Afleveringen
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"Power struggles in relationships usually result in either a breaking point or a turning point for growth."
In this episode of Master Your Marriage, we discuss the importance of accepting influence in a relationship and how it can lead to a happier and healthier partnership. We explain that accepting influence means taking your partner's opinion into account and being open to using their input to make decisions as a couple. We also address the challenges of accepting influence, such as cultural conditioning and the fear of losing power. We share some tips on how to mentally prepare for disagreements, including seeing the other person's perspective, assuming good intent, and focusing on the underlying values behind the disagreement. We emphasize the importance of finding win-win solutions and incorporating both partners' needs in the decision-making process.
Takeaways
Accepting influence is crucial for a healthy and happy relationship.
Power struggles in relationships can lead to deterioration or growth.
Accepting influence does not mean giving away power, but rather finding a balance.
Mentally preparing for disagreements can help improve communication and find win-win solutions.
Disagreements often stem from differences in values, and understanding each other's perspectives is key to resolving conflicts.
Chapters
00:00 Intro
04:17 Finding a Balance
08:06 Amygdala Hijack: The Fight, Flight, or Freeze Response
15:35 Acquiring Respect, Power, and Influence through Accepting Influence
24:18 Understanding Values
27:35 Small Acts of Kindness
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"Physical touch is a language of its own."
Physical touch is a vital language of connection in relationships. It fosters trust, teamwork, and overall well-being. Touch is a powerful way to communicate emotions and messages without words. Research shows that touch improves performance and cooperation in teams, including NBA players. Touch starvation, or the lack of physical affection, can lead to loneliness, depression, and health issues. To prioritize physical affection in long-term relationships, create daily rituals of touch, such as a six-second kiss, a 20-second hug, holding hands, giving back rubs, and creating a bedtime ritual that includes touch. It's important to respond to your partner's touch bids and avoid making touch conditional on sex. If touch has not felt safe in the past, start slowly and seek healing.
Takeaways
Physical touch is a vital language of connection in relationships.
Creating daily rituals of touch can prioritize physical affection in long-term relationships.
Responding to your partner's touch bids strengthens connection and intimacy.
Avoid making touch conditional on sex and prioritize non-sexual touch.
If touch has not felt safe in the past, start slowly and seek healing.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction
06:11 Improving Performance and Cooperation
15:13 Touch Starvation: The Impact of a Lack of Physical Affection
23:27 Responding to Touch Bids: Strengthening Connection and Intimacy
26:23 Creating a Safe Space: Healing Past Trauma and Building Trust
28:13 Conclusion
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"Learning isn't a straight line. It's really more like a roller coaster with ups and downs."
This episode discusses the four stages of learning and how they apply to relationships. The stages are: unconscious incompetence, conscious incompetence, conscious competence, and unconscious competence. The hosts emphasize that learning new skills in relationships can be frustrating and challenging, but it's important to give yourself grace and keep practicing. They also discuss the importance of personalizing the skills and teaching them to others. The episode concludes by reminding listeners that relationships are a lifelong journey of growth and that it's important to have love and compassion for oneself and one's partner.
Takeaways:
Learning new skills in relationships can be frustrating and challenging, but it's important to give yourself grace and keep practicing.
The four stages of learning are: unconscious incompetence, conscious incompetence, conscious competence, and unconscious competence.
Personalizing the skills and teaching them to others can help solidify your understanding and mastery of the skills.
Relationships are a lifelong journey of growth, and it's important to have love and compassion for oneself and one's partner.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction and Connection with Listeners
06:35 The Four Stages of Learning
15:01 Conscious Competence and Effortless Mastery
23:38 Emotional Struggles and Grace in Learning
25:29 Relationships as a Journey of Growth
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Is porn good for marriage?
In this conversation, Robert and Sharla Snow discuss the topic of pornography and its impact on relationships. They highlight three main reasons why they decided to address this topic: the correlation between pornography use and decreased sex life satisfaction, the potential for increased desire for rough or violent sexual intimacy, and the increased chance of divorce. They share staggering statistics about pornography consumption and its prevalence on the internet.
The conversation then shifts to the personal experiences of Emmanuel Guarino and his wife Becca, who share their journey of dealing with porn addiction in their marriage. They discuss the negative effects of pornography on their relationship, including porn-induced erectile dysfunction and the loss of intimacy.
