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Parenting Plans: The Foundation of Co-Parenting After Divorce
In this episode of How to Split a Toaster, Seth Nelson and Pete Wright dive deep into the crucial topic of parenting plans as part of their season-long series, Your Divorce Case. Seth shares his expertise on the essential components of a parenting plan and how they can help establish a solid foundation for co-parenting after divorce.
Navigating the Complexities of Parenting Plans
Seth and Pete discuss the key aspects of parenting plans, including parental responsibility, time-sharing, and addressing the unique needs of children at different ages. They explore how the court determines the best interests of the child using various factors and delve into the implications of relocation cases. The hosts also touch on the importance of flexibility and adaptability in parenting plans while maintaining clear and enforceable guidelines.Questions we answer in this episode:
What are the essential components of a parenting plan?How do courts determine the best interests of the child?What happens when one parent needs to relocate for work?Key Takeaways:
Parenting plans should be clear, unambiguous, and enforceableFlexibility and adaptability are crucial for successful co-parentingSubstantial changes in circumstances can warrant modifications to the parenting planThis episode offers invaluable insights for anyone navigating the complexities of divorce with children. Seth's expertise and Pete's thoughtful questions provide listeners with a comprehensive understanding of parenting plans and how they can help establish a strong foundation for co-parenting after divorce. By tuning in, you'll gain the knowledge and tools needed to create a parenting plan that prioritizes your children's well-being and fosters a healthy co-parenting relationship.
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Schedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here!(00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster(02:10) - PEACE: Parenting Plan(03:08) - Essential Components(05:58) - Legal Terms(07:49) - Determining What’s Best for the Child(11:27) - Weight for the Factors(12:52) - Geography(15:51) - How Detailed?(18:32) - Allowing for Flexibility(20:39) - Modifying It(23:19) - Enforceability(26:18) - Education, Healthcare, Extracurriculars, Etc.(29:14) - Changes in FL Law(31:01) - It’s About the Child, Not You(33:03) - Wrap UpLearn more about the Holiday Harmony: Soberlink's Tools for Safe and Conflict-Free Co-Parenting webinar and sign up to attend right here! It's on Saturday, November 16th, at 9:30a PT.
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Temporary Relief in Your Divorce
In the latest installment of the Your Divorce Case series, Seth Nelson and Pete Wright dive into the complex world of temporary relief. Join them as they explore what temporary relief is, who it helps, who it hurts, and why it matters in the grand scheme of your divorce proceedings.
Navigating the Choppy Waters of Divorce
Seth and Pete break down the concept of temporary relief, a legal lifeline designed to keep families afloat during the tumultuous divorce process. They discuss how temporary relief can address critical issues like parenting plans, alimony, child support, and attorney's fees. The hosts also delve into the pros and cons of seeking temporary relief and the potential impact on the final outcome of your case.
Questions we answer in this episode:
What is temporary relief and how can it help during a divorce?How do you request temporary relief and what can you ask for?What are the potential drawbacks of pursuing temporary relief?Key Takeaways:
Temporary relief can level the playing field in contentious divorcesRequesting temporary relief involves filing motions and attending hearingsSeeking temporary relief can be costly and time-consuming, so weigh the pros and consSeth and Pete emphasize that while temporary relief can provide much-needed support during a divorce, it's crucial to consider the financial and emotional costs involved. They offer valuable insights into the strategic decisions you'll face when contemplating temporary relief in your own divorce case.
This episode is a must-listen for anyone navigating divorce. With their trademark wit and expertise, Seth and Pete provide the guidance you need to make informed decisions about temporary relief and protect your interests during this challenging time.
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Schedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here!(00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster(02:10) - Temporary Relief(03:35) - What It’s Supposed to Do(16:38) - Why to Consider It(17:25) - The Process(20:06) - Pros and Cons(26:06) - Review(27:59) - How Influential(29:47) - Wrap Up(30:03) - Listener QuestionLearn more about the Holiday Harmony: Soberlink's Tools for Safe and Conflict-Free Co-Parenting webinar and sign up to attend right here! It's on Saturday, November 16th, at 9:30a PT.
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Meet the Key Players in Your Divorce
In this seventh installment of the "Your Divorce Case" series on How to Split a Toaster, Seth and Pete dive into the various court personnel and professionals you might encounter during your divorce proceedings. From judges to forensic accountants, they break down the roles and responsibilities of each key player, helping you navigate the complex world of divorce court with greater ease and understanding.
Throughout the episode, Seth and Pete discuss a wide range of court personnel, including trial judges, appellate judges, judicial assistants, bailiffs, court reporters, and clerks of the court. They also explore the roles of professionals outside the courtroom, such as divorce attorneys, paralegals, forensic accountants, guardians ad litem, mediators, and more. By understanding the function of each individual, you'll be better prepared to work with them effectively throughout your case.
