168 | Learn to Do Life the Momprenista Way and Balance Faith, Family, and Business: A Conversation for Midlife Women with Lori Templeton

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Hi friend! Welcome back to the Life Coach BFF Show with your host, Heather Pettey! Today, we're diving into an inspiring conversation with Lori Templeton, an award-winning entrepreneur, wife, mom of 4, faith-based business mentor, speaker, investor, and proud momprenista!

Lori and her husband have a remarkable journey, acquiring and scaling three different businesses while homeschooling their four kids. Today, Lori is here to share her insights on balancing marriage, family, and business, all while making an eternal impact.

Meet Our Guest: Lori Templeton Join us as we welcome Lori Templeton, a seasoned entrepreneur with a heart for empowering women to pursue their dreams. From humble beginnings to multi-million-dollar success stories, Lori's journey is nothing short of inspiring. Now, she's on a mission to introduce the world to the Momprenista way, showcasing how women can thrive in both their personal and professional lives.

Key Discussion Points

Embracing the Momprenista Lifestyle: Lori shares her vision of empowering women to excel in marriage, family life, and business endeavors, all while leaving a lasting legacy.

A Faith-Based Approach to Entrepreneurship: Explore the intersection of business and spirituality with Lori, as she unpacks the biblical principles guiding her entrepreneurial journey.

Decoding Success with the CODE Method: Lori introduces us to her signature method, emphasizing the importance of purpose, operational efficiency, destiny design, and execution for achieving a harmonious lifestyle.

Crafting High-Impact Systems: Discover Lori's strategies for creating efficient systems that drive success both at home and in the business world, especially for driven moms.

The Empowerment of Christian Women in Business: Is it permissible for Christian women to aspire to greatness in the business world? Join the conversation as we explore this thought-provoking topic with Lori.

Thank you for tuning in to today's episode of the Life Coach BFF Show! We hope you found inspiration and practical insights from Lori Templeton's journey as a momprenista. Remember, it's possible to pursue your passions, build a thriving business, and leave a meaningful legacy—all while embracing the Momprenista way!

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When we were born, we were born with that purpose carved into us. Right? Go back and look at Jeremiah like, God had to remind Jeremiah who he was, you know? Yes. And so we have to be reminded who we are because the instant we hit this world, we start becoming someone different.

Hello, beautiful. Welcome back to Life Coach BFF show. I'm your BFF and your host, Heather Pettey. I'm so happy you're here . You are just in time for a conversation with Lori Templeton. She is an award winning entrepreneur, faith based mentor, speaker, investor, and Momprenista. Lori enjoys showing women that it is possible to have a marriage, a family, thriving business, growing bank account and the eternal impact you know you were created for.

She presents a biblical view of entrepreneurship and business. I cannot wait to get to this conversation. Here we go.

[00:01:00] Life Coach BFF show with me, your friend Heather, because we all need a BFF to take this journey called Life With. This is a podcast for midlife women who want to remain sane and find joy while parenting teens. We're living with purpose and determination to get all the goodie out of life, because I believe God made the goodie for His people, you and me.

So hop aboard this train of intention, come and sit on my porch and rest, or pop in your earbuds and let's take a walk together. I'm just so grateful you're here.

Hi, Lori. Welcome to the show. I'm so happy to have you today. Hey, thanks so much for having me. I'm excited to be here. Yes, this is going to be a fun time because you are talking about one of my favorite topics, Lori. And it is all about being a mompranista. Yes, yes. So how did you become a [00:02:00] mompranista?

Tell me a little of the history on this. So I have been an entrepreneur. I've been traveling and speaking since I was 16 years old. And so I had a nonprofit organization that God basically built up and it's been an amazing experience. But doing business before you have kids. Yeah. And doing business after you have kids, it's totally different.

Right. And so, yes, Lori is like change so much. And then, you know, shifting from one kid to two kids, to three kids, to four kids, like the rules just are always changing. Right. Yes. And so it's like, how do I continue doing what I know that I feel called to do? And function in this new role as a mom. Right? So it was a very trusting phase in my life.

I will say that because I'm on the road with a toddler, a newborn. We started going on the road at three weeks old, right? [00:03:00] Through the baby in the back. And here we go. So I'm traveling with a newborn all the way up through toddler. Years and I'm trying to figure out like, what is it? How do I function in this role?

How do I put things in place where he still feels me as a very present mom. And I'm still impacting the world the way that I feel that I'm supposed to be doing it. And so that's how things started changing. I started realizing that I needed to look at things differently and put things in place differently for how I was going to lead my life.

Not only that business, but future businesses that we would then have as a mom, as a mom of one, as a mom of two, three, and four. So that's how kind of everything got its start. And then there was a whole bunch of other stuff, which we'll, I'm sure we'll talk about all that, but yeah. So at what point, cause I feel like I was explaining this to my daughter who is 26, just had her first baby.

She's married. And so we're new grandparents and thrilled about this. But I was telling [00:04:00] her, I said, you know, when you were, she's my firstborn, when you were about nine weeks old, I looked in the rear view mirror and I thought, well, we were in the car and I thought, I can do this. Was there a moment, you know, you had this newborn on the road that you, you know, you're overwhelmed, you're trying to speak, make sure you're there, the baby is taken care of, that you just went, I'm going to be able to do this.

I, yeah, absolutely. I think from that first time that we were on the road at three weeks old, that I was like, Hey, this is going to be a breeze. I can do this, but let me tell you about that trip. Let me tell you how much that trip ebb and flowed. Okay. So we left on that trip. Everything was great. I had his time, his feed times down.

Right. So we go on this trip and I figure out that if I leave my house, we were going to Lexington, Kentucky from Tennessee. And if I leave my house, I can get to this point and stop and feed him. And then [00:05:00] he'll sleep again. And I can make it like one stop is all we need. And I can make it to Lexington. And it was great.

It worked perfectly. And I was like, I have the snail down. I can totally do this. Like that was a breeze. And even like So I was pumping during, you know, presentation sessions that time. And you know, the pumping room worked out and everything on the way back on the way back, the kid is in the back screaming his lungs out.

And I'm going, I know I just fed him. What in the world is happening right now? Like I made it to my stop. He ate we're good. Right. I know. I have this timed out. So then I stopped again. I checked his diaper. I made sure nothing was going on. Everything was fine. He just wanted to nurse again. And I was like, all right.

So then I put him back in the car seat and we started going again. And then he starts screaming again. And I'm like, what in the world? No one told me about growth spurts. This was my first kid. This was 12 years ago. I'm a first time breastfeeding mom, right? No one told me about growth spurts. I didn't know that wasn't in my knowledge base.

And so this [00:06:00] poor kid is screaming in the backseat, starving, and I'm limping home basically in the car just going, we can make it, we can do this. I know we can do this. But from the span of that trip, I went from, Oh, this is going to be amazing. I can absolutely do this to, Oh no, this is not going to work.

And I even thought I had a system down pat for that. Like, You know, and in that moment is when I realized that being a mother would forevermore change the landscape of how life would ebb and flow. Yes. And I mean, and that is true about all seasons of life. What you just described, you know, you think I've got this, I've got this.

And then you're like, no, I don't. And you have to do a refresh and get back on track. You talk about the biblical view of entrepreneurship and business. And so tell me how that's shaped your life and your business. So I think that what has [00:07:00] happened in this world is we've really went from a place of looking at entrepreneurship and business from through a through a lens of, I'll say, you know, success used to be defined by a theology aspect and a psychological aspect, right?

That used to be how we looked at success. And today we don't do that anymore. We've completely removed any type of, you know, theology. From the idea of success from the idea of business. And so, but when we look at the business world and we look at the Bible and we compare the two, like the first book about business was the Bible.

Like when you start to dig in and you see where God weaved entrepreneurship and how he put his mark on that and what he wanted for his kids and for us to walk forward in, then you start to realize that , the Bible is more of a relational book. And you need to look at it through not only a [00:08:00] theological lens, but an economic lens and a relational lens, like all this matters.

And you have to have everything in context to fully understand what God is saying and all of that. And so when you start to put all of that in context, you realize that we're all called to be entrepreneurs. We all have a gifting on our lives, right? When you dig back to the Hebrew, 2. 10, and you get back to the Hebrew of that, it says, that he carved a purpose, purpose is for you to discover and to rise up into. And so that is something that we really get to discover, rise up into and walk in. Yeah. I love that. And you know, back in the Bible days, if you weren't an entrepreneur, you would just starve to death. I mean, you had to be. Right. And, you know, we can look at how even going back and looking at the Proverbs 31 woman, like we've completely adulterated all of that.

