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Have you ever opened up to your spouse about the mental load, only to be met with defensiveness, resistance, or invalidating responses? It can feel hopeless, lonely, and leave you questioning whether your partner truly understands or cares. This episode is for you if youâve tried having these conversations but still arenât getting what you need.
Tune in to discover:
Why defensive or invalidating responses to the mental load feel so painful and isolating
Scripts you can use when your spouse says frustrating things like, âWell, no one asked you to do all that,â or, âI guess Iâm just a bad husbandâ
The importance of understanding your spouseâs intentions and how to navigate the emotions behind their reactions
How to avoid shutting down in your marriage, even when things donât go well
Why the solution lies in building systems that work for both of you (and how to start that conversation today)
If youâve ever felt like youâre carrying everything alone or that your spouse just doesnât âget it,â this episode will help you approach these tough conversations with confidence, clarity, and love. Itâs not about proving whoâs right or wrongâitâs about finding a way to tackle the mental load together.
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Are you tired of feeling like youâre the one holding everything together - not just managing the household, but also keeping track of every need, schedule, and responsibility for your kids and spouse? The mental load can feel overwhelming, and even more so when youâre carrying it alone. But how do you talk to your spouse about it without it turning into an argument?
In this episode, Iâm sharing exactly what to do to approach this sensitive topic and how to build a stronger partnership in the process.
Tune in to discover:Why the mental load isnât just about tasks, but about the emotional weight of carrying everyoneâs needs
The #1 reason holding the mental load makes you feel disconnected and lonely in your marriage
How to feel more appreciated and validated, even if your spouse doesnât fully understand what youâre going through
A step-by-step approach to talking to your spouse about the mental load without triggering defensiveness or conflict
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Have you ever felt upset when your spouse says theyâll do something and then just⊠doesnât? Or when they say theyâll be home at a certain time and arenât? These small moments might not feel like a big deal at first, but over time, they fracture trust in your marriage. And without realizing it, these small cracks can lead to resentment, disconnection, and even marriage shutdown.
In this episode, Iâm diving into the small ways trust is broken, how it impacts your relationship, and, most importantly, how you can fix it fast to restore connection and partnership.Tune in to discover:
The surprising everyday actions that are quietly breaking trust in your marriage
The quickest way to push your marriage toward shutdown (and how to stop it)
How to rebuild trust through small, intentional actions that make a big impact
The secret to knowing exactly what your spouse needs to feel valued and supported
Simple strategies to repair fractured trust and create a stronger, more connected partnership
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As we head into a new year, letâs focus on setting your marriage up for success in 2025. Whether your relationship feels strong or strained right now, these actionable tips will help you intentionally improve your connection and partnership in the months ahead. This episode is packed with simple yet impactful strategies that donât require a ton of time or energyâperfect for busy parents.
Tune in to discover:
Why lasting change takes time and how to stay consistent long enough to see results
A surprising and powerful tool (that takes less than 5 minutes!) that has the ability to transform your marriage
How to align your daily actions with your priorities (and make space for what fills you up)
A simple method to organize household management and reduce resentment
How to spot and shift negative thought patterns about your spouse and marriage to build a stronger foundation
Letâs make 2025 the year your marriage thrivesâstarting today.
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The holidays can be an overwhelming time, especially for couples already feeling the strain of marriage shutdown. Many couples find themselves struggling even more during this season, and divorce filings spike right after the holidays for a reason. In this episode, Iâll share practical, research-backed strategies to help you avoid becoming part of that statistic, feel more connected to your spouse, and create the holiday season you truly want.
Tune in to discover:
The staggering statistic about divorce after the holidays (and what it means for your marriage)
Why holiday stress puts extra strain on marriages (and how to counteract it)
How to avoid fights or de-escalate them before they spiral out of control
The importance of clearly communicating your needs (and not assuming your spouse can read your mind)
One simple question to ask yourself daily to ensure youâre staying aligned with what truly matters
Why expert support can make all the difference when your marriage feels stuck
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Parenthood is a never-ending grind, and the stress of it all can often feel overwhelming. But did you know that how good you feel as a parent is directly impacted by one key thing? In this episode, Iâll reveal what that is and show you how to create more capacity for joy in parenting by prioritizing this often-overlooked area of your life.
