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When my father passed away, it felt like losing a lifeline to my Japanese heritage. Navigating the grief and identity crisis that followed, I dreamt up Mixunderstood as a way to reconnect and heal. This season finale is a heartfelt reflection on how this podcast became a sanctuary in my journey of personal growth, even as I faced burnout, and the profound conversations that have shaped it, including an unforgettable exchange with Punita Khanna about our shared experiences with cancer in our families.
Creating Mixunderstood has been more than just a creative project; it's been a transformative experience that has encouraged me to embrace my mixed identity with newfound confidence. Inspired by our amazing guests and the vibrant community, I've started looking into learning Japanese and have even launched Fusion Friday, an educational social media series collaboration with Mixed Asian Media that celebrates mixed culture and identity. Through these efforts, I am building a language around the mixed-race experience and finding comfort in spaces that once felt foreign. As I wrap up this season, I hope to explore even more themes like mental health and racial imposter syndrome in the future.
Massive thank you to all of our guests and contributors to Season 2!!
Thank you to YOU wonderful listeners!
Your support has been integral to this journey, and Iâm deeply grateful for every message and contribution. This episode is dedicated to my father.
Thank you for being part of Mixunderstood.
Let's continue this exploration together.
Chapters(00:00) - Reflecting on Season Two
(04:53) - Discovering Identity Through Podcasting
(13:58) - Embracing Mixed Identity Through Conversation
(24:50) - Staying Connected Through Podcasting
Highlights(04:53) Podcast Origins (102 Seconds)
(10:31) Identity Crisis Sparking Podcast Creation (97 Seconds)
(13:45) Podcast Impact on Mixed Identity (86 Seconds)
(20:42) Dedication to Father and New Season (123 Seconds)
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KeywordsMixed Identity, Japanese Heritage, Grief, Identity Crisis, Personal Growth, Burnout, Conversations, Cancer, Mental Health, Racial Imposter Syndrome, Fusion Friday, Language, Community, Creative Project, Healing, Reflection, Season Finale, Podcasting, Identity, Cultural Spaces, Learning, Joy, Connections, Hope, Balance, Support, Contributions, Music, Transformative Experience, Curiosity, Questions, Future Episodes,
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In this episode, we explore the remarkable story of Emi and Philip, a multicultural couple whose relationship has spanned continents and navigated countless challenges. Meeting in the U.S. in the early 2000sâbefore the convenience of Zoom calls and smartphonesâEmi, who is Japanese, and Philip, who is English/Australian, embarked on a long-distance relationship that tested their resolve, patience, and commitment.
Their journey takes us through the logistical and bureaucratic hurdles of maintaining a relationship across oceans, navigating time differences, visa issues, learning each other's languages and accents, and staying flexible around constant career changes.
Their focus on "making it work" and staying attuned to each other's needs is inspiring and encouraging for anyone who might be currently in a long-distance relationship.
But this episode isnât just about the logistical challenges. At its heart, itâs about two individuals searching for that elusive place where they can both fully be themselves. Through sacrifices, cultural and familial expectations, and the ever-present struggle of belonging, they continued to seek a home where their identities and experiences could be fully embraced.
Join us as we uncover the emotional and cultural complexities of their journey, filled with moments of humor, frustration, and ultimately, a breakthrough in finding a place where they both could thrive.
In This Episode, We Talk About:
The challenges of navigating long-distance relationships with limited technology.Overcoming cultural and familial expectations to be together.The impact of living in different countries on their identities and relationship.The struggles of finding work and fitting into new societies as immigrants.The journey of finding a place where they both can be fully themselves.This is our last interview for Season 2. Next week, Iâll be sharing a final short episode with my personal reflections on this season, so make sure to listen in!
Guests:
Emi Nishimura & Philip Canavan
@emi_canavan & @lostinthemosh
@japanscreenadvocacy
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Zijn er afleveringen die ontbreken?
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What would you do to keep your family together during the most challenging times? In this episode, weâre discussing a story of sacrifice, resilience, and the lengths one woman went to in order to stay with her family. During World War II, more than 120,000 Japanese Americans were forcibly removed from their homes and incarcerated in camps across the United States. In the midst of this, one woman made an unthinkable choice. Elaine Buchman Yoneda, a Jewish American, voluntarily entered one of these camps, Manzanar, to stay with her Japanese American husband Karl and their three-year-old son Tommy.
In this episode, Iâm joined over Zoom by author Tracy Slater, currently in Canada, to discuss Elaine Yoneda's remarkable journey, explored in Tracyâs upcoming book, preliminarily titled Nine Months in Manzanar, set for release in 2025 by Chicago Review Press.
Discover how Tracy uncovered this untold story and learn about the totem that guided her through the writing process. We delve into the split-second decisions Elaine faced, not only concerning her son Tommy but also other critical choices.