Questions we answer in this episode:
Who are the key players in a divorce case, both inside and outside the courtroom?What roles do court personnel and professionals play in the divorce process?How can understanding these roles help you navigate your divorce more effectively?Key Takeaways:
Familiarize yourself with the various court personnel and professionals involved in your case.Understand the responsibilities of each key player to work with them more effectively.Respect and be courteous to all individuals involved, as their actions can impact your case.As part of the "Your Divorce Case" series, this episode is a must-listen for anyone going through a divorce or considering one. By gaining a clear understanding of the key players in your case, you'll be empowered to make informed decisions and work more productively with your legal team. Seth and Pete's insights will help you feel more confident and prepared as you navigate this challenging process.
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Schedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here!(00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster(02:10) - Court Personnel(04:06) - Pop Quiz(10:55) - Appellate Judge(14:04) - Trial Judge(14:45) - Judicial Assistant(15:19) - Bailiff(16:39) - Court Reporter(17:32) - Paralegals, Legal Assistant, Scheduler, Clerk of the Court(18:55) - Mediation(23:22) - Forensic Accountant(26:33) - Corporate Counsel(28:04) - Social Investigator(29:07) - General Magistrate(31:30) - Lawyers(33:13) - Other Roles(38:24) - Wrap UpLearn more about the Holiday Harmony: Soberlink's Tools for Safe and Conflict-Free Co-Parenting webinar and sign up to attend right here! It's on Saturday, November 16th, at 9:30a PT.
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Effortlessly Navigate the Motions Maze in Your Divorce Case
In this sixth installment of our series, Your Divorce Case, Seth Nelson and Pete Wright dive deeper into the world of motions in divorce proceedings. Building upon the foundation laid in Motions Part I, we explore the differences between evidentiary and non-evidentiary hearings, discuss various types of motions you may encounter, and provide valuable insights to help you navigate this crucial aspect of your divorce case.
Seth and Pete break down the key distinctions between evidentiary and non-evidentiary hearings, highlighting the importance of understanding what to expect in each type of hearing. They also discuss common motions, such as temporary orders, restraining orders, and motions to compel, providing real-world examples and practical advice for listeners facing these challenges in their own divorce cases.
Questions we answer in this episode:
What's the difference between evidentiary and non-evidentiary hearings?Do I need to testify at every hearing during my divorce?What are some common motions filed in divorce cases?Key Takeaways:
Always be prepared to answer questions in court, even if it's a non-evidentiary hearing.Evidentiary hearings are like mini-trials, with witnesses, evidence, and cross-examination.Familiarize yourself with the types of motions that may arise in your divorce case.This episode is a must-listen for anyone navigating the complexities of divorce. Seth and Pete's insights and practical advice will help you understand the motions process, prepare for hearings, and make informed decisions throughout your case. Whether you're just starting your divorce journey or in the thick of it, this episode will provide the knowledge and confidence you need to move forward.
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Schedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here!(00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster(02:09) - Motions Part II(02:54) - Catch-Up on Last Week(04:24) - Motions Quiz(14:02) - Evidentiary vs. Non-Evidentiary Hearings(27:24) - What to Expect as the Client(29:50) - When They’re Filed Against Me(36:38) - Next Week: Court PersonnelLearn more about the Holiday Harmony: Soberlink's Tools for Safe and Conflict-Free Co-Parenting webinar and sign up to attend right here! It's on Saturday, November 16th, at 9:30a PT.
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In part 5 of the Your Divorce Case series, Seth and Pete dive deep into the world of motions in divorce law. They explore what motions are, why they matter, and how the right move can dramatically impact your case.
Seth and Pete break down the different types of motions, from motions to compel and for contempt, to emergency motions and motions for temporary relief. They discuss the requirements and strategies for each, sharing insider tips on how to effectively present your case to the judge in the limited time you have.
Questions we answer in this episode:
What are motions and why are they important in divorce cases?How do I get a hearing scheduled for my motion?What types of motions are common in divorce proceedings?Key Takeaways:
Motions are requests for the court to take action before the case is finalizedThoroughly prepare for your motion hearing as time with the judge is limitedUnderstand the specific requirements and procedures for different types of motionsWhether you're seeking temporary alimony, exclusive use of the marital home, or enforcement of a prior court order, this episode arms you with the knowledge to confidently navigate the maze of motions in divorce court. Seth and Pete's expert insights and practical advice make this a must-listen for anyone facing divorce litigation.
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Schedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here!(00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster(02:10) - Motions(03:57) - What Are They?(13:01) - Emergency Motions(14:47) - Motion for Temporary Relief(19:22) - Scheduling a Hearing(27:44) - After the Ruling(35:41) - Next Week: Motions Part II(36:47) - Wrap UpLearn more about the Holiday Harmony: Soberlink's Tools for Safe and Conflict-Free Co-Parenting webinar and sign up to attend right here! It's on Saturday, November 16th, at 9:30a PT.
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Divorce Questions Answered: Navigating the Complexities
In this episode of How to Split a Toaster, Seth and Pete dive into listener questions, addressing a wide range of divorce-related topics. From the financial implications of staying married on paper to the impact of alcohol consumption on custody, Seth and Pete provide insightful guidance to help you navigate the complexities of divorce.
