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When we're dating someone new, the rush is electric. The pull towards sex can feel immediate, an almost magnetic urge to rip each other's clothes off.
But as the years stretch on and the demands of life ramp up, sex becomes just one more activity on a chaotic checklist; competing with the demands of chores, kids and sleep.
And when the urge does strike, it's intimacy vs. doom scrolling in bed, and somehow, the phone wins every time.
Yumi Stynes meets women who are trying to wriggle free from a sex rut and carve out time for more and better sex. Plus, sex therapist Georgia Grace shares advice on how to bring sexual intimacy back into the bedroom.
This episode will answer questions like:
Why do people have less sex in a long-term relationship?Why is my partner distant?Can romantic relationships survive without sex?How can I reignite my sex life?Should I see a sex therapist?What is phubbing?What to listen to next:
Relationship resuscitation — coming back from the brink — ABC listen
Is your attachment style messing with your love life?
One true love or many: Monogamy vs. open relationships
What to read next:
Why these women have never had a partner
The joys of having babies in your 40s
This episode contains references to sex, relationships, intimacy, pleasure, technoference, avoidance
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Botox, vampire facials, bone smashing and now cadaver fat fillers: the beauty industry is expert in selling extreme (and painful) treatments in our endless pursuit of perfection and eternal youth.
For years, Jess DeFino worked at the heart of this machine as an assistant editor for the Kardashian family. She saw firsthand how the goalposts of beauty are constantly shifting, making it out of reach, no matter how much time, money and energy we pour in.
Now Jess is calling bullsh*t on the beauty industrial complex and the ever more bonkers methods being employed.
This episode will answer questions like:
What is looksmaxxing? How do beauty standards change over time? Do children need skincare? Is the beauty industry growing? What’s it like to work with the Kardashian-Jenner’s Why is skin care so expensive? Is the beauty industry designed to make you buy more? Can you trust skincare reviews? Is the beauty industry built on insecurity?What to listen to next:
Botox and fillers – facing up to the new normal
How pop culture messed us up, with Sophie Gilbert
Is your attachment style messing with your love life?
One true love or many: Monogamy vs. open relationships
What to read next:
Why these women have never had a partner
The joys of having babies in your 40s
This episode contains references to beauty, looksmaxxing, beauty industry, Kardashian, Jenner, Clavicular.
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We live in a sexed-up world. From chiselled fictional teenagers in steamy high school dramas to Sabrina Carpenter’s innuendos, it feels like everyone’s doing it. But what happens when adulthood arrives and you're still a virgin?
Plenty of women haven’t had sex. Some are waiting for the right person, some are waiting for marriage, and some haven't had the opportunity.
Virginity has gone from being something women were expected to protect to something they feel they have to explain. So how do we ditch everyone else's expectations and figure out what we actually want? Yumi Stynes speaks with women navigating adulthood without sex.
Featured in this episode:
Amanda McCracken, writer on love and limerenceThis episode will answer questions like:
How does it feel to be an adult virgin? What’s dating like as a virgin? Why do some people wait to have sex?What to listen to next:
Building a village means showing up even when it feels hard, says Esther Perel
How swapping a husband for a wife made this economist better off
The power of one: the single ladies owning it
Why are we exercising less than men?
What to read next:
Why these women took marriage sabbaticals — and how it went
Building a village means showing up even when it feels hard, says Esther Perel
This episode contains references to sex, sexuality, dating, relationships, virgins, religion, shame, psychology.
This episode was originally broadcast in April 2024. (R).
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Love bombing. Gaslighting. Coercive control. Narcissists can crash into your life on the charm offensive. They begin with intense affection, compliments and grand gestures. But behind that charm can be manipulation and intense criticism. In the worst cases, they control every aspect of their partner's life.
It’s disorienting to be with a narcissist, and often people with narcissistic traits have very little insight into their behaviour. Yumi Stynes chats to women who’ve been in love with narcissists to understand what got them under their spell and why they're so difficult to leave. Plus, clinical Tamara Cavenett explores what you can do to protect your emotional state within a narcissistic relationship, and how to get out safely.