We touch on the broader implications for interracial families under the shifting âmixed bloodâ policy and examine the political views and personal responses to the trauma experienced by those in Manzanar, including how these tensions affected Elaine, Tommy, and others.
The conversation also covers Carlâs unique identity and feelings toward Japan, the complexities and contradictions in the lives of the Yoneda family, and the importance of acknowledging human contradictions in both personal identities and society.
This episode offers a thought-provoking discussion, shedding light on overlooked aspects of American history and the importance of understanding our collective past.
Guest:Tracy Slater â Author of the upcoming book, preliminarily titled Nine Months in Manzanar (2025), and previously, The Good Shufu: Finding Love, Self, and Home on the Far Side of the World.
www.tracyslater.com
@good_shufu
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In today's episode, we dive into the fascinating journey of Tina and Nacho, a couple whose whirlwind romance began on Tinder in Miami and has taken them across continents to settle in Buenos Aires. Their story is one of adaptability, resilience, and navigating cultural clichés as they merge their lives together.
Join us as we explore what itâs like to be in a long-distance international relationship and the realities of moving to a new country for your partner. Tina, from Germany, and Nacho, from Argentina, have faced numerous logistical challenges, from living in shared spaces in Miami to transitioning to Tina's childhood home in Germany, before embarking on an adventure in a cozy camper van and finally settling in the vibrant city of Buenos Aires.
We kick off with three fun facts:
Tina's quirky relationship with wobbly foods, Nacho's confession about soccer, and what they adopted into their relationship during their year and a half of traveling across Europe in a camper van. Then, we delve into their decision to get married after seeing each other only four times, exploring how their family and friends reacted and their differing accounts of whether Nacho proposed.
As we transition to their practical life in Buenos Aires, Tina and Nacho share the humorous and eye-opening experience of navigating healthcare with Tina's improving Spanish and Nacho's assistance. This leads us to a discussion about cultural differences and navigating clichés, examining how they've managed to maintain a sense of normalcy amid the challenges of adapting to a new culture.
We explore the initial struggles and misunderstandings due to differing cultural expectations, particularly around timeliness and expressions of affection, and how these experiences have influenced their relationship and perspectives on their home countries and identities.
Tune in as we discuss closing the gap of long distance, making a relationship work across countries, and the realities of moving to a foreign land for - Amor!
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Social Media: @internationallovestory
WhatsApp group: https://chat.whatsapp.com/Fy5IOsGnOoN1D0foex9EBY
Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/international-love-story/id1514145436
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Ever wondered how a fiercely independent academic from Boston could end up embracing the traditional role of a Japanese housewife? Tracy Slater, acclaimed author of The Good Shufu: Finding Love, Self, and Home on the Far Side of the World, joins us to unravel her incredible journey. From teaching in men's prisons to becoming a shufu in Japan, Tracy's story is one of transformation, self-discovery, and unexpected love.
In this episode, we explore how Tracy navigated the logistics of moving to Japan, adapting to a new culture, and balancing her career shift with the demands of a new lifestyle. Tracy shares her experiences of culture shock, her willingness to let life shape her path, and the adjustments she made to embrace new roles and responsibilities.
Discover how Tracy and her husband, Toru, balanced their different cultural backgrounds and overcame the challenges of living between two countries. We dive into the emotional and practical aspects of her journey, including caring for her terminally ill father-in-law, her efforts to conceive a child, and the impact of these experiences on her sense of self.
Tracyâs memoir captures the irony and profundity of her mid-40s transformation, offering insights into intercultural marriages and the subtleties of non-homogeneous social relationships. She shares heartwarming and humorous anecdotes about adapting to her new life, including a memorable story from her first week in Japan.
Join us for a deeper understanding of how culture shapes relationships and provides valuable lessons for anyone navigating mixed identities or intercultural marriages. Stay tuned for future discussions on Tracy's upcoming book about mixed families in America's World War II concentration camps.
More about Tracy:
www.tracyslater.com
Tracyâs Mixed-Marriage Memoir:The Good Shufu: Finding Love, Self, and Home on the Far Side of the World
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In this episode, we sit down with Punita Khanna, a first-generation Indian Punjabi immigrant and co-author of Mixed Daisies: Stories of Multiracial South Asians. As the mother of Rahul, featured in Episode 27, Punita reflects on her journey of raising a mixed-race child in a context where such families were relatively rare.
Punita shares her experiences of feeling like an outsiderâfacing discrimination as a brown person in the United States and struggling with acceptance in India. Despite these challenges, her unwavering dedication to providing Rahul with the best opportunities, resources, and community support shines through.
Being the first mixed child on both sides of their families, Punita discusses the dynamics of raising a mixed-race child in a predominantly white society, including recognizing her husband Johnâs white privilege and the contrasting parenting styles between her Indian heritage and his more relaxed American approach.
