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What should a man know before he dates a nymphomaniac?
With Clint Jahn & Olivia Bury. Listen to the podcast at How To Sex.
Most people do not understand nymphomania. Itâs real, but itâs not a mythological magic power. Nor is a Satyriasis. There is a vast difference between a woman who enjoys sex and has a high sex drive and a nymphomaniac. When referring to a man with the same obsessive sexual compulsion, the correct term is: satyriasis.Nymphomania is reserved for females.
The overarching behavioral term is hyper-sexuality.
Letâs look at what Wikipedia has to say;
Hypersexuality is extremely frequent or suddenly-increased sexual urges or sexual activity. Hyper-sexuality is typically associated with lowered sexual inhibitions. Hyper-sexuality can be caused by some medical conditions or medications. Medical conditions such as bipolar disorders can give rise to hyper-sexuality, and alcohol and some drugs can affect social and sexual inhibitions in some people. A number of theoretical models have been used to explain or treat hyper-sexuality. The most common one, especially in the popular media, is the sexual addiction approach, but sexologists have not reached any consensus. Alternative explanations for the condition include compulsive and impulsive behavioral models.
The International Classification of Diseases of the World Health Organization includes Excessive Sexual Drive, which is divided into satyriasis for males and nymphomania for females, and Excessive Masturbation.But perhaps those mythological characters are tools of fantasy by people whoâve become obsessed and driven by inner psychiatric conditions.
The American Psychiatric Association (APA) considered and rejected a proposal to add sexual addiction to its list of psychiatric disorders, the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM). A proposal to include a diagnosis called hypersexual disorder, simply describing the symptom without implying any specific theory, is under consideration for inclusion in the appendix of the DSM, but not in the main list of official diagnoses. This means that the descriptives are not the illness, but manifested traits of the illness.
Some people call nymphomania âsex addictionâ, because it can manifest as a destructive compulsion. These people will make unhealthy choices and engage in high risk behaviors to fulfill their desires, which are barely under control. In many ways it is similar to alcoholism, with the recklessness and shame and damage that goes along with that.
Okay, enough of the medical and psychological talk. Letâs talk about how to respond to a person whom youâre suspecting has a compulsive behavior.
C. R. Jahn was in a relationship with a college classmate.
It starts out absolutely thrilling. It can meet & surpass all of a virile 22 year old manâs fantasies; for a short while.
It is theoretically possible to have a healthy monogamous relationship with a nymphomaniac, as long as you engage in open honest communication about your mutual needs and expectations. You will be expected to have sexual relations with her at least three times a day and your cunnilingus skills need to be top tier, otherwise just forget about monogamy because that probably isnât going to happen. Sorry.
I was engaged to a nymphomaniac for about a year and a half once. Everything was great for the first six month. but as soon as I started working over 40 hours a week, things went toxic and rapidly spiraled downhill. Like an alcoholic, they will lie and sneak and place blame on you for their mistakes.
I dated a few other nymphomaniacs. One was 100% loyal until I needed to leave the state for a few months. I do not blame her one bit. I expected it. It wasnât her. It was her illness. She was the primary victim of a hideous and psychotic mental crisis.
Nymphomania is often the result of any of the following;
· long-term child sexual abuse and is frequently comorbid with
· borderline personality disorder,
· bipolar disorder, or
· addiction issues.
These are mentally ill or damaged people who struggle to maintain a facade of normalcy. Sometimes they have the willpower and fortitude to control their cravings. Usually, they end up destroying everything around them. Many of them end up losing their job, home, driver license, custody of their children, and any vestige of their reputation.
Bipolar Disorder can happen to anyone, at any stage of life, and the onset is most frequent in young adults.
Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is a complex psychiatric condition marked by intense emotional reactivity, unstable relationships, and impulsivity. One manifestation of this impulsivity can be hypersexuality, a behavior characterized by a significantly increased interest in or engagement with sexual activity. A high occurance of BPD is observed in teens who were sexually abused at a young age. Some believe it is the one chronic mental âillnessâ that a predator can inflict on a victim. It is also associated with post-traumatic stress from sexual abuse.
The Sex is perhaps great, but it should not be your primary objective. When your entire life revolves around satisfying your sexual urges you are going to make unhealthy decisions. Most of us know better than to engage in sexual relations with coworkers, neighbors, your partnerâs friends, or random strangers. Often a nymphomaniac will not make these distinctions. A lot depends on their willpower and mental stability. Some have it under control, many do not.
A lot of women are wrongfully accused of being nymphomaniacs due to being openly sex positive and unashamed of it. Other women mistakenly self-identify as nymphomaniacs because they love sex. True nymphomania is an illness which negatively impacts their life. Fortunately, it is also somewhat rare. If a girl has never had public sex in front of strangers or had anonymous sex with a man she did not know, she probably is not a nymphomaniac. The girls I knew would think nothing of participating in a spontaneous gangbang or fucking someoneâs dog, laughing the whole time like it was a big joke. In retrospect, I feel sorry for these women.
Famous Nymphs
Sir Laurence Olivier and his wife, Vivien Leigh, were Hollywood Royalty. They appeared to have it all; talent, beauty, status, awards, recognition. They were the top of the A-list.
Unfortunately, Vivien Leigh suffered from bipolar disorder, then known as being manic-depressive. Her costars often had difficulty working with her due to her manic episodes which created a great deal of tension on the set.
Vivienâs greatest fear were the bouts of depression. She was terrified of becoming suicidal. At some point, she came to the conclusion that the only way to prevent the depression was to have a great deal of sex. As long as she could continue to achieve release through sex she could keep the depression at bay.
In the brain, a sexual orgasm triggers the release of a chemical called dopamine. Itâs a natural mood-enhancing part of being a healthy person. The other related chemicals in the brain are serotonin and norepinephrine. These are self-balancing in a healthy person, but can become radically imbalanced in a mood disorder. Sex can give a short term spike of contentment to a person suffering severe clinical depression. But a bipolar person can also be at the other extreme, having so much dopamine and feeling a rush similar to a cocaine trip. Itâs beyond euphoric. The person will tell you theyâve never felt better. They will often lack all self-awareness and resent any suggestion that they need help, or need to change their behavior. Bipolar Disorder affects men and women in relatively equal numbers.
Vivianâs husband, Olivier, did his best but he has been quoted later, as saying, âYou know, she was a nymphomaniac. And Iâm a premature ejaculator. Not a good match-up.â In order for their marriage to continue, Olivier stood back while Vivien took on many lovers to help her condition.
Sadly, their arrangement took its toll and they ended their 20 year marriage in 1960. Vivien Leigh, the legendary star of stage and film, was branded a nymphomaniac, a derogatory word meaning sex addict. This brought her more condemnation than sympathy or real help.
In 1950, after a party at Director George Cukorâs home in the Hollywood Hills, all the celebs present entertained illicit passion for a price.
In a biography, âReframing Vivien Leighâ, the author notes that Ms. Leigh had every social disease known to mankind at the time. Her list of conquests go from Robert Taylor thru Peter Finch.
To read her story is to be inspired with pity and terror. She fought a lifelong battle with bipolar. Evidence of her delicate condition surfaced long before that incident. An open secret throughout British and American film circles.
Actress Sarah Miles became a very close friend to Olivier, after his divorce from Vivian. Decades later, Miles described a crisis she later had to confide to Olivier.
Sarah says she got a chance to see Vivienâs seething jealousy and sexual appetite for young men up close in 1963 when she landed a bit part in "The Roman Spring of Mrs. Stone" starring Leigh, then 48, and 24-year-old Tinsel Town hunk Warren Beatty.
When womanizing Beatty spied 20-year-old Sarah in her sex kitten leather costume, Beatty began firting with Sarah.
Suddenly Sarah found Vivienâs âvixen eyes glued to either Warren or me all day. It was obvious to me they were having an affair,â she recalls. âI found Vivien to be a distinctly brittle, dark and jealous woman.â Miles, says Olivier finally admitted Leigh was a nut job in 1963, when she was in a play he was directing in Londonâs old Vic theatre.
One morning, Sarah was looking exhausted when she arrived on set; and confessed to Olivier that she was having to deal with her young actress roommate, who was âa manic-depressive, schizophrenic nymphomaniacâ and kept her up with mobs of men parading through their apartment.
âWell, well, what a coincidence,â Olivier said and told her, âVivien had been diagnosed with exactly the same three conditions.â The more we compared notes, the closer we became, for we both shared the utter despair, the unimaginable frustration and hopelessness of wrestling with such pitiable creatures.â
A Confession
Now letâs hear from a woman in recovery from her mental illness and resulting nymphomaniac behavior.
Olivia Bury tells us her personal story of coping and recovery.
Iâve been diagnosed for 5 years with Bipolar Type 1, the kind that has longer and deeper cycles with mania and even psychosis.
As someone with Bipolar 1, I have extreme difficulty recognizing when I'm in the thick of an episode. The disorder pretty much takes all my judgement, self-awareness, and general clarity from me and smashes it. It's why I rely rather heavily on friends, family, and professionals to help me recognize my prodromal symptoms so I can get help early.
The mania is often the most destructive aspect to my illness as it starts by giving me a false sense of wellbeing. Slowly, my energy builds and I find myself spending several nights at a time awake investing myself in learning new topics such as mathematics, physics, or technology to an obsessive degree. I feel oppressed by my medication and quickly stop taking it to get higher. I begin writing music and creating art that in these moments I honestly believe are revolutionary.
I exercise excessively with my intense energy and find myself rolling in euphoria. My budgets and finances are trashed as I take to getting piercing, tattoos, clothes, raves, alcohol, and drugs. I immerse myself in what I call âcarnal rageâ. My ultimate goal is to burn bright and fast by indulging almost any vice there is. Hyper-sexuality leaves me a hungry nymphomaniac, where I wake in the mornings with one or many people in my bed. Often times I wake up not even knowing where I am or how I got there with several strangers.
I stop going to work, and my random untold absences often lead to my getting fired which only serves to worsen my finances. As I crawl towards psychosis, I end up getting more irritable and chaotic. The world slows down while I speed up and I find myself frustrated with those that can't keep up. I am extremely vulnerable to being taken advantage of and pick up the most unsavory individuals that upon my return to stability torture me. I end up back in the realms of paranoia and delusion. I become a god or some escaped experimental subject or soldier on a mission to save the world. I am hunted by cults and evil scientists. I am swallowed by chaos, euphoria, irritation, and delusions of grandeur paired with magical thinking.
Porn Industry Exploits
Some people are fully aware of their disorder and behavior, but seek to direct it for their own benefit. Taylor & Tatiana Russo were interviewed for a publicity campaign in their pornography ventures.
The two talked about the driving hyper-sexuality which keeps them in the sex industry.
Taylor explains; âI shoot some fetish content for my boyfriend who owns a bondage company. Regardless of that, I always feel like a virgin about to get deflowered before every shoot. When I shoot with my sister, it's not about trying to compete against her. If that was the case, I would have just continued shooting on my own. â
Tatiana added; âI like doing things for shock value. She does whatever comes to her head at the moment. Once we made the decision to work together, we might as well do the best that we can. Teamwork! I mainly hope that our bipolar mood swings manage to hit the âget alongâ mark, because those are the moments that we forget about morals and just go with the flow.â
When asked; âHow did you arrive to the decision that making adult movies was the right choice for you?â
Taylor chuckled; âHa, I'm a nymphomaniac. Iâm narcissistic, love fucking, money. Seems to make sense to me.â
Satyriasis, or male counterparts of Nymphomaniacs
Now, to put the issue in an accurate context, letâs be clear. Men can also suffer conditions that manifest hyper-sexuality. Letâs hear from a man who wishes to remain anonymous.
Yes, I am, but I have slowed down somewhat in my older age. But for 42 years I was diagnosed with so many errant conditions, until I came to the happy diagnosis of hyper-sexuality.
I am male. I am not a mythical beast. I have been called an addict but, unlike the perception of a kind of sex addict ending up beaten and on the streets, a punk sub, I functioned. I was a participant - a wise and sly and manipulative director - in my hyper-sexuality.
I operated for the majority of my life in a manic state. A few of the people dealing with bipolar brain issues will become understood as âunipolarâ. I happen to be one of those. No bipolar crap, as I have never been depressed; and I was seen as driven, happy, kind, witty, very smart, fun to be with, sympathetic, never overbearing, emphatic, even.
I subjected myself to psychiatry during all of those years. Manic Depressive was my first diagnosis, I think. I saw the same shrink for those first 12 years and we waited and waited and waited from the âdepressionâ to come; but it never did.
I lived a controlled manic existence; I felt the tightness and grip in my body, the need of release or death every hour, but I, well, stumbled upon a solution, or solutions, early and satisfied the urgency of my needs with no need for recourse to dangerous sexual practices.
By âdangerousâ sexual practices, I donât mean to imply that my appetites did not escalate into needs that furthered my homosexual & bisexual encounters. I do not know of anyone who is hypersexual who is not bisexual, usually beginning at a very young age. My needs escalated into multiple partners, Dom & Sub relationships and forays into bloody sadomasochist roles. I was Traveling through the U S and Europe to full-scale orgies.
If there is a spot of narcissism in hyper-sexuality, for me it was staying in shape, not so much to remain being attractive but in order to maintain the strength and stamina to enjoy eight to ten orgasms a day. Masturbation could not satisfy me, not at all. I needed others. There is the magic word, need.
I donât believe in satyrs and nymph fantasies. Iâm not ever certain than âmaniaâ is an illness any more than having the drive, and all that is entrenched in that word; to be successful, is an illness.
Some in the dark arts of psychiatry are uncertain that hyper-sexuality is an illness. Some in the dark arts of human sexuality are unable to pinpoint what is normal, what is a normal sexual drive, how many orgasms do normal men and women have in one day or one week!
A married couple, or two partners in a monogamous relationship? After two years of commitment, do they really only have sex three times in one week? That sounds monstrous to me. Sick and unsound.
Donât think that we do not fall in love. Donât think for one minute that we donât appreciate higher, less base qualities in others. We simply have needs more urgent than discussions of 19th-century French literature.
Another questioner asked what it felt like to be hyper-sexual. My answer would be that it either feels how you want it to feel or, maybe, it feels like any life task in which you fail or succeed. More the latter, I guess. If you cannot earn enough money to feed your family I am guessing that you would feel that you have failed a task that you needed to succeed; and I suppose that you would feel some anxiety and sadness and a failure. So it is with hyper-sexuality - a singular life task of great need and if you are able to satisfy that need then you win, you are not a failure.
This society has no interest in male hyper-sexuality; but rather has a fascination with female hyper-sexuality: the nymphomaniac. Those failed whores who fuck their way into a bloody gutter because, well, thatâs what happens to whores, right? The female porn models that grow old and advise younger women to stay away from porn because it destroys your heart. They are our public whores. Hypersexual males - we satyrs - are looked upon as lucky! Just a man who gets a lot of pussy.
I also think that the âwhat does it feel like to be hypersexualâ, questioner, may have wanted to know about the sex. A little titillation, maybe. The sex? It is good, it fulfills needs. Of course the sex is good. Unshackled.
"Bipolar folks will understand, I'm sure. Will others? It's hard to know. Some will be inclined to want to understand. Others will think I'm making this up and I'm rationalizing bad behavior. What I really want, though, is to change the way psychiatry and psychology and society see this behavior."
Clarity on the Bipolar diagnosis
Diagnosing a mood disorder is based on a personâs departure from their own baseline behavior. Itâs not based on whether it fits into a cultural or societal norm of the masses. If a person is always a sex fiend, Itâs just a behavioral observation; a personality feature. But when a person who used to be reserved and discreet, becomes uninhibited, compulsive, and manifesting insatiable & risky behavior, Itâs clear that they are ânot themselves.â Thatâs completely separate from the issue of whether they fit in with our societal expectations. They donât fit in with their own established norms.
A bipolar person can be very persuasive and rationalize everything. They are truly the last person to know that they have a crisis.
A woman responded the account of the hypersexual man we just heard from.
I read this answer when it was first posted and sobbed. I cried because the majority of the post is dead-on . It's taken me a month to be able to address this question, and I can't, or won't fully explain everything that's happened in my life, but I am the female version of this person.
I wasn't diagnosed until pretty recently. I am 40-something. Yes, I needed intense connections with other people on every level: intellectually and spiritually, but especially sexually.
Hyper-sexuality is definitely about a different kind of intense connection, but it is definitely about the sex, too. Different bodies. Different needs. A different kind of fulfillment, or not. This behavior started in college; I held onto my cherished virginity until then. That was truly difficult.
The need to connect, to be stimulated by someone, is ever-present. A pattern emerged; serial monogamy. Onto the next long-term boyfriend. I would exhaust him, in every sense of the word, or find another who could try to be all things, all the time, to be several men at once.
But even during a relationship, pursuit of other men, their pursuit of me, or preferably, all of the above, was wonderfully explosive. Enough sex, seemingly. Then not. Never, ever enough.
The hyper-sexuality happens during the manic stage. If you're manic and you were seeking sex, the end of that relationship doesn't really affect you. The downside is, when a relationship goes awry, and he's someone more long term, or someone you were more attached to, it can trigger a depressive episode. And then, one of two things: Depression leading to complete avoidance of sex, or depression leading to sex to fuck away your depression. Sort of like the famed actress Vivian Leigh, who fucked random men as a desperate means of avoiding suicidal despair.
Guess which one is worse. The tailspin can be swift and the depression profound and prolonged. And living just seems like an impossibility, sometimes for months. How people survive this is beyond me. How I lived through this; I don't even know. I self-medicated and should be dead several times over. Street drugs, including booze.
To answer the question, why are bipolar people hypersexual? I guess the best analogy would be "Why do people eat?" It's biological and not something you can control. You just have a need; your body tells you what it needs, and you respond. Sometimes there are obsessive Compulsive manifestations, like over-eaters, going on spending sprees, workaholics, and other behaviors.
Fast forward some years to modern times and post-diagnosis: taking a few different kinds of meds. One of these meds impairs your memory, the other two deaden your libido. It's like I still have the drive but maybe not the impulsiveness to act out because the mania is controlled.
Not a controlled substance, but a substance that controls.
And then thereâs the possible side effects of the psychotropic drugs that my doctorâs had me try. Eventually I found a combo that Iâm content with, but itâs taken a lot of effort, patience, and teamwork. I need a competent healthcare and counseling team, and a supportive circle of friends and family, who provide the feedback that I and my medical team can rely on.
For people who see an opportunity for a great fuck with a hypersexual; Please look in the mirror first. If youâre going to exploit someone whose illness puts their life in danger; You might be a more pathetic person than they are. And they have an illness to blame. You donât. Go pay a hooker for cheap sex, because at least the hooker has a business model.
If youâve found yourself in whatâs becoming more clearly an unhealthy sexual hookup, Offer your partner the most valuable gift you can offer. Your honest perspective and deepest caring assistance, if they will avail themselves of your offer. Trust me, sex will become even more fulfilling, when a hypersexual regains full control of their sex drive.
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Too much of a good thing. It appears she has persistent genital arousal disorder (PGAD)
By Brian Alexander. Listen to the Podcast at How To Sex.
The other day, a few media outlets in the New York region covered the story of a woman who canât seem to stop having orgasms, which would seem joke-ready but can actually be a nightmare.
Doctor Brian Alexander files this assessment;
While the New Jersey womanâs condition has not been formally diagnosed, it appears she has persistent genital arousal disorder (PGAD), something we explored years ago.
The syndrome usually manifests as a constant blood engorgement of the female genitals, mainly the clitoris. This creates a sensation of needing ârelief.â Cue the jokes. But imagine constantly sensing the need for orgasm at work, on the bus, while visiting with friends, and then finding no relief, or only very temporary relief, if you masturbate. Genitals can become highly sensitive, and sore. Sufferers describe feelings of isolation and mental anguish.
Unfortunately, nobody is quite sure what causes it or how to treat it, but, according to Jim Pfaus, a researcher at Montrealâs Concordia University who studies the neuroscience of sexual response, and who is currently engaged in studying persistent genital arousal, there are enough clues to develop a working theory.
âThe root cause,â he explained, âmay be an irritation of the clitoral sensory nerves.â The brain interprets this sensation and sets off a cascade of events.
If you want to incur the rage of a woman in this condition, even the slightest suggestion comparing her to a nymphomaniac, could result in you likely getting beaten up and humiliated.
She didnât ask for this, and she detests its imposition almost as much as sexual assault. A woman wants to be a willing participant. Offer her whatever help she asks for, but it may be for you to get the hell out of here, especially if she usually has some attraction to you, and is now confused by her physically-aroused state.
A brain region called the pro-optic area responds to dopamine signaling by sending out instructions for the body to prepare for sex, as if a woman has been engaged in foreplay when, in fact, sheâs not remotely in a sexual context. Blood flows to the genitals. âSo we think that this blood flow is in a state of hyperarousal in women with PGAD,â Pfaus said. âThey get engorgement quickly, reach orgasm quickly when they try to relieve themselves. It shares features with premature ejaculation and priapismâ in men.
Thatâs consistent with observations others have made. For example, Barry Komisaruk at Rutgers University found that of a group of 18 women with PGAD, 12 had cysts on nerves in the sacral region of their spines. The cysts may be stimulating clitoral nerves.
A variety of drug therapies (thereâs even one report of a physical therapy involving manipulation of muscles in the region) have shown to help. SSRIs, commonly used for depression, seem to provide some relief. But Pfaus believes the drug varenicline (Chantix, commonly used for smoking cessation) is most promising. It works by interrupting the signaling that leads to dopamine release. Blood stops flowing.
While the therapy has worked in scores of women, Pfaus said, the drug isnât perfect. âUnfortunately it comes back when they go off it.â
Brian Alexander
Moon Sprayed Eyes tells us about her condition, and the problems she still faces.
It Killed My Marriage
I haven't received any diagnosis yet, but I have experienced nearly all of these symptoms as far back as preschool.
I have been to so many doctors, Primary Care Managers, Obstitricians, Gynecologists,, and mental health professionals, due to how I describe the sensations of throbbing, tingles; that make me feel like I'm trapped in a constant state of arousal; that is debilitating, deviant-like, impositions.
For 25 out of my 40 years I've not heard anything closely related to P G A D.
However, I have received diagnoses of; hypersexuality, sexual addiction, masturbation addiction, PTSD, hypersensitivity, rejection sensitivity, childhood trauma, divorce anguish, adult trauma, shame, guilt, agoraphobia, Major Depressive Disorder, anxiety.
The fallout? I was married 11 years. We tried individual and couples therapy 6-7 times and completed all sorts of âactivitiesâ, âhomeworkâ and received certificates.
It didnât get better because my spouse husband couldnât keep up what wasnât natural to him.
We both had a hand in the demise of our marriage and we both deeply regret not being what the other person needed.
I really hope other marriages can fix or improve the parts that matter most; because I donât wish this pain on anyone.
My former husband and I have been grieving each otherâs loss since 2021 and I donât think weâll ever get over the loss of each other to âmove on.â Not because we havenât tried, but Itâs not as easy to start over as one would think, when nothing feels normal. I donât have the answers but I donât wish this fate on anyone either.
Well you get the idea. All that just to learn, I was describing Persistant Genital Arousal Disorder 100% accurately, the whole time.
Along with nerve pains, and restless leg, insomnia. but hey, its all in my head, right?. Anyways.
Everything I've read, talk about biases, and that it's considered to be rare; more medical gas-lighting. đ«ą
I am very interested to see what else comes out, and Iâll find as many research studies to bring the printed reports to my next appointment, because I can already see him rolling his eyes, and calling the nurse to bring the straightjacket.
Amp It faced a short term crisis with this disorder. She summarizes her ordeal.
My Doctor Needs To Grow Up!
I had P G A D for about a week earlier this year. It was one of the worst things I have ever experienced. I was a hysterical mess after just a few days. I genuinely felt like I was losing my grip on my sanity. Orgasms didnât even helpâthey actually made it worse. It hurt and the constant pressure in my pelvis was unbearable. There was a lot of ice packs and lidocaine and sobbing. I canât imagine dealing with that BS long term. I donât think I would even survive it. It was hell. Not even remotely sexy.
Since I had back surgery a few months ago my Gynecologist thought it could be something nerve related and wanted me to follow up with my neurosurgeon too. He did order an MRI for me, but the man would not stop cracking jokes at my husband about; âHa ha ha, just donât turn her on, am I right?â
No, sir. That was probably my grossest interaction with a doctor.
Glass Breather retells a grim story of her friendâs tortured life and premature death.
Itâs Perpetual Rape.
I have a friend who has suffered from this for her whole life, since she was five. She said the only way she could describe it was like being raped by demons constantly. Constant engorgement of the genitals, anxiety and stress would also cause unwanted stimulation which could not be contained through masturbation. It only made it worse. Orgasms would also usually make it worse.
Many of the women who suffer from this end up committing suicide. She has managed through a rigorous daily routine of yoga and meditation.
There are some theories that it has something to do with the psoas muscle, near the tailbone; or some sort of impinged spinal nerve that sends a feedback loop to the brain.
It is so far from pleasurable. Torture is closer to the truth.
Love In The Sun gives us a clinical insight.
The desperation leads to bold behavior
I worked as a nurse in a big gynecology clinic. This was a teaching hospital in the US. We had a doctor who specialized in it.
Yes the suffering women would start masturbating in front of the doctor and would masturbate many many times a day, to the detriment of their lives.
She couldnât hold a job, be a parent, or much of anything besides just being perpetually frustrated.
It was absolutely heartbreaking to hear their stories.
So no, this isnât the same pleasurable experience most of us experience as an orgasm. Itâs not pleasurable at all.
Widespread
The condition is profound and widespread, but most sufferers are terrified that they might become exposed to public embarrassment and mockery.
LOS Angeles concert-goers were enjoying a rendition of Tchaikovsky's fifth symphony last week, when the sound of someone having a 'loud and fully body orgasm' suddenly cut through the music.
The incident sparked lively debate between audience members about whether the moaning woman was in the throes of toe-curling pleasure, or if she jerked awake after nodding off and having a bad dream.
Spectator Molly Grant told the LA Times she thought the unknown woman had orgasmed; "because she was heavily breathing, and her partner was smiling and looking at her, like in an effort to not shame her."
But another attendee said they'd witnessed her fall asleep on her partner's lap and wake with a cry 'five seconds later'.
Nevertheless, her 'scream/moan', which the LA Philharmonic blithely continued playing over, lead some to wonder whether the woman was suffering from a rare condition which causes uncontainable genital arousal.
Known as persistent genital arousal disorder, sufferers can feel aroused without experiencing sexual desire and many can have multiple unprovoked orgasms over hours, days or weeks.
Researchers estimated it may affect one per cent of the population, although not everyone's symptoms can are as severe.
Being constantly aroused however, isn't as fun as it sounds.
Medical News Today reported that people with P G A D can have trouble getting on with their day-to-day lives and may experience anxiety, panic attacks and depression.
Christine Decker from Wisconsin, developed the ultra rare condition after slipping a disk in her back.
She suffered a terrifying 236 orgasms in hospital while paramedics watched in horror, and Christine later became completely housebound.
When she spoke up about experiencing more than 100 orgasms daily, she was met with merciless trolling rather than sympathy.
Christine said the hormone therapy which reduced her levels of testosterone also slashed the number of her daily orgasms to just eight.
For mum Cara Anaya-Carlis, having P G A D meant something as simple as the vibrations from a washing machine could send her spiraling into episodes that could last between four and six hours, where she'd experience orgasms every 30 seconds.
Cara began to 'feel too dirty' to be a part of her son's life and felt too embarrassed to work.
Lior Ofir Schwartz from Miami Beach, Florida; began feeling constantly aroused despite not having sexual desires in 2012.
She described the feeling as a 'painful' itch she could not scratch, which would usually come on before the orgasms, when she was stressed, or at night.
Lior's condition worsened to the point that she was unable to have sex with her now husband Jonathan, when she began dating him, due to the pain.
And a mum in England, who started suffering uncontrollable orgasms following an NHS checkup, was left devastated after being told her health board wouldn't fund the medicinal cannabis to help her.
The widow, from East Dunbartonshire, told the The Herald: âWhy should I be paying the bill when I didnât cause the problem? This was inflicted on me by the NHS, so the NHS should be paying for it.
"Itâs been recommended by the very specialist they sent me to â that I had to fight to be sent to â and now theyâre ignoring his advice.
"The condition has calmed down a lot. My own GP says sheâs never seen me looking better in the past two years than I do now. Theyâre the only thing thatâs worked. For me, itâs amazing not to have feeling down there."
Maria believes the condition was sparked during a routine check at Glasgow's Stobhill Hospital in September 2017, claiming a consultant "rammed" a speculum into her.
In the weeks after the examination, Maria said she started to notice distressing symptoms, which were eventually diagnosed as P G A D, caused by damage to her pudendal nerve.
And she said she was furious after it was a NHS consultant who recommended the treatment, with the board now not paying.
Thar She Blows
Lorna, who runs a food delivery service, drove over a speed bump in January 2019.
She said: âI felt a pounding and bulging sensation below.
âIt was lucky I didnât crash as I was losing control of my body.
âWhen I got to the house, I handed over the lunch with my legs crossed, ran to the car and quickly drove home.â
When it recurred, she saw her GP last July.
They offered an epilepsy treatment that eases nerve pain, and reduces the length of episodes.
Lorna, of Doncaster, South Yorks, turned down an ultrasound fearing it would send her into throes of orgasm, but never followed by a pleasant afterglow.
She added: âOnce in a supermarket I had to grab shelves for support.
âPeople looked at me strangely. Another time my friend simply mentioned my boyfriend. I began panicking.
âIâd already started orgasming and so I ran inside a shop.â
She said of her love life: âHenry found it funny at first, but now we canât kiss passionately as it sets me off. He counts down from three then says: âThar she blows!â
Bewildered Doctors
Doctors have struggled to identify what exactly causes P G A D.
According to Medical News Today:
· stress,
· Tourette's syndrome,
· epilepsy,
· trauma to the central nervous system and
· surgery to the lower back
could trigger the condition.
In a 2012 study, MRI results showed that 66.7 per cent of women who demonstrate P G A D symptoms also had a Tarlov cyst - abnormal sacs filled with spinal fluid in the base of the spine.
PERSISTENT genital arousal disorder (P G A D) is spontaneous, persistent and unwanted genital arousal without any sexual desire or satisfaction.
Multiple orgasms over hours, days or weeks can be agonising for sufferers, offering no relief.
Scientists do not know what causes the condition, but suspect neurological, vascular, pharmacological or psychological causes may play a role.
Symptoms can persist for long periods of time, and include:
pressurepainclitoral throbbingtinglingvaginal congestionvaginal contractionsspontaneous orgasmsThe signs and symptoms can affect the vagina, labia, perineum and anus.
The condition can impact on a sufferer's work and home life, leaving many feeling embarrassed, and avoiding sexual relationships.
People who have P G A D can undergo cognitive behavioral therapy, to help identify what triggers the attacks, and to manage the ensuing anxiety.
Antidepressants and anti-seizure drugs have also been used as treatment, and - in the case of Tarlov cysts being presence, surgery could also work.
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The keys to open up some pretty wild doors.
By heel licker & By Bats and Glamour. Listen to the Podcast at How To Sex.
He's asked you to talk dirty, but you don't know how.
So your lover has asked you to talk dirty to him. You may think of yourself as kinky and that you have a dirty mind but when you try to talk dirty the words just don't come to you. If nasty talk doesn't come naturally to you then this how-to is for you.
Keep in mind is that he is a guy, his mind is dirtier than yours. Do you want to know what is inside that skull of his? A cesspool, that's what's inside. All you need to learn is how to send ripples through it.
1: Remember, he is the one that asked you to talk dirty. He has no complaints if you talk too dirty. Besides, the chances of you talking too dirty for him are slim. Don't hold back.
2: When you do talk dirty for him you are being a sexual object. Men are pigs. We have been programmed since birth to objectify women. That does not mean we do not love our spouses, girlfriends, significant others, or whatever we call our partners. It means we have a sexual object that we fantasize about and at times we fantasize about the woman in our lives as being that sexual object. Are you willing to be a sexual object? Maybe it is something the two of you can discuss. Perhaps the two of you can discuss ground rules. Make sure you both know it is just a fantasy. You can always set a night for candlelight and soft music and then a night for talking to him like he was the pig that he is.
3: Dirty talk is spice. Too much can spoil the meal. Sprinkle those nasty words over the course of the evening. There is nothing like a good tease. Collect a repertoire of stock phrases. They don't have to be original. You are talking to cesspool after all. Use those phrases to set him up for the shocker. Use phrases that seem natural to you, but phrases using words like pussy, cock, and dick. 'I want you inside me' doesn't cut it. 'Fuck me with that dick' is better. Read stories on Literotica. If you come across a phrase you like write it down. If you are comfortable doing so, watch some porn movies when your partner is not around and takes notes. You don't particularly have to like porn movies. You are just doing homework. If you don't want to see what is happening on the screen don't look. Just listen. If you do like porn get the vibrator out and have some me time.
4: Make sure you have a shocker. What is a shocker? A shocker is that really dirty, nasty, and disgusting phrase that closes the deal. It is the phrase that will have him wrapped around your finger. The good thing about a shocker is that is does not have to be spontaneous. In fact, during the time you are earning your potty mouth it is best not to be spontaneous. The best shockers in the beginning are planned. You have all the time in the world to come up with a shocker. Before your night of dirty talk sit down with a pen and notebook and figure out what your shocker is going to be. Now is the time to get that dirty mind of yours to work. Think of a theme for your shocker. Are you the sweet little girl, the slut, the evil bitch or do you have something even more devious in mind. Get in the mindset that you are playing a character. Get yourself into the role. Start trying to objectifying things. It is not "his" dick, but "that" dick. It is just an object. It is not "your" pussy, but "that" pussy or better yet "that" hole. Objectifying is not a rule it is just something to just keep in mind. Think about whether it fits your theme or situation. Finally the best shockers have a hint of the taboo in them. Referring to yourself as mommy or call him a slut (yes, I said him). The goal is to send him over the edge. You may be saying to yourself that you couldn't say something like that to him. What if it would freaks him out. I could only answer that by saying that he wasn't just asking you to talk dirty to him. He was asking you to fuck his mind.
5: Make sure to deliver the shocker properly. After all your work, you wouldn't want the shocker to get lost unnoticed between "Oh, yeah, fuck that pussy" and "and fuck me, faster". Pace things. Set the scene, stop or slow things down if you need to, and make sure he is looking into your eyes when you are ready. Now deliver the shocker.
"You motherfucker. You've turned me into a slut, haven't you?"
Of course replace this shocker with your own. Make it as nasty you want it to be.
6: Once you've gone through talking dirty a time or two throw this how-to away and do what comes naturally. Now you are really ready to use that dirty mouth of yours.
How To Talk Dirty To Your Lover
The keys to open up some pretty wild doors.
By Bats and Glamour
After writing Blowjobs for Dummies and How to Eat Pussy Like a Champ, these âHow Toâ articles are becoming habit forming for me! However, Iâve received some of the most wonderful, kindest feedback that a writer could ever ask for, and Iâm grateful.