If you need help:
1800 Respect national helpline1800 737 732
Women's Crisis Line1800 811 811
Lifeline131 114
Relationships Australia1300 364 277
This episode will answer questions like:
Am I in a relationship with a narcissist? How do narcissists behave in romantic relationships? How can you find out if your partner is a narcissist? What is Narcissistic Personality Disorder? How can you prepare to leave a coercive relationship?What to listen to next:
Are you mum or grandma? Having a baby at 47
I love you but I hate your politics
Is your attachment style messing with your love life?
One true love or many: Monogamy vs. open relationships
What to read next:
Why these women have never had a partner
The joys of having babies in your 40s
Why these women took marriage sabbaticals — and how it went
This episode contains references to dating, marriage, sex, narcissist, control, coercive relationships, empathy, Narcissistic Personality Disorder, mental illness.
This episode was originally broadcast in October, 2023. (R).
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For all her life, Chloe Hayden, star of Heartbreak High, has struggled to get doctors to take her health complaints seriously. And she’s not alone.
Autistic women have poorer physical and mental health than neurotypical people. From shorter life expectancy to higher rates of suicide, anxiety, eating disorders, and substance abuse. In this episode Grace speaks to autistic women about being misunderstood and misdiagnosed and the toll this has taken on her health. She also investigates the root causes behind these co-occurring conditions and how medical and social systems can better support autistic women and girls to be healthier and live their best lives.
Listen to more from the Autistic AF with Grace Tame series:
Either I'm autistic, or I'm a cat
Girls don't get autism
The relationship spectrum
Watch the first episode on ABC Australia YouTube.
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"It can be difficult…when your approach to socialising and relationships doesn't look like what other people might expect."
There's a long-held stereotype that autistic people are not empathetic and aren't interested in relationships. The reality is that, like everyone, autistic women and girls want connection, they may just come to it in different ways. In this episode, Grace looks at how autism and relationships intersect, from friendships and partnerships to parenthood. She also explores what autistic women bring to relationships and what becomes possible when they stop pretending to be "normal"?
Listen to more from the Autistic AF with Grace Tame series:
Either I'm autistic, or I'm a cat
Girls don't get autism
The health gap no one talks about
Watch the first episode on ABC Australia YouTube.
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For decades autism was thought of as a "boy thing" and girls were overlooked by science. According to research, three boys are diagnosed with autism for every girl. While experts point to genetic differences, there are other reasons why girls often go undiagnosed, including their ability to mask their autistic traits, leading to what's referred to as the "female autism invisibility cloak". In this episode, Grace meets women and gender diverse people who have been diagnosed with autism later in life or are still waiting. She also speaks to neuroscientist Dr Gina Rippon about what the latest research has to say.
Featuring The Assembly's Bethany Woodman.
Listen to more from the Autistic AF with Grace Tame series:
Either I'm autistic, or I'm a cat
The relationship spectrum
The health gap no one talks about
Watch the first episode on ABC Australia YouTube.
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"It's only been in recent years that I've had a public platform and people have asked me specifically about being autistic."
In the first episode of this special four-part series, Grace Tame speaks candidly with Yumi Stynes about her experiences as an autistic woman, from feeling on the outer and being labelled "weird" to experiencing the world in "high definition".
In this exclusive interview, Grace opens up about the ways that she fought her own brain, using alcohol and masking to try and fit in. She also reveals how exploring relationships with women has been a "profound shift".
After sharing her own story, Grace takes over hosting duties for the rest of the series, speaking with experts and other autistic women to find out why so many women are misunderstood and diagnosed late.
Watch on ABC Australia YouTube
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"I was bullied for being quirky… I would have these very intense special interests."
Join Australian of the Year Grace Tame for a special four-part take over of Ladies, We Need to Talk as she meets leading experts in autism research and connects with other neurodivergent women to get a better understanding of what life is like as an autistic person, beyond the stereotypes.
Autism comes wrapped in a lot of stigma and misunderstandings. Grace knows this firsthand. She struggled socially as a kid before finally getting a diagnosis in her late teens. Grace's experience isn't unique, with girls far more likely to get a late diagnosis than boys. So, what's going on? Why did science leave girls behind for so long, and at what cost?
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The female orgasm deserves better PR. Straight women are climaxing way less than the men they are banging (by about 35%). We know this but what can we do about it?