Punita also reflects on marrying and having a child later in life, her efforts to expose Rahul to various cultures and religions, and giving him the freedom to choose his own path. She shares her journey as a breast cancer survivor and passionate advocate for breast cancer awareness within the South Asian community. Her story highlights the importance of early detection, the challenges of dealing with a lack of representation in healthcare narratives, and her decision to shield Rahul from the emotional burden of her illness.
Ultimately, this episode is a monoracial South Asian motherâs love letter to her mixed-race son. It sheds light on the many overlaps between their journeys as they find acceptance, build community, and cultivate resources and spaces for mixed families and individuals.
Punita and Rahulâs Book! Mixed Dasis: Stories Of Multiracial South Asians
www.amazon.com/Mixed-Desis-Stories-Multiracial-Asians-ebook/dp/B0CQ93G46D
Mentions:
www.humsubglobalteen.com
Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother
by Amy Chua
Recommendations from Punita:
Raising Mixed Race: Multiracial Asian Children in a Post-Racial World
by Sharon H. Chang
Raising Multiracial Children: Tools for Nurturing Identity in a Racialized World
by Farzana Nayani
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In this episode, we sit down with Rahul Arjun John Yates, founder of HumSub Global Teen and co-creator of Mixed-Desis: Stories of Multi-racial South Asians as he opens up about his unique journey as a multiracial teen in Los Angeles. Growing up with an Indian Punjabi mother and a White father, Rahul navigated the complexities of multicultural identity, which eventually led to the creation of a global platform supporting mixed-race youth.
Listen as Rahul shares heartfelt stories of feeling more connected to his Indian heritage through dance and poignant moments of questioning his identity, offering a relatable perspective for anyone grappling with the intricacies of mixed heritage. The conversation takes a deep dive into Rahul's efforts to celebrate both sides of his cultural background, highlighting the internal conflicts and external challenges he faced. Hear about the amusing tale of his 19-year-old cat Shah Rukh, and how Rahul's work in India through a Harvard program has strengthened his connection to his roots.
This episode explores phases of Rahulâs life where he felt "not Indian enough," and how these experiences have shaped his mission to foster a supportive community for multiracial youth through HumSub Global Teen. In a candid discussion, Rahul recounts the creation of a platform during the pandemic, which has since become a vital space for mixed-race teens. He emphasizes the importance of parental support, especially from his mother, and shares the rewarding journey of writing Mixed Desis.
Rahulâs story is not just about embracing a mixed identity but also about providing resources and inspiration for others on similar paths. Tune in for an episode filled with empathy, empowerment, and insightful guidance on navigating the complexities of multicultural identity.
Find Rahul:
www.humsubglobalteen.com
@humsubglibalteen
Book: www.amazon.com/Mixed-Desis-Stories-Multiracial-Asians-ebook/dp/B0CQ93G46D
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We are taking a little side chat, a break from our season's theme of mixed relationships and family dynamics, because guess what? Mixunderstood and yours truly, Hanna-Lee, went to our first event for mixed people!
This episode is a bit different from our usual format. I had the incredible opportunity to attend the Free to Be Fest, a celebration of the mixed experience, right here in downtown LA.
The Free to Be Fest is an amazing event that showcases the richness of mixed identity and belonging. This year, it featured two short films and a TV pilot, all centered around the theme of mixed identity and belonging. I was fortunate enough to interview some of the attendees, including mixed individuals and allies, capturing their stories, insights, and thoughts on what it means to be mixed in today's world.
I recorded this episode on an outdoor rooftop in the heart of downtown LA, so you might hear some background noise from the event and the occasional siren. Please bear with me, as the conversations I had are truly worth it.
A special shoutout to Dr. Jenn, the brilliant mind behind this festival and a former guest on the podcast (check out Episode 20). Her passion and dedication to celebrating mixed identity made this event possible.
Interviewees:
Maris Lidaka - @marislidaka Founder of @blendedfutureproject
Film - âGabriellaâ
Eloase Joy @mixed_and_chill
Lauren Lola @akolaurenlola
Books: âA Momentâs Worthâ & âDasigâ
Punita Khanna:
www.Humsubglobalteen.com
Book: Mixed Desis - Stories of Multiracial South Asians
Thomas Lopez - www.multiracialamericans.org
Aute Porter - www. auteporter.com
Larz Broussard - www.larzbroussard.com
Camille Tenerife - https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/camille-tenerife-los-angeles-ca/931678
Conroe Brooks @conroebrooks
Tv pilot: âAlt Blackâ
Sarah Shuman and David Ramos
Film: www.tsehaitheshort.com
Thank you Paola Morales del Castillo, Iris Tumi, Julie & Ariana
And Thank you Dr Jenn!!!