Right. She, she was [00:09:00] an entrepreneur. She was doing things like that in her family. And you see a model when you can look through scripture and you can see a model of women who were serving in the home with other women, and you see them learning from the older women in the home, how to function and how to lead.

They're not just learning how to care for kids and how to care for them. They're also learning how to lead in a business. They're learning how to lead in an entrepreneurial endeavor and a gifting that they have. And then they're walking out into the world and they're becoming valued members of society.

And we're missing that right now, Lori, we're missing that. Absolutely. Absolutely. We don't have, I mean, we operate on pride right now. Right. Yes. And so we, and I wore this, I wore the super mom badge of honor so hard for so long. Right. And so we have this thing where we're like, Oh no, I got it all super mom here and I'm going to.

Right. Right. You know, I'm going to conquer and , I'm going to do all the things instead of saying, no, [00:10:00] actually this is where my strength is and I need help here, here, here, and here. And then we try to find people, whether that is a young woman in our church or whether that is someone that we're hiring outside help or someone in our family to bring in to our atmosphere and say, Hey, you know, Learn this with me, do this with me and let's raise you up to be an impactful woman in the kingdom of God.

Yes. And you know, years ago, and I've talked about this before, you know, we had quilting bees, women would get together, they would quilt, they would can vegetables and fruits together. They would help each other, give parenting advice, marriage advice. And we're not seeing that. And I don't know if part of it, I think that What you just said is so profound and it's a pride issue.

And my mother has even said, about young adults, you know, you would think that they were hatched. Like they don't think they need [00:11:00] parents. It just, it's like a, I don't know what's going on, Lori. It's it's a lot about how our society has just went in a direction where we have so much feeding our subconscious these days and like everything you put into your subconscious.

So you have your conscious brain and your subconscious brain, right. And which is bigger, your subconscious brain. Right. And so it's more powerful. Your conscious brain makes up about, you know, We'll say 20 percent to be generous. And the other 80 percent is made up by your subconscious brain. And so when you have access to so much TV, to so much social media, to so much, you know, just messages from the world that are coming at you, then.

Your subconscious is so filled with all these ideas and you don't even know which direction to go. And you think you have so much figured out because there's so much information there. And you don't, you don't have anything figured out, especially as a young person, you don't have anything figured out.

You just [00:12:00] have a bunch of information in your head with no life lived and no experience there. Yeah. So true. And I mean, at 52, Lori, I'm going to be honest. I find myself saying to my mother, tell me what to do.

It's, you know, we miss a generation and I think, you know, our generation was really kind of that last generation of, we had a little bit of that rebellious spirit, but we also still had the, no, we want the family. No, we want the involvement. No, we want that. And we were the last generations really, I think that wanted that.

And so now, you know, everyone would just rather be an introvert and be by themselves, you know, and I'm not saying introvert is bad, but at the same time, you have to not have that as it, you can't, it can't masquerade as a pride issue. And it does in a lot of ways. Huh. Yeah. Okay. Let's talk about your code method, Lori.

I can't wait to hear about this. So [00:13:00] basically you, when you look at how God put everything together and you go all the way back to Genesis and you look at everything, and then you look from, at his, his, his, his, his, his, Alphabet, right? So you have, if you say from A to Z, right, and you have the olive in the top at the end, right?

So you have olive at the beginning and actually it goes this way, it goes olive and top, and then you have the men in the middle and everything in that is a code for life. So you basically, it represents the beginning of life and the end of life and the middle and everything flows from life in the middle, right.

From beginning to end. And so everything in the universe is coded by the father. And so. He was like, I have a code for everything and you need a code for your life. And I was like, Oh, that's amazing. How do I get that? What's that look like? And so he started, like, I started walking through things and he said, Ephesians 2 10, like you have a calling and a purpose on your life.

And so that's what the C is for. And you have [00:14:00] a calling and a purpose and you get to discover that and rise up into it. And I think a lot of times, especially in, so I had a lot of time in the offline world. Right. And that's where a lot of my stuff came from. And so my time in the offline world was spent consulting and coaching with local small businesses and nonprofits.

And then God said to come into the online world. And I'd stayed out because I saw it as really kind of fake, you know, a lot of gurus want to tell you what to do and they had no experience. And so I didn't want to associate myself with that. And so I stayed out of that for a long time. And so. Then God's looking at this and he's saying, like, you have a calling and you have a purpose and you get to walk out and step into this and you're supposed to rise up into it.

And so then I go out and I start looking in the online space and I'm seeing all this stuff and everybody's talking about imposter syndrome and, you know, shiny object syndrome and all this kind of stuff. I'm like, there's reasons that we have that. Yeah, [00:15:00] right. It's because we don't have a code. It's because we don't have things in place and we don't have things dialed in and we don't understand our purpose and who we are.

And so we see someone go, Oh, I made a million dollars with this over here. And we go, Oh, I want to do that too. How do I do that too? Right. And so we start running toward it. And it's like, no, no, you have a purpose. You have a gifting. Let's first. Figure out what that is. And then if it can operate in that million dollar thing over here, then that's really cool.

We'll step into that, but so many people are chasing the wrong things. They're chasing the wrong dreams and they're not operating in who they're, who they're made to be. And so, yeah, that's, that's the seat you're calling in. Your purpose matters a hundred percent, like you can't scale what you're not dialed into, right?

So if you want to be a multimillion dollar entrepreneur, but you're not dialed into who you are. Then forget it because we're not going to be able to scale that. So, and that can, you can be purposed to be a plumber, right? Like you can be purposed to be a hairdresser or you can be purposed to speak on stages to [00:16:00] millions of people.

Like there's so many things out there that matter. So, and then with the, oh, that's operations and systems. And so we have to have that not only in our businesses, we have to have it in our homes as well. And so one of the number one things I find when I start working with other businesses is that they don't have systems in place.

And so. Like entrepreneurs don't, especially entrepreneurs in the online space. I'll say that, like we don't start a business and go, Hey, I'm going to start this business and maybe I'll sell it one day. That that's not in our thought mindset at all. Right. And so we don't set up that business in that healthy way.

Whereas if you set up a business. With the idea that one day you could sell this business, then you're setting that business up in a healthy way, because it means you have systems and procedures in place that you could go to Hawaii for a month and your business could still run without you. Right. And so we just, we don't do that.

And so then you have all these entrepreneurs that are just, you know, running around on the hamster wheel all the time because [00:17:00] they don't have any procedures or systems in place. And so and, but that matters in so many people, this is where I get, so when I started speaking about this, this is where all the moms run up to me and are like, tell me how to do what you do, right?

Because not only do I have systems, we own multiple businesses. And so not only do I have systems in those businesses. I have systems in my home as well. So if you walk into my home and you're my friend, and let's say, you know, let's say it's hit the fan, right? And all of a sudden I've got a whole sick household, but you want to come and you want to bring me a meal, you know, and you want to help me out by doing laundry or something like that.

And, but then you run in there and you go, Hey, Lori, how do you wash your towels? Or how do you do these clothes? Or how do you do, is that going to be more or less stressful on me? Right? Like you came to help and that's fantastic. And I love that, but it's still going to be stressed because I'm still going to be like, I'm the only one who [00:18:00] knows how to do anything.

And I'm, you know, I'm the one still having to tell everybody how to help me and how to fix this. Versus if you take something that's and laundry is not overall that important for a lot of people, right? Like it doesn't matter except don't shrink my sweaters, right? Yeah. It's important to me, Lori. But like you know, it matters.

We're in Florida right now. We travel between Florida and Tennessee. And so we're in Florida right now. And so it matters down here, right? Like, don't, don't get towels out of the dryer that are still damp because then they're going to Have that mildewy smell and that's gonna be nasty because we have all the humidity and stuff, right?

So there are things that do matter. And if I don't have something in place for that system, then I'm going to get frustrated when I find towels that were taken out of the dryer and still wet. Right. So I literally have a list on the wall in my laundry room of daily, this gets done. You know, these get done.

get done this day. Towels get done this day, you know, whatever. And then you filter [00:19:00] things in throughout. But I also have a manual there that tells exactly how I want my laundry done. And so no one should have to ask me anything. And that's what we teach, you know, our businesses, when you're doing something, you actually have a manual open on your screen.