Tune in to discover:
The connection between the quality of your marriage and your happiness as a parent
Why resentment, disappointment, or frustration with your spouse depletes your capacity to parent at your best
How to prioritize fun with your spouse, even when resentment feels like a barrier
The tools you need to switch the dynamic in your marriage instead of focusing solely on what your spouse isnât doing
Why the thoughts you have about your spouse might not be true (and how reframing them can strengthen your bond)
The #1 tip to take your marriage from struggling to thriving
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62% of couples polled on my Instagram admitted to fighting with their spouse most of the holiday season.
Holidays are supposed to be joyful, but the stress can bring out the worst in even the happiest couples. In this episode, Iâll show you how to stop feeling like enemies and start working as a team to handle the most common holiday stressorsâso you can actually enjoy the season together.
Tune in to discover:
What to discuss before the chaos begins (so no one ends up disappointed)
How to handle family dynamics as a teamâeven with triggers, in-law drama, or differing traditions
Tips for navigating holiday parties to avoid tension, misunderstandings, or solo parenting
The one thing couples often neglect during the holiday rushâand why it needs to stay a priority
A simple approach to gift-giving that feels fair and stress-free
Scripts and exact words to get on the same page with your spouse about it all
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Feeling unseen, invalidated, or completely shut down in your marriage? Youâre not aloneâand thereâs a way to feel connected again (and itâs simpler than you think).
Marriage isnât about perfection. Itâs about learning, growing, and showing up for each other, even when itâs hard. In this episode, Iâm diving into the powerful reactions to one of my viral reels about feeling lonely, unvalued, and disconnected in marriage. Letâs explore what these struggles have in common and, most importantly, how to move forward.
Tune in to discover:How societal themes around marriage shape our relationships and expectations
Why itâs okay to need more than your spouse to feel fully supported
How to take control of your happiness in marriageâwithout waiting on your partner to change
The key to building a stronger connection (and the doâs and donâts of listening, validating, and understanding your partnerâs perspective)
Why timing matters and how waiting for calm can transform tough conversations
The importance of developing the skills that will not only ease conflict but also make you feel better in your relationship
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In this episode, weâre diving into something I know so many of us feel but donât always talk about: that deep need to feel supported and truly connected with our partner. Sometimes, itâs not about what your partner does or doesnât do; itâs about the little moments that either build trust or chip away at it.
Remember that classic line from The Break-Up with Jennifer Aniston? âI want you to want to do the dishes!â Itâs a funny moment, but itâs also deeper than that. We're exploring what this really means when it comes to feeling supported by our partners.
Tune in to discover:The 3 most common reasons couples feel unheard and disconnected - and what you can do about it
How small, every day promises (like showing up on time or picking up groceries) can significantly impact whether we feel truly supported and seen
The truth about the âmental loadâ and why an imbalance here can lead to resentment
Practical tips for creating a fair, flexible system at home where both partners feel valued
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Intimacy goes far beyond the physical; itâs about creating a safe, loving space where you and your partner feel truly valued and cherished. With the whirlwind of daily life, kids, and endless to-do lists, building a relationship that not only survives but thrives can feel overwhelming. But making time to nurture each other isnât just a nice-to-have - itâs essential.
In this episode, Iâm joined by the amazing Susan Bratton, an Intimacy Expert and advocate for couples who crave lasting passion and connection. Trust me, you wonât want to miss her insights on keeping the spark alive, especially during lifeâs busiest seasons!
