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We know that rest is essential.
But⊠for high achievers, itâs easy to see go-mode as just the natural flow of things.
When we dare to pause (and dare others to do the same), we instantly recognize that we too are susceptible to the cultural norms that push us to prioritize work over rest.
And as many of us gear up for another extra busy holiday season, itâs important to remind ourselves and one another:
Rest is not the opposite of productivity; itâs the gateway to productivity.
We must give ourselves permission to rest.
Because allowing space for those pockets of joy in small moments can be transformative.
This week, Karlee revisits a timely conversation with Faith Clarke, an Organizational Health & Inclusion Specialist. Through her work, she provides important cultural and historical context to how we navigate the ârulesâ of society, shedding a necessary light on how this conditioning affects us.
In this episode, we unpack the reasons why you might be working so hard and resting so little. Youâll shift your culturally ingrained perspective on time and commitments and begin to open your days, weeks, months, and years to more opportunities for rest. By constructing your own imaginary world, you can break societal rules around productivity, regain your power, and creatively find more time for respite.
If youâre ready to open up more pockets of joy in your life, then this episode is for you.
What Youâll Learn in This Episode:
(6:11) Cultural constructs and the burden of work(09:05) Finding your Pockets of Power(11:50) How to create an alternate reality for rest(15:11) The interplay between self and community(18:01) Navigating the Zero-Sum GameResources Mentioned in this Episode:
Episode 135: Pockets of Power | How to be a able to say âyesâ to joy in your way-too-busy life with Faith Clarke
Article: Gilson, D. (2011) Overworked America: 12 charts that Will make your blood boil, Mother Jones. Available at: https://www.motherjones.com/politics/2011/05/speedup-americans-working-harder-charts/
Website: Tricia Hersey http://www.triciahersey.com/
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Dr. Jovana Washington
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In phases of transition, here we understand that we are NOT lost.
Oh, no no.
Weâre just floating quietly and calmly in the Fertile Void.
We know that navigating change often comes with a bit of discomfort. Putting words to those feelings can help us cultivate the right language for what weâre experiencing.
And through those words, we can tap into the courage and clarity thatâs required to navigate changing currents or completely new bodies of water.
(And unexpected plumbing disasters.)
When things feel uncertain, we know that we can always find certainty in 3 simple wordsâŠ
âYou got this.â
This week, Karlee revisits an episode with Gayle Danley, former National Individual Poetry Slam Champion. She holds a B.A. in broadcast journalism from Howard University and an M.A. in radio, TV, and film from Syracuse University. Gayle performs slam poetry around the country, and is the author of two books of poetry: Naked: Poems that Uncover My Soul and Soulfull: A Study of Slam Poetry.
In this episode, Gail shares her journey to self-affirmation through the power of words. Youâll hear how slam poetry has provided her with a sense of identity, purpose, and stability in times of change. Youâll learn how to âget goodâ with where you are in the moment, and how to cultivate a supportive inner voice.
If youâre ready to tap into the power of your words and paddle bravely through seas of change, then this episode is for you.
What Youâll Learn in This Episode:
(2:07) Ways to simplify when life feels complex(11:23) Getting âgoodâ with wherever you are now(19:39) Finding voice through poetry (28:50) Gayleâs 4-step writing process(34:22) Being patient when weâve lost our sense of directionResources Mentioned in this Episode:
Claim your spot in The Boundary Academy
Episode 128: âYou Got Thisâ | Engaging The Power of Your Words During Change with Gayle Danley
People Mentioned in this Episode:
Dr. Maria Sirois
Kate Northrup
Suzi Banks Baum
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Does the level of uncertainty these days feel like itâs at a perpetual crescendo?
You sure arenât aloneâŠ
If youâre also a voyager on these choppy seas, then like many of us, the pace of unpredictability has you thinking about what, and who, is really important.
And how you can protect it.
This week, Karlee opens up a candid conversation about authenticity, offering a more mature definition of what it means to be authentic in relationships- especially in times of uncertainty.
