead on how you and your partner are communicating about your wants, needs, and boundaries around sex in your relationship. Thanks for listening!
Resources:
Website: her-on-top.captivate.fm
Instagram: @herontoppod
Kayla's Therapy Website: https://www.reclaimingstoriestherapy.com
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Welcome back to the Her on Top Podcast, Episode 8! Today Kayla and Alex discuss boundaries in relationships. They define what a boundary is, describe different types of boundaries, and express what to do when it is hard to set a boundary, especially with family. The duo also discuss setting boundaries with your partner around dividing tasks around the home and taking time for yourself. They finish out the episode by discussing why setting and holding boundaries is important and what happens when we do not set boundaries. Thanks for listening!
Resources:
Website: her-on-top.captivate.fm
Instagram: @herontoppod
Kayla's Therapy Website: https://www.reclaimingstoriestherapy.com
Brené Brown Video on Boundaries: https://youtu.be/TLOoa8UGqxA?si=Qk-VUQvZX5GEZx47
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Welcome back to the Her on Top Podcast, Episode 7! Today Kayla and Alex discuss desire issues or low sex drive issues in relationships and what it looks like when one person does not want sex as much as the other. They talk about what low desire is, why it matters, and what are common situations that low desire can manifest. At the end of the episode, Kayla gives you her little black book of tips and tricks on how to create and sustain desire. Thank you for listening!
Resources:
Website: her-on-top.captivate.fm
Instagram: @herontoppod
Kayla's Therapy Website: https://www.reclaimingstoriestherapy.com
Book: "Come As You Are" - Emily Nagoski https://www.emilynagoski.com/
Come As You Are Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/come-as-you-are/id1628661035
Good Sex Explained Video by Emily Nagoski: https://youtu.be/eqX38J9ya1I?si=jgqbBGKgWvKAgLhD
Lingerie: https://the--bar.com/
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Welcome back to the Her on Top Podcast, Episode 6! This episode is the fifth and final episode in the 5 part sex history series, detailing Kayla and Alex's experiences in learning about sex and relationships from childhood to present day. Today Kayla and Alex detail the stories of how they met their significant others and came to know that they wanted them as forever partners. They also discuss what needed to happen for them as individuals and women to be ready for a healthy, serious, long term relationship. Thank you for listening!
Website: her-on-top.captivate.fm
Instagram: @herontoppod
Kayla's Therapy Website: https://www.reclaimingstoriestherapy.com
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