Afleveringen
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You’re using tools. You’re setting reminders. You’re writing things down.
Not because you don’t love her—but because you do.
But somehow, she still feels hurt… unseen… disconnected.
And now, the more tools you use, the more it feels like she thinks you’re just checking boxes.In this episode of Memoirs of an LDS Servant Teacher, we dive into the frustrating paradox so many husbands face: “I’m doing everything I can to love her better—but she still doesn’t feel loved.”
We explore how tools like reminders, writing, and even AI aren’t signs of failure—but signs of growth. We uncover why a wife’s pain is real even when it doesn’t make logical sense, and how to communicate effort in a way she can finally trust.
Because connection isn’t built by being perfect—it’s built by owning your process, inviting her into it, and being humble enough to grow in plain sight.Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/sons-of-helaman-empowering-young-men-through-faith-based-self-mastery/
Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SBAVPy0qBvM
Check out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
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You’re trying. You really are. You’re learning, studying, setting reminders to show her you care.
But somehow… it still doesn’t land.
She says things like:“If you loved me, you’d remember on your own.”
And you’re left wondering:
“Why does it feel like every tool I use to love her… backfires?”In this episode of Memoirs of an LDS Servant Teacher, Maurice dives into a husband’s often-unspoken pain: “She wants me to change, but she doesn’t see the effort behind it.”
We explore how to approach emotional connection with transparency, how to explain your mortal limitations with kindness (not defensiveness), and why the delivery of your effort matters as much as the effort itself.You’ll learn how to take responsibility without shame, communicate progress without sounding like a checklist, and love her in a way she can finally feel—even if you’re not “there yet.”
Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/how-did-you-win-your-most-difficult-recent-battle/
Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xmrhVhxsk8U
Check out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
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You’re finally doing the work. You’re reflecting more. You’re studying intimacy. You’re even trying to lead.
But she still doesn’t feel safe, seen, or satisfied.
And she’s not joining you on the journey. Why?In this episode of Memoirs of an LDS Servant Teacher, we dig into a truth few men realize: Your effort doesn’t count if she can’t see it.
Maurice explores why emotional transparency, seasonal awareness, and pre-flight relationship check-ins are essential—not just for you, but for her ability to join you in rebuilding connection.If you’re tired of hearing “I don’t feel connected” even after you’ve changed, this episode will give you tools, clarity, and hope for how to bridge that gap.
This isn’t about blame. It’s about learning how to show her the progress you’re making—before your marriage becomes another case of “too little, too late.”Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/the-battle-of-perspectives-laman-nephi-and-the-power-of-faith/
Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bCj3dGyRmsM
Check out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
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If you're wondering why your wife still doesn't feel emotionally close or satisfied in your marriage—even after you’ve tried to be more present, more supportive, or more spiritual—this episode is for you. And if you're a man feeling stuck, thinking, "Why does she have so many complaints when I’m doing everything I can?", you're not alone.
In this honest and eye-opening workshop episode of Memoirs of an LDS Servant Teacher, Maurice dives deep into the Intimacy Pyramid—a vital framework for understanding why connection often falls apart even when you think you're doing things right. With relatable humor, raw honesty, and practical steps, you'll learn how to stop checking boxes and start building something real.
This is part 1 of a crucial conversation. Bring your humility, leave your ego at the door, and come ready to build—brick by brick.
Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/the-fourth-watch/
Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tJrppGcazZQ
Check out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
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“Why does my wife still think I’m not changing—even when I’m trying my hardest?”
“Why does everything feel worse when I finally start doing the work?”Welcome to Part 4 of How Men Can Take Responsibility for Repairing and Strengthening Their Marriages. This episode dives into the emotional chaos many husbands experience when:
You're finally doing the work… and she still doesn’t trust it.
You're trying to respond the right way… and it just makes her more upset.
You’ve created a system, a plan, a list… but she still sees only your past.
She doubts your motives, questions your exhaustion, and resents your progress.
If you’ve ever asked, "What more can I do when she refuses to believe I’ve changed?" — this is the episode for you.
Discover:
Why visible progress doesn’t always look “valid” to her
The power of season four recovery time and why it’s essential
How to use your mission and identity statements to anchor you during setbacks
The spiritual reason you can’t let her reaction be the measure of your progress
How to show her you’re serious—without forcing her to believe it
This is practical training for husbands who want to lead in love, even when trust hasn’t caught up yet.
Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/protecting-against-pornography-and-harnessing-the-power-of-christ/
Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NVXeq9KlUJQ
Check out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
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“Why does my wife go from ‘we’re making progress’ to ‘this is never going to work’ so fast?”
“Why does every fall back into conflict feel like the end—even when I’m trying to do things right?”In Part 3 of How Men Can Take Responsibility for Repairing and Strengthening Their Marriages, we face one of the most painful—but common—marital traps:
➡️ The sudden collapse of progress.
➡️ The emotional crash that follows.
➡️ The gut-punch when she sees it as proof that nothing’s working.This episode teaches men how to:
Recognize the warning signs before the emotional collapse
Navigate the cycle of rebuilding without losing momentum or hope
Respond to her panic and disappointment with steadiness—not retreat or blame
Use identity statements and mission statements to anchor yourself when everything else feels unstable
Build mental endurance and spiritual clarity, even when you're misunderstood
You’ll also learn how seasonal marriage repair works in real life—and how to bounce back again and again with emotional maturity, dignity, and a vision for healing.
Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/overriding-fear-in-marriage-repair/
Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QHFliUR_Uqo
Check out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
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"Why does my wife think I'm hiding something just because I'm exhausted?"
"Why does trying to talk always spiral into more conflict—even when I'm trying to do it right?"In Part 2 of How Men Can Take Responsibility for Repairing and Strengthening Their Marriages, we dig into one of the most frustrating dynamics men face: being emotionally drained after long conversations—and then being accused of dishonesty or emotional detachment because of it.
This episode walks men through:
What to do when your exhaustion gets interpreted as guilt or secrecy
How to respond when your efforts to step away and cool down are seen as "running away"
Why withdrawing with dignity is a critical skill every husband must master
How the seasonal marriage repair model helps you track where you are in the emotional rebuilding process
Why crashing doesn’t mean you’ve failed—and how to reset the cycle without giving up hope
You’ll also hear real struggles from men in the trenches, and how to handle situations where logic and emotion feel like they’re at war.
Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/the-power-of-self-reflection-unlocking-personal-growth-and-resilience/
Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ot_wqKwviwk
Check out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
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You thought you finally had a breakthrough.
Lunch went well. The tone was calm. She even opened up.Then hours later, you're being accused of the worst things imaginable.
You're blindsided… again.In Part 2 of this vital series, we dive into one of the most heartbreaking and disorienting experiences for husbands working hard to rebuild trust: when the relationship spirals from peaceful connection to emotional chaos without warning.
We unpack:
Why peaceful moments can be followed by emotional explosions
What’s actually going on when past wounds resurface mid-conversation
How to stay grounded when you're accused of things you've never done
The science of reflection (without self-loathing)
And how to practice verbal intimacy that doesn’t crumble under pressure
If you’ve ever thought, “What just happened? I thought we were finally okay,” — this episode will help you understand the deeper causes, reset your perspective, and keep growing even through the storms.
Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/the-daily-ritual-blueprint/
Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z19MHfqpEsA&t=7s
Check out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
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“Why does she seem so upset about everything I say?”
“Why does it feel like I’m the only one trying to fix this—and nothing works?”In Part 1 of How Men Can Take Responsibility for Repairing and Strengthening Their Marriages, we confront one of the biggest roadblocks in marital repair: waiting for your wife to change before you act.
This powerful episode is for the husband who’s tired of walking on eggshells, tired of failed fixes, and unsure how to lead without making things worse.Inside, you'll learn:
Why your personal growth is the only thing you can truly control
What to do when her reactions seem irrational or emotionally charged
How to handle conversations where you feel misunderstood or falsely accused
The science and spiritual foundation of building emotional strength as a man
Why reflection, discovery, planning, and execution (the DAR system) are the missing pieces most men were never taught
Stop waiting. Start leading. This is your invitation to become a man capable of real influence—not through control or perfection, but through responsibility, humility, and emotional skill.
Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/adhd-blog-comorbidities/
Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=11lgQa4RaGA
Check out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
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“Why is my wife so angry, distant, or emotional—and how am I supposed to fix myself when everything feels like my fault?”
“Why do I keep messing things up even when I’m trying to get it right?”In Part 6 of How to Stop Reacting and Take Responsibility for Your Personal Growth, we confront one of the hardest truths of marriage repair: the real enemy isn’t your wife—it’s the unseen adversary exploiting both your weaknesses.