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In part 1, we explored what it was like for Maria Fernanda growing up as a mixed-race transracial adoptee. We delved into the emotional complexities of birthdays as an adoptee, what it was like growing up with white parents, and being in an interracial relationship and getting pregnant unexpectedly. Becoming a young mom was a turning point for Maria Fernanda, who says it was the moment of âcoming out of the fogâ when she started to want answers and began the arduous journey of searching for her âFirst mother.â
Now, in part 2, we delve deeper into the emotional and challenging journey of uncovering adoption records that seemed almost impossible to access. Our exploration follows the relentless efforts to contact consulates, embassies, and a now-defunct adoption agency, leading to a surprising breakthrough. This realization highlights the systemic barriers many adoptees face when seeking answers, underscoring the ongoing struggles within the adoption process. Join us as we continue Maria's story of resilience, determination, and the importance of community and support.
Maria Fernandaâs emotional journey of searching for biological family members:Efforts to find her mother and brother through online messages and social media.Maria Fernandaâs first hand experience with a scam and the Importance of caution to avoid scams. Maria Ferdandaâs determination and resilience in navigating the complexities of searching for one's roots amidst a global pandemic. The Detective work she did to find clues and put the pieces of info together. Inspired by the movie "Lion," using Google Earth to investigate further.Initial dead ends and emotional highs and lows in the pursuit.How she finally was able to be connected with her first mother after decades of separation and begin the reunion process.The Immediate and profound connection despite language barriers as well as the challenges of communication through a translator.Mix of joy and pain in such reunions, impact of past trauma.Delays in in-person meeting due to the global pandemic.Maria Fernandaâs first trip back to Quito with her family to meet her birth family.Challenges faced by adoptees, particularly from Latin America, in navigating identity and reunions with biological families.The ongoing challenges around being an adoptee. Her personal experience of proving citizenship for a child's college application, highlighting bureaucratic hurdles.Maria Fernandaâs Creation of Adoptees of Latin America plus Extended Latin Americas and the Guia Nova mentoring program.Need for supportive communities that understand the unique grief and joy adoptees experience.The mental health impacts of adoption and importance of trauma-informed care and supportive networks.The role of community in acknowledging and processing trauma and loss, ensuring adoptees can thrive.Find Maria Fernanda:
Instagram:
@abutterflyseries
Adoptees of Latin America+ Extended Latin Americas: https://www.asa-extendedlatinamericas.com/creators
Guia Nova:
Instagram @guianovamentoring
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How does a transracial adoptee navigate the intricate tapestry of identity, culture, and belonging? Join us as Maria Fernanda, a passionate advocate and voice for adoptees, shares her heart-wrenching yet empowering journey from Quito, Ecuador, to her adoptive home in the United States. Maria's story is one of resilience and determination, as she unveils the emotional complexities of birthdays as an adoptee, the painstaking process of uncovering adoption records, and the profound impact of reclaiming her identity and reconnecting with her birth family.
Maria discusses her transformative work in co-creating Adoptees of Latin America plus Extended Latin Americas and Guia Nova, emphasizing the significance of community and support for those navigating similar paths. She opens up about the challenges of growing up in a family of a different race, the emotional nuances of international adoption, and the intense moments of "coming out of the fog" to face the realities of her past. Her journey is marked by poignant reunions with her birth mother, navigating medical documentation as an adoptee, and the emotional roller coaster of finding her biological family amidst a global pandemic.
This episode is a testament to the importance of keeping adoptees' voices central in adoption conversations, highlighting the critical need for empathy, understanding, and trauma-informed care.
This episode marks the first of a two-part series.
Show notes:
When Maria Fernanda found out she didn't really know her birthdayWe talk about the mix of feelings that come up around birthdays, especially for someone like Maria who was adopted. The privilege of having access to personal documents in the Adoptee communityMaria Fernandâs adoptive family dynamicsMari Fernanda challenge the "savior" narrative often associated with adoptive parents, emphasizing the importance of recognizing the birth families' circumstances and humanityThe importance of centering the voices of adoptees and their first families, rather than solely highlighting the adoptive parents' actions.The complexities of growing up as a mixed-race adoptee in a predominantly white environment.Growing up as a mixed-race adoptee in a mostly white environment comes with its own set of challenges. A racist encounter Maria had outside her dance class is just one exampleThe diverse experiences within the same household, highlighting how each adoptee's journey is unique.Maria Fernandaâs moment of "coming out of the fogâ as she became a young mom.The emotional and logistical challenges faced by adoptees in navigating medical and personal history documentationThe frustration of filling out forms at the OBGYN that lack an option for adoptees, highlighting the need for medical professionals to be more informed and empathetic.Find Maria Fernanda:
Instagram:
@abutterflyseries
Adoptees of Latin America+ Extended Latin Americas: https://www.asa-extendedlatinamericas.com/creators
Guia Nova:
Instagram @guianovamentoring
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Identity is not a destination but a journey, especially for transracial adoptees. In this Episode we are diving into the conversation around transracial and transcultural adoption. I am honored to host Patrick Samuel Young Armstrong, a multifaceted individual, a podcaster, speaker, creator and a new father. Patrick's journey as a Korean-American, transracial and transcultural adoptee is a profound exploration of identity and acceptance. From a childhood marked by rejection to a transformative awakening at 30, Patrick's story is one of reclaiming and embracing his heritage and humanity all while fostering community within the adoptee and Asian American realms. Join us for a heartfelt conversation with Patrick.