Throughout the episode, Seth and Pete tackle real-life scenarios submitted by listeners, offering practical advice and legal perspectives. They discuss the pros and cons of staying married for financial benefits, the factors considered in relocation cases, and the potential consequences of winning the lottery during a divorce. Seth and Pete also address the emotional challenges of dating during a divorce and the importance of focusing on your children's well-being.
Some questions we answer in this episode:
• What are the financial pros and cons of staying married on paper?
• How does alcohol consumption impact custody decisions?
• Can a judge force a parent to return after relocating without filing?Key Takeaways:
• Timing and legal nuances play a crucial role in divorce proceedings.
• Prioritize your children's well-being and seek legal advice before making decisions.
• Be mindful of the long-term consequences of your actions during a divorce.Whether you're considering a divorce or currently going through one, this episode provides valuable insights and guidance. Seth and Pete's expertise and relatable approach make complex legal concepts accessible, empowering you to make informed decisions. Tune in to gain a deeper understanding of the divorce process and discover strategies to protect your interests and maintain healthy relationships.
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Schedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here!(00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster(02:10) - Listener Questions(02:55) - Married-ish in Malibu(09:17) - Alcohol and Custody(13:20) - Muddled by Moving(16:08) - Lucky Lotto Limbo(18:39) - Longing for Love(21:04) - Pregnant and Perplexed(24:40) - Pension Ponderer(27:03) - Retirement Percentage Perplexed(28:50) - Dissolution Deliberator(31:59) - Sam(33:27) - Family Law Fixer(37:23) - Saddled with Spousal Support(41:11) - Reconciliation Rollercoaster(42:58) - Falsely Accused Father(45:23) - Endless Ex Entanglement(49:55) - Commingled Cash Conundrum(50:24) - Breathalyzer Burden of Proof Puzzled(51:37) - Wrap UpLearn more about the Holiday Harmony: Soberlink's Tools for Safe and Conflict-Free Co-Parenting webinar and sign up to attend right here! It's on Saturday, November 16th, at 9:30a PT.
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Navigating the Complexities of Pleadings in Divorce
In this episode of "How to Split a Toaster" – part three of our Your Divorce Case series – Seth Nelson and Pete Wright dive into the intricate world of divorce proceedings, focusing on the crucial role of pleadings. Seth and Pete aim to demystify the legal jargon and provide valuable insights to help listeners navigate their divorce cases more effectively.
We explore the emotional and legal significance of filing for divorce, discussing the various documents involved, such as petitions, counter-petitions, and answers. They shed light on the importance of properly drafting and filing these documents, as they set the stage for the entire divorce process. The hosts also delve into the nuances of residency requirements and how they can impact the court's jurisdiction over a case.
Questions we answer in this episode:
What are pleadings and why are they important in a divorce case?How can the way pleadings are drafted influence the outcome of your divorce?What should you consider when deciding whether to file for divorce first?Key Takeaways:
Pleadings are crucial documents that set the foundation for your entire divorce case.It's essential to work with your lawyer to ensure your pleadings accurately reflect your goals and desires.Understanding the legal terminology and process can help you make informed decisions throughout your divorce.This episode provides a wealth of information for anyone considering or currently going through a divorce. By breaking down complex legal concepts and offering practical advice, Seth and Pete empower listeners to take a more active role in their divorce cases and work towards achieving the best possible outcome for themselves and their families.
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Schedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here!(00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster(02:10) - Pleadings(03:15) - The Filing(05:40) - A Pleading(06:56) - Petition and Answer and Counter Petition(11:10) - Residency(15:48) - Notice Pleadings(18:03) - Amended Positions(22:43) - Getting Pleadings Right(26:17) - Boilerplate Items(30:38) - When Pleadings are Closed(32:29) - Your Answer(38:25) - Wrap UpLearn more about the Holiday Harmony: Soberlink's Tools for Safe and Conflict-Free Co-Parenting webinar and sign up to attend right here! It's on Saturday, November 16th, at 9:30a PT.
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Navigating the Do's and Don'ts of Divorce
This week on How to Split a Toaster, Seth and Pete dive into the second episode of Your Divorce Case, a season dedicated to providing listeners with practical advice for navigating the complexities of divorce. This episode tackles a critical aspect of the process: your actions. Seth and Pete emphasize the importance of taking responsibility and making conscious choices throughout the divorce journey to minimize conflict, reduce legal fees, and prioritize the well-being of everyone involved.This episode centers around the concept of maintaining the "status quo." Seth and Pete explain the significance of standing orders, which are court-issued guidelines that dictate behavior during divorce proceedings. They delve into various aspects of maintaining the status quo, such as managing finances, co-parenting responsibly, and communicating effectively. From handling credit card spending to navigating shared expenses and making major purchases, they offer practical advice on avoiding common pitfalls that can escalate conflict and legal costs. They also emphasize the importance of clear, respectful communication with your ex-spouse, especially when it comes to children, and caution against involving friends and family in a way that could negatively impact the case.