Tune in to discover how to:Cultivate intimacy that feels safe, pressure-free, and fulfilling for both of you
Make time for what truly matters to build a joyful, lasting marriage
Harness the power of communication and empathy to deepen your connection
Bust through the âno timeâ myth and prioritize your relationship
Use âerotic play datesâ to keep things fun, fresh, and free from pressure
Resources mentioned in episode:
seductiontrilogy.com
Sex tips newsletter: betterlover.com
sexlifebucketlist.com
30 Day Masturbation Challenge: https://betterlover.com/30-day-masturbation-challenge/
pumpingguide.com
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Sometimes, the topics that make us most uncomfortable are the ones we need to talk about the most. In this episode, weâre diving into the tough (but crucial) topic of triggers - those moments that make us feel defensive, frustrated, or downright vulnerable in our relationships. If youâve ever felt like certain conversations leave you feeling overly angry or misunderstood, this oneâs for you.
Tune in to discover:Why itâs often easier to focus on what we wish our partner would change rather than looking inward (and what happened when my partner pointed out something I never expected)
The hidden reasons behind feeling âtriggeredâ and how to understand whatâs really going on beneath the surface
A surprising strategy to use in arguments that shifts the dynamic and helps both of you feel seen
How to recognize your own triggers and communicate them to your spouse
Why facing your triggers head-on is essential for breaking free from the same frustrating cycles
The power of grace and love when dealing with uncomfortable feelings
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You donât want to wait months (or even years!) to feel happier and more connected in your marriage. And the good news is, you donât have to. There are simple shifts you can make today to start seeing results right now. Letâs dive into strategies that can help you bring more joy, ease, and connection into your relationship, even in the busiest seasons of life.
Tune in to discover:
Why the importance of feeling good in your marriage is often overlooked
A surprising question to ask yourself about how you spend time together (hint: is it more about connection or just tackling to-dos?)
How things outside your marriage may be influencing how you feel inside your marriage - and why taking care of yourself could be the key to feeling closer
The underrated power of setting up systems with your spouse to support each other and keep the household running smoothly
Why setting clear boundaries in your marriage is key to feeling respected and connected
Why getting the right kind of support could make you feel a huge sigh of relief (and where to start)
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Have you seen the âmarriage is scaryâ TikTok trend? While itâs fun to laugh about the little things that can be scary in a marriage (and trust me, they are valid), thereâs often a lot more beneath the surface that couples may not realize.
In the spirit of Halloween, letâs dive into the bigger, deeper issues that can make your marriage feel scary - especially after having kids and, most importantly, how you can address them to move forward in a happier, healthier way.
Tune in to discover:
The #1 thing every relationship needs to thrive (spoiler: itâs the opposite of scary - safety), and why couples who lack it are in dangerous territory
Why your spouseâs words - whether itâs a compliment or a criticism - cut deeper than anyone elseâs
What to do when you feel stuck - when you want things to change in your marriage, but donât know how to work together to make it happen
How to resolve conflicts without damaging your relationship, and instead, use disagreements to build a stronger connection
The hidden danger of carrying an unequal mental load, and how to address it when youâre feeling overlooked, unsupported, and uncared for
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Juggling the demands of parenthood often leaves intimacy on the backburner. In this episode, Iâm joined by marriage and family therapist Steph Flood, who has helped countless couples rediscover a healthy, joyful marriage. Together, weâre diving into realistic ways to stay connected, even in the busiest seasons of parenthood.
Tune in to discover:
Why the first five years of parenthood require so. much. grace.âand how to give it to yourselves and each other
The common challenge most women face post-baby and how it impacts intimacy
How men can help reignite intimacy in their relationship
Our conversation on why todayâs dads are more involved than ever, but often lack the models or skills to actively support intimacy
The one small shift that brings lightness and fun back into your marriage
Practical tips to help women get to a place where intimacy feels good again
What she works with couples on (figuring out what feels right/good)
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Is your spouse preventing you from being happy in your marriage? The truth is, you may be focusing on the wrong thing. In this episode, Iâll guide you through the most common barriers to building the marriage you want - and how shifting your approach can lead to real, lasting change.