One thing Iâve been asked to write about â very often â is talking dirty. The kind of erotic talk that heats things up in bed â on the floor, over the kitchen sink â wherever.
I do understand the fascination with it. Hearing is of course one the five senses, and along with sight, touch, smell and taste, can add to the excitement and enjoyment of having sex. If youâre into it, dirty talk â and mind you I donât think itâs dirty at all â can make good sex better, and great sex down right memorable.
In the classic porn film, "Talk Dirty To Me," starring the incomparable John Leslie, his dirty talk drives women absolutely wild. Theyâre out of control, fucking and sucking him, without really even knowing why. It turns them on so much that even though they donât originally want him, they canât help themselves. Does it really work this way? With the right people and done properly, I believe it can. So read on.
First, I need to point out that although Iâve had my share of experience, I donât hold myself out as an âexpert.â Then again, is there a degree one can get for dirty erotic talk? I havenât seen it in any of the adult evening classes at the local college. Like anyone else, my experience has been through personal trial and error, reading and hearing an awful lot of suggestions from Literotica readers and sexual addicts such as myself and being a devout student of erotic human behavior. So I guess, in a sense, Iâm as much of an expert as anyone else.
By the way, youâll notice I call it dirty âeroticâ talk. In the future Iâll just try and shorten it to dirty talk. Itâs just that here in NJ, you hear dirty talk on the radio, at the deli, and especially in traffic, along with dirty gestures. None of it is erotic. At least I donât think itâs supposed to be, unless "that was my parking spot, you motherfucker" turns you on.
Before we get started, a quick mission statement. Why this article? Done right, talking dirty to your lover can be a powerful aphrodisiac. It can bring out hidden desires and fantasies in both men and women. It can be hot â oh man, you have no idea how hot â and add an aspect to sex that kicks it up several notches. I promise. The rules are, there are no rules. But I have some suggestions and observations that can get you on the right track and get you going. After that, itâs up to you my friends. You donât want me there as a coach;
What is dirty talk anyway? What is considered dirty? Is it, "Umm, that feels so good," or "get on your knees and suck my cock you whore." The answer is â both, depending on whoâs talking and whoâs listening. One personâs dirty is anotherâs mild. To yet another person, itâs downright perverted and filthy. This is important to keep in mind.
On one end of the spectrum, you have sex so silent that it could qualify for a covert operation behind enemy lines. I think there are some concrete reasons for this speechless sex.
Religious people have a misguided notion that talking âdirtyâ is a violation of the 10 Commandments. Itâs clearly not. That scripture refers to people who claim to speak on Godâs behalf, but are not.
The only clear instructions for Christians is when the Apostle says âDonât use corrupt communication. Speak so that others are encouraged by your words.â
If my lover is built up and encouraged by my passionate desire for her, Iâm building her up. Polite, high-brow speech nazis may be offended by my calling my woman a âchampion cocksucking queenâ, But if she loves it, Iâm doing well.
A: Either one or both of the parties feels uncomfortable or embarrassed about sex.
B: Either one or both of the parties feels uncomfortable or embarrassed about any talking during sex because of upbringing, religious beliefs or what have you.
C: There is a high level of inexperience.
D: Nobody knows what to say or how to get started.
The remarkable thing about it, which always perplexes me, it that some of these men whose mouths are sewn shut during sex wonât stop talking during a sporting event. Their excitement is overwhelming. They yell, scream and jump up and down when a touchdown is scored or a home run hit. And some of the women just wonât get off the phone with their friends and family. But get them in bed â wham â you shut them right up.
The middle ground would consist of some moaning and groaning, perhaps a little, "yes" or "that feels good" here and there. These people clearly enjoy sex, and may benefit from this article the most, but donât want to or know how to take it to the next level.The other end of the spectrum, God bless it, is when the lady expresses herself in a dignified manner such as, "I want to suck your cock like a ten dollar whore," and the man replies "Thatâs right, baby, I want to taste the juices flowing from your cunt." Itâs hot, tasty, salty sex. My favorite kind, Iâd like to add!
Any or all of these variations are fine, as long as the people involved are satisfied. And if you want to get on this train, if youâve been looking for a way to add that extra ingredient to augment your sex life, read on.
Dodgerâs manager Tommy Lasorda was once asked, "Did you ever think in your wildest dreams that youâd be in the World Series?" and replied "My wildest dreams have nothing to do with baseball." Well put.
The point is that if your girl asks you to "talk dirty" to them and you say, "Fuck me hard and long, I want to cum on your face, you slut," she may freak because what she expected to hear was "I canât wait to be inside you." If she says "suck my cunt lips until I scream your name, I want to be your cock whore," he may be shocked, because to him, dirty is, "Do me, honey." In either case, expectation is far from reality and may be embarrassing enough to prevent either one from ever trying to talk dirty again.
Obviously, it would be better to have some idea of what the other person would like to hear before you say "Iâm gonna spank your nasty ass âtil you squeal like a pig" to a monastery candidate. Before you begin to talk dirty to your lover, ask yourself, what kind of a person are they? Are they easily offended by harsh language or do they swear like a truck driver (no offense)? Do they appear to be open minded in other ways, about oral sex or different positions for example? How do they like their sex? Fast, furious and balls to the walls, or slow and tender? This can at least give you some kind of gauge where to start experimenting.
Warning - do not judge a book by its cover. Iâve known some girls who were demure and seemingly innocent at work or school. But once the passions of desire had been stoked â they played with live ammo - pass the Vaseline, duct tape and batteries, weâre having a party!
If your adventures in talking dirty start with your lover asking you to do it, ask them what they have in mind, what theyâd like you to say. If this is too embarrassing for them, ask them to write it down. Iâve always been more comfortable writing than saying it, too. I once knew a girl, wonder where she is now, who would leave me little notes in private places telling me what she wanted to do to me. It was a different kind of dirty talk, sure, but it got me fired up all right. More on that later.
You can always start out slow. No one expects to go from silence to waking the neighbors with your screams in just one night. It would seem too labored, too artificial as well. I believe it would be more natural to begin with light fare, such as "yeah, that feels really good." One of my absolute favorites is the simple, elegant and unfailingly hot, "Oh God." You donât get an "Oh God" unless your doing really well. Maybe an "Oh," possibly an "Oh my," but when you get a nod the to Big Guy, youâre on the right track.
Once you start out slow and comfortable, see how that goes, where it takes you, and decide to move on or not. If you are the instigator, it usually follows that you begin the dirty talk, and your lover gets the idea. If they donât, try asking them questions which will prompt a response, such as "How does that feel baby, is that good?" Or, "Do you like it when I do that?" Again, if you like the idea of dirty talk and want to make it a regular part of your sexual behavior, itâs far better to start slow, even though you may want to blurt out, "Your cock is so big I feel like Iâm being fucked by a horse," which I donât hear often enough for some strange reason beyond my comprehension," or even, "spread those ass cheeks wide, doctor enema is coming in for a landing." Outrageously dirty talk is wild fun, and can spice the hell out of a sexual liaison, but it can truly turn off the uninitiated, so be cautious at first.
Which brings me to another very important issue. What you do in the bedroom stays in the bedroom. It may be OK for you to call her âyour slut whoreâ when youâre fucking, or for her to call you her daddy (oh baby!), but not back I the real world. You do that and youâll spoil your bedroom fun in the long run. Unless your lover likes it, leave it in bed. She may want to be treated like a naughty little girl who likes to be punished in bed, tied up, blindfolded, whip out the vibrator and; donât get me started, but you should separate fantasy from reality.
Just to clarify a little further though, when I say keep it in bed, I mean keep it in the context of sexual situations. I once had a girlfriend who would write little notes on cocktail napkins when we were out to a fancy dinner, "When I get you home Iâm going to suck your cock until you cum in my mouth." Waiter? Check please! A buddy of mine leaves explicit letters to his wife, and calls her during the day to tell her where they are. By the time he gets home sheâs ready to rock the Casbah. I know a young lady, and she knows who she is, who with one sentence on the computer keyboard can put a lump in my throat and my pants. I canât see her face or hear her voice on the internet, but her desire comes through loud and clear. Yours can, too.
But I repeat, you can call her during the day and say "I miss my sweet little whore," or she can tell you she "longs for her guyâs meaty cock down her throat," when youâre away on business and itâs all great fun and in the right spirit of sexuality and desire. Just keep in that way and in perspective. It definitely doesnât have to be restricted to the bedroom, but there is still a time and place.
This also means of course that your lover knows you mean no disrespect in what you say or write. You may call her âyour cum sucking cock houndâ, but thatâs only in the realm of sexual fun and fantasy. She probably doesnât want you to think of her as a whore in the real world, so let her or him know you understand the difference.
I think it also should be said that dirty talk, like any other delicacy, can get old fast is overused. I love a good steak, but not every night or Iâll get sick of it. If you talk dirty and take it to the limit every time, itâll lose its erotic value, which would be a shame. Perhaps its best to save it for those times when sex is the menu for the evening, instead of a quick appetizer or late night dessert.
OK, are you almost ready to get started? Great. Do keep one last thing in mind before we summarize. Tone of voice is all-important. Think of Minnie Mouse bellowing "Fuck me with your huge little mouse cock, Mickey!" in her squeaky little cartoon voice. Does that turn you on? If so, you may be related to Walt Disney.
You canât use your daily student, motherly or business meeting voice. It may sound like youâre giving instructions. "Now stick that big cock or yours in me. You ready to cum? Good, then cum, Iâve got errands to do."
In your sexiest voice, shaking with desire and passion, say something like, "Umm; your cock feels so good inside of me; so warm; you making me; youâre gonna make me cum so hard; so hard, baby; " Or if youâre a guy, in your lowest, most measured tones it may be "Oh baby, youâre so beautiful; I just love to fuck you; to have my cock inside of you; I love to watch your face when itâs full of my cock; Iâm so hard for you; " Whatever the words. Whispered in her ear, theyâre magic.
And unless you are in fact whispering in your loverâs ear, the best way to talk dirty to them is when looking into their eyes. The hottest, most erotic words will have little effect if you look away to say them, as though youâre shy or embarrassed about it. If you practically mumble them to the floor, you may not even be heard. Speak up â weâre all friends here! Look your lover in the eyes and tell them you love what theyâre doing, or what youâre dying to do to them or have them do to you. Donât be timid, be proud! Speak it, shout it, whisper it, but let them see and hear you. Can you imagine how hot it is when your ladyâs face is near your cock as she looks up at you and says in her sexiest voice, "Umm; I just love your cock; Iâm gonna rub it all over my face and then tickle my tonsils with it; Iâm gonna suck your cock until you beg me to let you cum; " This has got to add another inch to that erection! Two if sheâs rubbing her tits all over it while sheâs talking; there I go again.
OK now, before we adjourn for some practice of our own, let me suggest that you do indeed practice on your own, at least at first. The greatest speakers rehearse. You do want to know what youâre going to sound like, even to yourself. So say some erotic lines out loud a few times. Adjust your tone, your pace. Just say it a few times until it sounds good to you, this isnât Broadway. It will alleviate some of the jitters of trying something new. And to me thatâs what good sex is all about, trying something new.
I can practically hear some of you saying, "OK fine, I get the picture, but what do I say, what are the actual words." And no, I canât send you a recording. But letâs look at it this way. Even taco sauce comes in mild, medium and spicy, right? Sometimes you might feel like mild or medium, sometimes you want some hot spice. Itâs the same with dirty erotic talk.
Mild would probably phrases like, "Umm; thatâs nice," "feels so good," "yes; yes, right there," "Oh God, baby; yes," "I canât wait to taste you," "I love what youâre doing to me; I love how it feels; Iâve been wanting you all day; " "Letâs make love until the sun comes up; " You get the picture, mix and match as you like. These are erotic words that should not have the beginner choking on them.
Once you get used to the mild sauce, or saucy comments, you may want to get a bit more creative. "I love how your cock feels inside of me," "Your pussy is so wet; I love how my cock feels inside of you," "Your juices taste so good," "Your body is so beautiful; oh my God, I canât wait to taste every inch of you," "I love these breasts, I want to lick and suck them so hard; " "Wrap your legs around me, I want every inch of me inside of you," "Iâm gonna suck your cock now baby; hold in tight,"
Let me just start breathing normally again for a minute. There. Now, you want spice? You want to bring it home to papa? Those who really like the salty stuff probably donât need my suggestions. But hey, Iâm the writer here, indulge me.
When you graduate to, "Spread those cunt lips my sweet little whore, Iâm gonna slam you like Hulk Hogan," "Iâm gonna suck your cock until every last drop of cum fills my mouth," "Donât you dare cum until I give you permission," "Suck my cock you little whore," "Canât you fuck any harder than that? â be a man!" "I want to taste your seed; cum on my face," "Bend over baby; youâve been a bad girl and itâs time for your ass to pay; " now you know you donât need my words. God, I do wish I could be there! How about sending me a tape?
My friends, I mean it when I say that some girls, and guys, are so aroused by dirty talk â often to their surprise â they canât believe it themselves. Imagine a girl who is the definition of proper at work, in the kitchen, at the gym, in church â whatever, but in the bedroom she likes to be called a âwhoreâ and have her âcunt fucked hard by youâ. Or the conservative business dude who likes to tell her to âsuck my cock like an ice cream cone until I tell you to stop.â It can be so very hot, and you may not even know this vista of opportunity exists until you try it at least on some level. I sincerely hope you do.
I wish you good luck, good health and good sex. No matter what your age or sexual preference, live a passionate life and keep the spirit alive.
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How you can get your woman to squirt.
By Alice_Roissy & dirtyjoe69. Listen to the Podcast at How To Sex.
Today weâre discussing the manifestation of female ejaculation, or whatâs commonly called âsquirting.â
Many a woman has been subjected to shame & humiliation by an ignorant lover who assumes that the chick just pissed in bed, in the middle of lovemaking. The truth is, He caused it more than she did. And he should actually be proud of his superior coupling skills. Bless his darling heart and stupid head! Hereâs an essay
Please Release Me, Let Me Flow.Menâs Guide To Female Ejaculation. Introduction and tipsBy dirtyjoe69
Do you seek some physical confirmation that your bedroom skills are pushing your lady to the peak of desire? Are you delivering the zenith of BIG âOâs? When the blushed chest and moaning and screaming havenât sufficed as proof, start exercising those arms, clip your nails and get your waders outâŠthings are about to get real messy!
Men take ejaculation for granted. Itâs like a 'liquid-trophyâ of man-hood, and the source of your future legacies and heirs. But cast your mind back to that very first time you managed to squeeze some 'Gentlemanâs Gelâ from the end of your 'young chapâ, I guarantee you might have been writhing in ecstasy, but you were also confused and maybe even a little ashamed. My boyfriend will admit to believing heâd somehow 'broken itâ when he finally popped his cork in his teen years. With females the climax has always been much harder to tell. After all, the female orgasm never had such a visible finale, or so youâve been led to believe.
A skill possessed by most females but in reality admitted and permitted by few, female ejaculation is one of those few remaining taboos and 'un-tappedâ delights of the 21st century. You all know that your girl canât help but spill the beans on your 'sexploitsâ to her close circle of friends. Sheâll be all too eager to divulge your size, expertise and finishing techniques, but never be fooled into thinking sheâs dishing the dirt on herself. Itâs strange but there are still some subjects considered too taboo to share over a bottle of wine, and depositing her 'loadâ seems to be up there with rimming and fisting. In truth you are more likely to hear a guy discuss the pleasures of female ejaculation than you ever would a woman
History dating back as far back as the 2nd Century has detailed the ability of females to ejaculate during sex. Yet often when seeking medical counsel from doctors, gynecologists, and psychiatrists, these anxious ladies were invariably told they were incontinent and needed either surgery or psychotherapy. The belief and humiliation of it being linked to incontinence stripped any sexual satisfaction, often leaving the female ashamed. After all what girl wants to earn herself the reputation of an un-intentional 'bed wetterâ? Even todayâs UK Censors have been known to emit footage of females ejaculating from porn films, wrongly believing it to be urine and therefore fetish orientated. In fact what these ladies are actually achieving is the absolute pinnacle of female sexual pleasure. An ejaculatory orgasm, or 'squirtingâ as now commonly referred, which renders them well and truly spent!
Most of us ladies who have experienced an ejaculation initially believed weâve suffered from a leaky bladder. Instead of enjoying the sensation we were mortified to believe we had 'golden-showeredâ our partner and indeed, in many cases so did you men. Lots of females, under thorough interrogation or clever coaxing will admit to having had an experience where they believed theyâd 'leakedâ during sex. The feeling of ejaculating is not dissimilar to peeing, a shower of warm wet liquid and a feeling of intense release.
Often itâs the guyâs reaction to ejaculation that will determine any future releases. If heâs had previous experience, or at least understands what has actually just happened, things will be significantly less embarrassing for both parties. In truth, he has skillfully hit the lucky girls G-spot and her eternal font of pleasure. If however he jumps to his feet shouting 'Fucking-Hell! Youâve pissed yourselfâ, the chances are your girl will dry up like the SerengetiâŠas will your sex life.
It has taken almost 1,800 years for the subject, often considered an urban myth, to finally be an acceptable and willing bed partner. When it first started happening to me I was so paranoid I found myself looking at adult nappies in Boots Chemist surgical dressings department. You may snigger but I assure you, to a girl only in her twenties if you believe youâve started to pee yourself during sex, itâs like the end of the world. No amount of Bulgari perfume is going hide the stench of piss sodden sheets.
For our part, the fairer sex has enjoyed and indulged the sexual revolution. We found our clitoris, and in increasing numbers so have men. Weâve stocked up on toys, some of us have even engaged in threesomes, swinging and discovered the delights of Fetishes. In a relatively short time women have been sexually liberated, and for the first time in history we can finally take the lead in the bedroom and dungeon. In 1981 when Newsweek published its editorial piece 'Just How the Sexes Differâ, it claimed the major difference was 'that men ejaculate, but women do notâ. Oh! How naive they were. The actual difference between men and woman is that we can 'shootâ more, and further than you. Soon teenage girls everywhere could be enjoying their own version of the 'Soggy Biscuitâ game.
Once released, the actual ejaculation itself can be a mind-blowing experience for both partners. Not only does the female get 'THEâ most intense orgasm, but also the lucky partner gets some serious dousing of love-juice. The amount of fluid 'squirtedâ can vary considerably in volume. Most Doctors have settled between the 5ml and 100ml volume, but personal experience and others can testify to soaking a bath towel over the course of an evening. The amount varies as much as force of expulsion. My partner in particular will often receive a warm soaking of his balls. But on occasion, particularly during harder 'doggy styleâ penetration Iâve managed to drench not only him, but also the soles of my feet and beyond. Something heâs definitely partial to.
In reality many men are fascinated with this so-called 'phenomenonâ adding to the growing 'ejaculating super-femaleâ urban myth. Legend has it that when Motley Crue drummer Tommy Lee started dating a girl named 'Bullwinkleâ it wasnât her looks he was interested in, but her ability to 'spray her cum across the roomâ. That may also lead some credence to Pamela Andersonsâ claim that guysâ canât get enough of her 'trick pelvisâ.
Equaling the tally for all those 'pearl necklacesâ has its satisfaction, especially ejaculating during oral and Iâm becoming very adept at delivering my own version, a 'sparkling-chokerâ. But a price does have to be paid for all this pleasure. First of all it can present a new slant on the question of 'who sleeps on the wet patch?â Especially when we are not talking about just a lovingâ spoonful, but up to half a pint and bed linen that look like they should be displayed in the Tate Modern. Forget Tracy Emminâs 'un-made bedâ. Check out my sheets, I could give Jackson Pollock a run for his money!
There are a few ground rules to undertaking your quest. Do not set out believing there really is such a thing as the 'ejaculating super-femaleâ, even if I personally would wear the t-shirt with pride. Most women can ejaculate but many donât. In the same way that all women can orgasm even though some donât, be it through physical or mental blockage, or just plain in-experience. When you guys first engaged in a 'five knuckle shuffleâ you got a result. It may have taken a while before you managed to produce your 'baby gravyâ, but you still got hard and it captured your affections. The climax has always been much more hidden and complex in females, and as such, a source of infinite frustration in men. Giving rise to that ever popular question 'How was it for you?â You seem to need to ask us!
There are indeed many complexes in achieving female ejaculation but itâs best to start with compatible partners. Both parties have to be sexually adventurous as some women claim that their partners will literally 'wilt when showeredâ. Other females, especially if youâve just 'popped their cherry 'adeâ, will still dive for the bathroom absolutely mortified and convinced they have committed an indiscretion. If the idea of water-sports has intrigued you in part but youâre not too keen on urine, female ejaculation could be your 'holy grailâ.
Now, whoever said that condoms were passion killers has never tried a mattress protector, or jumping up halfway through a really good session to find a towel. Forget that decaying crusty sock you keep under the bed, which is covered in dead cultivations of 'man-milkâ. If your girlfriend can squirt you will seriously need to upgrade. At one stage I even started obsessing about staining the mattress. This doesnât happen but it does raise yet another issue of 'protectionâ.
Like in Yoga where one is taught to almost reverse ones breathing pattern, in sex the female needs to control another inbuilt reflex. The building of the 'ejaculationâ does feel very much like a desire to pee and as soon as the urethra starts to tingle, second nature kicks in. When squeezed The Pubococcygeus Muscle (try get your tongue around that!), prevents the bladder leaking. It is crucial for your girlfriend to oppose this contraction and actually bear down against it. This is not an easy concept to get your head around because if you bear against the muscle that prevents you peeing, surely that means you do. Not in this instance it seems. Contraction of the muscle in this instance actually stops an orgasm from building; pretty much the same way as squeezing the base of the penis and thinking momentarily of Anne Widdecombe does in men. It does not prevent further ejaculation, just postpones it. This is the first barrier you need to deal with. Donât be under any illusions that your girlfriend will fill your mouth with milk & honey on command. If only life were that simple. Remember the hunt for the clitoris? Well if that equaled gaining an 'Aâ level qualification, getting your girlfriend to 'squirtâ for the very first time is like obtaining a PhD.
The ejaculation itself does come through the urethra, the same tube used for urination. It is located just outside the vaginal opening. If you spread your ladies inner labia and trace your finger from just inside her pussy, up towards the clitoris, after about half an inch you can find a tiny hole. Almost a needle in a haystack, especially if your lady is unshaven. This is where the ejaculation fluid exits, but not where it originates. Thatâs the job of the 'Skene Glandâ. The equivalent to a male prostate, which produces seminal fluid in males and itâs hidden between the G-spot and the clitoris. Although some insignificant traces of urine are evident, the composition is not that dissimilar to the fluid produced by the male prostate to keep all those hungry little 'baby-makersâ alive during male ejaculation.
The fluid can appear like either watered down milk or can be clear in composition. It in no way offers any contraception as the fluid is expelled outside the vagina. Therefore the only conceivable purpose of female ejaculation is for pleasure. And the pleasure is intense, in many cases far surpassing any previous best. Ejaculation can take place during both a clitoral and a vaginal orgasm, thus providing a magical 'thirdâ orgasm. If you are lost on the difference between a clitoral and a vaginal orgasm, you might want to ask your girlfriend; although if you really donât know the difference, you probably wonât have a girlfriend to ask.
An ejaculation results from manipulation inside the vagina, as per a vaginal orgasm, but with an added jackpot. Giving the female an amazing double whammy orgasm. Sometimes after ejaculation the female can virtually pass out from the after-glow of forceful feelings. But donât worry, unlike men, thereâs usually more to follow. Give her a few minutes and sheâll be filling up like the office water cooler.
Obviously a starting point to your crusade is required. It usually helps to wait until your lucky lady is already aroused before declaring your honorable intentions. Place a towel on the bed to help absorb your 'baptismâ. Each orgasm will deliver a different volume of liquid in all manner of directions and velocity. This can range in spectacle from a trickling 5ml to a turbulent 200ml (I no longer worry about my creative juices drying up, as I reckon with my other talents I could easily always get some freelance work with the fire service).
I would just also like to rectify a point here about another 'urban mythâ that we girls have been swallowing for years. When was it actually decided that the male load averaged at 10cc? Who were these 'specimensâ? My boyfriend often cums so much I once actually accused him of being a freak. Bad etiquette I know, but sometimes I resemble the star attraction at a 'Bukakkeâ club. I have literally eaten his humble pie though; first time I ejaculated over him he was perfecting his oral skills. I came so much he was thoroughly drenched. His hair, face and chest were totally dripping. The sheet showed perfectly where his head and torso had taken the brunt, leaving an outlined dry patch. He loved his 'baptismâ so much I counted 9 more ejaculations before rolling over, passing out and leaving him with the mess. Now thereâs a novel occurrence. On other more adventurous occasions we have actually measured distances, managing up to 5ft of coverage; and I used to think the Bangkok ping-pong ball trick was impressive.
If you havenât yet introduced toys to your relationship, fingers will be more than adequate for the job. Both can achieve the desired result but for first timers you will need to feel your way around, so you should probably leave the toys until later. Scrub your hands well. Trim and if necessary file your fingernails, you donât want to cut the poor girl (Welders, Guitarists and Builders take note: your fingers are not often noted as 'hands that do dishesâ. But this is one area you can truly exploit those textured fingertips). It can also help to exercise your arms and fingers a little; you do not want to find yourself huffing 'are you nearly there yet?â Time should not be of essence during sex unless your girlfriends expecting a birthday telegram from the Queen.
Start off slowly with lots of foreplay, for both parties. Maneuver her onto her back with you positioned between her thighs. Using your fingers and tongue stimulate her clitoris. Wet your fingers and tweak her nipples to really get her going, whilst executing the best cunnilingus skills you can muster. When you sense her starting to get aroused, insert two fingers inside her with your palm facing upwards. Enter your fingers up to the second knuckle and bend upwards to create an L shape. Now gently probe around until you find a rough surface approximately 2 inches in length. This is the G-spot and is located directly behind the clitoris but inside her pussy.
When you literally 'hit the spotâ, start to stroke this area and it should start too en-large. Ask her to let you know if she can feel any increase in intensity. If she canât maybe you have the wrong area so keep looking. Donât go mad, but you may be surprised at your partnerâs thresholds. Try out differing degrees of pressure as you are probing, and if necessary use some lube. Massaging the clitoris with your thumb whilst doing this also increases stimulation. If she is having trouble relaxing or is becoming self-conscious be prepared to let her see that itâs also working for you. It helps to see that your fella is enjoying himself, and watching my guy 'box with his one-eyed champ is an absolute delight.
Your stroking may need some variety. You can work the two fingers together simultaneously or they can work in opposition like a finger walking exercise. Work around the whole area. An effective method is to combine the two previous suggestions followed by sliding your fingers in about an inch, before pulling out and sliding them back in. Start off slowly and build in speed. Donât go too hard; you are not trying to fist her. Try stimulating her clitoris at the same time; trust me this is not a time for idle hands. Keep measuring her responses. Heavy breathing, deep moaning and contractions around your fingers are a good indication that something is working. When you feel her start to bear down, begin pumping your fingers faster. At some point hopefully your girlfriend will experience a desire to pee. This is what you are both aiming for. If she can bear down and positively encourage this, and your handy-work has been sufficient, things should get very wet.
This isnât necessarily the best position to achieve ejaculation. The inside of a womenâs vagina is shaped, sized and angled individually, a bit like the shape of the male member. Penetration from behind may definitely be the key. Do remember however that in this position you need to work palm down. It will be easier for you to work on her G-spot and massage her clit at the same time. Try different variations with hands, tongues and fingers. Remember, if you do become dis-heartened, this time there are prizes for her 'Cummingâ first. If fingers are not working, try using your thumb. Although initially it wonât reach the G-spot, if you stimulate her clitoris it will swell during arousal. Take two fingers and lay them either side of her clitoris, then position your thumb inside her forming a three-fingered claw. This allows for the curve between the forefinger and middle finger to apply pressure and friction to the clit. If you start to move your thumb and fingers in a pumping motion you will massage both clit and G-spot at the same time. When she starts to bear down increase your speed. Over time it is possible to control and even prevent ejaculation whilst still enjoying the orgasm, but thatâs just plain criminal! 'Please release me, let me flowâ should be every femaleâs motto. If your girlfriend does manage to ejaculate it will, rest assured, catch you both by surprise. This is a significant moment for both of you, and if itâs either partyâs first time, you will remember that moment of impact forever. The truly amazing bonus that evolution has granted us finally superior to males is that we can do it again and again. Be aware that in the same way we can have multiple orgasms, we can also have multiple ejaculations. Intensity and amount of fluid may vary with each individual orgasm until our supplies are depleted, but the sensations just get better. Being entered from behind whilst 'squirtingâ provides the ultimate finishing touch. The smile of the man who is lucky enough to have his balls drenched by his ladies cum is definitely a Kodak moment.
Your girlfriend may not ejaculate every time she orgasms, and indeed a case is even documented where a lady approached her gynecologist believing she was ill because it had stopped happening. Pressure on the female to deliver can be intense, and can prevent ejaculation in the same way it happens to men. Relaxation, an open mind and willingness are the three key factors. If these elements all click the final result will most likely be the most pleasurable and intense orgasm she has ever experienced. Now just imagine being the guy able to deliver that!
After ejaculating your girlfriend will obviously, and hopefully, be a bit delirious for a few moments. It passes way too quickly so let her enjoy it before commencing with your wicked-way. She probably will want you to continue in a few seconds, or she may wish to have a breather. But Iâm sure you will also wish to take a couple of seconds to comprehend the aftermath. As for achieving other ejaculations beyond this point, itâs a bit like riding a bike hopefully without the grazed knees.
Once perfected, donât be surprised when she now starts to hassle you for oral. Yep! Equal rights! Which leads us nicely on to the etiquette of swallowing and taste. Like male ejaculate, the taste of lady-juice can vary from bitter to sweet according to diet, water consumption and a host of other environmental and biological factors. Male porn stars frequently abstain from alcohol or spicy food for a couple of days before a shoot to combat what is known as the 'gag factorâ. Itâs an assault on the ladies taste buds and will invariably produce a 'Spunk-purgingâ reaction. But if you drink a pint of water and avoid spicy food, itâs not quite the delight of Evian, but itâs definitely more palatable. Well the same goes for us girls. On occasion it can taste sweet, on occasion bitter and at certain times of the month metallicâŠit is generally advised to avoid these times as you could end up earning your 'red wingsâ. Nuff said!
By dirtyjoe69
Hereâs More About the female Ejaculation, written to help men understand that she didnât just pee in bed. In fact, her body and soul just paid you the highest sexual compliment that you can ever get. Perhaps 90% of men will never know the accomplishment of bringing a woman to this high level of sexual ecstasy. Hereâs an essay from Roissy.
Squirting; She Can Do It!In most stories Its mentioned how the women cum so hard it shoots out of their pussies. Not unlike a guy shooting ropes. It is all in the technique, and you can get there too. Whether you are a man who wants to see his lady just soak the hell out of the sheets or youâre a woman who would like to experience total indescribable bliss. Then you should read on.
A long time ago when the wife and I first started dating, almost fourteen years, we were like any other couple just starting a relationship. We would fuck our brains out every chance we got! The kitchen, the bedroom, the living room it didnât really matter what room or what place, if we got a moment we took it. We thought our sex life was spectacular. Heck one night I remember ejaculating more than seven times. I couldnât begin to tell you how many she had. We loved it all; oral, different positions, tie up games, fun with food, and even ventured into the swinging scene. We would read erotic novels or go on the computer to Literotica to find hot stories then play out the scenes. We had tried just about anything ânormalâ (because normal is relative) two people could do with each other. She would give me mind blowing orgasms with her mouth, cunt, and ass. I would eat her pussy till she couldnât take anymore. Then one day we watched a movie, I canât really recall what one it was but anyway, in this movie it showed a technique for making the woman cum so hard that her cum would actually squirt right out of her pussy. And let me tell ya, the look on the girlâs face when she was finished cumming was remarkable. It was a look of pure satisfaction. My wife asked me if I thought we should try the procedure and I said absolutely!
Now that you know how our sex elevated to frequent squirting, and let me tell you it is still a regular occurrence, let me explain how it is done! A pre-step to take before trying this method. Make sure to take a leak before you start. An emptied bladder is more responsive to sexual stimuli. Youâll understand more as we continue.
If youâre a woman who wants a higher degree of arousal and wet, mind-blowing multiple orgasms, let me talk to the man in your sex life. I have some special instructions to share.
This kind of arousal needs more than a massive cock to make it happen. Hereâs how to get her off over and over, in a wild and wet session.
STEP 1: Make sure youâre both comfortable. Maybe a little wine, soft music, or perhaps a good erotic massage, it doesnât matter, just as long as a woman is completely relaxed.
STEP 2: Do whatever it is you usually do to have a nice normal orgasm. If a female orgasm is having problems occurring, just skip right to STEP 4).
STEP 3: Make sure she is feeling very comfortable, it is key!
STEP 4: Start licking the womanâs clit and slide two fingers deep in her cunt. If your woman has a slightly bigger cunt opening, then increase the number of fingers being used.
STEP 5: Turn said fingers so that your palm is up facing you. (If a lady is trying to do this alone, she should have her palm against her pubic bone then bend the wrist so it points away from her body. Almost like are making a scoop.)
STEP 6: Push your fingers toward the ceiling. You want to turn your wrist like you are trying to start a motorcycle.
STEP 7: Run your fingers along this âwallâ, feel for a small rough area. Believe it or not it kind of feels like a walnut. She will know the spot immediately.
STEP 8: Keep rubbing, increasing the speed and pressure as you do. Donât rub too hard or too fast right off the start. Work up to it.
STEP 9: This is probably the most important one. When you do see your woman starting to get real excited, they might tell you to stop because they feel like they are about to pee. Remind them they have no pee in their bladder, and tell them to JUST RELAX and let it Go!
STEP 10: Take cover because you are about to be showered upon. My wife has squirted over three feet in the air lying on her back!!
So there you have it, lovers, ten steps to oblivion. I forgot to mention one thing. TOWELS, TOWELS, TOWELS! Or get a second set of sheets ready. And donât whine about doing extra laundry, it is totally worth it.
I canât promise this method will work for you but if you want to pursue a mind-blowing ecstasy, and never have before; why not give it a shot. We did, and the shooting hasnât stopped since.
Cheers
By Roissy & dirtyjoe69 for Literotica
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Young Brittni shares tips and advice on the art of deepthroating.
By Brittni4u. Listen to the Podcast at How-to Sex.
On the internet in general, there are several stories and guides posted on the subject of giving blowjobs. Many of them are great and give various techniques and opinions on how to enhance oral sex on a guy. Once again, I'm not claiming to be an expert, especially at the young age of 22, but I do have skill, experience and above all, enthusiasm. In this post, I'm focusing on the deepthroating aspect because I feel over time I have gotten pretty good at it and want to pass my knowledge along so that I may help others.
Deep what?
First, what is the definition of deepthroating? If a girl goes all the way down on a cock, gags, chokes, then immediately rises back up, is that defined as a deepthroat? Should there be a time limit on how long you have to keep it in your throat before it actually qualifies as deepthroating? Should you be able to, not only swallow the cock, but bob all the way up and all the way down on it while performing, in order to count it as a true deepthroat?I believe there are three levels of deepthroating, so the answer to all those questions are; yes!
