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In this game-changing episode of Marriage IQ, we sit down with relationship expert Monica Tanner, who reveals the transformative power of asking for what you truly need in a relationship. Monica, a seasoned relationship educator and coach, dives deep into the strategies that can strengthen communication, foster intimacy, and create a stronger, more resilient marriage.
Unlock the Power of Effective Requests:
Monica shares a powerful, 3-step process to help couples get their needs met—and it's simpler than you think:
Be Willing to Change – Stop waiting for things to magically improve. Take the first step by voicing your needs at the right moment.
Be Clear & Specific – Say exactly what you need in a way your partner can easily understand and act upon.
Show Gratitude – Celebrate every small step your partner takes toward meeting your needs, reinforcing connection and positive change.
Bringing the Request Process to Sensitive Topics
Monica reveals how this approach can completely transform conversations around more delicate issues—like sexual intimacy. By practicing clear, empathetic communication, you and your partner can find ways to meet each other's needs without the awkwardness or tension that often arises.
The Art of Relationship Repair:
Even the strongest relationships face challenges. Monica breaks down how to repair emotional rifts with a powerful, 4-step approach that helps you reconnect and rebuild trust:
Start with Love – Remember, you want what’s best for your spouse because you love them.
Describe the Situation – Stick to facts, not blame.
Share Your Feelings – Express how it made you feel, without attacking.
Request Change – Be clear about what you'd like to see moving forward.
Why This Matters:
This episode arms you with real, practical tools to:
Enhance communication
Strengthen intimacy
Navigate tough conversations
Foster a relationship built on mutual understanding and respect
If you're ready to transform your relationship and learn the art of asking for what you need (without guilt or frustration), don’t miss this episode! It’s the key to a healthier, happier partnership.
Listen now and start mastering the art of marital requests and repairs today!
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Feeling stuck in pain, betrayal, or resentment in your marriage? You’re not alone. But what if the path from victimhood to empowerment was closer than you think?
In this powerful episode of Marriage IQ, we confront the difficult but crucial topic of victimhood in relationships—how it takes hold, why it keeps us stuck, and most importantly, how to break free. Through real-life examples, we unpack how shifting your mindset can transform even the most painful experiences into catalysts for growth, strength, and deeper connection.
🔥 What You'll Learn:
✅ The hidden ways trauma shapes your marriage dynamics
✅ How to grieve past wounds without staying trapped in resentment
✅ The key to regaining control—without waiting for your spouse to change
✅ Practical strategies to move from feeling stuck to feeling strongWhether you're working through a betrayal, struggling with unmet needs, or simply looking to reclaim emotional resilience, this episode will give you the tools and perspective to break free. Because healing doesn’t depend on what’s been done to you—it depends on what you choose to do next.
🎧 Listen now and take your first step toward emotional freedom.
🔔 Don’t forget to subscribe, share, and drop a comment—what’s one mindset shift that helped you reclaim your strength in marriage? #MarriageIQ #EmotionalResilience #HealingTogether
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Talking about sex can feel awkward, even in the most committed relationships—but what if mastering sexual communication could transform your intimacy? In this episode of Marriage IQ, we dive deep into the art (and science) of discussing intimacy with Dr. Rebecca Lucero Jones and Dr. Adam Jones, assistant professors of marriage and family therapy at Texas Woman’s University.
Rebecca and Adam bring a rare blend of professional expertise and personal experience to the table. Rebecca’s journey as a young widow and their path to creating a strong blended family provide a unique lens on navigating complex relationship dynamics. Together, they offer research-backed insights on what makes sexual communication so different from other types of communication—and why it’s a skill every couple should develop.
From the power of co-authoring your sexual narrative to the surprising link between sharing fantasies and relationship satisfaction, Rebecca and Adam break down what it takes to foster openness, curiosity, and deep connection in the bedroom. Whether you’re in a new relationship or decades into a marriage, this episode is packed with practical strategies to help you and your partner talk about sex with confidence—and strengthen your bond like never before.
Don’t miss this fascinating conversation that could change the way you and your partner connect. Tune in now!