Questions we answer in this episode:
What are standing orders, and how do they impact my divorce?How can I manage finances responsibly during the divorce process?What are the implications of dating during a divorce?Key Takeaways:
Maintain the "status quo" in all aspects of your life, particularly finances and childcare.Communicate with your ex-spouse clearly, respectfully, and factually, avoiding emotional language.Seek support from a therapist rather than involving friends and family, who could potentially become witnesses in your caseThis episode of How to Split a Toaster is an invaluable resource for anyone going through a divorce. Seth and Pete provide practical advice and actionable steps to help listeners navigate the process with greater clarity, control, and peace of mind.
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BIFF for Co-Parent Communication by Bill EddySchedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here!(00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster(02:10) - Your Actions Matter(04:37) - Standing Orders(05:26) - Financial Status Quo(11:16) - Out of the Ordinary Expenses(14:19) - Standing Orders with Kids(16:40) - Communication Strategies(20:51) - “I believe”(22:30) - Dating During Your Divorce(25:41) - Discoverable(26:32) - Friends and Family(28:31) - Protected Communication(29:35) - Therapist(31:35) - Relocation(36:15) - The Move(42:30) - Documents(44:21) - No Photos(46:17) - Next Time: Pleadings(47:55) - Wrap UpLearn more about the Holiday Harmony: Soberlink's Tools for Safe and Conflict-Free Co-Parenting webinar and sign up to attend right here! It's on Saturday, November 16th, at 9:30a PT.
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In this episode of How to Split a Toaster, Seth Nelson and Pete Wright kick off season 10 with an exciting and in-depth season-long series: Your Divorce Case. In this first episode, we start by diving into one of the most important relationships you'll have during your divorce: the one with your attorney. Seth shares his expertise on establishing the attorney-client relationship, from the initial consultation to the next steps in the process.
Seth and Pete discuss key aspects of working with a divorce attorney, including attorney-client privilege, conflict checks, and what to expect during your first call. They also explore strategies for finding the right lawyer for your case and how having a good attorney on the other side can benefit both parties.
Questions we answer in this episode:
• When does the attorney-client relationship begin?
• What should you expect during the initial consultation?
• How can you prepare for your first call with a divorce attorney?Key Takeaways:
• Attorney-client privilege starts from the moment you believe the attorney represents you, even without a formal agreement.
• Be prepared for conflict checks and providing basic information during your first call.
• Having a skilled attorney on the other side can help resolve your case more efficiently.Seth and Pete's insights will help you navigate the early stages of your attorney-client relationship with confidence. By understanding the process and knowing what to expect, you'll be better equipped to work with your lawyer and achieve your goals in the divorce.
This episode is packed with valuable information that can save you time, money, and stress as you begin working with a divorce attorney. Tune in to learn how to establish a strong foundation for one of the most critical relationships in your divorce journey.
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Schedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here!(00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster(02:10) - The First Call(03:23) - The Attorney-Client Relationship(08:32) - Tracking Conflicts(10:55) - What You Should Expect(14:24) - Conflicting-Out Strategies(17:28) - Goal for This Conversation(22:40) - Cost and Duration(24:16) - Expectations for Second Call(26:14) - Season 10 Plans(28:09) - Checklist(29:43) - Wrap UpLearn more about the Holiday Harmony: Soberlink's Tools for Safe and Conflict-Free Co-Parenting webinar and sign up to attend right here! It's on Saturday, November 16th, at 9:30a PT.
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Learning to Communicate with a Narcissist
Narcissist Divorce Coach Victoria McCooey joins Seth and Pete to talk about the challenges that come when trying to get out of a marriage to a narcissist. It’s not easy! We walk through Victoria’s three stages in communicating with your narcissist soon-to-be ex that can help you more easily navigate this difficult situation through each of its phases.
Victoria has been through her own divorce from just this sort of person and has turned that experience into a powerful mission to help others do the same.
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Victoria McCooey Coaching:on the webon Instagramon Facebookon TikTokon YouTubeSchedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here!(00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster(03:18) - Meet Victoria McCooey(03:49) - Three Phases in Communicating With a Narcissistic Spouse(06:15) - Getting Ahead(07:53) - Turning to Attorney(09:13) - The Stepford Wife Phase(10:48) - Phase Two(11:49) - Learning to Not Take the Bait(17:05) - Taking a While to Get Out(19:01) - Communicating During Divorce Podcast(20:21) - STUFF(22:56) - Other People's Eyeballs(24:15) - Problem With Message or Sender?(26:11) - Kids Are the Priority(27:49) - Asking Lawyer What to Gather(28:46) - Getting Stronger(30:42) - How Will It Be Presented?(31:43) - Phase Three(34:45) - Reaching Out to Victoria(37:58) - Wrap UpLearn more about the Holiday Harmony: Soberlink's Tools for Safe and Conflict-Free Co-Parenting webinar and sign up to attend right here! It's on Saturday, November 16th, at 9:30a PT.
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When you hear the term ‘Custody Battle,’ you have a certain image in your mind. Courtroom fights, crying kids, the worst stereotypes we learn from movies and television. But what happens when you find yourself in a fight for the custody of your kids for real? This week on the show, we welcome Reneé Rodriguez, custody coach and founder of Best Foot Forward, a company with a singular mission: helping parents navigate family court in contentious custody situations.