· A stage one deepthroat is the first type I mentioned which most girls can do.
· A stage two deepthroat is more difficult and fewer can keep the cock in their throat for an extended period of time.
· And finally, a stage three deepthroat is the most difficult to perform and a low percentage of people can continually suck a cock while deepthroating it continuously every time they go down.
If you are one of the lucky few that can give your guy a stage three deepthroat, he will be a very happy person. Deepthroating not only allows him to feel his entire cock into a warm, moist orifice, it also excites his mind seeing every inch disappear in your mouth.
My last serious boyfriend had a long cock. It wasn't freakish big, but was just over 8 inches. He couldn't believe how easily I could deepthroat it while I blew him. He became obsessed about it and together we would look up deepthroating porn on the internet.
There are some amazing deepthroating videos out there but no one porn star that I had ever seen was better than a girl named Heather Brooke. Have any of you seen her work? Oh, my god, she is the deepthroat queen, with no peers. If you haven't seen her, I strongly advise looking her up on the internet.
Obstacles to overcome
The two factors that prevent someone from deepthroating are either physical or psychological. The physiological makeup of people is what determines the largest portion of their deepthroating skill. The physical barriers include the gag reflex in which we all hear the most about, throat length, cock thickness which is much more of a hindrance in deepthroating over cock length, among others.
Many times, our skill level is predetermined but I do believe we can improve it. I cannot walk up to Ariana Grande and ask her to teach me to sing as good as she can; no more that I can ask Heather Brooke, âPlease teach me to deepthroat like you.â
If you don't have the natural ability, you cannot be elite but you can get better and better with practice and it would be a shame to never realize your potential.
Even if you are great at deepthroating cock, it is a physiological certainty that those barriers, I mentioned, will still get in the way sometime. Even the elite will gag, cough, heave and eyes will water at some point during deepthroating. As you perfect your skill, those things will happen less often but they still will happen nonetheless. That is why you would not deepthroat a guy through an entire blowjob. It's physically impossible. I treat deepthroating like it's glitter on a poster. You add a little here and there but it makes the best statement at the end.
I think the psychological hurdle accounts for only a small portion but I wouldn't underestimate the effect it possesses. Girls, we all know when we have crossed over into extreme horniness; or what I call "lust mode." That may happen with alcohol, great foreplay, loving our partner, great lead up sex, or just a really hot guy who knows what he's doing. When you are in that state, that is the best time to attempt deepthroating. Lust mode may shed that "claustrophobic feeling" of having an object lodged in your throat if that is your psychological barrier. When you are uninhibited, you become more daring, experimental, and enthusiastic.
A good blowjob starts and ends with enthusiasm. You have to like sucking cock and you have to want to suck cock. I have questioned my girlfriends at length and some like doing it and some don't. The ones who don't, still will do it on occasion just to please the guy but he will sense this in your demeanor which will diminish his pleasure.
I also hear that, on average, when a woman gets married or older in general, she performs fellatio a lot less; but I don't know many older women that I feel comfortable asking, so I cannot give a valid opinion.
I love sucking cock and hope the enthusiasm I have for it, never diminishes. If you sincerely want to please his cock, savor the taste, do all the little sexy non-verbal gestures, and truly swallow every inch of it, he will absolutely love it. Sometimes, I get so aroused and into it, I feel like I can't swallow enough of it, even if it is completely buried down my throat! I want even more! We can sense when a guy's attitude is lackadaisical in eating our cunts, and the guy knows when we are sucking his cock just because it's "his birthday."
Before you try to get your man's cock down your throat, be sure it's lubricated. Of course with all the sucking, there will be excessive saliva built up in your mouth but much of it will either stay in your mouth or ooze out as drool. There will be no doubt his cock will be lubricated but many forget to swallow to lubricate the throat. It is also good practice to have a drink handy when giving a blowjob; if it is possible. The wetter your throat, the better his cock will slide down. Your throat is no different than any other orifice in your body.
You cannot read anything on deepthroating without hearing about the gag reflex. It is very real and very different for everyone. My sister gags at everything and cannot stick anything in her throat.
My friend Kelly can slide a 10 inch dildo down her throat with no trouble. Those two girls have very different pharyngeal reflexes. I think my throat is much closer to Kelly's. Most of us girls have been so drunk or feeling so bad, we have had our fingers in our throat trying to throw up just to feel better. That is triggering our gag reflex.
When we have a cock lodged in our throat, we have to think the opposite. We are suppressing our body's natural instinct to reject the object. How can we do that? I think there are a couple of techniques that may help. The first one is practice. We cannot completely change our gag reflex but we can train it.
When I was a teenager and learning the art of giving blowjobs, I got tired of gagging, so one day when I was at a friend's house, she was showing me her mom's dildo collection. She let me take one of them that looked old and not in good shape. I peeled the outer rubber or "skin" off, exposing only the core which was just a long, thin piece of rubber. I sterilized it with rubbing alcohol and used it as my practice tool. It was still very long and perfect for sucking.
I would push it to the back of my throat, heave and pull it out. I would try different positions and a variety of techniques before I would go to bed. Some of those included, shove it in very fast, very slowly, drive it back and forth very quickly, try to swallow it, and twist it around. I did get to where I found my own personal preferences that worked best for me.
The guy I was dating at the time could tell a big difference in a relatively short amount of time, as could I.
In a few weeks, I went from gagging and choking, to deepthroating his cock like a pro. The best advice I can give is to not think specific techniques work the same for everyone. Most information that I have read about deepthroating directs people to relax and straighten their throat because that provides a better "sword swallowing" angle and suppresses the gag reflex. Yes, that can work for some people but not for me, it is the exact opposite. I deepthroat better with my chin down and tightening my throat muscles.
To elaborate, I start out by locking or pressing my tongue down at the bottom of my jaw. I then open my throat while keeping the muscles contracted. Once the head of his cock touches the back of my throat, I push it down rather quickly without changing my throat position in any way.
Quicker works for me but sometimes slower is better and you will have to see what works best for you. When his cock reaches its destination and completely submerged down your esophagus, it is important to not pull it completely out when you start sucking. Give yourself some time to get used to it. Shallowly, bob up and down while barely moving the cock in your throat and keeping your tongue perfectly still. Moving your tongue transfers the feeling in your gag reflex which could cause you to gag.
When you get more comfortable, you can "slide" the cock further distances until you are deepthroat sucking. It's important to breathe when it slides out. Try not to change the throat angle or the pace of the sliding cock until you have mastered your gag reflex. Even if you go to great efforts to keep everything consistent, there will be times in the heat of passion you will choke or gag. There is nothing wrong with pulling it out, regrouping and starting over. That is why it's physically impossible to deepthroat someone throughout an entire blowjob.
Positions
Of course there are many positions to give a guy a blowjob and to deepthroat in particular. Whether you are experienced and comfortable or just starting out, I feel the best position for deepthroating is with both of you right side up. The first advantage is you keep your orientation because while on your knees or sitting down, being right side up tells your brain that everything is "normal" which allows you to focus on the task easier without gagging. Another advantage to this position, is it's easier to control the depth and thrusting speed of the cock.
Your mouth or his cock are not fighting or supporting gravity. If you feel yourself start to gag, a quick pull off is easy, plus, you can use your hands to press on his abdomen when direction is needed. In addition, this position allows you better access to his balls and ass. By fondling, rubbing, cupping, jostling, or just playing with his balls, you can add that extra sensation to make him cum quicker. If he likes ass play, he can spread his legs and allow you to slide a finger in his asshole to enjoy a prostate massage while you deepthroat him. That can also trigger him to cum quicker.
Another recommended position is, what I call, aligning to your lover's cock. If his cock curves upward, attack it from the top like you would do while on top during a 69 position. If it leans to the left, then get on his left side and swallow it that way. Properly aligning your throat to his natural curve can help reduce friction in your throat which in turn could help reduce gagging. It is ironic, if you have ever watched a nature show and see a snake swallow its prey, it aligns its jaws to help pull the prey down its throat and swallow it whole. Now we are the predator and our prey is the guyâs snake but we are trying to accomplish the same result.
Rules?
I don't recommend allowing your man to be on top if you are inexperienced at deepthroating. In other words, it is very difficult to allow him to "fuck your throat" without complications. He may get caught up in wanting to go faster or deeper than your comfort level allows. However, if you do get to the point where you can handle him doing that, it can be very exciting and erotic. Make sure he is aware of your "rules."
I will also tell you that if you upside down or lying with your head hanging over the bed while deepthroating, it can be a struggle to breathe with his balls covering your nostrils. That is why I always keep a hand free to tap or "rearrange" him if needed.
Once you have improved your deepthroating ability, then it is time to add some skills for his pleasure. One thing I like to do is lick his balls while his cock is totally submerged in my esophagus. I like to give a little smile, maybe even a wink, and rub my tongue back and forth on his nuts. Be careful not to stick your tongue out too far because that releases the tension of gag reflex and can cause you to gag. You will have to find your own tongue technique that works best for you.
Another skill I like to performance during a good deepthroat blowjob is clenching my mouth very tightly. Once I have him completely buried, I clamp and keep removing the air trapped between my cheeks and his cock. This provides a different type of a snugness sensation, almost like a vacuum effect. When you start to bob in this position, it will feel like he is fucking a virgin. It will be no time and he will be ready to cum.
FinishingIf you are willing to finish a guy while deepthroating, then you have decide how you will receive his cum. It can be a little trickier than it would be with just a standard blowjob. When a guy cums in your mouth during a blowjob, you can prepare by blocking off your throat with your tongue and let him empty without choking you. The second technique is when you suck it out like your drinking through a straw. Either way, it feels natural. Cumming in your throat is something completely different. It is more difficult but if you can master the technique, it also supplies a couple of advantages.
The first advantage to deepthroating an ejaculating cock is if you don't like the taste of cum. The cum shoots directly into your throat, bypassing the gag reflex and taste buds. So if you are one who hates the taste or even the slimy, thick consistency of semen, this is perfect and you are basically not swallowing until the end. Another advantage is that you have the entire cock trapped. Every inch is completely lodged and secured in your throat, therefore he cannot jam it down your throat any further which keeps you in control and gives you a better ability to take it without him doing something unexpected.
There are also disadvantages to deepthroating an ejaculating cock. The first would be the movement factor. This is the total opposite of what I just explained in the last paragraph. Yes; you would have better control when you have it completely swallowed, but as he is enjoying his orgasm, he may twitch, shake, or even buck and this could cause the slightest change in your throat, triggering your gag reflex.
I learned this the hard way with one of my boyfriends. He was a "hard cummer" which means he would completely shake and buck when he came. I would have to literally hold tight to his ass cheeks and keep him pressed firmly against my face when he shot because one time he bucked, causing me to gag, then shot a huge, thick wad that hit my air pipe instead of in my throat, causing me to cough up his load while he had to jack the rest of it on the floor. My eyes watered and there was a mess everywhere. So you have to be careful. It was the ultimate deepthroat gone wrong.
Pass the honey, pleaseI will tell you that once you have deepthroated a cock, your throat will be sore. With all the trauma, it feels like you are catching a cold, so don't be alarmed. Hot tea with honey is a great way to kick-start the recovery.
I hope my tips and ideas will help you deepthroat you man like a porn star. Just remember to find what works best for you because no one method is for everyone. That is the key.
By Brittni4u, for Literotica
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How you can get your woman to squirt.
By Alice_Roissy & dirtyjoe69. Listen to the Podcast at How To Sex.
Today weâre discussing the manifestation of female ejaculation, or whatâs commonly called âsquirting.â
Many a woman has been subjected to shame & humiliation by an ignorant lover who assumes that the chick just pissed in bed, in the middle of lovemaking. The truth is, He caused it more than she did. And he should actually be proud of his superior coupling skills. Bless his darling heart and stupid head! Hereâs an essay
Please Release Me, Let Me Flow.Menâs Guide To Female Ejaculation. Introduction and tipsBy dirtyjoe69
Do you seek some physical confirmation that your bedroom skills are pushing your lady to the peak of desire? Are you delivering the zenith of BIG âOâs? When the blushed chest and moaning and screaming havenât sufficed as proof, start exercising those arms, clip your nails and get your waders outâŠthings are about to get real messy!
Men take ejaculation for granted. Itâs like a 'liquid-trophyâ of man-hood, and the source of your future legacies and heirs. But cast your mind back to that very first time you managed to squeeze some 'Gentlemanâs Gelâ from the end of your 'young chapâ, I guarantee you might have been writhing in ecstasy, but you were also confused and maybe even a little ashamed. My boyfriend will admit to believing heâd somehow 'broken itâ when he finally popped his cork in his teen years. With females the climax has always been much harder to tell. After all, the female orgasm never had such a visible finale, or so youâve been led to believe.
A skill possessed by most females but in reality admitted and permitted by few, female ejaculation is one of those few remaining taboos and 'un-tappedâ delights of the 21st century. You all know that your girl canât help but spill the beans on your 'sexploitsâ to her close circle of friends. Sheâll be all too eager to divulge your size, expertise and finishing techniques, but never be fooled into thinking sheâs dishing the dirt on herself. Itâs strange but there are still some subjects considered too taboo to share over a bottle of wine, and depositing her 'loadâ seems to be up there with rimming and fisting. In truth you are more likely to hear a guy discuss the pleasures of female ejaculation than you ever would a woman
History dating back as far back as the 2nd Century has detailed the ability of females to ejaculate during sex. Yet often when seeking medical counsel from doctors, gynecologists, and psychiatrists, these anxious ladies were invariably told they were incontinent and needed either surgery or psychotherapy. The belief and humiliation of it being linked to incontinence stripped any sexual satisfaction, often leaving the female ashamed. After all what girl wants to earn herself the reputation of an un-intentional 'bed wetterâ? Even todayâs UK Censors have been known to emit footage of females ejaculating from porn films, wrongly believing it to be urine and therefore fetish orientated. In fact what these ladies are actually achieving is the absolute pinnacle of female sexual pleasure. An ejaculatory orgasm, or 'squirtingâ as now commonly referred, which renders them well and truly spent!
Most of us ladies who have experienced an ejaculation initially believed weâve suffered from a leaky bladder. Instead of enjoying the sensation we were mortified to believe we had 'golden-showeredâ our partner and indeed, in many cases so did you men. Lots of females, under thorough interrogation or clever coaxing will admit to having had an experience where they believed theyâd 'leakedâ during sex. The feeling of ejaculating is not dissimilar to peeing, a shower of warm wet liquid and a feeling of intense release.
Often itâs the guyâs reaction to ejaculation that will determine any future releases. If heâs had previous experience, or at least understands what has actually just happened, things will be significantly less embarrassing for both parties. In truth, he has skillfully hit the lucky girls G-spot and her eternal font of pleasure. If however he jumps to his feet shouting 'Fucking-Hell! Youâve pissed yourselfâ, the chances are your girl will dry up like the SerengetiâŠas will your sex life.
It has taken almost 1,800 years for the subject, often considered an urban myth, to finally be an acceptable and willing bed partner. When it first started happening to me I was so paranoid I found myself looking at adult nappies in Boots Chemist surgical dressings department. You may snigger but I assure you, to a girl only in her twenties if you believe youâve started to pee yourself during sex, itâs like the end of the world. No amount of Bulgari perfume is going hide the stench of piss sodden sheets.
For our part, the fairer sex has enjoyed and indulged the sexual revolution. We found our clitoris, and in increasing numbers so have men. Weâve stocked up on toys, some of us have even engaged in threesomes, swinging and discovered the delights of Fetishes. In a relatively short time women have been sexually liberated, and for the first time in history we can finally take the lead in the bedroom and dungeon. In 1981 when Newsweek published its editorial piece 'Just How the Sexes Differâ, it claimed the major difference was 'that men ejaculate, but women do notâ. Oh! How naive they were. The actual difference between men and woman is that we can 'shootâ more, and further than you. Soon teenage girls everywhere could be enjoying their own version of the 'Soggy Biscuitâ game.
Once released, the actual ejaculation itself can be a mind-blowing experience for both partners. Not only does the female get 'THEâ most intense orgasm, but also the lucky partner gets some serious dousing of love-juice. The amount of fluid 'squirtedâ can vary considerably in volume. Most Doctors have settled between the 5ml and 100ml volume, but personal experience and others can testify to soaking a bath towel over the course of an evening. The amount varies as much as force of expulsion. My partner in particular will often receive a warm soaking of his balls. But on occasion, particularly during harder 'doggy styleâ penetration Iâve managed to drench not only him, but also the soles of my feet and beyond. Something heâs definitely partial to.
In reality many men are fascinated with this so-called 'phenomenonâ adding to the growing 'ejaculating super-femaleâ urban myth. Legend has it that when Motley Crue drummer Tommy Lee started dating a girl named 'Bullwinkleâ it wasnât her looks he was interested in, but her ability to 'spray her cum across the roomâ. That may also lead some credence to Pamela Andersonsâ claim that guysâ canât get enough of her 'trick pelvisâ.
Equaling the tally for all those 'pearl necklacesâ has its satisfaction, especially ejaculating during oral and Iâm becoming very adept at delivering my own version, a 'sparkling-chokerâ. But a price does have to be paid for all this pleasure. First of all it can present a new slant on the question of 'who sleeps on the wet patch?â Especially when we are not talking about just a lovingâ spoonful, but up to half a pint and bed linen that look like they should be displayed in the Tate Modern. Forget Tracy Emminâs 'un-made bedâ. Check out my sheets, I could give Jackson Pollock a run for his money!
There are a few ground rules to undertaking your quest. Do not set out believing there really is such a thing as the 'ejaculating super-femaleâ, even if I personally would wear the t-shirt with pride. Most women can ejaculate but many donât. In the same way that all women can orgasm even though some donât, be it through physical or mental blockage, or just plain in-experience. When you guys first engaged in a 'five knuckle shuffleâ you got a result. It may have taken a while before you managed to produce your 'baby gravyâ, but you still got hard and it captured your affections. The climax has always been much more hidden and complex in females, and as such, a source of infinite frustration in men. Giving rise to that ever popular question 'How was it for you?â You seem to need to ask us!
There are indeed many complexes in achieving female ejaculation but itâs best to start with compatible partners. Both parties have to be sexually adventurous as some women claim that their partners will literally 'wilt when showeredâ. Other females, especially if youâve just 'popped their cherry 'adeâ, will still dive for the bathroom absolutely mortified and convinced they have committed an indiscretion. If the idea of water-sports has intrigued you in part but youâre not too keen on urine, female ejaculation could be your 'holy grailâ.
Now, whoever said that condoms were passion killers has never tried a mattress protector, or jumping up halfway through a really good session to find a towel. Forget that decaying crusty sock you keep under the bed, which is covered in dead cultivations of 'man-milkâ. If your girlfriend can squirt you will seriously need to upgrade. At one stage I even started obsessing about staining the mattress. This doesnât happen but it does raise yet another issue of 'protectionâ.
Like in Yoga where one is taught to almost reverse ones breathing pattern, in sex the female needs to control another inbuilt reflex. The building of the 'ejaculationâ does feel very much like a desire to pee and as soon as the urethra starts to tingle, second nature kicks in. When squeezed The Pubococcygeus Muscle (try get your tongue around that!), prevents the bladder leaking. It is crucial for your girlfriend to oppose this contraction and actually bear down against it. This is not an easy concept to get your head around because if you bear against the muscle that prevents you peeing, surely that means you do. Not in this instance it seems. Contraction of the muscle in this instance actually stops an orgasm from building; pretty much the same way as squeezing the base of the penis and thinking momentarily of Anne Widdecombe does in men. It does not prevent further ejaculation, just postpones it. This is the first barrier you need to deal with. Donât be under any illusions that your girlfriend will fill your mouth with milk & honey on command. If only life were that simple. Remember the hunt for the clitoris? Well if that equaled gaining an 'Aâ level qualification, getting your girlfriend to 'squirtâ for the very first time is like obtaining a PhD.
The ejaculation itself does come through the urethra, the same tube used for urination. It is located just outside the vaginal opening. If you spread your ladies inner labia and trace your finger from just inside her pussy, up towards the clitoris, after about half an inch you can find a tiny hole. Almost a needle in a haystack, especially if your lady is unshaven. This is where the ejaculation fluid exits, but not where it originates. Thatâs the job of the 'Skene Glandâ. The equivalent to a male prostate, which produces seminal fluid in males and itâs hidden between the G-spot and the clitoris. Although some insignificant traces of urine are evident, the composition is not that dissimilar to the fluid produced by the male prostate to keep all those hungry little 'baby-makersâ alive during male ejaculation.
The fluid can appear like either watered down milk or can be clear in composition. It in no way offers any contraception as the fluid is expelled outside the vagina. Therefore the only conceivable purpose of female ejaculation is for pleasure. And the pleasure is intense, in many cases far surpassing any previous best. Ejaculation can take place during both a clitoral and a vaginal orgasm, thus providing a magical 'thirdâ orgasm. If you are lost on the difference between a clitoral and a vaginal orgasm, you might want to ask your girlfriend; although if you really donât know the difference, you probably wonât have a girlfriend to ask.
An ejaculation results from manipulation inside the vagina, as per a vaginal orgasm, but with an added jackpot. Giving the female an amazing double whammy orgasm. Sometimes after ejaculation the female can virtually pass out from the after-glow of forceful feelings. But donât worry, unlike men, thereâs usually more to follow. Give her a few minutes and sheâll be filling up like the office water cooler.
Obviously a starting point to your crusade is required. It usually helps to wait until your lucky lady is already aroused before declaring your honorable intentions. Place a towel on the bed to help absorb your 'baptismâ. Each orgasm will deliver a different volume of liquid in all manner of directions and velocity. This can range in spectacle from a trickling 5ml to a turbulent 200ml (I no longer worry about my creative juices drying up, as I reckon with my other talents I could easily always get some freelance work with the fire service).
I would just also like to rectify a point here about another 'urban mythâ that we girls have been swallowing for years. When was it actually decided that the male load averaged at 10cc? Who were these 'specimensâ? My boyfriend often cums so much I once actually accused him of being a freak. Bad etiquette I know, but sometimes I resemble the star attraction at a 'Bukakkeâ club. I have literally eaten his humble pie though; first time I ejaculated over him he was perfecting his oral skills. I came so much he was thoroughly drenched. His hair, face and chest were totally dripping. The sheet showed perfectly where his head and torso had taken the brunt, leaving an outlined dry patch. He loved his 'baptismâ so much I counted 9 more ejaculations before rolling over, passing out and leaving him with the mess. Now thereâs a novel occurrence. On other more adventurous occasions we have actually measured distances, managing up to 5ft of coverage; and I used to think the Bangkok ping-pong ball trick was impressive.
If you havenât yet introduced toys to your relationship, fingers will be more than adequate for the job. Both can achieve the desired result but for first timers you will need to feel your way around, so you should probably leave the toys until later. Scrub your hands well. Trim and if necessary file your fingernails, you donât want to cut the poor girl (Welders, Guitarists and Builders take note: your fingers are not often noted as 'hands that do dishesâ. But this is one area you can truly exploit those textured fingertips). It can also help to exercise your arms and fingers a little; you do not want to find yourself huffing 'are you nearly there yet?â Time should not be of essence during sex unless your girlfriends expecting a birthday telegram from the Queen.
Start off slowly with lots of foreplay, for both parties. Maneuver her onto her back with you positioned between her thighs. Using your fingers and tongue stimulate her clitoris. Wet your fingers and tweak her nipples to really get her going, whilst executing the best cunnilingus skills you can muster. When you sense her starting to get aroused, insert two fingers inside her with your palm facing upwards. Enter your fingers up to the second knuckle and bend upwards to create an L shape. Now gently probe around until you find a rough surface approximately 2 inches in length. This is the G-spot and is located directly behind the clitoris but inside her pussy.
When you literally 'hit the spotâ, start to stroke this area and it should start too en-large. Ask her to let you know if she can feel any increase in intensity. If she canât maybe you have the wrong area so keep looking. Donât go mad, but you may be surprised at your partnerâs thresholds. Try out differing degrees of pressure as you are probing, and if necessary use some lube. Massaging the clitoris with your thumb whilst doing this also increases stimulation. If she is having trouble relaxing or is becoming self-conscious be prepared to let her see that itâs also working for you. It helps to see that your fella is enjoying himself, and watching my guy 'box with his one-eyed champ is an absolute delight.
Your stroking may need some variety. You can work the two fingers together simultaneously or they can work in opposition like a finger walking exercise. Work around the whole area. An effective method is to combine the two previous suggestions followed by sliding your fingers in about an inch, before pulling out and sliding them back in. Start off slowly and build in speed. Donât go too hard; you are not trying to fist her. Try stimulating her clitoris at the same time; trust me this is not a time for idle hands. Keep measuring her responses. Heavy breathing, deep moaning and contractions around your fingers are a good indication that something is working. When you feel her start to bear down, begin pumping your fingers faster. At some point hopefully your girlfriend will experience a desire to pee. This is what you are both aiming for. If she can bear down and positively encourage this, and your handy-work has been sufficient, things should get very wet.
This isnât necessarily the best position to achieve ejaculation. The inside of a womenâs vagina is shaped, sized and angled individually, a bit like the shape of the male member. Penetration from behind may definitely be the key. Do remember however that in this position you need to work palm down. It will be easier for you to work on her G-spot and massage her clit at the same time. Try different variations with hands, tongues and fingers. Remember, if you do become dis-heartened, this time there are prizes for her 'Cummingâ first. If fingers are not working, try using your thumb. Although initially it wonât reach the G-spot, if you stimulate her clitoris it will swell during arousal. Take two fingers and lay them either side of her clitoris, then position your thumb inside her forming a three-fingered claw. This allows for the curve between the forefinger and middle finger to apply pressure and friction to the clit. If you start to move your thumb and fingers in a pumping motion you will massage both clit and G-spot at the same time. When she starts to bear down increase your speed. Over time it is possible to control and even prevent ejaculation whilst still enjoying the orgasm, but thatâs just plain criminal! 'Please release me, let me flowâ should be every femaleâs motto. If your girlfriend does manage to ejaculate it will, rest assured, catch you both by surprise. This is a significant moment for both of you, and if itâs either partyâs first time, you will remember that moment of impact forever. The truly amazing bonus that evolution has granted us finally superior to males is that we can do it again and again. Be aware that in the same way we can have multiple orgasms, we can also have multiple ejaculations. Intensity and amount of fluid may vary with each individual orgasm until our supplies are depleted, but the sensations just get better. Being entered from behind whilst 'squirtingâ provides the ultimate finishing touch. The smile of the man who is lucky enough to have his balls drenched by his ladies cum is definitely a Kodak moment.
Your girlfriend may not ejaculate every time she orgasms, and indeed a case is even documented where a lady approached her gynecologist believing she was ill because it had stopped happening. Pressure on the female to deliver can be intense, and can prevent ejaculation in the same way it happens to men. Relaxation, an open mind and willingness are the three key factors. If these elements all click the final result will most likely be the most pleasurable and intense orgasm she has ever experienced. Now just imagine being the guy able to deliver that!
After ejaculating your girlfriend will obviously, and hopefully, be a bit delirious for a few moments. It passes way too quickly so let her enjoy it before commencing with your wicked-way. She probably will want you to continue in a few seconds, or she may wish to have a breather. But Iâm sure you will also wish to take a couple of seconds to comprehend the aftermath. As for achieving other ejaculations beyond this point, itâs a bit like riding a bike hopefully without the grazed knees.
Once perfected, donât be surprised when she now starts to hassle you for oral. Yep! Equal rights! Which leads us nicely on to the etiquette of swallowing and taste. Like male ejaculate, the taste of lady-juice can vary from bitter to sweet according to diet, water consumption and a host of other environmental and biological factors. Male porn stars frequently abstain from alcohol or spicy food for a couple of days before a shoot to combat what is known as the 'gag factorâ. Itâs an assault on the ladies taste buds and will invariably produce a 'Spunk-purgingâ reaction. But if you drink a pint of water and avoid spicy food, itâs not quite the delight of Evian, but itâs definitely more palatable. Well the same goes for us girls. On occasion it can taste sweet, on occasion bitter and at certain times of the month metallicâŠit is generally advised to avoid these times as you could end up earning your 'red wingsâ. Nuff said!
By dirtyjoe69
Hereâs More About the female Ejaculation, written to help men understand that she didnât just pee in bed. In fact, her body and soul just paid you the highest sexual compliment that you can ever get. Perhaps 90% of men will never know the accomplishment of bringing a woman to this high level of sexual ecstasy. Hereâs an essay from Roissy.
Squirting; She Can Do It!In most stories Its mentioned how the women cum so hard it shoots out of their pussies. Not unlike a guy shooting ropes. It is all in the technique, and you can get there too. Whether you are a man who wants to see his lady just soak the hell out of the sheets or youâre a woman who would like to experience total indescribable bliss. Then you should read on.
A long time ago when the wife and I first started dating, almost fourteen years, we were like any other couple just starting a relationship. We would fuck our brains out every chance we got! The kitchen, the bedroom, the living room it didnât really matter what room or what place, if we got a moment we took it. We thought our sex life was spectacular. Heck one night I remember ejaculating more than seven times. I couldnât begin to tell you how many she had. We loved it all; oral, different positions, tie up games, fun with food, and even ventured into the swinging scene. We would read erotic novels or go on the computer to Literotica to find hot stories then play out the scenes. We had tried just about anything ânormalâ (because normal is relative) two people could do with each other. She would give me mind blowing orgasms with her mouth, cunt, and ass. I would eat her pussy till she couldnât take anymore. Then one day we watched a movie, I canât really recall what one it was but anyway, in this movie it showed a technique for making the woman cum so hard that her cum would actually squirt right out of her pussy. And let me tell ya, the look on the girlâs face when she was finished cumming was remarkable. It was a look of pure satisfaction. My wife asked me if I thought we should try the procedure and I said absolutely!
Now that you know how our sex elevated to frequent squirting, and let me tell you it is still a regular occurrence, let me explain how it is done! A pre-step to take before trying this method. Make sure to take a leak before you start. An emptied bladder is more responsive to sexual stimuli. Youâll understand more as we continue.
If youâre a woman who wants a higher degree of arousal and wet, mind-blowing multiple orgasms, let me talk to the man in your sex life. I have some special instructions to share.
This kind of arousal needs more than a massive cock to make it happen. Hereâs how to get her off over and over, in a wild and wet session.
STEP 1: Make sure youâre both comfortable. Maybe a little wine, soft music, or perhaps a good erotic massage, it doesnât matter, just as long as a woman is completely relaxed.
STEP 2: Do whatever it is you usually do to have a nice normal orgasm. If a female orgasm is having problems occurring, just skip right to STEP 4).
STEP 3: Make sure she is feeling very comfortable, it is key!
STEP 4: Start licking the womanâs clit and slide two fingers deep in her cunt. If your woman has a slightly bigger cunt opening, then increase the number of fingers being used.
STEP 5: Turn said fingers so that your palm is up facing you. (If a lady is trying to do this alone, she should have her palm against her pubic bone then bend the wrist so it points away from her body. Almost like are making a scoop.)
STEP 6: Push your fingers toward the ceiling. You want to turn your wrist like you are trying to start a motorcycle.
STEP 7: Run your fingers along this âwallâ, feel for a small rough area. Believe it or not it kind of feels like a walnut. She will know the spot immediately.
STEP 8: Keep rubbing, increasing the speed and pressure as you do. Donât rub too hard or too fast right off the start. Work up to it.
STEP 9: This is probably the most important one. When you do see your woman starting to get real excited, they might tell you to stop because they feel like they are about to pee. Remind them they have no pee in their bladder, and tell them to JUST RELAX and let it Go!
STEP 10: Take cover because you are about to be showered upon. My wife has squirted over three feet in the air lying on her back!!
So there you have it, lovers, ten steps to oblivion. I forgot to mention one thing. TOWELS, TOWELS, TOWELS! Or get a second set of sheets ready. And donât whine about doing extra laundry, it is totally worth it.
I canât promise this method will work for you but if you want to pursue a mind-blowing ecstasy, and never have before; why not give it a shot. We did, and the shooting hasnât stopped since.
Cheers
By Roissy & dirtyjoe69 for Literotica
from How-To Sex Podcast
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A textbook For the Art of fellatio.
By Bee cee. Listen to the podcast at How To Sex.
The old world of centuries past, had a trusted process of passing on skills from one generation to the next. Apprenticeships were an effective way to learn through practice. The concept is still used in many trades, But today it also incorporates testing and demonstrations of skills acquired, in order to be certified by an oversight guild or trade association.Weâre instituting this same concept of mastery, to help lovers assess their progress in the art of erotic coupling.
Youthful pledges enter apprenticeships where they learn fundamental skills and benefit from supervised practice.
When they show consistent aptitude of the fundamentals, The guild certifies them as journeymen.
They continue to develop their artistry, until they attain the level of Master, where they are trusted to properly mentor others.
Only the most highly talented and very experienced, will ever be regarded as a grandmaster.
The ApprenticeMany women have only a basic idea of how to give a man a good blow job. Most seem to think that by closing their mouth around a manâs cock and bobbing their head lustily up and down as fast as they can until he shoots his load constitutes a good blow job.
This is true to a point and all well and good for a quick blow job in the car or under the office desk when time is limited. If you want to bring him off quickly then this is an extremely satisfying way, but what does the man's cock really want?
You should preferably pick a time when you will not be disturbed in a reasonably lit area so that both you and he can see what's going on.
Overcome any shyness that you may have and let him see his cock disappear deep inside your mouth, observe and make a mental note of the responses from his cock and indeed the look of pleasure on his face that your tongue and lips are providing are the first steps to master.
For a typical guy, your lips around his âfamily jewelsâ is the greatest visual expression of love & devotion. It dramatically impacts his arousal, emotionally, even more than physical.
Pull his foreskin down to reveal his corona and run the tip of your tongue around the base of it.
Close your mouth onto his cock and flick the underside of his corona with your tongue.
Talk to him, tell him his cock is wonderful and that you are not going to stop until he cums in your mouth.
Always stay in control and don't ask which part he likes best, find that out for yourself. Keep your tongue, mouth and hands active.
Cup his balls and gently scratch with your finger nails the area between his anus and balls.
If you are wary of the amount of cum he will produce, just as he is about to erupt, place your thumb and forefinger at the base of his cock and gently squeeze to restrict the flow.
The amount of cum a man produces is a good indication of how much he has enjoyed what you have done for him. Most men who have been stimulated in this way will produce copious amounts. Slow down and relax are the golden rules.
Every woman should also be aware of the most sensitive and sensual moment that a man's cock experiences.
Most mornings, men wake up with a hard on, referred to generally as piss proud. This moment is about two or three minutes after he has relieved himself; and is the ideal time to give him a sensual blow job.
What position should you be in?
Because of the structure of his cock, as well as the structure of your mouth, lips, tongue and teeth, you can provide the highest degree of sensation for yourself and your partner by kneeling between his legs with him either sat down or standing up and with your head tipped slightly back, approaching his cock from the bottom rather than from the side or top.
