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In this episode, I answer a listenerâs question: Why am I scared of love? I dive into the reasons so many of us experience a fear of love, including the fear of vulnerability, childhood trauma, low self-worth, and even the anxiety that love or a relationship might be âtoo good to be true.â This episode is for anyone whoâs afraid of love but is ready to embrace it rather than pull away. If youâve struggled with opening your heart, this episode offers insights to help you move through those fears. You deserve the love you desire, and itâs time to lean in.
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Introduction: 0:05Listener Question: 1:58Outro: 25:50For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/120
For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/
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In this episode, I explore how to overcome the fear of rejection. I answer a listener's question about struggling with the fear of rejection in love, specifically feeling frozen when it comes to asking someone out on a date. I also dive into how and why the fear of rejection can leave us feeling paralyzed, triggering the freeze response. Throughout the episode, we discuss why the fear of rejection is so overwhelming, how it's a very human (and unavoidable) experience, how to recognize fear cycles, and strategies to move past them.
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Introduction: 0:05Listener Question: 2:14Outro: 26:10For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/119
For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/
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For this episode, I am joined by special guest, Kate Chisholm, founder of Survivors RISE, for a candid discussion about the realities of healing and surviving rape. We discuss our personal journeys of healing from rape and sexual violence, and Kate shares her story surviving rape, as well as her experience going through the criminal justice system and the impact of institutional betrayal. The episode also highlights the importance of community support, empathy, and various healing modalities we have used. We candidly laugh, cry, and talk about our lives as survivors. Our intention with this episode is to help other survivors feel less alone and more supported on their healing journeys, because we both personally have felt the feelings of isolation, and we donât believe that should be the case. We hope you enjoy!
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Introduction: 00:15Conversation with Kate: 1:34Outro: 1:19:00For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/118
For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/
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In this episode, I chat with mental health counselor Katie Landrum, to discuss our personal experiences with âgoodâ and âbadâ therapy. We discuss what makes therapy beneficial, and also what we have found harmful throughout our own experiences. We emphasize the importance of finding a therapist who is the right fit, offers a safe space, and is non-judgemental. Katie provides us with a list of questions you can use when interviewing a therapist. We also discuss how to prepare for your first session if you have never been ro therapy and what we believe the most important thing to remember is when beginning your therapy journey.
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Introduction: 00:15Conversation with Katie: 2:25Outro: 40:14For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/117
For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/
Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-question
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In this episode, I share about my own mental health struggles in 2024 and why I believe prioritizing mental health is so important. I discuss how I believe society impacts our mental health, and how I felt impacted by the 2024 election (specifically as a rape survivor), living through a pandemic, and social media. I also discuss how the healing journey impacts mental health and how for me healing from rape and family dynamics has continued to impact my mental health. I also discuss a few suggestions that have helped me to improve my mental health on a daily basis.
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Introduction: 00:15Mental Health Convo: 2:26Suggestions for Improving Mental Health: 16:16Outro: 29:57For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/116
For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/
Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-question
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In the final episode of Season 1 of Reflections, I dive into the question I am most commonly asked - after everything I have survived, how do I still have faith?
This story is about how leaning into faith helped me to survive my darkest days. I share the intimate story of grappling with suicidal thoughts and how an astonishing midnight miracle helped reignite my hope after the death of my close friend and sexual assault.
And for anyone who relates to thoughts of suicide, I promise you it does get better. Your life matters.
Thank you so much for joining me on this journey of Reflections.
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0:00 Introduction1:00 Story - That Time I Found Faith as a Trauma Survivor9:40 Final ThoughtsYou can also read this story on my website: https://www.newviewadvice.com/reflections
For FREE Resources for the healing journey, check out: https://www.newviewadvice.com/
Like Poems? Check out my poems about the healing journey: https://www.newviewadvice.com/poems
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This week's reflection is about how I made everyone uncomfortable surviving sexual assault. The more I tried to talk about sexual violence, sexual assault, and rape, the more I felt shamed. As I reflect on my healing journey, I see clearly now how painful it was for people to be so uncomfortable with me and my story, and how I don't think that needs to be the case.