In this episode, youâll learn how to approach authenticity in a way thatâs reciprocal, serving the needs of others while allowing you to hold true to your values. Youâll learn why authenticity is a two-way street that requires consideration of how we interact with others. And, youâll hear a powerful prompt that will empower you to hold true to your values in a way that doesnât cause harm to others.
If youâre ready to anchor into stability through these uncertain times and build stronger, more authentic connections, then this episode is for you.
What Youâll Learn in This Episode:
(7:02) A peek behind the scenes of Karleeâs latest workshop(8:08) The desire for reciprocity in relationships (11:13) Why real authenticity requires understanding nuance(14:00) Identifying what needs protecting(17:13) Developing a neuro pattern of sturdinessResources Mentioned in this Episode:
Kripalu Center for Yoga & Health
People Mentioned in this Episode:
Dr. Maria Sirois
Brené Brown
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Trying to control the choices of others takes up a LOT of space, depleting us of precious energy that could be better spent elsewhere. But you donât want things to fall apart without you either.
Whether it's a lifestyle choice you donât agree with, a work ethic that doesnât seem sustainable from your perspective, or a loved one who isnât doing what you think they should be doing in a crisis, trying to apply your agenda to someone elseâs life is a losing game - for everyone involved.
The trick is learning when to release your grip on others and focusing instead on what you can controlâŠ.yourself.
This week, Karlee shares practical advice to help you decipher when it makes sense to lean in, and when the best thing to do is to lean back and surrender your agenda.
In this episode, we dive into the liberating shift from trying to influence others to refining our own inner responses. Explore how to recalibrate your boundaries, reclaim your energy, and refocus on what truly matters to you. Weâll share insightful, real-world examples and a straightforward, actionable prompt to help you tap into authentic self-controlâleading to a deeper sense of agency and freedom. This episode offers a fresh, strategic perspective for savvy leaders ready to invest energy where it yields the greatest return: within.
If youâre ready to surrender your agenda and reclaim your energy, then this is the episode for you.
What Youâll Learn in This Episode:
(7:18) Trying to change people who donât want to change(9:28) Why micromanagement fails(12:56) Daring to pause when control efforts donât work(18:21) How to replace frustration with acceptance(20:47) Surrendering your agenda to free up spaceResources Mentioned in this Episode:
Episode 161: The Sinkhole Effect | What to do when good people have you feeling bad
Beer, M., Finnstrom, M., & Schrader, D. (2015). "Why Leadership Training Failsâand What to Do About It." Harvard Business Review. Retrieved from hbr.org.Llopis, G. (2019). "Why Leading by Example Matters." Forbes. Retrieved from forbes.com.Sutton, B. (2017). "The Science of Saying No: How Boundaries Improve Performance." Inc. Magazine. Retrieved from inc.com.
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Youâre pulled in a million directions, huh? Gosh, itâs easy to lose a sense of who we are when this happens - but some people have a solutionâŠ
Todayâs most successful leaders do one very important thingâŠthey know how to âunforgetâ.
In this episode Karlee dives into the ancient Greek concept of unforgetting, a powerful idea introduced by Socrates himself.
You know those moments when something just clicks, and you feel inspired or clear?
Thatâs the magic of unforgettingâand itâs not about gaining more; itâs about remembering whatâs already there, and thereâs a system for helping this happen.
This week, Karlee shares why the unforgetting of who we are is so important and how to de-clutter the external so you can unforget the internal.
Youâll hear how successful leaders are realigning with their inner knowing by taking the time to be âun-influencersâ. Youâll also hear actionable prompts to help you make decisions based on what you know to be true for yourself and for those you lead.
If youâre ready to clear the mental clutter and spark clarity by tapping into your inner knowing, this episode is for you.
