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Ever blurt out way too much and then spend the next hour replaying that conversation in your head? If youâre an ADHDer whoâs all about genuine connection (but sometimes forgets to hit the pause button), youâre in the right place!
Oversharing isnât just about being an open book that might make others feel awkward or overwhelmedâitâs about uncovering the hidden dynamics behind our ADHD tendencies. Itâs a deep dive into how impulsivity and intense emotions can sometimes transform our strengths into vulnerabilities, even turning our genuine desire to connect against us.
In this episode, ADHD coach Zarina Boily dives deep into the artâand occasional misadventureâof oversharing. With empathy, practical insights, and a sprinkle of humour, she unpacks why our fast-paced brains sometimes turn us into an open book, and more importantly, how to decide what to share, when, and with whom.
What Youâll Learn:
The Why Behind the Spill: Understand the impulsivity, intense emotions, and need for connection that can lead to oversharing.The Three Filters: Adapt Socratesâ wisdom by asking: Is it true? Is it good? Is it useful?The Concentric Circles: Learn to sort your relationshipsâfrom your ride-or-die BFFs to mere acquaintancesâand tailor your sharing accordingly.Actionable Strategies: From pausing before speaking to assessing trust levels and tuning into your emotional state, discover tangible steps to reclaim control over your conversations.Personal Stories & Theta Healing: Hear real-life examples (including that unforgettable work moment) and discover techniques like Theta Healing to reset those automatic responses.Why You Should Listen:
If youâre ready to harness your ADHD brilliance without the cringe afterwards, this episode is your go-to guide for turning impulsivity into insight. Whether youâre looking for practical strategies or just need to know that youâre not alone in your âovershare moments,â Zarinaâs warm, relatable style (with a dash of cheeky humour) will leave you feeling empowered and understood.Because oversharing goes far beyond being an open book and making someone feel awkward and uncomfortable because you revealed too much, too soon. Itâs about knowing what goes on behind the scenes of this ADHD-type behavior that can literally end up turning against yourself.
Hit Play & Listen Till the End: You wonât want to miss the simple yet powerful tools that can change how you connect with others.Leave a Comment: Share your own oversharing story or tipâletâs build a community where we learn from each other!Share the Episode: Know someone who struggles with oversharing? Pass this on so they too can embrace a more balanced, brilliant approach to conversation.Book Your Free Brilliance Call: Curious about coaching to harness your unique wiring? Check out this link for a free brilliance session with Zarina.Remember, being an ADHDer means youâre naturally bold, genuine, and brilliantânow, letâs channel that brilliance in every conversation. Enjoy the show!
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If planning doesnât come easy in your ADHD world, you can believe itâs never going to change because itâs always been that way or, you can shift your thoughts to create your new normal.
Holding on to a belief only hardwires it deeper, shutting the door to any possibility for anything to improve.
In this episode, Zarina explains why planning can be so hard for the ADHD brain and how any challenge, including this one, is far from being set in stone.
Through the Symphony Conductor Metaphor that makes it easier to understand what executive functions do, youâll better understand how the ADHD brain works.
Among the three of her favorite planning tools she shares, youâll discover one that can actually help enhance executive function such as working memory, impulsivity and organization.
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When ADHD has us caught up in the daily ups and downs that challenges create, the thought of a different reality doesn't even cross our minds. Leaning to quiet the noise in our head doesn't seem even possible, let alone imagining anything else then what we've been dealing with for so long.
In this episode, Zarina explains what it takes to create a new ADHD reality, because why should you settle for the struggles and just "cope". She walks you through the process that you can try to create a life with ADHD where you thrive more and appreciate your weirdness more.
At the end of this episode, not only will you feel understood, but your inspiration container will overflow, and you will see things in a whole new perspective!
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One of the greatest gift one with ADHD can give its uniquely wired brain is a set of habits to take care of it and ensure that challenges remain as less impactful as possible and prevent it from shutting down.
ADHD paralysis is when you canât find it in you to accomplish normal activities. Itâs temporary, but when it happens, you may be wondering whatâs happening or if there is something wrong with you.