This will enable you to read the expressions on his face and observe how his cock is reacting to your stimulation.
Alternatively, lie on your back on the bed and position yourself so that your back is on a pillow or two, but your head is just beyond the pillow. Let your head drop to the mattress so you are able to take him deep.
Relax and make yourself as comfortable as possible and open your mouth ready to accept him.
He should approach you on his knees from above; and as soon as you have his cock in your mouth, take control of the situation by placing both of your hands on his buttocks. This will allow you to guide him in and out at your own pace and to stop him thrusting and gagging you.
His ball sack will likely straddle the bridge of your nose, so close your eyes and concentrate, as you direct his hips with your hands.
Types of Blow Jobs
There are three types:
· The Quickie, which we just outlined; for when there is not much time e.g. in the shop doorway on your way home from the pub, in the car or even in aunt Mabel's living room when she is making the tea.
· Pure sensual oral love making when you really want to do something special and you have plenty of time. Weâre about to discuss that art, in great detail.
· Deep Throat which needs plenty of practice to be able to accommodate his cock fully down your throat and past your tonsils without choking you, discussed last in this episode.
Plan on improving your skills and expressions every new lovemaking event. If youâre perfect in your execution on the very first time, we probably donât believe you.
If your performance is awkward and disrupted by clumsiness, just know that youâll only get better as you apply yourself. Your man is more impressed by your devotion to his pleasure, than your prowess.
Take InitiativeThe âjourneywomanâLead him in to the bedroom, telling him that you have a very special surprise for him and that it will be something he will always remember. You will most probably have given your man a number of blow jobs before and will be quite comfortable to take his cum in your mouth and swallow it.
Also, know exactly which point of your stimulation brings him to his point of no return. Sit on the edge of the bed with him and reach over for a couple of pillows. Push him down on to his back and place the pillows under his head making sure that his head is tipped slightly forward so that he can observe everything you are doing.
Remove his trousers and underwear. Part his legs and approach his cock from below, with your mouth slightly open and your tongue licking your top and bottom lips until they are really wet.
Tell him that he is about to receive the best blow job of his life, and that he should just relax and let you take control of the situation.
He should already have at least a semi hard-on, at this stage; so take his cock in your hand and very slowly start to stroke him.
Bring your wet lips close to his cock and do full, long, slow hand strokes, so that the corona, or head; is extended.
Don't be shy. Encourage him to watch you loving on his cock!
Any man loves to see his cock disappear deep into a woman's mouth.
This will be one of the most erotic scenes either of you will ever experience. Occasionally, pause the downward stroke long enough to give the corona a long lick with your wet tongue.
Look up to see the response on his face each time your tongue touches different parts of his cock and let him see that you are wanting him to enjoy every minute of it.
Close your eyes down to a slit and make erotic facial gestures. No man can stay soft under these circumstances, especially in anticipation of what you have made clear that you are going to do for him next.
Anticipation and teasing are all part of giving tremendous oral sex; but don't spend too much time in this area or his cock may stop responding and could even go limp on you.
Once you have started to wank and lick his cock, it will obviously become very hard and swollen.
Gaze into his eyes lovingly and open your mouth fairly wide, then slowly take his cock as deep into your mouth as possible. Hold this moment for as long as you feel is right then very slowly pull back until his cock is just at the tip of your lips.
Pull down gently on his foreskin as far as you can to reveal his corona.
Gently lick under and around the rim of his corona, you will see by the expression on his face how much pleasure he is receiving from you.
Close your mouth onto his cock again keeping his foreskin pulled down with one hand and slowly feed it as deep into your mouth as possible, again slowly pull back off repeating this action several times.
After a self determined number of "sucks", pull off and lick his cock up, down and around to see which option gives him the most pleasure.
Let the tip of your tongue softly caress his "opening, at the very tip.
This is heavenly for most men. Talk to him and tell him what a lovely cock he has and that you will not stop until he has cum in your mouth.
With all this sucking and licking, his cock must be ready to explode by now.
You will certainly feel it pulsing and twitching, (and surely him groaning with pleasure).
He will probably tell you amid his groans of pleasure; that he is ready to cum but you should already have a good idea anyway.
He may instinctively try to push his cock further down your throat than you are comfortable with.
To keep the situation fully under your control, move both your hands up to his hands and place them on to his stomach, hold them there while you carry on sucking him at your own slow pace.
Now is the time to give your man the greatest pleasure of all, to take his cum in your mouth.
Keep his cock as deep into your mouth as you can, tilt your head back slightly and make eye contact whilst sucking nodding back and forth ever so slowly, your tongue swallowing or rubbing on the under side of his glans. until you feel his climax ripple through his body and up through his cock.
Just as his cum is about to erupt, hold your mouth and lips still, maintain eye contact and let him sense and feel his cum spraying inside your mouth.
Swallow as much as you can. Let him feel you swallowing it, but don't release the grip of your lips from his cock just yet.
Once his orgasm has subsided, let go of his hands and bring one of your hands round to the base of his cock and squeeze it gently between your thumb and fore finger in an upward motion (slightly wanking it into your mouth).
This will force most of the remaining cum up and out of his cock. When his cock has stopped pulsating in ecstasy; and he has relaxed, pull back very slowly making sure that his foreskin is still pulled down, then gently lick and suck any remaining cum into your mouth.
Place your thumb and forefinger at the base of his cock as before, gently squeeze and with an upward motion, milk his cock for any remaining cum, this will usually produce a small amount which you can dip your tongue into and swirl it around the head of his cock.
Let him see his cum on your tongue and in your mouth before you take his cock back into your mouth for a further self determined number of deep sucks.
This is the ultimate in sexual dreams that a man can have (at least until the next time); so make your manâs dreams come true.
Sensual Fellatio ArtsThe mistressExperience and practice are the only requirements needed to give a sensual blow job and provide a man with the highest degree of pleasure possible.
Try some variety. If the two of you are enjoying a movie night at home, You might want to take initiative on the sofa.
Get your man to sit on the edge of the sofa with his legs apart and Kneel in front of him.
If heâs more interested in the tv screen than you are, Just tell him to unbuckle and slide out of the pants, and shorts; so you can visit his manhood for a while. With your mouth fairly close and partly open, wank his cock ever so slowly, occasionally rubbing your thumb over the head.
Look into his eyes. Tease him by licking your lips (a wet warm mouth is very erotic).
It won't be long before you have a raging hard on in your hand; so turn your attention to a different area to take his mind off cumming too soon.
Cup his balls gently with your free hand and let your fingers explore the underside scratching lightly with your fingernails and paying particular attention to the area just before his anus. Gently pull down his foreskin to expose the full head of his cock. Close your mouth around the head and tease it with your tongue, still looking into his eyes and observing any reactions. Using your tongue, lick softly along the entire underside of his now throbbing cock.
As you suck and lick; you will learn those areas that give him the greatest pleasure when your tongue is touching them. Are you paying attention to his signals?
He should by now have provided you with several clues as to which areas are most pleasurable to him.
The most sensitive area for most men will be the ring (or corona) of the head. The underside of the cock head, called the glans penis
By continued licking and sucking around this area with your tongue you are going to bring forth a geyser.
If you are not skilled and you want to please him in a hurry I suggest that you get him off in this manner in order to become familiar at first hand with the nature and delight of his climax.
As he is approaching climax you will note changes in his cock. These signs will be the same every time he climaxes and you can learn how to react and prepare for his cum properly.
The head of his cock will swell somewhat larger than it is during the normal course of his erection. He may reflexively thrust his hips forward as he tries to shove his cock deeper into your mouth.
For most men, immediately prior to his cum, there will appear at the tip of his cock a clear drop or two of pre-cum. This isnât urine. Itâs not gross. When you see or taste his pre-cum you will know that he is ready to shoot his load.
By now you will have a very swollen throbbing cock in your mouth and will feel and sense the urgency in which he needs to shoot his load. His cock is probably deep red, or maybe slightly purple.
His cock and his whole body is now quivering and you can feel his cum emptying from his balls, up the length of his cock and spurting uncontrollably into your hot wet mouth. His balls will constrict up tightly against the base of his cock when his cum starts to flow.
Don't let him rush you. Take as much of his cock into your mouth as you can, and suck him up and down slowly keeping your lips fairly tight round his cock. Try to make eye contact just before he cums and let him see that you are enjoying this moment as much as he is.
Heâll never forget this moment of devotion.
A natural reaction at the point of ejaculation is to suck harder and faster, don't!
Just carry on slowly and when you feel the first spurt, almost stop, gazing into his eyes and let his cock as deep into your wrapped mouth as you can and hold still. Use your flat tongue to stroke under his shaft as your tight lips hold him wrapped in an oral hug.
Tilt your head slightly back so that he can see his raging cock buried deep in your mouth. Breathe only through your nostrils during this precious event.
Now just hold still and gently suck, let his cum flow over your tongue and down your throat.
You can swallow most of his cum directly at this stage without releasing the grip of your lips. His cock will spasm several times during orgasm and each spasm will produce a fair amount of cum.
The amount of cum your man produces is a general guide as to how much you have pleased him.
When his cock stops pumping, pull back very slowly, to wring out his spent cock; then take the head back into your mouth and gently suck the remaining cum into your mouth. Carry on licking gently around the head and occasionally, close your wet mouth over it until he stops spasming and jerking.
He will love the sensuality of your mouth caressing his cock, extending his orgasmic bliss for as long as possible.
This bliss only lasts about half a minute, for a guy. Femalesâ orgasms can last a good bit longer. So let his fully enjoy each precious second.
Becoming His Fellatio ArtistThe GrandmistressBy understanding your anatomy you will begin to understand the requirements that will allow you to take the full length of your manâs hard cock into your mouth and all the way down your throat without choking you.
The biggest obstacle is the fact that there is a bend of almost eighty degrees behind your tongue leading down into your throat. So the first thing you need to do is get his cock past that angle without you gasping for breath and ruining the moment.
A relaxed and well-lubricated throat is essential. Warm sweet tea is a good thing to have sitting at the nightstand before you begin. Take a long drink before you get into position.
Now get in a position where you can tilt your head in such a way that your mouth and throat lie almost in a straight line. The best way to accomplish this position is to lie on your back on the bed with your head positioned just over the edge of a pillow, cushion, or mattress; and tipped sharply back.
This position will put your mouth and throat nearly in a line and will allow him to approach on his knees giving you full control over how much of his cock you can take.
You can then gently guide him in and out of your mouth at your own pace by grasping his buttocks and pulling & pushing him. Keep a firm grip on his cock with your lips and keep your tongue as straight as possible.
It is possible that not everyone will learn the "Deep Throat" technique until several sessions have been completed but this should not stop you from practicing. You must learn to allow your throat to relax completely and breathe through your nose instead of your mouth.
Pull his cock as deep into your throat as you comfortably can. To do this long enough for him to completely orgasm and cum down your throat is very difficult and may require practice beyond this one day alone.
It may be that you will be able to take his cock completely down your throat, but you will not be able to maintain a good grip with your mouth. If this is the situation, then pull, push and suck as deeply as you can until he is just about to erupt.
As his cum starts to pump in to your mouth, pull him past your tonsils and hold him still for as long as you can.
Next time you will know precisely what to expect and how to react. It is important for the first few times at least that you let him know that you must be in complete control of his cock in this situation because only you know how much you can comfortably take.
After several sessions on your deep throat skills; you will learn to relax and will feel more comfortable each time.
You will know precisely when he is about to cum; and how much of his cock you can take.
If you are feeling comfortable at this point, let him fuck your mouth at his own pace.
It is possible to take a full 10 inch cock all the way past your tonsils and deep into your throat. His thickness is the biggest challenge, not his length.
You can feel his foreskin peel back as it eases past the back of your throat just as it does when he first enters your cunt. As he fucks your throat, he will not be able to or want to hold back for very long. The pure sensation of his foreskin pulling back and forth deep inside your throat will bring forth an enormous amount of cum.
Another technique, which is not really deep throating but will still give him the same sensation is to clench your hand around his cock as near to the base as possible; and as you go down on him with your mouth, pull slightly downwards.
And on the way up, pull slightly upwards pulling his foreskin back and forth over the corona. Keep your clenched hand close to your mouth and this will feel to him like his whole cock is engorged; and again will produce copious amounts of cum.
As mentioned before, the amount of cum a man produces is a direct result of how much pleasure you have given him. Feel free to follow all or some of these exercises, and maybe make your own alterations & improvements along the way.
If the man has any sense of gratitude, heâll already be yanking your panties down and eating you out with a passion. Let him! This is a perfect redirect, while his cock recovers for another round of fucking, but the finale will be his cock visiting the depth of your very wet cunt. And his 2nd serving of spunk only erupts after a longer, more sensual time of deep fucking.
By Bee cee for Literotica.
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What really happens when you take someoneâs sex juices in your mouth?
By BareAmy83 & LePenseur. Listen to the Podcast at How To Sex.
Today weâre talking about the thrill of ministering to your sex partnerâs wonderful playground right between two legs. And today weâre discussing the oral delight to the mouth. This is the safest sex act involving penetration. The first report comes from BareAmy83. Sheâs so delighted for all the health benefits she derives from her manâs semen. But itâs her story to tell, so here she is.
The Science of Cum Why Blowjobs Are a LOT Sexier Than You Ever Imagined.Authorâs Note: I have pooled various internet research, studies, facts and figures in order to give you an interesting way of looking at something we all may take for granted in our sexual lives: oral sex and the male ejaculation. I am by no means a scientist or doctor, and none of what you read is intended as medicinal advice, itâs just something that I found rather neat and slightly kinky, and want to share with anyone who has a passing interest in what happens when you go down on a man and swallow his cum.
Enjoy and happy blowjob giving!
PROLOGUEOral sex is one of the safest acts of sex between two people. There is absolutely no risk of pregnancy when a couple engages in pleasing each other orally. Bringing your partner to a satisfying climax is enjoyable for both the giver and the receiver. And for those of us who are sexual âsubmissivesâ, we are often called upon to orally please our Sir or Madam, or even other people.
While giving oral sex to a female can be incredibly rewarding, the focus of this essay is to focus on the immediate outcome of successful oral sex given to a man, by stimulating his penis with your mouth to the point of ejaculation.
And more to the point, what *actually* happens when a male ejaculates into someoneâs mouth?
Sure, thereâs a satisfying orgasm for that person, but for the person giving the blowjob, it goes beyond the simple receiving of semen into the mouth.
And, depending on how you look at it, the outcome from receiving that load of semen is either disgusting or sexy.
Personally, I feel it to be insanely sexy!
To understand what happens when you receive a load of semen in your mouth, letâs first talk about the area receiving most of the âactionâ: your tongue.
THE TONGUEThe human tongue is actually the largest muscle in your body. It aids in chewing and digestion, speaking and breathing. Your tongue runs from your hyoid bone (in the middle of your neck) to the floor of your mouth.
Your tongue is mostly made of muscles, anchored to your mouth by a web of strong tissue, and covered in mucosa (a moist pink lining that covers certain organs and body cavities). It is sensitive and kept moist by saliva and is richly supplied with nerves and blood vessels. The upper part of the tongue is covered by four different types of taste buds housed in lingual papillae:
Filiform: taking up the front 2/3rds of your tongue, they do not contain taste buds.
Fungiform: mushroom-like in appearance, they are on the sides and tip of your tongue, and consist of about 1,600 taste buds
Circumallate: small bumps on the back of the tongue, containing about 250 taste buds.
Foliate: rough golds of tissue, containing several hundred taste buds.
Taste buds are clusters of nerve cells that send sensory messages to your brain for five different tastes: sweet, salty, bitter, sour and savory. Although people think that different areas of the tongue taste different things, that is not true. All taste buds can detect the five tastes, but some are more sensitive towards certain tastes.
In total, the human tongue has from 2,000 to 8,000 taste buds. Each bud has 50 to 100 taste gustatory hairs, or receptors. These receptors pick up different chemicals and send a signal the brain that it has a particular nutrient in it that is either good or bad for the body.
A LITTLE ABOUT THE BIRDS AND THE BEESWhen a male ejaculates into the mouth cavity, a whitish fluid called semen is disgorged from the penis. Semen (also known as âejaculateâ or âcumâ or even the slang term âseedâ) consists of liquids from the prostate, seminal vesicles and bulbourethral glands, and contains sperm (male reproductive cells), sugars, proteins, and even some vitamins and minerals.
A typical ejaculation will have 15 million to 200 million sperm per milliliter.
Semen is a delivery method, and once delivered, itâs the spermâs job to get to work, regardless of where it is placed. In a warm, wet environment, the sperm will thrive, sometimes up to five days. In a very cold area, or even in hot water, sperm will die quickly.
This is where things get interesting.
GETTING To WORKEach sperm has one job: find a female egg and fertilize it for purposes of reproduction. When millions of sperm are released, they work their way through the area, testing every possible crevice to achieve their goal.
In the mouth, that means that a majority of sperm and going to be diving into the taste pores of the tongue and interacting with the taste receptor cell and basal cell. The sperm does not know that the taste cell is not an egg, and will try very hard to penetrate the taste bud. The rapid movement of the sperm cell and seminal âcocktailâ fluid will trigger a taste response that cannot be explained by ânormalâ flavors. Nearly every taste bud will have a sperm try to enter it.
The longer the seminal fluid and sperm stay on the tongue, the more intense the stimuli from the taste buds will be.
Because seminal fluid contains sugars, minerals and other flavors, the brain will presume that the fluid is present to help aid the body. Sugar signals the presence of carbohydrates, which is an energy source. Salt is essential for maintaining the bodyâs water balance and blood circulation. Other tastes, such as glutamate and amino acids reflect foodâs protein content.
The brain, feeling these items are necessary, will pump extra saliva into the mouth. Saliva will help to prolong the spermâs lifespan.
Saliva will also help break down the clumps of sperm into a more lubricated liquid that increases sperm life and coats deep within the cell walls of the mouth. Thus, sperm will explore beyond the tongue, into the walls, roof, and jaw of the mouth, as well as down the throat, seeking that ever-elusive (and, sadly, not-at-all-present) egg for fertilization.
Diving back that deep into the mouth and throat will trigger an active swallow response. Even after the sperm have been consumed, they are still actively seeking any openings they can find to penetrate. Cheek and tongue cells will be penetrated by the sperm. The introduction of water (aka âTrying to get the taste out of your mouthâ) will not remove the penetrated sperm. Once itâs embedded, itâs staying embedded.
In around 15 minutes, the immune system will receive signals that cells are damaged and that a foreign substance (the sperm) is present, and it will being to try to repair and remove the offenders. This will cause inflammation in the area. The inflammation swells around the cells, pores and cavities that the sperm has embedded itself within.
The immune system can only rid itself of the sperm through the blood stream, so it pulls the sperm into the body and circulates it.
Within 30 minutes, millions of sperm are in nearly every organ of the body, including the brain.
Psychological EffectsThe sperm can attach to active sites of proteins, causing neurotransmitters to be released. With a higher volume of sperm consumption, this can result in an emotionally induced pleasure, or âhighâ. Some refer to it by a much more base, slang term: âCum Drunkâ. Because it creates this high, the brain remembers it and will begin to associate sperm consumption with a pleasurable feeling, similar to nicotine.
Although itâs certainly not been proven, itâs been postulated that some nymphomaniacs or even sex workers and porn stars can develop a craving, or even addiction, to sperm consumption over time. Itâs also been theorized that the high created by sperm consumption can be a defense mechanism against depression in some people.
Consumption of sperm has been shown to reduce stress and anxiety. It also can increase sex drive, especially within women, in large doses.
Typically, within 40 minutes, the sperm that remains in the mouth denatures and dies. Saliva breaks it down further and a specific scent will remain, typified by a bleach and ocean scent. The coating in the mouth and throat will begin to dissolve and go away.
Any dry, dead sperm outside the mouth with become stiff due to the organic polymer within seminal fluid, tightening the skin. Thick seminal fluid that drives will begin to flake and peel.
Any semen consumed by the body will think it is food and use it for cell regeneration.
The body will use it to make new cells.
The sperm literally becomes a part of you.
By BareAmy83 for Literotica.
Rapturous ClitorisClitoris, why are you yet so fair?By LePenseur
I have a confession to make: I am entranced by the clitoris.
Ever since I learned about it, I wanted to see one for real. I wanted to watch it swell into a blushing pearl, and tentatively wrap my tongue around it and send a girl through the roof. I did eventually tongue a girlâs clitoris, and it was every bit as delightful as I had hoped. She didnât go through the roof, sadly.
But that wasnât the end of it. Every lover I have, I long to see her clitoris. Because, in my mind, the clitoris is the single sexiest part of the female body. Itâs almost a fixation. I love to stare at a clitoris, stroke a clitoris, tongue a clitoris, run the velvety underside of my penis on a clitoris. When I watch an adult movie, I look for clitorises. And when I read erotic literature, there had better be lots of gratuitous clitoris play, or Iâll be tempted to move on.
I always pronounce it âKLIT-oh-riss.â Iâm aware of an alternate pronunciation, âklit-ORE-issâ, but I donât like it as much. And itâs very trendy and common to talk about a âclitâ, but that to me seems to abrupt. Itâs a beautiful organ and deserves a beautiful name. No need to cut it short. In my mind, saying the full âclitorisâ means youâre talking about a thoroughly fascinating and sexy part of the body for longer, and therefore I say clitoris and not clit. Twice as many letters, twice as sexy.
Now, there are other parts down there too. Thereâs the vagina, which is nice and very sexy when wet, but I feel itâs overrated. The inner labia are wonderful too, with so many shapes and sizes and colors to fantasize about. I like the way the skin folds and stretches, and I love the rich pink everything turns when a woman is aroused. And when you top it all off with the swollen purple button of an engorged clitoris? Breathtaking.
I know, I know, there are other parts of a woman too. But as of the time of this writing, I am in my early twenties and fairly sexually inexperienced. I canât help it. The center of womanhood, especially the clitoris, is one of the most arrestingly beautiful things on this earth. I canât help but admire it, worship it even. Nothing turns me on more than seeing a clitoris, straining past its hood, taut with desire.
Donât take this to mean that bigger is always better. A clitoris is at its best when it looks at home in its gorgeous surroundings. Artificially enlarging it makes it look out of place and uncomfortable. In my opinion, a clitoris that relies on pumps or steroids is trying way too hard. No clitoris is naturally unattractive, but itâs easy to make a clitoris unnaturally unattractive. Thereâs no size contest here.
Similarly, while I drool over the clitoris to no end, I donât want one of my own. I quite like my penis, weâve been very good to one another. Plus, itâs always more fun to play with somebody elseâs body parts. Drawing my finger or tongue along a wet clitorisâs sheer surface and hearing a woman moan is heavenly. It wouldnât be the same if it were my own.
So what makes a clitoris attractive? I wish I could answer this question better, because this answer sounds downright silly. But the fact of the matter is, when presented with a clitoris, I always think itâs the most beautiful clitoris Iâve seen yet. Memories canât bring back the raw lust and desire I feel when Iâm looking at an erect clitoris just inches from my face, and I donât even try. I will stare at your clitoris, maybe take a few deep breaths. My eyes will shine. I will tell you itâs absolutely the prettiest clitoris Iâve ever seen. And Iâll mean it.
Sometimes I wonder what people would think if they knew about this obsession. Guys probably wouldnât be too impressed, mostly. I donât know what most girls would think, though I canât imagine theyâd mind very much. Itâs too bad thereâs only so much you can say in public. âHey there. Iâm single, Iâm tall and Iâm thin, Iâm acceptably good-looking, I speak fluent French, Iâm studying to be a teacher, Iâm a lot more thoughtful than most guys, and I get turned on by licking a clitoris for forty-five minutes straight. If we wind up in bed together, would you mind if I tried for even longer?â
An eager, straining clitoris. It makes me smile, just thinking about it. I love everything about the clitoris.
I love how a clitoris swells when aroused. I love the way a clitoris turns a dusky lavender, or maybe a bright ruby red, and I love seeing its shape nestled among wet folds. I love to watch a clitoris shyly peek its head out of the hood, and I love to see a clitoris already proudly presented, haughty and demanding attention. I love to lick along the labia and roll a womanâs nipples and watch her clitoris pulse urgently.
I love to spread a womanâs cum on her labia and admire how it glistens. I love massaging that cum into her engorged clitoris, then slowly licking it off with the tip of my tongue. I like to eat a woman out until weâve lost track of both time and orgasms, then pull back and see how her clitoris cries out for more attention, shining and throbbing with desire. I love to slowly circle my thumb over a hard clitoris and feel its firm texture among hot, soaked folds. I love to sink my penis into a woman, pumping my hard, veined flesh in and out and rubbing my thumb on her clitoris at the same time.
I love to feel a pulsing clitoris in my mouth. I love to run every taste bud along the smooth, eager surface. I love to release it, then trap it again. I love to use my tongue and dance with a clitoris; sometimes a soft, slow waltz, and other times a swift, firm ballet or a frantic, eager grind. I like to gracefully pirouette around a clitoris, lift it without warning, then catch it again in my tongueâs warm, wet embrace.
The clitoris enthralls and enchants me. The clitoris delights me.
The clitoris is a work of art.
By LePenseur for Literotica, from How-To Sex Podcast
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How to train a man to love cunnilingus.
By cd prosper ot. Listen to the Podcast at How To Sex.
A lot of women love to have their pussy licked as much as or even more than having a cock fill their cunt. And if you have a man who loves to go downtown every chance he can get, great! But what do you do if your man either wonât do it, wonât do it right or long enough or if he treats pussy-licking as something obligatory and a mere prelude to sticking his cock up your twat? Well, donât just complain.
Hereâs some advice about what you can do to get your man to adore eating you for as long as you can stand! First of all,
1: Initiate SexAre you horny? Do you want his cock, his finger, his ass or especially his tongue: then let him know it! A lot of women, even if theyâre dripping wet and desperate to be sucked and fucked into oblivion, will wait for their man to initiate sex. Chances are that when that happens, a man is going to have his own agenda. But, why not start out with your agenda, instead of his?
So what if youâre shy! Get over it! We know that women have moments when you want and even need sex. So tell him when that happens! If youâre in a relationship, what on earth is the point of hiding your sexual needs? Is it some kind of weird power trip: if he knows you need sex, you canât ration it? That might have worked in the fifties, but surely weâre way past that now. Besides, nothing will turn him on faster more than knowing that you want sex. So tell him! But how?
Words are best: nothing like an e-mail or a quick phone call to his office, provided itâs private, if you need that; and a âHoney: I canât wait till you get home. My panties are sopping wet.â Or âIâm so horny and my vibrator isnât doing it for me; I need you!â You can bet that heâs going to blow off or rush through whatever overtime might have been in the offing (if he is the type who stays at work when he has a horny chick to come home to, what on earth are you doing with him in the first place?).
If youâre reluctant to be that explicit you can always use all the tried and true chick âcome hitherânumbers. Thatâs Okay. But if your man is tired or depressed, he can miss the non-verbal cues, or worse, ignore them. Ignoring a verbal invitation is not an option for most men: 99 times out of a hundred heâs going to accept, no matter how tired or down he is.
One final suggestion: a pre-arranged signal. One couple has a bride and groom from a wedding cake. When either one wants sex, they put it out where the other can see it: yes, itâs really hokey, but it works.
So, why is so important for you to initiate sex? Because you score big, big points with your man just by initiating: men hate, let me repeat that, men hate the burden of always having to initiate sex because unless youâre hooking up with a nymphomaniac (whom most of us have never met, let alone screwed), initiating sex involves a certain probability (often quite a high probability) of rejection and attendant humiliation. When you initiate you instantly get your manâs gratitude, and cooperation. And if he doesnât like to dive into your muff and polish your pearl, you will need some of that cooperation. So initiate already.
All right, you have your man racing to get into your panties. Now what?
2: Tell him, yes, tell him in clear words, what you want.Now, I gave you, reluctantly; non-verbal alternatives to initiate sex. But thereâs no way around this one, you have to say exactly what you want: âHoney, could you go down on me.â âHoney, I need your tongue,â The more explicit and urgent the better: âLick me!â âEat me!â âSuck my pussy!â Especially, if youâre somewhat prudish or restrained, the more graphic and desperate your language, the more you will turn your man on and, maybe get his head between your legs, fast.
Be sure to use a pleasant and delighted voice. And itâs all about how you frame the issue. Never tell him what heâs failing at. Tell him what you need more of. When you tell him what he failed, he feels rejected and his confidence is crushed. Thatâs never a good thing for healthy coupling. But when you share your need, you allow him to be a hero and rush to your cause. It makes him feel needed, desired, and special.
You can add that if you were more ravished in this manner âGod knows what you might do for him?â Or how much more often youâd be shagging him.
But if you canât keep a patient and encouraging tone, plan another time to work on this improvement to your lovemaking. You donât want to risk him despising cunnilingus, just because you were rude of insulting to him.
But what do you do if your man refuses or expresses reluctance? Amazingly, there are some guys who are grossed out by the thought of connecting their mouth to their womanâs pussy. If he refuses or if all you can get is a quick kiss on the twat youâll have to settle for that, temporarily. Okay, let him do his thing and start your campaign.
3: Your campaign begins with talking. Yes, you heard it right, talk to your man.Personally, I am thrilled to talk to my partner about sex: itâs so much more exciting and much closer to my heart than talking about kids or chores: but then I have an unbelievably open and understanding spouse. And, as a bonus, itâs often a huge turn-on to talk about sex, especially in public (discreetly or undiscreetly depending on how much of an exhibitionist you are).
Now I know that there are a lot of men, and women, who are too uptight or scared to talk openly to their partners about their love life. But I donât care if you have to go to a sex therapist to get a conversation going. If youâre going to have a sexual relationship that lasts more than a few weeks, you need to be able to talk about sex with him. And the odds are overwhelming that heâs not going to initiate that discussion. So first, accept the necessity of talking and second, figure out how to initiate it.
Once you have a conversation going, itâs important to be gentle and supportive but also to let him know how you feel, what you like and what you want from him. Above all, avoid any hint of criticism or anger. Let him know you appreciate his willingness to be open and to meet your sexual needs.
First, remind him that itâs not unhygienic to kiss your cunny: your bush is actually cleaner and more sanitary than his mouth (why else did God invent Listerine?). And reassure him that before youâll ask him to head south, youâll make sure youâre really clean down there. Please note that some men actually prefer that you not be overzealous about scrubbing your cunny, especially if youâve been horny and wet all day; but thatâs another subject.
Second, let him know that if the two of you are going to continue to have sex, then you want oral sex to be a part of it. Also, youâre willing to take it slow and let him get acclimated; and finally, you donât want to expect to cum every single time he goes down on you, that he has the right to stop if heâs tired and that you donât want him to carry on heroically to get you to cum when his jaw is falling off.
Itâs way better to express your needs and wants directly than to abandon or suppress them or even worse fight him passively aggressively. Once you stated your position, it also helps if you let him know that youâll be patient and help him get through the awkwardness and that you appreciate his willingness and his commitment to satisfying you. And there are plenty of books and how-to articles, and yes, videos. You can use them all, to help initiate him into the ancient art of satisfying his woman with his tongue. You could start with some excellent pieces on cunnilingus in this âHow Toâ section. Let him know, that youâre willing to reciprocate. Heâll be on really shaky ground if he likes having you suck his cock but he wonât lick your pussy!
Finally, you need to talk about is what turns you on sexually. If something has worked and heâs done it right, let him know it, verbally, non-verbally, anyway at all. Just make it obvious that heâs had an effect. Donât fake it or exaggerate too much. But do let him know what gets your juices flowing.
About Pussy Juice.Speaking of juices, thereâs no way to avoid having him deal with your nectar. Pussy juice is the elexir of life, the yummiest, most delicious, most aphrodisical liquid in the universe, better than chocolate, can you imagine? If your man is not one of that opinion, and heâd better have a lot else going for him if he isnât, then you will have to initiate him into one of the principal joys of oral sex.
My experience is that most women have at least some and maybe a lot of anxiety about how you taste and smell down there. And there are some times when your cunny might not taste or smell great. Start by finding out yourself. That means, to put it bluntly, you need to taste and smell your pussy more than once. If youâre not comfortable doing that, how can you expect your man to be?
Fresh & CleanI think most men are probably turned off by the smell of urine and execrement and the thought of swishing those in our mouths (not to mention your monthly flow). So try to eliminate those, but, please donât try to cover up with scented soaps or deodorants. Iâm sorry, but even those who are not as totally nuts about pussy juice as, do not want to be sniffing, or worse, tasting; scented fruit soap or perfume in your nether regions. The idea here is to get your man to want the taste and smell of your cunt, not the latest Proctor and Gamble product, or lint, or bits of toilet tissue.
Once you know that there are no obnoxious experiences for him down below, then you need to start stage two of your campaign.
4. The Campaign, Stage Two: Practising Kissing, Licking and Sucking.Okay, enough about talking and testing, letâs get back to sex! The best way to get your man started on the road to great cunnilingus, it to draw the connection in his mind between kissing and oral sex. Now that may be obvious to you, but, trust me, itâs not obvious to a lot of men. A great many women complain that their partners are not into kissing, donât seem to enjoy it and donât do it very well. You can change that; yes, you can. Start by assessing your own kissing skills: are you completely passive, waiting for the man to plant the lip lock on you? Do you swoop in and peck at your partner with wild abandon? Neither one of those approaches is going to convince your man that kissing is a rewarding part of sex to be enjoyed its own right and not just as a necessary means to get his wiener into your bun.
The first time I understood the mind-blowing potential of a kiss was a few years ago after an obligatory lunch at a rooftop hotel dining room with a friend whom I had and have absolutely no desire to bed. Iâm happily married and I want it to stay that way. As we took the elevator, I was given the most seductive, the most tender, the most erotic kiss, ever!. Now, Iâve kissed a lot of lovers (the order of magnitude will remain hazy in the interests of preserving my marriage). But that kiss was a revelation. It was an invitation, words fail me. Can you kiss like that? If not, start practicing. This is something that you and your women friends can definitely discuss, and maybe even practice. And then take the initiative. Show your man what soft, tender, lengthy kisses can be like. If you blow his mind, youâll be on your way to having him blow your twat!
Once you have him started understanding and enjoying kissing, then get him into kissing, sucking and licking your tits as an activity that is pleasurable in itself rather than just as a prelude to intercourse. If you donât like having him play with your tits, then just skip this section. Very few women actively encourage their partners to suck and lick their tits, and thatâs what you need to do.
Take your breast and actually rub it on his face. Play with your nipple on his lips. Moan appreciatively when something he does turns you on. Above all, tell him what works, what does turn you on and gently guide him: âsofter,â or âharderâ, âbite me gently!â âyes, keep going!â. As long as what heâs doing is even mildly pleasurable for you, keep him at it for as long as you can! This is training, and you want him well trained when you send him south! He needs to find out how to use his mouth and lips tenderly, how to prolong the pleasure, how to keep you on the edge. Every moment spent giving your tits pleasure is great preparation for him making love to your cunt and great training for you in communicating what turns you. So donât be in a hurry to send him down to the engine room before of you are properly trained and ready to perform your respective tasks!