What Youâll Learn in This Episode:
(5:48) What todayâs most powerful leaders do differently (7:41) Real-life example of one pro leading from her inner compass(8:20) Why culmination and reflection is essential for progress (11:27) Practical ways to reconnect with your inner wisdom(13:38) Prompts to help you unforget this week and lead with purpose this weekResources Mentioned in this Episode:
On Culmination:
Episode 145: Going Deeper, Not Faster | A Culmination Episode to Bolster Your Wits, Wisdom, and âEnoughnessâ
Episode 90: Room for Rest: How to Reclaim Your Productive Downtime like a Pro
Episode 73: The Purposeful Pause - How Women Get Colossal Results By Contracting Before We Expand
Kripalu Workshop: Better Boundaries: A Gateway to Authentic Living Nov 15-17th
People Mentioned in this Episode:
Dr. Maria Sirois
Larry Jackson â Associate Dean of Academic Affairs and Philosophy Lecturer at Columbia University
Robyn Hannigan - President of Ursinus College, Geologist
Quotes Mentioned in this Episode:
âWhat lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.â -Ralph Waldo Emerson
âAuthenticity is the collection of choices that we have to make every day. It's about the choice to show up and be real, the choice to be honest, the choice to let our true selves be seen.â -BrenĂ© Brown
âPut your feet on the earth, feel the ground beneath you.â -Robyn Hannigan
âBecoming a leader is synonymous with becoming yourself. It is precisely that simple and it is also that difficult.â -Warren Bennis
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As the end of the year gets closer, do you feel the pressure heating up?
Is there a little voice nagging at you to hurry up and meet those goals you set back in January, telling you itâs time to push harder?
Before you decide to go full throttle, thereâs something you should knowâŠ
Itâs all a trap.
This week, Karlee explains why the end-of-the-year hustle is a never-ending cycle that doesnât lead to sustainable success. Pushing to do it all before the calendar changes goes against the cues of the natural world, which shows us that this is a time to rest and regenerate.
In this episode, youâll learn the importance of setting goals through purpose rather than push. Youâll hear how sustained success depends on our ability to tap into a more regenerative way of approaching this season, highlighting the natural rhythms of life instead of an imaginary finish line. Youâll hear a simple, actionable tip for recalibrating your pace so you can carve out moments of rest - and reclaim some of your better thinking.
If youâre ready to make the extraordinary decision to discern your own pace, then this is the episode for you.
What Youâll Learn in This Episode:
(9:29) The importance of a purposeful pace(11:57) Taking stock of an eventful year(13:42) Looking to nature for guidance(18:06) Making extraordinary decisions (22:14) What sustained success looks likeResources Mentioned in this Episode:
Episode 138: From Burnout Culture to Rest Culture with Saundra Dalton-Smith
Kripalu Workshop: Better Boundaries: A Gateway to Authentic Living Nov 15-17th
People Mentioned in this Episode:
Dr. Maria Sirois
Quotes Referenced in this Episode:
âYou may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them.â â Maya Angelou
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What do you do when you donât know what to doâŠnext?
Especially when you're the "together one in your circle, " people count on you...Uncertainty, for many of us, feels uncomfortable.
But the in-between is far from a liminal space where we wait or try to force action. Itâs an important phase that offers us something very rich indeed⊠the gift of simplicity.
This week, Karlee unveils the wisdom of learning to live into the questions that simplify our thoughts and clarify our next steps.
In this episode, youâll hear how people experiencing the challenges of feeling checked out or in a fog reclaim purpose and lean into the richness of uncertainty. By asking themselves good questions, they could take that 3% step forward in their relationships, health, and career. Youâll learn the importance of honing your focus on the doable stuff so you can begin to embrace the fog as an opportunity for growth in all areas of your life.
If youâre ready to make things more doable and thrive in the face of big questions, then this episode is for you.
What Youâll Learn in This Episode:
(2:51) Feeling the need to show up even when you're unclear (4:27) Navigating the question: What happens next?(8:06) Moving things 3% forward(11:06) What to do when youâre in the fog(13:09) The power of leaning into simplicityResources Mentioned in this Episode:
Book: Letters to a Young Poet by Rainer Maria Rilke
Book: Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones by James Clear
People Mentioned in this Episode:
Warren Buffet
Steve Jobs
Brené Brown
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How do you see yourself in this moment?