When your brain reaches the point of no return, the challenges you you experience on a daily basis intensify: paying attention, task initiation, planning, organizing etc...have gone haywire.
Hit play to discover how ADHD shutdown show up, recognize the signs and care for your brain with easy to implement exercises.
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Ever feel like youâre constantly playing a role, hiding parts of yourself just to âfit inâ? This episode dives into the experience of masking for women with ADHDâwhen we cover up or downplay our ADHD traits to meet the worldâs expectations.
From early school days when we first learn to mask to the pressures of juggling adult roles, masking becomes second nature for many of us. But the emotional toll is real.
In this episode, weâll explore why girls and women with ADHD often feel compelled to hide their symptoms, how masking shows up in different stages of life, and the specific challenges faced by women.
Weâll talk about the exhaustion and loss of identity that come with years of masking and, most importantly, how awareness can be the first step to unmasking and embracing your true self.
Hit play to discover what masking really is, how it impacts you, and how to start letting go of that mask. You deserve to live fully as the real, phenomenal you!
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Weâve all heard themâthe frustrating comments that make us feel misunderstood, judged, or even doubting ourselves because of our ADHD.
Whether itâs âYou donât look like you have ADHDâ or âWhy canât you just be more organized,â these comments donât just irritate us, they can actually fuel our ADHD struggles and impact our self-esteem.
In todayâs episode, weâre diving into the five things people with ADHD canât stand hearing about their differences and, more importantly, how to reframe those comments to better advocate for yourself and show others what ADHD really looks like.
Weâll talk about why these comments sting, how they exacerbate common ADHD symptoms like emotional dysregulation and rejection sensitivity, and explore how they can affect self-worth.
But hereâs the twist: instead of letting these words drag you down, weâll be flipping the script and turning those criticisms into moments of self-empowerment and clarity. Youâll walk away with actionable strategies to reframe these frustrating situations and advocate for your ADHD needs with confidence.
So tune in to this episode if youâre ready to feel understood, stand tall in your ADHD brilliance, and say goodbye to the myths and misconceptions people throw your way!
What Youâll Learn:
The 5 most common comments people with ADHD canât stand hearingHow these comments affect self-esteem, self-confidence, and emotional regulationWhy they exacerbate symptoms like focus struggles and overwhelmHow to reframe these criticisms into positive, empowering momentsActionable strategies to advocate for yourself and educate others about ADHDRemember to Subscribe, Leave a Review, and share it with someone you love đ. It helps spread the message to other ADHDers who need to hear it and creates a new scenario for how we view ADHD.
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A heavy load of emotions can literally drain your energy and while you think you are tired, you may be emotionally exhausted. Too much stress and lack of self-care can lead to symptoms similar to burnout:
Feeling tired even after a good nights sleepCrying without even knowing whyLoosing interest in thing you live doingBeing barely able to get through the dayThese are only a few signs that emotions are draining you of your energy and in this episode, you will discover simple, yet powerful tools to release the emotional overload that you carry and gain back your energy back.
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Maintaining a regular sleep routine is crucial for the ADHD brain and if you find yourself having more difficulty waking up in the morning when days start to shorten in the fall, that's because daylight affects serotonin production.
When winter comes, there's actually a dip in serotonin and in this episode, you will discover how to avoid accumulating sleep debt, what you can eat to boost serotonin and why you should prioritize having a sleep routine to help your ADHD brain function at it's absolute best.
Visit https://www.zarinaboily.com/coaching to learn more about how ADHD coaching can benefit you đđ€©
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The word structure usually make ADHDers cringe and want nothing to do with it, even if you know that all hell brakes loose if you don't have it. Do you know why that is?
Because most structures are not created for the ADHD brain, but the neurotypical one.
That's one of the reasons doing things spontaneously is the way we prefer, but did you know that when you navigate a structure that fit your unique brain style, you:
Create or gain momentum and that increases productivityReduce overwhelm and that decreases procrastinationEnjoy more flow in your days and less chaos.If like me, you show any kind of resistance to using a structure, this episode is for you as it will help you figure out how to make it work for your brain, what the most important thing you need to consider when thinking about creating a structure is and words you can replace the words so that it generates expansion, not contraction.