They also talk about the lack of resources and support available for couples dealing with this issue. The turning point in their journey came when Emmanuel reached a breaking point and asked for help, leading them to start a mission of helping other couples overcome porn addiction. They emphasize the importance of addressing the underlying pain and trauma that often drives porn addiction and the need for open and vulnerable communication in relationships.
Takeaways
Using pornography has been correlated to decreased sex life satisfaction and can impact relationships.There is a statistically increased chance of divorce associated with pornography use.Open and vulnerable communication is crucial in addressing and overcoming porn addiction in relationships. Removing shame and stigma surrounding pornography addiction is important for healing.Building a supportive team and changing the environment can aid in overcoming addiction.Understanding the dark side of the porn industry can help in breaking free from its influence.Vulnerability, honesty, and teamwork are key to building strong and intimate relationships.
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"Empathy can heal, deescalate conflict, and prevent resentments."
In this episode, Robert and Sharla Snow discuss the importance of empathy in difficult situations within a marriage. They explore three challenging situations: dealing with harsh words, when a spouse isn't open and vulnerable, and hearing the word 'no'. They emphasize the need to practice empathy, even when it's difficult, and provide strategies for understanding and connecting with the feelings and needs of your partner. The episode highlights the detrimental effects of harsh startups and the importance of repair attempts. Overall, the Snows stress the significance of empathy in maintaining a healthy and flourishing relationship.
Takeaways
Empathy is crucial in difficult situations within a marriage.Harsh startups can escalate conflicts and lead to negativity and divorce.Repair attempts and a 5:1 positivity-to-negativity ratio are essential for maintaining a healthy relationship.When a spouse isn't open and vulnerable, inferential listening and confirming assumptions can help understand their feelings and needs.Hearing 'no' compassionately involves recognizing the feelings and needs behind the response and finding solutions that honor both partners' needs.Chapters
00:00 The Power of Empathy in Difficult Situations
08:00 Repair Attempts and the 5:1 Positivity Ratio
21:49 Compassionate Responses to Hearing 'No'
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"Empathy creates more intimacy, and that's what everyone wants."
Empathy is a powerful tool that can improve intimacy and connection in relationships. It involves being fully present and seeking to understand the feelings and needs of others. Empathy is not sympathy, giving advice, or trying to fix things. It requires being present, focusing on the present moment, and understanding the feelings and needs of the other person. Non-verbal communication, such as body language, is often more important than words in conveying empathy. Achieving empathy can lead to a sense of peace and connection.
Takeaways:
Empathy is a powerful tool for improving intimacy and connection in relationships.
Being fully present and seeking to understand the feelings and needs of others is key to practicing empathy.
Empathy is not sympathy, giving advice, or trying to fix things.
Non-verbal communication, such as body language, is often more important than words in conveying empathy.
Achieving empathy can lead to a sense of peace and connection.
#empathy #intimacy #connection
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"Are we even speaking the same language?"
In this episode, Robert and Sharla Snow discuss the miscommunications that can occur in relationships and how different speaking and listening styles contribute to these misunderstandings. They explain the differences between inferential and literal listeners and speakers, and the challenges that can arise when these styles clash. The hosts emphasize the importance of clear communication and making explicit requests to avoid misinterpretations. They also encourage couples to eliminate the expectation that their partner should just know their needs and instead appreciate when their requests are met. Overall, the episode provides practical tips for improving communication and preventing miscommunications in relationships.
Takeaways
Different speaking and listening styles can lead to miscommunications in relationships.
Inferential listeners infer meaning from what is said, while literal listeners take words at face value.
Inferential speakers imply or hint at their needs, while literal speakers are direct.
It is important to recognize and understand your own speaking and listening style, as well as your partner's.
Clear communication and explicit requests can help prevent misinterpretations.
Eliminate the expectation that your partner should just know your needs and instead appreciate when they respond to your requests.
Be grateful for your partner's efforts to connect and meet your needs, even if you have to ask for it.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction and Overview
06:12 Understanding Listening Styles
12:41 Different Speaking Styles
23:26 The Importance of Clear Communication
27:30 Eliminating the Expectation of Mind Reading
31:11 Conclusion and Call to Action
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In this episode of the Master Your Marriage Podcast, hosts Sharla and Robert Snow dive deep into the intricacies of mastering conflict and communication within relationships. This time they are not alone, Robert and Sharla were special guests for The Body Pod Podcast, with Hailey Happens Fitness and Love By Laura.