Are you a person whoâs working hard to become successful? Are you taking painting classes on weekends to become an artist? Are you a person with a lukewarm temper who wants to become someone who approaches life with a little more grace and forgiveness?
What have you been wanting to be that you could just decide, right now, that you are?
This week, Karlee shares stories of transformation that didnât take years or decades to achieve. Simply by making the decision in the moment to see things differently, change happens.
In this episode, youâll learn how instantaneous shifts in perspective can change how we see ourselves and how we view the world around us. Youâll hear the inspiring stories of people who dared to pause and, just by taking that moment to reconsider, were able to recalibrate how they view themselves and others. Youâll also learn how to be that version of yourself youâve been waiting to become, right now.
If youâre ready to make the brave choice to âbeâ, instead of waiting to âbecomeâ, then this is the episode for you.
What Youâll Learn in This Episode:
(5:40) An invitation to take a âgoodly pauseâ to gain clarity(9:01) What restores a genuine sense of hope(11:33) A simple shift in perspective to see things in a more positive light(17:49) How imagining bravery becomes actual bravery(22:20) Becoming the person you want to be, starting nowResources Mentioned in this Episode:
Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear by Elizabeth Gilbert
âHopeâ poem by Rosemerry Wahtola Trommer
How to Love the World: Poems of Gratitude and Hope by James Crews
Boundaries, Boundaries, Boundaries: The Gateway to Authentic Living with Karlee Fain and Maria Sirois
Dirt Gems by Anne Louise Burdett
Episode 35: Trust Your Knowing
Episode 123: When Tradition Lays a Trap
People Mentioned in this Episode:
Suzi Banks Baum
Polly Hatfield
Maria Sirois
Anne Louise Burdett
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Life is like a⊠Venn diagram.Yes, in our best times itâs also like a delicious box of dark chocolates. But in todayâs episode, weâre pointing to something more specific: the career, health, and relationship trifecta.
Itâs what we call the âBig 3â.
We all strive for a thriving career, vibrant health, and life-giving relationships. The thing we donât realize is that thereâs a point at which they all intersect.
If your work-life mojo is in sync, then these 3 areas of life can actually help support each other.
This week, Karlee helps you map out the current state of your Big 3 so you can recognize how, and where, to find support when one area needs attention.
In this episode, youâll learn how to create kinship between life, work, and your relationships. Youâll gain access to a simple exercise that will help you Venn diagram your Big 3, so you can find the support you need by leveraging what's already good. Youâll also learn how to make these areas work regeneratively so they become allies to one another.
If youâre ready to evaluate your mojo AND appreciate whatâs already working, then this is the episode for you.
What Youâll Learn in This Episode:
(2:34) Standing in kinship to the âBig 3â aspects of our lives(5:26) Ditch balance and opt for work-life mojo(8:27) Support wisdom from a Poet Laureate (15:09) How to know if your Big 3 are regenerative(18:07) Recognizing whatâs already goodResources Mentioned in this Episode:
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People Mentioned in this Episode:
Kimberly Blaeser: Learn more and support her work here: https://www.kblaeser.org/
About Standing (in Kinship) poem by Kimberley Blaeser: https://www.poetryoutloud.org/poem/about-standing-in-kinship/
Kamala Harris Venn diagram and human rights: https://www.yahoo.com/news/m-going-confess-love-venn-144616746.html
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In the span of your day, how often do you get sidetracked by the unexpected?
Youâre super focused on a work project, and then wham!! An attention-grabbing subject line lands in your inbox and, well, itâll just take a minute. Or youâre watching your kidâs basketball game and your pocket vibrates. Curiosity gets the better of you and before you know it, youâre swept into a work issue that pulls your attention away from the court.
Those âlittleâ things that interrupt our days and our thought processes can often completely take over our plans.
Having a solid and supported system in place to face those distractions head-on is the only way to regain autonomy over your time.
This week, Karlee helps you discover a way to hone your focus and dial in your discernment so you can decipher when it's necessary to change plans or simply say âno, thank youâ.