We talk about perspective – look at what you’re bringing to your lawyer. Are they gripes? Or are they real issues? There’s a difference between the real world and the legal world, and it’s important to know the difference. The goal, of course, is to help you as the parent figure out what’s actually in your best interest. That doesn’t necessarily line up with what you think is in your best interest. The faster you’re able to connect with that, the easier your custody battle will be.
The key in all custody cases is, of course, the kids. How do you protect your kids so they are damaged as little as possible in the process? This is particularly true when trying to get away from a spouse who is a narcissist or abusive.
And the real struggle here is that you have to acknowledge that court-ordered parenting classes rarely make a change in a parent. Courts can’t order parents change to be better parents. But judges are real people. They’re working to help the child end up in the best situation they can.
There’s a lot to discuss about this topic. Tune in!
About ReneéI help parents in a custody battle against a narcissistic co-parent to go into family court and get the custody arrangement that's best for their kids. These women and men have suffered psychological abuse at the hands of their former partners and are working to ensure their children are protected from further cruelty. My company, Best Foot Forward, was founded in early 2018, born out of the encouragement of others to focus on what I had become highly skilled at--navigating family court with my particular strategy and set of templates and sharing all of this with others.
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National Domestic Violence HotlineBest Foot Forward LLCBest Foot Forward’s Custody TemplatesReneé on LinkedIn, Twitter, Instagram, Facebook, and YouTubeSchedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here!(00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster(03:27) - Meet Reneé Rodriguez(04:03) - Custody Battles(08:07) - Important to You vs. The Court(13:18) - Coaching the Parent(15:12) - What's Fair(15:50) - Documentation(19:40) - Buried in Details(21:38) - The Kids(25:43) - What's Kept Them Stable(29:30) - Domestic Violence(38:30) - High Conflct(41:08) - DV Hotline(41:59) - Reneé's Background(50:28) - Best Foot Forward(52:00) - Contentious Cases(53:10) - Wrap UpLearn more about the Holiday Harmony: Soberlink's Tools for Safe and Conflict-Free Co-Parenting webinar and sign up to attend right here! It's on Saturday, November 16th, at 9:30a PT.
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How has divorce impacted your sex life? Have you noticed a difference in intimacy as you move through your separation, dating, and even sex in your subsequent marriages? How has your experience communicating about your sexual interests and experience changed through divorce?
Dr. Joe Kort is a psychotherapist and founder of The Center for Relationship and Sexual Health and a board-certified clinical sexologist. He’s here today to help us navigate the uncertain waters of your post-divorce sex life.
Follow Joe Kort on TikTokThe Center for Relationship and Sexual Health(00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster(03:34) - Meet Dr. Joe Kort(04:39) - The Changing Landscape of Sex(05:24) - The Love Bomb(06:13) - Healthy Sex Conversations(10:16) - Changes in Post-Divorce Sex(11:31) - What Is the Love Bomb?(14:10) - Negotiating Sexual Differences(17:11) - From Relationship to Relationship(18:26) - Finding Yourself(20:02) - Sexual Identities That Change(21:43) - The Taboo of Sex Talk(25:32) - Rebalancing Power in a Sexual Dynamic(27:09) - Profiling Your Partner(30:01) - Different Backgrounds(31:39) - Practice(32:54) - Discussing Previous Sexual Relationships(37:22) - How the First Time Shapes Things(38:43) - Priorities(40:38) - Wrapping Up
Links & NotesLearn more about the Holiday Harmony: Soberlink's Tools for Safe and Conflict-Free Co-Parenting webinar and sign up to attend right here! It's on Saturday, November 16th, at 9:30a PT.
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Let’s just say you’re a woman and you’re about to divorce. We know, crazy, right? But stay with us on this. When you walk away from your marriage, what is it that you most want your former spouse to know? If you could wave a magic wand, not to somehow recover your relationship, but to cast a spell that would ensure that your former spouse truly understood your perspective, what would you say?
This week on the Toaster, Michelle Dempsey-Multack joins us from the Moms Moving On Podcast and she is here to wave just such a wand. She has turned her own divorce into a thriving practice, writing, podcasting, and coaching others. And after we talk about the value of that shared perspective, we dive deep on the importance of finding your own community for support and guidance through your divorce process.
Moms Moving OnGet Michelle’s new book, Moms Moving On: Real Life Advice for Conquering Divorce, Co-Parenting with Conflict and Becoming Your Best SelfSubscribe to Michelle’s Podcast(00:00) - Hot Toaster Summer!(03:01) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster(03:28) - Our Guest: Michelle Dempsey-Multack from the Moms Moving On Podcast(04:23) - Perspective Shift(06:46) - How You Speak About Your Ex(10:29) - Viewing the New Person in Your Ex's Life(16:23) - Normalizing Therapy for Men(24:56) - The Value of Communities(28:34) - Working to Keep the Relationship With Your Ex Positive(31:35) - Specific Divorce Community vs. Friend or Family Groups(32:55) - Learning to Be Alone(37:38) - Where to Find Michelle
Links & NotesLearn more about the Holiday Harmony: Soberlink's Tools for Safe and Conflict-Free Co-Parenting webinar and sign up to attend right here! It's on Saturday, November 16th, at 9:30a PT.
