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  • The End of the Love by Design Podcast

    The End of the Love by Design Podcast

    · Love by Design

    Can you believe it? It’s the end of the year of 2022 already. And, it’s the end of the Love by Design podcast.

    I spent two years and paid thousands of dollars to record and produce 85 episodes that thousands of people listened to… and loved.

    You probably wonder, “WHY???”

    The answer is simple. My new podcast Find the Right Man is BETTER. 

    And I want you and new listeners to start the new year there.

    But even deeper…. I let go of attachment to where I’ve been. I’m committed to where I am going.

    I choose to live in the possibility that exists in the future. Because…

    You can’t find what you want to create in your future by looking in your past. 

    You might be attached to the fact that you haven’t found the right man yet. Or that you’re attracting the wrong type of men…. Or that dating is hard and it takes a long time to find love.

    You might be attached to who you have been and what you have been through. REALLY believing THAT tells who you authentically are and what your authentic love story is.

    But I’m more interested in who you want to become. What you want to create in your future love relationship. THAT is your authentic story.

    It’s the possibility that exists in your future. 

    Your future can be MORE real than your past.

    What determines that? YOU.

    Where you put your attention. Where you spend time and energy. Where you direct your thoughts.

    That’s why I decided to create a new podcast. 

    Every Thursday at 5 pm Eastern, you’ll get access to a new weekly episode.

    I’ll be teaching you my most powerful coaching dating concepts to find the right man. 

    Happy new year!

    -Polina

  • How to Meet Your Man with My Proven System

    How to Meet Your Man with My Proven System

    · Love by Design

    You CAN meet your man in just a few simple steps.

    Even if it hasn’t “worked out” in the past.

    Your current age, location and amount of free time are enough.

    It isn’t impossible or hard. You don’t have to struggle. 

    In this week’s episode #84 How to Meet Your Man with My Proven System, you’re about to discover:

    ✨The three biggest mistakes women make that keep them single

    ✨How to avoid these mistakes and what to do differently

    ✨A proven process for finding the right man in just three simple steps How to save years of doing a lot of the wrong things cause loneliness

    ✨Exactly what to do to start meeting the type of men you want

    ✨And how to actually have fun dating! 

    Here are a few gold nuggets from this episode: 

    Probably the biggest problem women who aren't meeting their man have  is that they're spending all of their time solving for the wrong things. 

    Women do more personal growth, they go to therapy and take self-help courses on how to be better about themselves. But the thing is that if you can spend years in personal growth and still be single if you aren’t showing up in the way that will get men to pursue you.

    Women who search for an ideal man who can check off all the boxes on their list can’t find him. No one is perfect. If you yourself aren't the perfect woman, there's no way you're going to find the perfect man. He doesn’t exist. 

    What you think carries with you an energy that literally pushes men away. It's just not attractive and not interesting to men. 

    You become a Chooser and can quickly find and create a small dating pool of most compatible with you men and choose the best life partner for you.

    —Polina



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  • High-Quality Dating

    High-Quality Dating

    · Love by Design

    How can you create the high-quality dating experience of attracting high-quality men to you?

    Your thoughts create your results in love—your thoughts about the quality of men, the quality of the dating experience and what's possible for you in love.

    What you can create in love depends on whether it's based on your past, your perceived  limitations, fear, lack or doubt, or whether it’s coming from a place of possibility—a future that doesn't exist yet.

    That’s exactly what I explore in this new episode, #82, “High-Quality Dating.” 

    You’re about to discover:

    ✨ What creates a high-quality dating experience

    ✨ How you can increase the quality of your dating experience

    ✨ Powerful questions to ask yourself to elevate your dating experience

    ✨ Why focusing on the “how” isn’t the top priority, and what actually is

    ✨ How your dating experience shifts when you make your own shift

    Click here to listen to this podcast now.

    Here are a few gold nuggets from this episode: 

    What you can create in love depends on whether it's based on your past, your perceived  limitations, fear, lack or doubt, or whether it’s coming from a place of possibility—a future that doesn't exist yet.

    If you have a low-quality dating experience now, you can completely elevate it because your dating experience gets created through your thoughts and feelings. 

    When you show up with an open heart and the full belief that you're going to attract high-quality men, there’s no doubt you'll be in a relationship with your soulmate. 

    When you’re fully connected to your type, when you know exactly who you are, when you tap into your unique source of energy and power, there’s no doubt you’ll find love.

    When you think high-quality thoughts about yourself, about dating and about men you meet, you start attracting high-quality men.

    —Polina


    P.S. If you want to add finding love to your list for the next year, book a consultation call with me to get started in Love by Design. From your first date to your dream relationship by learning exactly how to find the right man, you either find the right man or you get your money back. 

  • The Six Dating Phases

    The Six Dating Phases

    · Love by Design

    Have you ever wondered why some women do the exact same things in dating but get completely different results?

    The simple answer is that they go through different dating phases.

    Each one creates different experiences, opportunities and results.

    I came up with these six dating phases based on my experience coaching thousands of women in the last 12 years. 

    When you are aware of them, when you don't resist them, don’t fight against them and don't try to skip them, then you can confidently navigate your way to your dream relationship.

    In this week’s episode #81, “The Six Dating Phases,” you’re about to discover:

    ✨ What the six dating phases are and how to know which one you’re in

    ✨ The biggest mistakes women make at each phase

    ✨ How to shift from one phase to the next 

    ✨ Real life examples of women who shifted through these phases

    ʉϬThe surest way to navigate your way to your soulmate relationship

    Here are a few gold nuggets from this episode: 

    The biggest mistake is to decide there are no quality men, then feel discouraged and stop taking action. That’s a guaranteed way to stay single.