In this episode, youâll learn how to reframe the distractions you come up against in your work and personal life so that you can prioritize what matters most. Youâll learn how to keep control of the wheel and not be led off course, especially when the unexpected doesnât support you in the direction you want to go. And youâll learn how to build a plan that binds you to your best choices.
If youâre ready to stop feeling pulled and start making choices that support who you want to be and where you want to go, this is the episode for you.
What Youâll Learn in This Episode:
(09:45) What itâs like when best-laid plans get interrupted (12:23) The invitation youâre being given when you feel pulled to do something(14:25) How to discern the distractions you come up against(17:40) A 3-part process for choosing whatâs most important(22:23) The one element that will help you follow through on your valuesResources Mentioned in this Episode:
Episode 161: The Sinkhole Effect | What to do when good people have you feeling bad
People Mentioned in this Episode:
Kurt Vonnegut: https://www.vonnegutlibrary.org/
Maria Sirois: https://www.mariasirois.com/
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Is there someone in your life who, as much as you care about them, often leaves you feeling not so good?
Whether itâs a friend, a family member, a coworker, or anyone for that matter, the energy exchange you get from your encounters leaves you feeling drained.
Itâs like every time you meet, you descend a little bit deeper into an emotional sinkhole. And you have to spend the time between pulling yourself out of it before the inevitable next encounter.
The tricky part is that you know they arenât bad people. Theyâre just in their own world right now, focused on their own things, unable to see how their actions affect you or your organization.
These situations can feel exhausting and be challenging to navigate. But they arenât impossible.
This week, Karlee explains how the âsinkhole effectâ works and how it affects our relationships with others. Toughing it out through these sticky situations isnât good for anyone, and itâs a drain on your precious energy reserves.
In this episode, youâll learn what it feels like to be in a sinkhole situation through real-life examples of people who have successfully navigated their way through one - without making things worse in the process. Youâll learn a simple exercise that will help you understand the emotional cost-benefit of keeping things the way they are versus instigating change, and where to start if change needs to happen.
If youâre ready to give yourself some grace and stop doing the energetic heavy lifting, then this episode is for you.
What Youâll Learn in This Episode:
The hitchhiker and the sinkhole (0:50)Compassion for others versus compassion for self (11:13)Managing energy rather than managing time (12:26)An exercise in emotional cost-benefit analysis (14:02)Where to start now if something needs to change (20:16)Resources Mentioned in this Episode:
Book: The Power of Full Engagement: Managing Energy, Not Time, Is the Key to High Performance and Personal Renewal by Jim Loehr and Tony Schwartz
Book: The Joy of Leadership: How Positive Psychology Can Maximize Your Impact (and Make You Happier) in a Challenging World by Angus Ridgway and Tal Ben-Shahar
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Shame is a trickster.
It can sneak up on us at the worst moments, kick us when weâre down, and make us feel inferior to others.
But here in the Messy & Magnificent community, weâve got a trick up our sleeves that can rival that olâ dog we call shameâŠ
Itâs recognizing what youâve already done well already.
Recognizing your strengths can snuff out the self-judgment so you can let yourself off the hook and start to focus on getting resourced for whatâs next.
This week, Karlee reveals that shameful trickster behind the curtain, showing you how to extinguish the insecurities you feel now and instead, acknowledge the strength and determination that got you where you are today.
In this episode, youâll discover why shame creeps up on all of us, and youâll hear the familiar untruths it leaves in its wake. Youâll hear real-life examples of high-achievers who are battling the shame game and learn how to build up your gratitude as a feel-good defense mechanism to instantly shift your mindset.
First, gratitude for how well youâve done with what youâve had. Then, itâs the right time to seek the knowledge and resources you need to move forward.
If youâre ready to release the weight of shame, guilt, and self-judgement, and feel genuine gratitude for the âyouâ that got you here, and THEN focus on whatâs next, then this episode is for you!