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In this season finale episode, Seth and Pete explore the concept of emotional capital in divorce with experienced matrimonial and family law attorney Al Feigenbaum. They dive into how preserving emotional well-being during and after a divorce is crucial for effective co-parenting and moving forward in life.
The conversation touches on the importance of attorneys being attuned to their clients' mental health, the impact of the pandemic on divorcing couples, and how lawyers' own emotional capital can be affected by their work. Al shares insights on managing difficult conversations with clients and the pitfalls of getting overly emotionally invested as a divorce attorney.
Questions we answer in this episode:
• What is emotional capital in the context of divorce?
• How can your emotional state impact divorce outcomes?
• What role should a divorce attorney play in addressing a client's mental health?Key Takeaways:
• Preserving emotional capital is crucial for effective co-parenting post-divorce
• Attorneys need to be mindful of how their own communication can escalate emotions
• It's important for attorneys to set boundaries and manage difficult client conversationsThis episode is a must-listen for anyone navigating a divorce who wants to understand the importance of emotional well-being in the process. Seth, Pete, and Al offer valuable perspectives on how to approach divorce in a way that prioritizes mental health and sets you up for a positive post-divorce future.
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Schedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here!About Alan R. Feigenbaum | Blank Rome LLPInstagram (@nonlinearlovestories)Visit NonLinear Love and share your story(00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster(03:59) - What is Emotional Capital?(08:47) - Mental Health(20:17) - Financial Impact of Emotional Disregulation(28:02) - Nonlinear Love(33:19) - Learn More(34:44) - Listener Questions(34:59) - How does Greyson's Law impact those who have already gone through the courts but evidence was not submitted?(36:39) - Where does the 50/50 split line get drawn?(38:55) - Can I be forced to take a breathalyzer?(39:43) - Are there tax implications associated with our divorce filing date?Learn more about the Holiday Harmony: Soberlink's Tools for Safe and Conflict-Free Co-Parenting webinar and sign up to attend right here! It's on Saturday, November 16th, at 9:30a PT.
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In this listener question episode, Seth and Pete address a variety of concerns that many individuals face when going through a divorce or considering ending their marriage.
The hosts dive into topics such as dating during the divorce process, fighting for your marriage, handling unresponsive attorneys, and the potential impact of changing laws on no-fault divorces. They also discuss the differences between equitable distribution and alimony, inheritance laws in Florida, and how to approach property appraisals during a divorce.
Questions we answer in this episode:
How should you handle dating before your divorce is finalized?Can the divorce process actually save a marriage?What should you do if your attorney is unresponsive and hasn't filed important documents like your QDRO?Key Takeaways:
Equitable distribution deals with the division of assets and debts, while alimony is based on need and ability to pay.In Florida, inheritance maintained as separate property is generally considered non-marital and not subject to equitable distribution.When seeking a property appraisal, focus on finding a reputable and qualified appraiser rather than trying to manipulate the outcome.It’s an information-packed episode with questions sent in from listeners, and also from listeners who have used our chatbot on the website. Those questions are valuable too, so if you have questions of your own, make sure you get them asked and we’ll do our best to answer them in an episode for you.
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Reach out to Andy to practice dating while going through your divorceReach out to Matt Lundy to see if he works in your state regarding QDROsSchedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here!(00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster(02:10) - Listener Questions!(02:35) - Question #1(04:40) - Question #2(08:01) - Question #3(12:10) - Question #4(15:57) - Question #5(20:23) - Question #6(22:29) - Question #7(27:22) - Question #8(33:21) - Wrap UpLearn more about the Holiday Harmony: Soberlink's Tools for Safe and Conflict-Free Co-Parenting webinar and sign up to attend right here! It's on Saturday, November 16th, at 9:30a PT.
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Navigating Post-Divorce Relationships with Wendi Dumbroff
In this episode of How to Split a Toaster, Seth and Pete welcome Wendi L. Dumbroff, a licensed professional counselor and highly trained couple and sex therapist. The conversation centers on the challenges of maintaining civility and communication with an ex-spouse, particularly when children are involved.
Seth and Pete explore the intricacies of post-divorce relationships, seeking guidance from Wendi on how to manage the emotional terrain while prioritizing the well-being of the children. They discuss the significance of redirecting negative energy, establishing clear communication goals, and discovering ways to be heard and validated during the difficult divorce process.
Questions we answer in this episode:
How can I communicate effectively with my ex when emotions are running high?What can I do to maintain a cordial relationship with my ex for the sake of our children?How do I handle the feelings of resentment and anger towards my ex-spouse?Key Takeaways:
Prioritize your children's well-being and use that as motivation for maintaining civilitySet clear goals for your communication and ensure your messages align with those objectivesAcknowledge your feelings while finding ways to avoid reactive behavior that could escalate the situationThroughout the episode, Wendi offers valuable advice on reframing perspectives, understanding triggers, and doing the necessary personal work to navigate the challenges of post-divorce relationships. Seth and Pete provide relatable examples and insights, making this an engaging and informative listen for anyone grappling with divorce-related communication issues.