    “How do I know if I want to be in a relationship with this man?” 

    The fastest way to know is to get into a relationship with him. 

    Just like preparing to run a marathon, when you train for a 5K run first, you can be in a short-term relationship before you create a lifelong soulmate relationship.

    The biggest mistake women make who aren’t meeting men is thinking, “I don’t need to date. I’ll just meet my man. It's just going to happen.”

    It's the same as being unemployed and saying, “I don’t need to search for a job. I’ll just get my CEO position at a Fortune 500 company. It’s just going to happen.”

    It’s very simple at this phase. You meet men. You go on dates with them. You choose your dual partner and get into a relationship that doesn’t end.

    —Polina

    P.S. If you’re ready to find the love of your life, I want to invite you to schedule a free private “Attract Your Man Now” consultation with me: https://calendly.com/polinasolda/attract-your-man-now-call-40mins. You’ll get clarity on where you are and why, the actual reasons why you’re single, where you want to be and exactly how to get there, and then make a decision for moving forward. I’ll see you there!

  • Are you struggling with low-quality dating?

    Are you struggling with low-quality dating?

    · Love by Design

    If yes, I want to offer you this perspective:

    It's not what you do in dating. 

    It's not what you say in your online dating profile, texts, or social media pages.

    It's not whether you reach out to a guy or he reaches out to you.

    None of these things matter as much as what I’m going to say..

    It's what you think about when you do these things.

    Because your thoughts create your feelings.

    And how you feel determines what energy vibration you exude.

    Men unconsciously pick up on that energy. And it will either attract them or turn them off. 

    Your level of energy also determines WHO you attract and WHAT happens in your dating experience.

    This is exactly what I'm talking about in this new episode #80, “Are you struggling with low-quality dating?”

    In this week's episode, you're about to discover:

    ✨ What affects the quality of your dating experience, and how to shift it

    ✨ How our mind creates drama that lowers our energy vibration

    ✨ What causes your energy vibration to go down, and what to do about it

    ✨ The most common ways of thinking and behaving that keep women in low-quality dating

    ✨ The cost and impact of low-quality energy on you and your relationships

    Here are a few gold nuggets from this episode: 

    When you step into your type, being authentically yourself and showing up in this powerful way, you will have very new and different experiences in dating.

    Your brain looks for the familiar, and your brain looks for all or nothing. “I'm either attracted immediately, or I'm not attracted at all." 

     Be prepared to have initial resistance with the type of man who is perfect for you.

    If you are not sure, use what I call the "kiss test."

    Being with your dual type of man works magically. It works on every level. 

    —Polina

    P.S. If you’re ready to find the love of your life, I want to invite you to schedule a free private “Attract Your Man Now” consultation with me: https://calendly.com/polinasolda/attract-your-man-now-call-40mins. You’ll get clarity on where you are and why, the actual reasons why you’re single, where you want to be and exactly how to get there, and then make a decision for moving forward. I’ll see you there!

  • Giving with men

    Giving with men

    · Love by Design

    Happy 

    Giving…

    You can think about it from a place of lack or from a place of abundance.

    The most powerful thing about giving is that you get to create within you.

    You already have direct, instant access to the unlimited source of energy and love inside of you.

    You can create energy and love with your thoughts.

    You can give it to others with your actions.

    And, you can have MORE of it with your results.

    During this time of giving thanks, I want to offer you this thought:

    You have something SO valuable to give.

    To every MAN you’re interacting with.

    You can give a smile to a man passing you on the street.

    You can give a compliment to a busy barista at a coffee shop.

    You can give words of encouragement to a man who messaged you on a dating app.

    In this week’s episode #80 "Giving to men", you’re about to discover:

    ✨ The power cycle of creating, giving and having.

    ✨ The one thought to believe that will create an abundance of men.

    ✨ How you meet new men you meet everywhere to go today.

    ✨ The #1 skill to develop while dating that will serve you when you get into a relationship for a lifetime.

    ✨ What to fall in love with so you can create attraction, interest and desire in your interactions with men.

    ✨ Why giving to yourself is a must when it comes to creating a healthy and balanced relationship.

    Here are a few gold nuggets from this episode: 

    “This is the most powerful way for you to have anything you want."

    “It’s going to completely transform your relationship.”

    “It's really about how we, women, show up because men will always respond to us.”

    “Start with first understanding and thinking and really believing that you are the source, and you are the source of something that you can give.”

    “It's so powerful to believe first that you have a source because you can only give when you have something to give.”

    —Polina

    P.S. If you’re ready to find the love of your life, I want to invite you to schedule a free private “Attract Your Man Now” consultation with me: https://calendly.com/polinasolda/attract-your-man-now-call-40mins. You’ll get clarity on where you are and why, the actual reasons why you’re single, where you want to be and exactly how to get there, and then make a decision for moving forward. I’ll see you there!

    Happy Thanksgiving! 

  • What you think you know that you don’t

    What you think you know that you don’t

    · Love by Design

    When I was single and dating, my slogan on my online dating profile was, "30 seconds and we both know." 

    But 100+ dates later, I still needed to find out.

    The way our brain works is that it searches for familiar, repetitive patterns. It loves to repeat the same patterns. If you think about it, our brain thinks the same thoughts day in and out. 🧠 ⭕

    The same thing happens with dating and choosing men. 

    Our brain wants to keep us from making new decisions that require a lot of energy and effort.