Medical research has focused on male bodies and male pleasure for too long and it's time we got a smart woman on the case. Enter renowned professor of Obstetrics and Gynaecology, Dr Lori Brotto, who is changing the game for women's sexual health. Dr Lori shares her deep understanding of female anatomy and psychology and cutting-edge research on how to climax.
This episode will answer questions like:
Can women climax during penetrative sex? How do women orgasm? What happens physiologically during women’s orgasm? Why can’t I orgasm? Can women have a premature orgasm? Should sex be painful? Does menopause affect sex? Should I get a vibrator? How can I improve sexual pleasure?What to listen to next: Great sex: What we wish men knew
Is your attachment style messing with your love life?
Is everyone having better sex than me?
One true love or many: Monogamy vs. open relationships
What to read next:
Why these women have never had a partner
The joys of having babies in your 40s
Why these women took marriage sabbaticals — and how it went
This episode contains references to orgasms, sex, partners, relationships, dating, open relationships, menopause, sexual dysfunction, pornography, mindfulness, anorgasmia, vaginismus.
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You've found your person, but you can't stand their politics. Awks! It's a phenomenon that's been on the rise in the last 30 years. Around the world, women are increasingly leaning left and men right. In 2022, 50% of Australians voted for a different political party than their partner.
Having different preferences to your partner is a given. But political views can get under our skin in ways that can threaten the entire relationship. So how do you manage, say, if you’re a greenie and your husband is a raging capitalist? What if you’re a carnivore and she’s a vegan? And can you have a fulfilling relationship when you’re misaligned at the ballot box?
Some couples sweep their disagreements under the rug, some couples erupt in heated arguments at dinner parties, while others are pushed to breaking point. Yumi Stynes meets the women who’ve fallen in love across the political divide and how they’ve navigated the highs and lows.
This episode features:
Associate Professor Cynthia Peacock from the University of AlabamaThis episode will answer questions like:
How much does politics matter in relationships? Can you have a great relationship and disagree on politics? What makes someone more likely to be in a politically dissimilar relationship? How does politics impact relationships? Are younger people more likely to be in politically different relationships? Are people happier if they share the same political views as their partners?What to listen to next:
Antoinette Lattouf opens up on fight with the ABC
Is your attachment style messing with your love life?
Are men stealing our exercise time?
Family Feuds: Is estrangement the new normal?
What to read next:
Why these women have never had a partner - ABC News
Two mums on having babies in their 40s
This episode contains references to relationships, dating, politics, division, left wing, right wing, partners, looksmaxing, progressive, conservative, Gaza, Israel, conflict, war, news, Voice to Parliament, Ben Shapiro, Jordan Peterson.
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In December 2023, Antoinette Lattouf was asked to leave ABC Sydney. Since that day, her life has never been the same.
A seasoned broadcaster, she was part way through a week-long stint hosting local radio. Behind the scenes however, a coordinated lobbying effort was underway to have Antoinette taken off air.
The flashpoint was a Human Rights Watch post she shared on her personal socials. Soon after, she was told to collect her bags and leave.
But Antoinette refused to accept the decision, taking the ABC to Federal Court for unlawful termination. Inside the court room, her life was pulled apart in forensic detail. Outside it, the press scrutinised every move and outfit.
In her first interview back in the building, Antoinette sits down with Yumi Stynes to unpack the legal fight, who gets to speak and who gets silenced, and her next chapter, starting an independent Australian media company with journalist Jan Fran.
Antoinette Lattouf's book Women Who Win is published by Penguin Books Australia.
Content Warning: this episode contains discussion of suicidal ideation.
This episode will answer questions like:
What happened to Antoinette Lattouf?Why did Antoinette Lattouf leave the ABC?Did Antoinette Lattouf win her court case?What is Ette Media?What is Antoinette Lattouf doing now?What did Antoinette Lattouf post?What to listen to next:
'I'm leaving you,' Belle Burden's husband became a stranger overnight — ABC listen
Parenting blind, with Nas Campanella — ABC listen
Julie Goodwin finally has the recipe for happiness — ABC listen
What to read next:
ABC ordered to pay $150,000 fine for unlawfully sacking journalist and presenter Antoinette Lattouf — ABC News
Why these women have never had a partner
The women staying single by choice in a world of relentless dating pressure
This episode contains references to: ABC, media, legacy media, independent media, Australian legal system, Antoinette Lattouf, Jan Fran, Ette media, Women who win, Gaza, middle-east conflict, Israel, Lebanon.
