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This week I share a story from a client who has been making great progress with Thought Work and learning how to turn down the volume on worrying. Just as she thought she was making headway, she started the same pattern of worrying and fretting about a new thing. Sound familiar? This is exactly how the brain works. And understanding this is the difference between creating the lasting change you desire and quitting on yourself.
Show Highlightsthe importance of understanding the lower mind
shifting attention and redirecting focus positively
how awareness empowers decision-making and positivity
why we should align with the higher mind
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Tune in this week as we revisit episode 43 of the show, “Claiming Your Own Authority.” Sharing insights from my recent Feel Better master class, I rewind to episode 43 to delve into the profound importance of tuning into our inner world amidst societal pressures. Exploring the concept of "claiming your authority," I invite listeners to envision themselves as the authors of their own lives, emphasizing the power of aligning decisions with personal values and desires. From navigating career choices to managing daily schedules, I highlight the liberating shift that occurs when we prioritize self-awareness and intentional decision-making.
Whether it’s your first time hearing the episode or if you are also revisiting, join me as we unravel the myth of perfection, embrace the beauty of imperfection, and embark on a journey towards a simpler, more empowered life.
Show Highlightswhy claiming your own power is so fundamental as an adult
why you should identify your personal values and what you want
how to be the author of your own life
humans have memory banks so that we can learn from them
reminder that we are meant to make mistakes
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Join me for a truly inspirational episode this week as I sit down with Becky Garner, a life coach with a remarkable journey from addiction to empowerment. Becky shares her intimate story of overcoming addiction, revealing the deep struggles and pivotal moments along her path to recovery. From battling depression and opioid addiction to finding hope through coaching, her resilience shines through.
Becky and I delve into the transformative power of coaching, exploring how it offered Becky the tools to navigate cravings, manage pain, and cultivate self-acceptance. Becky imparts wisdom on breaking free from self-judgment, finding purpose in struggle, and fostering growth in oneself and others.
Tune in as we uncover the profound lessons and insights from Becky's journey of healing and empowerment. If you're ready to embrace change and discover the tools to navigate life's challenges with resilience and compassion, this episode is definitely for you, and be sure to visit Becky's website for additional resources on overcoming self-judgment and embracing personal growth.
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the power of coaching: how Becky's journey emphasizes coaching's transformative impact on addiction recovery
resilience in struggle: Despite challenges, Becky's resilience shines through in her journey.
holistic transformation: how coaching highlights holistic approaches, aiding mind management and emotion regulation
overcoming self-judgment: why ditching self-judgment is pivotal for progress in addiction recovery and personal growth
having faith in the journey: trusting the struggle as part of the journey and how that fosters growth and resilience
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I delve this week into a crucial topic that often sparks confusion: the distinction between emotions and nervous system reactions, and why it's essential to discern between the two. I guide my clients through understanding how their thoughts create emotions and how these reactions are intertwined with their nervous system's responses, but here's the thing: you can't effectively address your thoughts if your nervous system is in overdrive, so listen as I explore techniques to calm the nervous system, from somatic practices to cognitive approaches, empowering you to take charge of your emotional state and harness the power of your higher mind. By embracing discomfort and cultivating a supportive relationship with yourself, you'll unlock the pathway to growth and step into your true potential. Tune in to discover how to navigate your internal landscape and transform fear into courage on your journey to personal empowerment.
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emotion vs. nervous system reaction: understanding the distinction and why it matters
safety first: Only tackle thought work when feeling calm and curious.
somatic practices: how to use body-focused techniques to calm the nervous system
empowerment: Take control of your responses and create safety in your mind.
courage over comfort: why it's important to embrace discomfort for growth
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Do you ever feel like your day is hijacked before you even open your eyes? This week on the podcast, I am diving into the power of mornings, inspired by those oh-so-popular morning routines. Don't worry, though – I am not here to add 21 steps to your already busy day - just one simple, game-changing step to kickstart your morning and set the tone for your entire day.
Join me as we explore the ancient wisdom of the Stoics, Marcus Aurelius, and the art of directing your attention. It's all about that first splash of consciousness, so please tune in to discover how to reclaim control, set intentions, and master your mind.
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morning routines: the obsession with productivity and wellness
the power of attention: how to direct focus for a better day
one-step system: Begin by not thinking; focus on breath.
setting intentions: how directing your thoughts shapes your day’s outcome
taking control: You get to decide where to place your attention.
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Join me this week as I dive deep into the complexities of parenting and emotional pain. As a coach for smart midlife women, I explore the universal experience of suffering for our kids and offer insights into separating clean pain from unnecessary suffering.