    It wants us to continue making the same decisions and choices. It wants us to create the same results repeatedly—even when they don't serve us. 

    You may think you know exactly who you're looking for.

    And what I want to offer you is this: your current thoughts are the reason you are where you are. 

    This is such a powerful concept that I devoted a new podcast, #79, “What you think you know that you don’t,” to explore the realm of what you think you know that you don't.

    In this week's episode you're about to discover:

    ✨ Why the "I'll just know when I meet him" mindset keeps women single

    ✨ What I realized after going through 100+ dates and how it changed everything

    ✨ How to rewire your brain's patterns and get different results in dating

    ✨ What to do when you aren't attracted to different types of men

    ✨ The litmus test to know when you have met your person and can stop searching

    Here are a few gold nuggets from this episode: 

    "When you step into your type, being authentically yourself and showing up in this powerful way, you will have very new and different experiences in dating."

    "Your brain looks for the familiar, and your brain looks for all or nothing. “I'm either attracted immediately, or I'm not attracted at all." 

    "Be prepared to have initial resistance with the type of man who is perfect for you."

    "If you are not sure, use what I call the "kiss test."

    "Being with your dual type of man works magically. It works on every level."

    —Polina

    P.S. If you’re ready to find the love of your life, I want to invite you to schedule a free private “Attract Your Man Now” consultation with me: https://calendly.com/polinasolda/attract-your-man-now-call-40mins. You’ll get clarity on where you are and why, the actual reasons why you’re single, where you want to be and exactly how to get there, and then make a decision for moving forward. I’ll see you there!

  • Why you aren’t dating

    Why you aren’t dating

    · Love by Design

    If you're currently single and not dating . . .

    If you have a desire in your heart to meet the love of your life, yet you're not taking action . . .

    Why is that? 

    You want something, yet you need to do something in the direction of your desire. 

    We often come up with some good reasons for doing something other than what we want. 

    We can wholeheartedly believe that these are the real reasons. They're very rational and logical and make sense. 

    Yet, underneath usually lies something else.

    If we don't examine and question it, we can allow these "reasons" (justifications and excuses) for not living the life we want, and why we don't go after our dreams, thus keeping us in the same place.

    That's why I created this new episode #78, “Why you aren’t dating,” to explore what's happening and how to shift it.

    In this week's episode, you're about to discover:

    ✨ How we can have both success and love at the same time

    ✨ What's holding us back from creating what we want in our personal life

    ✨ Why our attempts to change our circumstances don't get us different results

    ✨ The most powerful questions to ask yourself in order to take new actions

    ✨ How to get started dating in the way that guarantees you find love

    Here are a few gold nuggets from this episode: 

    "The first sign that you're actually making progress and moving forward is that it is uncomfortable—and okay."

    "What you can change is how you think about it. Because when you start looking at everything from the perspective of "does it serve me to think and believe this?" This can change everything for you, beginning with how you feel, what actions you take, and what results you create in your love life."

    "When a woman says, "I'm not dating because there are no quality men out there,” for her, in HER reality, she's right. For her, there aren't. When she goes to places, she won't even see men. Because of her thinking, her belief is there are no quality men out there. Her brain looks for confirmation bias—what's familiar and what it already knows."

    —Polina


    P.S. If you’re ready to find the love of your life, I want to invite you to schedule a free private “Attract Your Man Now” consultation with me: https://calendly.com/polinasolda/attract-your-man-now-call-40mins. You’ll get clarity on where you are and why, the actual reasons why you’re single, where you want to be and exactly how to get there, and then make a decision for moving forward. I’ll see you there!

  • How Shift from Being Single to Being in a Relationship

    How Shift from Being Single to Being in a Relationship

    · Love by Design

    Many single women I talk with tell me there are only two reasons why they can’t get into a relationship: not finding the right man, or meeting a man but . . . he doesn’t want to commit. 

    They think it happens to them when a man doesn’t have time for a relationship or changes his mind or disappears. 🤷🏻‍♀️

    They think that when men don’t commit, string them along, or ghost them is just what happens in dating. 🤷🏻‍♀️

    But being in a relationship is a choice. 

    What . . .? 🤯

    You choose it.

    Because the way you THINK about it is optional.

    You ARE in charge of that.

    And you have MORE options than just thinking the same old thoughts and believing the same limiting beliefs that actually keep you single. 

    Thinking the same old thoughts like, “Men don’t want to commit” or “He won’t want to be in a relationship” is guaranteed to get you the results that MATCH your thinking.

    Our thoughts create our results. Always.

    This is exactly what I share in this new podcast episode #77, “How Shift from Being Single to Being in a Relationship.”

    In this week’s episode, you’re about to discover:

    ✨ What your thoughts about being single have to do with being in a relationship

    ✨ How to break free from a vicious cycle that keeps  women chronically single 

    ✨ The simplest and fastest way to get into an easy, lasting and stable relationship

    ✨ Powerful questions to ask yourself that will lead you to your dream relationship

    ✨ How to make getting into a relationship inevitable for you

    Here are a few gold nuggets from this episode: 

    We have so much power to create what we really want. We are absolutely limitless in our ability to create an amazing relationship.

    When you really connect to who you are and start showing up authentically, you tap into an unlimited source of your power and energy within yourself, which makes it much easier to create the relationship you want. 

    The reason why it's so important is that if you’re single and not dating right now, if you think thoughts like: “I am not meeting anyone,” “I don't see any point in online dating,” “It's a waste of time,” “I don't know where to meet men” . . . when you have all these thoughts that are limited, negative, fear-based thoughts, chances are they make you feel very discouraged or unmotivated to take action. When you feel that way, chances are you're going to continue to avoid dating and staying in the same place. 