Shownotes:
Patrickâs first childhood memoryThe circumstances surrounding his birth in Korea, and the subsequent adoption to Indiana at just three months old
Patrick shares his recent efforts to connect with his birth mother and the unexpected developments in that search, shedding light on the emotional and personal challenges of tracing his rootsThe unexpected news from the adoptive agency and what followed.Why Partick wrote 40 letters to his birth mom.What happens when the protective layers we've built are stripped away, revealing an emotional void? Patrick discusses the tension between control and agency on the adoption journeyThe complex emotions of becoming a father for the first time. Reflecting on seeing his DNA in his childThe tools and coping mechanisms that have been essential in navigating these life changes, including the crucial role of therapyPatrick shares about his first 30 years of navigating life as an Asian American adoptee in a predominantly white community. Growing up in a colorblind household, experiences of subtle and overt racism were often minimized or dismissed by family members, leading to internalized rejection of identity.The profound impact of rejection, particularly in the context of adoption, and how it shapes personal identity and emotional well-being. We reflect on the lack of historical research on adoption and the misconception that adopted children will seamlessly integrate into their new families.Patrickâs turning point triggered by a scene in the movie "Always Be My Maybe" Patrick shares about his journey of self-discovery and embracing his heritage and identity.The multifaceted nature of the foster care system ranging from loving homes to systemic issues that undermine the foster kids experience.The emotional and transformative journey of personal growth and mutual support between Patrick and his adoptive mother.Connect with Patrick!
Instagram: @patrickintheworld
Podcasts:
The Janchi show: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-janchi-show/id1529913015Conversation Piece: https://www.conversationpiecepod.com/Check OtherStudies:
âToo Korean to be white and too white to be Koreanâ :
https://www.holtinternational.org/wp-content/uploads/2021/12/Too-Korean-to-be-White.pdf
The adoptee consciousness model:
https://intercountryadopteevoices.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/06/adoptee-consciousness-model.pdf
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In this Episode we're spotlighting Shola Oz, the author of the childrenâs book âI am wholeâ
Growing up as a first-generation immigrant in the bustling and diverse city of London, Shola learned early on to embrace and celebrate people from all walks of life.
Shola's path to authorship was anything but conventional. Motivated by the lack of positive representation for mixed-race children, she was inspired to write "I Am Whole" after persistent, rhyming lines kept appearing in her dreams. This passion project transcended her immediate circle, resonating particularly in the US, and underlining the global hunger for inclusive narratives.
Inspired by raising her own multicultural and mixed-race daughter, "I Am Whole" aims to take away the focus on color and identification with one culture over another by focusing on language, family and traditions.
join us as we dive into Shola's personal journey and the heartwarming stories from her mixed family, From navigating the pressures of conforming to beauty standards in a predominantly white corporate world to embracing her natural hair, Shola's story is one of empowerment and self-acceptance. We explore the cultural significance of Nigerian naming traditions and the heartfelt desire to reconnect with her roots. Shola's journey is a testament to the power of authenticity, resilience, and the importance of celebrating oneâs identity.
Show notes:
Three fun facts about Shola - Horror, Thai & Moulin RougeâŠSholaâs unexpected inspiration for her Childrenâs bookInsights from âI am whole bookâ which focuses on embracing multiple cultures through language, family, and traditions rather than solely on skin colorThe experience of writing a children's book for mixed-race kids by a mother who is not mixed race herself.Sholaâs personal experiences in an interracial and intercultural relationship, highlighting conversations about race and micro-aggressions with her Italian English husband.Sholaâs mixed family experience in England vs Ital.Sholaâs experiences as a black woman in London vs Overseas.Shola shares about what she did to assimilate as a Black woman in the corporate world particularly the pressures to conform to certain beauty standards.Why did Shola change her daughterâs name when she was 2 years old.The meaning behind her daughter's name.The cultural significance and traditions surrounding naming ceremonies in Nigerian culture, particularly for twins.Sholaâs sense of home vs her motherâs sense of home as a Nigerian immigrant. Writerâs block and Hanna-Leeâs pitch for a second book.Sholaâs book recommendationsA special impromptu song from SholaâŠFind Shola Oz:
@Iamwholebook
Email: [email protected]
https://www.amazon.com/Whole-Multi-Racial-Childrens-Celebrating-Diversity/dp/183834330X
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In this episode, I chat with sisters Kim Serena and Mareike Matthies. Raised in Munich, they now navigate the challenges of intercultural family life, with partners from Venezuela and Italy, bringing a rich mix of languages and cultures into their homes. Through their project, "A Couple of Cultures," Kim and Mareike help other intercultural couples by sharing personal stories and professional tips on raising bilingual kids and blending different cultural backgrounds.