From unraveling guilt to increasing emotional tolerance, I present eight transformative ideas to navigate the intricate journey of being a parent. Delve into paradoxes of emotional pain, the power of forgiveness, and the importance of self-compassion. Discover how embracing your truth and releasing self-blame can lead to profound growth and ultimately, finding relief in your own life.
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reminder that parenting comes with clean and dirty pain
how to transform emotional pain by understanding its source
understanding the power of forgiving yourself and others
the importance of recognizing and challenging false beliefs causing suffering
embracing the paradoxes of life to find deeper happiness
why your greatest contribution lies in feeling better about your life
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Join me on a reflective journey this week as I explore the four transformative gifts I gave myself that shaped my entrepreneurial journey and personal life. From investing in self-directed learning to embracing authenticity and love, I'll share insights and practical tips for crafting a fulfilling path tailored to your desires.
Discover the power of asking the right questions, trusting yourself, and prioritizing what truly matters. Let's embark on a quest to unlock our potential and design lives infused with purpose, joy, and abundance.
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Investing in Self: Prioritize learning what interests you, guiding your own education.
Self-Questioning: Transition from seeking external advice to trusting your own answers.
Individual Approach: Embrace your unique path, avoiding comparison and societal norms.
Choosing Love: Decide to amplify love in your life, focusing attention and appreciation.
Thoughtful Gifts: Give yourself what you truly desire, respecting your own wishes for enduring happiness.
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We are diving this week into the whirlwind of life, from the excitement of my daughter's college acceptance journey to the intriguing tales my husband uncovers while writing his latest book about... wait for it... the tuba.
Amidst it all, I find profound joy in my coaching practice, guiding others through life's twists and turns, so join me as we explore the power of envisioning our futures, challenging the status quo of our thoughts, and embracing the transformative potential within us. Plus, don't miss out on the upcoming “How to Feel Better” master class.
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why the key to success and growth is to spend more time thinking about your future and less time about your past
your thoughts shape your reality, so it's important to focus on what you want to create
how the lower mind hinders growth and change by dwelling on past problems and fears
the power of the higher mind in creating success
the importance of embracing your imagination
allowing yourself to feel the emotions of achieving your goals = manifestation
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“How to Feel Better” Class
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Discover how perceptions shape reality and how questioning beliefs can transform our emotional landscape.
Listen as I discuss the importance of not solely relying on external validation and instead focusing on examining your own beliefs for personal growth, understanding that everyone's opinions are just perspectives, not absolute truths. It's time to prioritize self-reflection and learning, recognizing our minds as our most valuable asset, and I invite fellow midlife women to join me in this journey through my upcoming master class available on my website.
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external feedback doesn't define you; it only reflects others' perspectives
how emotions signal internal beliefs and how exploring them leads to growth
the importance of challenging beliefs
how smart midlife women can transform by prioritizing self-reflection and learning
reminder to sign up for my six-week master class, "How to Feel Better”
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Join me today as I tackle a crucial life skill: disappointing people. As adults, we grapple with this, especially women conditioned to be nice and compliant. I get it; it's hard, but here's the key - disappointing others or ourselves is an inevitable choice.
Listen in as I discuss how to navigate this discomfort, drawing from my own struggles. Trust me; it's worth the temporary unease for the long-term benefit of living authentically. Dive into this episode for actionable tips on embracing authenticity, and remember, the better you feel, the better life you'll have.
I also want to be sure to make you aware of some exciting news. I am launching a game-changing class, "How to Feel Better," tailored for smart midlife women. It's a six-week journey where I share transformative concepts to elevate your emotional well-being, so be sure to go check that out.
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announcing a six-week master class, "How to Feel Better”
the importance of applying information (80%) over just acquiring it (20%) for real transformation
the class is an investment in emotional well-being, leading to sustainable change
the essential adult skill of disappointing others, challenging conditioned habits and fears
how living authentically involves overcoming discomfort and saying no when needed
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Join me this week as we dive deep into the concept of being “present.” We often hear about the importance of presence, especially in our most cherished moments, but what does it truly mean to be present, and why is it so powerful?
I break down the dynamics of our brains, the right hemisphere capturing the essence of now, while the left brain constantly compares to the past and projects into the future. Our ability to be present is our true superpower, aligning us with the vitality of life itself. Listen as we explore how to starve the egoic mind, unleash our creative agency, and make presence the primary force in our lives.
Be sure to also stay tuned to the end for information about a special guide on gaining clarity about what you truly want. Let's flip the paradigm and steer our thoughts towards the life we desire.