    When you study and apply personality typing, you’re going to avoid choosing the type of partner who will expect you to give him something that you lack, because coming from a place of lack makes it harder. It puts a lot of tension and stress on a relationship where two people are incompatible, which makes these relationships really challenging. 

    It starts with you focusing where you put your attention, because you are where your attention is. 

    —Polina

    P.S. If you’re ready to find the love of your life, I want to invite you to schedule a free private “Attract Your Man Now” consultation with me: https://calendly.com/polinasolda/attract-your-man-now-call-40mins. You’ll get clarity on where you are and why, the actual reasons why you’re single, where you want to be and exactly how to get there, and then make a decision for moving forward. I’ll see you there!

  • The Dual Relationship Pyramid

    The Dual Relationship Pyramid

    · Love by Design

    Would you like to get a glimpse of what’s happening inside Love by Design?

    And would you like to learn how some of our members get into a dual relationship—an easy, stable and lasting relationship—as quickly as 30 days after joining?

    Besides learning how to use personality typing and manage their minds, our members follow my unique and highly effective Dual Relationship Pyramid framework.

    Because it’s so powerful and valuable, I dedicated it to a new episode: #76 The Dual Relationship Pyramid

    In this week’s episode, you’re about to discover:

    ✨ What the Dual Relationship Pyramid is and why it works

    ✨ The three simple steps to going from single to being in a dual relationship

    ✨ The biggest mistakes women make at every level of the pyramid

    ✨ How to position yourself as a Chooser and why it matters 

    ✨ My suggested timeline for getting into a committed relationship and getting married 

    ✨ The real reason men commit, propose and get married

    Here are a few gold nuggets from this episode: 

    "One of the biggest mistakes women make is that they are not positioning themselves as a Chooser.They don't have options, don't have men to choose from, or they choose men who don't choose them."

    "You set the standard. For example, if you communicate with a man and he stops communicating with you, instead of wondering, “Well, why doesn't he respond?” or “What should I tell him?” or “Did I do something wrong?” you simply and completely move on, because you follow one simple rule that you set, which is  you don't choose men who don't choose you."

    "Quality communication is a mutual two-way communication. Anything that is one way is not."

    "This is where your personality typing skills become so valuable, because you know exactly how to recognize your dual partner and you can absolutely do it online, just by looking at his profile and exchanging a few messages. You don't even have to go on a date. You can definitely know a man's type and whether or not you’re compatible on a first date over a cup of coffee."

    "You don't owe anything to anyone unless you're really committed to each other. And then you have an agreement about what you're committing to and what it means. But until that happens, the whole point of dating is that you are choosing."

    "Look at how men will show up without forcing anything. You just hold space. You just present an opportunity." 

    "I have a philosophy for when you really want to make a decision if you want to be together. And when I say “be together,” I mean that you commit to each other for a long term—even for the rest of your life. Within six months, you already know if you want to be with this person for the rest of your life or not. It's absolutely doable and easy to do with personality typing."

    "When you get into a relationship with a non-dual partner, then six months or a year later, it all falls apart because you realize you're so different and something is missing. It always happens in a non-dual relationship: challenges and issues will come up. Then, you have a choice: you're either going to try to work hard on your relationship and compensate for that or you're just going to go your separate ways."

    "In a dual relationship, you don't have any unresolvable, recurring issues at all, because there isn't anything missing. It's very easy to be together."

    —Polina


    P.S. If you’re ready to find the love of your life, I want to invite you to schedule a free private “Attract Your Man Now” consultation with me:...

  • How to think new thoughts in dating

    How to think new thoughts in dating

    · Love by Design

    If you feel like you're going around in circles in dating, I get it.

    It can be extremely frustrating and exhausting to spend so much time, energy and effort in online dating, texting and dating yet see no progress.

    You may be trapped in the illusion that if you do MORE, you’ll get better and different results, so you push and force yourself.

    You may be taking a break from dating, waiting and staying in the place of inaction. 

    And here’s what I want to offer you:

    Our thoughts create our results.

    So, if you continue to think the same thoughts about dating, you’ll continue getting the same results (or lack of results).

    Understanding this is EVERYTHING. That’s exactly why I created a new episode, #75 How to think new thoughts in dating. 

    In this week’s episode, you’re about to discover:

    ✨ How your thoughts create your results

    ✨ Why taking different actions doesn’t guarantee different results

    ✨ Real life stories of single women trying to change their results

    ✨ What’s possible for YOU in love when you shift your thoughts

    Here are a few gold nuggets from this episode: 

    When you focus on just actions, without changing what you believe, without changing what you think, your results will not change.”

    “You might think that the solution is outside of you. It’s not.”

    “You carry yourself everywhere you go.”

    “This is why it's so important to do this work by investing in yourself and getting coaching.”

    “What all of our Love by Design members have in common is that we do work on our minds, we do work on what we think. Because your thoughts are your identity—how you show up—and they are your beliefs and what you carry with you and in you. Your thoughts about men, yourself, dating, and what's possible for you, your beliefs about your city, the dating scene, your age and dating apps are going to determine what's possible for you.“

    —Polina


    P.S. If you’re ready to find the love of your life, I want to invite you to schedule a free private “Attract Your Man Now” consultation with me: https://calendly.com/polinasolda/attract-your-man-now-call-40mins. You’ll get clarity on where you are and why, the actual reasons why you’re single, where you want to be and exactly how to get there, and then make a decision for moving forward. I’ll see you there!