Kim and Mareike stress the importance of communication and tolerance in maintaining harmony in multicultural families. They also offer practical tips for nurturing strong dual cultural identities in children, providing valuable lessons for anyone living in a multicultural world.
Show notes:
Introduction to Mareike and Kim3 Fun facts about Mareike and KimHow the German sisters met their husbands from Italy and Spain and the moves they made to make the intercultural relationship work. Taking change and potentially transient lifestyle in multicultural families. Being aware of the roles that each partner plays if you happen to be living in the home Country of one of the partners and making a conscious effort to perhaps switch up those roles and move to another country for a chapter. Growth and balance in a relationship.The culture that you create as a couple. Working together to make sure that the needs of each partner are met.Local vs global community and how both are important. People that will understand your multi cultural lifestyle demands and needs as well as local friends.Long-distance travel with young children ââThe importance of preemptively discussing big questions such as language, religion, and the involvement of grandparents. Avoiding judgment and valuation in everyday parenting, particularly when it comes to advice from grandmothers with their own cultural biasesThe intricacies and challenges of raising children in a multicultural household.Making the most of an intercultural partner in the sense of challenging why you do things the way you do. Asking yourself if doing things a certain way is a conscious choice or just an automatic thing your culture does. Doing this gives you the option to choose how you want to do things and being exposed to your partner's culture can give you more options. Communication - Debriefing after the event - What happened? Why did you react that way? And that way learning to decipher where the behavior is coming from - Personality, parents, environment, culture etc..The sisters share funny anecdotes from their multicultural family lifePatreon!
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In this episode, we sit down with licensed psychologist Dr. Jennifer Noble, also known as Dr. Jenn, and delve into the challenges and limitations that might arise when raising mixed race kids and learn how to ownership of the process.
We also have a second surprise visit by my former co-host Amy Maghera!
Dr. Jenn shares invaluable insights on supporting mixed race kids, navigating racial identity, and overcoming microaggressions. Hanna-Lee opens up about her own fears and hesitations about becoming a parent from a multicultrual perspective. This episode is packed with practical advice!
We also take a playful quiz from Dr. Jennâs website to wrap up the conversation.
Introduction to Dr. Jenn3 Fun Facts about Dr. JennChallenges Parents of Mixed Kids FaceParenting Mixed Kids during the Pandemic: A George Floyd ExampleReservations and Tactics for Supporting Mixed Kids: Race, Microaggressions, and IdentityA Parent's Journey: Changing Perspectives on Race and Mixed ExperiencesHanna-Lee's Multicultural Parenting Fears and Inner ConflictNavigating Mixed Identity: Avoiding the "Right Answer" TrapConnecting Kids to Your Story vs. Group RulesLearning and Growing with Your Kids: Embracing Culture and LanguageBeing a Cultural Ambassador: Shared Parenting RolesTechnical and Financial Considerations of Multicultural ParentingGrieving the Loss of Culture: Acknowledgment and AcceptanceAmy and Hanna-Lee Take the Quiz on Dr. Jennâs SiteClosing anecdote from Dr Jenn, about fully being who you are and letting people around you adjust.Your support means everything. If you enjoy this podcast and would like to help us keep the conversation going, consider supporting us on Patreon at patron.podbean.com/mixunderstoodpod
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In today's unique episode, we're exploring the remarkable story of Gonzalo Guerrero and Zazil Ha, one of the earliest mixed-race couples in Latin American history. Gonzalo, a Spanish sailor, and Zazil Ha, a Mayan princess, came together to create a family that symbolized the merging of Spanish and indigenous cultures, marking the origins of the mestizo identity. This episode provides a vivid picture of the early 1500s in the Yucatan Peninsula, a time when European powers were driven by exploration and conquest. Join us as we journey through the lush and culturally rich world of the Maya and discover how these two extraordinary individuals found each other amidst the turbulence of their time.