What Youâll Learn in This Episode:
Understanding how shame messes with our game (4:38)Examples of self-judgment real people are experiencing (9:39)Why youâre off the hook if youâre feeling ânot good enoughâ (12:25)3 questions to help you seek the resources you need now (15:35)A powerful quote about boundaries that softens self-judgement (19:04)Resources Mentioned in this Episode:
Join us next year for the Navigating Change Workshop (note: the 2025 dates for this program will update soon - email [email protected] if you want us to let you now when enrollment officially opens)
People Mentioned in this Episode:
Maria Sirois
Prentice Hemphill
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Ever fall down the slide of rumination? Or get caught in a downward mental spiral that kicks you will youâre down?
Whether itâs a career setback, an emotional hurdle, or a broken bone that seems like itâs taking forever to heal, you just canât seem to get out from under that cloud of negativity.
You know it's time for a shift, but âunicorn and fairy dustâ levels of positivity donât feel true.
Have you thought about going neutral?
This week, Karlee reminds us of a middle ground- a place between the emotional poles that can hold us when weâre in the in-between space. A place where we can allow ourselves to wander, and perhaps even our minds a new path to walk towards a genuinely more hopeful next moment.
In this episode, youâll learn that when things feel challenging or when weâre not at our best, thereâs more than just positive and negative to choose from. Youâll come away with two simple and pragmatic first steps that will help you shift your less helpful thoughts into something better, but not something that feels unrealistic or dishonest.
If youâre ready to embrace neutral when nothing else seems to fit and create space for a little more wonder in your life, then this episode is for you.
What Youâll Learn in This Episode:
A proven way to get unstuck when negativity persists (7:26)What it means to have allies around you (11:10)When patience in problem-solving is important (16:13)What happens when we experience wonder (19:30)Action prompts to shift your perspective (24:06)Resources Mentioned in this Episode:
Bai, Y., Ocampo, J., Jin, G., Chen, S., Benet-Martinez, V., Monroy, M., Anderson, C., & Keltner, D. (2021). Awe, daily stress, and elevated life satisfaction. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 120(4), 837â860. https://doi.org/10.1037/pspa0000267
Positive Emotions Broaden and Build, Barbara Fredrickson, University of North Carolina
The neural correlates of the awe experience: Reduced default mode network activity during feelings of awe. Michiel van Elk 1 2 , M Andrea Arciniegas Gomez 1 , Wietske van der Zwaag 2 3 , Hein T van Schie, Disa Sauter
https://philosophybreak.com/articles/iris-murdoch-unselfing-is-crucial-for-living-a-good-life/ Iris Murdoch (1919 - 1999) was an Irish-British philosopher
People Mentioned in this Episode:Ethan Kross: https://www.ethankross.com/
Iris Murdoch: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Iris_Murdoch
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Nature works in phases, rhythms, and cyclical patterns. This is essential for achieving balance and harmony.
So when things are feeling particularly heavy or difficult, for you, for someone close to you, or someone in your organization, then it makes sense for us to take a cue from nature, too.
When we allow ourselves and each other the space to wax and wane as life naturally dictates, it opens up valuable opportunities to co-collaborate.
This week, Karlee shares how you can beautifully navigate situations that require balancing the specific needs of yourself or your organization with the needs of those who might need a little extra space in that moment.
In this episode, youâll learn why the bigger picture needs donât have to heel to the needs of the individual while you dig deeper to create more understanding. Youâll be invited to hone in on the specific needs of the organization and focus on whatâs truly important when light wanes from one direction. Youâll also begin to flip the default script and recognize that, often, the two sets of needs arenât in competition, after all.
If youâre ready to masterfully navigate the cyclical patterns of life and work, then this episode is for you.
What Youâll Learn in This Episode:
Choosing compassion and performance in tough personal moments (6:21)Prioritizing what really matters when things feel overwhelming (9:15)The important first step in co-collaboration (12:29)Determining what is needed in order to do well (14:34)Recognizing that the needs of the person and the organization arenât in conflict (17:43)Resources Mentioned in this Episode:
Article: Leaders Donât Have to Choose Between Compassion and Performance by Mark Mortensen and Heidi Gardner. Harvard Business Review
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When was the last time you sang at the top of your lungs from the driver's seat of your car or from the privacy of your shower?