  • How to Feel Love

    How to Feel Love

    · Love by Design

    So many of us WANT to feel love. But . . . so many of us are not doing the things that would ALLOW us to have it.

    So many of us have been programmed to think that for us to feel love, there are certain things that need to happen that are outside of our control.

    We’ve been programmed to believe that if we just find this special person or soulmate, then we will finally have access to this feeling of love. Then, finally, we'll be happy.

    What I want to offer you is this:

    Love is created within you. 

    Love comes from you.

    Love is a choice and a decision that you make. 

    And it all starts in your mind.

    Understanding this is super POWERFUL. It empowers you and gives you CONFIDENCE in your ability to feel love at ANY moment. 

    That’s exactly why I created a new episode, #74 How to Feel Love  

    In this week’s episode, you’re about to discover:

    ✨ How our subconscious programming blocks us from feeling love

    ✨ How and why we feel love towards one man and not another

    ✨ How you can feel love here and now (even if you haven’t felt it for a l-o-n-g time) 

    ✨ Some powerful questions to start asking yourself in order to feel love

    Here are a few gold nuggets from this episode: 

    “What's so powerful is that you can decide—once you realize that you are the source of love. And you can decide that you're going to feel love here and now.”

    “Even though you don't have any man around you, not to mention the right man, you can feel the feeling of love now. It is so powerful. 

    It’s so much easier for you to attract love and attract the right person into your life when you come from a place of abundance . . . when you're ready to fall in love . . . when you are filled with love you feel love on a daily basis . . . when you are the source of love, you are the source of love energy. 

    If you ever ask yourself the question, “Why can't I find love?” that is a disempowering question. That is a negative, limiting, sabotaging question that comes from a place of lack, from a place of not enough, from a place of something is missing and wrong. And when you ask yourself low quality questions, you're going to get low quality answers. 

    There is already a future version of you that exists in the quantum field of all possibilities where you already have that amazing life partner, your dual partner, somebody who loves you, and accepts you unconditionally, exactly as you are. And you feel the same way towards him. And that version already exists. It's already done.

    When you date your dual partner type, when you show up as this incredible authentic, magnetic woman, you are the source of love, you’re filled with love. Then it's very, very easy to attract the person. It happens very quickly.

    And it happens in an easy and joyful way. It happens in an effortless way, without going on tons of dates, meeting lots of men or putting so much effort into dating. It happens without watching for the red flags, trying to manipulate the man into asking you out or obsessing about him responding to your texts. All of that unnecessary stuff goes away. 

    The answer is not changing the circumstances, the answer is not getting on yet another dating app or the newest one or “the best” one. There isn’t “the best.” The best answer is to look within you, go within and create your transformation from the inside out. That is the best way. 

  • Overcoming Self-Doubt in Dating

    Overcoming Self-Doubt in Dating

    · Love by Design

    Talking with single women every day, I hear so many stories of women who want to find the love of their life but aren’t dating.

    They share that they don’t feel confident about putting themselves out there—especially, after taking a long break from dating.

    They are trying to hide, and continue telling themselves why NOW isn’t the “right” time for dating, why they’re “too busy” to date or why it’s going to be a waste of time. 

    Have you ever wondered what’s underneath those reasons?

    Self-doubt.

    When you say, “there are no quality men out there,” it seems that you doubt the outside world, when in fact what you really doubt is yourself and your ability to attract a quality man. 

    Here’s the good news:

    You can build self-confidence by overcoming self-doubt. 

    This exactly what I’m sharing in today’s episode Love by Design podcast #73🎙️ Overcoming Self-Doubt in Dating.

    In this week’s episode, you’re about to discover:

    ✨ Why confident women seem to not doubt themselves 

    ✨The cost of allowing self-doubt to determine your thoughts, decisions and choices and how to minimize it

    ✨How your thoughts can breed self-doubt and how to handle that

    ✨The most powerful shift in perspective you can make every time you face self-doubt

    Click here to listen to this podcast now.

    Here are a few gold nuggets from this episode: 

    “When you make a decision based on the past, which has nothing to do with the future, that's already a recipe for failure, because you won't be able to find a reference for success in your past, and because what you want to create is completely unique.”

    “So, when you decide to leave your comfort zone and try something new and different, something that will test you, you will undoubtedly experience self-doubt. It's completely normal; in fact, it's a sign that you're maturing and progressing to the next level.”

    “Choose to design your love life from a place that already exists in the realm of possibilities in the future. It's not something you've done before. It is entirely possible and available to you. And the only thing standing in your way is your own doubt. You can develop into this amazing future version of yourself, with your soulmate right by your side, knowing you're completely loving and deserving.”

    “Consider your feelings about meeting your person. If you fight, if your thoughts are like, ‘I'm not attracted to anyone, it's a terrible quality of man on online dating sites, a total waste of time.’ If those are your thoughts and you believe it's impossible, all of that is the result of self-doubt. That is absolutely untrue. And as long as you believe that this is how things are, and that this is the truth as your reality, and you're not seeing them as ‘this is just my self-doubt thinking,’ you'll be stuck in the same place, nothing will change, and you won't be able to meet anyone.”

    “So what's really going on here is that your self-doubt about your ability to attract high-quality men is hiding behind this belief. It's your doubt that you'll meet the right person.”

    —Polina

    Click here to enroll in Love by Design now đŸ’–

    P.S. If you are a single professional woman and you want to be done with the struggle, fear and frustration of dating . . . 

  • Invest in yourself & your future relationship

    Invest in yourself & your future relationship

    · Love by Design

    We just got back from a 10-day family vacation to the West Coast. I feel so inspired that I started writing a book.