You're following that. And there should be no mistakes because you're following that. Like you open up this manual and you see how I want my laundry done. And that helps you. And it helps me because then I'm not stressed out, but there is a procedure for everything. In my home so that I can do what I need to do.

And that way my husband knows how he can help out. My kids know how they can help out people who work in my home, know what they can do. People who visit, right? So if you have in laws or sisters or friends who have their own ideas about how things should be done, you know what I mean? We all have those people, [00:20:00] right?

I have written down how I want things done. And they can go by that and it makes it so much easier. It saves relational conversations and frustrations and everything. So it helps the communication in your home between you and your spouse, like the level of, of treating your home, like you're running an organization and managing it at that level matters so much to the peace in your home.

So yes, I agree. That's operations and systems. And then the D is your design destiny and what you want to look like. We all have a destiny in our lives. We all have somewhere that God wants us to end up and he wants us to end up at our kingdom destiny. But so many of us neglect that. And so when we step back and we look at what our purpose is and how that aligns with where we want to end up and where he wants us to end up, and we say, Okay, well, no, I actually want my life to look like this because I want to be serving in this [00:21:00] manner, and I want to be impacting people in this way, and I want this for my family and this for my kids.

And when you can look at that, you can actually start to design out a destiny that is kingdom centered. And it brings about so much progress because you have a vision and you're not aimlessly going, oh, well, I need to make X amount of money to pay my bills or I need to do this to do that, you know, and you're going in a direction that is.

Keeping Jesus at the center all the time, which matters a hundred percent. And then E is execution and accountability. And I think that's where a lot of us fail in a lot of ways is we don't actually execute what we've learned and what we've done, because we don't know how to put all that into place and how to step out and do that.

Yeah. Well, and I have a lot of theories on why people don't execute, but why do you think women, because I just did a whole podcast episode on [00:22:00] waiting women , they wait on , all circumstances to be perfect. You know, they wait on the kids to graduate. They wait until retirement. , why do you think women don't execute?

Because we don't understand who we are. We don't understand who we are in the kingdom. We don't understand who God created us to be. And we try to live out to, or live up to other's expectations and ideas of who we're supposed to be. And so that stifles us in a lot of ways from being able to execute. And, you know, people will say all the time.

Oh, well, no, I'm very confident. And I, I'm not fearing anything at all. I don't operate in fear. Okay. Well, let's play a little game. If you knew that you wouldn't fail at whatever you're doing, Right. Like if you said, there's no way that this can fail. If you knew it was going to be a hundred percent successful, would you step into it and do it?

Well, yeah, I knew it was going to, then there's fear there and you have to figure out what your fear is. And a lot of times that fear can come from trauma that [00:23:00] we don't even know about. That fear can come from, you know, things that people have said to us or about us. Or their ideas, because everything, go back to that subconscious, right?

Everything that is in there has come from somewhere else. When we were born, we were born with that purpose carved into us. Right? Go back and look at Jeremiah like, God had to remind Jeremiah who he was, you know? Yes. And so we have to be reminded who we are because the instant we hit this world, we start becoming someone different.

Everyone starts giving their ideas. We're raised by people in this world and so everything about who we were created to be changes. And we don't realize that changes. Other people don't realize they're changing us because they're well intentioned, right? But everything about who we were created to be changes.

And then we have to fight to get back to that. And we don't even realize that we have to fight to get back to that. It is so true, [00:24:00] Lori, what you just said was so good. And I always think about, you know, when you're in a sporting event, there inevitably, there's always a little girl down at the bottom of the bleachers who has wiggled her way away from her parents and she is dancing and cheering and doing cartwheels.

And I mean, she has her own party going. Yes. And I always think, look how free she is to be herself. And like you said, we all came here that way. Yeah, but it's outside forces that change us. And yeah, we have to get back to that person. So what is, what's one bit of advice that you give women to take them back to that, their original self is what I like to say.

Yeah, well, what you just talked about is actually one of the things that I use. So when you talk to psychologists, psychiatrists, you know, people way smarter than me. But when you talk to people like that, what they'll tell you is that there are studies done and [00:25:00] Around the age of three, before the age of five, we'll say that, but around the age of like three or four, that is when you're the most yourself because you don't care about anyone else's opinions right now.

So that's why you see that little girl down there dancing and being the center of attention and, you know, twirling around because that was who she was created to be. You see that in her, right? But then around the age of five, something happens. And we start to, our brain shifts and we start to care about what other people think.

And so that's actually one of the things that I tell people to do in all of our stuff is go back, go back and think about who you were as that little girl. What stories do people tell you about your life? Who did they tell you that you were? What, what did you enjoy? What activities did you do? What, who did you, what did you say you wanted to be?

You know, what games did you play? Think about all of [00:26:00] that and then find a common theme because I guarantee you there's going to be a common theme in all of that. And you'll discover more about who you were made to be. Now there's other stuff that goes along with that, but that's a starting point to discover more of who you were created to be.

What did you do as a child, Lori? I'm so curious. Like when you look back, what is one thing that you did that Has determined who you are now. So I was the little girl that when they had the penny March at church, like I grew up small town girl. I grew up going to a little country Methodist church, right?

Little white church, picket fence, all that stuff. And they did this thing called a penny March. And I would go around and collect pennies from all the adults. And then you take it up to the front and you put it in the little white church bank. And so I would go up there, but before I would give my pennies to the pastor, I would say, okay, I have a story to tell you about dah, dah, dah, dah, dah, dah, dah, dah, right.

And my parents were sitting back there going, right. But I was [00:27:00] that center of attention kid. And then, you know, I remember going and getting my. Boom box. Right. And the little microphone that attached to it, whenever family would come in and I would be singing my little preschool songs and whatever else at family reunions, you know, and be the center of attention, you know, and so I was always doing things like that.

And so I look back on that and I realized that I was absolutely made. To be in front of people. I was made to have that presence. I was made to make an impact on people through my words and my voice and what I'm able to do, but I didn't own that for a lot of years. And that was because there was some trauma in my life.

There was some abuse in my life. And so once that starts happening, you start to question who you are, right? And that changes the landscape of your future. And then you have to figure out how to get back to, you know, Who you were created to be. And so it's [00:28:00] taken a lot of years for me, right? To be able to get back to a point where I was able to go and speak even, and, you know, to be able to do and share what I felt like I was supposed to do.

Yeah. Yeah. And I think that's so relatable to so many women. The story that you just told. It's very relatable. So let's talk about I'm switching gears on you because that's what us women with ADHD do. So let's talk about. Making money as women. And I coach so many women who are afraid to make money. They feel for like, for some reason, they don't deserve to make money.

They feel like others will look down on them. If they're making this income, they fear the way their relationship will change with their spouse. What are your thoughts on this? So again, this goes back to, we've completely 31 woman in a lot of ways. And we've completely adulterated the Christian Jesus.

[00:29:00] And I'll just, I'm just being real. This is me coming out, you know, I'm real and raw. If y'all haven't figured that out, like that, that's how I roll. But your God is your father, right? Yahweh, Abba, I am who I am, whatever you, you call him, right? Creator of the world. He is your father being a parent. Is it your desire that your kids struggle through their lives, not being able to pay their bills, not knowing where the next paycheck is going to come from, not being able to eat healthy food that they want to eat?

Is that your desire as a parent? for them to be that overwhelmed all the time. No, it's not right. That's, that's not your desire for them. So then is it the father's desire for you? Right. But then we go and we look and we're like, okay, well, it says here that. You know, the [00:30:00] rich don't inherit the kingdom of heaven.

Well, I can't be rich then because I want to go to heaven. Right. And it says that Jesus became poor for me. And you know, you have to understand context. You have to look at the Bible through a contextual lens and understand what's being said there. And so one of the biggest things that I tell people that seems to blow people's mind is Jesus wasn't poor.

Jesus wasn't poor. He had his ministry, like, financed in one move, basically. When, you know, and I think, Again, your world, the things around you have impacted your beliefs and your ideas. So at Christmas time, when you see the three wise men out there and you see them with their little gifts in their hands, you know, gold, frankincense and myrrh, and you're like, Oh, okay.

They brought him. No, they didn't. They didn't bring him little gifts. They brought him wagons full of stuff like you had [00:31:00] kingdoms sending riches to the king. They knew a king was born. And when you look back at those timeframes and you see how they bestowed gifts on one another, you realize that, Oh wow, Mary and Joseph became very wealthy.