When you, are ready, then you can give him permission to move further south. Not all the way just yet; he has more practicing to do. This is where you learn to tell him what to do, and make it whatever might turn you on. What you have him do is strictly up to you, but at this stage keep it relatively short. He could kiss your stomach, lick your thighs, roll his face on your mound; just as long as he keeps his face and his hands out of your crotch until you give the word. If what he does isnât doing anything for you, cut it short and get his face into your pussy.
An Aside on ShavingIâm totally with Sophia Jane (âA Girlâs Guide to Getting Headâ) in the camp of do whatever is comfortable for you. If you donât mind shaving and you like the way it feels and looks, go for it! If shaving makes you itchy but you donât want a full bush, trim away. If you donât want to be bothered with shaving or trimming, by all means flaunt your beaver! The point is that you need to be comfortable with how your pussy looks and feels, and when youâre comfortable, itâs easier for your man to be comfortable with your pussy too.
And donât be defensive about your choice. Either way has its rewards for your man. Yes, many appreciate the incredibly soft and delicate feel of a shaved pussy. Feeling a womanâs soft swollen labia is any unbelieveably thrilling part of oral sex! And itâs a definite turn on to be able to see a pair of engorged cunt lips or a hungry aroused clit emerging from its hood and begging to be sucked. But itâs also great for your guy to feel a sopping wet bushy beaver desperately thrashing against his face. And a hairy cunt definitely seems to give off more delectable pussy smell! So, both shaved and full bush or anything in between, has its joys for the male tribe. Itâs your choice: experiment and go with what feels right for you, and if you want to change it, change it!
5. The Campaign: Stage 3:Okay, his face is between your thighs. What now?
I know you may feel incredibly vulnerable in this position. But you need to remind yourself that you are the boss. If you man is inexperienced or repulsed by oral sex, you need to take charge and tell him what to do: namely, whatever he pleases you. Start by keeping it slow and simple. The first thing both he and you need to learn is how he can tease you. So have him experiment and tell him what works. You might have him stay away from your clit at first, and lick and kiss delicately around your outer lips, your mound and your perineum. Some women like to have their man take their whole cunt into their mouth; for others, that does absolutely nothing. Some woman adore having their man tongue-fuck their cunt hole. For others, itâs an annoyance. You need to tell him whatâs working, what starts the juices flowing for you. And you and your man need to keep reminding yourselves to take your time, take it slow and not rush towards orgasm.
If youâre like most women, it feels better to be teased with a very light touch of his tongue. He needs to be guided to do that, It took us a long time, a lot of practice, and a lot of communication to be able to achieve the kind of light touch that delights and sends a woman into orbit. But itâs definitely worth it!
Note: you may need to remind your man to keep his mouth and tongue wet. Donât hesitate to give those kinds of reminders. Itâs much better that your man knows that than that you are uncomfortable.
You may want your man to use his hands to hold your pussy wider. Youâll need to tell him how much force to use. Some women love their pussies are wide enough so that they can easily tongue-fucked. Others donât. Also, some women like to have a man push his hand on their stomach. To others, thatâs a distraction. Either way is fine: just say what works.
Most women (but you may be the exception) want to be thoroughly teased and aroused before their man starts working on their clit. You need to tell him when the time is right and how you like your clit to be stimulated. Some women like a man to start by holding their clit gently in his mouth and then very gently flicking it with his tongue. Other women are so turned on at his stage that they prefer a harder touch or even a light nibble.
Again you need to pleasantly communicate what works for you. And when you get to the point, where you canât stand being teased and you have to cum, your man needs to know that he has to hang in there and not break his concentration or his rhythm until either; you cum, or one of you has to give up.
At some point many women want their partner to use their finger or fingers in addition to their tongue. If youâre among those, you need to make it clear when that would be good. For some women, especially those who get wet easily, it doesnât matter too much if a finger goes in very early. For others who need to be really turned on to have their juices flow, it might be painful to have their manâs finger up their cunt too soon. But there are great lubes to remedy all that.
You also need to tell him what kind of digital stimulation works best for you. Some women love a vigorous finger-fucking. Others hate it. Some like their man to rub their clit with his finger. Others want a tongue exclusively. Almost every woman I know, adores a soft, slow, gentle stimulation of their g-spot. A man needs some guidance to be able to do that. So give him that guidance: it will be well worth it. A womanâs orgasm is much, much more intense when both her clit and her g-spot are being stimulated at the same time.
When itâs done right and your anatomy allows, he might get not just a squirt but a great gush of pussy juice right in his face. Now, there seem to be some men who are disgusted by the thought of their woman cumming all over their face. Of course, they canât expect to be able to squirt semen on your face if they wonât allow you to give them a facial. If your man absolutely canât tolerate your squirting on his face, you may have to draw the line there; although maybe he can compromise by letting you cum on his chest.
Fortunately, there are a huge number of men who absolutely thrive to give you the best tongue licking possible and take it as a personal compliment if you squirt on their face. This is such a turn-on that when it happens!
I just hope that at least some of what I have written above will help you train your man to enjoy diving into your muff and giving you mind-blowing oral sex.
By cd prosper ot, from How-To Sex Podcast
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Why she loves to pleasure his cock, and how she does it.
By AnaLeePleasured. Listen to the Podcast at How To Sex.
I have always found it odd that there are women out there who do not enjoy giving a man a blow-job, especially if it is the man they love, or are in love with. Personally I just cannot imagine anything nicer than the experience of sucking a beautiful hard, or soft cock and knowing that my efforts are being enjoyed. I believe it is an honor and a privilege to be allowed to pleasure a man in this way. I have always wanted to explain why I love it so much and how I feel when I do it and what the experience gives me. That is what I will attempt to do now. I hope that someone out there enjoys reading about how wonderful cock sucking is from one womanâs perspective, and hopefully somehow, a few of those women out there who see it as a âchoreâ can be converted into developing a new attitude to pleasuring their man.
My first time that I went down on a man was after a late, or rather, early night of partying hard on the dance floor of a local nightclub when I was just eighteen. He was thirty-seven and we had been getting hot and close all night and into the morning. Others on the dance floor were telling us to âget a roomâ, and we finally listened to them. So off we went to his place for the rest of the ânightâ.
We both had a shower and went to bed but sleep was the last thing on our minds. So we kissed and I finally got close enough to see what I had been brushing up against all night. His cock was long and hard and I ached to touch it. I didnât ask, just reached out and felt it, running my hand up and down the shaft, Soon I was masturbating him with both hands and getting more and more excited by his groans of pleasure. I donât know why, but I just sort of took control of the situation because he was enjoying himself so much and seemed happy by what I was doing. So I kissed a trail down his strong lean stomach till my mouth found its target.
He was so surprised when my mouth engulfed his cock. He couldnât seem to believe that I had just gone straight down on him without a word of encouragement from him. He seemed almost alarmed that I had wanted to suck his cock. For me it was the most natural thing in the world. I had never done it before and I had never even seen porn at that stage in my life. I just knew I wanted to taste, to use all the senses that I possessed. But then, that is just how I am, I believe in getting the most out of a beautiful experience, making meaningful memories that last long after the act. That is what I am all about.
So that was my first experience of sucking a cock and when I think about it now, what I loved most of all about it, was the way he enjoyed what I did. He encouraged me every step of the way with moans and groans, saying âYESâ when I sucked his balls or gently stroked them with my hands while sucking his cock. Then afterwards, he had looked at me in amazement and awe, admitting that he had never been so masterfully handled before and wondering where I had learned to do it so well.
He also told me that no woman had seemed to really enjoy sucking his cock before and that it usually seemed as if a woman did it as a âfavorâ or saw it as a âchoreâ, needing to be asked to do it. He said he couldnât believe I had done it voluntarily. What he said had made me wonder why anyone faced with such a lovely cock would need to be asked to suck it, I just couldnât understand it. From that first experience I learned so much about men and what they like and I also learned about myself and what I like too.
For me there is no greater compliment than having a manâs erect cock pointing straight at me, I see it like a child sees candy, it just begs to be tasted and sucked. It is my reward for being a good girl, I get to have the lollipop. When we are young our parents teach us that there is more joy in giving, than receiving and as we grow older, many of us stop thinking that way and start to want more and more and give less and less. That is such a shame because life should be more about giving and enjoying the shared pleasures that creates.
It is not a nice feeling when we give someone a present and then realize that it is not actually something that they need or want. But most women quickly recognize that sucking their manâs cock is one of the greatest presents you can give him, and sadly, many women use this as a blackmailing tool, manipulating their men into giving them something or doing something for them or forgiving them after a fight. This really makes me angry and my heart goes out to those men who are being used in such ways.
What do I love about sucking a juicy cock? Well, this is something that cannot be said in a sentence or two, I need to write a whole fucking story about it! For me it is an honor, as mentioned before. Here is a man, a beautiful man with a nice juicy cock all ready to be used by you. Just the thought that someone WANTS me to pleasure him, that is the first thing that excites me beyond belief! Without that WANT, I might as well be sitting back watching television.
I love the visual aspect of a cock disappearing into a willing mouth, and sometimes I envy the man because he gets to look down at his cock moving in and out between loving lips of a wanting woman. So, because I cannot see it from where I am, up close to all the action, I imagine how it must look to the man I am sucking, seeing it from his point of view. That turns me on BIGTIME!! I love when a man tells his woman to âlook upâ at him while she sucks him, and I imagine that sight from his perspective.
Eye contact is so important for me during sex. Eyes are windows to the soul, so to look into them means to see more than just a cock, or a man, or a woman, but instead to see right through to what makes them who they are. That is something I find incredibly attractive when I am in love. I want to see inside the man, which allows me access to even his deepest, darkest secrets and desires. When I look up into a manâs eyes as I suck his cock, my heart beats even faster and harder, making me hornier and wetter. To see a manâs eyes reflecting the emotions he is feeling, the amazing sight he is seeing, the sensations he is experiencing, THAT stays with me and affects my every thought of him from that moment on.
I also love seeing a cock all shiny and wet with my saliva from sucking him and spitting on him. It is a turn-on for both my man and me when my mouth pulls back from sucking and there is a long rope of drool connecting my mouth with his cock. It is all part of getting 'down and dirtyâ during an intense sexual experience. The visual aspect itself is fantastic, but that is expanded even more when you add the mental stimulation. The fact that a woman will play for hours with a manâs cock and drool all over it and enjoy seeing all that wetness and get turned on by it, that is what pleases a man and when he is pleased, that in turn pleases me too.
I have often made reference to my sense of smell when engaging in close contact with another. How a man smells all over and especially when you get close to his cock, can mean the difference between a woman feeling like she is in heaven, or in bed with the toilet brush. That may sound cruel but I can understand why some women are turned off by a man who is not clean or healthy. An unhealthy man who does not eat the right foods or drink plenty of water can smell less than nice and this affects the mood and the taste of his cock and also the taste and smell of his cum.
I love the clean, fresh smell of a healthy man who takes great pride in his body. This also makes me want to worship his body as I would like mine worshiped. I even love the smell of a healthy manâs sweat. This kind of sweat is even a turn-on for me after he has been exercising and while he works out with me.
My mouth waters when I kiss the head of a manâs cock. I feel the anticipation of what he will taste like and slowly I let my tongue lick over his head and gently into the eye, marveling at the fact that this is the source of so much, most importantly, the giver of human life. Right there at the tip of his manhood is the place where such important bodily fluids are excreted. My knees go weak when I think about this place I am licking, allowing myself to love all that this sacred tool is used for.
I love using my tongue to trace a line of saliva around the rim of his mushroom head and allow it to pop in and out of my mouth. This gets me really worked up as it is very sexual. I love to look up right then and see him close his eyes in pleasure at the friction that is created with this movement. I love to hear the sounds of his rapid breathing and the deep rumbling timbre of his lustful groans. I love the excited thrusting motions as he tilts his hips to meet my hungry mouth. Allowing the rhythm to take a hold of me and escalate, is something so exciting.
Hands are so important during all forms of sex as they are what 'speaksâ when there are no words. My favorite is kissing him while working my saliva covered hands up and down his slick shaft, being sure to stimulate the sensitive parts around the rim of his head. I enjoy pulling my head back a little so I can just look into his eyes while masturbating him and telling him how much I love him and what I am doing to him. There is so much you can do with your hands during a blow-job, an endless list of techniques which stimulate him in different ways, like rotating two hands around him or stroking his balls at the same time, or just using two fingers, thumb and second finger in the shape of an O, just rapidly over his head.
I love the sense of power that I have when I hold my manâs cock in my mouth or hands. At that moment and for the next hour or two, I am in control of what happens, and I am responsible for him having the most sensational, meaningful experience possible. I want it to be mind-blowing for him and not over and done with in an instant. I want to take him to the edge as many times as possible, stopping every time he is about to cum. I want him to experience orgasms of the mind and body, sometimes cumming only a little bit (if he is capable of that, not all men can do it) and then at the end, allowing him to shoot hot ribbons of cum as far as he can, or all over me.
The first time I tried to swallow a manâs cum I was only eighteen years old and I did not like the taste. It was like horrible warm soup to me and I had to spit it out, almost vomiting in the process. For some women it is like that every time and they never get used to the taste and smell. But for me, the greater my love for the man, the greater my fascination with his cum. Now I love to smell it and lick the little droplets of pre-cum off the tip of his cock. I love the feeling of accepting his 'offeringâ to me like a reward for my efforts when he finally cums.
I have learned that a man is very proud of his cock and what cums out of it. For him to see a woman enjoying his cock and his cum, makes him feel emotions that are almost too hard to put into words. When I saw my fist porno I watched in horror as the man came all over the womanâs face and tits as well as into her mouth. I couldnât believe she was actually enjoying that! Now I beg for cum. I love the fact that it is such a turn-on for a man to see his cum all over a woman as she smiles and licks it off. Once again, I put the shoe on the other foot and see it from his point of view. How AMAZING must it be to look down on a woman on her knees as long ribbons of cum spurt out of your cock and land all over her lovely face?
There are so many things you can do when you have a manâs cock in your mouth. When I first watched porn, I would skip over the part where the woman was sucking him because I had no real concept of what went on during that time, the cameral didnât go into her mouth. But now I know how much actually goes on in there. You can tell from the sounds a man is making what is happening to his cock. I like to flick the tip of my tongue over the eye of a manâs cock and especially work up a rhythm around the sensitive dent where the rim meets on the underside of his cock, all the while still sucking him and moving his cock in and out of my mouth. This can only be felt by my man and me but not seen by anyone watching.
Another discovery which was so exciting for me was the concept of 'deep throatingâ. I never realized that it was possible to take a manâs cock down deep into my throat. I thought that when it slid into my mouth and stopped, that was it, that was as far as it could go. When I found out that a cock can actually move past that stopping point and slide down my throat I was so amazed. It is hard work, especially with a thick cock but the look on his face, pure joy, and the sounds of raw ecstasy in his voice as he realizes what you are doing for him, that is worth any discomfort. I have enjoyed this form of giving and have made it a point to 'practiceâ as often as I can so I get used to relaxing my throat to ward off my 'gagging reflexâ. This is where I like to use my various different sized dildos.
There are still two more senses I have not gone into in any great depth. Those are the sounds and the feel or more importantly, the feelings. I find the sounds that sucking on a cock makes, exciting and dirty in an animal-like way. The squelching sounds of hands covered in saliva, rubbing over a dripping cock, fucking awesome! It all adds to the experience in a positive way, heightening sexual pleasure for both the man and the woman.
I always say to men that if they want to know how the head of a cock feels in your mouth, then take a boiled egg and peel it. Pop it into your mouth and lick it, and that is what it feels like. It is so smooth and velvety and delicate, so sweet and succulent. I love textures, materials that are smooth or ribbed, silky or course. The feel of a manâs hairy strong arm against my smooth bald pussy, this all adds to the excitement and sensation so that feeling of touching his cock and balls to me is like an 'all you can eat buffetâ is to a starving man.
I know that I have only touched the surface of what can be done, and what can be felt when going down on a man or 'giving headâ, but I am not a very technical type of person so I can only try to describe how it feels to me. My greatest fantasy is to have a naked man on my bed and to have the next few hours or days or weeks to just do everything I have always dreamed of doing to and for him. For me it all begins and ends with the mind. First you must have the thought and then you put it into action. But at the end you must be able to reflect on what you did and communicate with your partner. This way you learn from each experience and find ways of improving each time.
There is an endless world of different sexual experiences to be had so there are no excuses for doing the same thing, the same way, every time.
So women who just suck their manâs cock for a few minutes as foreplay should re-examine what they are giving. You donât cook the same dish, the same way, every day, so why not shake things up a bit? I believe that women who have a sexy male in their life, should worship his cock.
By Ana Lee Pleasured for Literotica, from How-To Sex Podcast
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It may be time to let the girls out of boob prison.
With Sam EscobaR, Tonilyn HornunG, & CQt Rose. Listen to the Podcast at How To Sex.
With their pokey underwire, thick straps and sweat-trapping cups, bras are not always the most comfortable thing in the world. Sure, getting a bra that properly fits can do wonders for your boobs, but there's nothing quite like going without one.
While there are certainly some folks who simply can't go bra-free, whether it's due to comfort or size, the ones who can; seem to universally agree that it is supremely amazing â whether you do it in public or just in the comfort of your own home. As someone with large breasts who has recently started embracing the wonders of going braless, I am totally obsessed. Why? Let me count the ways.
1. Your boob sweat can just ... evaporate.
Look, one of the most inconvenient things about summer (and having big boobs in general) is the pool of under-boob sweat that appears with the slightest hint of heat. When you skip the bra, you have a chance to air it all out rather than pressing that gross moisture against your skin all day. It even creates health risks of skin infections and rashes.
2. Your natural chest shape emerges.
For years, I thought that extremely round, padded and shaped look was the best one for my body. Now that I've started skipping a bra all together, I actually get to see the shape of my breasts, about which I've been previously self-conscious. It's fine if you like a bra-shaped appearance for your boobs, but it never hurts to try something new.
3. You realize how unique all boobs are.
Since the bra-free look has returned to popularity, more folks with differently shaped breasts have been rocking it. Droopy, small, large, asymmetrical, perky â all sorts, not just the one type fashion, movies and TV would have us believe. And the cool thing about that is that it's a reminder of how different chests are from one person to the next.
4. You get that "just took off my bra" feeling all. day. long.
You know how wonderful it feels to remove your bra the moment you get home? Imagine experiencing that delight for the entire day.
5. You save money on bras.
Fact: Bras are expensive. Another fact: Replacing them is annoying. If you wind up only wearing one for half of the week, you go through 'em half as fast â and spend half as much.
6. Nipples are highly underrated accessories.
The 1970s was a glamorous decade filled with glitz, gold and visible nipples. Take a page from the disco era and allow your nipples to add a little extra fun to your look. After all, men wear theirs out literally the entire summer. What's the big deal about letting ours simply rest naturally under the fabric of a shirt?
7. You look great in a crop top.
If you've ever felt so inclined to try the continuously popular crop top (hey â it's for any age, any body type!), I've got great news for you: They look great sans bra.
8. At the end of the day, you don't have all those pressure lines.
Even the best bras can leave some uncomfortable marks on your skin â why not just skip 'em all together?
9. It feels just a little extra adventurous.
I'll be honest: Going without a bra sometimes translates to risking a "wardrobe malfunction," depending on what you wear it with. But hey, you only live once. You might as well feel extra alive every once in a while â and that breeze-plus-boobs combo will definitely help.
10. Going without a bra doesn't make your boobs "sag."
First of all, some breasts are naturally droopy. That's a fact, and it's fine. You don't need to be afraid of it! Second, there's this oft-repeated old wives' tale that if you don't wear a bra, your breasts will get lower and lower, but a 15-year French study actually concluded the opposite. In fact, the study found that women who went without bras developed more muscle tissue, allowing their bodies to support their breasts naturally. Thanks, science!
11. You remember that if something makes you uncomfortable, sometimes it's best to just skip it.
Obviously (and unfortunately) there are situations where people are going to judge you for what you wear. However, if you feel your most confident heading out to dinner or to the park without a bra, let yourself just go for it. And don't listen to anyone who says your breasts aren't the right shape, size or type to go bra-free.
12. Once you adjust to how it feels sans bra, it can feel seriously powerful.
Yes, really. Just trust me.
Why I Stopped Wearing a BraMy mom's refusal to wear one used to embarrass me. Now I get it.
BY TONILYN HORNUNG
It used to embarrass me â my mom's refusal to wear a bra. I'm not sure why, really. It's not like she jogged her way through life forcing everyone to stare at her heaving chest, but as a teenager, I found her refusal mortifying. I'm sure a therapist would delve deeper into the reasons why this may have bothered me, saying something along the lines of, "Seeing your mother in any way womanly or sexualized made her seem like more of a real person than a mother," but to my basic teenage brain, it was simpler. Women wore bras. That's just what women did, and my mom was a woman, so she should wear her bra. But she did not. Now, as an adult, I think my mom might have been on to something.
There was a time I enjoyed buying frilly, lacy bras, and such. Walking into Victoria's Secret was a quiet thrill for this shy, little Catholic schoolgirl. I'm sure my husband would appreciate it if that thrill still existed in my world, but if I'm being honest, the last time I bought a bra was over three years ago. No, I have not decided to burn all my bras for some sort of political statement or because it was super cold this last winter. I haven't purchased a bra for a very good reason.
I wore a bra for two years straight.
The pregnancy books don't really tell a nervous mom-to-be all there is to know about Mom Boobs. Sure, the books go into fantastic detail about all sorts of other pregnancy issues, using scary words like "discharge" and phrases like "growing areolas." But I found that the majority of these helpful tomes forgot to mention that a pregnant lady's breasts can be so tender that putting on a bra, and then strapping them down with an Ace bandage, is the only way to walk up and down a flight of stairs comfortably. The bra (with the Ace bandage) became my best friend during my pregnancy.
I figured after I had the baby, my life and my boobs would achieve some sort of normalcy. I thought I'd be home free, but then I started nursing my baby. Again, I needed a bra to support my milkshakes â but this time it was a nursing bra. These contraptions are slightly more comfortable than a real bra but unlike a normal bra, they open in the front for a little quick air conditioning on a hot summer day. Still, though, trying to sleep without "The Girls" contained was as uncomfortable as sleeping on two actual cartons of milk. So I wore a bra during my pregnancy and while breastfeeding â day and night for two years. (I did take it off to shower.)
Now I require freedom!
At most, a passerby might see me in a sports bra just to keep "The Girls" from roaming all over the place, but I can't stand wearing a real bra anymore. They feel tight and constrictive. I have earned the right to feel my "Girls" flop against my stomach as I sit, but more important, I've discovered my mother's secret: Bras are uncomfortable.
Perhaps one day I will come around and prefer a little lace and wire help hike up my puppies, versus the power of gravity, but for now, I like my freedom. And maybe if I actually used the Victoria's Secret gift card my husband bought for me last Valentine's Day, I might discover bras have evolved over the last several years to where it feels like a person is wearing nothing. But I have a better idea. Why not actually wear nothing?
Oh god! 10 years from now, what will my teen daughter say about my free puppies?
By Tonilyn HornunG
My back pain Is Gone!My horny hubbyâs idea helped me deal with upper back pain.
By CQt Rose
Not wearing a bra... braless... letting the puppies (or kittens, in my case) play freely. Yes, when I went to the grocery store this morning, I didn't bother strapping the girls into anything that would restrict their natural movement. Shopping at the mall? Nope. Church last Sunday? Sorry, that was me swaying completely to the music. (Oh, get over it. Do you really think Mary, mother of Jesus, wore a bra? I rest my case.) Shirts versus skins amateur basketball tournament? Dang, I was benched before that decision had to be made.
Looking back, I can see how naive and silly I was fifteen years ago. I can also remember the real reason I rarely confine my chest into some modern day instrument of Puritanism.
It was the turn of the century (the year 2000, for the calendar deficient). Between the stress of work, my husband launching his own business, and a move from my beloved home to a big city, everything was crashing down on me. The end result was headaches, upper back pain, and a miserable me.
I suffered through it for almost six months before that fateful day my husband came to me with a bewildering question: would I be willing to try going without a bra for a month to see if it helped my maladies.
Fifteen years ago, prior to that moment, before six months of increasingly excruciating pain, I wouldn't be caught dead without a bra. I even slept in a sports bra.
My hubby is a curious sort and loves research. He had been looking for anything we hadn't tried to help my upper thoracic(back)/lower cervical(neck) spasms, which were the likely source of my recurrent head aches. Low-and-behold, an unpublished work by a couple of orthopedic surgeons in England reported an unusual finding.
Women scheduled for surgery due to neck and upper back pain, when asked to go without the 'benefit' of a bra during pre-surgical preparations, often noted reduced symptoms, even before their actual surgery.
Discussing things, the dynamic-doctor-duo started to consider the bio-mechanics of the brassiere.
They noted that those nasty things were distributing weight from the front of the chest, up over the shoulders, crossing directly over the thoracic-cervical spinal transition zone and associated parts: muscles, joints, spine. Everything was potentially affected, even resting posture. That shoulder-to-shoulder boulder holder was intentionally moving structural stress onto the upper back and lower neck. It couldn't really be that simple, could it?
Obviously, the bra was made by a group of men to help women, right? Nope. The brassiere was made to keep the God-fearing menfolk focused on their jobs and proper etiquette. Why bother retraining a man when you could more easily torture a non-voting woman. Rapidly the freedom of movement was replaced by the proper brassiere, corset, and other torment devices. All to keep evil women from flaunting their apple-eating harlot bodies, and thus deliberately forcing men to have improper thoughts. Heaven knows, no righteous guy would ever have an improper thought if not directly lured by a woman... at least not more than six a minute. (Yes, I know, that study was flawed, but it's still very funny.)
With the passing of time, this original reason for the invention of the bra has been lost. Most people incorrectly think it was made to help women by supporting the breast and to prevent sagging. Not really truth in advertising is it? Yet look what gender is running the ad campaign to promote another piece of lingerie to be added to a woman's "essential" wardrobe.
Knowing it's not to support the breast tissue, why not consider asking women, while on the waiting list for surgery, to 'go natural' for a month. I'm sure our good doctors spun it as "in preparation for surgery" instead of "because we're beady-eyed sex fiends that want to see bouncing boobies everywhere!" (Cue up "Bounce Your Boobies" by Rusty Warren.)
For their study, they evaluated pain scores, mobility, headache frequency, and any other data point they could find (I'm sure the doctors' wives nixed the nipple diameter and 'cup-ability' of the-breast-in-hand aspects of the study, but being boys first, scientists second, I bet it was on their original study outline).
Interesting trial for the patient, not so good for surgical income because a significant portion of the women who went braless improved enough not to need surgery. Back pain? Gone. Neck pain? Nada. Headaches? "Dammit, Jim, bring that one back or I'm gonna have to start putting out!"
Returning to my own painful situation, facing my husband's puppy-dog eyes begging me to try, I bit the bullet. I bit my lip. I did a hundred hail Mary's that first day, asking forgiveness for my sin. I left the bra off.
The following morning, I got reminded not to put it on.
"But it's not working," I whine to my scientist.
"It's been eleven hours," he says.
"Yes! And it's not working!" I emphasize, since he seems to want to prove my point.
"How long have you been in pain?"
"Four months."
"Half a year, sorry. Nice try. Next contestant," Doctor Smarty-Pants says.
"So? It's not working," I grumble.
"So I get half a day to fix a problem spawning, growing, consuming you for six months? The study said four to six weeks."
"But people will see!"
"You mean under your T-shirt, button-up, sweat shirt, and... please! A scarf? It's spring, at least lose the scarf."
I reluctantly put down the bra, leaving all the other clothes on, thankful it was my day off. No freaking way I was going to work without a bra.
Little did I know just how adamant my belligerent husband could be in some instances.
The next day is much easier. Much fucking easier because, "Where the hell are all my bras?" I snarl.
He swallows with a deer-in-headlight look. Not a good sign before I've had my breakfast. He bolts for the door.
"Stop! Man-up!" I yell at his retreating back.
He turns back toward me when at a safe distance, "That's cowboy up, to you, sweetie! Free Willie!" and he pumps his fist in the air before hastening to finish his escape.
By the end of the second week, I'm woman enough to admit, I was having fewer headaches. My neck still ached like a son-of-a, but I swear, Aspirin and I were no longer having an intimate relationship. Of course, neither were my husband and I, but that's not necessarily out of the ordinary.
Finishing the third week, he had grown a set and returned to our bed, sleeping uneasily as I occasionally sang the 'Bobbit' song. I wasn't going to mention my neck pain was reduced by more than half. Let him sweat a little more.
End of the first month? I wanted my brassieres back, but only for special occasions. Like when I go out in public. When I get up in the morning. When I go to bed at night. You wouldn't take Linus' security blanket away, would you? Unfortunately, my husband would... the bastard.
Start of week five. I had to start being honest with him, because he'd hidden a small fortune in lingerie. My neck and upper back were almost completely pain free. I hadn't had a headache for almost ten days. My boobs didn't hurt. They weren't even hitting my knees... yet.
Ladies? Here's a special hint: don't marry a scientist. Not only will they try to support everything with fact, plus at least two references, but everything becomes a classic study where a single result means nothing.
"Ok, you tried our little test. You can have them all back," he smiles, returning the stack of my clothing. He earns himself a blow job. (Oh, as if you've never been so happy to get your way you don't go a little crazy.)
Little did I know, his devious man-mind was still at work. Two weeks later, I make the mistake of dumping out three aspirin onto my plate at breakfast.
"Headache, huh?"
"No shit, Sherlock, who gave you the first clue?" I glare at him, daring him to mention labeled dose.
"You want me to rub your shoulders?"
Never trust a guy volunteering to give you a back rub. He wants something. Or, in my case, he's about to prove something I don't want to really hear.
"Sure," I say, somewhat dejectedly into my toast and pills.
His hands gently start at my shoulders, then in toward my lower neck...
"Holy mother of... stop! Ow! Stop!"
"Oh, sorry. Neck pain?"
"Yes, Einstein, and shoulder tenseness, and..."
Flick. Where the fuck do guys learn to do that? I didn't even have time to flinch, let alone stop to realize what he was doing reaching behind my back again. My girls drop two inches.
"Fucker."
"Thank you. We're starting braless study, phase three now. I trust you can have your bras and use them responsibly? Only in dire emergency? Like you've got an audience with the Pope?"
"Fucker." Only this time, it's said in that tone that means I've given up. Dammit, the stupid Y chromosome-holding genetic freak now held all the cards. {Funny, I never realized how much I could swear when in pain. The good news is that scientific studies show cursing increases your pain tolerance - cuss away.}
"Thank you. You want help taking it the rest of the way off?"
Stupid-ass puppy-dog eyes. God I love him. No matter how hard he makes it.
It only takes three weeks this time. Completely pain free. Last aspirin almost the day after our showdown. I wore a bra less than seven hours over that period of time, and only because it was summer now, and it's too hot to keep wearing a sweatshirt every time I go out.
Then a not-so-funny thing happens. We're out and I've worn just a T-shirt and a huge baggy sweatshirt with jeans. It's hot. I was going to pass out.
"Take off your sweatshirt, silly!"
"I don't have on a bra, dipstick!"
"Sorry, I forgot. Everyone looks at you. You're the center of the universe."
"Stop being an ass, I'm dying of heat."
"You think anyone really gives a flying flip about what you are or aren't wearing? I'll help you watch for the first leery-eyed bastard that looks your way. You get 'that' look, we're out of here. If you don't get that look, you accept it: unfortunately, you're just not that important... just like me. People are in their own worlds and they never see the world around them. Take your freedom and live it."
Stupid revolutionary scientists.
I hate to admit it, but I didn't burst into flames that day not wearing one out in public. Except for the rare occasion, it didn't seem like anyone ever noticed. In fact, until much more recently when I started wearing the thinner, lace-and-sheer tops as I grew more confident and comfortable with my body, did I ever notice anyone taking a second look at me.
It's amazing, not only am I still married to the scientist, but my girls get to roam free everywhere we go. Though I still enjoy a good massage today, it's not needed for neck and upper back pain.
If you or someone you love has upper back pain, neck discomfort, shoulder tenseness, or headaches, it's an easy experiment to try on your own (at least if you're female or a bra-wearing guy). There's no serious significant side-effects and you might be surprised at the amount of mental freedom you feel.
So in answer to, "Uh, excuse me miss, but you have a very nice, uh, natural movement to you when you walk. You aren't, uh, you're not..."
"You bet, buck-o. I'm not wearing a bra! And I'm loving it!"
Another woman concurred.
Great therapy idea.There are various reasons why some women never go braless but a big reason is insecurity about their shape, thinking their breasts are too small or too big or especially if they think they are too saggy.
A group of neighborhood wives that discovered the benefits of going bra-free, in conjunction with also discovering that their supposed "imperfections" are actually attributes. It came about at a neighborhood walking group, one June evening.
One of the wives revealed that her bras cause her pain and that she goes braless at home to get relief, but is too self-conscious to do it away from home. Another confesses that her doctor told her to avoid bras for the same reason and the three other wives all admit that they hate their bras but feel compelled to wear them, even around their neighborhood friends.
The gals dared each other to leave their bras home at a future walk. The next evening at that next walking group, the wives were talking about their insecurities about their breast shape/size. to dress "conspicuously braless". The ladies eventually decide that during the next nightâs walk, as therapy, they will be braless, & forced to learn that their size/shape is OK.
At that next nightâs walking group, the women finally were all braless, and loved it. Within a couple weeks, they thought nothing of it, and when the older Anderson couple in the neighborhood started walking with them, the ladies were not bothered at all about Mr. Anderson.
By August, the neighborhood summer barbecues were also mostly braless, & the wives often showed up wearing either tube-tops, bikini tops, or went bra-less under tank-tops, in the 90 degree heat.
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No matter your size, you can make it work for you.
By PolySwingerWife. Listen to the Podcast at How-to Sex.
Weâre taking plenty of time for this issue, because it has a lot of myths, yet it impacts much of how we interact.
In the same way that busty women often carry themselves in a confident aura, and often intimidate other women, Some men have a confidence that is tied to their âpackageâ. Men who donât have super-sized packages, sometimes feel a significant lack of confidence.
Never mind that longer, thicker men are usually denied uncomfortable intercourse from many women. And they are almost always deprived of alternative sex act like fellatio and anal penetration.
Some men are also adverse to the attention they draw for their larger physiology; just as some women donât like being stereotyped for having big tits.
Letâs hear from Evangelina Vargas, aka, Poly Swinger Wife. Sheâs married, but claims multiple sex partners.
Length vs GirthIt is often men who are concerned about cock size. I will admit that cock size can be an issue for some women, as well, but more often it is men who are the most concerned.
Menâs penises can be seen in gym locker rooms by other men, at nude beaches, and at nude resorts by both men and women. When penises are seen in these places, the penises are flaccid. Most men are not comparing their erect penises to other menâs erect penises in real life. When this occurs, it is usually while looking at or watching porn.
Since most penises are seen when they are flaccid, it is safe to assume that flaccid size is just as important as erect size.
Letâs say that two men are together, one manâs penis glans (head) is bigger than the other manâs entire penis. Could this be an issue? I believe so. Letâs now say that a woman is looking at these two men. Is she going to see both men as being equal, sexually or otherwise? Possibly not.