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In this episode ofMarriage IQ, we dive deep into the fascinating world of female sexual capacity—how it works, what drives it, and how it differs from male sexuality. Drawing from groundbreaking research, including Dr. Emily Nagoski’sCome As You Are, we shatter common myths and reveal the key ingredients of female desire: emotional connection, safety, and true intimacy.
We’ll also tackle misconceptions about libido, the influence of societal conditioning on women’s sexual health, and practical strategies for couples to enhance intimacy and pleasure.
Whether you're looking to better understand your partner or deepen your own self-awareness, this episode is packed with eye-opening insights.
Listen now and discover how to create a more fulfilling, connected, and passionate relationship!
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Romance is an essential ingredient for a thriving relationship... for Valentine's and all year-round. In this enlightening episode of Marriage IQ, we explore the art of intentional romance with expert Josie McEwen, founder of Romance Enhanced Consulting.
From creative date ideas to practical tips for rekindling the spark, Josie shares her wealth of experience in helping couples infuse more romance into their daily lives. Whether you consider yourself a hopeless romantic or struggle to express affection, this episode offers valuable insights for everyone.
We also share some amusing anecdotes about romantic plans gone awry, from a challenging trip to Italy to an unexpectedly motion-sickness-inducing treehouse getaway. These stories highlight the importance of flexibility and humor in navigating the ups and downs of romantic endeavors.
This episode serves as a reminder that romance is just not about grand gestures or perfect execution, but rather about the intentional effort to connect with and appreciate your partner. By implementing these strategies, you can create a more fulfilling and passionate relationship, regardless of your natural inclination towards romance.
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This episode, get expert advice to learn how to improve your communication. We offer a unique blend of scientific insight and practical relationship advice, empowering you to navigate the complexities of marriage with greater understanding and emotional intelligence.
By learning to balance the instinctual reactions of your limbic system with the rational capabilities of your prefrontal cortex, you'll be better equipped to build a stronger, more resilient partnership.
Discover the roles of two essential brain components, the limbic system and the prefrontal cortex. The limbic system, responsible for instinctual responses and emotions, Triggers the "fight, flight, or freeze" response and can lead to emotional "storms" when overstimulated. The prefrontal cortex, which controls rational thinking and planning, helps regulate emotional responses, which allows for critical analysis and perspective-taking.
We share a personal anecdote from our own marriage, illustrating how misunderstandings and emotional reactions can stem from the complex interplay between different parts of our brains, and offer antidotes, such as using I-statements, to navigate this biological mystery.
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In this thought-provoking episode of Marriage IQ, we tackle a sensitive yet crucial topic that impacts countless relationships: body image. As your hosts, we delve into the complex interplay between self-perception, societal pressures, and marital satisfaction, offering evidence-based insights and practical strategies to foster a healthier body image within your partnership.
We share startling statistics that reveal the pervasive nature of body dissatisfaction, particularly among women. From the influence of plastic surgery trends to the alarming prevalence of body concerns in young girls, we paint a comprehensive picture of the challenges many face in accepting their physical selves.
This episode provides a roadmap for couples to navigate the complex terrain of body image together, fostering greater understanding, empathy, and intimacy. By addressing this often-overlooked aspect of relationships, you'll gain valuable tools to strengthen your bond and cultivate a more positive self-image for both partners.
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Expectations play a crucial role in marital satisfaction, yet many couples struggle to align their expectations with reality. In this episode, we explore the intricate relationship between expectations and marital happiness, drawing insights from recent research and our personal experiences.
We discuss how childhood experiences shape our expectations, the impact of unrealistic expectations on marital satisfaction, the importance of balancing high expectations with realistic investment in the relationship.
We vulnerably share a personal anecdote about our recent "Christmas leaf blower incident," illustrating how misaligned expectations can lead to misunderstandings and disappointment. This story serves as a springboard for discussing the need for regular check-ins and adjustments in marital expectations.
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In this enlightening episode of Marriage iQ, we explore the intricate world of anxious attachment and its profound impact on relationships. Our special guest, Trevor Hansen from the Art of Healing, brings his expertise to shed light on this often misunderstood aspect of human connection.