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0:00 Introduction1:15 Story - That Time I Made People Uncomfortable9:41 Final ThoughtsYou can also read this story on my website: https://www.newviewadvice.com/reflections
For FREE Resources for the healing journey, check out: https://www.newviewadvice.com/
Like Poems? Check out my poems about the healing journey: https://www.newviewadvice.com/poems
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Where is the holiday season magic? In this episode, I answer a listener question from someone feeling sad, depressed, and lonely this holiday season. I explore ways to process and accept these emotions, reconnect with your inner child to rediscover holiday magic, and practice self-love. We also discuss the importance of taking care of yourself this holiday season.
Happy Holidays from me, Amanda Durocher! Thank you all for your continued support!
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Introduction: 00:15Listener Question: 2:12Outro: 21:38For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/115
For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/
Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-question
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In this episode, I reflect on the bystander effect. What responsibility did the bystanders have to step in, speak up, or intervene when I was being raped? Throughout my healing journey, I have asked myself how can I trust people to do what's right after living through this experience.
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0:00 Introduction1:13 Story - That Time I Survived the Bystander Effect8:38 Final ThoughtsYou can also read this story on my website: https://www.newviewadvice.com/reflections
For FREE Resources for the healing journey, check out: https://www.newviewadvice.com/
Like Poems? Check out my poems about the healing journey: https://www.newviewadvice.com/poems
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Welcome to Reflections! This week I share a story about healing from betrayal by women after sexual assault. I speak of two women I felt betrayed by - one was the teenage girl who was with me the night I was raped, and the other was a spiritual leader who betrayed me when I went to her for help and healing. This story goes into the complexities and feelings of betrayal in the aftermath of sexual trauma.
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0:00 Introduction1:15 Story - That Time I Was Betrayed By Women After Being Raped10:21 Final ThoughtsYou can also read this story on my website: https://www.newviewadvice.com/reflections
For FREE Resources for the healing journey, check out: https://www.newviewadvice.com/
Like Poems? Check out my poems about the healing journey: https://www.newviewadvice.com/poems
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In this episode I talk about how to become comfortable with physical touch after sexual assault. Many survivors of sexual trauma struggle with sex and being touched after sexual violence. In this episode I discuss the importance of being kind to yourself, how to practice awareness and listening to your body, and reconnecting to your body . My intention is to help you connect back with yourself while also assuring you that it's okay no matter where you are at on your journey. You are healing.
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Introduction: 0:15Listener Question: 2:37Outro: 28:27For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/114
For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/
Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-question
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In this episode, I answer a listener question about processing repressed memories of childhood sexual trauma and how we can learn to trust ourselves. Throughout this episode, I discuss my own experiences with repressed memories of sexual trauma. I discuss how self-doubt is common when processing repressed memories of trauma, how to listen to your body, the importance of acceptance, and how to practice gentleness with yourself throughout this process. My intention is to offer you some solace if you too find yourself navigating the stormy waters of repressed memories and to help you to trust yourself and your own process for navigating this trauma response.
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Introduction: 0:15Listener Question: 2:47Outro: 30:44For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/113
For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/
Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-question
Thanks so much for listening! Sending you so much love
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In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who is wondering why they still seek validation from their parents even though they already know their parents are unsupportive and are often left feeling unhappy. I discuss how so often our need for parental validation and approval is tied to deep rooted human fears, including the fear of rejection, the fear of abandonment, the fear of criticism, and the fear of being unlovable. My intention is to help you to feel less alone, validated in your experience, and offer you ways to begin healing from these fears and how we can begin to validate and love ourselves, one step at a time.
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Introduction: 0:15Listener Question: 1:45Outro: 35:28For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/112
For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/
Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-question
Thanks so much for listening! Sending you so much love!
