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Too Long, Didnât Listen: I will be traveling for most of July and am pausing new Mayhem episodes until I return, on August 7th
I have openings for your stories and questions upon my return.
You can submit a voice recording or email your story to: [email protected]
If you do record yourself and your story, please record directly into your voice recording app without using headphones. Recording using bluetooth, earbuds, or headphones can make for bad podcast audio.
If Mayhem has helped you in your recovery from childhood narcissistic abuse, consider supporting the show by purchasing â â Simple Scripts for Saying Hard Thingsâ â . This resource provides sample scripts for tough conversations in life, love, and work.
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This week, we delve into the confusing reality of having a narcissistic mother that wasnât all bad. Many daughters grapple with the emotional confusion of having a mother who was both abusive and also the primary caregiver.
Listen in as I work to help Melanie reconcile these mixed feelings, manage the disconnect between love and abuse, and find a path towards healing.
This is the emotional roller coaster that comes with being the daughter of a narcissistic mother.
If Mayhem has helped you in your recovery from childhood narcissistic abuse, consider supporting the show by purchasing â â Simple Scripts for Saying Hard Thingsâ â . This resource provides sample scripts for tough conversations in life, love, and work.Question for the show? Heather@ DaughtersNPD.com
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Zijn er afleveringen die ontbreken?
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Soon after you realize your mom is a narcissist and that what you went through has a name, you can get overwhelmed in a flood of emotions, memories, and questions.
Today, we meet Kimmy as she is working to get out from under the initial pile on of realizing that her mom has been abusing her her whole life.
Listen in as I guide Kimmy on where to start and she begins her healing. I walk her through how she can begin to break free of the toxic patterns she has been trapped in her whole life. Follow along with the action steps I offer and join her on her recovery journey.
If Mayhem has helped you in your recovery from childhood narcissistic abuse, consider supporting the show by purchasing â Simple Scripts for Saying Hard Thingsâ . This resource provides sample scripts for tough conversations in life, love, and work.Question for the show? Heather@ DaughtersNPD.com
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In this episode of Mother Mayhem, we dive deep into the work of trauma recovery. Understanding that trauma work takes time is crucial for daughters of narcissistic and emotionally limited mothers.
Trauma is not just an intellectual experience but one that affects your body, memory, and how you perceive the world.
Learn why you can't control what happened to you, but you can control your response to it. Discover how to connect your head and heart, recognize the lifelong impact of trauma, and identify your needs.
Weâre working together to turn pain into progress.If Mayhem has helped you in your recovery from childhood narcissistic abuse, consider supporting the show by purchasing Simple Scripts for Saying Hard Things. This resource provides sample scripts for tough conversations in life, love, and work.
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In this important episode of Mayhem, we dive into the painful story of a daughter, Rae, manipulated by her narcissistic mother through a web of lies and deceit.
Discover how she was misled about her faith and God, and the impact it had on her childhood.
Rae shares her courageous journey to uncover the truth, break free from the manipulation, and heal from the trauma.
Join us for this discussion on overcoming the scars of a narcissistic upbringing, learning to take space, fighting your inner critic, and claiming your truth.
Question for the show? [email protected]
If Mayhem has helped you in your recovery from childhood narcissistic abuse, consider supporting the show by purchasing Simple Scripts for Saying Hard Things. This resource provides sample scripts for tough conversations in life, love, and work.
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On this, episode 50, we celebrate Libby who has been battling so much in recent years both in life, and with her narcissistic mother and enabling father. She has been through it, my friends, and now, she is finding herself on the other side, even as she tells us she still has a little bit of work still to do.
Today, we honor Libby, all that she has been through, everything she has fought through, and how she has gotten herself to the other side.Question for the show? [email protected] you love what you've been hearing here on Mayhem and have found the show helpful in your trauma recovery, consider becoming a Mother Mayhem sponsor by purchasing Simple Scripts for Saying Hard Things. This resource provides the right words for hard conversations, covering life, love, and work.