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Are you a Gen-X woman who received a late diagnosis and are just beginning to see the impact it had on your life?
What about your professional life and career which ultimately, reflects on your financial situation due to how ADHD challenges hinder the ability to manage money?
Job hopping to avoid boredomMissed opportunities like promotions or career advancementBurnout from trying to meet expectations and demandsUnemployment or underemploymentThereâs a lot to advocate for with ADHD and even more so when it comes to women and, to a certain extent, gen-x women who fall short as they approach retirement and face many financial struggles.
Impulsive spending due to the difficulty of delaying gratificationLack of sufficient retirement savings because of irregular contributionsCarrying debt, including credit card balances, mortgages, or personal loans into retirement.Sign me up for the Conquer Money Chaos free training: https://www.zarinaboily.com/conquer-money-chaos
Despite the beliefs, baggage and habits you carry about money, lack of interest is probably whatâs at the top of the list when you live with ADHD.
This episode covers many aspects to help you become knowledgeable about ADHD, the way it shows up in women and what changes when you start paying attention to your money and finances, so you can see what gets in the way and see a beacon of hope pointing toward a brighter future as you enter your third act.
Sign me up for the Conquer Money Chaos free training: https://www.zarinaboily.com/conquer-money-chaos
Visit https://www.zarinaboily.com/coaching to learn more about how ADHD coaching can benefit you đđ€©
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Have you ever thought of ADHD happening for you, not to you or against you?
People like us would graduate with honors if they could earn a degree for all weâve had to do to adapt to a world that wasnât designed with us in mind.
The biggest mistake a lot of ADHDers make, mainly because they donât know how their brain works, is using methods that are designed for the non ADHD brain.
Remember the good old days when Apple and PC operating systems couldnât have a civil conversation?
You'd send a Word document from your Mac to a PC, and, you know, it was like trying to get a cat and a dog to read Shakespeare together.
The PC would look at that document and say, âWhat is this gibberish?!â
Meanwhile, the Mac was off in its corner, being all artsy and misunderstood.
Well, thatâs pretty much how the ADHD brain operates. It's like having a Mac in a world full of PCs.
This episode is all about inspiring you to inspire and challenge you to look at ADHD with a different set of lenses and become the private investigator of what your brain needs more of to do things in respect to how our brain works.
Visit https://www.zarinaboily.com/coaching to learn more about how ADHD coaching can benefit you đđ€©
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Any questions? Email me at [email protected]
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Navigating the vast, unpredictable ocean in a small boat mirrors the journey of living with ADHD.
Storms and fog represent the challenges and uncertainties that come with it. Yet, self-awareness serves as a guiding lighthouse, its beam cutting through the confusion, making each challenge manageable.
Understanding yourself isn't just about avoiding obstacles; it's about empowering your voice to articulate your unique needs, paving the way to self-esteem, confidence, and respect.
In episode 9 - Navigating ADHD: Start with Self-Awareness - Part 1, you were able to get a better idea of why self-awareness is a crucial component of our journey with ADHD to making life easier. If you havenât had the chance to listen to it, I strongly suggest that you do as you will find out why metacognition makes it hard for ADHDers to self-reflect and what tactics you can try to make it easier.
In part 2 we dive into:
Clarifying the crucial difference between being aware of ADHD and having self-awareness.Helping you which element of self-awareness you need to focus onGiving you ways to train your self-awareness muscle the ADHD wayHighlighting the ripple effects of self-awareness Identifying the difference between mindfulness and self-awareness, and how they are closely related and often support each otherDive into this episode to transform your journey with ADHD from a daunting voyage into an enlightening adventure, where self-awareness lights the way to a brighter, more colorful horizon!Any questions? Email me at [email protected]
Visit https://www.zarinaboily.com/coaching to learn more about how ADHD coaching can benefit you
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When you have ADHD, you might feel that becoming more self aware of your distractible brain is like fighting a losing battle.
ADHDers pretty much live in their head which means theyâre not paying attention to their bodies, patterns and behavior.