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the power of being present and how it helps foster awareness
the role of the Ego and understanding its function
how to flip the paradigm and shift from thinking about the past and worrying about the future
how to help foster an ability to direct your thoughts purposefully and gain creative agency
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I recently stumbled upon Fred Rogers' 1969 testimony before Congress, a poignant moment during a tumultuous time in history. Reflecting on the backdrop of political assassinations and war, I found his words resonating even more deeply. Watching his documentary Won't You Be My Neighbor? became a powerful reset, reminding me of the timeless relevance of his teachings. Amidst societal challenges, Rogers emphasized the importance of embracing ourselves, a message transcending age. He believed in respecting childhood, opposing sensory overload, and empowering children to make choices for themselves.
As we grapple with current complexities, his wisdom holds true - turning off what's loud and scary, acknowledging progress, and understanding the imperfections of childhood. As adults, we, too, often have to parent ourselves, appreciating the journey and offering self-acceptance. Ultimately, Fred Rogers encourages us to focus on the invisible essentials of life, turning our attention inward in a world clamoring for external distractions.
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Excerpt from Fred Rogers' 1969 Congress testimony defending children amidst national grief Rogers' teachings, initially for children, hold universal relevance in adulthood. emphasis on turning off overwhelming content, empowering children and adults to make choices Childhood isn't meant to be perfect; challenges shape us into resilient adults. encouraging a shift in focus from external distractions to our inner livesResources
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In this week's episode, I share a surprising revelation from a conversation with my 88-year-old mother during the Christmas break. Despite a life filled with accomplishments, she confessed to not having a to-do list or a structured way of planning her time, which led me to reflect on the societal pressure to equate self-worth with productivity, a mindset ingrained in our culture.
As we age, transitioning from a season of constant busyness to a quieter phase becomes challenging, so listen as I explore the toxic relationship between our self-value and the demands of time, emphasizing the importance of shifting focus from getting more done to caring for oneself. Drawing from personal experience, I discuss my approach to time management, emphasizing intentional living, self-awareness, and the importance of a calm mind.
Tune in to discover practical insights on planning your life with intention and breaking free from the toxic productivity narrative. Be sure to stay until the end, too, when I introduce a guide to help you clarify your desires and values, essential for navigating the seasons of life.
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the shift from valuing productivity to embracing reflective stages of life
how self-criticism based on productivity harms well-being
self-care emphasis: why you should plan life around personal joy and values, not external pressures
how to rebuild self-trust by breaking free from constant criticism and comparison
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I want to tell you this week about an eye-opening conversation that I had with my 17-year-old daughter. In a world bombarded with messages to always be positive and live our best lives, I asked her a crucial question: Does she feel the pressure to be happy all the time? Her response not only affirmed the principles I've been teaching but also shed light on the profound impact this mindset can have on our emotional well-being.
Tune in as I explore the concept of life being 50/50, a blend of both good and bad experiences. It's not about denying negativity but embracing it as an integral part of our journey. Discover how this perspective transforms your relationship with life, leading to greater ease, resilience, and a deeper understanding of what it truly means to live authentically. Join me as we navigate the highs and lows together and learn how the 50/50 mindset can be a guide, saving you from unnecessary suffering and opening the door to a more authentic, fulfilled life.
Show Highlightsthe importance of embracing the concept of life being 50/50: a balance of good and bad experiences
why you should shift expectations and change your relationship with your life
dropping the perfect life fantasy
how embracing life's challenges can make you more resilient
the importance of feeling all emotions, positive and negative
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I am breaking from my usual broad discussions to share a more personal journey with you. I'll be delving into the profound impact that the integration of Thought Work and spirituality has had on my life. Exploring the transformative power of aligning our thoughts with deeper dimensions, I draw inspiration from the incredible story of Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor, a neuroanatomist who experienced a life-altering stroke and whose journey led her to a profound understanding of the connection between mind, body, and spirit.
As we navigate the interplay between our left and right hemispheres, I'll guide you through the process of quieting the chattering mind and accessing a higher, divine dimension within ourselves. Join me on this reflective exploration as we learn to trust, surrender, and become co-creators in our own lives. It's a journey that goes beyond spirituality; it's about authenticity, self-love, and being a blessing to the planet.
Show Highlightsthe interconnected essence of human experience: mind, body, spirit
how Thought Work evolves into a profound exploration of spirituality
Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor's insight: stroke survivor's transformative spiritual awakening
embracing stillness for spiritual connection by silencing the left side of the brain
empowering life through alignment with the divine mind
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Join me for this week's episode as I delve into the profound concept of challenging our ingrained beliefs about ourselves and our past. Sharing a personal reflection sparked by an old photo, I explore the transformative power of questioning the narratives we hold dear. From unraveling the aftermath of a breakup to dissecting the impact of childhood experiences, we are navigating the terrain of limiting beliefs. We challenge the very fabric of our perceptions, inviting you to consider, what if the limitations we staunchly defend aren't as real as we think? It's a thought-provoking exploration that might just lead you to the other side of fear, unlocking the person you were meant to be. Tune in, and let's embrace the adventure of reshaping our modern emotional lives together.