References/sources:
https://www.thehistorycorner.org/articles-by-the-team/99yobciicyzjpl78wsb7maikyubro6#:~:text=Gonzalo%20Guerrero%20was%20born%20in,%E2%80%9D%20(Cuba%2C%20nowadays).
https://latinamericanpost.com/americas/heritage-en/the-father-of-the-mixed-race-a-story-of-romance/
https://belize.com/belize-is-cradle-of-latin-americas-mestizo-ethnic-group/
https://www.thevintagenews.com/2019/03/25/gonzalo-guerrero/
https://ancientmayaculturaltraits.com/2023/09/30/maya-bloodletting-and-elite-initiation/
https://es-m-wikipedia-org.translate.goog/wiki/Gonzalo_Guerrero?_x_tr_sl=es&_x_tr_tl=en&_x_tr_hl
=en&_x_tr_pto=sc
https://allthatsinteresting.com/famous-interracial-couples/4
https://www.ancient-origins.net/history-famous-people/gonzalo-guerrero-father-first-mestizos-and-army-captain-mayans-006129
https://www.thehistorycorner.org/articles-by-the-team/99yobciicyzjpl78wsb7maikyubro6
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Joining us today are Dawn Ellinwood and Elimu Nelson, an inspiring interracial couple who, after navigating the challenges of each raising their own children and primarily dating within their own racial backgrounds, now find themselves together, in their 50s, maintaining a strong connection despite their semi-long distance relationship. Tune in to hear about Dawnâs experience around transracial adoption as a mother to her two daughters from her previous marriage. Also, discover Elimu's journey of being caught between racial perceptions as a young boy and evolving into an adult who embraces his black identity, prioritizing connection in relationships. Together, they gracefully navigate the complexities of their relationship, offering insights into the dynamics of blended families and the unspoken rules of dating across racial lines. Stay tuned as we explore how their relationship has fostered healing, support, and joy in their lives
Show notes:
Introduction to Elimu and Dawn. Theyâre favorite films What makes Elimu cry, the duo personas: Boris and Natasha How they met. Dawnâs surprising connection to BLM and Elimuâs quest to change black HollywoodDawnâs relationship to birth and motherhood and reasons for going through a transcultural and transracial adoption process. Dawn shares one of the main things that people donât take into account around adoption The challenges of being a parent to an adoptee from a different âraceâ and being able to help them navigate situations they have never experienced, or the adoptees feeling misunderstood. Seeing your limitations as a parent.Your adopted kids wanting to look like you. Perceiving your race as the better one. Growing up as a minority in your area.Talking about race without also making it the main focusStaying in conversation with the kids. Asking questions. Giving answers. Being willing to have the hard conversations.Finding others who can support them who understand - like ElimuElimuâs experiences as a Black man in America. Always looking over his shoulder.Elimu on growing up in Milton Massachusetts and why he was treated differently from other black kids in his school Elimu shares a racist encounter when he was 7 - âYou stick with your kind and Iâll stick with mineâ Navigating wanting to people please white people, but be in with the black peopleElimu as a kid and how he had a fear of Black people being raised in a predominantly white neighborhood and seeing how black people were depicted in the media - feeling ashamed of his fear.Understanding where racism comes from. Not excusing is. Have the hard conversations around race as an interracial couple. Recognizing and acknowledging that one partner has more privilage.Judgements, fears and stigmas around interracial dating. Having multiple perspectives on interactions - maybe they arenât as racist or maybe they are. Dawn talks about âUsâ vs âThem" mentality, whether in politics, race, religion or area of the country.Questioning the belief systems that have been handed down to us, and taking the extra step to break the cycle rather than succumb to it, when it comes to racism. Elimu's view on Stereotypes the unspoken rules of race in interracial dating. Unspoken familial expectationsElimu talks about the advantage of dating within one's "race"Discussing relationship parameters . Whatâs the expectation of dating each other. How will they handle the âsmoke.â not avoiding situations but also not rocking the boat. The transitional phase in the relationshipDawnâs reservations before dating ElimuElimuâs dating history of dating woman of color and what changed when he met DawnDawn meeting Elimuâs parents and why Elimuâs father sent Dawn Caviar for her birthdayMusic by Mathias Kunzli www.mathiaskunzli.com
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In todayâs Episode we have a special appearance from someone you already know pretty well, It's a pre-recorded conversation with my former co-host and dear friend, Amy, before she embarked on her next adventure which is around the corner - Baby number 2!
In this oh so intimate discussion, Amy and I delve into our experiences growing up in mixed-race households, exploring the impact our parents' marriage had on us as children as well as our own mixed marriages. We'll also touch on the landmark Loving vs. Virginia case, a pivotal moment in history that legalized interracial marriage in the United States.
Last but not least - We have an EPIC voicemail story from one of our listeners.. So stick around to the end if you wanna crack up with me!!
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Some of you might recall todayâs guests from Season 1âs finale episode about Holiday Tales from around the world.
They are the sweetest couple youâve ever met - Gabriella & Rakesh Zope. Gabriella is a psychologist from Hungary, Rakesh an Ayurveda doctor from India, and they currently live in Budapest.