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In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who was sexually assaulted by their biological father and is looking for guidance on how to navigate this situation and get support from their family. Navigating relationships with family and friends after sexual assault often feels scary, uncomfortable, overwhelming, and uncertain. It becomes even more complicated when the perpetrator of the abuse is intertwined within the family. We discuss how to navigate hard conversations with family after sexual trauma, the importance of creating safety, and why sometimes we need to set boundaries.
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Introduction: 0:15Listener Question: 3:09Outro: 31:50For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/111
For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/
Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-question
Thanks so much for listening! Sending you so much love!
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In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who is debating leaving her husband who has narcissistic traits and has been manipulative and controlling in the past. When she told him that she was leaving the relationship, he begged for a second chance and did start to change his behavior. Now, the listener is having trouble deciding if she should stay or leave the relationship. In this episode, we learn about trusting our intuition and listening to our bodies when we are making challenging and important life decisions. We also discuss why itâs important to take the pressure off these large decisions, the importance of empathy in relationships, and practicing self-forgiveness.
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Introduction: 0:15Listener Question: 1:43Outro: 24:20For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/110
For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/
Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-question
Thanks so much for listening! Sending you so much love!
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Welcome to Reflections, a New View Advice minisode series! Each week I read short stories from my own healing journey. This week I share a story about a time I got really really angry after finding out that one of the guys that raped me got engaged. I share this story as an inside look at what it can look like to heal from trauma and to hopefully help someone out there who may have intense feelings and not be sure if they are normal. I know that I judged myself for this moment in time for a long time, but now see it happened because I had a lot of anger I had been ignoring for a long time, and that it is perfectly normal to have a lot of hard feelings.
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0:00 Introduction2:31 Story - That Time the Guy Who Raped Me Got Engaged & I Lost My Sh*t6:45 Final ThoughtsCheck out my website: www.newviewadvice.com
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In this episode, I dive into the complexities of creativity for trauma survivors. In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who is a religious cult trauma survivor and wants to be a film writer / director, but is struggling with putting too much pressure on themselves to tell their story the ârightâ way.I share personal insights and advice on embracing the messy, emotional journey of creativity. I talk about the importance of releasing pressure and perfectionism, embracing the anger, processing difficult feelings such as shame and guilt, and leveraging creativity as a healing tool.
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Introduction: 0:15Listener Question: 2:06Outro: 28:58For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/109
For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/
Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-question
Thanks so much for listening! Sending you so much love!
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In this episode, I discuss how we can support ourselves after sexual assault, rape, and sexual trauma. I share advice on how survivors can begin to feel safe in their bodies again, take their power back, and navigate the journey towards a new normal. Drawing from my own personal experiences and a listener question, I provide heartfelt guidance aimed at helping survivors feel less alone and more empowered on their healing journey.
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Introduction: 0:15Poem: 2:00Listener Question: 3:27Outro: 26:30For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/108
For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/
Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-question
Thanks so much for listening! Sending you so much love!
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In this episode, I dive into regret and how to forgive ourselves when past decisions. I answer a listener question who regrets telling the truth and questions whether it was the right thing to do. I offer guidance on how to process our feelings of regret and how to let go of past burdens.
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Introduction: 0:15Listener Question: 2:04Outro: 26:36For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/107
For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/
Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-question
Thanks so much for listening! Sending you so much love!
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Why do so many of us feel alone? Why do we feel alone even when we are with other people? Where does this feeling of loneliness come from? In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who is wondering why they always feel lonely. I discuss the feeling of loneliness, how it is present for so many of us, and how we can begin to heal, feel, and process feeling lonely. My intention for this episode is to offer you a new view on feeling lonely as well as help you to feel less alone, no matter where you are on your healing journey. I also give a life update, and discuss my own healing journey.
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Introduction: 0:15Life Update: 4:07Listener Question: 16:54Outro: 41:27For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/106
For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/
Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-question
Thanks so much for listening! Sending you so much love!
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