A personâs reaction to a manâs penis size can have lasting effects. And too often statements made about a smaller penis are rarely complimentary.
Imagine that you are a man, and more than once you have been told that your penis is âcute.â Does this foster a feeling of command, confidence, and masculinity? No. Conversely, if you are told that you are hung, or hung like a horse, does this foster a different feeling for the âhungâ man? I believe so.
The size of a manâs penis often has a lot to do with how a man sees himself. How well he measures up will attribute to the manâs feelings of self-worth, and himself as a man.
It is said that flaccid size often has nothing to do with what the same penis will look like when erect. I agree, to a point. I believe that a man who has a flaccid penis that is 2.5 inches in length isnât going to be as big when he is erect as a man who is 6.5 inches in length when he is flaccid.
A larger cock, when flaccid, may not grow much more when it is erect, but it may get thicker. So, letâs say that one man has a 4.5-inch erect penis that is 4.0 inches in circumference, and the other man has a 6.5-inch penis that is 5.0 inches in circumference when it is flaccid. I believe it is safe to assume that the larger flaccid penis is going to be the bigger penis when it is erect.
Many men fear being alone or rejected because of the size of their penis. This fear usually exists because of past ridicule of the manâs penis or the fear of that happening.
The Whole Clitoris MattersAlthough most women care much less about menâs penis sizes, it has been noted that women who can, do, and enjoy vaginal orgasm prefer larger cock men. For women who donât prefer vaginal orgasms, penis size is a far less pressing matter.
Studies have shown that fewer women can and do orgasm vaginally than those who orgasm through clitoral stimulation. Yet, it has also recently been proven that the clitoris is much larger than previously thought. Essentially, all women who experience orgasm, either through clitoral or vaginal stimulation, experience clitoral orgasms.
Why is this important? The reason many women can and do experience âvaginalâ orgasm is that the penis rubs the clitoris on all sides. When looked at, the clitoris is not just the nub that most people think that it is. It actually covers much more ground. The ânubâ is just the tip of the clitoris.
To put it crudely, the entire clitoris looks like a large wishbone that has incredibly large testicles. (Side note, the G-spot is actually the back of the clitoris.) A thicker cock can stimulate the clitoris in various areas. This is why girth is often more important to women than length is.
âShow Meâ clubsIf girth is more important to women, why are men so worried about the length of their penis? The reason is that menâs penises are their advertisement, their forecast of whatâs to come. Yet, I will admit, this, too, is situational.
My husband and I go to swing clubs, and we are also members of a nudist resort. My husband and I have both noticed that there is a big difference between the men who go to swing clubs and those who go to nudist resorts. The men we see at the swing clubs usually have penises that hang and swing when they walk. Whereas, most of the men at the nudist resort have small, or barely visible, penises.
Of course, swing clubs are sexual atmospheres. Whereas, nudist resorts are family-friendly. At the swing clubs, itâs rare to see men who have a small penis. Conversely, at the nudist resort, itâs rare to see men who are well hung. My husband has a small penis. At the swing club, my husband often feels inferior. Whereas, at the nudist resort, heâs larger than a majority of men.
We have become friends with another couple who also attend the same swing clubs we do, and they are also members of the same nudist resort. And we have talked about this with them. The wife of the couple has said that she feels more attractive at the swing club because men want to have sex with her. The husband says he likes the nudist resort most because he is around men who are more sized like he is.
Seeing the difference between the penis sizes of swingers and nudist men has made us think. In a sexually charged atmosphere, the larger penis men are seen as most valuable. Whereas, at the nudist resort, personality is what matters most. If you go online and look at nudists, you will see a lot of small penis men. Why is that?
At nudist venues, public sex or public displays of affection is forbidden. Whereas, at swing clubs, public sex is encouraged. So, what would attract one man to one place and another man to the other? Comfort and acceptance. You pretty much go to places where you feel you fit in most. So, if you have a small penis, you would feel more comfortable at a nudist venue.
Weâve gotten to know the one man, at the nudist resort, who is exceptionally well sized. To put this in perspective, he used to be a porn star, and he is bigger soft than almost all of the men I have seen (hard) at the swing clubs. He says he feels like a circus freak, sometimes, at the nudist resort. Yet, he also says that a lot of women, at the nudist resort, want sex with him. Although public sex is frowned upon at nudist venues, this big dick guy says that sex does happen, a lot, at least for him.
Neither my husband nor the husband of the other couple weâve gotten to know, have been able to get sex at the swing club. Yet, a larger penis man, at a nudist resort, gets sex, often. At the swing clubs, you get to see men both flaccid and erect. Whereas, at the nudist resort, you only see men flaccid. At the nudist resort, it doesnât matter if you are a grower or not.
Weâve been to several swing clubs and several nudist resorts, and our findings have been the same. Nudists believe that baring it all has physical and mental health benefits, including stress relief and improved self-esteem. Which makes sense, even sexually.
As a man, when you are around a lot of other men, who also have small penises, you see yourself as normal. At a swing club, if you have a small penis, you see yourself as that guy who doesnât get to have sex. And that has no physical or mental health benefits, stress relief, or improved self-esteem.
It works in reverse, tooNudism is about creating situations where there is psychological and emotional equality between people. This is not the case at swing clubs. A nudist environment is a safe, NON-sexual space. Whereas, swing/sex clubs are sexually charged. Having an erection, and not hiding it, in a nudist environment reinforces rape culture and works against everything the nudist movement stands for. Whereas, at a swing club, especially if you have a large penis, you are more than likely going to get to make new friends.
In nudist environments, sexually suggestive language, dancing, dress, or displays of affection are never appropriate. So, why is it that in swing clubs sexually suggestive language, dancing, dress, or displays of affection are permissible and even encouraged? Because nudist environments are considered wholesome and non-sexual. Whereas, swing clubs are sexual by nature. This being the case, why are there more larger penis men who go to swing clubs and smaller penis men who go to nudist resorts?
In a nudist environment, no one cares how big or small your penis is. And no one pays much attention. Whereas, at a swing club, your penis size is important. And everyone notices if you are big or small. Although nudist environments arenât sexual, a larger penis is going to be noticed, just as a small penis is going to be noticed at a swing club, but not in a good way.
To add some balance, at a swing club, a plumper woman is not going to be seen as attractive as a fit woman. And she will not be seen as sexually valuable. This is something that we have come to see. If you are a larger woman or a small penis man at a swing club, you are not seen as sexually valuable. In a nudist environment, your size, whether you are a man or a woman, isnât important. Why? Because nudist environments are non-sexual. So, in sexual situations, your size does matter, whether you like it or not.
I believe this is something many people donât understand. To most people, sex is important. And in our findings, if you are a fit woman or a man with a large penis, you are seen as sexually valuable. I think we all want sex, but because of how people are, what you look like, and what you have, matters. The biggest difference between a larger woman and a small penis man is; a larger woman is more likely to be hit on than a small penis man is.
As far as confidence goes, nudist men donât care who sees them nude, in a nudist environment. Even if they have a very small penis. Yet, at swing clubs, the larger penis men seem to be the most confident. It seems to us that confidence, where penis size is a part of it, is largely dependent on the situation and the environment. If overt sexuality is looked down upon, small penis men are the most confident. And, in sexually charged atmospheres, larger penis men are usually the most confident.
Take this outside of swing clubs and nudist environments, and penis size is often important, to both men and women. And, sadly, if you are a small penis man, even clothed and no one knows you have a small penis, the small penis man still often feels inferior. I joked once to my husband that maybe all men should be nudists. And he didnât laugh. He told me that would not be a good thing, because then youâd know who really did and did not have a small penis, and everyone would know. Not what most small penis men would wish for.
Itâs sad, considering that most things in life are not sexual, that penis size is such an issue. Big penis men complain that they canât find underwear that fits them right, or that they canât get their penis in a woman because their penis is too big. But that doesnât seem to affect their day-to-day lives. Whereas, small penis men deal with small penis problems in all aspects of their lives.
I started this post to state that the importance of penis size is situational. But I have to admit that it isnât. If the opportunity for sex doesnât exist, then penis size isnât an issue. Whereas, if sex is what people are there to have, or are looking for, then penis size is going to matter, a lot.
We are a society that sees our physical appearance as important. If you type âsexy nude womenâ in Google, what do you see? You see younger, fit women, with larger breasts. What happens when you type in âsexy nude menâ in Google? You see pictures of men who are well hung, or you see pictures of men having sex with other men. What does that tell you? Sadly, our naked bodies tell others of our sexual market value. And this is why many men fear their penis isnât big enough, or want theirs to be bigger.
Often people see sex as a private matter, but, in reality, it is more a socio-economical matter. Menâs and womenâs bodies are like sexual currency, and each body has its own sexual and socio-economic value. As stated above, when sex is not wanted or looked for, a small penis isnât an issue. When sex is the goal, that is when penis size matters.
Just 3 SecondsA man and his penis may be likened to a property owner looking to sell. It makes sense for him to advertise, market, and position his property to create increased demand and end up with the best deal. Consider actual marketing, the business that has the most money can attract the most customers. Now, look at men and penises. The man who has the most to advertise is going to attract the most sexual partners.
A recent study revealed that women see a manâs height and penis size as equally important. And in this study, it was proven that women can approve of or reject a manâs penis in three seconds, by simply looking at it, and the majority of women in the study stated that they did not find a small penis attractive.
One thing that all men have to realize is that women can and do have sex more often than men, and usually understate their number of sexual partners. What this means is that no matter who you are, as a man, chances are good that the woman youâre having sex with has probably had sex with more men than you will with other women.
What does a womanâs number of sexual partners have to do with penis size?
If you are a man who has an erect penis that measures 3.75 inches long and 3 inches in circumference, and all the other men that your present sexual partner has been with have been at least 6.5 inches long and 5.75 inches in circumference, Youâll have a challenge before you. The other men were all almost twice your size in both length and girth.
Kinky Options âFor Small Cocks OnlyâKeep in mind, though, if a woman is into anal sex, many women prefer a thinner penis. And if you are on the smaller side, a woman can get your entire cock in her mouth, she can deep throat you. Then, she can relax and just have fun with your cock.
Some might say that a womanâs vagina feels different if she has recently had sex with a man who had a much larger cock. If it has been a while, the same woman may feel tighter. If you enter a woman just after another man pulled out of her, and his cock is larger than yours is, the woman may feel loose to you. And if you have a large cock yourself, you may never meet a woman that youâd consider to be loose.
There are benefits no matter what side of the scale youâre on. If you have a smaller cock, you may get to do more than a man who has a much larger cock. If you are a man who has a larger cock, you might get sex more often. Yet, if your cock is the size a woman can have fun with, then you win, no matter what.
Although any man with any size penis can please a woman, and enjoy himself, men still concern themselves with something they canât change. Your penis canât be any bigger than it is, you canât change how tall you are, but you can lose weight and work out to improve your market value. Instead of focusing on what you canât change, focus on what you can change.
Iâm not saying that there is ever going to be a time when a smaller penis is seen as superior to a larger penis. What I am saying is that larger and smaller penis men can and do get sex. And you can, too, no matter the size of your penis.
In conclusion, men will probably always worry or be discontent when it comes to their penis, but keep in mind that women also worry about their bodies and parts. The fact that women have sex with more men than men do women should tell you that youâre still in the running, no matter your size.
By PolySwingerWife for Literotica, from How-To Sex Podcast
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No matter your size, you can make it work for you.
By Dancing Sprite. World Data.info, Risia Skye, & nh play guy. Listen to the Podcast at How-to Sex.
Weâre taking plenty of time for this issue, because it has a lot of myths, yet it impacts much of how we interact.In the same way that busty women often carry themselves in a confident aura, and often intimidate other women, Some men have a confidence that is tied to their âpackageâ. Men who donât have super-sized packages, sometimes feel a significant lack of confidence.
Never mind that longer, thicker men are usually denied uncomfortable intercourse from many women. And they are almost always deprived of alternative sex act like fellatio and anal penetration.
Some men are also adverse to the attention they draw for their larger physiology; just as some women donât like being stereotyped for having big tits.
How does your equipment compare to others? Find out!Dancing Sprite provides some historic statistics, so our further conversations will be based on a proper perspective.
Few questions seem to occupy men as much as the size of their dicks. Is it too short? Will my girl think Iâm a bad lover or even laugh at me because itâs shorter than others sheâs had? Is it long enough to reach every nook and cranny of her pussy and stimulate each and every nerve ending? How does my dick compare to others? Is it longer? Shorter? Average?
Questions upon questions. Especially avid readers of porn stories, who regularly come across tales of 10", 12", or even 15" cocks, often canât help comparing these specimens to their own equipment and, not surprisingly, find their own dicks to be much smaller than the ones they read about. The question that has to come up sooner or later is: whoâs the freak, the guy in the story with the 12" monster or me with my 5" dick? How long is the average human penis, anyway?
Despite widespread interest in this question, however, there are surprisingly few scientific studies which could give us a definitive answer. Instead, as always, when solid information is scarce, rumors and speculations run rampant. Even basic facts become the subject of heated arguments among locker room buddies and many men are more confused than ever. Most obvious is the fact that, according to leading sexologists, almost 80 percent of all men secretly believe that their dick is shorter than average.
While the optimum penis size will probably always remain subject to debate, at least the average size doesnât have to be.
Kinsey Institute Weighs InThe first extensive study of penis sizes was undertaken by the Alfred C. Kinsey Institute for Sex Research in the mid-1940s and found the average penis to be 6.2" long. This study, which is still kind of an authority on the subject, had one flaw, however: participants in the study were never actually measured; they were given stamped postcards on which they marked the length of their erect penises, then mailed the results back to the institute. This procedure was often criticized for its lack of supervision of the participants and the possibility of distortions due to inaccurate measurements or downright cheating. Itâs called âself-reportingâ and is widely discredited for clinical research protocols.
After the Kinsey report, several other studies on the same subject followed, conducted among others by the University of California in San Francisco and the Lifestyles Condom Company. These studies came to slightly different results, but all found the average penis length to be somewhere about 10 shorter than Kinsey; between 5.1" and 5.9".
As is the case with most objects in nature, the distribution of penis lengths follows a bell curve. The line peaks just under 6" and falls to both sides; the farther away you get from the statistical average, the less frequent a certain length occurs. In fact, about 90 percent of all penises are between 5" and 7" long.
The longest penis ever described in medical literature, a 14" specimen, was mentioned in a book by Dr. David Reuben, but since he didnât give a source and the measurement could not be independently verified, scientists tend to disregard that report. The longest medically verified penis is not far behind, however; in the early 20th century, Dr. Robert Dickinson came across a 13 point 5" penis, which still holds the record. Other studies found various penises between 9" and 12", but organs of this length are in fact quite rare.
At the opposite end of the spectrum, the smallest fully functional penises documented in medical literature measure around point 5" in length. While many people might balk at the description of a half-inch dick as âfully functional,â in this context it means being able to get erect and have an ejaculation(somehow).
Your Turn To survey.In case youâve never measured your own dick and are wondering how to do it correctly, itâs easy: first you need to get an erection, then you stand upright and hold your penis at a 90 degree angle from your pelvic bone, i.e. parallel to the floor. Now place a ruler on top of it, press it lightly against your pelvic bone, and read the number off the ruler where the tip is. Donât cheat!
Now, before you decide to throw a party because your dick is longer than average after all, or jump off a bridge because it really is shorter, hereâs the result of another study:
Most women donât care!About 80 percent of the women who were interviewed expressed no preference for penis size; they said that what a man is able to do with it is the important thing, not its size. And while some women do indeed prefer long dicks, the majority of the remaining 20 percent said they didnât like large penises because they hurt.
There you have it, guys. Donât worry about its size, just use it and have fun!
WorldData.info recently conducted a global âself-reportingâ survey.They found no association between age or body mass.
No other topic on this website has been asked for more often than the average size of male genitalia. This international comparison now gives some basic data about the mean sizes per country.
Over all countries, the average size of a penis is about 5.35". The longest ones are 6.93" long on average and carried by men in Ecuador. The average length in Cambodia is only 3.95", which is about 6.1 percent of the body height.
Among Caucasians, the nations of Georgia, France, Netherlands, and Canada were all slightly longer than 6â, while most Asian and Middle Eastern nations fell short of 5â.
The USA, Russia, Japan, India, & the British men all approached 5 point 5 inches.
Clearly, Southeast Asian men were have the smallest average cocks; in the 4â range.
The average cock lengthens 50% when transitioning from a warm dry flaccid state, to a rigid & fully erect state.
A little frank talk about the (un)importance of sizeAnd now letâs talk a while about how a woman deals with a manâs phallus, and what she needs.
What Can A Woman Handle?By Risia Skye
Myth: Secretly, women all really want an enormously endowed man and only pretend not to; so as not to hurt menâs feelings. Men, how many times have you heard women say that it doesnât matter; and how many of other times have you heard comedians make jokes about what a lie this is? Which do you believe, or do you not know what to think anymore? Women, surely youâve noticed that men seem to worry a great deal about the size of their cocks, right? In all likelihood, youâve even measured at least one hard-on for a partner who was âjust curious.â Ever wonder what causes that anxiety? Well, no wonder theyâre confused and even scared about how their equipment âmeasures upâ; with all the mixed messages out there, itâs a wonder men arenât more obsessed with the size question. Itâs tough enough to get naked in front of another person and open oneâs self to body judgement, let alone taking that risk when you canât even tell whatâs attractive to the opposite sex, much less whether or not you fit the bill.
Reality: Penis size doesnât (really) matter. The truth is that thereâs no simple, always true for all women, standard answer as to whatâs the best size, for a variety of reasons. Pussies are differently sized, for one thing, and are thus optimally stimulated by different sizes and shapes of cock. Also, thereâs a great deal of truth to the old adage that âitâs not the size of the wave, but the motion of the ocean.â While among ourselves, most women will admit that penis size does have some impact on sexual satisfaction, thereâs a lot of wrong ideas (especially among men) about what that really means. For one thing, while most men seem to focus their size-anxieties on it, most women donât really care about length; the average vagina is only 4 to 5 inches deep, and the average erection is slightly over five inches, so that all works out just fine the majority of the time. Circumference, on the other hand, can seriously affect the experience of intercourse. Women, by and large, enjoy the sensation of fullness that can only come from girth; itâs the flip side to menâs enjoyment of a tight, clenching pussy.
And, even if a man has limited endowment; in both length and girth; he can be a skilled and fully satisfying sexual partner for most women. A smaller than average erection doesnât equate to a bad lover because attentive foreplay and technical proficiency go a long way; rather than sweat the issue or do silly things like buy products which claim to increase size, youâd be better off accepting your body and learning to make optimal use of the equipment you were dealt by the hand of Fate. In fact, regardless of penis size, every man has the potential to be a good lover; and the best way to start is by taking the focus off of genital measurements and redirecting it toward a much broader idea of eroticism and sex appeal. Learning to use the whole body and mind during the sexual experience, rather than relying upon erection size as the barometer of sexual prowess, makes for a much better lover.
Corollary myth: a big cock makes for a good lover. First, Iâm not denying that some women really are size queens; they truly do prefer, or even insist upon, sexual partners with larger (sometimes significantly so) than average organs. Letâs address the size-focused minority first and get it out of the way: there are three principle groups of female size queens and size-fantasists. Some see it as exotic, often associating cock size with race or some other way in which the ideal partner is different from the woman; much the same way a man might eroticize Asian women based on stereotypical images of the submissive âLotus Flowerâ or the sexually voracious bitch-goddess known as the âDragon Lady.â For this group of women, penis size is often occupying the place of the real turn-on because the implications of the fantasy are uncomfortable; for example, given U.S. cultural history, what does it mean for a white woman to fantasize about being fucked senseless by a big, well-muscled and hugely endowed black man? And who wants to think about history, racist stereotypes, and cultural role reversal taboos when theyâre trying to get off anyway? Other women actually like a plus-sized erection because itâs tougher to have satisfying sex with than average-sized equipment; think of it as a scaled down version of the attraction to Mt. Everest.
Corollary reality: a larger than average penis can actually make sex much more difficult, frustrating, and even painful. And some women actually sexually desire oversized phalluses because the sexual experience might be difficult due to size. Particularly for women who consider themselves skilled and experienced in bed, taking pride in this image of themselves, encountering a particularly daunting erection is a challenge to their self-image that cannot go unanswered, and having âbeen there and done thatâ will add another notch to their accumulation of diverse sexual experiences. Also, sexual masochism is more prevalent among women than men, which means that some women actually desire to be penetrated by uncomfortably or even painfully large phalluses; while heterosexual men are the least likely to understand this, because theyâre statistically the least likely to find pleasure in masochism.
Even if a particular woman really and truly only wants to have sex with jumbo-sized members, a big erection doesnât automatically equate to a good sexual experience. Much like the prettiest girl in high school tended to get away with being a bitch to everyone else, well-endowed men often seem to consider the size of their package a license for laziness in bed, treating it as the reincarnation of cavemenâs clubs; as though women will simply fall at their feet in a swoon of sexual frenzy from the mere sight of the thing. Having a big one means a whole lot more to men than it does to most women, and it does absolutely nothing to make a man better in bed; in fact, a man with a truly large penis who lacks skill is often actively worse than an average sized man of the same skill because a large erection is difficult to manipulate, a challenge to perform oral sex on, and hurts to fuck if itâs done badly.
Global Cock Research and commentaryFinally, weâll finish part 1 of this topic with a manâs insights and research.
Size Ainât Everything, and I can Prove It.How much of an issue is a manâs size?
By nh play guy
Iâm a 45 year old, married man who, Iâm reluctant to admit, has cheated many times over the years. Of all the women Iâve been with; and the number is probably close to two dozen; Iâve never once been the âbiggestâ guy theyâd ever been with. Usually I wasnât as big as the guy they were currently with. Yep, thatâs right, most of these women were married; or at least in a relationship with someone else; someone who was well endowed.
Maybe I should describe my âselfâ before I go too far. I donât want you to get the wrong idea. Iâm not an under-endowed guy with 3 or 4 inches. Actually, if the statistics I keep hearing are correct; that the average size is between 5 and 6 inches; then Iâm on the high end of average or perhaps slightly larger. That said, every woman Iâve been with was used to a bigger guy. Excluding the unusual instance of simply not being compatible, every one of them preferred sex with me over sex with the larger man she was accustomed to.
When pressed, they admitted it wasnât that the other guy was too big; most of them usually did like the size (or at least didnât object to it). No, it was more the sex itself that wasnât what it could be for them.
My own opinion is that these men are at least somewhat aware that theyâre comparatively well-endowed and they think thatâs enough. They simply donât try to please the woman because they think that the sheer size will âimpressâ them and please them.
I, on the other hand, do try to please my partner. Yes, of course there are times when Iâm selfish, but thatâs the exception. As a rule, I get the most pleasure from the knowledge that my partner was well and thoroughly pleased.
So anyway, based on my experience, Iâm convinced that size isnât that much of an issue. Itâs probably important to at least have âenoughâ; whatever that might be; but beyond that, itâs just a bonus.
What I had a tricky time understanding was, if Iâm average size (statistic-wise), how is it that all these women think Iâm small? In all seriousness, I was becoming depressed over it. I started wondering if the statistics were false; made up in order to buoy the fragile male ego.
I tried every way I could think of to get to the truth about size. I consulted web sites, articles, reference books; I even asked a few of my female friends about their size preference. Everything seemed to reinforce the 5 to 6 inch average.
It seems to me that there are three likely reasons for these women to consider me small.
The first PossibilityAs mentioned above, is that average size is really bigger than I think, and I really am actually small. Now, I really did do my best to find the truth and can tell you without influence of ego that Iâm satisfied thatâs not the case.
So that leaves a second possibility.As alluded to earlier, perhaps these larger endowed men are just selfish and lazy lovers. After all, none of these women were with me because they were dissatisfied with another average or smaller guy. No, they were all used to being with bigger men. So maybe thatâs the answer; bigger guys are just lazy lovers. I guess thatâs possible. But I canât believe thatâs true of all of them. Sure, maybe some, but all? I have a hard time accepting that.
So that brings us to the third possibility.Maybe these women who are fortunate enough to attract well-hung men also just happen to be women who enjoy sexual variety.
If we explore that a little deeper, weâll most likely find that these women are extremely sexual creatures. They probably exude confidence and sexuality. If thatâs true, it may stand to reason that only a man who knows heâs well-endowed would have the necessary confidence (and therefore, courage) to actually approach these women. With few exceptions, women will select a man from among those who openly show an interest. Women donât usually make the first move.
Okay, so hereâs what we have: a woman whoâs very sexy and perhaps a little intimidating. Only the most confident of men will make an advance on her. The reason these men are so sexually confident in the first place is (speculatively) because theyâre well endowed. Therefore, the only men these women are ever with are well hung men.
But thereâs good news. Remember above I said these women like sexual variety? So you and I have a chance. As long as weâre not assholes, and the woman in question (not knowing whatâs in our pants) finds us otherwise attractive, we just have to have the balls to approach them.
Once weâve gotten our chance though; and this is important guys; donât fuck up. Remember, weâre not the big luxury-liner that doesnât even have to try in order to be impressive. No, weâre more like âthe little engine that couldâ. We keep trying and doing whatever it takes to please her.
Donât forget, odds are, sheâs always had bigger guys, so she may be surprised when she sees you (most likely she wonât embarrass you though, so donât get all uptight). So you have to impress her with your attentiveness and; dare I say it; confidence (not arrogance; thatâs for those other guys with the big dicks; you know, the guys whoâs women youâre screwing because they are arrogant).
Now that weâve got that straightened out, Iâd like to talk about the other side of this; because you may not be aware of it, but this whole thing is a giant double-standard. âWhat do you mean?â You ask.
Here we are, a bunch of average guys, whining about how lifeâs not fair. âIâd have a better chance with the ladies and Iâd be a lot happier and all would be right with the world; if only I had a bigger dick.â For crying out loud, quit your belly-aching.
What about all the women who you never even consider because they donât match you idea of perfection? Most of these women are lovely and sexy in their own right. Unfortunately, it requires someone whoâs not narrow-minded to see it.
Maybe they have a little more meat on their bones than you like (donât knock it, you probably donât know what youâre missing). Maybe theyâre a little older (trust me; definitely donât knock that). Maybe they simply suffer from the curse of being average (sound familiar?). Iâve been with several women; some from each of those âcategoriesâ; and let me tell you: they will rock your world if you just give them a chance.
Think about this: do you know the other dirty little secret to this double-standard? You know how the guys with the big dicks are arrogant and selfish (some of them)? Well guess what these beautiful, sexy, ideal-looking love goddesses are like (some of them).
It works both ways guys.
By nh play guy
Our next episode will include insights from a hyper-active swinger named Evangelina, whose had many many men, yet her own husband measures a bit shorter than average.
To be continued in Part 2
By Dancing Sprite, RisiaSkye, nh play guy, & WorldData.info, from How-To Sex Podcast
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A discussion of Womensâ Breasts and Sexuality
By CARLY STERN, HANNAH ORENSTEIN, Nondescript In CT, & zipado 321 . Listen to the podcast at How To Sex.
Weâve spent a good amount of time and attention on a manâs physiology and the impact on sexuality. Now lets discuss a womanâs breasts. They are often called tits, a term originating from the French word, tetons. Youâve also heard the terms; boobs, knockers, puppies, milkers, bust, mammaries, and other slang descriptives.
Letâs start by discussing the variety of female mammary glands, worldwide. A global study recently published several findings. Letâs look at what the Daily Mail website has to say.
America, the busty-ful!By CARLY STERN FOR DAILYMAIL.COM
PUBLISHED: June 2016
Sweet Land of Lib-bra-ty! A new study found that American women have the biggest natural breasts in the world. Scientists measured the breasts of women in 108 countries, excluding anyone whoâd had breast surgery, was pregnant, or was breastfeeding.
American women revealed as having the biggest natural breasts in the world, while Brits come in fifth and Filipinos are last.
Researches measured breasts of women born in 108 countries; excluding those whoâd had breast surgery, were pregnant, or were breastfeeding. The results clearly found Caucasian United States Americans have, on average, the biggest breasts, followed by Canadians and non-Caucasian U S Americans. Women in Europe tend to have bigger breasts, while women in Africa and Asia (particularly Southeast Asia) have smaller ones.
In a not-entirely-surprising bit of news, American women have been found to have the biggest breasts in the world.
A group of researchers conducted a study; for science; to compare the average natural breast volume of women born in 108 countries. Excluding women whoâd had surgery, were pregnant, were breastfeeding, or had been pregnant within the past 12 months, the scientists found that those born in the USA has significantly more ample assets.
In the study published in The Journal of Female Health Sciences, the researchers broke down countries from the bustiest to the most flat-chested, analyzing the mean volume and cup size of each nation.
Nearly 400,000 women around the world were measured for the study, which used EU bra sizing for consistency. While all of the measurements used measuring tape, some also employed âvisual examinationâ and 3D scanning.
Interestingly, the study actually listed averages for Caucasian United States Americans and non-Caucasian United States Americans, finding that Caucasian United States Americans had the highest breast volume of all, with a volume of 1,668ml and a cup size higher than an D, in US sizing.
Non-Caucasian Americans were still found to be quite busty, with an average volume of 1,089ml and a C cup in US sizing.
Again, these measurements exclude women with breast implants, meaning the difference in size is due to natural factors, like hormones in meat (though the study didnât examine contributing factors).
The researchers did find, however, that obesity played little part in the relative size of breasts; the average breast volume was found to be large regardless of body weight, with even athletic and slim women being large-breasted.
Canadian women followed Caucasian United States Americans; and the average of all Americans; with an average cup size of C.
Ireland came in third, Poland in fourth, and the United Kingdom in fifth, with an average B cup in US sizing) and volume of 879ml.
While there are certainly some outliers, most countriesâ average breast size seems to correspond with the region of the world theyâre in.
The biggest breasts are mostly in North America (though Mexicoâs average cup size is an AA and Europe, with The Netherlands and Iceland also placing in the top ten.
Most African countries fall into the bottom half of the graph, while Asian countries; particularly those in Southeast Asia; tend to be home to women with the smallest breasts.
On average, the smallest breasts in the world were measured in the Philippines, followed by Malaysia, Bangladesh, Samoa, and the Soloman Islands.
In addition to ranking countries, the researchers also found that most women are wearing the wrong bra size; with more women believing their cup size to be larger than it is.
The 8 Most Common Nipple Types and What You Need to Know About ThemNipples come in all different shapes, sizes, and colors.
BY HANNAH ORENSTEIN 2022
You probably know that breasts come in all different shapes and sizes, but did you know the same goes for nipples? Actually, there are eight different kinds of nipples, says Dr. Tsippora Shainhouse, a board-certified dermatologist and pediatrician. All nipples are normal, and in fact, itâs possible to have a combination of two or more types (like protruding and bumpy, or flat and hairy). Itâs also possible that your nipples donât exactly fit into any of these categories; and thatâs totally normal, too.
Before we break down the different types of nipples, itâs helpful to familiarize yourself with the anatomy of the breast and some definitions you may not know. You most likely have heard the terms nipple and areola before, but thereâs a chance you might now know exactly what they mean. The nipple is a small projection located at the center of your breast, while the areola is the pigmented circular area surrounding the nipple, according to the Cleveland Clinic. This area looks different from person to person.
Now that you know a little bit more about the nipple, itâs time to get into the specifics. Below, we break down everything you need to know about the eight different types of nipples in the world.
Protruding Nipples:
Protruding nipples are those that are raised a few millimeters above the surface of the areola and point outwards. When cold or stimulated, the nipple can harden and become more pronounced. Women with significantly protruding nipples tend to draw attention, whether they want the attention or not. A contemporary fad is for women to have their nipples pierced with a post affixed from one side to the other, which further enhances the nipple, and showed even through multiple layers of clothing. Protruding nipples are associated with a state of sexual arousal, and many women will maximize the appearance, to signal their sexuality, to others.
Other women may feel shame for having protruding nipples, fearing others may inaccurately associate this natural variation with lustful preoccupations.
Flat Nipples:
The entire nipple is flat and tends to remain level with the areola. Like a protruding nipple, a flat nipple may harden and become more pronounced when cold or stimulated. But sometimes a woman with flat nipples may not have any protrusion, even during a climax.
Puffy Nipples:
The entire areola and nipple area looks like a small, raised mound on top of the breast. The nipple can harden and become more pronounced when cold or stimulated.
An inverted nipple retracts inwards. Sometimes, you can use your fingers to bring it out, but sometimes, the muscles are too tight.
Inverted Nipples:
A further variation of this is the Unilateral inverted nipple. One nipple is raised, while the other is inverted. If youâve always had unilateral inverted nipples, thatâs perfectly normal. However, if this is a new development (as in, your nipples used to both be the same and now one is inverted and the other is raised), it might be a sign of breast cancer, infection, or injury, according to the Cleveland Clinic, so schedule an appointment to see your doctor.
Bumpy Nipples:
Itâs common to have bumps on the areola surrounding the nipple. These bumps are called Montgomery glands and can sometimes look like whiteheads. You might be able to squeeze dead skin cells out of them, but donât play with them. Every person with breasts has the glands, but some people are bumpier than others. The aeriola has several milk ducts, and these openings often result in a textured skin.
Hairy Nipples:
Stray, dark hairs, growing out of the areola area, are normal. Everyone has hair follicles, but some people are hairier than others. They might be fine or coarse. Itâs safe to pluck them out with a tweezer. Just be careful; the skin is super sensitive down there.
Supernumerary Nipples:
Some people have extra, smaller nipples, but theyâre typically harmless and not very noticeable. They tend to either look like flat moles, or like a fully-formed, raised bump. Some may have them removed by a medical professional.
by HANNAH ORENSTEIN Seventeen US
A discussion of peopleâs nipple & breast preferences.By Nondescript In CTIâll first disclose that Iâm a middle-age man. It appears to me that, as expected, overall size of a breast is a factor to a womanâs appeal. There is definitely a sizeable and candid âbigger is betterâ contingent out there. What I have found interesting is that there is an equally represented âsmaller, firmerâ faction. What I have also found interesting is who, in general; tends to be in which group.
Grande RackYounger, testosterone-driven males tend to express more preferences for the bigger breasts. Although there does tend to be an upper limit for most; âroughly larger than a volleyballâ, they do not appear to differentiate further; natural or implants, nipple length or circumference, even color of nipples and breasts donât appear to factor in much. This is the âGreat Rack!â crowd that loves the restaurant âHooters;â and keeps girly Magazines in business. Donât misinterpret; I do not criticize or belittle this group. I have merely noted certain other common interests members of this group tend to have; in general.
Women with large breasts tend to have one of two general viewpoints. One viewpoint is the âeye contactâ group. These women are frustrated at the attention their breasts draw; guys donât make eye contact but just stare openly at their chest. They tend to have almost a combination of shame and anger at their situation. These women pretty much stay away from a breast or nipple-associated forum; they donât like theirs so they certainly donât want to see or talk about others. I know one large-chested woman in her 50s who has spent so much of her life trying to de-emphasize her breasts, she almost always walks with her arms folded across her chest and never wears anything that would reveal even a hint of cleavage.