Fortunately, thereâs an explanation for that and it resides in those two words: executive functioning.
Self-awareness is one of the most important keys in making life with ADHD less challenging because no system or strategy will be effective if you are clueless about what works and what doesnât for your brain.
However, people with ADHD tend to have low self awareness and seem to fit the "absent-minded professor" description, which is someone who might seem a bit disconnected from their surroundings or what's happening around them.
Even if they appear to be absent or in their own world, unaware of what is happening around them, theyâre not. They're deeply immersed and feel present and in the moment. They are present to thoughts that others canât see.
This episode will help you shed some light on:
Why is being self-aware challenging for our brain?How can self-awareness be a game changer for ADHDers?What is self-awareness and why do we need it?How to develop your self-awareness muscle the ADHD way?And much much more!
Be ready to learn, understand and be empowered in making navigating ADHD-like challenges an enjoyable experience.
Visit https://www.zarinaboily.com/coaching to learn more about how ADHD coaching can benefit you đđ
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If you've ever felt overwhelmed by the simplest tasks or found yourself lost in the clutter, this episode is your beacon of hope and humor where we tackle the chaotic world of house chores through the unique lens of ADHD.
Join us as we dance through strategies, stories, and a sprinkle of ADHD magic to transform your approach to chores.
We kick off the episode by diving into why chores can feel like an insurmountable challenge for those with ADHD, setting the stage for our journey from chaos to clarity.
Get ready for actionable advice that addresses the root of the chore challenge, helping you to understand your brain's unique wiring and how to work with it, not against it.
Discover practical, ADHD-friendly strategies that move beyond traditional advice. Learn how to gamify your chores, and create a chore routine that's not only manageable but enjoyable.
From dealing with distraction to finding motivation, we tackle it all with honesty and empathy.
We love hearing from our listeners! Share your own chore conquering stories, strategies, or questions by reaching out through the comment section of this episode. Your insights could be featured in a future episode!
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Make sure you hit the follow button to get notified and be in the loop. In the meantime, you can listen to episodes from previous seasons.
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The saddest thing about ADHD is the narrative that focuses more on the pain and struggles than the strengths and abilities. Of course, it's an undeniable fact that there is a long list of symptoms that create a heavy burden of challenges.
When everything that doesn't work gets all the attention, it's hard, if not impossible, to see what does.
As an ADHDer, you have the power to choose the lens through which you look at ADHD; the one that zooms in on everything you can't do or struggle with, or the one that zooms out and allows you to see what is actually going well.
Hereâs a few highlights from this episode:
Why what you pay attention to matters and how it affects the way you experience ADHD.How seeing ADHD as a difference came quite naturally to me and is at the heart of what I do.Why constant external validation of what isn't working can keep you in victim mode without you even knowing it, and how to break the cycle.New episodes drop every other Sunday. Make sure you hit the follow button to get notified and be in the loop. In the meantime, you can listen to episodes from previous seasons.
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Do you find that living with ADHD feels like living life at high speed where fast is the only way to go?
Do you have a hard time knowing how to or what to say no to because you donât want to miss out on anything?
If youâre under the impression that youâre missing out on the fun when you can't attend an event or didn't get an invitation and you feel left out/rejected, it could be FOMO (fear of missing out).
One way to beat it is to know where your reaction comes from, how ADHD and FOMO are connected and begin practicing JOMO, which stands for joy of missing out.
Part one of this episode focuses on the joy of missing out or JOMO, an emotionally intelligent antidote to FOMO:
What is JOMO and why foster it to beat FOMOHow what you value can help in finding joy in missing out.What you can do to shift from FOMO to JOMO and create your own joy of missing out formulaPart two is all about:
What is FOMO and how FOMO shows upWays ADHD and FOMO are connectedWhat ADHD traits can actually make it worseI soooo appreciate you listening! New episodes drop every other Sunday. Make sure you hit the follow button to get notified and be in the loop. In the meantime, you can listen to episodes from previous seasons.
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It helps to spread the message to other ADHDers that need to hear it and create a new scenario on how we see ADHD.