    As current members of my flagship program, “Love by Design,” share their wins and results (like start dating their dual partner types within just a couple of weeks of joining), I realize that each of them has one thing in common: they all INVEST in themselves.

    Being smart, professional women, many of us invest in our educational and professional growth, in real estate and in the stock market. Chances are, you'll get the ROI on your investments in terms of better career opportunities and lifestyle.

    The same universal principle works in relationships. 

    When you invest in yourself, you increase your relationship rating, e.g., level of perceived desirability and value as a relationship partner.

    When you invest in becoming a better, stronger and more resourceful relationship partner, your relationship rating gets very high. And from that place, you get to attract and choose the highest quality of men in the dating space.

    On the other hand, if a woman isn’t willing to invest in herself (and her future relationship), how can she expect a man to be willing to invest, too?

    In this week’s podcast episode I explain exactly how it works so you can increase the quality of men you meet and choose your best partner.

    In this week’s episode, you’ll learn:

    What investing in yourself has to do with creating a great relationshipHow managing your mind gives you the key to managing your relationshipThe difference between women who invest in themselves vs. those who don’tThe sneaky reasons why some women don’t invest in themselvesHow to know what’s going to happen in your future without looking into a magic crystal ball

    Here are a few gold nuggets from this episode: 

    “This is the universal principle, the absolute truth, that if you think about anything to invest in, what is most valuable to invest in is what is going to give you the biggest return on your investment—and that is yourself.”

    “When a woman believes in herself and knows she's worthy and deserving, she can create the results that she wants. She will decide and make that choice to invest in herself.”

    “Why it's so important to invest in yourself: because we get the return of this investment. When you truly connect to your source of energy and power that is unique to you—authentic to you—everything in your life becomes easier. Attracting the right type of men becomes easier and getting into relationships becomes easier.”

    “When it comes to relationships, there isn't anything more valuable than investing in yourself, so that you can be the best version of a relationship partner.”

    “The only way for a relationship to work long term is when you know how to manage yourself; then you can manage your relationship. When you know how to manage your relationship, then you can be in an amazing, fulfilling, loving, and happy relationship for the rest of your life.”

    —Polina

    Are you investing in yourself and in your relationship skills and in your relationship and dating?

    If you are, I'm so excited for you! 

    And I can't wait to see you in my flagship program, Love by Design, where I give you everything you need to become an incredibly strong, resourceful and powerful relationship partner who knows exactly how to navigate through every stage—starting from dating all the way to getting into a loving, committed lasting marriage. 

    The time to invest in yourself is now.

    Click here to register now! 💖

  • Overcoming Fear in Dating

    Overcoming Fear in Dating

    · Love by Design

    As we’re hosting our free 3-part live video training, “Attract Your Man,” I'm aware that so many women want to find love but something gets in their way.

    Most likely that something is FEAR. 

    Fear of putting yourself out there.

    Fear of being rejected.

    Fear of getting hurt (again).

    Am I right? 

    And I totally get it. Your mind is trying to protect you. 

    It seems to be logical and rational.

    But here’s what I want you to consider:

    Your fear is not a good reason to not put yourself out there and meet new men. One of them may be your soulmate!

    The truth is your fear is not going to go away anytime soon.

    So, why not face your fear and then decide to do something differently?

    Because there’s only one guaranteed way to fail in love: to stay in a place of fear.

    But there are millions of ways to find love: to take new, inspired action.

    Open yourself to the possibility of love.

    Give yourself (and your soulmate) a chance to meet and create your love story.

    That’s exactly what I want for you and why I created this new episode # 🎙️ “Overcoming Fear in Dating.”

    Click here to listen to this podcast now.

    In this week’s episode, you’re about to discover:

    What fear really is (your brain won’t like hearing it)What should a single cavewoman do when there are lions out there?The real reason you stay in a place of inactionThe most important questions to ask yourself The number #1 skill to develop so that you can overcome fear A confidence-building exercise that overcomes fear and creates intimacyHow to overcome fear so that it no longer runs your lifeHow to start dating again—despite feeling the fearWhat it really means when you say, “I’m not ready to date”The hidden cost of allowing fear to control you What’s possible on the other side of overcoming fear

    Here are a few gold nuggets from this episode: 

    “The truth is that whatever you are afraid of is a fear of being rejected, a fear of being hurt, a fear of being judged and so on. The truth is that none of these fears will go away any time soon.”

    “The only way you can fail in love is if you don't take action, and don't put yourself out there. And there are millions of different ways to find love, to take a new and inspired action and to open yourself to the possibility of love.”

    “Fear is a natural part of the human experience, and it is not going away. Let's just accept that it exists. Let's acknowledge where it is, or rather, let's make space to feel what it's like.”

    “When you become unstoppable, you can accomplish anything. As long as you're willing to feel that fear, know that it's going to be there, don't fight it, and just go with it, there's no way you won't be in your dream relationship or meet an incredible guy.”

    “This is your ultimate personal freedom: to create anything you want, to create the future, and to create relationships that have never existed before, when you choose consciously to not let fear-based thoughts stop you from moving forward.”

    “Fear will always be your worst advisor. And there is only one way to overcome fear: accept it, embrace it, and go for it anyway. Because you are the creator of your own life. This is your love life by design; you are in charge, and you have the power and energy to create whatever you want.”

    —Polina

    If you’re ready to take the first step to overcome your fear, I invite you to do it right now. 

    Join our free 3-part live video training, “Attract Your Man,” where I give you the entire blueprint for how to...