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Mid-life is hard enough, but what happens when you add a baby to the mix?
The average maternal age has been creeping up over the past twenty years, with more women than ever becoming first time mums in their 40s, delaying motherhood to build careers, travel, find the right partner, secure housing, or navigate infertility.
Having a baby later in life can be exhausting. Sleep is elusive, many women are edging perimenopause and the risks to both mother and baby can increase. Then there's the judgement — the sideways looks, the inevitable question: are you the mum or the grandma?
Yumi Stynes meets two first time mums who fell pregnant in their mid-40s to talk about the challenges and the joys of being an older mum.
Plus women's health expert Dr Karin Hammarberg weighs in on the risks- and rewards- of waiting.
This episode will answer questions like:
Can I get pregnant after 40?Can you get pregnant when you're 45?Why do women delay getting pregnant?Should I wait to get pregnant?What are the chances of getting pregnant over 40?What is a geriatric pregnancyIs it harder to get pregnant after 40?What to listen to next:
Surrogacy: why women carry babies for others — ABC listen
Is your attachment style messing with your love life? — ABC listen
Felicity Ward on motherhood, depression and a sexual rebirth — ABC listen
Last shot pregnancy — ABC listen
What to read next:
Why these women have never had a partner — ABC News
The surprising health benefits linked to having a baby at 35 and older — ABC News
This episode contains references to pregnancy, dating, marriage, babies, toddlers, children, conception, TTC, sex, IVF, in vitro fertilisation, motherhood, donor eggs, maternity, parenthood, cancer, geriatric pregnancy, Advanced maternal age, pregnancy after 40, fertility after 40, Hilary Swank, Gisele Bundchen
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Is monogamy a tired social contract — or a deeply meaningful way to build a life with someone you love? Is opening up your relationship an act of honesty and freedom, or just another complicated commitment in an already overbooked life?
Roll up, Ladies, as monogamy and Ethical non-monogamy go head-to-head. Arguing in favour of fidelity is comedian and Deadloch actor, Nikki Britton. Meanwhile, sex therapist, Aleks Trkulja goes in to bat for ENM.
Will one relationship style prevail?
This episode will answer questions like:
What is Ethical non-monogamy?Should I open my relationship?Was Lindy West in an open marriage?Are there rules in an Non-Monogamous relationship?How can I date more than one person?Is monogamy the same as marriage?Is ENM the same as Polyamory?What to listen to next:
What we need men to know about sex — ABC listen
Is your attachment style messing with your love life? — ABC listen
Is everyone having better sex than me?
The case against hookup sex with Hannah Ferguson — ABC listen
What to read next:
Why these women have never had a partner — ABC News
The women staying single by choice in a world of relentless dating pressure
What happens to your sex life during perimenopause?
This episode contains references to dating, monogamy, non-monogamy, heterosexuality, ethical non-monogamy, ENM, polyamory, sex, relationships, orgasms, partnerships, tinder, bumble, Hinge, dating apps, ghosting,
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The uterus is central to womanhood: it's the baby house, and allows for menstruation. So, what's it like to have it removed?
Each year around 30,000 Australian women have a hysterectomy — to relieve pain, to treat cancer, or as part of gender affirming care.
The path to surgery isn't always straightforward or quick. It can involve years of heartache, confusion and BS from specialists. But for most women, a hysterectomy is a game changer, bringing lasting relief and restoring quality of life.
Yumi Stynes speaks to women who've a had hysterectomy and finds out what led to their decision and what life is like on the other side.
Plus, gynaecologist and endometriosis specialist Dr Pav Nanayakkara explains the reasons we might need to get a hysterectomy, how to navigate the side effects of having your reproductive organs removed and whether we can still achieve the big O post-surgery.