Trevor, with his master's degree in marriage and family therapy and extensive experience helping thousands of clients worldwide, offers invaluable insights into the roots and manifestations of anxious attachment. As we delve into his personal journey from struggle to healing, we uncover the transformative power of understanding and addressing our attachment styles.
Join us on this episode as we explore the concept of anxious attachment, explaining the underlying fears and beliefs that drive anxious behaviors, how childhood experiences shape our attachment styles, and the impact of anxious attachment on marital relationships.
Discover the telltale signs of anxious attachment, such as an intense fear of abandonment, constant need for reassurance, frequent conflict, and the tendency to often prioritize others' needs over one's own.
Whether you're struggling with anxious attachment or simply want to deepen your understanding of relationship dynamics, Trevor's insights in this episode of Marriage IQ provide a roadmap for creating more secure, fulfilling connections.
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Navigating the uncharted waters of marriage can be both exhilarating and challenging for newlyweds. In this enlightening episode of Marriage IQ, we bridge the generational gap by bringing together us as seasoned marriage experts, with our daughter Emilee and son-in-law Hunter Ray, who are approaching their first wedding anniversary.
This unique intergenerational dialogue offers a blend of time-tested wisdom and fresh perspectives on the complexities of modern relationships. As we engage in a candid question-and-answer session, we explore a range of topics crucial for building a strong foundation in marriage.
Key insights for newlyweds include navigating in-law relationships, finding financial harmony, balancing busy schedules, and prioritizing intimacy. From our Gen Z couple, we learn about managing social media, overcoming comparisons, navigating hormonal changes, and building lasting memories.
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Are you ready to put your marriage intelligence to the test? In this engaging episode of Marriage IQ, we present an extensive 50-question quiz designed to evaluate your understanding and application of key marital concepts that are necessary to creating a scintillating marriage.
1. Identity
2. Intentionality
3. Insight
4. Intimacy
This episode serves as both an assessment and an invitation to continue your journey towards a more fulfilling partnership. Whether you're a "beginner" or a "genius" on the Marriage iQ scale, there's always room for growth and improvement.
Take the quiz, invite your spouse to take it, reflect on your results, and use the insights gained to strengthen your relationship.
Remember, "The intelligent spouse knows that to change from a stinky to a scintillating marriage first requires a change in themselves."
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Financial intimacy is a crucial aspect of a thriving marriage, yet it remains an often overlooked dimension of relationship health. In this episode of Marriage IQ, we build upon last week’s episode about finances to explore the profound impact of financial communication on marital satisfaction and stability.
We delve into the concept of financial intimacy, which extends beyond mere budgeting to encompass a deep, open, and trusting connection between partners regarding their financial lives. This includes creating a shared vision for the future, discussing values and goals related to money, complete honesty and integrity about finances, and ensuring both partners feel heard and respected in financial matters.
We also examine how financial intimacy aligns with our four cornerstones of a thriving marriage: identity, intentionality, insight, and intimacy. Learn how to apply these principles to your financial relationship and create a stronger, more unified approach to money management.
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Financial stress can significantly impact marital satisfaction, yet many couples struggle to navigate this critical aspect of their relationship. In this two-part episode of Marriage iQ, we explore the intricate connection between finances and marital happiness, offering valuable insights for couples at any stage of their journey.
Drawing from our personal experiences and extensive research, we delve into:
The surprising benefits of marriage on financial stability
How childhood experiences shape our financial attitudes
Strategies for overcoming financial conflicts in relationships
The importance of shared decision-making in financial matters
Understand how financial stress affects 70-85% of adults and its impact on marriages
Learn the significance of addressing financial history and baggage in relationships
Discover the power of intentional budgeting and shared financial goals
Explore the link between financial management and marital satisfaction
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In the whirlwind of daily life, it's easy for couples to lose sight of the small moments that once defined their relationship. This episode of Marriage IQ explores the profound impact of intentional rituals on marital connection and satisfaction.
We share our personal journey from courtship to parenthood, highlighting how deliberate actions kept our bond strong through challenging times. Drawing on research by experts like Dr. William Doherty and Dr. John Gottman, we reveal the power of rituals in creating meaningful, resilient marriages.