Together, theyâve worked to integrate their different expertise to guide and support intercultural couples through the intricacies of relationship and the journey into parenthood.
In this Episode we talk about their intercultural relationship as well as their insights on celebrating differences and building a foundation so strong that no challenge can sway you from each other.
Show notes:
Gabriella and Rakesh's 3 fun facts! Chinese spirit animals, cleaning habits and their take on eating dessert before the main meal...Love at first site - How the met Why is took a year for them to get together - The impact of traditional expectations on modern loveThe cultural difference when it comes to the pace of the relationship and the timing of marriageHow theyâre families received them - needing parents approval or not in different cultures. Gabriellaâs fatherâs initial rejection of the marriage / challenges they facedCultural vs personality differences and how to tell the difference. Rakesh shares the role of Ayurvedic personality types in understanding relationship dynamics.Rakesh talks about Subtle cultural expectations. Gabriella shares how she experienced it on her first visit to India. Having conversations around expectations and well as Being willing to be flexible around generational cultural expectations. How can you be yourself and respect other cultures at the same time - Setting boundaries.Reverting back to the roles you play back home. Re-aligning with your home environment that might look differently than the home environment you created with your partner.Bring caught in the middle between the struggles of your partner adjusting and your family adjusting. Being able to listen during these times and noticing when someone is venting or when someone is looking for a solution to the problem.Intension is not always bad, but sometimes words can create turbulence. How to convey the messages to each other without hurting each other. Focusing on keeping the communication open during challenging times and not letting the emotions take over the expressions. Rakesh talks about tools to better control the emotions and choosing what you want to express.Tools that help you build resilience in relationships and endure difficult situations. Building a daily meditation practice to help you be less reactive while experiencing negative emotions. The challenges of balancing individual and collective cultural identities.Rakesh takes us through a 5 minute calming breathing exercise.Gabriella shares their approach and excercises to resolving conflicts in relationships without raising our voices or placing blame.Contact Gabriella and Rakesh on Instagram @ourinterculturallife
For more breathing/mediation exercises you can reach out to Gabriella and Rakesh or they recommend checking out:
https://www.artofliving.org/us-en
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Editing: Hanna-Lee Sakakibara & Monet Alverado
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Step into the world of cross-cultural dating with First-generation Japanese-American Mami Sugita!
In this episode, Mami opens up about her whirlwind journey through relationships that span continents, cultures, and a whole lot of soul-searching.
Mami shares candid insights into the challenges and misunderstandings that shaped each romantic encounter. But beyond the typical relationship hurdles, Mami delves into the nuances of navigating different cultural expressions of affection and love as well as relationship status and commitment.
Growing up, Mami navigated the complexities of her dual heritage, often feeling caught between two worlds and like she wasn't fully accepted in the Japanese world. As she searched (the world!) for that perfect partner that would accept her for who she was, she ultimately realized it was up to her to cultivate self love and self acceptance.
Join us as we travel through Mami's cross cultural dating timeline!
Episode Breakdown:
Introduction to Season 2 of Mixunderstood: introducing the themes and topics to be explored.Fun facts about Mami and Hanna-Leeâs friendship including anecdotes about Mami's supportive role in Hanna-Lee's life and Mami's passion for travel.Mamiâs upbringing as the first born to Japanese immigrants including her responsibilities in bridging language barriers and navigating dual cultural identities.Mami's cross cultural dating journey: Her first boyfriend and what changed after that.The challenges and cultural dynamics in each relationship, such as struggles with communication styles and cultural expectations.Discuss how Mami's cross-cultural dating experiences ultimately led her to prioritize self-acceptance and embrace imperfection.The growth and transformation in Mami's current relationship with her Italian partner, including improvements in communication and alignment of familial values.The concept of "Wabi Sabi" and its significance in Mami's perspective on relationships and imperfection.Music by Mathias Kunzli www.mathiaskunzli.com
Editing: Favio Esquivel & Hanna-Lee Sakakibara
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Welcome to the second season of MixUnderstood, as we continue to explores the interracial and intercultural experiences. In our first season, we shared our personal stories as well as our collective journey in the entertainment industry, all centering around what it means to be 'mixed.'
In this new season, we'll delve deeper into the intricacies of interracial relationships, diverse family dynamics, and so much more.
With Amy embarking on a new personal journey, Iâm thrilled to carry on the torch this season and keep the dialogue open for us to learn, grow, and evolve together. So, hold on tight as we journey into the complexities of what it means to be 'mixed' â the joy, the struggles, the laughs, and the tears. Welcome to MixUnderstood Season Two!! Officially kicking off on Tuesday, April 30th!!!
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I'v gathered some highlights from our upcoming episodes just for you...Hope you enjoy them and I'm looking forward to sharing the rest of Season 2 with you!
Mark your calendars and See you soon!
Hanna-Lee
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