When was the last time you felt truly heard by your closest confidants? Or had a deep and meaningful conversation that left you feeling grateful to have such a sympathetic, understanding ear?
Whatever those life-giving things are for you, one thing is probably certainâŠwe all do better when they happen consistently.
This week, Karlee shares a realization about that feeling we get when weâre truly at peace, in total comfort of our surroundings and who weâre surrounded by.
In this episode, youâll hear what it feels like to embrace natural tranquility and learn how to create awareness so that you can identify when you feel it and when you donât. Youâll learn how to transform frenetic, anxious energy, even in the midst of chaos, to regain control of your impulse reactions and find your calm center.
If youâre ready to stoke the bonfires of your better living, surrounded by people and experiences that feel life-giving, then this episode is for you.
What Youâll Learn in This Episode:
The feeling of âbeingâ together (1:41)Learning to observe without impulse (6:45)Primary food and secondary foods that we consume (8:38)Seeking out the life-giving moments (11:24)Prompts to help you identify what gives you life (14:23)Resources Mentioned in this Episode:
Article: Developing Executive Presence HBR 2011 by Joshua Ehrlich
Song: James Bluntâs Bonfire Heart
People Mentioned in this Episode:
Maria Sirois
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Is there a conversation that needs to be had, but youâre dreading it - and maybe even avoiding it?
Tough conversations are a part of life. Theyâre unavoidable. But all of the pent-up anxiety we create around that discomfort doesnât help the situation feel any easier.
So, what if there was actually a way to simplify the words so that the things we needed to say were quick and definitive, and that could be the end of it?
This week, Karlee reveals why challenging conversations can feel so icky, and how you can start to manage them like a boss in a way that feels kinder and a little more gentle on your conscience.
In this episode, youâll learn how to create a conversational boundary when you need to tell someone something theyâre not going to like. Youâll get a few helpful, definitive scripts that will help you say the thing, and know what to do when thereâs pushback. Youâll also learn why saying less is more powerful, and how to hold your ground like one famously fierce boundary pro.
If youâre ready to stand your ground and defend boundaries where they need to be laid, then this is the episode for you.
What Youâll Learn in This Episode:
Scripts to help you get through that next uncomfortable conversation (7:55)Examples of sticky situations and simple ways to handle them (11:37)How to stop talking and choose the kindest next move (13:02)Phrases to use to defend your boundaries (15:12)A prompt to boost your confidence before a difficult conversation (17:34)Resources Mentioned in this Episode:
YouTube video: The Most Special Panda: Megh Er
Proven Boundary Scripts: What to say and how to say it without blowing things up
People Mentioned in this Episode:
Dr. Maria Sirois
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Do you sometimes feel like you don't know what to do next?
Do you feel like the way things look from the outside doesnât quite match up with how you feel on the inside?
Have you recently caught yourself playing the comparison game, trying to weigh your accomplishments against others?
As much as we hate to admit it, these are the kinds of thoughts that sometimes rear their ugly heads. And then they proceed to get stuck in our heads, creating cycles of self-doubt that make us feel less confident than our professional accomplishments might allude to.
This week, Karlee will help you begin to normalize some of the difficult thoughts so many capable, competent, and confident people often struggle with, despite how things might look from the outside.
In this episode, youâll hear what some of these thoughts sound like and start to identify which ones match those that might be swirling around in your head. Youâll learn why personal and professional growth must work in tandem if you want to achieve real success. Youâll also work through a simple 30-second exercise thatâll help you escape the loop of your own thoughts and regain control of your mindâs driver seat.
If youâre ready to loosen the grip your thoughts have on your time and gain more agency over the actions of your mind, then this episode is for you.
What Youâll Learn in This Episode:
One of the biggest lessons entrepreneurship teaches us (1:58)Thoughts that high achievers experience (6:13)The connection between personal and professional growth (9:15)An exercise to regain control of the thoughts you want to engage with (16:11)Letting your stickiest thought loose (17:59)Send your Audio Comments and Questions to [email protected]
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The space between.