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In this episode, we delve into the complex maze faced by daughters of narcissistic mothers when it comes to making decisions about caregiving for their aging parents.
Offering guidance on navigating boundaries, deciding whatâs best for yourselves, and managing the emotional minefield all of this creates.
Question for the show: [email protected]
Find me over on Instagram where we talk about all of things Mayhem Monday through Friday: @DaughtersNPD
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Introducing: Simple Scripts for Saying Hard Things.
(Link below for those that don't have a live link)
Simple Scripts gives you instant access to the words you need to say hard things in life, love, or work.
If an ebook isnât really your thing but you want to support Mayhem and the work we have been doing, please know that I would consider any purchase of this book to be a sign of sponsorship for the show.
Simple Scripts for Saying Hard Things
Link for those who can't open the ones above: https://heathergrayconsulting.mvsite.app/products/courses/view/1064315
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In all likelihood, you will feel it in your bodies when you are ready to go low contact but it can be hard to navigate what your boundary will be and how to communicate it.
Listen in for ways of organizing this decision for yourselves.
Do you think itâs time to go low contact but are struggling with how?
Write in with your question or situation: [email protected]
Iâll share advice and direction over on Instagram.
You can follow me there: @DaughtersNPD
If we get a significant number of questions, I will offer a bonus episode of the show.
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Today, âCoralâ shares her story in her own words and in her own voice.
Daughters of narcissistic mothers know all too well what it is like to always second guess yourself, to not want your motherâs opinion but to also feel like you need it. It is not at all uncommon for those whoâve experienced relational trauma as kids to suffer from chronic anxiety as an adult.
Coral shares her story, shares so much of her healing, and also shares the struggles she has today. Listen in and hear my thoughts, directions, and insights. -
In this episode of 'Mother Mayhem,' we tackle the unique challenges faced by daughters of narcissistic mothers on and around Motherâs Day.
Learn strategies for coping, finding resilience, and fostering healing during this often triggering time.
We discuss the emotional complexities and triggers that daughters of narcissistic mothers often experience during Mother's Day.
Learn coping strategies and gain practical tips to help you all navigate the day with greater ease and self-care.
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Last November, I experienced a devastating friend breakupâa story I wasn't sure I'd ever share here. After finding solace in my favorite podcast, It's Going to Be OK, I opened up to their team.
I thought the story would stay there until I shared it with a Mayhem listener and she encouraged me to let the rest of you in on it.
Then, two other listeners stumbled upon it by happenstance since Iâve recommended the podcast to all of you, a few times. They recognized me in the story and shared how meaningful they found it.
They, too, thought it belonged here.
I knew though, that I couldn't share that episode if I didn't also share my own Mayhem story with you and that's what I am doing here with all of you today.
So here I am, sharing my Mayhem story and also:
'Already Enough and⊠A Bit Much.', It's Going to Be OK Podcast on Apple
'Already Enough and A Bit Much on Spotify
This episode features a poem titled 'A Bit Much' by Lyndsay Rushâa piece that grabbed my heart, helped me feel seen, and ultimately helped me accept myself a little bit more.
This is Me. All In.
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Today we tackle the intricate challenge of forming and maintaining friendships as an adult survivor of childhood trauma. Navigating the complexities of trust, communication, and boundaries, we explore the unique challenges faced by individuals who have experienced childhood adversity. Learn strategies for fostering healthy friendships, gaining self-awareness, and creating a supportive community on the path to healing. Tune in to gain valuable insights on cultivating meaningful connections after surviving childhood trauma.Mentioned in this Episode:
Episode 34: Choosing Wisely: A Heartwise Blueprint for Finding Healthy Love After Neglect
Episode 4: Navigating Relationships After Narcissistic Abuse
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Ready or not, Narcissistic Mother's Day is Coming.
I know this is going to be a hard day for many of you but if possible, I would like to make it less hard and help it suck a little bit less.
I am not accepting your questions which I will answer in the coming weeks over on Instagram.
