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  • Episode Summary. When I hear accusations today of the bible teaching oppressive patriarchy, it reminds me of Mark Twain’s comment, “It ain’t what you don’t know that gets you into trouble. It’s what you know for sure that just ain’t so.” There is not a scrap of evidence to suggest that God’s design of different roles for husbands and wives is harmful in any way. In fact, the biblical view of masculine leadership, starting with Adam’s design, modeled by Jesus in his care for his bride, and the foundation for Paul’s charge to Timothy about church leadership is the call to love those under our care. This episode examines this calling. But perhaps more importantly it examines the three wellsprings, from which sacrificial love flows into men’s hearts so we can give it to those we lead.

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    In your own words why does sacrificial love issue from a pure heart?In your own words why does sacrificial love issue from a clean conscience?In your own words why does sacrificial love issue from a sincere faith?

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  • Episode Summary. This episode considers the impact that a worldview called critical theory is having in our culture, supplanting a biblical worldview at many, many points. The goal is that by the end of the episode all of us will be able to detect how the assumptions of critical theory have gotten in the way of grasping the glory of God’s perfect design of womanhood and manhood.

    For Further Prayerful Thought:

    As you think of the cultural examples of critical theory’s oppressor/oppressed lens shaping cultural thinking, which examples stood out most to you? What other examples can you think of?Although we don’t know why God’s Word tells the stories of Adam and Eve’s creation in a very structured intentionally parallel way but postulate some reasons God might have done that. Summarize the evidence from Scripture that it is God who intends his household, the church to be led by men who are also assigned to lead their homes, not oppressive biblical patriarchy.

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  • This episode is for those who find themselves feeling more driven than called as they walk through life. It examines the way Jesus addressed the relentless internal pressure many feel to have to perform, and the resulting internal exhaustion we experience when he said, Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light (Mt 11:28-30). This episode examines Jesus’ only self-portrait in Scripture—that he is meek and lowly of heart, and why those qualities make taking on his yoke the pathway to REST.

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    This episode explains Jesus’ offer of rest to those burdened by the inner compulsion to have to perform to reach heaven, be loved, feel valuable, be accepted, and to be strong enough for others to lean on. Which of these reasons for “needing to perform” is most powerful in your life?If we are to REST in Jesus, why does it matter that he is meek, bearing no judicial wrath against you? Why does it matter that he is “lowly in heart?”A yoke is a yoke; it puts the farmer in control. So, in what sense can Jesus’ yoke be easy? In what sense is it light? Since you are yoked to Jesus’ power, how can you shift more of the weight you are carrying onto Jesus?


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  • In a world that is becoming increasingly complex because of innumerable opportunities to which our cell phones connect us, it is refreshing to remind ourselves of what Jesus said was at the core of following him. You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. This is the great and first commandment (Mt 22:37-38.) The primacy of this first and greatest commandment resonates with me. If I could just love God more:

    My heart would have less room to love sin.The pleasure of pleasing him would overpower my selfish pleasures.I would want the approval of God more than the approval of men.I would shut out the world more often to be in his quiet presence.

    Jesus, the perfect man who fulfilled all righteousness, obeyed the great commandment—loving the Father perfectly. This episode seeks to throw back the curtain of that devotion to the Father, so we may be inspired and challenged by it.

    For Further Prayerful Thought:

    How do “emptying myself” and “humbling myself” to obey God demonstrate my love for him?Jesus was confident of the Father’s love for him. He and Paul wanted us to be confident of God’s love for us. Why might comprehending such love be foundational for our everyday walk with God?Why does it make sense that when you love someone, you want to see that person honored? When you are battling a bad attitude in a given situation, how can it strengthen you to know that Christ-like attitudes in us bring glory to God?