Helpful resources:
Ausralian Endometrosis FoundationJean Hailes FoundationThis episode will answer questions like:
What is a hysterectomy?Why do people get a hysterectomy?What are the different types of hysterectomy?What happens after a hysterectomy?Do I need my uterus?Will a hysterectomy cure my adenomyosis pain?Will a hysterectomy cure my endometriosis?Did Lena Dunham get a hysterectomy?What to listen to next:
"Where the hell is my husband?" Women who've never had a partner — ABC listen
Will we ever have a cure for endometriosis? — ABC listen
The new way to date — ABC listen
Family Feuds: Is estrangement the new normal? — ABC listen
You can binge more episodes of Ladies, We Need to Talk on the ABC listen app (in Australia) or wherever you get your podcasts.
What to read next:
Why Kate chose to 'stay flat' after breast cancer surgery — ABC News
Why these women have never had a partner — ABC News
This episode contains references to hysterectomies, hysterectomy, uterus, medical misogyny, surgery, ovaries, gender affirming care, relationships, orgasms.
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Ever been called too clingy? Or felt overwhelmed by your partner's needs? Blame your attachment style!
Attachment theory is a cornerstone of modern psychology; chances are you've read about it in Attached or spent hours spiralling on TikTok as you tried to identify your attachment style and what it means for your relationship.
The theory breaks our attachment styles into three main categories: anxious, avoidant and secure and suggests that the way we're raised shapes how we show up in relationships.
We might hold on too tight, we might shut down and reject our partners, or if we're lucky, we might embrace open honest communication and feel secure.
Yumi Stynes is joined by Clinical Neuropsychologist Dr Hannah Korrel to unpack your questions on love, relationships and conflict.
Further information:
Dr Hannah Korrel is a Neuropsychologist who runs the Sydney Neuropsych clinic.
Her book How to break up with friends is publish by Impact Press.
This episode will answer questions like:
What is attachment theory?What are the different attachment styles?How do attachment styles affect relationships?What is my attachment style?Can attachment styles change over time?What to listen to next:
Relationship resuscitation — coming back from the brink — ABC listen
The new way to date — ABC listen
"Where the hell is my husband?" Women who've never had a partner — ABC listen
Family Feuds: Is estrangement the new normal? — ABC listen
You can binge more episodes of Ladies, We Need to Talk on the ABC listen app (in Australia) or wherever you get your podcasts.
What to read next:
Why these women have never had a partner
The women staying single by choice in a world of relentless dating pressure
This episode contains references to attachment, attachment theory, attachment styles, family, relationships, arguments, conflict, avoidance, anxiety, security, attached, dating, parenting, love
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The Beckhams know about it. Hilary Duff's been through it. Harry and Meghan could write a handbook. Family estrangement is brutal, but when there's a rift, can it be repaired?
Beyond the celebrity headlines, the "no contact" movement has been gaining traction online as children cut themselves off from their parents, parents find themselves out in the cold and rigid boundaries strain what's left of family bonds.
In this episode, Yumi Stynes talks to women who've been through the pain of family estrangement. She finds out what led to the rift and how letting go can be a form of healing.
You'll also hear from clinical psychologist Dr Kayla Steele with tips on navigating family break ups – from learning how to move on or figuring out how to mend a broken relationship.
This episode will answer questions like:
Why does estrangement happen?What should I do if I've been cut off?Is it ok to go "no contact" with a family member?How can I talk to a family member who's estranged?How can I move forward?What to listen to next:
Where's my village? Esther Perel on how to build community
Emotional labour with Rose Hackman — ABC listen
Embracing imperfection was the key to Astrid's success — ABC listen
The price of perfectionism — ABC listen
You can binge more episodes of Ladies, We Need to Talk on the ABC listen app (in Australia) or wherever you get your podcasts.
What to read next:
Building a village means showing up even when it feels hard, says Esther Perel
Why these women took marriage sabbaticals — and how it went — ABC News
What loving someone with an addiction or dependence can look like
The dark side of being a perfectionist
This episode contains references to estrangement, grief, dishonesty, loss, illness, family, depression, anxiety, relationships, arguments, confrontation, isolation, alienation
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Comedian Felicity Ward started having the best sex of her life after the worst time in her life.