The other viewpoint of women with large breasts is what I call the âOh, yeah!â group. These women love the fact that they have large breasts. They like the attention they get because of them and will do things to emphasize them. They are also not above using theirâŠassets to their advantage; everything from getting out of speeding tickets, to making a sale or getting a promotion can be accomplished, at least in part, by using their breasts against men susceptible to their power and influence. I have not had much intimate relations with large-chested women, but I have had some candid discussions with some. What I found most interesting about the sexual side of large breasts is that it is not necessarily a male power/control âthingâ when a guy âtitty-fucksâ a woman. That was always my assumption, but more than one woman has informed me that they like it also. They can get a sense of power and control over the man by doing this; âI can get you off with just my breasts.â
Girl Next DoorWho would you guess to be in the âsmaller, firmerâ coalition? It is my observation that women of all ages and older, more mature men tend to express preference for breasts in this overly-simplistic category. The women expressing interests in breasts appear to view the entire shape and symmetry of the breast and nipple together. They donât tend to focus on the extremes; very long nipples, huge breasts, etcetera. Breasts that are firm, capped with an erect, well-defined nipple and those that have a bit of a natural âteardropâ droop with a modest but well-defined nipple appear to be favorites. The interests of older men in smaller breasts can be best summarized by the âmouthfulâ paradigm; more than a mouthful is unnecessary. Oh, donât be fooled; those guys have no problems with large breasts per se, but they are old enough and wise enough to know that breasts are a source of pleasure for a woman, more so than they are for a man. I must admit that I am a member of this group. We love everything about breasts, but we are most interested in using them to pleasure our partners, and the smaller breasts are more, manageable. There is also a subtle, rarely discussed concern on our part that if we spend a lot of time on foreplay with breasts on a large-chested woman, she may think we are actually in the more superficial âbigger is betterâ contingent. If they are average-sized, or smaller breasts, our attention on them rarely gets misinterpreted.
Unlike the âbigger is betterâ group, there are well-defined sub-groups in the âsmaller, firmerâ group. The most well-known would be the âitty bitty titty committee.â The ranks of this group tend to be filled by women with very small breasts and men who love a long, hard nipple more than the surrounding breast. I love this group for two reasons. First, I find women who are comfortable and proud of their breasts regardless of size and shape to be very comfortable and open about their sexuality. That is always a huge turn-on. The other reason is that I am one of those men who cares more about the nipple than the breast as a whole. I find it much more erotic to have a long, hard nipple in my mouth or fingers while a woman expresses her enjoyment of associated feelings and sensations, than to have really large breasts that have wide, semi-flaccid nipples that donât have the same effect on the woman under similar ministrations.
School GirlsThere is also the âschool-girlâ sub-group. Women with a youthful appearance and small, firm breasts are the preference for this group. I call it the âschool-girlâ group because the women of interest to this group tend to be young; breasts that may still be developing and are therefore small and firm. To me, this may be the most controversial and divisive group there is. There is almost a stigma associated with being in the âschool-girlâ group. If an older male expresses an interest or approval of a young woman with small, firm breasts, that opinion is derided with the offending party being labeled a âdirty old man.â Terms like âjailbaitâ and âhelp her with her homeworkâ are slung to belittle and demean the choice, even in a friendly, âall-opinions welcomeâ forum such as the Nipples forum I introduced at the beginning.
I would also place Asian women as a subject of interest to this group. They tend to have a very youthful appearance and smaller, firmer breasts than their Caucasian counterparts. What I find interesting is that those expressing a preference for âAsian womenâ also tend to be drawn to Caucasian women who skew younger, smaller and firmer, but they wonât necessarily admit to this due to the âstigma.â I would challenge all of them to review a stack of 100 black and white photos, full frontal (face obscured) and side view (without showing face, butt or legs), of Asian women and Caucasian women with dark pink or brown nipples. I seriously doubt they would find any of the Caucasian women any less attractive or desirable than the Asians. Donât get me wrong; my point has nothing to do with race. I love women of all races equally. My point is that I feel the Asian âloversâ that ridicule those that prefer young, small and firm Caucasians are simply being hypocritical.
Finally, there is the wrath of the more mature woman (say 35+) to a man expressing appreciation of a young, small and firm woman. Again, they donât appear to be as vocal about a man expressing a liking for Asian women, just when they express similar thoughts and opinions about a Caucasian woman. It is as if they consider the Asian preference a perfectly healthy and acceptable fetish, whereas a preference for Caucasian women with similar physical characteristics is seemingly akin to pedophilia.
My overall preference is for mature women; I find their intellect and comfort with their sexuality to be very attractive and erotic. However, some young women can convey that same self-confidence and desire borne of self-awareness, and these women I find equally attractive. If they happen to be an 18 year old, small and firm Caucasian, so be it. However, if a woman with those characteristics happens to be an attractive 50 year old African-American grandma with very large breasts, I would probably gravitate to her more than to the 18 year old. But I can still find the 18 year old to be attractive without being a âdirty old man.â
It is sad that there are social issues concerning nipples and breasts. It is not fair that a woman with large breasts may feel compelled to hide them, but it happens. Men should not be made to feel guilty at finding a young, nubile woman to be attractive, but in todayâs climate of sex crimes, that also is a fact of life. As stated previously, nipples and breasts are good and an endless variety is truly a gift for us all to enjoy.
After all, even the holy clerics of multiple world religions agree with the text of scripture which says;
âEnjoy the wife of thy youth, and let her breasts satisfy you at all times.â
Letâs finish with an essay from a buxom college coed.
My BoobsA 22-year-old reflects on growing up with a big chest.
By zipado 321
Right now, Iâm a 22 year old girl with a 38D-cup chest. Itâs official: Iâm a college gal with big boobs. I recently had a late-night chat with a friend who is pretty flat chested, and I walked away with a new appreciation for my breastsâ and I realized the impact they have had on my life. She made me realize that being busty had encouraged my sexual side to come out at times when for her as a petite girl she had more of an option to think things out.
It all started when my breasts started to appear early, a good six months before anyone else in my class of 200 even could think about boobs. Iâll admit it was a weird experience for me. I didnât have any friends in a similar situation, I didnât have an older sibling, and I wasnât close with Mom like I am now. So I decided to hide my ever-growing chest. Maybe, I hoped, I wouldnât have big boobs like she did. I was able to dance around the issue by wearing sweaters and other baggy clothes, but Mom finally caught on and by the spring I was in my first training bra. I felt so incredibly embarrassed and for a little while I stupidly blamed my Mom somehow. By the end of the year the word was out in school: I was the first girl in the grade with boobs. It definitely effected me because I stuck out like a sore thumbânever a good thing in middle school. The other, more popular girls resented it, and the boys didnât know how to react to it. I started to keep more and more to myself as my chest grew, and by the end of middle school I was one frustrated and fed up girl.
That all would change in high school and I knew it. I walked in the first day as a freshman girl wearing a 36D cup bra and a tight white t-shirt. That definitely stuck out, but I quickly learned it made me stick out differently than in middle school. My chest was a good thing now. It got me attention and it made me finally feel appreciative about my breasts. Kids in the older grades noticed me and I quickly fell into an older crowd. I just loved the attention from the juniors and seniors, but with it came the pressures of the older high school kids, namely drinking and sexual stuff. I had personally ruled out having sex just to be popular, but I figured less than that was just having fun.
As the other girls in my grade were going out on first dates, I was in the basement of a party with a drunken seniorâs hand on my breast. As other girls were enjoying Christmas break by having their first kiss, I was nervously being pressured into jerking a guy offâI just had to, I was told, because my tits had turned him on so much and he needed a release. As other girls were being felt up for the first time, I was pressured more and more often into giving blow jobs to a particular guy I liked. I had told him I wouldnât swallow (it really scared me then, but looking back Iâm not sure why). When he complained a lot and implied I was getting to be no fun, I ended up telling him that I still wouldnât swallow, but he could cum on my naked breasts. He eagerly accepted and I felt happy that once again my big boobs had saved the day.
What was weird about all of that was figuring out what I meant to people. I knew I really enjoyed the power and pleasure of being sexual. Each time I was there on my sore knees, my eyes closed tightly, reaching for a tissue to wipe some guyâs cum off my cheek, neck, and breasts, I felt that I was the real winner there. I was getting attention and appreciation for being the person that I was, I thought. But I also knew deep down that in one way nothing had changed. I was once the middle school girl with âthe big boobies.â Now I was the high school girl with âthe big tits and nice mouth.â Girls my age still resented me, and guys my age and older still couldnât figure me out, even if they did enjoy using me. I was getting tired of being the young and easy chick and decided that guys couldnât get with me so easily. Suddenly I was spending a lot more time alone again. For the rest of high school, and since then, I wonât usually put out unless Iâm in a relationship, and I certainly feel better about myself.
But still I know when a guy says he loves me, even if he means it, my breasts have helped him come my way. Not that I donât love sex, because Iâm still very sexually minded! I guess Iâm just not sure if my big breasts brought me increased sexuality, or if my already high sexuality has fit well with my big breasts. I really really love being sexual and even though my breasts have given me a different road to take. Each and every time I feel a hand on one of my breasts I feel a rush of gratitude and shame at the same time. I love the feeling but I wonder if Iâm still that teenager appreciating being humiliated by an older guy as he cums all over me.
Iâve known since puberty hit that having a big chest makes me different, and if I have the proper outlook, they can make me special.
I hope youâve enjoyed reading this as much as Iâve enjoyed writing it. zipado 321
By CARLY STERN, HANNAH ORENSTEIN, Nondescript In CT, & zipado 321, for Literotica, Seventeen, & DailyMail
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What every man wishes you knew
By almost. Listen to the Podcast at How To Sex.
There are articles in abundance on what women want and need. There was even a movie recently, with Mel Gibson, about our secret feminine thoughts and desires, men spend hours trying to figure us out and what we need, but do we try to figure them out? You donât see many about what men need and want, and they can be as mysterious to us, as we are to them. All women think they need to do is, rope âem, hog tie âem and throw âem in the barnâŠwell men ainât cattle girls, they know how to open that barn door even if we get them in there.
Usually all you read is bitter accounts by angry cold women, about why men arenât worth much, and how to avoid the ones who may not be easy to catch, complete with titles and types and assessments of why you donât want one like THAT⊠Well, ladies, I catch themâŠand if you want a good one, well, you better start figuring out what he wants or you arenât going to get him, let alone keep him. My men are trying to figure out how to keep me, not escape me.
Every woman knows men are into chemistry, although what it is, is a bit unclear. What it is is sex appeal, it is, they want to appeal to us sexually, and for us to appeal to them sexually, is really all that is, itâs not looks or weight, or height or make up, itâs how we look at them and how we make them feel, if we make them feel like males, deep inside, theyâre attracted to us. Theyâll admit to that readily enough, but to get inside the mind of a man, to learn what it is that makes him choose to stay and commit? Thatâs the secret ladies, they have to want to commit to us. Most of us can all do enough to get them to stay for breakfast at any time. Itâs keeping hold of them thatâs tough. And to us, we want that commitment and they know it, but many of us want it because their paycheck comes with it. They want their moneyâs worth, and that is fair, girls, it is. They arenât about to tell us this though, because they know we can be determined and devious. The line the bride sings walking down the aisle, of âPhew, Iâll never have to do THAT again!â Is a little too often true. They want truth and beauty, not to be a victim of some woman with a need for income. They believe in love more than we do at times.
Men hit about 35 and begin to wake up to a silent urging to procreate and nest, they reassess their life in the wild, and begin to consider settling down, they get as broody as any woman does. Or if they have procreated and nested, they begin to feel the urge to stretch their wings and fly, to seek out more, and feel the wonder again. Men arenât one dimensional, is part of that, they need both, passion and comfort, home and freedom and sensuality, theyâre really somewhat simple, theyâll give us everything if they can just be a star in their own lives. Thatâs really all it takes. That and they want an interesting life. Give them that, and theyâll line up to commit to who ever gives it to them.
Youâll hear wives lament and whine that heâs cheating on her, but what you donât hear is why he is, and itâs not just some younger body, itâs⊠sheâs interesting and the wife isnât. The wife has become dull and boring, and to her, all life is about is vacuuming the house now, and she yells at him and whines at him, just like she does after he flies the coop! and heâs tired of sleeping with the maid whose got attitude, whoâd want to sleep with a bad tempered tyrant!
Half of that is she berates him, itâs never enough, take out the garbage, fix the car, when are you going to mow the yard, she becomes this chore monger, another boss, so he has two jobs, not a home and a career. And she only lives to do chores, herself, he earns, he works, he takes second place in his own life, he is the gadget man, the vacuum cleaner with a mind, the guy who keeps life orderly for us, and not much else. The kids matter more, and Little League does, hey, girls, if they did that to US, weâd leave, in a second! And do. Weâd never put up with working all day and handing over our check only to come home and get yelled at? And she wonders why he left?! Someone was nicer to him is why, and she wasnâtâŠYou canât keep cows in the barn if you leave the door open, ladies! Get a clue wifey, you werenât what he needed, you were too busy making cupcakes to notice him, you said no fourteen times a week? And you didnât keep your buns firm or your underwear sexy. You bored him into leaving and you berated him for not liking you that way. And you follow it up with insulting him after the fact that heâs shallow, and he has the problems! So were the cupcakes for the bake sale really THAT important? Cause you sure act like they are!
Men want fantasy, they want entertainment, they want the princess we are, they want the fairy sprite, the little girl in us who dreams, they want eternal youth from our INSIDES, but they also want the slut lurking within us all, they want excitement and to fly, and then land safely, they want to be our wings, our angels of destiny and if we deny them that part of us, if we refuse to go with them or let them take us on their flights of fancy, they lose, but so do we, all we are is housekeepers then, neither queen or whore, and not their partner in life either, we become grounded as the world moves on without us. We just exist to make dinner, when we could be going on exotic trips and living a life of dreams. We choose to be dull and boring, and then whine they donât.
Classic sex symbols, from Mae West to Madonna, from Liz Taylor to Brittney Spears, are women men dream of, women of passion and fire, women who are playful and adventurous and have a natural sexuality. Men, dream of a nymphomaniac in their lives, or at least one who can be one at times? They want to be cherished, and adored and worshipped, and they should be! They want to be teased and pleased and played with. They want a playmate, a friend and a confidant. They want a woman who makes them proud, who their friends go WOW, whereâd you find THAT one, you must be a stud huh? To keep HER! Itâs a man thing, itâs pride, its competitiveness, itâs what makes them happyâŠits what makes them manly, ladies, if you want him to be more of a man, be more of a woman!
They want a princess to provide for, they want a woman who sparkles at them when they do things for her, and sighs and coos. They want her to be pleased, and surprised by their efforts to win her and appease her. They want to chase her and feel her give in to them. Ladies the guys want romance, not pink lace, real romance, the kind with feeling, the kind that has candlelight and soft music, and sighs, they want the longing glances and the deep involvement. And we sort of end up handing them Chef Boyardee and saying Whatâs your problem? Well, gosh, dinner from a can, might be some of it, the Dog eats dinner from a can, and we pet the darned dog at least? Or I pet mine, but maybe my dog lives better than your man does too? Consider that. Thatâs sort of sad isnât it, for him.
They want her to be glamorous at times, slinky and sexy. They want her to be natural at times, and able to get ready in less than an hour, they want her in baseball caps and jeans, as they sit and fantasize about how hot she was last night, and watch her looking like a tomboy now. They want her to like their bodies, and revel in them, as males, to act like a greedy sexual creature who canât get enough, at times, as well as listen to their thoughts, and try to make their dreams come true.
They want her to be all the women in the world at once, pure and innocent, devilish and dangerous, squirmy and high spirited, needy and soft, nurturing and comforting, and sexually awake and aware of sensual pleasures. They want the mother in us, the sister, and the slut, they want us to be as multi-dimensional as they are. They want the lady in the living room, the whore in the bedroom, and always have. Be that, and able to carry on a conversation about something other than yourself and your interests, and they will all eat from your hand, with pleasure.
And if we give them that, they really donât care if we make dinner, or vacuum, theyâll do it, theyâll hire a maid, or theyâll take us out to dinner! Trust me on this, ladies, I donât do housework! I do keep my passport handy just in case. It takes so long to go back for it, is why, we may miss the flight! I go places, I do things, I get taken out, and away, and I love that I do, they carry my bags, they open doors, and they buy me things to please me! And they call later! I love men, and it shows, and they love me right back!
They donât want to hear, oooh, yuck, and no way, and youâre kidding, Iâm not doing that! They want her to blush and go really? You want me to do that, for real, and try itâŠthey want us to tell them that things feel good, and why, and how to touch us. They want to please us so we do go out of our minds with pleasure. They want to know what we think, but not about the sale at the grocery store, to them it doesnât matter! It doesnât! Who cares if lettuce is twenty cents less, like change matters? Now if you could do something sexual with that lettuce theyâd want to know about that. They want to be pleased, surprised, seduced, coveted, treated with awe, and worshipped, thatâs all! They want to be on a pedestal, just like they put us on one! And for that, they will give us everything they have, can find, can earn and look for more if it pleases us. We become their goddess, but only if we make them our godsâŠ
Iâm sexual, veryâŠI like sex, I like a lot of itâs aspects, I enjoy exploring it, and adventuring in it. And there are men, who donât like it as much as I do, that prefer quieter realms and softer ones, there are compatitble types, there are. But they still crave the sex, the affection and the bonding, and they have to have it ladies, it isnât about they physically need, itâs how they express themselves to us, if we would only learn to listen! Itâs their language, itâs primal, itâs instinctive and it holds them totally in itsâ thrall, when we deny them that, they have to go looking, itâs male. They cannot survive without it, and neither can I.
I like a lot of different flavors in life, from the spicy to the sweet, to the hot and ice cold, salt and vinergar to sublimely mild. I like tastes, I like feelings, I like emotional intercourse, which by definition is communication. When we bond together in physical unity we canât hide from each other, we allow each other inside us, and to me, life without that is pretty boring.
Changing our approach is so easy, it really is. When we join that exercise class at the gym, instead of whining about the effort and expecting to be praised, all we have to do is strip down and show them our behinds daily and say, âWhat do you think, is it getting smaller, is it getting tighter?â And they love it, and smile, and go hmmm, some, come over here, let me check closer. Then it becomes, for him, we work out, and then theyâre more than happy to share itâŠtheyâll check our progress with gleeâŠand insist we take more classes, if they get to be part of it like THAT?
If we make dinner, add candles, dress for him, cook in just an apron for heavens sake? Want him to take out the trash more? Stand there naked. Wear a thongâŠand say, Like this? Well, as soon as I take out the trash? If Iâm still in this moodâŠthe trash is gone, girls, never to be mentioned againâŠif he forgets? Wear that same outfitâŠhe will learn fastâŠsee thong, take out garbage, get some, itâs like electricity to men. Theyâll move so fast and while theyâre out there, theyâll put your car away and close the garage door, they do not want more interruptions! As in phew, got her mind on me finallyâŠI got to keep remembering that trash, or yikes sheâs gonna find someone who will! Men learn so much quicker than we do. It is just about motivation, use that, there is no You forgot the trash again, oh no, he wonât forgetâŠevery day for six years, heâll remember the naked woman saying Iâm gonna take out the trash nowâŠlike his own private pin up girl.
And kids? Oh right those anti-romance creatures, uh, feed them early, put them to bed, theyâve had you all day? Daddyâs turn. Get a sitter, trade with a neighbor down the street, you keep mine tonight, Iâll keep yours tomorrow nightâŠjust give that man, some of what he needs, heâll be happy! He had the kids, he loves them, just once in a while, he wants to play with the grownups too. And it doesnât hurt the kids to be told, Mommy and Daddy are going to play together tonight, itâs our turn. You guys are going to bed early so we can. Give you Dad kiss now, night night.
And if I hear one more woman tell me sheâs tired, in this day of electric appliances and television, hereâs my answerâŠyou will be more tired if you work all day and come home and then take care of the kids and have no one to help. Take a nap, plan it, donât wear your self out dusting once in awhile, schedule your man like he matters! Quit whining, once women made the soap, spun the cloth, plowed fields, baked bread, ground flour, knit the socks, and still had the energy to kiss him hello and wrap her arms around him when he walked in, so what is your excuse? The dishwasher door was so heavy to close youâre tired now? He worked all day, heâs tired too! And all he wants is a cuddle and a squeeze and a big smile to see him and to cop a feel, like thatâs hard to give him? Uh, give it to him ladies, or know, someone else will.
Men need several things, acceptance of their masculinity, pride in their existence, self esteem, love, affection, sensual pleasures, credit for their contributions, titillation and warm welcome, and to be important in their own lives and for that, they will give you everything they can gather to honor you and please you, theyâll lay anything at your feet, if you just treat them with respect and admiration.
Itâs our call girls, it isâŠand itâs ok with me, if you donât want to wake up to it! Cause your husband takes me to Mexico while youâre busy at the PTA meeting, and I like going on trips to exotic destinationsâŠand being treated like Iâm important and wined and dined and catered to. You can do the PTA if you want? Itâs ok with me!
Doubt me? Ask any man.
By almost for Literotica.
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A general guide to the core of a woman's sexual desire.
By Lillianna Morgan. Listen to the Podcast at How To Sex.
Written for all men who wish their wives/partners would have more sex with them, and for all women who wish the men in their lives knew how to really please them.Frustration; it's a bitch; it can be good, really good, or very, very bad. The idea is to make the sexual frustration great for her, so that when the time comes, she is so wild for you, the sex is mind blowing for both of you. This can happen every time, if you know what to do, and how to approach her the right way.
There are THREE KEYS to mind blowing sex.
1 Knowing Your Partner's Needs
2 Planning: Take Your Time
3 Tease Her: Make Her Wild
No matter how tempted you are, and I know you are, DON'T skip down to number three. Take a few minutes and learn something other women will probably never tell you, but ALL of them wish you knew.
1. KNOW YOUR PARTNERS NEEDS: You HAVE to know what she likes and doesn't like, not just sexually, but emotionally as well. If she is frustrated emotionally, you aren't gonna get anywhere with her. Meet her emotional needs first. If she is not feeling loved, or appreciated, if you have troubles in your relationship, then take the time to fix it. THEN focus on the sexual needs. (Usually bad sex is what creates the core of relationship problems.)
Not every woman is the same, and not every woman will reach orgasm the same way. Some never will because their partner is too impatient, or her EMOTIONAL needs aren't being met. If your too embarrassed, or impatient to ask why she isn't enjoying it, (if she isn't climaxing, she isn't enjoying it) she will be very reluctant to have sex with you. If your wife/partner consistently refuses your advances, makes excuses, rolls her eyes, snorts, laughs, and won't give you any; YOUR most likely the source of the problem. WHY? An emotionally and sexually satisfied woman will not refuse her man sex, at least for long. She will hunger for it, like a cat in heat.
If you can't answer these questions, don't be so quick to call her frigid. When a man really knows what his woman wants, and actually takes the time to give it to her, she will almost NEVER refuse him intimacy. She won't WANT to refuse you. In fact, once you master the three keys, she may be the one begging you for sex.
THE 20 QUESTIONS:
1; What are her sexual fantasies?
2; What gets her in the mood?
3; What turns her off?
4; Is she stressed, depressed or angry?
5; Is she feeling loved by you?
6; Is she feeling desirable to you?
7; How does she like to be touched?
8; How does she hate to be touched?
9; How does she like to touch herself?
10; How does she WISH you would touch her?
11; What makes her feel more relaxed?
12; What makes her feel uncomfortable?
13; What makes her hot for YOU?
14; What makes her hesitant to initiate sex?
15; What makes her hesitant to tell you want she likes?
Ask her these questions first:
16; What kind of relationship do we have now?
17; What kind of relationship do you want?
18; What would it take to move our relationship to a "10" today, next week, next month?
19; What can I do for you today to make your day better? Ask every day. At first she may say "nothing" If she does, do something spontaneous anyway, like pick her a flower, fold the laundry, rub her feet, let her pick the movie, brush her hair for her, put the kids to bed for her, run an errand, make breakfast in bed, give her an extra long kiss goodbye, and a wink, dedicate a song to her, clean the kitchen for her, write her a love letter, rub her shoulders, plan a picnic, send flowers to her work, just because, ; there are a million little things a woman would love for you to do for her, non sexual things you can do; pick one and just do it without being asked.
20; Find out her Love Languages (Read The Five Love Languages, by Gary Chapman) Even if SHE doesn't know them, you will be able to recognize them. Make sure your filling her tank with the right gas; (you'll have to read the book)
If you don't know the answers to these questions, it's most likely the main reason you dont have the sex life you want. It's your job to find out. She WANTS you to know the answers to these questions, and probably doesn't know how to bring it up without risking you shutting her down, because women know most men HATE talking about the relationship. I think it's because most men don't know HOW. Men, dare to be different and actually talk about your relationship and how to improve your sex life. Use the questions as a guide.
She might think you've lost your mind because such a thing is so foreign to you, and it's the LAST thing she ever thought you would say. Feel free to print this out and show it to her, I don't mind.
Pick a time when the two of you are not busy, and NOT trying to be romantic. Shock her speechless and tell her your going to dedicate the next (however many days) making the relationship better, not just sexually. Make sure to take this seriously, be open, be honest, and make sure she knows all YOUR answers to these questions too. You'll get a MUCH better sexual response from her once you address her emotional needs.
THE HEART OF A WOMAN (From the book Captivating, by Staci Eldridge)
At our core, women are just more emotional than men. Learn to deal with it. We CAN'T change that, because we are designed that way. For a woman to feel most fulfilled, romantic and loved, she must have three basic emotional desires of her heart met:
1: Every woman wants to be romancedâand not just when your trying to seduce her into bed. We all have a desire to have a great relationship, and we recognize one when we see one. We recognize a bad one too. We KNOW when we are really, truly loved, and when we are not. If your not really in love with her, she knows it, trust me.
2: Every woman wants to have a beauty to unviel. We want to know you find us enticing, attractive, lovely, radiant, sexy. There is a reason little girls like to twirl around in princess dresses and like hearing she is beautiful. Face it, you want to be the prince who comes to beauty's rescue.
3: Every woman wants to know she is irreplaceable to you. Just how every man wants a battle to fight, and a grand adventure to go on, the lady in your life wants to know that she has a place in that adventure, by your side. She wants to know that you need her, (even if you don't think you do.) FYI, you need her too.
This first step is vital to a great sexual relationship with any woman. If you skip it, you'll be doomed to, at worst, very little bad sex; to, at best, mediocre sex, for the rest of your life. Ok, now for the good stuff you've been waiting for.
2 Planning: Take Your TimeThis is important, because women are like crock pots, men are like microwaves. It just takes us longer to heat up. Or, if you like, women are like diesel engines; once we get revved up, we can go for miles (hours). You're the mechanic. Some women like to be taken by surprise and ravished, but most of us need a lot more time to REALLY get into it. A woman's sexuality is like a plant. It needs to be tended to, taken care of, watered regularly. Being that you're the one with the hose, you're the gardener. It's up to you to water her plant, or it will wilt and die. (I'm talking foreplay here boys, not just intercourse.)
When a woman's emotional needs are being met and she feels loved and secure in the relationship, she will bloom sexually as well. (ie: you have more, hotter sex). This is where asking all those questions pays off. Some women never really bloom because the man in her life is too selfish to meet her needsâand has no freaking clue what he's missing!
Pay attention to her answers, and do your best to provide her with what she says she needs. Even if you don't get it all right at first, she will appreciate the effort you put into being romantic, and the more comfortable she will become sharing her sexual side with you.
For a woman, a fantastic night of great sex actually begins that morning. A woman actually requires several dozen non sexual touches a day. Basically, we like to be touched, but not alwasys sexually. Holding hands, hugging, a caress, can be enough to make us feel the first twinges of desire for you. If your not the one doing ALL the touching, she is likely to find someone who will. Here is an example:
Take the time to romance her all day. Set the alarm at least an hour earlier if you can and just spend time kissing. Tell her what it is that attracts you to her, all the reasons you love her. Tell her how much you are looking forward to the night. Bring her breakfast in bed. Take a shower together; tease her a bit, but don't finish; no matter how much you both want to. The goal is to build up to the night time action. Take the time to kiss her at the door; until you can't wait to come home at night, and she can't wait to have you home.
During breaks and on lunch, call her or text her; say something sexy that will make you both wish you were home right then. Arrange for her to get flowers sent to the house before you get home, or leave love notes where she will find them after you leave for work; in her car, in her purse, on the bathroom mirror, in the desk. Whatever.
When you get home, unplug the phone, answering machine, disconnect the doorbell, cart the kids off to a sitter, or grandmas, or send them to a friends house for a sleepover, get dressed up, and take her out to dinner, it doesn't have to be expensive. Or make a meal at home. Cooking together can be very erotic; especially if its done naked. (Don't cook with hot grease if you go naked.) Feed each other; really talk to each other, not about kids, school, work, bills, health problems, the respective parents; nothing that will kill the mood. Be romantic, be silly, be seductive. Take your time and enjoy the meal.
Later, take turns giving each other a massage; with warm, not hot, oils (even olive oil) tease each other; caress; discover every inch of her skin, find her non obvious erroneous zones, (collarbone, neck, ears, inner arm, feet, back of knees, her butt, her back, her sides); its different for every woman, and she may not even know all of them. Help her discover all of them. Make her bloom. Patience is the key here.
No matter how impatient you feel, take a deep breath; do multiplication tables, count to 20, whatever works, and keep going. Focusing on her pleasure will pay off for you in the end when she calls you the best lover she's ever had, no matter what size you are. (It really doesn't matter to most women, especially if your focusing on foreplay. If your insecure about it, don't be. Trust me; if you tease her enough, she won't be thinking about that, and neither should you.)
Caress her, kiss her, lick her; everywhere but her breasts and her clit. This teasing will drive her nuts. You may have to keep her hands off of you. Be prepared to tie her (use soft materials, use a square knot.) down so she can't hurry things up. Don't stop teasing her until she's begging. This process could take hours, if you're that patient.
3 Make Her WildOk, now that you've sufficiently romanced, wined, dined, tickled, teased and tormented her, turn up the heat on her crock pot. Focus on her breasts for at least an hour; see if you can make her climax just by teasing them. Most women can, if they are aroused enough. Make it your goal of the night to see how many orgasms she can have. Don't be afraid to take directions, and let her know you WANT her to tell you what she likes. No matter how tempted you are, don't speed things up; keep teasing and her; go slow, no matter what she says.
Find her clit, or let her show put your hand there, tease her with your mouth, lips, tongue, fingers, feathers, toys; be very gentle, and ask her to direct you; don't be shy; the better she feels, the better she will make you feel later. Don't use your teeth unless she asks you to. (Imagine how it would feel if she bit down on you) It doesn't feel good for us either. Make her cum a minimum of 3-5 times before you continue. At some point, she will probably become overly sensitive; back off a little and let her cool down some. Continued stimulation would be similar to her biting down on your balls right as your trying to come. It hurts, and not it a good way. A multi-orgasmic woman can have several climaxes one right after the other; you'll know your successful if she is moaning loudly, begging, calling your name, screaming, thrashing, biting, hissing, swearing, clawing, pulling your hair, begging you to stop but holding you to her, bucking, tossing her head, whimpering, crying, trembling, rolls her eyes in the back of her head and gets as stiff as a board, squirts, grunts, groans, claws the sheets, and finally, screams at the top of her lungs.
Only then do you finally enter her. Even then, don't just pound away at her, find a rhythm. She will be a wildcat; because you actually took the time to please her the way she always imagined someone would.
Not every encounter has to be as detailed as this one, or as planned out, but the same amount of effort should be there, no matter how creative you get. Any man that takes the time to make a woman experience the best sex of her life, will never again be wishing he had more sex. She will never want to deny you sex, but you have to be willing to wait to get her to that point. Once she has, she will bloom sexually, and pursue sex with you probably several times a week, if not every day, twice a day, and you'll have moved well beyond mediocre sex. You won't be the one begging for sex, anymore, and she will begin seducing you, so long as you make sure to tell her what you like. You will never have to worry about her finding another man, so long as you keep in tune (you're the mechanic remember?) with her emotional and sexual needs, and once she blooms sexually and becomes a tiger in bed, you won't want to find woman either.
PS; Every woman WANTS to be a tiger for the man she loves; he just has to help her to bloom first.
By Lillianna Morgan for Literotica.
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A few things that gross me out about porno myths
By LargoKitt. Listen to the Podcast at How To Sex.
What I HATE About PornRight up front let me make it clear that I watch erotica, read erotica, and write erotica. Please scope out my stories or poems or even my art and I think you will be pleased. Porn is very ancient stuff. Prehistoric people were making images designed to turn them on, and I'm sure they were sitting around the campfire and telling spicy stories. Motivating people to do the deed and plant the seed has been a major push for millennia. Hindus and Greeks and lots of other folks have gods who celebrate procreation. Heck, the Bible contains the steamy Song of Solomon. And in Genesis, God never said, "Don't fuck." He said, "Be fruitful and multiply."
Donât Make Me Feel ShittyPoint 1: BDSM. I don't think sex is dirty and I really don't much like stories or vids or auds that portray people who feel like shit for feeling horny. Guys should not have to apologize for hard-ons they get in an honest scenario. Horny is built into the machinery. But hang on, I understand that if you were brought up in a strict religious household where touching yourself or anyone else without a legal contract will cause Old Scratch himself to snatch you by the short hairs and drag you to Hell where he'll fry you till you're a crispy critter; if that's the crap that's in the back of your head when you spot a hottie and the spirit rises; well then I can see how being bad and feeling good might end up in the back of the same pickup truck.
Since religious figures, priests and preachers and missionaries and nuns, are placed artificially off-limits, I can see how getting under that dark robe might be a turn on. But a story about raping a priest or a nun who used to humiliate you in school. That's not erotica. That's a revenge horror story and I hate it being considered a turn-on. And stories about religious folks exploiting or hurting kids is never sexy. It's criminal.
I personally despise stories that feature people despising each other, especially in the bedroom. I might write a story about people playing at humiliating one another. I can imagine people, maybe a woman CEO who is always in charge and demanding of respect, enjoying a fantasy where someone calls her a 'stupid worthless slutty cock-sucking bitch'. Same with a male CEO who likes to be ridden and whipped like a stubborn mule. I can imagine those characters getting relief from constant responsibility. I can see how the sting of a little pain might lift their spirits.
But I switch off when the sex is about the pain. Oh I get how a spanking or being bound and restrained might raise the stakes of sensation. But then the pain is about the sex. And the sex plus pain is for the pleasure of the person being bound or 'punished' not for some nut who gets his or her nut by hurting other people. I understand if your kink swells when you have someone in your power. But for me sex is always a dance with equal partners even if you're playing that it's not.
So. Stories teach. And I HATE stories or videos that teach men that it's okay to treat women like shit. Also stories that teach women that the only way they can tell a man what she wants is to be a cruel slutty dom. Or little girls who need permission from 'daddy.' Or independent women just waiting to be enslaved by a cruel master who "knows just what they want."