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  • Episode Summary. There seems to be widespread agreement that Jonathan Roumie’s portrayal of Jesus in Dallas Jenkins’, The Chosen, is remarkably well done. As someone has said, “If you’re aiming to make a TV show about the life of Jesus, you better cast the right person for the lead role.” There is something deep, personal, and even perhaps threatening to us in the way Jesus is portrayed by anyone. A wrong portrayal messes with our perception of the one we have devoted our lives to. That is why this 3-week podcast series seeks to shake the dust off any mistaken Sunday-school-ideas we might have about Jesus. It seeks to replace them with the most accurate picture we can from Scripture. We begin with the COMPELLING nature of Jesus’ presence.

    For Further Prayerful Thought:

    As you read about the reactions of the temple guards sent to arrest Jesus, on two different occasions, what words would you use to describe their response to him?What difference does Jesus’ courageous willingness to confront evil make in your relationship with him?What do you think of the statement: Our God is so morally pure that he can even turn his enemies’ evil into good.

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    What some say is the biggest medical scandal of our times was exposed last month when whistle blowers released internal files from the self-appointed, “experts” on transgender health, the World Professional Association for Transgender Health (WPATH) proving that WPATH’s “transgender medicine guidelines” had no basis in actual science and violated the most basic medical guidelines for patient care. This episode explains what happened so that we can be better equipped to discredit the gender affirming care medical policy, which is destroying the lives of preteen and teens today, being recommended by this dishonest, ideologically-driven group.

    For Further Prayerful Thought:

    As you think back over just six of the ways credibility of WPATH has been destroyed, which stand out the most to you?What do you think is the strongest evidence that WPATH’s recommended transgender treatment policies are based on radical gender ideology at the cost of universally agreed upon standards for patient care?When could you find time in your schedule to get better equipped by repeating this podcast or listening to the YouTube videos mentioned?In what sphere of your life might you have the opportunity to raise questions about the legitimacy of gender affirming medical care?

    Resources About Affirming Care and Transgenderism

    Anchoring Your Child to God's Truth in a Gender-Confused Culture Our Daughters and the Transgender Craze FREE Videos: A Biblical Response to Gender Confusion and Transgenderism

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  • Episode Summary. If you noticed the title of this week’s episode, you may be wondering, “What in the world is a resurrection worldview and why does it matter?” It turns out not only that a resurrection worldview is an essential biblical concept for Christians; it is the foundation for the three specific truths that Paul repeatedly asks for God to help the Ephesian Christians grasp. This episode examines these three life-changing PERSPECTIVES.

    For Further Prayerful Thought:

    Why do the biblical writers care so much about our mind being transformed to having a biblical perspective?How does Paul want our view of the resurrection’s significance to go way beyond God doing something supernatural to prove that Jesus came from God. How does resurrection restoration to the paradise we all long for enrich the attractiveness of the gospel?How can knowing that you are God’s personal trophy of grace, his inheritance—one he plans to enjoy for eternity—ignite your passion to serve him?How can the truth that we have the spiritual dynamite we need to dislodge evil in our hearts and spheres of influence renew our willingness to fight, spiritually?

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  • Episode Summary. When faced with the sight of millions of men, women, and children from war-torn lands seeking to escape tyranny to have better life, most Christians will voice their approval for open door policies of inclusion, hospitality, diversity and welcome. After all Jesus, did teach that true believers will hear from Jesus, “I was a STRANGER and you WELCOMED me.” Doesn’t this settle the issue—All Christians must be welcoming to immigrants who want to come into our country. Actually, no. This understanding of immigration is so flawed that it misses the most significant biblical text about the government’s role in immigration. This episode seeks to help us all think biblically about the hot topic today of illegal, undocumented, immigrants coming across our southern border.

    For Further Prayerful Thought:

    Why do you think so many Americans are unaware of what is happening at the southern boarder? Of the categories of harm that un-enforcement of immigration policies brings—human trafficking, spread of drugs including fentanyl, terrorism, and attacks from hardened criminals, which concern you the most?How would you respond, biblically to the fallacy that for Christians to properly care for immigrants we must we welcoming to all who want to come to our nation, including those crossing the border illegally?What biblical principles do you think apply to our treatment of illegal immigrants who are already in our country?