Plus, we tackle not one but two listener questions!
Links & Notes
Visit Wendi’s Website or find her on LinkedIn, Twitter, Instagram, or FacebookSchedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here!(00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster(02:10) - Meet Wendi L. Dumbroff(02:42) - The Draw to Getting Along with Your Ex(08:13) - Civility During Resentment(09:37) - Help When in the Thick of It(13:16) - Reminding Yourself It’s for Your Kids(16:15) - Correcting Yourself when Angry(22:39) - Being Heard(24:18) - Finding the Right Goal(28:58) - When You’re Damaging the Process(30:42) - Action Steps(33:09) - Finding Wendi(33:29) - Listener Question #1(39:31) - Listener Question #2(42:31) - Wrap UpLearn more about the Holiday Harmony: Soberlink's Tools for Safe and Conflict-Free Co-Parenting webinar and sign up to attend right here! It's on Saturday, November 16th, at 9:30a PT.
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Navigating the Complexities of Military Divorce
In this week's episode of How to Split a Toaster, Pete is joined by a special guest, Kristin Scully, the newest member of NLG Family Law Group. With Seth on vacation, Kristin steps in to share her expertise on the intricacies of military divorce. As a family law attorney with over ten years of experience, Kristin has developed a niche in handling military divorce cases, addressing issues such as pension division, parenting plans, and jurisdictional challenges.
Pete and Kristin dive deep into the unique aspects of military divorce, discussing how factors like frequent relocation, deployments, and military benefits can complicate the process. They explore the misconceptions surrounding military pension division, the importance of understanding the service member's income structure, and the creative strategies for crafting parenting plans that accommodate the demands of military life.
Some questions we answer in this episode:
How is military pension divided in a divorce?What challenges do military families face when creating parenting plans?Can GI Bill benefits be divided in a military divorce?Key Takeaways:
Military pension division is based on the length of the marriage overlapping with years of service, not just the total duration of the marriage.Parenting plans for military families should include provisions for long-distance and local schedules to minimize the need for constant modifications.Jurisdiction can be a complex issue in military divorces, especially when one spouse is stationed overseas.Plus, we tackle another listener question! A listener asks about the difference between a social investigator and a Guardian Ad Litem (GAL) in the context of divorce proceedings. Pete and Kristin clarify the distinct roles and responsibilities of these professionals, helping listeners understand when and why each may be appointed in a divorce case.
This episode is a must-listen for anyone navigating the complexities of a military divorce. With Kristin's extensive knowledge and experience, listeners will gain valuable insights into the unique challenges and considerations involved in these cases. Whether you're a service member, a spouse, or a legal professional, this episode will provide you with the information and strategies you need to approach a military divorce with confidence and clarity.
Links & Notes
Check out Kristin’s pageSchedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here!(00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster(02:13) - Kristin Scully and Military Divorce(02:57) - Kristin’s Background(03:46) - Challenges in Military Divorce(04:50) - Military Pension(06:22) - Other Misconceptions(07:24) - Who Pays Pension?(09:06) - Alimony(10:40) - Thrift Savings Plan(11:36) - Calculating Service Member’s Income(14:06) - Parenting Plans(16:16) - When Parents Can’t Work Together(17:34) - Navigating Constant Change and Conflict(19:14) - Court’s Perspective(20:21) - GI Bill(22:07) - Common Mistakes(25:29) - Overseas Courts(26:58) - Listener Question(31:35) - Survivor Benefit Plan(35:21) - Language in Final Judgment(36:08) - Wrap UpLearn more about the Holiday Harmony: Soberlink's Tools for Safe and Conflict-Free Co-Parenting webinar and sign up to attend right here! It's on Saturday, November 16th, at 9:30a PT.
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Navigating High Net Worth Divorce with Patrick Kilbane
In this episode of How to Split a Toaster, Seth and Pete dive into the complexities of high net worth divorce with special guest Patrick Kilbane. As a wealth advisor and former family law attorney, Pat brings unique insights on how to think about your money before, during, and after divorce, especially if you fall into the high net worth category.
Seth and Pete explore key financial considerations in high net worth divorces, such as dividing complex assets, understanding tax implications, and planning for your long-term financial future. Patrick shares his expertise on helping clients make informed decisions that align with their goals, even during the emotionally challenging process of divorce.
Questions we answer in this episode:
How do you think about money during and after a high net worth divorce?What are common financial blind spots for high net worth individuals going through divorce?How can a wealth advisor help navigate the complexities of high net worth divorce?Key Takeaways:
It's crucial to understand the long-term financial implications of divorce settlement decisions.Working with a wealth advisor can empower you to make informed choices about your future.Dividing assets in a high net worth divorce requires careful consideration of tax consequences.This episode is a must-listen for anyone facing a high net worth divorce and looking to make smart financial decisions. Seth, Pete, and Patrick offer valuable insights and practical advice to help you navigate this challenging process and set yourself up for long-term financial success.