They were already wealthy, but that's a whole nother story for another day. But Mary and Joseph became very wealthy. And that move right there. Right. And, and then you realize that, well, if Jesus wasn't poor, Oh, why am I walking around here struggling in the name of ministry and in the name of doing things for the kingdom and you know, whatever else.

And so I think that's the first mindset shift that you have to make. It's realizing that God has no desire for you to be poor. He has no desire. I mean, look, Jesus told a parable about given talents. Right. Yeah. And when you recoup those talents, when you get the most bang for your buck, when you use your gifts and talents to be able to turn that money into more, that's [00:32:00] where the reward was.

And so he took that other and gave it to the guy who was like, yeah, I did all the things and I got all the money. Right. So you have to understand. That that's not God's desire for you. And you have to understand that the idea of the kingdom is wealth. Like there was gold in the garden of Eden. And a lot of people will go, when you start talking to them about this, they'll be like, Oh, that's prosperity gospel right there.

No, it's not. It is a not, it is gospel truth. It is biblical truth. And when you dig into the Hebrew and you dig all the way back and you see how God set up his kingdom. And then when you understand an honor and a shame society, you look at things in a whole different way. And it will blow your mind when you start seeing all the pictures put together.

Of the kingdom of God. Well, I mean, I think God made the diamonds for his people, the rubies, the Emeralds, those are all for his people. Lori. [00:33:00] It, it all is like all the wealth and the riches of the world are for us. The problem is, is that his people don't rise up and take them because we've been sold and I'm.

In the world of, you know, Christianity speaking and, you know, churchianity and everything else. I mean, that's just, I'm just being real. Like we've completely misinterpreted scripture and we've led people down a different path than where they needed to go to fully understand what God would want for his kids.

What would he really want for his people? And then, you know, we, as women look at it and say, well, you know, we have all these struggles and all these insecurities and you add everything else on top of that. And all of a sudden we're just going to be this meek, mild little woman, and we're just going to shy back and we're not going to do anything, you know?

But that's not what God wants for you. And so when you go back to that little three year old [00:34:00] girl and you discover who you were created to be, then you start to realize that your future and your family dynamics can look a whole lot different when you become who you're created to be. I love that, Lori.

I just, I love the way you think. I do. I love the way you think there's so many people that I hope will hear this conversation and women in the ministry. I've seen it and heard it firsthand from all these women who that that's their expectation. Yes, it is. It's a sacrificial. And I'm not saying we're not supposed to sacrifice, right?

But there's, there's an understanding even of what sacrifice looks like. And so when you do a study of the temple and you understand what their sacrifices look like, and you dig in depth, then you look at sacrifice on a whole different level. And again, that's a whole nother talk for another day, but. Like when a sacrificial living is much different than not [00:35:00] making a living, like, and that's where a lot of pastors operate is they don't make a living, like, you know, they struggle.

And it is sad to see people who are serving struggling because that is what they feel like they're supposed to do in the kingdom of God. It should not be that way, Lori. Shouldn't. It shouldn't. Well, I have enjoyed you so much. I hate that our time is ending because this has been so much fun. You'll have to come back.

I would love to come back. Absolutely. This is amazing. Thank you so much. Thank you for being on. I feel like there are a hundred topics that we could cover, so we'll do it again. All right. That sounds great.

Thanks again for being here with me today, friend. It's been a lot of fun and you can connect with Lori over on LinkedIn, Facebook, Instagram, and I'll provide those links for you [00:36:00] in the show notes. Don't forget if you haven't already to please leave a review. Click the plus sign in the top right hand corner so you can follow and you will never miss an episode. I love you. Jesus loves you even more. Keep shining, keep loving, and we'll meet right back here again next week. See you soon.