This episode offers a blueprint for couples seeking to strengthen their connection through intentional, meaningful practices. Whether you're newlyweds or celebrating decades together, learn how to infuse your relationship with purpose and intimacy through the power of rituals.
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In seeking to find the intricate balance of "me" and "we" in marriage, self-silencing can lead partners to lose sight of their authentic selves. This episode of Marriage iQ explores the profound impact of a positive or negative sense of self on relationships. This episode features insights from our amazing guest, Dr. Amber Price, a researcher and educator specializing in helping busy moms thrive in their relationships.
Dr. Price sheds light on the concept of a strong sense of self and its crucial role in fostering genuine connection within marriages. She explains how self-silencing, resulting from a poor sense of self, is often rooted in a desire for approval and validation, can erode intimacy, and lead to resentment over time.
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In this episode of Marriage IQ we tackle the intricacies of masculine intimacy within marriage. Aimed at a male audience, Dr. Scott Hastings provides an insightful, candid exploration of relationship dynamics from a man's perspective. He recounts personal experiences from his childhood, discusses the importance of emotional investment, respecting boundaries, and the detrimental effects of pornography on long-term relationships. The episode includes practical advice and offers a quiz for men to evaluate their intimacy skills with their spouses. We emphasize that true intimacy requires consistent effort and mindfulness, aiming to transform relationships to scintillating ones!
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In the intricate dance of marriage, partners often find themselves stepping on each other's toes. But what if the secret to a harmonious relationship lies in the art of ballroom dancing? This episode of Marriage IQ, we explore the fascinating parallels between the world of competitive dance and the dynamics of a successful marriage.
Join us as we waltz through an enlightening conversation with Alex Elsbury and Grace Gallagher, two of the world's top ballroom dancers. These young, accomplished performers share their insights on how the principles of dance can be applied to strengthen marital bonds.
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We all know that disagreements and conflicts are inevitable in marriage. What loving couple doesn't have the occasional tiff? But how we handle those tricky conversations can mean the difference between growing closer together or drifting further apart.
On this episode of Marriage IQ, we share an all-too-familiar story of bickering during a much anticipated hike through the Grand Canyon. In that petty quarrel, feelings got hurt over misunderstandings. Sound relatable?
The truth is, it's completely normal to have conflicts and differing opinions in a marriage. The danger lies in letting it fester into contention - when we start believing only our perspective is right. How can we move from conflict to understanding instead? Listen to this episode to find out!
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Struggling with the tough talk about disclosing to your partner betrayal stemming from problematic sexual behaviors or pornography use? We've got valuable insights on this podcast episode with betrayal trauma expert, Ellen Drews. She shares how intentionality and care in the disclosure process can minimize trauma and foster true healing for both partners. As a certified life coach and pastoral sex addiction professional, she has helped couples with honest disclosures to rebuild trust and intimacy in relationships. She also shares her best tips for protecting or healing marital relationships from betrayal. Need guidance on navigating this sensitive topic? Join us for this episode of Marriage IQ! Do you know someone else who could benefit from this knowledge? Share it with your friends! Let's prioritize integrity and create a safe space for open communication in our marriages.
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Ever wondered why trust is so crucial in marriages? Trust isn't just a feeling; it's the bedrock of a stable, secure attachment in marriage. Trust in relationships is about reliability, dependability, and alignment between who someone says they are and who they truly are. It's the foundation for creating a safe space to connect, create, and engage.
We are excited to have Geoff Steurer, a licensed marriage and family therapist who specializes in helping couples repair broken trust, join us for this episode of Marriage IQ. He shares key insights on building trust in committed relationships. He also discusses rebuilding trust when pornography, affairs, or other sexual behaviors have caused betrayal trauma for the spouse. He emphasizes the importance of holding the responsibility on the person who broke the trust, not mutualizing it. Goeff's expertise highlights the need for compassion, accountability, and a willingness to initiate changes for long-term healing. And his unique perspective challenges us to see trust-building as a prrofound opportunity for growth.
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