  • The cost of waiting and staying alone

    The cost of waiting and staying alone

    · Love by Design

    As I’m taking inspired action in my company (hosting a 3-part live video training starting September 22, hosting a virtual summit in January and publishing a book in March), I’m thinking how many of us smart, professional women approach our personal life differently.

    When you’re so busy with work and life, it’s hard to find time and energy for dating and searching for the right man. 

    When you haven’t been putting yourself out there for a while, it’s really  hard to say to yourself, “Okay, NOW is the time” and start dating again.

    Am I right? 

    When you find reasons (or excuses) to not take any action now, you aren’t taking any risks.

    Sure, it’s easy, safe and comfortable to spend another Friday night (or every night!) alone on your favorite couch watching Netflix, reading a book or meeting with a friend.

    But the problem with listening to these thoughts is that you aren’t just staying in the same place.

    You’re actually getting into a worse place. 

    There’s a huge hidden COST of waiting and staying alone when it comes to your ability to attract the high-quality man you want.

    I explain exactly why, how it actually works and what you can do differently RIGHT NOW in this new episode #70 🎙️ “The cost of waiting and staying alone.”

    In this week’s episode, you’ll learn:

    The biggest illusion of most women who take long breaks from datingThe hidden cost of waiting and staying aloneWhat being unemployed has to do with not datingThe reason why women’s energy vibrations go down when they aren’t putting themselves out thereThe truth about why women who haven’t dated for a while attract low-quality menThe proven way to start attracting high-quality men How to make a decision right now that will create a different future for your love lifeThe first step you can take right now towards finding the love of your life

    Here are few gold nuggets from this episode: 

    “The cold hard truth is that the longer you wait, the longer you stay alone and the harder it's going to be to find love.”

    “The moment you decide what to do right now is going to determine what's going to happen in your future, because what you choose to do in this moment is going to determine what future you’ll be living into.”

    “Choose to do something different right now—to say yes to yourself and to your future love life. When you choose that, when you declare it, you instantly create the possibility for this new future—and that's absolutely possible for you right now.”

    “Be courageous, because there is no courage without fear; it’s already there. Fear is always going to be your worst adviser. So if you want to stay up, find that courage and strength inside of you to step into this new, different future where you have the most incredible loving relationship with your man.“

    “The tragedy is that the longer women wait—when they hide—the less visible they are and the lower their energy vibration is, as opposed to when they finally decide to come out of hiding and become visible. It's all about being out there.”

    —Polina

    Are you DONE with waiting and staying alone? If yes, I invite you to take that step right now. Join our free 3-part live video training, “Attract Your Man,” where I give you the entire blueprint for how to elevate your energy, vibration, how to get started to step into this new and indifferent future.

    I'll share my entire blueprint for how you too can get into an easy relationship and finally attract your ideal type of man.

    Trust me, it's absolutely possible for you!

    Click here to register...

  • Be Honest with Yourself

    Be Honest with Yourself

    · Love by Design

    In this episode today, I want to talk about one quality that I believe is the most important when it comes to creating a healthy and powerful relationship—honesty.

    That’s exactly what inspired me to create this new episode,  #69 🎙️  “Being honest with Yourself”.

    I truly believe that when you’re being completely honest about how you feel with yourself first and with other people and continue being this way, there is no way that you will not be in your dream relationship.

    In this week’s episode, you’ll learn:

    The steps to becoming true to yourselfThe costs of staying in the place of fear and not dealing with itReal life examples of relationships that are founded on honestyTwo simple steps to create your incredible love storyReal life examples of how women show their  authentic selvesThe secret of my 13 years of marriage

    Here are few gold nuggets from this episode: 

    “You will not be able to sustain a relationship until you first develop that honesty with yourself. Until you cultivate that being honest with yourself first because you cannot be honest with a man, with a partner or in dating situations when you're not even being honest with yourself.”

    “When you love somebody unconditionally, then you allow that feeling to be there, you allow that person to be who they are, and accept them from exactly with everything.”

    “When you've been honest with yourself—you completely accept your feelings and allow them to be exactly as they are. Then all of those fears and doubts will still be present too but you’ll learn to accept them.”

    “When you open and you lead with being honest about your feelings and your desires to yourself first, and then you take it to the next level, then you clearly express that and communicate it to another person. “

    “Your heart was open. It won’t break unless it’s open to love. So even if it got broken, it’s still an open heart who knows how to love. You can heal that heart and open it up with the possibility that it can get broken again. And that is the beauty of life.”

    —Polina

    Your future is not written yet, it’s your property so you can create anything you want and it starts with being with yourself first and being honest with the man in your life.

    If you still have all this fear, doubt and insecurity and still don’t know how to be fully honest with yourself, then I’d love to personally guide you, so make sure you join our free 3-part live video training, “Attract Your Man,” on September 22, 27 and 29 at 6:00 p.m. ET, 3:00 p.m. PT.

    I'll share my entire blueprint for how you too can fully express your authentic self and finally attract your ideal type of man.

    Trust me, it's absolutely possible for you!

    Click here to register now! 💕


  • Being in an easy relationship

    Being in an easy relationship

    · Love by Design

    I love to say that a secret to any great relationship is that you always have something to look forward to together—I think it applies to life as well.

    So what is the secret to a great and long term relationship? 

    The secret—of course—anything very easy is easy to maintain.

    That’s exactly why I created this new episode,  #68 🎙️  Being in an easy relationship. I'm going to give you the exact formula and give some examples of how it works in this podcast.