The episode explores the Gottman Institute's research on predictors of divorce, highlighting the importance of avoiding detrimental conflict behaviors. Sharla and Robert share insights on strategies such as 'adult timeouts' and self-soothing techniques, emphasizing the significance of empathy, trust, and positive communication in creating emotional safety within relationships.
Listeners are encouraged to view conflicts as opportunities for growth and understanding, with proactive engagement in respectful communication advocated for effective conflict resolution. Tune in for expert advice on building stronger, more fulfilling partnerships through deliberate communication techniques.
Don't forget to check their podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-body-pod/id1713102062
And also Hailey's IG:
https://www.instagram.com/haileyhappensfitness?igsh=c3MzOXBqMzVnNmJn
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This is Part 4 in a 4 Part Series on Navigating Needs In Relationships
In this episode, Robert and Sharla Snow discuss the art of saying no and creating boundaries without pain. They emphasize the importance of saying no to requests from our partners compassionately, to maintain connection and avoid resentment. They explore the concept of resentful accommodation, where we meet the needs of others at the expense of our own needs and desires. The hosts provide examples of how resentful accommodation can manifest in relationships and the negative impact it can have. They also offer a three-step framework for compassionately saying no and finding a win-win solution.
Takeaways:
Saying no to our partner's requests is important for maintaining connection and avoiding resentment.
Resentful accommodation, where we meet the needs of others at the expense of our own needs, is a losing strategy.
It is essential to know and express our own needs and desires in order to have a balanced and intimate relationship.
A three-step framework for saying no compassionately includes receiving the request as a gift, stating the need behind the no, and searching for a win-win solution.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction
00:59 Importance of Saying No
04:14 Resentful Accommodation
05:24 Examples of Resentful Accommodation
06:22 Losing Strategy
07:20 Question: What if I can't always meet my partner's needs?
10:06 Resentful Accommodation and Insecurity
12:28 Resentful Accommodation in Family Situations
13:51 Feeling Resentful at Family Gatherings
15:44 Complex Emotion of Resentment
19:34 Knowing Our Needs and Desires
20:58 Framework for Saying No
21:50 Step 1: Receive the Request as a Gift
23:44 Step 2: State the Need Behind the No
25:38 Step 3: Search for a Win-Win
27:27 Balancing Needs and Staying Connected
29:22 Conclusion and Call to Action
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This is Part 3 in a 4 Part Series on Navigating Needs In Relationships
In this episode, Robert and Sharla Snow discuss the importance of expressing needs effectively in relationships. They highlight the role of unexpressed and unspoken needs in causing resentment. The hosts emphasize the need to make clear observations without evaluation or judgment and to honestly and effectively express feelings. They outline the four elements of a compassionate request: clear observations, expressing feelings, articulating specific needs, and making a specific request without sounding like a demand. The hosts acknowledge the challenges of building trust in requests and encourage listeners to be patient and practice this new way of communicating.
Takeaways
Unexpressed and unspoken needs can lead to resentment in relationships.Effective communication involves making clear observations without evaluation or judgment.Expressing feelings honestly and effectively is crucial in expressing needs.A compassionate request includes clear observations, feelings, specific needs, and a request that does not sound like a demand.Chapters
00:00 Resentment in Relationships
03:05 Expressing Needs Effectively
04:00 Four Elements of a Compassionate Request
05:25 Making Clear Observations
10:30 Expressing Feelings
13:23 Articulating Specific Needs
15:40 Making a Specific Request
24:54 Building Trust in Requests
26:18 Final Thoughts and Call to Action
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This is Part 2 in a 4 Part Series on Navigating Needs In Relationships
In this episode, Robert and Sharla Snow discuss the science of needs and how to express them in a healthy way. They highlight the destructive communication patterns that sabotage getting needs met and provide strategies for transforming communication. The importance of becoming conscious of needs is emphasized, and an exercise is shared to help listeners translate judgments into needs. The episode concludes with a discussion on core human needs and a call to action to create a vocabulary of needs.
Takeaways
Destructive communication patterns, such as criticism and blame, sabotage getting needs met.
Expressing needs clearly requires avoiding demands and using compassionate language.
Becoming conscious of needs is essential for effective communication.