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  • Episode Summary. This is the third episode in our March series, Worldviews Leading Our Loved Ones Astray. It begins with the reminder that faithful Christians don’t isolate themselves from cultural issues but fervently seek to raise their light of truth in the spheres around them, that God has commanded them to influence. We examine the argument that abortion is a reproductive right of a woman, noting, at the outset, that no woman has an absolute right over her body. She cannot put her hands around her toddlers’ neck and strangle him to death. My right to my own body is limited by law; doing something with my body that harms another is illegal and wrong. So, the question is what right the unborn have or do not have to be protected. Because the Supreme Court has returned the matter of abortion rights to the states, this episode first examines why most Bible-believing Christian believe that life begins at conception and then how to winsomely impact those around us with the need to protect human life in the womb.

    For Further Prayerful Thought:

    How would you summarize the scientific evidence from embryology that life begins at conception?What do you think of the statement, “The most important support for life beginning with conception is that the human embryo is a distinct, living, unique, whole member of the human species, fully capable of directing its development into maturity, regardless of its size, stage of development or location?”Which are the most common pro-abortion arguments that you hear? You might want to take a moment and think through how you can winsomely challenge that view just by asking a few questions—especially questions directing your friend to explain why the unborn are not human.

    Resource Used for this Episode: The Case for Life, Scott Klusendorf

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  • Episode Summary. This is the second episode in our March series, Worldviews Leading Our Loved Ones Astray. It makes the argument that the accusation that biblical patriarchy breeds toxic masculinity is a complete fiction by refuting two of the foundational worldviews that underlie this accusation—egalitarianism and critical theory. It then further refutes the claim with old-fashioned evidence.

    For Further Prayerful Thought:

    What would you say to another Christian and told you that you needed to understand that the NT does away with riles and says there is no longer any male or female?How would you respond to a Christian who said that he thought the oppressor/oppressed lens of critical theory was a good lens through which to look at life and history?Why can justice never be defined as identical outcomes? What are some of the biblical “outcome causes” that lead to poverty or ruin? How can we rightly define “justice” but still compassionately recognize that a child born in the city to a crack mom with no father starts at a different place than an upper middle-class kid whose parents are together and love him well?

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  • Episode Summary. This is the first episode in our March series, Worldviews Leading Our Loved Ones Astray. We begin by noting that many of the rising generation are rejecting the Christianity they grew up with because what the Bible says about homosexuality seems so outdated and unfair to them. This episode seeks to recover the teaching that all Christians must treat those in the LGBTQ+ life with compassion and dignity, yet not allow ourselves to over-empathize with this group and abandon the truth of Scripture as many are doing. This episode explains the background behind, 1) those who claim to be Gay Christians, 2) the concept of sexual orientation, and 3) the concept of gay identity.

    For Further Prayerful Thought:

    What stood out to you about the way Jesus exhibited a welcoming attitude towards the woman at the well and refused to stigmatize her. How would you try to make the church a safe place for rising teens who experience same-sex attraction?How would you explain to other Christians that the category sexual orientation is a false characterization of personhood? How does that perspective of the sin of homosexuality get in the way of one repenting over his or her same sex desires and practices?If all Christians are sinners, which means some are guilty of the sin of same-sex desire, why is calling those who struggle with this particular sin “Gay Christians” wrong?Which facts about the homosexual life stood out to you?

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  • Episode Summary. This episode acknowledges that those whose loud voices proclaim that the Bible promotes oppressive patriarchy would be horrified to read its title: Her Heart Needs Your Spiritual Leadership. But wise Christians understand both the horrible abuse of women by men and the fact that the cause is not God’s design structure for the home, but men’s sinful nature. The truth is that every woman’s heart is designed to be fulfilled by her husband leading their home and family well. This episode examines what this glorious design of male leadership in the home looks like, recognizing that only Jesus can give us the power to lead this way.