    Because I think being an easy relationship is possible for each person.  And if you're reading this right now, this is my message for you, “It is absolutely possible for you to have  an easy relationship.”

    In this week’s episode, you’ll learn:

    ✨ The exact formula for having an easy relationship

    ✨ Real life examples of being in an easy relationship

    ✨ What happens when you have duality in your relationship

    ✨ My unique secret knowledge that keeps my relationships so amazing

    ✨ The cost of not choosing your dual type of man

    ✨ How do you know that you’re in an easy relationship

    Here are few gold nuggets from this episode:

    “Life is so short and you only have one life, from what I know so far. So why would you spend that on being alone?”

    “If a relationship requires you to change yourself, sacrifice and compromise, chances are it's not going to last. If there are lots of disagreements, conflicts, and arguments. It's not gonna work out long term.”

    “That moment when you're not the best version of yourself—showing up the entire spectrum of who you are—good and bad—and that person is still there, the relationship continues. That is what I call an easy relationship.”

    “You cannot attract your dual partner if you're not being totally authentic in who you are.”

    Have you ever been in an easy relationship? And or any relationship where you consider it was easy but it still didn’t work? if you were, then I’d love to personally guide you, so make sure you join our free 3-part live video training, “Attract Your Man,” on September 22, 27 and 29 at 6:00 p.m. ET, 3:00 p.m. PT.

    I'll share my entire blueprint for how you too can get into an easy relationship and finally attract your ideal type of man.

    Trust me, it's absolutely possible for you!

    Click here to register now! 💕

  • Do you have a

    Do you have a "Man Manual?"

    · Love by Design

    A couple of weeks ago, we invited a group of friends boating with us. One of them was a single woman who has what I call a “Man Manual.” She attempted to use it with my husband, which inspired me to create this episode.

    In this week’s episode, you’ll learn:

    ✨ What a Man Manual is

    ✨ How a Man Manual sabotages women

    ✨ The cost of holding on to a Man Manual

    ✨ Real life examples of women with Man Manuals

    ✨ The two words that are cues you have a Man Manual

    ✨ The secret to having a happy and lasting relationship

    ✨ What to do with your Man Manual (if you have one)

    Here are few gold nuggets from this episode: 

    “Men and women have different personality types, which means they have different needs, desires, and strengths and weaknesses. So there is no such thing as a manual designed specifically for a man. However, I believe that the concept of having a Man Manual already sets up women to have a difficult time dating and getting into a relationship.”

    “Understanding personality types and incorporating them into your style makes it very easy to discard this imaginary Man Manual for how a man should be—and this idea, this ideal, or simply, this is what I want.”

    “You can express yourself clearly and openly without any attachment to him. And if that person actually aligns with you and listens to you, it means they want a better relationship with you and that you are important to them.”

    “Because when you're in a relationship with a nice man, the simplest way to get through it all is to let go of any buttons; there's nothing to push.”

    “Focus on understanding and accepting this man right in front of you for who he is, and discovering what you like about him, falling in love with his less desirable qualities, and accepting his human flaws. That is the ultimate expression and definition of unconditional love.”

    I’d love to personally guide you, so make sure you join our free 3-part live video training, “Attract Your Man,” on September 22, 27 and 29 at 6:00 p.m. Eastern, 3:00 p.m. Pacific.

    By the end of this training, you’ll walk away with the entire process of how you, too, can finally attract your ideal type of man.

    Click here to register now! 💕

  • The real reasons why women can’t attract quality men online

    The real reasons why women can’t attract quality men online

    · Love by Design

    “There are no quality men online.”

    “Online dating doesn’t work.”

    If you’ve been thinking these thoughts and struggling to attract high-quality men online, you’re going to get the cold, hard facts about what’s really going on—and why—in this episode.

    In this week’s episode, you’ll learn:

    ✨ What I’ve seen on Tinder as both a man and a woman 

    ✨ The most important thing I learned from my shaman (it’s my mantra)

    ✨ Why focusing on what happened in the past doesn’t matter

    ✨ Why women struggle to attract high-quality men online

    ✨ The biggest mistakes women make in their online profile

    ✨ The guaranteed way to get men’s attention and responses

    ✨ Real-life examples of women’s online profiles that will NOT attract quality men

    ✨ How you get in your own way without even realizing it

    Here are few gold nuggets from this episode: 

    “Single women who've been dating and searching for a long time genuinely want to meet the right person. And they have these invisible blocks that are getting in the way. Those blocks are not what they often think they are. It's not the lack of quality men, because there are incredible men out there. And that's the good news.”

    “The truth is, if you want to change your current reality, it's not going to happen if you keep holding on to the same beliefs that are confirming your current reality. You cannot create different results in your life and in your dating online experiences unless you show up as a different woman with a different identity and different beliefs.”


    “You're not going to find in your past what you want in your future. If you want to create a different future, you can choose to believe completely a new belief that has nothing to do with your past—but in your current circumstances—and that is the only way to get there.”

    “You are where your attention is.”

    “What we have to focus on is what we attract and where we put our attention—where our energy goes and what our energy creates. Because how we feel and what we believe creates our reality.”

    —Polina

    There’s a simple, fast and proven formula that you can learn in just two hours that will give you an instant positive shift in your communication and the quality of men you attract.

    So, if you want to attract your man without wasting your time, energy and resources on messaging the wrong guys, join us now.

    This live virtual “Attract Your Man Messaging Workshop” gives you the exact formula for knowing who to message, how to message him, and what your first messages will be . . . OR YOUR MONEY BACK!

    Click here to register now! 💕



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