An exercise can help translate judgments into needs and create a vocabulary of needs.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction
02:48 The Importance of Needs
08:04 Destructive Communication Patterns
14:02 Transforming Communication Patterns
21:53 Exercise: Translating Judgments into Needs
26:12 Identifying Core Human Needs
27:06 Conclusion and Call to Action
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This is Part 1 of a 4 Part Series on Navigating Needs In Relationships
In this touching episode, Robert and Sharla Snow openly share a personal encounter with anger, offering a genuine glimpse into their imperfect moments. They delve into the nuanced nature of anger, challenging preconceptions and drawing insights from Dr. John Gottman's research. Practical steps for transforming anger are introduced, accompanied by a self-awareness exercise for listeners. The episode underscores the transformative power of thoughtful responses, emphasizing the space between stimulus and reaction.
Takeaways:
Anger Signals Unmet Needs: Recognize anger as a signal indicating disconnection from personal needs.
Transform Thoughts, Not Blame: Shift focus from blaming others to transforming internal thoughts contributing to anger.
Connect to Underlying Needs: Dig beneath judgments to identify and connect with the unmet needs fueling anger.
Practice Self-Awareness: Keep a journal to note anger triggers, facilitating reflection and transformation.
CHAPTERS:
Opening Confession
The Nature of Anger
The Prisoner's Story
Steps to Transform Anger
Practical Self-Awareness Exercise
The Power of Thoughtful Responses
Closing Gratitude and Call to Action
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Summary
In this episode, Robert and Sharla Snow discuss the pursuit of happiness in relationships. They explore the illusion of future happiness and the importance of finding joy in challenging circumstances. Drawing from their experience with an 80-year-old Mayan woman in Guatemala, they emphasize the role of personal happiness in relationships. The couple also examines the relationship between money and happiness, highlighting the need for individuals to take responsibility for their own happiness. They provide practical tips and practices for creating a happiness fitness plan, in each of the following categories: spiritual, mental, emotional, and physical.
Takeaways:
Happiness is not dependent on external circumstances or future events; it is a choice we make in the present moment.Finding joy in challenging circumstances is possible and can be learned from individuals who have little material wealth.The secret to happiness in relationships is being a happy person oneself, rather than relying on a partner to change.Taking responsibility for our own happiness involves creating a fitness plan that includes spiritual, mental, emotional, and physical practices.Chapters:
The Illusion of Future Happiness
Finding Happiness in Challenging Circumstances
Lessons from an 80-year-old Mayan Woman
The Secret to Happiness in Relationships
The Relationship Between Money and Happiness
Taking Responsibility for Our Own Happiness
The Futility of Wanting Our Partner to Change
The Impact of Negative Sentiment Override
Creating a Happiness Fitness Plan
The Power of Alpha Brain Waves
Embracing Emotions and Practicing Gratitude
Taking Care of Our Physical Bodies
Lessons from an 80-year-old Guatemalan Grandmother
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If you have a question you would like addressed, call us! Leave your question in a recorded message which we may select to be played on a future episode. That question line is 801-669-8513.
Summary:
In this episode, Robert and Sharla Snow discuss the challenge of difficult conversations and the consequences of the silent treatment in relationships. They explain the difference between silence and the silent treatment, highlighting the importance of avoiding the latter. The hosts also explore the reasons why people use the silent treatment and the emotional abuse it can cause. They provide solutions for breaking the silence, including acknowledging the issue, overcoming fear, and seeking help if needed.
Takeaways:
Difficult conversations are necessary in relationships, and avoiding them can lead to emotional distance.
The silent treatment is a form of emotional abuse that can make the recipient feel rejected and unimportant.
Silence can be acceptable in certain situations, such as taking a break during a heated conversation or removing oneself from verbal abuse.
To break the silence, it is important to acknowledge the issue, communicate honestly and without blame, and keep trying even if it is challenging.