    For Further Prayerful Thought:

    In one sentence, how would you design the spiritual leadership a Christian wife’s heart yearns for?How is the strength of your relationship with Christ related to the strength of your ability to love your wife and family well? What steps might you take to walk more closely with Jesus?In what ways might you more fully share the weight of your wife’s concerns on the home front?Is it overstating Paul’s teaching about your wife’s growth in holiness to say that in eternity a husband will celebrate how much he has enabled his wife to radiate eternal godly womanhood through his prayers for her character and for strength to resist her temptations?

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  • Episode Summary. Instead of hearing refreshing words of praise and appreciation from their husbands, countless wives endure each day with parched souls and sad hearts. Being starved for words of affirmation, they feel worthless, unattractive, and unappreciated. This episode examines a biblical role of husbands that you may have thought little about—our job to protect our wife’s self-esteem. Life and self-doubt will eventually crush her sense of worth if we don’t keep binding up the wounds to her self-esteem, covering her with the salve of our reassuring words of affirmation.

    For Further Prayerful Thought:

    In your own words, describe the inner feelings of a wife who is suffering from low self-esteem.In your view what are the weightiest arguments for the husband being the primary means by which these inner feelings of inferiority are alleviated?Of the five steps to praising our wives more, the first four had to do with getting our hearts to feel grateful for her. What insights did you gain that might help you better do that?What steps do you need to take to program your “inner feminine beauty recognition” program to better recognize your wife matching the woman of virtue in Proverbs 31 and turn that recognition into words of praise?

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  • Episode Summary. God wants husbands and wives to drink deeply and frequently of the refreshing waters of their partner’s sexuality. But most of us whose marriages have lasted beyond the honeymoon stage have found that sustaining romantic and sexual passion has been a lot harder than we ever thought it would be, especially because our wives are NOT wired the way WE are. This episode looks for biblical clues to understanding how and why a woman’s view of romance and sex is so different than her husband’s.

    For Further Prayerful Thought:

    What would you say to persuade a Christian brother and sister that married couples having a great sexual relationship is important to God?What are some of the ways that feminine sexual desire seems consistent with what God has revealed to us in Genesis 2 about how he has created woman?How would you use the fact that God created Adam to be ground focused and Eve to be relationally focused to explain why difference in sexual desires can create resentment in marriage? What stood out to you about how to romance a woman?

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  • Episode Summary. This episode examines five biblical texts that reveal the various facets of a wife’s need for heart intimacy with her husband. 84% of wives 9indicate that their husbands have no clue how to meet this need of their hearts.

    For Further Prayerful Thought:

    Why do you think 84% of wives say that their husbands are not meeting their need for heart intimacy with them?What do you most need to remember about listening well to your wife to help her open her heart to you?What is your reaction to this statement: For most wives the pain of their husbands never connecting with them at the level of heart intimacy would be like the pain a husband would feel if his wife never had sex with him? What do you think of this description of a wife’s need for affection: it is regularly communicating in small, non-sexual, ways that you care about them? What else besides hugs fit this category for your wife?

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  • Episode Summary. This episode challenges husbands and fathers to be as devoted to bringing out the potential of those under their care as Richard Williams was, the father of Venus and Serena Williams. We take the example of Jesus' leadership of the church as prophet, priest, and king, to identify practically what we should do to help those under our care reach their full potential in Christ.

    For Further Prayerful Thought:

    How might you become and remain as passionate about developing the potential of each of your family members as Richard Williams was about developing Venus’ and Serena’s tennis abilities?What are the biggest obstacles to being devoted to the Word of God and leading your family to be shaped with the Word of God?What is the biggest obstacle to interceding for your loved ones, giving them the power to exhibit Christ-like attitudes and resist temptation? What can you do to remove that obstacle?What struck you about the way that King Jesus gifts us to participate in the church’s mission to make disciples of the nations? What might you do to enhance the fruitfulness of your loved ones for Christ?

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  • Episode Summary. The opportunities to influence our kids’ lives go by in a flash and after they are launched are rarer still. So, dads and granddads need to know how to maximize the influence we do have. This episode examines God’s two-part design of the influence we wield as spiritual leaders of our home, positional influence and relational influence. In both cases, we must overcome false worldviews that deny the way God wants us to lead our homes.