Tune in to discover:
Real-life examples of why couples come to me feeling unfulfilled (often assuming their spouse simply wonât meet their needs - when thatâs rarely the case)
Whatâs actually getting in the way of your spouse meeting your needs (hint: itâs not that they donât care)
The biggest factor holding you back from the marriage you desire
How mismatched or unclear expectations are creating tension and frustration
Why the way youâre asking for change may be pushing your spouse away and causing defensiveness or distance
The impact of being at different stages of change and how itâs affecting your ability to grow together
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When your marriage feels like itâs falling apart, it can be hard to imagine things ever changing for the better. The hopelessness creeps in, making you feel like a failure. And social media? It only adds to the pressure. The truth is, marriage doesnât have to be this complicated - especially after having kids - and Iâm here to help you make it easier!
Tune in to discover:
The common myths couples come to me with (hint: they think marriage should just work)
The biggest mistake people make that ends up making their marriage harder
Why you feel so guilty when you try something new you saw on social media and it doesnât work
The three simple keys to having a happy and healthy marriage
How to block out the noise and figure out what truly works best for you and your relationship
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Reality TV. Bridgerton. Romance novels. We all crave that kind of intense, sweeping passion in our own relationships - the kind that has us glued to our screens. But what if that kind of love is actually setting us up for disappointment? Hereâs my (very) unpopular opinion: The real magic in a successful marriage lies in safe, steady, and consistent love - not in grand, movie-worthy gestures. In this episode, Iâll break down why stability is the true secret to a fulfilling relationship. Ready to be convinced?
Tune in to discover:
The one thing no one tells you about deepening your connection with your spouse
How to figure out exactly what works for YOUR marriage (and why Hollywood-style romance is setting you up for a letdown)
Why prioritizing this one thing can make your marriage feel so much better
Simple ways to better support your mental load as a team (without adding stress!)
What brushing your teeth daily has to do with having a healthy marriage (it makes more sense than you think!)
The only time to have important conversations with your spouse (hint: when youâre able to really listen and validate them!)
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Do you know what works for you when life feels overwhelming? Do you know how your spouse can best support you? When the mental load is already heavy, and the to-do list feels endless, itâs time to talk about how to avoid tension and get the support you need most.
In this episode, Iâm getting real about the stress Iâm feeling in this season of life. Iâll share how Iâm handling it, the strategies that have helped me (and my clients), and how you can use them too.
Tune in to discover:
The very first thing to do when it all feels too much
How to ask for and accept help - from your spouse and others
Ways to go from feeling lonely and unsupported to genuinely feeling cared for by your partner
The powerful shift I made in my marriage to feel fully supported
Why itâs essential to work on this now - and the cost of not addressing it
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No one seems to be talking about this. After years as a marriage expert and staying on top of the latest research, I recently came across something that made my jaw drop. It sheds new light on why so many couples struggle after having kids, and Iâm surprised Iâve never seen it framed this way before.
Tune in to discover:
A staggering statistic about marriage and parenthood that changes everything
How having a child shifts both individuals in a relationship - and why it can feel so isolating
The single most important thing you and your spouse need to do to stop your marriage from feeling like a struggle
How to align with your spouse and become a team to support each other through the challenges
The key thing you and your partner are probably missing thatâs creating conflict - and how to fix it
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Hereâs the thing: this tool works every single time when it comes to defensiveness, yet so many people resist it - including my clients. But if youâre serious about building a stronger marriage where both your needs are met, this is one tool you canât afford to skip. Ready to try the tool youâve probably been avoiding but absolutely need?
Tune in to discover:
A deep dive into defensiveness in relationships (with relatable personal examples)
The real reasons behind your defensiveness and how it shows up in your marriage
What makes this defensiveness tool completely maddening, yet so effective
How to approach conversations when you suspect your spouse might get defensive
Practical steps to increase trust, safety, and love in your marriage
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