Chapters:
02:29 The Consequences of the Silent Treatment
03:55 Difference Between Silence and the Silent Treatment
05:46 The Silent Treatment as Emotional Abuse
07:09 Reasons for Using the Silent Treatment
09:31 Avoiding the Silent Treatment
13:16 Research on the Silent Treatment
15:10 Solutions: Breaking the Silence
17:04 Acknowledging the Silence
19:51 Overcoming Fear of Addressing the Silence
23:41 Keep Trying and Seek Help if Needed
24:10 Conclusion
Other research and resources mentioned in this episode:
Schrodt P, Witt P, Shimkowski J. A meta-analytical review of the demand/withdraw pattern of interaction and its associations with individual, relational, and communicative outcomes. Communication Monographs, 2014;81(1):28. doi:10.1080/03637751.2013.81363
Additional Reading:
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3218801/
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Summary
In this episode, Robert and Sharla Snow discuss gridlocked conflicts in relationships, inspired by a listener's question about managing conflicts with in-laws. They explain the three types of conflicts: solvable, perpetual, and gridlock, with gridlock problems being the most challenging. They emphasize the importance of approaching gridlock problems with compassion and acceptance, as well as seeking to understand each other's perspectives. They caution against criticizing, using the four horsemen (criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling), and instead encourage calm and positive communication. They also provide guidance on how to start a gentle conversation to address gridlock problems.
Takeaways
Gridlock problems in relationships are the most challenging and can lead to emotional disengagement and relationship breakdown.
Approach gridlock problems with compassion, acceptance, and understanding of each other's perspectives.
Avoid criticizing, using the four horsemen, and coming in hot during conversations about gridlock problems.
Seek to understand each other's values and dreams that are in conflict, and prioritize dialogue and compromise.
Chapters
Listener Question: Managing Big Conflicts
Types of Conflicts: Solvable, Perpetual, and Gridlock
Understanding Gridlock Problems
The Danger of Gridlock Problems
Approaching Gridlock Problems with Compassion and Acceptance
Recognizing and Addressing Gridlock Problems
The Importance of Acceptance and Compassion
What Not to Do: Criticizing and Using the Four Horsemen
What to Do: Seek Understanding and Dialogue
Getting to the Root of the Problem
Turning the Cart Around and Seeking Help
Role Play: Starting a Gentle Conversation
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In this episode, Sharla and Robert are joined by author, coach, and licensed therapist Colleen O'Grady for an insightful discussion on parenting, relationships, and the impact one has on the other. We talk about the challenges faced by parents, with a special focus on how these stresses can affect a couple's relationship, citing a statistic that 67% of relationships experience extreme dissatisfaction within the first three years of parenting.
The episode presents practical solutions for maintaining a strong connection despite the strains of parenting and shares proven strategies for managing life transitions. Apart from that, we also explore the importance of rituals, appreciation, love maps, and turning toward each other when experiencing challenging times. Tune in for this valuable discussion whether you are a parent, considering becoming one, or someone seeking ways to smoothen life transitions with their significant other.
Today you’ll hear about:
02:37 The Impact of Parenting on Couples
03:42 The Importance of Relationship Skills
03:54 The Influence of Childhood Experiences on Relationships
06:37 The Role of Conflict in Relationships
11:59 The Importance of Understanding in Conflict Resolution
19:52 The Role of Friendship in Maintaining Connection
24:36 The Importance of Rituals in Relationships
25:13 The Importance of Daily Rituals in Relationships
25:19 The Power of High Fives and Hugs: Non-Negotiables in a Day
26:03 The State of the Union: Weekly Meetings for Connection
26:22 Stress Relieving Conversations: A Daily Ritual
27:21 The Role of Rituals in Strengthening Relationships
28:09 The Importance of Intentionality in Relationships
28:37 Turning Towards Each Other: A Key to Connection
29:04 The Power of Turning Towards in Difficult Times
33:19 The Power of Bids for Connection
37:36 The Role of Love Maps in Navigating Relationships
39:45 The Importance of Staying Current in Each Other's Lives
41:49 The Importance of Appreciation in Relationships
42:41 The Impact of Appreciation on Emotional Bank Accounts
47:04 The Power of Pride in Relationships
48:51 Final Thoughts and Advice for Parents
MYM Resources:
8 Pillars Of An Exceptional Marriage - https://masteryourmarriagepodcast.com/8-pillarsBecome FREE of resentment ➡️ https://forgive.masteryourmarriagepodcast.com/Connect with Robert and Sharla Snow:
Website: https://masteryourmarriagepodcast.com/Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/masteryourmarriage/Facebook - https://facebook.com/masteryourmarriageTikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@masteryourmarriage
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“People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” - Maya Angelou
One of the greatest gifts you can give your spouse is a calm nervous system. That’s what co-regulation is: The way in which one person's nervous system influences another person's nervous system, creating a sense of safety and soothing.
Co-regulation can be medicine for an activated, stressed-out nervous system, and as a result, it can create tremendous safety in relationships.