This episode tackles:
Why your wife’s pain isn’t always your fault—but how you still have work to do
The danger of forgetting there’s a real enemy behind the chaos
Why retreating from conflict is not weakness but strategic leadership
How to start speaking your dreams, plans, and reflections—even when it’s terrifying
Why most men were never taught to do this—and why that ends now
How to stop reacting like a victim and start leading like a builder
If you’ve ever felt like your wife is your biggest critic and you can’t win no matter what you try… this episode brings clarity, courage, and a challenge to step into your God-given strength.
Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/taming-your-dangerous-emotions-and-reclaiming-your-power/
Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RNc4vXsN9VU
Check out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
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Why does she keep asking me what’s going on in my head—when I barely know myself?
And why does it feel like everything I say just makes things worse?If you’ve ever walked away from a conversation with your wife thinking, “I was just trying not to say something stupid…”—this episode is for you.
In Part 5 of How to Stop Reacting and Take Responsibility for Your Personal Growth, Maurice Harker guides men through the practical skill of executing a dignified retreat when emotions flare, and how to train yourself to stay calm, reflect wisely, and communicate your growth.
Discover:
Why your retreat must be planned and not emotional
How to prepare “fire drill phrases” that help you walk away with strength
How to build a plan your wife can trust—not just feel
Why writing down your reflections isn’t weakness—it’s leadership
What women are really asking when they say “tell me how you feel”
How DAR (Discover–Apply–Reflect) isn’t a chore—it’s how men lead their own growth
If your wife is asking, “What’s going on in your head?” and you don’t know how to answer—or worse, if you say nothing—this episode gives you the tools to stop reacting and start leading your transformation.
Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/if-you-dont-have-the-spirit/
Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ybqzJ039vw4&t=2s
Check out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
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“Why won’t she believe I’ve changed?”
You’ve stopped lying. You’re working hard on yourself. You’re doing everything right—but she still doesn’t trust you. She questions your every move, reads fear into your silence, and accuses you of only changing because you got caught.
Welcome to the real work of personal growth.
In Part 4 of How to Stop Reacting and Take Responsibility for Your Personal Growth, Maurice Harker lays out the painful reality of rebuilding credibility in a relationship after betrayal. This episode goes deep into why your wife can’t believe you yet, what you must do to stop reacting, and how to build your emotional maturity one intentional step at a time.
Learn:
Why you must stop trying to “prove” change—and start becoming it
The credit score metaphor for rebuilding trust
How to recognize when the Spirit has left the room
Why retreating from arguments is not cowardice—it’s strategy
How to protect the emotional space during hard conversations
The spiritual science behind environment-building and edifying intimacy
This is the gritty, real-time work of becoming a man who no longer reacts—but leads with integrity and calm strength.
Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/5-steps-to-rebuilding-trust-after-a-relationship-has-been-traumatized/
Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K5wPvF8YD0w
Check out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
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What do you do when you walk into a conversation with your wife feeling calm, ready, and spiritually prepared—only for it to explode in your face? When she unloads years of hurt, calls you a liar, and insists you’ll never change?
This is where most men spiral. This is where Satan gets loud.
And this is where your true growth begins.In this hard-hitting episode of Memoirs of an LDS Servant Teacher, Maurice Harker explains how to navigate the emotional chaos of early relationship repair—what he calls the “double satanic spin.” You’ll learn how to recognize when the Spirit leaves the room, how to withdraw with dignity, and how to stop mistaking emotional intensity for relationship failure.
You’ll also discover:
Why your wife’s pain seems so overwhelming (and unrelatable)
What to do when she psychoanalyzes you mid-argument
Why staying calm isn’t enough—you need a strategic exit plan
How to reset your mindset after being emotionally hit
And why this brutal phase is not the end—it’s just the tryout
Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/we-dont-have-that-in-our-ward-acknowledging-and-loving-lgbtq-members-around-us/
Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uDnT9zGnaQE
Check out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
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What do you do when your wife says she’ll never trust you again? When she questions your sincerity, your attraction, your honesty—and you’re doing everything you can just to hold it together?
In this powerful episode, Maurice Harker breaks down the emotional chaos men face when their past failures become fuel for doubt in their wives’ hearts. You’ll learn how to respond with grounded strength instead of emotional panic, and why building a self-led personal growth system is the only way forward.
This isn’t about defending yourself—it’s about developing yourself.
Inside this lesson:
Why her generosity or accusations don’t define your worth
How to stay calm when you're being psychoanalyzed and misunderstood
Why personal development must be your own project—not hers
How to know when you're spiritually and emotionally ready to reconnect
And what to do when she says, “You’ll never change.”
Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/our-support-system/
Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nGqGEJbPXDc&t=11s
Check out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
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Why does it feel like your wife is constantly sending you stuff to read, fix, change, or apply—and you're still being told you’re not doing enough?
In this episode of Memoirs of an LDS Servant Teacher, Maurice Harker addresses the emotional weight husbands feel when their wives send constant “resources” their way—and how this dynamic creates frustration, resentment, and mental overload.
But more importantly, he explains why relying on her help actually slows your growth down—and how taking full ownership of your personal development is the key to rebuilding trust, leadership, and real healing in your marriage.
If you’re ready to stop reacting and start rising, this is the mindset shift that changes everything.
Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/adhd-blog-comorbidities/
Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y2UuPMNKPnY
Check out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
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Why does your wife always push back on your ideas—even when you’re trying to help? Why does it feel like every time you offer a plan, she sees what’s wrong with it?
In this honest and relatable episode, Maurice Harker walks men through the emotional and spiritual science of leadership in marriage—and the frustrating reality of trying to create win-win situations when you feel like she’s always questioning or outmaneuvering you.
You’ll learn why many men feel defeated when their wives seem “smarter,” why that triggers resentment, and why getting spiritually aligned is the secret to bouncing back with confidence and clarity. This episode also introduces the concept of spiritual intimacy—the ability to co-create miraculous solutions together, even when both of you feel stuck.
Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/french-fry-machine-metaphor/
Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mwGNuY6nNAg
Check out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
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Have you ever made what you thought was a solid plan—only to watch your wife poke holes in it, question it, or rewrite the whole thing?
If that left you thinking, “Why do I even try?”, you're not alone.
In this honest and relatable episode, Maurice Harker walks men through the vulnerable experience of trying and failing to lead in marriage—and why those failures hurt more than we admit. You’ll discover why your wife’s feedback isn’t an attack, why a failed plan isn’t proof of failure, and how writing it down might be the secret to finally getting it right.
From comparing planning to skateboarding crashes and dental adjustments to building mutual blueprints in business and marriage, this episode offers realistic strategies for husbands trying to build trust, recover from ego bruises, and create plans their wives can actually get behind.
Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/rebuilding-trust-in-a-traumatized-relationship-a-spiritual-and-psychological-approach/
Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K5wPvF8YD0w
Check out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
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You're working long hours, trying to be responsible, trying to do it all—and still, your wife is upset. She’s drowning in parenting, exhausted from her own responsibilities, and you're both running on fumes. Why does she seem so frustrated with you when you're just trying to keep the family afloat?
In this episode, Maurice Harker guides husbands through one of the most misunderstood struggles in marriage: how being physically present but mentally unavailable can make your wife feel completely alone. Learn why strategic planning isn't just for your job—it’s vital for your marriage, too. Discover how to choreograph your relationship like a team, recover from missteps, and rebuild a system where both partners thrive.
Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/sons-of-helaman-the-faith-based-self-mastery-program-transforming-lives/
Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RH4C8SiqGGo
Check out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
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Why does your wife seem so upset—about everything? And why does it feel like no matter what you do, she still wants you to fix yourself?
In this eye-opening episode, Maurice Harker walks husbands through a common pain point in marriage: trying to understand a wife's emotional experience without falling into the trap of thinking she's the problem. You'll learn why your wife's pain isn't imaginary, why her personal growth space matters, and how not to "accidentally insult her soul" by trying to fix what you don't yet understand.
Maurice unpacks the delicate (and often hilarious) balance between timing, bonding, and empathy—especially when one spouse wants connection and the other wants quiet spiritual time. This episode is the first in a powerful series to help men stop guessing and start understanding.
Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/gingerbread-man-parable-anger-pain-management/
Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RNc4vXsN9VU
Check out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
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Wives feel like they're constantly pointing out problems. Husbands feel like no matter what they do, it's never enough. Sound familiar?
In this episode, we tackle:
✔️ Why your husband doesn’t seem to “get it”—and why pushing harder won’t work.
✔️ Why your wife has so many complaints—and why it’s not just nagging.
✔️ How to talk without triggering defensiveness or shutting down.
✔️ Why the past isn’t the real issue—the future is.
✔️ How Satan manipulates both partners into believing change isn’t possible.If you're stuck in the same exhausting cycle, this episode will help you break free, rebuild connection, and move forward—without losing yourself in the process.
Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/dependency/
Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iefBWa0iybo
Check out the Marriage Repair Workshops: https://www.lifechangingservices.org/marriage-repair/
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