After years of fertility struggles, Felicity finally fell pregnant at 38. But being a mum to a newborn wasn't the Instagram highlight reel she'd imagined. Felicity wrestled with perinatal depression, zero sleep and a loss of identity…and then she became a single mum.
At 40, Felicity was dating again but her expectations were low. She reluctantly joined the apps and started swiping…and what was on the other side amazed her. Felicity found a babysitter for her toddler and sexual liberation for herself.
Yumi Stynes sits down with the professional funny woman, dancing with the stars contestant and star of The Office for a deeply personal chat about starting over, rediscovering confidence and how the best sex of your life may yet be ahead of you.
The Sydney Comedy Festival runs from Monday April 13 — Sunday May 17 where Felicity Ward is performing I wish I could come out of my shell on April 25
If you need help:
Lifeline Australia 13 11 14
PANDA National Helpline 1300 726 306
Gidget Foundation 1300 851 758
This episode will answer questions like:
What does it feel like to have perinatal depression and anxiety?Is it ok to be tired after having a baby?Can I ask for help after having a baby?How to have good sex in your 40sWhat should I ask new mums?What are the treatments for perinatal depression?What to listen to next:
Great sex: What we wish men knew — ABC listen
Queers are meant to have kids — ABC listen
Body image and babies with Turia Pitt and Sophie Walker
Where's my village? Esther Perel on how to build community
You can binge more episodes of Ladies, We Need to Talk on the ABC listen app (in Australia) or wherever you get your podcasts.
What to read next:
Why these women took marriage sabbaticals — and how it went
Building a village means showing up even when it feels hard, says Esther Perel
Why Kate chose to 'stay flat' after breast cancer surgery
Why genital herpes does not mean the end of your sex life
This episode contains references to perinatal depression, divorce, pregnancy, child birth, sex, dating apps, newborns, motherhood, comedy, comedians
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Life as a perennially single woman can be lonely. Coupled-up friends often too busy to catch up, family constantly asking "So, have you met anyone yet?" What's a gal to do?
The truth is, we live in a world that celebrates coupledom. And while there are women who love the single life, for others being called to the front to catch the bouquet at every friend's wedding is painful.
Yumi Stynes meets three women who have never been in a serious relationship. They've tried it all, psychic readings, blind dates, even auditioning for MAFs, but their true love has never materialised.
In this episode, you'll hear from women who keep their relationship hopes alive but prioritise their peace, ditching the dating apps for a life of independent travel and a table with a view and no one to steal your fries.
This episode will answer questions like:
Do I need a partner?Should I travel alone?Do I need a partner to freeze my eggs?Is therapy helpful?What to listen to next:
Building a village means showing up even when it feels hard, says Esther Perel
How swapping a husband for a wife made this economist better off
The power of one: the single ladies owning it — ABC listen
Why are we exercising less than men?
What to read next:
Why these women took marriage sabbaticals — and how it went
Building a village means showing up even when it feels hard, says Esther Perel
This episode contains references to sex, dating, relationships, egg freezing, Married at First Sight, reality TV
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Narelda Jacobs and Karina Natt announced their pregnancy online. Then came the trolls.
The pair were over the moon about starting their rainbow family but were pulled back down to earth by the haters who said that they had "no right" to have children as a gay couple.
Their response was to write and release a satirical book for adults called 'If Queers weren't meant to have kids.' The book is a celebration of the queer community and raising a child with your chosen family.
The couple sat down with Yumi Stynes for a joyful conversation about the mechanics of conceiving using the turkey baster method and raising a child with three loving parents.
Narelda Jacobs is a Whadjuk Noongar journalist and presenter on Network 10 and Karina Natt is a former lawyer and journalist who works in media and communications.
This episode will answer questions like:
Who are Narelda Jacobs and Karina Natt? How do you ask someone to have a baby with you? How do you get pregnant in a same sex relationship? What is the turkey baster method?Can you choose your family?What to listen to next:
Building a village means showing up even when it feels hard, says Esther Perel
How swapping a husband for a wife made this economist better off
Why are we exercising less than men?
What to read next:
Why these women took marriage sabbaticals — and how it went
Building a village means showing up even when it feels hard, says Esther Perel
This episode contains references to sex, conception, pregnancy, trolling, online bullying, homophobia, chosen family, village
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