You can follow me there over at DaughtersNPD.
There, you can DM me your questions and I will answer them in an upcoming reel, post, or livestream.
If you prefer, you can email me your question. My email address is: [email protected]
If you're going to email, do put Mother's Day in the subject so I know it's for this. My inbox can get quite full, as you might imagine.
Again: Find me on Instagram
Email me: [email protected]
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Narcissists are always going attack. That's what they do. They wouldn't be narcissists if they didn't.You can easily feel like you are being held hostage by their narrative and that there is no "right" answer or "right" response to their nonsense.You'll want responses at the ready and you'll want to neutralize the weapon.Listen in to learn ways of doing both.
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We know "hurt people hurt people" What do you do when you're the person doing the hurting?In this episode of 'Mother Mayhem,' we're looking to break the cycle of hurt after childhood trauma. "Emily" bravely shares her journey of recognizing her own problematic behavior stemming from past trauma, highlighting the importance of self-awareness and accountability in the healing process. So, we're talking about it. Listen in as I offer practical strategies for transforming pain into growth and fostering healthier relationships post-narcissistic abuse.Episodes to Revisit:Episode 40, 32, 26, and 3
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Good news for daughters in Massachusetts who are navigating your recovery journey from narcissistic abuse. With openings in my schedule, Iâm now offering specialized clinical consultations designed to provide targeted support for trauma recovery.
Here is the link to purchase and schedule.
-My approach focuses on helping daughters who feel stuck or uncertain about their next steps in recovery.
-The sessions are designed to address various challenges such as setting boundaries, navigating relationships, or overcoming parenting struggles due to childhood trauma.
-Unlike traditional therapy, Iâm offering a block of four sessions that can be used flexibly over a two-month period, allowing for deep dives into specific concerns or goals.
*Before signing up, you should know: My office hours are scheduled for Mondays, Tuesdays, and Thursdays from 1:30 PM to 8:00 PM Eastern Standard Time (EST). It is crucial that you confirm your availability during these specified times.
Link to schedule.
Questions? Email me at: [email protected]
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Today we're talking about managing anxiety, fear, and dysregulation after narcissistic abuse. Learn to navigate these challenges and find healing as you work for your emotional well-being. Understand your anxiety and learn what you can do about it as you heal from narcissistic trauma. Discover how to cultivate resilience, regain inner balance, and thrive in the aftermath of emotional abuseMentioned in this episode:
Grounding Techniques
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Today, you get to meet "Christie", in her own voice AND in her own words!She shares her story of recovery from a narcissistic mother and enabling father and invites me to talk to her about self worth and learning how to take up space.She also generously shares an accompanying art exhibit she offers as a reflection for her healing. You can find that in the attached Google doc.
"Christie's" Art Exhibit: This Version of Love
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Once you cut off contact with your mom, it can be hard to know who you are. What do you think, feel, and believe? What are your values?
You're so used to filtering them through your mother's perspective that it can be hard to know yourself.
How do you reintroduce yourself to yourself?
Start Here:
Mentioned in this show: Relationship to Self Journal Prompts
Addition questions for reflection included in today's show:
As you go through your day and you consider your interactions you had, check in with yourself:
How did you feel? Were you regulated in your body? Did you feel seen and respected? Did you feel safe? Walk yourself through the same thing as you consider your decision making process for the day.It might be worth your time to create a daily check in journal for yourself where you quickly ask yourself these questions and jot your answers down:
Did you feel good about your decisions? Did you feel good about your interactions? What did you need more of? Less of? Where did it get hard? When it got hard, what might you have needed or what might have made you feel more comfortable? Were there any boundaries you might have needed to set? When you look at the quality of your relationships, are you satisfied? Are there other toxic connections that might perhaps need to be toned down or removed in order to feel safer? When you are exposed to new ideas or approaches to things, get curious with yourself. How do I feel about that? Does that feel true for me? What would feel more true? - Laat meer zien