    For Further Prayerful Thought:

    How would you argue with a Christian brother who said, “My wife is better with the kids, so I leave their discipline to her?”How does the discipline approach, “Your behavior is making mommy and daddy feel angry with you” violate the principles of biblical parenting?Why do you think God makes such harsh statements about the failure to bring painful consequences for wrong behavior—you hate your child, you bring death to your child?Why is biblical leadership more about winning the hearts of followers by serving them, than it is having responsibility for making decisions?Which component of Jesus’ leadership practices with the twelve do you most need to put into practice in your leadership role?

    Recommended Resource Used in this Episode:

    Boundaries With Kids: When to Say YES, When to Say NO to Help Your Children Gain Control of their Lives, by Henry Cloud and John Townsend

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  • Episode Summary. Family leadership isn’t for the half-hearted. And it is not always appreciated by our followers! What is worse is that our leadership attempts can fail, disheartening us. But as Wayne Gretzky has pointed out, “You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.” This episode examines what leadership at home looks like, so we can give it our best shot.

    For Further Prayerful Thought:

    What do you learn about the leadership process that you want to remember?In your own words, what is the destination of that Christian men who are leading their homes are pursuing with their family members?Why might it be argued that investing in your calling to love God with all of your heart, mind, soul, and strength while drinking in his love for you is the foundation of our mission?How can you better connect the frustrating blitzes of your life to the qualities of character God might be teaching you through them?When might you steal an hour to spend on the website What Would You Say, to get better equipped to verbalize the biblical worldviews on the issues of the day as salt and light?

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  • Episode Summary. There are so many forces in today’s culture, our own hearts, our wife’s heart, and churches today that are pushing hard against men taking leadership in their homes and churches, that daring to lead our families is tough. It isn’t for sissies. It demands courage to overcome our uncertainty about what we are doing, a thick skin to resist peer pressure, and determination to defeat our passivity. But men, we can’t let our families bear the cost of our rejection of Jesus’ call to biblical manhood. They will suffer. This episode is for those who refuse to offer Jesus a slight nod and mediocre commitment to being a godly man. It challenges men instead to say to Jesus, “I don’t care how strong the resistance is, how unequipped I feel, or how many times I fail, by God’s grace I am going to define MY role as a man in MY home BIBLICALLY and lead My wife and children according to that design as best I can for their welfare and Jesus’ honor.”

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    What to you is the hardest thing about a Christ-following man’s call to be the leader of his wife and kids?What most stood out to you about the “headship” of husbands in marriage?How best can you help other Christians grasp the magnificence of this design?Which parts of headship do you most want to remember and concentrate upon if you have a family?Which roots of courage to stand alone sometimes in this culture for God’s gender design have to most power to energize you?

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  • Episode Summary. In my view as a men’s ministry leader, one of the great tragedies of the church today is that we have failed to capture the hearts of men with the greatness of our mission. This episode focusses on just one aspect of a decision that every Christian who is listening to this podcast has made—choosing to be a follower of King Jesus. Disciples follow their masters’ example. They apply his teaching. They embrace his cause. This episode looks at just one facet of Jesus’ identity that has enormous implications for following him. He is the Prince of Peace who brings shalom.

    For Further Prayerful Thought:

    What steps can you take to increase the likelihood that that next year at this time you will look back and say, “I was a faithful agent of reconciliation of the kingdom. I prayed for, the building of relationships with the lost around me and for opportunities to share my faith, and seized those opportunities”?How can you better notice the inner turmoil of those around you and take a small step in pointing them to Jesus? How can you support ministries of those reaching those who have been broken by life?What caveats do you want to remember about being a peacemaker among humans?What do you think of Miles McPherson’s Third option?Why might it be important in your world to remember that Christians aren’t call just to fix spiritual things—but respond with compassion to those impacted by the brokenness of the physical world?

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