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193 | Week 3 of Series Prepping for the Holidays: Decluttering and Staying Productive
11 nov· Life Coach BFF Show for Midlife Women - Thrive in Midlife, Women Over 40, Women Over 50, Goal Setting, Navigating Menopause, Purpose Driven Life, Faith, Systems
In episode 193 of the Life Coach BFF show, host Heather discusses the stresses of navigating school schedules and shares a poignant reminder about self-worth. She then dives into practical tips for midlife women to prepare for the holidays without feeling overwhelmed. These tips include cleaning and organizing key areas of the home, such as windows, kitchen cabinets, and freezers, and setting daily goals for exercise and decluttering. Heather emphasizes the importance of progress over perfection and offers advice for simplifying holiday preparations, all while maintaining a cheerful and supportive tone.
Mentioned in Show:
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Revive Retreat: https://www.ourmidlifemoxie.com/reviveretreatsformidlifewomen
Stay connected with Heather:Email: [email protected]
Website: WWW.HEATHERPETTEY.COMSpeaker Request: Click hereInstagram @HeatherPettey_Facebook: @HeatherPettey1
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*Quick Disclaimer- Heather Pettey is a certified coach and not a therapist. Always seek the support of a therapist for clinical mental health issues.
00:00 Introduction and Family Background
00:15 Parents Night Experience
01:05 A Teacher's Impactful Message
02:06 Purpose of the Holiday Series
02:55 Welcome to Episode 193
03:21 Exercise and Holiday Prep
04:51 Decluttering and Cleaning Tips
06:20 Kitchen Organization
09:31 Holiday Shopping and Preparation
11:08 Final Thoughts and Encouragement
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192 | Learn How a Midlife Couple Sold It All to Travel the World: Embracing Nomadic Freedom with Jamie Weil
7 nov· Life Coach BFF Show for Midlife Women - Thrive in Midlife, Women Over 40, Women Over 50, Goal Setting, Navigating Menopause, Purpose Driven Life, Faith, Systems
In this episode of the Life Coach BFF Show, host Heather is joined by author and full-time world traveler, Jamie Weil. Jamie, along with her husband, sold their home, put their belongings in storage, and embraced a nomadic lifestyle. They discuss the freedom from traditional responsibilities, navigating travel with a large dog, and how intentional living in different places builds new neural pathways. Jamie shares the impact on their grown children, the logistics of their travels, and dives into her writing journey that spans diverse and impactful topics. Tune in for an inspiring chat about living with purpose and the joys of exploring the world.
Stay in touch with Jamie:
Subscribe: A Mermaid’s Tale Substack
Facebook @jamieweilwriteshttps://l.facebook.com/l.php?
IG @jamieweilwrites
https://www.amazon.com/author/jamieweil
Jamie's Author Page
SHOP items mentioned in the show
Revive Retreat: https://www.ourmidlifemoxie.com/reviveretreatsformidlifewomen
Stay connected with Heather:Email: [email protected]
Website: WWW.HEATHERPETTEY.COMSpeaker Request: Click hereInstagram @HeatherPettey_Facebook: @HeatherPettey1
Linkedin: @HeatherPettey
*Quick Disclaimer- Heather Pettey is a certified coach and not a therapist. Always seek the support of a therapist for clinical mental health issues.
00:00 Introduction to a Nomadic Lifestyle
01:26 Meet Jamie Weil: Author and World Traveler
02:17 Unexpected Connections and Conversations
03:48 The Joys and Challenges of Full-Time Travel
12:05 Navigating Life with a Dog on the Road
17:03 Community Support for Pets
17:31 Regional Dog Preferences
18:57 Life Without a Permanent Home
21:53 Parenting Philosophy and College Transition
23:13 Favorite Travel Destinations
26:11 Upcoming Travel Plans
27:34 Writing Career and Published Works
30:50 Following Jamie's Journey
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191 | Top 10 Things to Do This Week to Prepare for Thanksgiving (Week 2 of 8-Part Holiday Series)
5 nov· Life Coach BFF Show for Midlife Women - Thrive in Midlife, Women Over 40, Women Over 50, Goal Setting, Navigating Menopause, Purpose Driven Life, Faith, Systems
Hey Friend! Thanks for joining me for episode 191 of the podcast Life Coach BFF Show! Today, I'm sharing my family's tradition of making turkey breast nuggets wrapped in bacon, suggestions for gluten-free options, reminder to plan ahead for special dietary needs, tips for making holiday preparations more manageable and less stressful, and more tips for you to make life better!
PLEASE!- Subscribe to the podcast- Leave a review- Check out the upcoming Thrive Beach Wellness Retreat at ourmidlifemoxie.com
"Keep it simple, put your lip gloss on, smile, stay fabulous, and embrace your mid-life Moxie."
SHOP items mentioned
Revive Retreat: https://www.ourmidlifemoxie.com/reviveretreatsformidlifewomen
Stay connected with Heather:Email: [email protected]
Website: WWW.HEATHERPETTEY.COMSpeaker Request: Click hereInstagram @HeatherPettey_Facebook: @HeatherPettey1
Linkedin: @HeatherPettey
*Quick Disclaimer- Heather Pettey is a certified coach and not a therapist. Always seek the support of a therapist for clinical mental health issues.
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190 | Let's Get Organized and Jingle Your Way to a Stress-Free Holiday! (Week 1 of 8-Part Holiday Series)
29 okt· Life Coach BFF Show for Midlife Women - Thrive in Midlife, Women Over 40, Women Over 50, Goal Setting, Navigating Menopause, Purpose Driven Life, Faith, Systems
Hey Friend, thanks for joining in today!
In episode 190 of the Life Coach BFF Show, host Heather Pettey introduces a new series aimed at helping midlife women efficiently plan for the holiday season to reduce stress and enhance enjoyment. With statistics revealing that many women experience significant stress and dread during the holidays, Heather offers practical tips and strategies for calendar management to prevent chaos.
This episode focuses on scheduling non-negotiable events, organizing holiday activities, and preparing mentally, physically, and spiritually for the season. Heather emphasizes the importance of early planning to foster joy, budgeting effectively, and avoiding last-minute rushes. She encourages listeners to start plotting known events on their calendars and to approach the holidays with a sense of calm and intentionality.
Mentioned in this episode:
Revive Retreat: https://www.ourmidlifemoxie.com/reviveretreatsformidlifewomen
112 | Two Moms Preparing for The Holidays Mentally, Physically, and Spiritually in Arizona and Tennessee: The Placenta Craze!
Stay connected with Heather:Email: [email protected]
Website: WWW.HEATHERPETTEY.COMSpeaker Request: Click hereInstagram @HeatherPettey_Facebook: @HeatherPettey1
Linkedin: @HeatherPettey
*Quick Disclaimer- Heather Pettey is a certified coach and not a therapist. Always seek the support of a therapist for clinical mental health issues.
00:00 Introduction: Facing Holiday Dread
00:46 Welcome to Life Coach BFF Show
01:02 Holiday Planning Guide: Week One
03:59 Mastering Your Calendar 06:14 Detailed Holiday Preparations
10:20 Final Thoughts and Homework
10:58 Conclusion and Upcoming Episodes
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189 | Real Talk with Dr. Carol Lynn, OB/GYN: Vaginal Dryness, Chin Hairs & Life's Other Mysteries
24 okt· Life Coach BFF Show for Midlife Women - Thrive in Midlife, Women Over 40, Women Over 50, Goal Setting, Navigating Menopause, Purpose Driven Life, Faith, Systems
IHi Friend! In this episode of the 'Life Coach BFF' show featuring host Heather Pettey and guest Dr. Carol Lynn, the duo explore a range of topics pertinent to midlife women. The discussion encompasses the maintenance of meaningful friendships, managing insecurities related to success, and addressing women's health issues like vaginal dryness and UTIs. Additionally, the episode touches on the nuances of giving and receiving compliments, the financial responsibilities of grown children, and relatable personal grooming issues. The conversation also highlights the perils of infections on the face, strategies for handling menopause symptoms, and the challenges of adult children’s schedules. Adding humor, the hosts reflect on unexpected weight gain and vacation competitiveness, the shift in footwear preferences, and light-hearted fashion insights. The show concludes with heartfelt messages and an emphasis on consulting healthcare providers for serious concerns.
For more information on the retreat, visit OurMidlifeMoxie.com.
Remember to subscribe to never miss an episode of Life Coach BFF Show!
Connect with Dr. Lynn:
Linkedin
Website: https://www.drcarollynn.com
Revive Retreat: https://www.ourmidlifemoxie.com/reviveretreatsformidlifewomen
Stay connected with Heather:Email: [email protected]
Website: WWW.HEATHERPETTEY.COMSpeaker Request: Click hereInstagram @HeatherPettey_Facebook: @HeatherPettey1
Linkedin: @HeatherPettey
*Quick Disclaimer- Heather Pettey is a certified coach and not a therapist. Always seek the support of a therapist for clinical mental health issues.
00:00 Welcome to the Life Coach BFF Show
00:50 Catching Up with Dr. Carol Lynn
01:02 Weather Talk and Morning Walks
01:44 Things We're Not Okay With
02:27 Vaginal Dryness and Feminine Health
05:01 Friends Who Aren't Happy for Our Successes
10:09 Grown Kids and Their Dependencies
12:17 Unwanted Facial Hair
19:15 Friends Who Bring Drama
22:00 Dealing with Hot Flashes
23:42 Adult Children and Memory Lapses
26:15 Energy-Draining Friends
29:10 The Migration of Fat
36:41 Comfortable Shoes: The New Sexy
41:50 Final Takeaways and Farewell
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188 | 5 Things to Do TODAY to Kickstart Your Holiday Prep
21 okt· Life Coach BFF Show for Midlife Women - Thrive in Midlife, Women Over 40, Women Over 50, Goal Setting, Navigating Menopause, Purpose Driven Life, Faith, Systems
Hey friend! Welcome to Episode 188 of the Life Coach BFF Show! In this episode, we dive deep into preparing for the holiday season while embracing our midlife journey. We’ll explore practical tips to prevent overwhelm, share an inspiring listener letter, and discuss the importance of dreaming big in this transformative phase of life.