Links & Notes
Patrick’s book Move Forward ConfidentlyVisit Patrick on the web or LinkedInSchedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here!(00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster(02:10) - Meet Patrick Kilbane(03:45) - Patrick’s Background(06:28) - How to Think About Money(12:30) - What Usually Happens in High Net Worth Cases(13:22) - Sophistication Gap(18:21) - Leeway in Framing Items in Affidavit(22:48) - Common Questions(33:55) - First Things to Do(41:04) - Long Term Incentive Plans(43:59) - Patrick’s Book and Contact Info(46:55) - Wrap UpLearn more about the Holiday Harmony: Soberlink's Tools for Safe and Conflict-Free Co-Parenting webinar and sign up to attend right here! It's on Saturday, November 16th, at 9:30a PT.
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Communicating with a New Partner After Divorce
In this episode of How to Split a Toaster, Seth and Pete explore how to effectively communicate with new partners after divorce. They're joined by Dr. Etel Leit, a human communication researcher, prominent figure in psychology and education, and founder of Sign Shine, a family center in Beverly Hills. The conversation focuses on breaking old patterns and learning to relate to new partners, especially when communication issues contributed to the end of a marriage.
Seth, Pete, and Dr. Leit dive into the importance of self-reflection and awareness before entering a new relationship. They discuss the fantasy of a perfect future partner and the need to address what went wrong in the previous marriage first. Dr. Leit introduces her concept of the "3 Vs" crucial for a successful relationship: Vibe, Values, and Vision. She explains each in detail, offering valuable insights into how these elements contribute to a strong partnership. Additionally, Dr. Leit shares the "3 As" essential for effective communication: Awareness, Acceptance, and Action.
Questions we answer in this episode:
How can I avoid repeating negative patterns in a new relationship?What are the key factors for a strong, lasting partnership?How do I know if I'm ready to date again after divorce?Key Takeaways:
Self-reflection and awareness are essential before entering a new relationshipShared values and vision are crucial for a successful partnershipEffective communication, built on awareness, acceptance, and action, is vitalThis episode is packed with practical advice and thought-provoking ideas to help you navigate the world of dating and relationships post-divorce. Whether you're considering a new partnership or already in one, Seth, Pete, and Dr. Leit's insights will give you the tools to build a stronger, healthier relationship.
Links & Notes
Find Dr. Leit on the web here or here, Instagram, or LinkedInSee Dr. Leit’s books onBarnes & Noble or AmazonSchedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here!(00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster(02:10) - Meet Dr. Etel Leit(03:35) - Old Patterns of Communication(05:55) - Clean Your Water(06:52) - Shifting Mindset Post-Divorce(11:25) - Three Vs: Vibe, Values, Vision(22:49) - Choosing the Same Type(24:43) - New Relationships(31:44) - Three As: Awareness, Acceptance, Action(38:16) - Finding Dr. Leit(40:31) - Listener QuestionLearn more about the Holiday Harmony: Soberlink's Tools for Safe and Conflict-Free Co-Parenting webinar and sign up to attend right here! It's on Saturday, November 16th, at 9:30a PT.
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Parenting Across Dimensions with Tim McCarthy
In this episode of How to Split a Toaster, Seth and Pete explore the topic of parenting and how to be a better parent before, during, and after divorce. They are joined by special guest Tim McCarthy, educator, writer, and grand master in the martial arts. Tim's unique perspective on integrating Eastern philosophy into Western approaches to parenting provides a fresh take on the parent-child relationship.
Seth, Pete, and Tim dive deep into the concept of four-dimensional thinking and how it applies to parenting. They discuss the importance of being present as a parent and engaging with your children across the physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual dimensions. The conversation touches on practical ways to connect with your kids, from shared physical activities to fostering curiosity and problem-solving skills.
Questions we answer in this episode:
How can I be a better parent during and after divorce?What are some practical ways to connect with my kids?How do I help my children process the emotions of divorce?Key Takeaways:
Being present is the most important thing you can do as a parentEngage with your children across physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual dimensionsFoster curiosity and problem-solving skills in your kidsSeth and Pete also explore the emotional challenges children face during divorce and how parents can support them. They discuss the importance of not leaning on children emotionally and maintaining positive co-parenting communication.
This episode is packed with insights and practical tips for parents navigating the challenges of divorce. Whether you're currently going through a divorce or simply looking to strengthen your relationship with your children, this conversation with Tim McCarthy offers valuable wisdom and actionable strategies.
Links & Notes
Find Tim on his site!Schedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here!(00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster(02:10) - Meet Tim McCarthy(03:32) - Parenting Across 4 Dimensions(07:03) - Divorce at the Expense of the Kids(08:59) - Physical Dimension(13:21) - Mental Dimension(17:06) - Emotional Dimension(20:50) - Spiritual Dimension(22:09) - Ages and Manipulation(24:51) - Communication(26:16) - Teaching Kids to Care(28:08) - Returning to Spiritual(32:10) - Compartmentalizing to Find Your Blind Spots(33:57) - Finding Tim(34:44) - Listener QuestionLearn more about the Holiday Harmony: Soberlink's Tools for Safe and Conflict-Free Co-Parenting webinar and sign up to attend right here! It's on Saturday, November 16th, at 9:30a PT.
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