Those moments in life when it feels like one door is closing, but the next one hasnât quite opened yet.
In order to navigate turning tides, we need all the courage we can muster.
But that courage isnât something you need to look for externally. Itâs already within you. Youâve spent a lifetime building it.
And all you have to do to find it is summon it.
This week, Karlee helps you navigate the turning tide by calling on you to look into the depths of your own sea of courage.
In this episode, youâll learn how to use your time in the fertile void to tap into the courage you already have. Youâll rediscover the strength youâve been accumulating throughout the span of your lifetime and learn how to use it to propel you to the next phase of change. Youâll explore a simple mental exercise that will help remind you of the many courageous things youâve already accomplished and find the inner strength that will push you forward.
If youâre ready to turn the tide and tap into the reserves of your courage, then this episode is for you.
What Youâll Learn in This Episode:
Floating in the liminal space (2:00)A reminder of how malleable we really are (4:17)Bolstering versus saving when people are going through difficult things (6:28)A prompt to summon your strength (10:23)A simple, one-click way to connect with Karlee (14:24)Resources Mentioned in this Episode:
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Book: Stirring the Mud: On Swamps, Bogs, and Human Imagination by Barbara Hurd
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You know something needs to change - or maybe you were minding your own business, and a change came uninvited to your doorstep - but how do you navigate this new territory when your plate is already full?This week, Karlee invites you to consider how you can make life's shifting currents work for you by clarifying the questions that drive you.
She shares three mindset exercises to help you navigate change, recognize new possibilities, and consider your next steps in a manageable way.
This episode is equal parts inspiring story and practical tools you can use right now to develop clear next steps and an authentic vision for the future.
If youâre ready to navigate change with more grace, especially when life feels pretty full at the moment, then this episode is for you.
What Youâll Learn in This Episode:
The next step to try after you vent about change (3:29)People who lean in when action is necessary (4:42)Three mindsets required for a more sustainable change (7:09)The connection between momentum and synchronicity (8:52)Ways to take action toward change right now (12:48)Resources Mentioned in this Episode:
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Book: Ishmael by Daniel Quinn
Book: The Lone Ranger and Tonto Fistfight in Heaven by Sherman Alexie
Book: Herland Charlotte Perkins Gilman
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With so many things to do to get through the day, itâs easy to zone out.We all do it.
Maybe you have zero recollection of being in the line at the grocery store because you just werenât âthereâ mentally. And to the person on the other side of the register, you were just another customer who grabbed what you needed, paid, and walked out the door.
But now imagine if both parties were present. Imagine if the cashier noticed a little scratch on your hand and that led to a conversation about your new kitten, which in turn led to sharing cute pet pictures on your phones.
A simple interaction like this during an otherwise mundane 3 minutes at the grocery store checkout counter...it makes a big difference.
This week, Karlee shares a profound lesson in presence for moments big and small, courtesy of her dear late aunt and coaching pioneer, Shantipriya Marcia Goldberg.
In this episode, youâll learn to spot the difference between what you do and the way you do it. Youâll begin to pay attention to the person you are in the presence of others, whether youâre up on stage in front of hundreds of people, or youâre just waiting in line with others for your morning coffee. Youâll also discover a simple exercise that will help you start becoming more present and conscious of your own needs and goals as you move about your day.
If youâre ready to tap into the potential of all of the moments of your day, and discover a little more joy while doing it, then this episode is for you.
What Youâll Learn in This Episode:
A new resource for sounds of inspiration (4:04)Sage words for when youâre feeling unprepared (6:32)How the presence of those around us makes all the difference (11:07)Choosing your word for this week (12:02)How to experience more of what you need right now (13:38)Resources Mentioned in this Episode:
Song: âLovedâ https://www.instagram.com/reel/C3TUvnNuP7n/
Gaia Music Collective: https://linktr.ee/gaiamusiccollective
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Matt Goldstein @heartofgoldstein
Leslie Odom Jr @leslieodomjr
Hannah Tobias @_w_h_y_s_
Gymnopedie @gymnopedie_bk
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