You will hear:- Understanding the difference between a counselor and a coach: Counselors help you process the past, while coaches guide you toward your future goals.
Resources Mentioned:- Visit [heatherpettey.com](http://heatherpettey.com) to apply for private coaching or learn more about our offerings.- Check out ourmidlifemoxie.com for details on our workshops and community events.
Thank you for tuning in! Remember, midlife is not a crisis but an opportunity to embrace change and growth. Let’s navigate this journey together, supporting one another every step of the way.
Don’t forget to subscribe by tapping that plus sign so you never miss an episode! Share your thoughts and questions with us; we love hearing from you!
Stay connected with Heather:Email: [email protected]
•Apply for Coaching•Website: WWW.HEATHERPETTEY.COM•Speaker Request: Click here•Instagram @HeatherPettey_•Facebook: @HeatherPettey1
•Linkedin: @HeatherPettey
•Don't miss the Midlife Moxie Retreat this April! Visit ourmidlifemoxie.com for details and registration.
•Sex and Intimacy Workshop with Dr. Carol Lynn: Available at ourmidlifemoxie.com
•JOIN Midlife Moxie Facebook Group
Remember to subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with a friend who could use some midlife encouragement!
*Quick Disclaimer- Heather Pettey is a certified coach and not a therapist. Always seek the support of a therapist for clinical mental health issues.
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187 | Your Perfect 10: Gratitude, Dreams, and Connection in Midlife
8 okt· Life Coach BFF Show for Midlife Women - Thrive in Midlife, Women Over 40, Women Over 50, Goal Setting, Navigating Menopause, Purpose Driven Life, Faith, Systems
Unlocking Midlife Happiness: The Power of Nine and Heather’s Perfect 10
In this episode of the 'Life Coach BFF Show', Heather Pettey explores the 'Power of Nine' lifestyle habits from the Blue Zones, areas known for their long-lived inhabitants, emphasizing natural movement, purpose, stress reduction, mindful eating, plant-based diets, moderation, social connections, and family.
Heather also introduces her 'Perfect 10' practice, a daily routine of gratitude, excitement, manifestation, and reconnecting with others to enhance midlife joy and purpose. She encourages listeners to dream big and maintain strong personal connections.
Mentioned in this episode:
Lip shade- Nude Stix (Posh)
01:10 The Power of Nine: Blue Zones Lifestyle
06:36 Heather's Perfect 10: A Personal Practice
07:21 Gratitude, Excitement, and Manifesting
11:35 Challenge for the Week: Your Perfect 10
12:43 Final Thoughts and Encouragement
Stay connected with Heather:Email: [email protected]
•Apply for Coaching•Website: WWW.HEATHERPETTEY.COM•Speaker Request: Click here•Instagram @HeatherPettey_•Facebook: @HeatherPettey1
•Linkedin: @HeatherPettey
•Don't miss the Midlife Moxie Retreat this April! Visit ourmidlifemoxie.com for details and registration.
•Sex and Intimacy Workshop with Dr. Carol Lynn: Available at ourmidlifemoxie.com
•JOIN Midlife Moxie Facebook Group
Remember to subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with a friend who could use some midlife encouragement!
*Quick Disclaimer- Heather Pettey is a certified coach and not a therapist. Always seek the support of a therapist for clinical mental health issues.
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186 | Thinking About Hiring a Coach for Midlife Women?
4 okt· Life Coach BFF Show for Midlife Women - Thrive in Midlife, Women Over 40, Women Over 50, Goal Setting, Navigating Menopause, Purpose Driven Life, Faith, Systems
In Episode 186 of the Life Coach BFF show, host Heather Pettey addresses listener questions from Sally, Nikki, and Sam. Heather, a life coach, distinguishes her role from counselors, explaining she focuses on achieving life goals and fostering a forward-thinking mindset.
•She advises Sally on the benefits of life coaching for navigating life transitions.
•In response to Nikki's feelings of jealousy towards her daughter's youth, Heather offers advice on self-acceptance and celebrates midlife. She advises practicing self-love, redefining beauty standards, and embracing one's current strengths and passions.
•For Sam, who struggles with energy management, Heather recommends strategies like adequate sleep, hormone therapy, and energy supplements. She emphasizes finding what works in midlife rather than trying to emulate youth. Heather ends the episode encouraging listeners to embrace midlife as an opportunity.
Mentioned in this episode:
Arbonne EnergyFizz Drinks
Stay connected with Heather:Email: [email protected]
•Apply for Coaching•Website: WWW.HEATHERPETTEY.COM•Speaker Request: Click here•Instagram @HeatherPettey_•Facebook: @HeatherPettey1
•Linkedin: @HeatherPettey
•Don't miss the Midlife Moxie Retreat this April! Visit ourmidlifemoxie.com for details and registration.
•Sex and Intimacy Workshop with Dr. Carol Lynn: Available at ourmidlifemoxie.com
•JOIN Midlife Moxie Facebook Group
Remember to subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with a friend who could use some midlife encouragement!
*Quick Disclaimer- Heather Pettey is a certified coach and not a therapist. Always seek the support of a therapist for clinical mental health issues.
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185 | What are Your Secret Desires: Finding Happiness, Purpose, and Fulfillment
30 sep· Life Coach BFF Show for Midlife Women - Thrive in Midlife, Women Over 40, Women Over 50, Goal Setting, Navigating Menopause, Purpose Driven Life, Faith, Systems
In episode 185 of the Life Coach BFF Show, host Heather Pettey dives deep into the secret desires of midlife women, offering insights and encouragement for this transformative life stage.
Learn:
- The difference between happiness and joy- Four habits of the happiest people according to Harvard neuroscientist Arthur Brooks- The importance of finding purpose and sharing your gifts
Don't miss the Midlife Moxie Retreat this April! Visit ourmidlifemoxie.com for details and registration.
•Sex and Intimacy Workshop with Dr. Carol Lynn: Available at ourmidlifemoxie.com
•Midlife Moxie Facebook Group
Remember to subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with a friend who could use some midlife encouragement!
Stay connected with Heather:Email: [email protected]
Website: WWW.HEATHERPETTEY.COMSpeaker Request: Click hereInstagram @HeatherPettey_Facebook: @HeatherPettey1
Linkedin: @HeatherPettey
*Quick Disclaimer- Heather Pettey is a certified coach and not a therapist. Always seek the support of a therapist for clinical mental health issues.
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184 | Vulvar Itching and Vaginal Health with Dr. Carol Lynn
19 sep· Life Coach BFF Show for Midlife Women - Thrive in Midlife, Women Over 40, Women Over 50, Goal Setting, Navigating Menopause, Purpose Driven Life, Faith, Systems
Episode 184: Vulvar Itching and Vaginal Health with Dr. Carol Lynn
In this episode, Heather Pettey and Dr. Carol Lynn discuss an often uncomfortable but important topic for midlife women: vulvar itching and vaginal health. Resources Mentioned:
Register here:
-Sex and Intimacy Workshop in Midlife
- Midlife Moxie private Facebook group
You will learn:
- Common causes of vulvar itching, including yeast infections, bacterial infections, and hormonal changes- How to distinguish between different types of itching and when to see a doctor- The impact of menopause on vaginal health and itching- Safe products and treatments for vulvar itching- The connection between sexual activity and vaginal health- When itching may be a sign of more serious conditions
Highlights:
- Dr. Lynn explains why many women are hesitant to discuss vulvar itching with their doctors- Discussion of over-the-counter treatments and when to use them- Tips for maintaining vaginal pH balance and preventing infections- The importance of regular check-ups and open communication with your doctor
Upcoming Retreat:Heather and Dr. Lynn share exciting details about their upcoming midlife women's retreat in Isle of Palm, featuring:
- Beachfront mansion accommodations- Private chef- Massage services- Hormone testing- Breathwork sessions- Group activities
For more information on the retreat, visit OurMidlifeMoxie.com.
Remember to subscribe to never miss an episode of Life Coach BFF Show!
Connect with Dr. Lynn:
Linkedin
Website: https://www.drcarollynn.com
Stay connected with Heather:Email: [email protected]
Website: WWW.HEATHERPETTEY.COMSpeaker Request: Click hereInstagram @HeatherPettey_Facebook: @HeatherPettey1
Linkedin: @HeatherPettey
*Quick Disclaimer- Heather Pettey is a certified coach and not a therapist. Always seek the support of a therapist for clinical mental health issues.
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183 | Kavita Ahuja: How Can You Discover Your Ikigai and Reinvent Your Midlife?
13 sep· Life Coach BFF Show for Midlife Women - Thrive in Midlife, Women Over 40, Women Over 50, Goal Setting, Navigating Menopause, Purpose Driven Life, Faith, Systems
Episode 183 Life Coach BFF Show
Host Heather Pettey welcomes guest Kavita Ahuja, an expert guide in career and life transitions
LEARN•The concept of Ikigai, a Japanese term meaning "reason for being"- Explanation of the four elements of Ikigai: what you love, what the world needs, what you're good at, and what you can be paid for•The importance of rediscovering passions and strengths that may have been neglected•Kavita's program "It's My Time Now" focuses on helping women appreciate themselves and rediscover buried interests•The benefits of having hobbies in midlife, including stress reduction and improved health•Overcoming fear and judgment when pursuing new interests or career paths•Strategies for dealing with internal blocks and limiting beliefs•The concept of the "inner mentor" and visualizing your future self for guidance
Connect with Kavita Ahuja:- Website: itsmytimenowcoaching.com- Podcast: The Midlife Reinvention Podcast
Social Media:
Linkedin
Facebook
Instagram
Quiz Link: https://go.itsmytimenowcoaching.com/quiz-podcast
Free coaching session with Kavita
Register for Reviving Intimacy: Embracing Sex and Mindset in Midlife
*Apply for private coaching here
*Purchase book Keep It Simple, Sarah
Stay connected with Heather:Email: [email protected]
Website: WWW.HEATHERPETTEY.COMSpeaker Request: Click hereInstagram @HeatherPettey_Facebook: @HeatherPettey1
Linkedin: @HeatherPettey
*Quick Disclaimer- Heather Pettey is a certified coach and not a therapist. Always seek the support of a therapist for clinical mental health issues.
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182 | Back to School Nostalgia and Reviving Intimacy in Midlife
5 sep· Life Coach BFF Show for Midlife Women - Thrive in Midlife, Women Over 40, Women Over 50, Goal Setting, Navigating Menopause, Purpose Driven Life, Faith, Systems
Episode 182: Back to School Memories and Midlife Musings
In this episode, Heather Pettey shares personal stories and reflections on:
• A memorable Faith Hill concert experience from 2007• The joys and challenges of back-to-school season• Hosting a workshop on intimacy and sexuality in midlife• Upcoming speaking engagements and workshops• Thoughts on parenting and supporting others' dreams
Key Points:
• Heather recounts a hilarious and nostalgic Faith Hill concert experience with her young daughters• She discusses the mixed emotions of sending kids back to school, including relief and gratitude• Heather and Dr. Carol Lynn hosted a successful workshop on "Reviving Intimacy, Embracing Sex and Mindset in Midlife"• Future workshops are planned, with requests for sessions tailored to different age groups• The importance of letting others "run their own race" when supporting them
"I decided that I'm only going to spend the majority of the time with people who make me smile."
"God did not create us to do life alone and we are doing this as a community.
• Join the Midlife Moxie Facebook group for more content and live sessions• New workshops coming in October• Heather and Dr. Carol Lynn are available for speaking engagements
• Subscribe to the podcast• Leave a review• Join the Midlife Moxie Facebook group
Remember to let your light shine and take time for self-care!
Register for Reviving Intimacy: Embracing Sex and Mindset in Midlife
https://ourmidlifemoxie.thrivecart.com/intimacy-workshop
Stay connected with Heather:Email: [email protected]
Website: WWW.HEATHERPETTEY.COMSpeaker Request: Click hereInstagram @HeatherPettey_Facebook: @HeatherPettey1
Linkedin: @HeatherPettey
*Quick Disclaimer- Heather Pettey is a certified coach and not a therapist. Always seek the support of a therapist for clinical mental health issues.
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181 | Understanding Broken Teeth and Dry Mouth: Essential Oral Care for Women Over 40 with Dentist, Dr. David Pettey
29 aug· Life Coach BFF Show for Midlife Women - Thrive in Midlife, Women Over 40, Women Over 50, Goal Setting, Navigating Menopause, Purpose Driven Life, Faith, Systems
Episode 181 Show Notes
Episode Summary:In this engaging episode, host Heather Pettey is joined by her husband, Dr. David Pettey, a dentist, to discuss the complexities of oral health during midlife. They address common concerns such as broken teeth, dry mouth, and the impact of hormonal changes on dental health. Listeners will gain valuable insights into maintaining oral hygiene and the importance of regular dental check-ups.
Key Topics:
- Introduction to Oral Health[00:00] Heather welcomes listeners and introduces Dr. David Pettey, emphasizing the importance of oral health in midlife.
- Why Teeth Break [00:05] Discussion on how aging affects teeth, including brittleness and the impact of old fillings.
- Dry Mouth and Its Effects[00:08] Exploration of how hormonal changes, particularly during menopause, lead to dry mouth and related dental issues.
- The Importance of Hydration [00:10] Tips on staying hydrated and managing dry mouth, including the use of sugar-free mints and rinses.
- Flossing vs. Water Picks [00:12] Dr. Pettey explains the necessity of both flossing and using a water pick for effective oral hygiene.
- Diet and Oral Health [00:21] The role of diet, including fruits and vegetables, in maintaining healthy teeth and gums.
Workshop Announcement: Heather announces an upcoming workshop on September 4th at 12 PM CST with Dr. Carol Lynn, focusing on intimacy and mindset in midlife. Registration details are provided, encouraging listeners to participate.
register here: https://ourmidlifemoxie.thrivecart.com/intimacy-workshop/
- Subscribe to the Life Coach BFF Show for more insightful discussions.- Join the private Facebook group "Midlife Moxie: Navigating Seasons of Transition" for community support and resources.
Stay connected with Heather:Email: [email protected]
Website: WWW.HEATHERPETTEY.COMSpeaker Request: Click hereInstagram @HeatherPettey_Facebook: @HeatherPettey1
*Quick Disclaimer- Heather Pettey is a certified coach and not a therapist. Always seek the support of a therapist for clinical mental health issues.
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180 | Do You Need to Get Back Your Spark and Joy in Midlife? Learn How to Let Your Light Shine!
15 aug· Life Coach BFF Show for Midlife Women - Thrive in Midlife, Women Over 40, Women Over 50, Goal Setting, Navigating Menopause, Purpose Driven Life, Faith, Systems
Episode 180: Shining Your Light in Midlife
In episode 180 of the Life Coach BFF Show, host Heather Pettey shares a personal story about navigating the changes of midlife and finding new ways to shine your light. She encourages listeners to embrace this unique season of life with positivity and purpose.
Key Points:
- Dealing with the emotions of children growing up and changing family dynamics- Finding new ways to use your talents and passions in midlife- The importance of volunteering and serving others to combat loneliness- Embracing your authentic self and letting your light shine
Highlights:
Embracing Change: Heather shares her experience of realizing her children had outgrown holiday traditions and how she found a new outlet for her love of reading to children.
Volunteering: The joy and fulfillment found in reading to preschoolers and the positive impact it had on her mood and outlook.
Shining Your Light: A powerful metaphor for embracing your unique gifts and sharing them with the world, regardless of age or life stage.
Midlife Wisdom: The liberating aspect of caring less about others' opinions as we age and the importance of rediscovering childhood passions.
Heather encourages listeners to find ways to shine their light, serve others, and embrace the joys of midlife. She reminds us that it's never too late to pursue what brings us happiness and fulfillment.
Upcoming Event:Midlife Moxie Revive Retreat in April 2025 - A beachside getaway for women navigating midlife and menopause. Visit OurMidlifeMoxie.com for details.
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Stay connected with Heather:Email: [email protected]
Website: WWW.HEATHERPETTEY.COMSpeaker Request: Click hereInstagram @HeatherPettey_Facebook: @HeatherPettey1
Linkedin: @HeatherPettey
*Quick Disclaimer- Heather Pettey is a certified coach and not a therapist. Always seek the support of a therapist for clinical mental health issues.
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179 | Habits of Midlife Women Who Live Intentionally
26 jul· Life Coach BFF Show for Midlife Women - Thrive in Midlife, Women Over 40, Women Over 50, Goal Setting, Navigating Menopause, Purpose Driven Life, Faith, Systems
Episode 179: Habits of Midlife Women Who Live Intentionally
In this episode, Heather shares her experience at an estate sale that led to an intentional and memorable vacation to Martha's Vineyard. She discusses the importance of being purposeful in our decisions and actions as midlife women.
Learn:- The power of visualization and acting on our desires- Planning a trip to Martha's Vineyard after finding inspiration from a Christmas village lighthouse- Tips for navigating vacations with your spouse- Highlights from Heather's Martha's Vineyard trip, including dining experiences and sightseeing
Memorable Moments:- Heather's discovery of a Dickens Village lighthouse at an estate sale- Exploring Edgartown and its charming attractions- Trying lobster rolls for the first time- Visiting lighthouses and seeing celebrity homes
Quotes:"We as women have to be ultra intentional. The habits that we make, the decisions that we make, we must be very intentional if we want to live with purpose and with no regrets." -Heather Pettey
Book Recommendations:1. "A Happier Life" by Kristy Woodson Harvey2. "The Summer Pact" by Emily Giffen
Upcoming Event:Midlife Moxie Revive Retreat in April 2025 - A beachside getaway for women navigating midlife and menopause. Visit OurMidlifeMoxie.com for details.
Remember to subscribe, leave a 5-star review, and join the Life Coach BFF community on social media!
Stay connected with Heather:Email: [email protected]
Website: WWW.HEATHERPETTEY.COMSpeaker Request: Click hereInstagram @HeatherPettey_Facebook: @HeatherPettey1
Linkedin: @HeatherPettey
*Quick Disclaimer- Heather Pettey is a certified coach and not a therapist. Always seek the support of a therapist for clinical mental health issues.
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178 | Midlife Emotions: Why We Need to Build Community and Support as Women Over 40 - Dr. Carol Lynn, OB/GYN
18 jul· Life Coach BFF Show for Midlife Women - Thrive in Midlife, Women Over 40, Women Over 50, Goal Setting, Navigating Menopause, Purpose Driven Life, Faith, Systems
Episode 178: Navigating Feelings and Community in Midlife
In this episode, host Heather Pettey and guest Dr. Carol Lynn discuss:
- The generational shift in how feelings are expressed and addressed- The rise of anxiety among younger generations and its potential causes- The importance of face-to-face communication and community support- Challenges faced by midlife women, including concerns about adult children- The impact of social media on self-perception and mental health- Strategies for reconnecting with others and seeking support- Upcoming Midlife Moxie Revive Retreat in Charleston, SC (April 24-27)