Bottom line: whatever your kink, sex should be fun for all members of the party and their members, and fun shouldn't make you feel weird and guilty.
Girls Just Wanna Have FunPoint 2 -- Girls just wanna have fun. I HATE porn that is all about the man getting his nut with no concern for the woman getting hers. What's up with that? Are most pornos secretly for men who are into men? Why in Baal's name do we always spend so much time looking at dude's dicks? And balls? And assholes?
Maybe a viewer who isn't built like superman likes to pretend he is the buff cut flexing shiny well-waxed, spray-tanned hunk who is drilling a hottie who is lying about what a turn-on he is. But how about, for once, having a Don Juan or Lothario who is actually a role model for how to light a lady's fire? Because if you have the basic equipment, but really know what to do with it your reputation as a cocksmith may grow, and most often it won't be about your cock.
The guy may be necessary in the video to show what turns her on. But then I want to spend lots of time seeing her get with it. I don't want a guys ass between me and the beautiful stuff any more than it has to. And for pity's sake, porn makers and porn writers, show us what is happening with her, how this lick or that deep plunge is beginning to light her up. Some of you dudes may be all about pretending you are this super-stud and this total hottie just wants to be drilled by you until your jackhammer has busted the pavement. But really, that's not as much fun as taking the time to wind her up and truly get her truly excited.
Hard truth: Jamming your dick is the LAST turn-on a woman usually wants to feel to get her off. Everything else you do: flirting with her, complimenting her, giving her a gift, feeding her, kissing her, gently touching her, rubbing her, fingering and licking, ALL are bigger turn-ons than your dick. She may want your dick, because it feels good, fills her up in a way she likes, connects in a powerful way, shows you want her and only her so damn bad, and are eager to feed her your seed. But her orgasm usually comes from the other strokes.
And for lesbian couples this literally goes double. Two loving gals are not usually eager to pretend to be hard dick-jamming men.
Lesbian PornPoint 3 - "Lesbian" videos (or stories) are not made for women, even though most women now and again fantasize about having it on with another woman. But how often does anyone actually ask the women to write the script about how two women come to get it on? Note how many writers who identify as lesbians or bi, put at the top of the story, something like, "If you just want to get right to the sex you may be disappointed, because this story has a slow build. That is because, gentlemen, that the lead up in a lesbian story is the lust. So how about more videos in which the women take their time playing with each other? Not hours of loud smacky fake kisses and tongue tangling. No. Real attention to all the erogenous zones: the neck, the ears, lots of exploring tender skin, the talking. Seeing each face come alive. And always, take your time. After all; what's your hurry?
Butt?Point 4: But, but, butt. Maybe there was a time when the idea and the illustration of a man having penetrative intercourse with another person's anus was a strange and exotic turn-on. Now you have to plow through the butt shots to get to any other kind of sexual activity. Enough already. Or put the butt play into a special search for those you don't lift off except when imagining back door action. Otherwise, go easy. And that means planning your camera angles so we aren't looking at someone's shitter when hot romantic sex is supposed to be happening.
Roughly Sensual?Point 5 - Rougher and tougher is not hotter. Oh, sure, sometimes jamming, and slappling and hurling her (him) around is at the peak of turn-on. Sometimes the opposite is true. The smooth strokes can really reach her. Gentle that breast. Please that little spot on the side of her neck. Sweetly tickle that clit hood. Do spend lots of time on the breasts and nipples. Stroke and kiss and suck them a dozen ways and do it again. Let us see her face and hear her voice as this happens. Talk to her. It doesn't matter if the vid is shot in Slovenian.
All the senses say somethingPoint 6 - And speaking of voice, let us hear how she is feeling. I don't mean clichés like "Oh baby, you're so big." I mean those personal sounds that tell you she is beginning to feel it. Let us hear her breath slowly get more raw and excited. Encourage her to say what she needs. That last point is important, and very sexy. Not just, "Oh yeah, right there, right there," but, "Grab my tit hard please." "Squeeze my ass." "Kiss me...I need you to kiss me." And let us hear him as his excitement builds and he begins to groan and roar. For lesbian sex it would be good to really hear the couple work out what feels good. "That's good; roll a little to your left. Yeah, move up that way." "Keep rocking. Oh please don't stop rocking." "Just lick inside right there with the tip of your tongue." "Shut up and fuck me hard."
Sprayed vs filled?Point 7 - The money shot. Time was, you had to know this was real sex, so the dude had to spill the cream at the end. Now I think that's old hat. The real money shot is seeing her get off for real. Now we know that for most women PIV sex is not the true lift off. It may be great, but it is the satisfier that says your man is happy and has really connected. Your orgasm(s) can come any time along the way and are proof that your lover is really paying attention to your needs. And here's a simple dirty secret: most guys watching and probably a lot of women are going to get off when they see her cum more than when they see him cum. And for me nothing is sexier than both partners getting off while they are deeply connected. No need to 'open out' awkwardly so we see all the messy bits. For the last lap let them find each others' rhythm and go for it.
Stay UnselfishCoda - Make videos with people who know and respect each other. Even if the love play is rough and tumble, have your "actors" know and care about each other and show they care about each others' bodies. Give them time to get to know each other before they shoot the scene. And we have all seen "the four ways to fuck"-- now missionary, now doggie, now her on top, now on her side with him behind, pull out and jizz in her mouth. Yawn. Let them work out what gets them excited.
My Golden Rules: NEVER feature sex with children. NEVER feature enslaved, exploited, addicted, or drugged participants. NEVER treat women like they are second class citizens. NEVER have the talk or action be racist. NEVER show rough sex without the absolute consent of all participants. NEVER confuse torture for stimulation. NEVER exploit young or broke people to make a porno. There are plenty of adults willing to make sex videos for fun and/or profit.
And if you like erotic stories, videos, audios, pix then use the ones that respect people and avoid the ones that don't.
If the maker breaks those golden rules, don't watch or pay for that shit.
I KNOW I am bumping up against some people's favorite kinks, or even the whole reason they seek out porn. That's them. Maybe that's you. Okay, but the stuff I list above is what ruins it for me. I have a simple stance. Sex is good. Sex is fun. People do best when they don't feel angry, or ashamed, or guilty while doing it. You can play football to maim the other player or humiliate them. For me that ruins the game. Our bodies have wonderful built-in toys. Enjoy them.
The 11 Best Sexual Positions for Satisfying SexTons of sexual positions can bring mutual satisfaction, but do you know which ones both you and your partner can enjoy? Check out these 11 you might want to try the next time you get frisky.
By Ashley Welch
Switch up your sexual routine so you and your partner can rekindle your connection.
There are hundreds of hot sex positions for couples that bring partnersâ bodies together for mutual pleasure. Knowing a variety of sex positions can help you be a better and more inventive lover for your partner.
What Are the Best Ways to Have Mutually Satisfying Sex?
That answer is different for every couple. "I would define the best position as the position that works best for the individual or individuals involved,â says Tameca Harris-Jackson, PhD, a certified sex educator, a sex therapist.
"Trying different sex positions actually offers an opportunity to bring different ways of experiencing pleasure into sexual intimacy and a sexual relationship,â Dr. Harris-Jackson says. âYou can eat the same meal every day for 20 years, but it doesnât mean youâre going to get the most joy out of it. Youâre just getting the nutrients. But if you try to add a little bit of parsley to that meal, you might taste it in a different way, and it might become a more exciting meal. And thatâs what having new positions in a relationship can do.â
There are nonphysical factors to consider, too. Take intimacy, for example. For many people, especially women, intimacy can lead to better sexual experiences because partners are comfortable and trusting enough to ask for what they desire and to try new things.
Many couples are figuring out exactly those benefits, according to research funded by the Kinsey Institute at the University of Indiana.
An online survey of 1,559 adults showed that while people had less frequent sex during the first weeks of the COVID-19 pandemic, they were more willing to try new things, which included sexting, sharing sexual fantasies, and experimenting with new sex positions.
Try New Sexual Positions to Spice Things Up
Stressful periods of time can make it difficult to get aroused and stay aroused, says study coauthor Justin L. Lehmiller, PhD, a research fellow at the Kinsey. âTrying something new can amp up your arousal,â he says. âTrying new things is about self-discovery â what works for your body, your relationship â and thatâs going to have lifelong benefits.â
You donât have to be a gymnast to make these moves pay off. Donât think âcrazy sex positions,â rather ânew sex positionsâ to create more heat between the sheets.
âNot every position is for everyone, and thatâs okay,â says Dr. Lehmiller. âBut even if the positions described here donât work for you (maybe youâve already tried them), that doesnât mean you shouldnât try new and different things. Novelty is one of the things that keeps us interested in coming back for more. When sex is the same every time, we tend to lose interest. New positions are a handy way of adding an element of novelty and newness to our sex lives.â
1: The Missionary Position or Face-to-Face
Potential Benefits or Caveats Intimate but not necessarily mutually satisfying.
Details It's a simple sex position: The woman lies on her back with her legs spread and knees bent slightly. The man lies between his womanâs legs and guides his penis or sex toy into his loverâs vagina or anus, supporting her body weight with his arms or elbows.
The problem with the missionary position is that itâs not as good at delivering pleasure to women. The pelvis of the partner on top can sometimes stimulate the clitoris in this position, and it offers great intimacy through face-to-face contact. But the angle of the penis does not allow for deep penetration or stimulation of the G-spot (felt through a location on the front wall of the vagina and believed by some experts to be a stimulus for orgasm in women). Some women also complain that this sex position doesn't provide enough clitoral stimulation to experience climax.
In a study published in August 2020 in Sexual Medicine, researchers in the Czech Republic surveyed 1,100 heterosexual people about 13 sex positions and revealed that most people still choose the missionary position even though it does not correlate with orgasm for women.
Try Female-Friendly Intercourse Positions
If the most common sex position is not offering women consistent orgasms, then one important thing to do to is âclose the orgasm gap,â says Lehmiller, and try a new sex position. In other words, don't limit yourself to the missionary position.
"In most cultures, it is not the most used position," says Beverly Whipple, PhD, RN, a certified sexuality educator and professor emerita at Rutgers University in New Jersey.
If you are looking to spice up your sexual experience and enjoy better sex, try some of these female-friendly positions. Many afford partners the chance for clitoral stimulation, which is what 35.4 percent of women said they need to reach orgasm.
2: Cowgirl
Potential Sensual Benefits or Caveats Deep penetration and sensations vary; clitoral stimulation.
Details In this position, the man lies on his back while the partner being penetrated faces them and kneels, straddling his pelvis. She can then sit up or lie down on her man.
"This is a great position for a woman to control the depth of penetration," Harris-Jackson says. âItâs also a good position to get multiple forms of stimulation. With the womanâs body upright, the nipples can be engaged, which can lead to extra arousal. It is good for having access to the clitoris for stimulation.â
The riding partner can choose whether to bounce up and down, grind, or make hip circles â each delivering a slightly different sensation. âThis is also a good position for a person with a penis if they have back issues because itâs almost a resting position for them,â she says.
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3: Reverse Cowgirl or Reverse Rider on Top
Potential Sensual Benefits and Caveats Buttocks play, visual stimulations, opportunities for variations; may cause pain.
Details The man lies on his back while the woman sits astride him, facing his feet, and slips his penis into her vagina or anus. The woman can control the rhythm and pace of the thrusts. This position can be especially exciting for the man, who gets to observe the back and buttocks of his lover. Squeezing or grabbing the buttocks can enhance the experience for both. This position can be tricky to master since it requires the woman to lean back or sit up very straight to accommodate the angle of the penis. âIf youâre leaning forward, it can be painful and uncomfortable for the man because it could almost feel like his penis is breaking,â says Harris-Jackson, who recommends having the man bend his knees while the woman holds her hands against her loverâs thighs or waist.
Switch It Up âThis may be one of those positions that is better in theory than in practice,â says Lorrae Jo Bradbury, a sex and love coach and the founder of SluttyGirlProblems.com and LorraeJo.com. âYou might want to use it as a foreplay position, grinding on his penis before you begin intercourse.â
4: Doggy Style or Rear Entry
Potential Sensual Benefits and Caveats Deep penetration and G-spot stimulation but the position can feel impersonal.
Details In this position, the woman kneels on all fours, supporting herself with her hands and knees. The man crouches and enters from behind. This is the best sex position for deep penetration of the vagina. It gives the man freedom to thrust hard and fast, and allows easy access to caress much of the womanâs body. The position also allows for good G-spot stimulation.
Switch It Up Some people complain that this sex position is too impersonal because there's no face-to-face contact. âIf you want closer eye contact with this position,â says Bradbury, move your knees closer to your chest and arch your back so your partner can lean into you near your face and you can make eye contact. Bradbury says you can also try this position in front of a mirror so you can see one anotherâs faces.
A variation of this can be done standing; using a high bed, dining table, or even the kitchen counter; when a woman lays her chest or forearms upon the solid surface. Many women report laying in wait at the kitchen, when their man comes home. Her sticky panties are dropped to her knees. With his coat still on, she simply orders him; âFuck Me Now! I canât wait another minute!â He follows her instructions and sates her lusts. After his spunk fills her wanton cunt, she turns to face him, holds his spent cock, and says; âThis rod needs to be ready for round two, after dinner, in the bedroom.
5: The Corkscrew
Potential Sensual Benefits or Caveats Intense, deep penetration.
Details Leaning forward, the woman lies on the edge of the bed facing inward, resting on her hip and forearm while her partner enters her from behind. The woman can keep her thighs together for a tighter hold on the penis or penetrating toy. But if the woman opens her legs, the clitoris is exposed for stroking while the man thrusts from behind. âYouâre getting that deeper penetration like doggy style, but this may be an easier and more comfortable position,â says Bradbury.
Switch It Up Your partner can easily lean down to make out with you, and the clitoris is within easy reach, according to Bradbury.
6: Side by Side or Sideways
Potential Sensual Benefits or Caveats Deep eye contact and intimacy.
Details Both partners lie on their sides, facing each other. The woman lifts her top leg so the man can enter her. This position is great for morning sex when you might be a little sleepy, says Bradbury.
It offers intimacy because you are close to each otherâs face. The partners can kiss and caress each other during lovemaking. The sex position is relaxing, doesn't require a lot of stamina from either person, and offers an opportunity for good clitoral stimulation.
Switch It Up Penetration can be improved if the woman drapes both legs over her manâs waist, Bradbury says. This allows great access to the clitoris, which can be stimulated with a finger or with a toy. âI think this is a great position for everyone,â she says. âIt offers the comfort of cuddling, too.â
7: Flat Iron or Lazy Dog
Potential Sensual Benefits and Caveats Tightness on penetration, intense stimulation.
Details The woman lies on her stomach with her legs straight and hips slightly raised. (You can place a pillow under your hips.) The man enters from behind. When lying face down, the womanâs legs will be closer together, which creates a snugger fit for her manâs penis or sex toy. This can lead to a new, more intense sensation. âThis is a really good way to increase the experience of tightness for the man,â Harris-Jackson says. âItâs also good for clitoral stimulation because the partner can reach around with his hand or a sex toy to provide dual stimulation. And itâs a good position for G-spot stimulation because youâre angling the body so that the penis is in perfect alignment to stroke against the G-spot.â
8: Face-Off
Potential Sensual Benefits and Caveats With intense eye contact and clitoral stimulation, this can be an enhanced missionary position.
Details In this position, the man sits on the edge of a bed or in a comfortable seated position while the woman climbs on his lap face-to-face. The woman wraps her legs around his waist and can control the pace of thrusting. This position also allows for direct clitoral stimulation and eye contact, which can increase intimacy.
Bonus Your hands are free so you can touch and caress your loverâs body nearly anywhere you would like. âThis is a really impactful position for people who are aroused with eye contact,â says Harris-Jackson. âItâs like missionary, but you are really face-to-face. It also takes some of the work off the woman because the man can move her up and down by placing his hands on her hips.â
Switch It Up The lotus position is very similar to face-off, only the man sits crossed-legged on the bed or chair.
9: Pretzel Dip
Potential Sensual Benefits and Caveats Deep penetration with potential for G-spot stimulation.
Details The woman lies on her right side as the man straddles his loverâs right leg. The man then pulls his womanâs left leg up and around his left side and enters her vagina or anus. This position allows deep penetration while also allowing the intimacy of maintaining eye contact.
Switch it Up âYou can also take your left leg and pull it toward your chest to get a deeper angle,â says Bradbury. âAnd you have amazing access to the clitoris for both partners.â Your hands will be free, which can allow you to run them all over each otherâs body. Adds Harris-Jackson: âThis position â depending on your angle â can also offer G-spot stimulation, as well.â
10: Coital Alignment Technique (CAT)
Potential Sensual Benefits and Caveats Clitoral stimulation.
Details If you want to rock rather than thrust, roll with CAT. This position is similar to missionary; the main difference is that the man pushes the base of his penis so that it lines up with her clitoris and the two make contact. Once they do, the couple rock back and forth and maintain constant contact. âItâs a little bit of a different way of having sex,â says Lehmiller. âYou rock back and forth rather than thrusting. Doing so prolongs the length of intercourse for the man and increases the odds of a woman having an orgasm because sheâs having that constant stimulation.â
11: Sixty-Nine (or 69)
Potential Sensual Benefits and Caveats Mutual oral stimulation.
Details This position involves both lovers performing and receiving oral sex at the same time. Typically, one partner lies on their back while the other climbs on top of them and turns around, straddling them with their genitals above their loverâs face. The person on top then leans forward and begins performing oral sex on their lover while simultaneously receiving. This position can require some coordination and balance, particularly for the partner on top. One way to make 69 a bit more comfortable for both lovers is to lie on their sides during the act.
Keep Switching It Up: Sexual Variety Is Exciting
In our day-to-day lives, we tend to be very goal-oriented, says Harris-Jackson. âWe wake up in the morning and itâs go, go, go to get out the door. We go, go, go to eat our food, to go to work. It creates a lot of stress and tension in our bodies and in our minds. Many patients that I see feel that sex becomes one more thing that they have to go, go, go and do. But sexual partners should be really with one another and feel pleasure together. Switching up positions can be very helpful to rekindle that connection. So it can be helpful and fun to try something new.â
By LargoKitt & Ashley Welch for Literotica and EverydayHealth.
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A How-To guide for Those terrified about the other sex.With contributions from DG Hear. Listen to the Podcast at How To Sex.
Throughout the years dating has changed. Those who have gone back into dating in recent years, for whatever reason, have probably found it's a whole new ball game. But more than a few people enter their twenties, still terrified to initiate a romantic venture.
Some are still impacted by traumatic events of their youth. Still others are limited because of harmful indoctrination by an influential person whose even more screwed up. And some are just simply so shy, and terrified that they might face rejection, or even ridicule.
Folks re-entering the dating scene, later in life, have a similar anxiety, because of societal changes, over time.
Most cultures still expect a guy to take the initiative. While gals are not scorned for overtly expressing interest first; the reality is that ladies are generally feeling even more anxiety about the elusive first date.
One of the easiest ways to âbreak the iceâ is with eye contact and a warm smile, while greeting someone you have particular interest in. If the other person is âcaught off guardâ you might not get an immediate affirmation of their interest. But be patient. Theyâll think about it and make adjustments upon re-engagement with you; usually by their own initiative.
Teens have this crazy notion of establishing a âgoing withâ status, rather than simply having one social event together. Kids tell you who theyâre âgoing withâ even though they never went anywhere.
If your cordial relationship seems mutually reciprocated, Itâs time to ask; âCan I take you out on a date?â
If that works out well, Have the date soon. It doesnât need to be a big event, or include expensive meals or concerts.The truth is, what you both really are looking forward to is, each other. Trust me, a girl will text her girlfriend after, and she wonât talk about the places she went to, sheâll talk about the guy who took her there.
When youâre first date is nearly over, ask to hold her hand as you walk to the car, or to her home. An enthusiastic response means she likes you. She may want you to kiss her when you say âgood night.â
Be sure to get all her contact info before the date is over. And send her a text within a day, thanking her for sharing a date with you.
Take some time to assess if you want a 2nd date, or if what you really want is someone else. Separate, in your mind, whether itâs her you like, or dating, itself.Getting past your first brave dating effort is a huge accomplishment, and you should feel great about it. If youâre still looking for the âright one,â your next effort will be easier than your first brave act. But how do you find the kind of person you really want to pursue?
Letâs hear more from DG, about getting into the dating arena.
How to find someone to date:To begin, we need to know some of the places to find someone willing to go out with us. This shouldn't be too hard to do. I might say, before I start that, most of my comments and helpful hints are mainly for the male gender, but some ladies might find some interesting facts as well.
Malls and movie houses can be a good place to meet people as well as the Laundromat and your local bars and lounges. A nicer way is if you are lucky enough to have friends to help you find that right person. If all else fails, you can go on-line and find a friend or nowadays we have rent-a-date escort services. If you can't find at least a hooker then you might as well stop reading now. I can't help you. Just buy your hand a beer and watch a porno movie.
Even though this is some serious stuff I'm explaining to you, we still might find a laugh or two.
How-to guide for kissing:Kissing used to be easy, but not anymore. First, let's deal with braces. If your woman (this stuff is for adults) wears braces, be very careful and kiss her lips very softly. If you apply too much pressure, her lips will push against her gums and cut the hell out of the inside of her lips and your date will be over before it began.
If you both wear braces, you might stick to kissing on the cheek only. If you get caught in a big lip lock, you might get your braces locked together also. You won't even be able to make it to the hospital unless you get a friend to drive you there. Give kissing some serious thought before proceeding with braces.
Older people are now out in the dating game. If you have false teeth, you might watch your kissing also. Light pressure open-mouth kisses are acceptable. Do not under any circumstances try French or kissing using the tongue. Just picture this: your woman sticks her tongue in your mouth and your dentures come loose. Need I say more?
Another thing about kissing; especially open-mouth and giving tongue type kisses. You might want to consider where your date's mouth has been prior to the date with you. This could be a problem when using a dating service or prostitute.
How to disrobe your date:Let's begin by me undressing my lover. I try to unbutton her blouse but the little button doesn't seem to come through the little slit like it's supposed to. Finally, I get it undone and see her breasts staring me in the face behind her bra. Here is the problem I found out last year.
I reach my hand behind her back while we are kissing, feeling for the clasp on her bra. Where the hell is the damn thing? I'm an ultra male; I don't want to have to ask her. Finally in a nice way, we unlock lips and she says, "The clasp is in the front." Then in a very faint voice I hear the word, "Moron."
I quickly undo the clasp and let these big babies bounce out. I want to pull her bra off but it gets tangled in her blouse. Now I have to pull them off together trying to get them off her shoulders in a loving way like they do on TV.
After getting feedback on the subject, I now know what to do and will pass it on to you. While kissing her when her blouse is still on, rub your finger along her bra line. If it's smooth all the way across then the clasp is in the front and you won't feel so stupid. If you feel it in the middle of her back while rubbing the bra line then, of course, it has a back clasp. You should remove her blouse before un-clasping her bra.
Next, I want to remove her jeans. I have now learned to tell my ladies to remove them before climbing on the bed; saves a lot of hassle, unless you're a specialist in removing a woman's clothing. I made the mistake a few times of trying to gently remove her jeans while she is lying on the bed. Big, big mistake! Women buy jeans at least one size too small! The jeans look great on them, nice and tight, but they are hell to pull off. Believe me; I've tried more than once. If you can get it over her ass, you might have a chance. I never seemed to be that lucky, as I had to climb up and try to pull the jeans under her ass, scooting each side down about an inch at a time.
You want to do this without pulling her panties off at the same time. You might have to pull her panties and jeans down a little and then kind of pull the panties back up and then back to the jeans again. Hopefully, you were lucky enough to get the jeans down to her thighs. If she has big thighs, you might have to keep scooting the jeans one side at a time. Whatever you do, keep complimenting her on her body, even if she has thunder thighs and stretch marks. Don't ask her to spread her legs - it doesn't sound good. If she doesn't do it automatically for you, then scoot up between them and push her legs apart yourself, but not too far - you still have to get her jeans off.
How to get on the bed:Hopefully, by now your date is naked. Somewhere along the line you should have removed your own clothing. You should usually leave your underwear on till you are ready to expose your big Johnson (cock).
Last year I tried to explain getting on the bed while kissing. A totally bad idea!
I wanted us to fall together on the bed gently like they do in the movies. So I held onto her and kind of pulled her toward me so we could fall together onto the bed. Big mistake! I didn't say anything to her while she lost her footing and fell on me as we bumped heads. It kind of killed the mood since now she needed a couple of aspirin for the headache she was quickly getting.
Another time my date and I were kissing when we fell together on the bed. She sent me her dental bill for the loose teeth she received.
I've never gotten that falling together down right. I tried to fall on the bed by myself over a hundred times so I could explain to the readers the best way to do this. Believe me, there isn't any good way to fall on the bed alone, let alone with a partner. Now I just tell my lady friend to climb on the bed and then I climb on top of her. I can't believe how many aspirin I have saved, and no more dental bills. Of course I might add, if she wants to be on top, that's okay too.
How to use foreplay:Women love foreplay. The first thing and also the main thing to remember is to compliment! compliment! compliment! Women love compliments. I don't care if it's her hair, boobs, belly, feet, toes or nose, compliment her on it. You will be glad you did.
Hopefully your woman should now be lying on your bed with only her panties on. You should climb on the bed and have some foreplay before going much further. Women usually like this unless you are as inept as I was till I started practicing on using foreplay.
Let's talk a little about her erogenous zones. Women have many of them. Most men know about her nipples, neck, lips and the whole vaginal area. There are others that I have found lately and would like to pass on to you.
The shoulders: I can't tell you how many women have let me rub their shoulders. Of course you start there and they may let you massage a lot of other places as well. Women also love to have their feet massaged. Rub the little balls under their toes. After being on their feet all day, they will love you for this. If they have nice cute clean feet, you might consider sucking a toe or two. Of course you will need to check their feet out pretty good before sucking any toes. You have to be the judge here.
One of the newest places I have found that turn women on, is the area between their belly button and their mound. I can't tell you what a hot area this is on most women. I have to admit that this area is a turn on for me too, knowing that I am probably minutes away from pay dirt. Try both rubbing and kissing this area. No matter how big your woman is, this area is a turn-on.
Time to start the foreplay: I was kissing my woman over and over again. I was planting my lips against her taking her breath away. Literally! I didn't know she wasn't able to breath and she started kicking and moving under me. I thought I was really getting her turned on. I was 'Jerry, the super kisser.' I found out she wasn't able to breathe through her nose. I guess I really took her breath away. You might want to ask or at least make the kisses short if you see this happening.
I started kissing her neck like they do in the movies. Again, another mistake! I sucked too hard and gave her a hickey. For those of you who don't know what a hickey is I'll explain. It's sucking hard on her neck or other soft places that leave a bruise. Most women don't want hickeys. It's embarrassing especially if other people see the bruises and she has to try to explain it. If she's married, you might be in 'mucho' trouble.
Kissing and playing with her boobs. This was information I passed along last year but it still holds true. The boobs or breasts are a big misunderstood area. Some women loved them played with. None like them mauled - believe me, I found out the hard way.
Remembering one of my first big breasted women, I couldn't wait to get hold of those big babies and I grabbed them. She screamed out, slapped me and went home. The next lady, I tried to just squeeze them hoping to turn her on. Again, a mistake! She told me I felt like a mammogram machine - you know; those machines that squeeze the shit out of a woman's tits. No woman - and I mean NO woman - wants her breasts squashed, regardless of the size of her boobs.
Here is the right way to do it. I learned after the loss of sex from many women. Don't get your hands near those babies until you have laid some light kisses on them, lots of light kisses. Don't bite! Remember that women do not want sucker bites or any kinds of bites or bruising they might have to explain. Sucking of the nipples are a big "Yes". Women like this - maternal instinct or something - but women love sucking, licking and kissing of the nipples. If the nipples get big, you're doing real good.
If you did the sucking and licking right, you may now gently massage the breasts. I usually get yelled at and slapped by this time or my woman goes home with sore boobs. If you succeeded to this point, then rub and gently massage her breasts and softly touch the nipples. Be damn gentle with the nipples here. She hopefully is getting into it by now and will let you start to squeeze those babies. If she's moaning or groaning, that is a good sign. If she's just lying there you might want to find out why. She may be sleeping or worse - dead. If she is dead, call 911 and go home. You will be considered a freak if you go any further. That was a joke, readers. You have to learn to laugh a little.
Here is some more information I passed along last year. I did get some negative feedback from a couple of women who said most men's bodies aren't attractive either. I totally agree with them. A beer belly or hairy back isn't the most exciting thing for a woman to look at. This is one of the reasons that under no conditions should you say anything negative about the body of your date.
If she has stretch marks or a rather large belly don't say anything negative. If you do, your night will be over. Remember most women's bodies do not look like the ones you see on the big screen or the calendar on the wall. If you look anything like me, be glad that you have anybody that moves lying there in front of you. Close your eyes if you have to, but rub and kiss the belly even if it's not attractive.
Let's keep going. Move your hand into her panties. If she has a pad on, you have a problem. Either you have to go further or get up and go home. At this point you might want to pull her panties off and check under the hood so to speak. If you pull her panties off along with the pad or pulled the string and removed the tampon, you have to decide how bad you want it. If she let you go this far, she definitely wants to do it. So what are you going to do? If you don't fuck her now, believe me, you never will!
These kinds of decisions never have to be made on TV shows.
Let's say she's on her period. Put on a condom and jump her bones. This is what I suggest you do. Use the stupid condom and have fun. If you don't have one or don't like wearing them - and I don't like them - just stick it in as long as you know she is disease free. Blood and cum will always wash off. She'll consider you the man for doing her during this period.
No blood? No problem, she probably wears it for leaks. It only happens in real life. Women laugh, women pee, the pad absorbs it. So, if the pad isn't wet, jump her bones. If the pad is wet, wipe her pussy off with a wash cloth - that's something you never see on TV but it does help. Then proceed to eat her out. Believe me; every woman except the really weird ones likes her pussy eaten out. She may not like to give head but she loves receiving it.
Let's talk a little about oral sex. It's a big decision these days. One thing every man ought to know. If you don't plan on eating her pussy then don't expect her to be giving you any head.
We had a big discussion last year over whether a person with false teeth should keep them in or take them out.
If your woman has false teeth and wants to give you a blowjob, let her remove said teeth. You do not need her to accidentally bite your dick. It hurts and might make it unusable for awhile. The warm gums feel great around it. Don't kiss her till she puts her teeth back in her mouth and maybe even use mouthwash.
I asked for opinions on this and here are a few I received.
"If you have false teeth, leave them in your mouth. It is gross for your date to see your teeth in a glass next to the bed."
"Sorry to say but that last part is a crock of shit. If she has false teeth, under no circumstances should you ask her to take them out. You'll think your dick is in a pussy that's just been fist fucked by a 10 ton truck....it'll be so loose that you won't feel anything. Nothing she can do will change it as without teeth the space in the mouth is so great that no cock can fill it and make it feel good for the guy. Furthermore, her jaws will ache so much from trying to suck and not being able to apply proper pressure...the only way she could; would be if the guy had one of those 14 inches, wide as a beer can cock you mentioned earlier."
"Look DG, I have to tell you. If she has false teeth and takes them off, you're in for a big surprise, not good at all. With no teeth it's impossible to suck properly and the vacuum needed to perform fellatio is absent; furthermore, her jaws will ache like crazy. Believe me, if she has false teeth, let her keep them on. There's no more danger of being bitten then if it was her real teeth."
Personally, if I'm eating a moist wet pussy, I take my teeth out so I can gum it and slurp in all the wet juices. The dentures take away from the feeling that I get. So, teeth or no-teeth, that is the question. As they say on Fox news, "You decide."
How to get that, "Oh, what a feeling":
Last year I said, "Most pussies are really not that pretty. I have seen a lot of them and still get turned on by them, regardless of how ugly they might be."
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and I decided most all pussies are beautiful. Soft, wet, moist, what's not to love? Now the smell is another story. To me, not every pussy smells the same. If you like fish, it will be a plus for you. I know, in all the stories you read the writers are talking about the heavenly smell. It only smells like that when you are at your horniest. At that point every pussy looks and smells great!
A word or two about bushes. Most ladies trim their bushes some, younger ones mainly to trim up the hair for their bathing suit bottoms. On the TV they always look great. At the pool where I hang out, I always see the hair sticking out the sides of their suits. Looks funny but I can't help looking anyway. Of course I'm a pussy hound and the hair doesn't bother me, especially in a dim light. It seems that a number of ladies shave it all off. It's okay but I think I prefer to see some hair down there.
If you see some gray hair on it, don't worry about it. It means she probably knows how to use it. Experience you know is always good. If you get hair between your teeth, try to just remove it without being seen. She usually can't see you over her belly anyway.
Use of condoms is big these days; lots of diseases to worry about. I was watching a lot of porno movies so that I could give you good 'how to' information here. Most of the porn stars are wearing condoms in their films. It kind of takes away from the film but I guess the actors want to live to fuck another day.
I brought this up because in the porno films, they always remove the condom before coming. They jack themselves off on the partners back or ass. Sometimes they have their woman actress slide down and cum all over her face.
Now, a bit more honesty here. That's why I'm writing this how to, to tell you the truth. I talked to a number of women and none of them got anything out of me pulling my cock out of her pussy and coming on her back. Their answer was, "What the fuck?"
Also, I have yet to find the woman that says, "Pull your dick out of my pussy, I'm about ready to orgasm, but go ahead and cum on my face."
Use the condom, fill it up while in her pussy and then dispose of it. You'll both be glad you did.
Some more information from last year. I'm still not big on anal sex.
Ass fucking: It's not for everybody, including me. I've tried it and it really wasn't that good. My partner said it hurt like hell and there was more than one partner I tried it with. If they don't have an enema or some other way of cleaning it out, it smells. I don't know about you but to me shit stinks. I really don't want it on my dick, even though in some of these stories they seem to like the Hershey highway.
For those of you who like anal sex, that's great. I'm not knocking you or your likes and dislikes. I'm just trying to base my opinions and observations here. The first time I ass fucked, I thought my dick was going to blow up. It didn't fit very well. I used all kinds of lube which helped get it in but it hurt me and it hurt my partner. I just felt my time would have been better spent if I put it in a hot wet pussy. No hard feelings for the anal lovers.
I have found out that while fucking from behind, (doggie style) that a finger or two inserted into the anal passage may be a turn-on. For those who want to try it, make sure your fingers are lubed or you rubbed a lot of her juices there first.
Update from a friend: "If a woman lets a man take her in the ass and then shits all over the floor, it's not her fault. So don't hold her responsible - you asked for it. Clean up the mess yourself."
Underwear, for the man, is always interesting. If you expect to get any, make sure you don't have skid marks in your underwear. That is good advice for both sexes. TV and movie people never have skid marks. No woman is turned on by seeing the nicotine stains in your jockeys. Same goes for the guys not wearing under clothing. Shit stains in your jeans aren't so good either.
For the guys, if you don't have underwear on, pull your own zipper down. If any skin gets caught in the zipper, it hurts like hell and your night will be over before it begins. Your lady friend might be in too big a hurry when pulling down your zipper.
By DG Hear