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how unraveling limiting beliefs transforms our reality and paves the way for personal growth
questioning deeply ingrained thoughts can lead to rapid, positive shifts in perspective
emphasis on the logical resistance that our minds exhibit when confronted with changing beliefs
the importance of challenging self-imposed limitations – discomfort is a sign of potential growth
how Thought Work involves trying on new perspectives to find empowering, authentic beliefs
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I am so thrilled to dive into this week's episode with you, in which I delve into the profound connections between our minds, bodies, and spirits. We're embarking on a journey into self-development through the lens of Thought Work, understanding the mechanics of our brains, and tapping into the spirit's desire for a fuller, more abundant life.
Join me as we navigate the complexities of embracing a wide range of emotions, even the uncomfortable ones, and learn how the intersection of mind, body, and spirit shapes our experiences. Plus, we'll unravel the essence of abundance, not just in terms of material wealth but as a mindset, a realization that transcends the mechanics of life. Together, we'll explore the power of deliberate thinking, the alignment of our human selves with our spiritual beings, and the transformative practice of receiving with an open heart.
Get ready to embark on a journey of inner work and discover the richness that lies in embracing the full spectrum of our emotions. Tune in, and let's explore the spirit of abundance together.
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mind-body-spirit connection: exploring the profound intersection shaping our experiences
why it's important to think about abundance beyond the context of material possessions
the importance of being open to emotions, even uncomfortable ones
thinking deliberately and using intentional thoughts that align with the spirit, fostering abundance
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Welcome to the first episode of 2024, everyone. As we embark on this new year, I want to dive into the power of resolutions and why they're crucial, despite their bad rap. If there's an aspect of your life that you want to change, remember this: you can change it!
Listen in as I share my top five pieces of advice for those striving for change. From understanding the importance of setting goals to embracing failure as a goldmine for self-discovery, we explore the mindset shifts needed for real transformation. I also emphasize the significance of living in the solution rather than dwelling on the problem, urging you to alter your thoughts and feelings to align with the life you envision.
If you're ready to build the bridge to a life you were meant to live, join me in this pep talk for a motivated and optimistic start to the new year. I believe in your ability to make meaningful changes, whether in relationships, behaviors, or emotional states. Here's to a transformative 2024, challenging us to become better, bigger versions of ourselves.
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embracing change: how to break free from stagnation and change your thoughts to change your life
anticipating failure: why failure should be embraced for growth
the importance of ditching perfectionism
live in the solution: why we should shift our focus from the problem to a solution
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In this week’s discussion, I explore the power of conscious thinking in the face of a world filled with rising tensions and fear. As we navigate the five elements of life - circumstances, thoughts, feelings, actions, and results - I make a compelling case for maintaining our sense of well-being as a profound contribution to the world.
Unraveling the interconnectedness of thoughts, feelings, and actions, I guide you through the transformative process of choosing your beliefs consciously. Drawing from personal beliefs that have shaped my own journey, I share insights on embracing life's messiness, finding calm amidst chaos, and the importance of investing in our mental well-being.
Join me in discovering the extraordinary potential within each of us to shape our own reality, radiate positive energy, and make a meaningful impact on the world, one deliberate thought at a time.
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why we should choose thoughts deliberately for well-being and positive impact
the five life elements that shape our reality: circumstances, thoughts, feelings, actions, and results
why our personal beliefs matter
focus on positive energy: shift from unconscious to conscious thinking for a lighter, more optimistic life.
reminder that you have an impact - your deliberate thoughts and beliefs contribute to a more harmonious world
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Join me this week as I delve into the complexities of family dynamics during the holiday season. Following the feedback I received around episode 64 in which I shared a coaching session about Thanksgiving anxieties, this episode explores another client's struggle with family dynamics.
The client, happily married but grappling with her brother-in-law's behavior, seeks guidance on how to navigate her opinions without causing harm. We unravel the layers of judgment and shame, emphasizing the importance of embracing one's humanity before attempting to change.
I hope that you will grab a seat and listen in as we explore the nuances of emotional maturity and the opportunity for growth within the messiness of family life. Discover how letting go of the "good vs. bad" paradigm can lead to a more fulfilling and compassionate holiday season, where everyone is allowed to be themselves.
Show Highlightsunpacking holiday pressures and navigating family dynamics to finding peace amid the festive chaos
encouraging listeners to explore their judgments and embrace their humanity
the significance of embracing imperfection and understanding the value of allowing oneself and others to be authentically human
the power of self-acceptance in fostering a more compassionate and joyous holiday experience
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Our Modern Emotional Lives, Episode 64 - “How to Believe Something New”
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