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Do you have a fraught relationship with your mom with your fair share of arguments, conflicts, misunderstandings, fights, and the chain reaction of negative emotions and trauma?
Zarina sure has, and for the longest time, she wished her mother would change and be what she wanted her to be instead of accepting her as she was.
At 18 years old, she felt that the only way to break free from her complicated and conflictual relationship with her mother was to move 5000 kilometers away from home.
From the teenager who talked back, was disrespectful and hurtful to the woman who eventually realized that improving her relationship with her mom was only possible if she allowed herself to heal the traumas she experienced as a child, it has been quite the journey.
Learning they both had ADHD explained a lot about the tumultuous and fraught relationship they had for decades.
She thought that sharing what her relationship with her mother has been would serve other women with ADHD looking to mend the heart of the wounded little girl they once were.
Words have the power to heal, Zarina believes it deep within her soul and if you are a daughter seeking answers and understanding and it's no coĂŻncidence that she chose Mothers Day to release this episode.
By allowing herself to be vulnerable and share her story, she hopes it will serve women with ADHD who wish to heal their mother-daughter relationship, or at least, feel less guilty and shameful, like she once did.
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Believing there is only one way of doing something and no other option possible to do certain tasks or chores such as folding laundry or reading a book. Thinking that you might as well do it yourself because you will have to re-do it anyway. Having to feel 100% ready before being able to take action for a new project or challenge you're passionate about.
Any of this sound familiar? As many of the challenges ADHD comes with, perfectionism shows up differently for us and it really helps to understand how it manifests to really give ourselves the chance to avoid falling in the trap.
Why?
Because from an ADHD perspective, trying to do something and expecting it to be perfect will only result in intensifying your ADHD challenges. Task initiation is an example and when it is extremely difficult for you to get in action, what do you end up doing? Procrastinating.
As a recovering perfectionist, I now see how it was exhausting to always aim for perfection. It was also one of the factors that led me to burnout.
In this episode, we look at the impacts of perfectionism, how it shows up, what you can do to not fall in this thinking trap, but most importantly, the strengths that hide behind it. Yes, believe it or not, there are quite a few of those actually.
Questions? Email me at: [email protected]
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How does lack of clarity show up when you have ADHD and what are the impacts in the personal, professional and love life of folks with a uniquely wired brain?
This episode is inspired by a challenge Zarina experiences and that's the inability to express feelings, thoughts, emotions. ideas and needs, so that they are understood.
Because everything is going fast in the ADHD brain, with information and thoughts travelling at the speed of light, it's a real struggle to select them, put them in a proper order so that the person at the receiving end gets it...unless it's a conversation among ADHDers because we usually have little or no problem tend to understanding one another.
Needless to say, lack of clarity comes with its load of consequences, from arguments with your significant other to hindering professional advancement, it is a contributing factor of separation or job termination.
If lack of clarity is something you are experiencing, this episode sheds a light on what happens in the ADHD brain that makes it difficult to express yourself clearly. It also gives you a better understanding of how your brain works and become even more aware of when lack of clarity shows up.
Questions? Email me at: [email protected]
Connect with me in a free 20 minute call: https://calendly.com/zarinaboily/brilliance-call
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The ADHD brain is uniquely wired, which makes it hard sometimes to know if what you experience is ADHD-related or not, especially if you are new on this journey.
Beginning something new is exciting, even more so if something of high interest. Your brain fires up and when boredom doesnât get in the way, levels of attention, focus and concentration are high.
The shadow side of it is when something comes to an end. Itâs daunting.
One thing is for sure with ADHD, it comes with a lot of paradoxes and beginnings can also bring its load of challenges when you have no idea where to start, how long itâs going to take and what the different steps are going to be..
In this episode, Zarina helps you understand what executive function comes into play in the ADHD brain with beginnings and endings, why emotions collide and how tuning in to whatâs going on inside impacts how ADHD challenges manifest.
She also shares a great exercise to help you find your transitioning pattern.
Questions? Email me at: [email protected]
Connect with me in a free 20 minute call: https://calendly.com/zarinaboily/brilliance-call
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