But it’s different from codependency – we’re not just counting on our partners to control how we feel. Instead, we use the strength that co-regulation gives us to self-regulate for longer periods of time.
Tune in for practical ideas to co-regulate with your partner. Even if your partner isn’t into all of this, there are things YOU can do to improve your relationship dynamic.
“When little people are overwhelmed with big emotions, it is our job to share our calm, not join in their chaos.” L.R. Knost
Resources Mentioned In This Episode:
Polyvagal Theory - https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3108032/#:~:text=The%20polyvagal%20theory%20proposes%20that,substrates%20for%20adaptive%20behavioral%20strategies Recommended Reading: https://a.co/d/9sZ0gv5MYM Resources:
8 Pillars Of An Exceptional Marriage - https://masteryourmarriagepodcast.com/8-pillarsBecome FREE of resentment ➡️ https://forgive.masteryourmarriagepodcast.com/Connect with Robert and Sharla Snow:
Website: https://masteryourmarriagepodcast.com/Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/masteryourmarriage/Facebook - https://facebook.com/masteryourmarriageTikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@masteryourmarriage
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“Safety is not just the absence of threat.” - Sharla Snow
Do you feel safe in your relationship? Does your spouse feel safe?
What does ‘safety’ mean in this context?
Well, more than just physical safety, it involves feeling safe, connected, and like your walls are down when you’re together.
Safety in relationships cannot be overlooked.
A person’s perceived safety is the foundation for healthy connection. And just because you love someone, it doesn’t always mean you feel safe with them.
In this episode, Sharla and Robert are going to dive into the science behind these feelings of safety [or threat] and provide tips for creating safety in your relationships.
Resources Mentioned In This Episode:
Polyvagal Theory - https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3108032/#:~:text=The%20polyvagal%20theory%20proposes%20that,substrates%20for%20adaptive%20behavioral%20strategies Recommended reading - https://a.co/d/bq822BsMYM Resources:
8 Pillars Of An Exceptional Marriage - https://masteryourmarriagepodcast.com/8-pillarsBecome FREE of resentment ➡️ https://forgive.masteryourmarriagepodcast.com/Connect with Robert and Sharla Snow:
Website: https://masteryourmarriagepodcast.com/Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/masteryourmarriage/Facebook - https://facebook.com/masteryourmarriageTikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@masteryourmarriage
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It’s no surprise that physical touch is an important aspect of relationships – but did you know that it has numerous benefits, including reducing stress, improving bonding, and regulating the nervous system?
So why do so many people struggle with physical touch? (Even when it’s not sexual…)
Well, your childhood experiences can shape your relationship with touch, and if you’re experiencing difficulty with physical touch, it is important to reflect on and heal any past wounds or conditioning related to touch.
This episode will help you understand where to start and give you some practical steps for creating a safe space with your partner.
Resources Mentioned In This Episode:
A Study on Social Contact https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/17201784/MYM Resources:
8 Pillars Of An Exceptional Marriage - https://masteryourmarriagepodcast.com/8-pillarsBecome FREE of resentment ➡️ https://forgive.masteryourmarriagepodcast.com/Connect with Robert and Sharla Snow:
Website: https://masteryourmarriagepodcast.com/Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/masteryourmarriage/Facebook - https://facebook.com/masteryourmarriageTikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@masteryourmarriage
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“All successful businesses have a vision statement. In businesses, if we don’t have a goal, it’s just a wish or a hope. And hope is not a good business strategy. Much the same in our relationships.” - Robert Snow
In marriage, like in life, success takes intentionality. Sure, we have ‘chemistry’ and that’s a beautiful, natural way in which we connect. But once life kicks in with annoyances, differences, and the general challenges of being human, chemistry fades, and what you have left is two people who need to figure out how to make it work.
A vision statement for your marriage ensures that you’re both on the same page about where you want your relationship to go and what you’ll be doing to get there.
Tune in to learn where to start, what to include, and to get inspired by ideas that will refresh your marriage in 2024.
MYM Resources:
8 Pillars Of An Exceptional Marriage - https://masteryourmarriagepodcast.com/8-pillarsMake 2024 the year that you let go ➡️ https://forgive.masteryourmarriagepodcast.com/Connect with Robert and Sharla Snow:
Website: https://masteryourmarriagepodcast.com/Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/masteryourmarriage/Facebook - https://facebook.com/masteryourmarriageTikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@masteryourmarriage
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