Key Takeaways:- Midlife women often struggle with feelings of isolation and comparison- Building community and seeking face-to-face interactions are crucial for mental health- It's important to reach out for help and advice when needed- The Midlife Moxie Revive Retreat offers an opportunity for women to connect and grow together
Resources Mentioned:- Midlife Moxie private Facebook group- ourmidlifemoxie.com (for retreat details and registration)
Join Heather and Dr. Carol Lynn as they explore the importance of community, sharing experiences, and supporting one another through the challenges of midlife.
Don't forget to subscribe and leave a 5-star review to help more women discover the podcast!
Stay connected with Heather:Email: [email protected]
Website: WWW.HEATHERPETTEY.COMSpeaker Request: Click hereInstagram @HeatherPettey_Facebook: @HeatherPettey1
Linkedin: @HeatherPettey
*Quick Disclaimer- Heather Pettey is a certified coach and not a therapist. Always seek the support of a therapist for clinical mental health issues.
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177 | Do You Focus Too Much on Your Looks? + Summer Expectations for Teens and Product Reviews
27 jun· Life Coach BFF Show for Midlife Women - Thrive in Midlife, Women Over 40, Women Over 50, Goal Setting, Navigating Menopause, Purpose Driven Life, Faith, Systems
Hey Gorgeous! Welcome back to the Life Coach BFF Show with your host, Heather Pettey! In this episode, we dive into practical advice for parents dealing with teenagers during the summer and exciting details about the upcoming Midlife Moxie Beach Retreat.
Key Topics :
•Life Skills for Teens - Heather discusses the importance of teenagers learning life skills and not just lounging around during the summer. - She recommends the book "Life Skills for Teens" by Karen Harris, which has been beneficial for her family. - Heather emphasizes the need for teenagers to find jobs, contribute to household chores, and develop a sense of responsibility.
•Listener Email from Amy - Amy from Trenton, New Jersey, shares her struggles with her three teenagers, two of whom are not contributing at home. - Heather provides practical advice on setting boundaries, encouraging job searches, and involving teenagers in household responsibilities. - Heather stresses the importance of a family meeting to establish house rules and ensure everyone contributes.
•Product Reviews - Heather reviews three products, including the Obagi Daily Hydro Drops and Rejuvenating Eye Gel Cream, which she highly recommends. - She shares her positive experience with these products and encourages listeners to try them out.
•Inspirational Reading - Heather reads a beautiful piece by Dame Judi Dench, emphasizing the importance of prioritizing inner qualities over physical appearance. - The reading inspires listeners to focus on personal growth, wisdom, and living in the moment.
•Midlife Moxie Beach Retreat - Exciting details about the upcoming Midlife Moxie Beach Retreat in Charleston, South Carolina, from April 24th to 27th. - The retreat will include hormone testing, coaching sessions, breath work, massages, and opportunities to forge new connections. - Heather encourages listeners to join the private Facebook group @MidlifeMoxie for more information and to be the first to sign up when the cart opens on July 1st.
Stay connected with Heather:Email: [email protected]
Website: WWW.HEATHERPETTEY.COMSpeaker Request: Click hereInstagram @HeatherPettey_Facebook: @HeatherPettey1
Linkedin: @HeatherPettey
*Quick Disclaimer- Heather Pettey is a certified coach and not a therapist. Always seek the support of a therapist for clinical mental health issues.
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176 | The Best Ways to Tackle Midlife Challenges Head-On with Dr. Carol Lynn
20 jun· Life Coach BFF Show for Midlife Women - Thrive in Midlife, Women Over 40, Women Over 50, Goal Setting, Navigating Menopause, Purpose Driven Life, Faith, Systems
In episode 176 of the Life Coach BFF Show, host Heather Pettey and regular contributor Dr. Carol Lynn, OBGYN and menopause expert, dive deep into common midlife concerns that many women face but rarely discuss openly. They address a range of issues from sleep troubles to thinning hair, offering practical advice and debunking myths along the way. We're talking about the best ways to tackle midlife challenges head-on!
Key topics covered:
1. Sleep issues in midlife: - Why falling asleep is easy but staying asleep is challenging - The role of hormones, particularly progesterone, in sleep quality - Tips for better sleep hygiene and breaking the 4 AM wake-up habit - The careful use of Benadryl as a short-term sleep aid
2. Hormonal changes and their effects: - The importance of estrogen, progesterone, and testosterone - How hormone replacement therapy can address multiple symptoms - Why it's crucial to continue prescribed treatments even when feeling better
3. Hair thinning and texture changes: - Hormonal influences on hair loss and growth - Recommended products like Nutrafol and Zenogen shampoo - The importance of checking for thyroid issues and vitamin deficiencies
Throughout the episode, Heather and Dr. Lynn emphasize the importance of advocating for oneself in medical settings and not accepting dismissive answers about midlife changes being "just what happens." They encourage listeners to seek second opinions and explore hormone replacement therapy options.
The hosts also share personal anecdotes, including a humorous story about yoga etiquette, making the serious topics more relatable and lighthearted. They mention an upcoming beach retreat for listeners and invite them to join the Midlife Moxie Facebook group for more support and information.
This episode provides midlife women with valuable insights, practical solutions, and the reassurance that they're not alone in their experiences. Heather and Dr. Lynn's friendly banter and expert advice make complex medical topics accessible and actionable for listeners.
Mentioned in episode:
Facebook Group: @MidlifeMoxie
Shampoo for hairless: Zenagen (shop here)
Stay connected with Heather:Email: [email protected]
Website: WWW.HEATHERPETTEY.COMSpeaker Request: Click hereInstagram @HeatherPettey_Facebook: @HeatherPettey1
Linkedin: @HeatherPettey
*Quick Disclaimer- Heather Pettey is a certified coach and not a therapist. Always seek the support of a therapist for clinical mental health issues.
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175 | Reinventing Yourself in Midlife: Gina Neely's Secrets to Thriving
13 jun· Life Coach BFF Show for Midlife Women - Thrive in Midlife, Women Over 40, Women Over 50, Goal Setting, Navigating Menopause, Purpose Driven Life, Faith, Systems
Welcome back for episode 175 of Life Coach BFF Show. Heather's guest today is Gina Neely, former co-host of Food Network's Down Home with the Neelys, discusses reinventing herself in midlife and creating her own narrative, no longer concerned with measuring up to others' expectations.
Her priorities have shifted to focus on quality over quantity and living fully. She has learned to relinquish control and let things happen organically.
Gina emphasizes the importance of self-care through simple pleasures like watching old movies and having quiet moments of peace. She advises not overthinking or getting caught up in elaborate beauty routines, but rather embracing your gift of loving people and bringing joy. Gina's grandson Noah has "softened her heart."
She encourages leading with love, spreading positive energy, and not feeling pressures to stay looking young. Gina shares how she unexpectedly fell in love again after meeting her new partner at their 40th high school reunion. Overall, her advice for midlife is to go with the flow, get quiet, be still, keep things simple, and focus on the quality of your life.
Thanks for joining us!
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Stay connected with Heather:Email: [email protected]
Website: WWW.HEATHERPETTEY.COMSpeaker Request: Click hereInstagram @HeatherPettey_Facebook: @HeatherPettey1
Linkedin: @HeatherPettey
*Quick Disclaimer- Heather Pettey is a certified coach and not a therapist. Always seek the support of a therapist for clinical mental health issues.
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174 | How to Handle Difficult Relationships with Grace: A Midlife Coach's Advice
6 jun· Life Coach BFF Show for Midlife Women - Thrive in Midlife, Women Over 40, Women Over 50, Goal Setting, Navigating Menopause, Purpose Driven Life, Faith, Systems
Hi friend! Episode 174 of the Life Coach BFF Show hosted by Heather Pettey. starts by addressing a letter from Melissa about her strained relationship with her 32-year-old pregnant daughter-in-law.
Heather advises against using phrases that put people on the defensive, and suggests always being the first to greet warmly, even giving a hug to those who may not be your biggest fan. She emphasizes not giving unsolicited advice unless directly asked.
Heather then reviews three products she loves:
•The Forest Feast Mediterranean Cookbook by Erin Gleeson
•Anthropologie's "Gather" 500-piece puzzle
•Revolution Beauty's Balm Glow in Peach Bliss
Link here to shop!
She discusses her summer plans with family and invites listeners to join her private Facebook group: @MidlifeMoxie
Key Points:
- Always be the first to greet people warmly, even difficult relationships
- Practice greeting people to build the habit
- Don't give unsolicited advice unless directly asked- Loved products: The Forest Feast Cookbook, Anthropologie Gather Puzzle, Revolution Balm Glow- Invites listeners to join "Midlife Moxie" Facebook grou
Stay connected with Heather:Email: [email protected]
Website: WWW.HEATHERPETTEY.COMSpeaker Request: Click hereInstagram @HeatherPettey_Facebook: @HeatherPettey1
Linkedin: @HeatherPettey
*Quick Disclaimer- Heather Pettey is a certified coach and not a therapist. Always seek the support of a therapist for clinical mental health issues.
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